How Do I Stop Losing Things?
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- Let's talk about simple ways to save time and energy. And since "Time is Money" we will also be saving money. Oh, and saving your sanity. You can never have enough sanity.
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Hi I’m Rick Green and I want to know how to solve two challenges at once.
The first challenge is I want to stop screaming
I had it in my hand a minute ago, it being the stuff I use every day; phone, keys, wallet, scissors.
The second challenge, I want to stop wondering where are my spare glasses? Or where's the tape measure or my blood work form, you know, the things I don't use every day, or the things that go into seasonal hibernation; winter boots, summer shorts, car battery charger which we need right now, where is it? and I’m running all over the place. I want that to end and I want to know how to make it stop.
All right let's look at these two big time wasters. I’m out to conquer them because I don't have time to waste and the reason I don't have time to waste is that up until now I have wasted a lot of time.
The question: Where is the thing I was holding 10 seconds ago, or where is the stuff that we packed away for the summer, or for the rainy day?
The answer is not to work on my memory, yes we will look at short-term memory and long-term memory and how to improve it in other videos, but I have found through decades of hard work and personal experience that doesn't help me in the moment with the stuff that should be a no-brainer, the stuff that I shouldn't have to worry about remembering.
I don't need to work on my memory to find my toothbrush every day, that's not the challenge; this is about the stuff I lose all the time. The answer actually is prevention, prevention.
Let me explain, years ago when I was giving a presentation on how to present a great presentation, it was for demonstrators at a science museum and at some point one person asked um how do you get the audience back again after you've lost their attention? The answer is something that I had learned when I was practicing to become a world-class magician, which eventually I did not become, and I said the secret to getting the audience's attention back is don't lose it in the first place, right?
Direct their attention or in magic it's called misdirection in fact a horse ran through, you didn't even see it you're so focused on me. Amazing but if I don't use a number of tools and tricks and practices to distract your attention
[Video Clip of Rick doing magic in slow motion]
then not so amazing, you know where it is. Am I getting off topic here? Probably.
So the secret to not misplacing things is to have a place for it, that way you avoid the “what happened to the hand sanitizer? I had it in my pocket, where is it?” and then I find it upstairs in the bathroom and I haven’t been to the upstairs bathroom all day, but apparently…
You may have asked other people friends or family honey where is my purse, or honey where is the remote for the TV, honey where are the batteries for the remote for the TV, or honey where do we keep the flashlight?
Well here's a less common question one that I’ve never even asked ever, honey where is the cutlery? Where do you think it is? In the cutlery drawer, where it always is.
Now think about that “where it always is”, where it always is, oh can you imagine, can you imagine where's the cutlery? Where it always is!
In fact you could come to our house, I wouldn't bother it's a bit of a mess now and look at all the drawers that we have in every room and I bet you could pick out the cutlery drawer on your first guess. You'd probably go to the kitchen right? Good, good, top drawer by the stove, voila! You're right, the cutlery drawer, you found it.
If I came to your place I could figure out where you keep your cutlery and utensils in two or three guesses tops, whereas if I had to guess where you keep your earrings, or note paper, or place mats, candles, shoe polish, actually I know where we keep our shoe polish.
For a long time I did not have a place for things, no foam drawer, or wallet shelf, a key tray or a drawer specifically for my Fitbit and the charger, the list of excuses as to why I didn't exercise today.
Having a cutlery drawer saves valuable time, searching the whole kitchen or even the whole house every time you need a spoon? I mean really?? Check the bathroom, oh look in the broom closet, where are my socks? Check the china cabinet, and then… Dumb. Right?
where the heck are all the videos though??!?? I NEED THEM IN MY LIFE!!!! what is happening to this channel??!!! please Rick!!!! bring them back!!!!! pleaaaaaaasssseee
RIGHT !!!! I had a lot of totally add vids saved on a playlist and I was looking for one in particular and didn’t see it I was soooo upset :((
Well, i'm gonna miss all the old videos from this channel, they were amazing.
What happened to all of them
@@greetonsmith6350 why were they unlisted and privated though?
@@greetonsmith6350 I'm sad they're gone, this channel has really helped me explain my experiences
@@greetonsmith6350 idk I don't think he would gain anything from this .. he's only gotten like 3 or 4k views on this video when he used to get a lot more. This would not benefit him in any way
Me too
The stack of books on the floor with "Organizing for the Creative Person" on top... So relatable.
What happened to your other videos? I was trying to show my dad but they were gone when I looked for them :c
IKR!
Dang, I also wanted to show these things to family members :(
Check out his Patreon. A lot of creators are having to monetize their videos more so than in the past.
I was just wondering about that. The website has a weird message too. Maybe he lost the whole Totally ADD thing?
@@greetonsmith6350 me too
I just wanted you to know you helped me to recognize that something was wrong, and at the age of 52, after a month of seeing a psychologist, I was diagnosed with ADHD. Obviously I've had it my whole life and just "got by". They just started me on Adderall. On my first day, I took it in the morning and went out in the garage to work out. In an hour I came inside, very emotional, crying. My wife asked me what was wrong?.. What was it? It was quiet...Almost completely quiet. I'm talking more than audible sound waves. I'm talking about all that white noise constantly flittering around the edges of your attention, competing for your focus. They all got really really quiet...It's was scary quiet. For the first time in my life..
Inspirational
42 and was diagnosed last month .. I had the same exact experience ... it ... was ... quiet. Even my arms "felt quiet" and I didn't know how not quiet they felt before
I’ve been fighting the idea of meds, but you’ve just inspired me to give them a try. Thank you for sharing your experience of “quiet”!
@@thatclothgirl I hope it goes well for you!
my life exactly. thank you for sharing ❤
Great tips, Rick. My husband and I both have ADHD so you can imagine what a Gong Show it is at our house on a daily basis. Frustrating! Now, if we can only organize our thoughts... speaking of cherry pies, I just made a peach and blueberry tart. Oh, man is that good! And I can tell you I know exactly where THAT is. Gee, if only everything needed refrigeration...It'd be a lot easier to find things. But then you'd have to have multiple refrigerators. And then you'd wonder which refrigerator did I leave my car keys in? Oh never mind.
I want that tart.
Now I’m hungry. Finally. At 1:38am.🙄😂
Just when I start second guessing...here comes another unquestionable description of my ways..lol..I feel better about my challenges that vex me, since I really appreciate, respect, enjoy the "teacher" here, that I relate to so much. So accurate!
Fantastic advice! My biggest problem has always been my keys, so after 30yrs of being late to pick up the kids or get to work or whatever I finally bought myself a giant lobster clasp & I *TRY* really really really hard to remember to clip my keys to the strap on my handbag & when I remember to actually do it I feel like I’ve achieved greatness!! Unfortunately tho, having put the clasp on my keys doesn’t actually mean I ALWAYS remember to clip them onto my bag.. it’s kinda like writing out your shopping list but either forgetting it or losing it or both & coming home with a car full of groceries, all your money is gone only to realise once you get home that you spent all your money on everything but the 4 items that were so essential you went to all the trouble to write a list for…
My dad has ADHD as well as I do, and he loses stuff as often but he drilled into me since I was a kid to keep stuff always in the same spot. That solves it, but hell breaks loose whenever someone non-adhd decides has had enough with the mess and orders everything.
Then I cry.
Lists lists lists
My grandfather and my mother and i all have it. Lists.
@@haleye1787 I lose the lists. Well, misplacing is the term, but I still think they just walk away out of boredom.
Why has the TotallyADD channel disappeared? Where are all the awesome videos????
Ill paste what I found one of the same kind of question:
Unfortunately at this time the videos are not available anywhere. Rick no longer has any association with TotallyADD, all content on that site is managed by Dr. Umesh Jain (the videos were shared on TotallyADD's site + CZcams).
David - Customer Support
I just dont know wth is that Dr,but I Think all the work was Rick's, this is so sad
This explains my joy at finally having a label maker. Kind of reminds me of the physical activity of note taking as a method of recall/learning.
Tip: purchase multiple refills at once, otherwise you may forget to EVER purchase the refill, rendering the label maker useless. I *might* be speaking from experience.
...adds label tape to shopping list...again. 🤣
@@thatclothgirl yeah. Ran out of labels this past weekend. It's on the grocery shopping list. Hopefully my husband (who does most of the shopping) gets the right type.
Love the channel. Are the old videos coming back? I wanted to share them with people to help them understand ADHD a little better.
RICK!!!! Where did your totally ADD channel go? 😭
The one diagnosis criteria box that I didn't tick was 'do you often lose things?' and that's simply because my mum's neat and tidy mantra;
"a place for everything and everything in its place"
was drummed into me from a very young age. Keep things in the same place, where they always are, and you never have to look for them. However, do I forget to take things with me when I'm leaving the house, getting tools together for work, packing for a trip.... Oh yes, EVERY time.
:(
I'm confused. I searched for adult ADHD and was recommended this channel. There are over 90K subscribers, but only 3 videos. There doesn't seem to be a 2nd channel. I can't explain the mismatch between number of videos, total views, and subscriber count. What am I missing?
@@greetonsmith6350 thats so sad that the videoes were made private. so much good content.
@@greetonsmith6350 Thanks for the explanation - I accidentally discovered that the old videos were private but couldn't work out what happened or remember the name of the channel. I was worried something had happened to Rick! I'm glad he's ok, but sad about all those great videos he made being locked away.
@@DjCuddlebear they shouldn’t have been made private fight that because they were very important
What happened to all the other videos on your channel?!?! I'm so sad!
I struggle with searching for things... even moreso because of the Welbutrin I take. Ugh. It messes with my short term memory. It's a daily thing to search the whole house to find out where I set my phone down last. It's awful. I'll set it down to do something then I finish that task, walk away, realize I need my phone for something... let the search begin. Doesn't help that my phone is always on silent.
Hi Rick, Thanks for the motivational tips; Losing ‘stuff’ is the bane of my life!! which, sometimes when I’m trying to get into the car and leave the house, can drive me ‘almost’ (very nearly) to implosion. A few useful tips like this can really change a persons world.
Sorry a can’t afford to become a patron (i live in the UK lol , enough said!) but please dont stop sharing . Loads of love, and gratitude xx
I can really recommend minimalism! I pushing it in my family for some years. My ADHD son loves to clean up his room, he needs just some minutes, even if he played with everything in his room and it is all over the floor. It is so easy to maintain, he just have 5 categories of toys.
My ADHD husband also like our easy to maintain house and that the things have a place. But when he is going to the store, grab quick a few necessary items... Ya you know it, I have a bunch of things again in our house we don't really need :'D
I need pie.
VERY TRUE
My ADHD dad labels EVERYTHING. Even on the vehicle control panel so there’s no frustration on how to use the canopy light control rolly thingy.
I know where our cutlery drawer is. I just can't find the cutlery that is supposed to go inside it. **glares at certain household members**
Thank you very much!!!
Lost my driving licence today, it wasn't in its usual place. 😞 Thankfully non-adhd husband found it for me super quick. 😄
Brilliant !!!
Thanks for this new video!!! I’ve missed hearing your solutions to so many problems I seem to have!!!
I wish we knew what happened to the old videos and your website! But if you don't want to talk about it, that's cool. Just glad to see you back!
They’re gone I’m so sad
Not to be a broken record, but your last videos were really helpful to me and my family. Is there anyway to get those videos back?
I have special places where I keep a lot of the things that I use or need, but often, I fail to put them back where they belong. When I discover that something is missing and not where it's supposed to be, and I don't know where it is, I ask myself, "When and where did I have it last?" The answer is usually, "I had it LAST LAST NIGHT!" But I don't know where I had it last! Why? My mind was out there, when it needed to be HERE as I point to my hand.
I feel that minimizing distractions and concentrating on the task at hand in everything I do is the key to avoid incidents of missplasure. As a general rule, I save music and TV for when I have time to sit down and relax, and don't have anything else to do. When I'm on my feet and going about things, I TURN MUSIC AND TV OFF! That's my effort to minimize distractions, and CONCENTRATE ON THE TASK AT HAND!!!!!!!!! I tell myself that the task at hand is as SERIOUS AS FLYING A COMMERCIAL AIRLINER!!! I need to keep my mind OFF OF AUTOPILOT, and in MANUAL FLIGHT! My conscious mind needs to do ALL OF THE WORK! My subconscious mind needs to TAKE A REST!!!!! When it's time to go about things, my subconscious mind is the thing I wish I could turn off along with music and TV. I wish I could switch off the subconscious mind like the autopilot in an aircraft. That would do two things for me! One, it would prevent my mind from producing distracting thoughts. Two, it would force my conscious mind to do ALL OF THE WORK!!!!!
Hi Rick, I just sent you an email about something else a few seconds ago but one thing I have had a problem finding is ,Where is the Totally ADD SITE, ? So many links there are not working.
Huge YES!! for labels!
But WHY delete all the other videos?!?!? What happened!?!?!?!?🥺
🙋🏾♂️ For what it's worth, your guitar is next to the right side of your bookshelves. You can thank me later.
What happened to the rest of the channel?
@@RickHasADHD Okay. Are the videos from the previous youtube channel going to resurface somewhere else? Currently the website seems to have none of them since they were deleted off this channel.
Rick - I watched a whole heap of videos of yours a few weeks ago. And I’ve come back to your channel and they’re not here ! Loads of ones about symptoms of ADHD. They were the original ones I watched which made me so happy because I felt such relief. Do you have another channel? Or ANYONE know?
They’re all gone 🥺
I always loose stuff while using it. For example when wrapping gifts, after I find all the stuff and use it for a moment, suddenly the scotch tape is missing and nowhere to be found. Have to look everywhere after some frustrating minutes it magically appears somewhere, where I placed it so I can easily find it again.
I love his smiiiileee!!!❤
My organizational dilemma is utilizing space most efficiently vs. having things accessible and visible. Logical locations for things is easier to maintain in the long run.
This video is helpful
Can confirm placing things on one spot is a very good tactics. Not working while under influence of pregnancy hormones though :D
Ok but what happens when I lost your other videos?
@@greetonsmith6350 it's so odd, but why remove the videos? And why isn't there any post anywhere about it, besides the banner on the homepage that doesn't explain anything?
I adore u! Ur so considerate of us/our thoughts, feelings, actions and obsessions! Every single video I watch of urs is me vigorously nodding my head along with whatever thought ur sharing at the time, lol! It doesn't matter if its logical, intellectual, off topic or "super squirrel" "brain fart/ senior moment or whatever,... I catch myself continually agreeing, lol-ing and (literally) saying out loud, "GET OUTTA MY HEAD RICK"!!! Its so uncanny that it's a little awkward and strange. However, this place.of awkward weirdness- appropriate or not- thts where I thrive, relax, enjoy myself... so, thanks so BIG!! I'm gonna warn u right now. If I ever.see u in person, im hugging u a squeezing ur cheeks, ao-k? Hahaha, yeah...I'm not going to do that (of course) unless a few different circumstances were to randomly , shift! I want get into it now. So, just know tht I appreciate u taking time to share ALL OF UR INFO/CONTENT with us! I am a lifer.😆😆
Recently diagnosed bcuz my 13 yr old just happened to ask the right question to her pediatrician. And, like any.good physician/#1mom would do,.... I butt in with my uber.experienced solution! Nobody asked for it- lucky them!!! I just volunteered it. So, in this scenario I did.not practice the Golden rule. Y? Lol! Bcuz a lot of times I hv.no restraint or boundaries.
I know I'm just.spewing. but I do hv questions...
Every time I start getting things donated or sold or trashed, I begin yet another organization attempt. And in tht process alone I notice tht perfectionism kicks.in and I then hv a BIGGER EFFING MESS but, even more disorganization happens bcuz I get distracted with the specific things or details of organizing 1 particular item or small area. Then I've completely forgotten the 1st thing I started,.along with my initial motivation. Thts another gross defect of.my adhd- 2 steps forward & organized and then sliding 4 back! Then the spiral of death.
A really big reason I feel like I slip more than organize is due to my husband whom doesn't really take time to understand my way, adhd behavior and how he can be supportive. Tht truly causes my attention deficit to go into hypersensitive overdrive!
Do u hv any videos or pointers on how to better get my partner to appreciate & respect AND, MOST IMPORTANTLY SUPPORT ME rather than shaming me & unnecessarily and unintentionally retraumatize me. Whew! I hop i kept ur attention and u understand what I'm saying . Thx again!
Having a two bedroom house instead of being cluttered is helping me immensely
What happend to all of your videos? I swear you had so many more
Thank you, Rick, for this video! I thought I was the only one like that!
0:20 yes sir
Wonderful video, "where it always is"😂😂 This is exactly what I need. But where did your unofficial ADHD quiz go? I use to recommend it to people, but now I can't find it.
There you are I've been looking for you.
Hey Rick! Recognize me with this by finding out where things are put! Wishing you a glorious summer! Greetings from Norway!
What happened to all your other videos?
My problem is that I lose things when I’m out, like I leave my wallet or my charger somewhere outside of my home. Any advice for that? Others have recommended making a list every time I leave the house.
Can I ask why you are no longer associated with TotallyADD?
@@greetonsmith6350 OOF
@@greetonsmith6350 Is that why almost all of his videos disappeared?
@@greetonsmith6350 Aww that's a bummer! I just discovered this channel in the last few weeks. I really like the videos I've seen, and was looking forward to watching the rest. Thank you for the update.
@@greetonsmith6350 for me to they are helping me in my journey for diagnosis at age 40
@@DawnDavidson blow that hate how other people choose to steal valuable resources
👍👍‼️
Ubetcha!
I just love your videos, Rick. I'm an actor and I see it actually took 3-4 takes to get the shot. Shows I'm not so different afterall!
I’ve been trying to become a professional actress in Australia for years really want it to happen now
Hi Rick. You’re a treasure and I thank you. I was just released from an voluntary psychiatric stay at a major hospital on NYC. My mom, sis, nephew have been treated for ADHD. I slipped by, made a modestly successful career as an actor until it came crashing down. I brought my family history, thorough evidence of executive difficulties throughout life. My family history never made it into my chart, they stopped my current meds for anxiety (maybe good), adamantly diagnosed me with bipolar II (eh, maybe, definitely anxiety disorder), and gave me the ultimatum of taking an anti-psychotic or they’d send me packing. I packed and now my team is on the case to find better informed experts to see the whole picture. I’m still suffering, I’ve built lifelong strategies to cope, never abused or used stimulant medication. But I still have hope. Thank you, Rick. I’m sending you my love and gratitude through frustrated tears.
My family members found relief with stimulant medication but still lack the support systems and coping mechanisms and substance abuse and comorbidities are rampant and often I effectively addressed. We’re all learning more now thanks to my struggles and it’s bringing a once severed family back together to support each other. Blessings, Rick.
Hi Rick! I got a swift, double-verified second opinion of my diagnose. The initial diagnosis was found to be inaccurate according to these patient clinicians. Now diagnosed with ADHD combined type. I was prescribed my first dose of stimulant medication ever. I shared your trepidation but took the dose. I looked into my fiancé’s dazzling eyes, and we wept. We have a long road of putting in some real structure and modifications together. But I got my glasses today. I can see better. I really can. You will remain dear in my heart for the entire rest of my life and front row seats to any show I’m ever in when I return to the NYC stage. Blessings, Rick.
No way in hell I’d let anybody force antipsychotic meds on me for having ADHD
I’ve been wondering if I should do lots of labels to help me
@@Dancestar1981 My fiancé and I are going through the house and I’m creating discrete labels for inside of drawers/cupboards/general closet inventory. I’ll try to remember to let you know how it goes, and if it doesn’t annoy my Nuero-type fiancée and step-son.:)
🔑 My dad said that he got tired of going through multiple pockets every time looking for his keys (pants pockets front and back plus jacket pockets plus coat pockets) so he decided to ALWAYS put them in his right front pants pocket so that they don’t get lost even if he takes off his jacket. Problem solved.
I remember one time a month ago I lost my 10$ reward via a lottery ticket . I thought I was losing my min and since then it’s like I can’t win anything else on the lottery. Crazy.from now on I put all my tickets in my wallet or on my dresser.
So what am I trying to do...leave things in the room belong. Nothing that plugs in on the bedroom it's for sleeping. Sleep is important. When because of course I will take things outta their place BUT when I am..done/bored and ready for something else I take whatever.im working on finished or not back to its place. Progress not perfection.
You just gave me so much hope. Thank you so much for this. I’m elated! I just moved and I’m so overwhelmed.. a little less now. 💜
Been looking for my lower dentures for three days
So I’m still a bit confused on how I locate the thing that I just had in my hand a few minutes ago. I get distracted, put the thing down without any real conscious memory of doing so...so finding it becomes a maddening challenge.
I was hoping to learn how to switch on the required conscious memory so as to avoid the loss (and lost time). I do find myself often purposefully creating consciousness when I put something down...as long as I’m not distracted. I then repeat (ad nausea) the item’s location to firm it up in my brain (sometimes to the point it becomes an intrusive thought).
Did I just answer my own question? I don’t know. I just know the frustration is daily, multiple times each day, and regulating the accompanying frustration is a massive challenge.
I now have Rules for myself. Finally I realised that some things, like car keys, have to go in the same place all the time because it makes life so much easier. So my "Rules" are completely internal (I live on my own, so that helps) and as soon as I walk through the front door the keys go back on their hook, which is actually the thing the safety chain is held in, but it's far more useful being my keys' special place. Whether I keep these Rules because I know how much anxiety and frustration *not* keeping them brings, and I'm terrified of that, or because I've now not lost my car keys (in a serious way) in more than, oh, about 15 years I suppose, and I've learned how lovely it is always to know exactly where my car keys are, I'm not sure. A bit of both, probably.
These Rules have come entirely from within me: I have decided that x y z is the Rule, and I follow it because I want to. If I'm out, and the keys can't go in the door, then the next default place is my right hand coat pocket; if I'm not wearing a coat then I'm probably at my fella's house so the keys will be on the coffee table. They can be in only one of these three places, or, as the ultimate last resort, they'll be in my handbag, but they always fall to the bottom and are (deliberately, if you ask me, grrr!) difficult to get hold of, so I try not to put them there. This makes life so much easier and calmer and less adrenline-fuelled; it's been a long journey but now I have given certain things a place to be in and they are *always* put in that place. Woe betide my (adult) children if they don't put one of these designated items back in its designated place!
So what I'm saying, is if You can come up with a few "Rules" that you need to implement, about specific situations or objects that currently cause you grief, and that seem eminently sensible to You, go ahead and start using them. Tweak things until the system works for you. It's very satisfying when it works, because you got something Right at long last, you're not wasting energy and time hunting for stuff, and you know exactly where to find x y z or car keys. You have the power of choice!
I hope this helps; onwards and upwards! Katherine from Kent 💐
Me too.
Place for everything that makes sense to me. Great advice better than,"put in the same place everytime."
"Uh huh" right...a good example my purse, the one that has multiple pockets. Perfect right a place.for everything.
NOPE because when I go to look for my valet ticket in my purse I forgot the perfect place from the day before and when I find it inevitably I will find another perfect place. The perfect place I will find first try everything, perfect place. Ha ha
Living with other people.
I FUCKING LOVE labels.
Craft room, draws labled:
Sharp things
Sticky things
Paper things
Rick, You Rock!
Not officially, yet hinted at, according to the criteria, plus, taking a questionaire in counselling (for depression & anxiety)... looks like I have it too!
Your vids more than others, especially helped me. At 60 yrs., I had the Mom listen to your Unoffical Test. She smiled, and nodded - it was nice, but not sure it made up for the shame that was laid upon me thru the years. Hey! This is a start, no matter if I feel it's overdue....
Thanks again!!! I Love your humor on the topic! That helps to no end!!!!!
I've lost a vacuum cleaner, one of those black, shop vacs. Still looking for it & everyone swears they haven't seen it.
#&%@§Ω!!!
Rick, sorry to see you leave us.
😯
What happened to your original channel?
Lol! Shoe polish. I have real leather shoes that I have to actually take care of. So my shoe care kit is in a box under my sofa and I pull it out once a week to use it.
Before I started doing that, my shoe care supplies were.... somewhere?
Yo, my homie Rick. So for some reason you only have like, 4 videos up on your channel. Do you know what's up with that???
*fart sound*
I only see 3 on the home page. Wonder what happened?
I have places for most everything. The problem is, I get distracted and don't often put it in it's place. I drop it wherever it's convenient. Baby steps lol
I don't even realise that I have put the thing down sometimes.
@@HareKrishnaPerth omg. same. sometimes. if i dont make an thought and look at where i put things. it wont register in my mind and soon after i can be "where the h... did i put that? its no longer i my hands!"
Same! I am about to take it one step further in my new place and organize everything so that I can throw things back in it's place as convenient and fast as possible. No drawers in closets and cupboards I use often, just lots of small shelves, for example. Because open closet AND then a drawer? "Naah that t-shirt will be fine in the pile of all my clothes that accumulated on the most accessible shelf"
i once put my phone on my chair and it took me 2 hours to find it
This is amazing! I want to just have a place for my phone. I spend an enormous amount of time trying to find it everyday 😑
Label EVERYTHING. Thanks Rick for making our lives a bit more bearable. Did you eat the cherry pie finally?
When I saw the set of labels, my brain thought the first one on the top left-hand side said, "hitlers". What a weird thing to put in a draw. And not just one. Oh, "hiliters".
Hooray for labels! If I can't see something, I don't know where it is, so all my drawers and cupboards get labelled.
And... Thank goodness for the labels on the spines of books, so they can be stored end-on on shelves 😀
Having a routine and places for things works great until other people touch your stuff. So I put it all up high, where no one else can reach it or knock it over.
What happened to your other channel.
I was looking for your unofficial adhd test vid.
Lost , cant be found?
Its my go to party trick vid . For shits and giggles.
Anyone that thinks they " might be adhd" i do the quiz with them and i got the paper and pens .. im the one diagnosed... lol
My last score was over 400 .
My mate , 28 ...and im like" go hard or go home .. lol your playing with the big kids now!
Adhd ... pfft. Lol . And NO, you cant have one of my dexies"
Where is it . It would come up to easy anytime i went looking for it.
Bring it back please.
Or re make it if it belongs to someone else now.
I love this!! I think this is why I get so upset when my people don't put things where I said they should go. I'm not very organized with paperwork, I lose school papers, prescriptions, etc. but I have very specific places for my hairbrush, my purse, my notebook that I need to function and be a mom. Thankyou!
Lol😂😂😂😂
The mere mention of batteries … ☠️
Are you sure we haven’t met? You described my life to a T. My most recent screw up was leaving my wallet on the porch railing overnight. I live in Cambridge…on a busy street. I now believe in angels because it was there in the morning.I got rid of a lot of stuff and that’s been most helpful. This video made a great start to Friday.
Have you seen my glasses?
At 8:22 for a moment I was like "You have a box of Hitlers???" 🤔
...I often misread things at first glance, and I've never seen highlighters spelt like that
At least, you didn’t leave your keys in the front door overnight 🤦♂️
That happened to me once 😲😱
I've done that a few times....
Yup
Been there!
I've done this so many times that it's one of the first places I check when my keys aren't in their "usual" place. 🙃
Placing a stylish, framed mirror with two large hooks on it, _where I could hang my keys as soon as I walked in the door_ , has literally changed my life for the better. :) I think Rick's on to something, with whatever holds your "important items" needing to be appealing to the eye, to work for us, knowing how many of us are attracted to (or distracted by) novelty. That way, it becomes a special place to put our things.
My keys hang on a hook in my pantry because a girl has to eat so I know where to find them
Having a get-home dumping spot for keys/wallet etc has been a life changer for me! I also really try and catch myself when my brain is just like "oh I'll just set this here for a second..."
As I'm listening to this, I'm looking for my ear pods. I have been slowly labeling all kinds of things, its miraculous!!!
My phone is lost almost every morning when I am late taking my daughter to school already.
It sucks.
I've been trying to apply this for quite some time.
The biggest problem is that what's a logical space today is not a logical space tomorrow.
It's like my brain keeps resetting what feels right so it's always "suggesting" a new place to look.
Labels makes a massive difference though in general, will try doing this as a temporary thing as well to see if that helps me remember the areas.
..so here I am watching, what may be a life saver for me, yes I have a chicken in the kitchen(not a real one!an egg storing one😂) that we all put our keys and bits in ….I have ten pairs of cheap glasses that can be anywhere and three phones that are mostly in a drawer but sometimes they escape..and I think to myself, this Video is really going to help me and then I end up reading the titles of all your books in the background! 😂
Thank you Rick (you are a life saver even if I have forgotten everything you said apart from the cherry pie which makes me want to make one, if only I could find that recipe 🤔
I love the ashtray for emptying pockets as soon as you come home-idea! I just really dislike locking my front door... So I hope I can make up a spin off that keeps my valuables reasonably safe!
It makes sense that you have experience in keeping attention, because I managed to watch a fricn 11 minute video, one thats not a part of hyper focus research, without jumping out of my own skin
When someone tells you dont need ADHD meds.
Tell them this....
It dont take skills to start a car. A 5 year old can learn that. But driving the car after its started yes. Thats takes skill.
But if meds or lack of cant start your car? Whats the use of learning to drive? A car that dont run dont need insurance either! Duh!
I love what you do for our ADHD world Doctor Rick 😉! I’m a better person because of the amazing work YOU do and how you present it to the world 🌎 Thank you for every single second of your precious, valuable time and energy and all that it takes to continuously create SUCH AMAZING content. It’s truly magical medicine!
I find that works for me most of the time... till my 3 year old rearranges the house. One thing that has helped me massively is putting a little “orbit” on my glasses and a “tile” on my keys.
I also have a cord on my keys so I don’t leave them in the front door.
I actually made a thing that goes under my desk, hanging on the 'table' my computer is sitting on that has pockets for rechargeable devices.
As I result I know where they are, but still forget to plug them in.
Isn't this method something most people do? I often feel like a "defective" ADHD-haver, because I don't often loose stuff, and then someone discusses this like it's a revelation, but I was raised doing this and kinda assumed that most people do this.
People who don’t have adhd don’t have to “have a place for everything” because they go “where’s my keys, oh I set them down over here”
People with adhd thats undiagnosed, or who have parents who have it and never got treated for it usually grow up like this or learn it early, because they develop or are given coping mechanisms for their adhd symptoms.
I have some awesome coping mechanisms.
But I lose crap all the time. /:
HAHAHAHAHAHA NO. And that's the point. These methods seem so obvious to people who are naturally organized. But, just because you have ADHD, doesn't mean you're an automatic slob. I have a friend with ADHD and he's meticulously organized. I do think, tho, that many disorganized people have ADHD, diagnosed or not. And for those people, these methods are very helpful.
So. The only item that defeats this system is my glasses. I take them off without being conscious of it. I am very, very near-sighted. Cannot drive without them, cannot watch TV without them, cannot see across the room or yard without them. But in order to see anything close than about three feet, I have to take them off. And--before you say it--bifocals suck. I'd rather live in a blurry world.
I have "safe" places I put them. At the end of the day, I generally leave them on my desk at the base of my computer. It looks like the computer is wearing them and this helps for some weird reason. In the middle of the day, if I sit down to read in the living room--I put them on an end table where my cell phone and kindle live (Oddly, I rarely lose my phone or kindle).
The rest of the day? Doing dishes, working in the garden, cleaning the bathroom... Your guess is as good as mine. I've left glasses hanging on tomato cages, stuck in the top of flower pots, dangling from the fence, resting on tree trunks... One pair went into the burn pile during fall clean up one year. The only good part of getting older and blinder is that I take them off less often.
They need to make tiny sensors for glasses that you can track with your phone or by saying some obscure word or whistling a tune.
I’d suggest a cord to hang them around your neck, tuck them on your head like the cool kids do with sunglasses, or maybe get or make something you can add to your clothes a Velcro on loop or pocket so you can just tuck them in there.
If they’re attached to you it’s kind of like the pen on a chain. Harder to get lost. 😂
I use a strap made for glasses. Otherwise… 😂
Chain around neck or lariat that you attach glasses to if you need to slip them on or off for focus might help
I worked in manufacturing for a while and they're big on "5S". The bureaucrats take it too far and treat it like an opportunity to become police doling out punishments for not having a tape boarder around where your keyboard usually is. But it is, otherwise, an incredibly valuable way of thinking to use in every day life: Have a place that everything lives. My keys are either in my left trouser pocket, or on my bed side table. No other option. I would lose everything without a 5S mindset.
Oh brother. I just spent five minutes hunting for my glasses so I could write this stupid comment about loosing my keys inside the car after opening it. Happens to me all the time.
.....and I still haven’t found my glasses.....grrrrr.
Edit: Good news....just found em....two days later under the bed. Bad news....lost my favorite pair this morning....grrrr!
I know for a fact that if I didn't need to wear my glasses all day, I would be losing them all the time. My dad lost and/or destroyed several prescription pairs, and my mom keeps a dozen pairs of cheap reading glasses all over the place.
I do too lol I must have ten pairs of cheap glasses 🤓
There was no horse. I wasnt focused. I'm sorry but I suck at that.
Sound advice. Thank you Rick.
"You got me at "relax"
Works until you forget to put something back in it's place, also my cutlery is all over the kitchen.
Me too! And I keep putting knives and forks in a few different places :) i couldn't decide on just one place :)