HOW TO KEEP FLOW IN CONVERSATIONS
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- Instead of catching and losing your flow - master sustainability.
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SUSTAINING FLOW = ability to guide energy dynamically in honed (balanced) ways throughout conversation. To keep others (and myself) captivated - we need stimulation.
TECHNIQUES:
1. NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION - live active breathing. Conscious breathing to release tension and come back to intention in a relaxed yet alert state.
2. MOOD SHIFTS - e.g. serious to funny, nonchalant to sincere.
3. SPEED SHIFTS - fast to slow, slow to fast.
4. FOCUS/INTIMACY SHIFTS - seamless transition to new topic OR switch focus from group to individual, individual to group.
5. GENUINE QUESTIONS - ask genuine questions so responses are genuine, giving breaks for self-regulation. Interactions also keep the attention on your topic.
6. LET OTHERS LEAD - take breaks / pauses between sentences, even mid-story.
7. CLARIFY INTENTION - take a moment to review intention before speaking to avoid repetition, over-explaining, becoming confusing / chaotic.
8. LIGHT-HEARTED VULNERABILITY - call self out in a honest yet light manner.
9. BE PRESENT - don't focus on the flow, focus on the present moment and your story.
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ABOUT:
My name is Ariel Niu, I create content on self and social interactions. I give examples on social cues and techniques, and I share stories on how everything and everyone is connected. Since 2018, I have been practicing using my own energy to change outer experiences and people. I love creating content about human connections, and I am grateful and excited to help those who resonate with my messages.
#flow #energy #socialanxiety #smalltalk #selfdevelopment #communicationskills #lifecoach #interpersonalskills #niuviews
TECHNIQUES:
1. NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION - live active breathing. Conscious breathing to release tension and come back to intention in a relaxed yet alert state.
2. MOOD SHIFTS - e.g. serious to funny, nonchalant to sincere.
3. SPEED SHIFTS - fast to slow, slow to fast.
4. FOCUS/INTIMACY SHIFTS - seamless transition to new topic OR switch focus from group to individual, individual to group.
5. GENUINE QUESTIONS - ask genuine questions so responses are genuine, giving breaks for self-regulation. Interactions also keep the attention on your topic.
6. LET OTHERS LEAD - take breaks / pauses between sentences, even mid-story.
7. CLARIFY INTENTION - take a moment to review intention before speaking to avoid repetition, over-explaining, becoming confusing / chaotic.
8. LIGHT-HEARTED VULNERABILITY - call self out in a honest yet light manner.
9. BE PRESENT - don't focus on the flow, focus on the present moment and your story.
BOOK COACHING: shop.beacons.ai/niu.views/EnergyCoachingwithArielNiu
SOCIAL INTERACTIONS HANDBOOK: shop.beacons.ai/niu.views/socialinteractionshandbookniuviews
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love you already. That helped a lot
Learning to laugh at yourself (with yourself about yourself) will change your life. That tip is golden
I’m going into my first social situation this weekend for the first time in months! I’m grateful for all of the wonderful lessons I’ve learned from this channel. I feel ready, thank you Ariel ❤
Wild, I feel like I naturally do these things. It’s interesting hearing it explained. Going into sales so im gonna try to clean it up and be more intentional about my interactions… while remaining authentic ofc
Your videos feel like insights after a 🍄 trip
Niu,
Your hard work in self actualization has not been in vain. Thank you for taking the time to sit with yourself and to better yourself. You teach me things I did not know could be thought. Things I understood from my experiences but you hit it on the nail every time. Thank you
I definitely struggle with holding/keeping conversations going i feel like im always nervous and awkward when talking so i never know what to say next or how to change topics so the conversations die so quickly this video helped me to understand a little tho
Focus on the story and the delivery will come naturally!! Very eloquent and absolutely on POINT
My eye contact gets bad when I talk for so long with someone then I overthink it and feel like I'm looking uninterested or mugging lol ughh ...thank you for this
In letting others lead, you give an awesome tip for a mid story breath pause but don’t show us! Maybe future content ? We’re keen on seeing this played out❤
I love the way you articulate and deliver actual strategies and tips, you’re leading by example 1111% in this video. I feel super seen and heard in the sense that my entire life, I could feel myself “de-regulating” mid convo and losing the “flow,” and I spent so much time just scrambling after, feeling super awk. The way you break everything down actually gives me language and concepts to understand exactly what is happening in those moments, & I love that you provide so many different methods to try that anyone could easily apply. I’ve truly never thought of fine tuning my communication this way, & i’m so happy you’ve broken it down & shared some of your tools and tips. As an empath in customer service, or even just being juman, it’s challenging navigating so many interactions, dynamics, stories. personalities, and staying centered and grounded in intention. I feel like your videos are helping me gain a deep confidence and awareness of how i’m presenting myself in my interactions, communication patterns, and deeper intentions when speaking with people. Moving forward I’m def going to implement more of the breathing & emotional regulation in convos, I just instinctively know it’s what we need to do. The other methods, I plan to focus on 1/wk to slowly build on all fronts. I’m so excited I have this roadmap now bc it’s going to almost “game-ify” interactions as fun skill building rather than me feeling like daily interactions w strangers is a “daunting task that i’m inevitable going to fumble somehow.” (a personal script I need to rewrite)
I love how you said even sincere can sometimes be heavy. I struggle in really intimate emotional moments with friends and family, and it’s like wow I want this connection so badly and now that I feel it happening I can’t breathe? I’m def going to try moving from lighthearted to sincere in those moments, bc I’ve seen irl how helpful that can be at smoothing the vibe. every intense moment needs a little comic relief to get us by. I feel much more equipped in those intimate moments now. thank you so much for putting this together, sharing, and being such a vibe 🌸☁️🪽
Thank you for sharing your genuine thoughts and practical use of what I share. This makes me so happy and fulfilled to read. You called out many things I used to experience, things I noticed and didn’t know how to define. And yes gamify it. After all, this is a love simulation 🤔🤭🤗
I have always been really good at turning a stranger to a friend and find myself really good at creating small talk that leads to deeper connections but when it comes to my close long term friends and family I struggle w conflict/ confrontation and turning off the front. I appreciate your videos because I never knew how to practice better communication I just figured others were naturally blessed with being confrontational or confident in speaking but your videos have really improved my social interactions. Im more present and intentional with my words and actions
I feel like your descriptions of yourself were also of me 😂 like to a T. I totally feel you on so much of this!
Loving the techniques that I notice in my day to day into words that I can conceptualize. It helps clarify and look for the right technique when needed in conversation, thank you!!
You’re absolutely right, practice does make progress!!
You give people game. I love your content!
Hello! Cant wait to watch!!!
These videos are so helpful. appreciate this.
Your very first point about almost watching yourself as the conversation gets awkward… girl!! That’s me. But I also know when I’m in flow and I love it. Great video ❤
Love your channel & your voice is so soothing. It projects the peace you have cultivated within yourself ❤
you're amazing! thank you for the knowledge! stellar energy!
just seeing the fact that other people other overthink these silly things to is so affirming thank you
didn't realise how subconscious a lot of this is, I never paid much attention to it before wow
Loved this video! I also tend to over explain things to death and see the person's attention start to fade! I love your idea of intending what to say first. Really interested in all your thoughts around boundary setting in social interactions.
Epic!
I think im in love with your channel / wau of teaching ❤ just got here, count me in fir this work. I have been struggling with social anxiety quite a lot lately but this is so inspiring 😊
Thank you for this. ❤
I just love your content and I’m grateful for these tips! I have always aspired to be a professional public speaker.
One of the random things you said that resonated with me on a deep level was when you were explaining how you go from sincere to lighthearted and how you said “I’m always in love with you” speaking of your audience. I’ve never heard anyone say that and I often felt weird that I’ve felt that way lol like it was odd to really love every person I’m serving or speaking too. Just you saying that sorta freed in a way 🫶🏾🌟👑 Many thanks!
Loved this ❤
Thanks for sharing. I could use this breathing technique when I’m communicating and becoming emotional as I do sometimes feel like I need to catch my breath. . Peace and blessings 😊
You should launch a podcast pleaseee! ❤❤❤
So i can listen to it at work
very interesting, thank you
ur so pretty hehe. also super smart! so fire.
Thanks!
Thank you 💚♥️
U should be wayyyyyy more popular on here
Pls pls write a book I can use and keep lots of notes in :) :) never heard anyone break stuff down like you do
You use the perfect verbiage
I'd have no problem keeping flow with *her,* what a cutie!! 😍
How do you overcome the challenge of language barrier in your coaching session?
As long as you can understand me and I can understand what you’re currently going through, I can help you. Basic conversational English is all we need
i was like "she's too fine" and Left the video entirely.
click for English learning first and stay for contents.
Where's the reverb?! :p
😂😂😂
I love how few cuts you have in your video 🤍 CZcams videos feel extra manufactured when they play out like that
I just came across your channel tonight and you are everything I could have dreamed.
In this video I really resonated with the struggle of over-explaining yourself in conversations. I do it so often. Your advice to clarify the intention within yourself and what you’re about to say is beautifully solid advice, but I would highly benefit and love to watch a deeper dive conversation around this.
I’d love to express my point thoroughly and clearly, without serving whoever’s listening a word soup 🥣 but I think I worry that they don’t understand me, so I take my explanation way too far and end up losing them or confusing them.