'I tried intuitive eating but I couldn't do it and now I'm terrified I'll always be a binge eater"
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- čas přidán 4. 08. 2023
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How does this not have millions of likes?? Thank you for sharing all of this information and a bit of your story. It has been by far the most helpful video I’ve seen on recovering from disordered eating habits. Thank you endlessly!
I have just started intuitively eating and I find myself thinking that I am not hungry. It's weird, that even though I'm not 'thinking about food' i'm still thinking about food
You're doing god's work for us girls here. I'm still so lost, intuitive eating seems to equal overating to me. I won't stop at one slice of piece, I always want seconds, I still think about food so often. I'm not restricting ANYTHING, but it can't be normal to want to eat a whole pizza at once ALL THE TIME... and yet if I don't I feel like I'm restricting myself? It's so hard.
Hi friend! This isn't related to this specific video but I just wanted to thank you. Several months ago I transitioned from eating out 1-3 times a day to exclusively eating at home. It was hard for the first few months but at month 4, I feel I have overcome the addiction and it couldn't have been done without your help changing my mindset of how I approached food.
From June 1st to today, October 17th, I have only eaten out twice. The journey has been hard. There were countless days all I could think about is fast food. I remember several times specifically that I would literally be cooking steak and thinking how much I would rather be eating a McDonald's double cheeseburger. I remember one day I woke up at 4am CRAVING McDonald's fries. I couldn't sleep, I was hungry and I just could not think of anything else. I ended up shallow frying some French fries (at 4am!) to help push past it.
Now I feel much more stable in my food intake. I have a better grasp on portions that I don't need a large combo with burger fries and drink, I can eat just a simple sandwich with 2 slices of bread and be nourished for lunch. Eating the fries and a quarter pound burger was just too much and my stomach got accustomed to it. Once I was able to resist long enough, the bacteria in my stomach was able to die off / repopulate for the better food and I just overall feel healthier.
Anyways a bit of a ramble. Just wanted to thank you for your guidance and to share how you've helped me. Next step is stopping soda. It's going to be difficult but maybe tomorrow? 🤣
Idk if this will sound dramatic, but the timing is so right. Thankyou for this, I was literally asking a few people about the exact same topic and this came along. 💕
I'm so glad!! That doesn't sound dramatic at all xx
Rachel-we love you and no one on the internet comes close to you and the wisdom you share with us! Yours is so deep and helpful-know that what you share is implemented in our lives- as I listened I envisioned myself digging out my journal and processing through these events until I find underlying cause. Thank you we appreciate you so much. Kathy
Thank you so much for this lovely message, Kathy. You made my day. I'm so happy to hear that these videos help ❤️
This is my struggle! What a helpful video, thank you!
Your videos are so inspiring. Just listening to you talk through it all helps so much. Thank you!
I think this might be the missing piece I needed! I went through exactly what you mentioned today, I overate and found myself feeling guilty and hopeless. I now know to have a "let's learn something from this" approach and I'm thinking about journaling these kind of situations.
In my case I found I overate twice today due to:
1. Procrastinating work
2. Dining out with friends and feeling pressured to order a lot of food even though I wasn't hungry. I struggle saying no to food in social situations because I feel like I'd be missing out on some of the fun and feel a bit left out, plus I would annoy others by asking for less food. I also struggle with not forcing myself to finish my plate.
Thank you for this, you are a gem ❤
Your content is incredibly insightful & so helpful; thank you for putting this out into the world!
Knowing when to stop eating is the biggest challenge, and I think I still overeat because I’m gaining weight, but I never felt like I ate too much 🤦♀️ I don’t think I’d mind except I’m already on the heavy end.
I hear you! Do you feel in touch with your satiety cues or would some appetite awareness training be helpful? Gaining weight is also not necessarily a sign of eating 'too much'. There are many reasons that could happen which I've spoken about in other videos ❤️
@@RachaelWrigley appetite awareness training sounds lovely
Wow great insight! Thank you for sharing that in order to stop binge eating , is to analyze what are we avoiding in our life that keeps us eating and eating.
One of the best videos I've seen!!!!❤
This is amazing as a guy who is looking to work on loosing weight for my healthy by calorie counting and intuitive eating, this is amazing! Thanks for the knowledge
Thank you SO much for this video 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 focus on your relationship to food, AMEN 🙏🏻❤️🩹
Oh dear I found this video so so so helpful because I didn't even know from what angle can i look at my problem, thank you so much
I've been doing intuitive dieting for a while and is working SO right, the only thing is that sometimes I catch myself counting calories unconsciously and I never know when I don't want to eat anymore or if it's just me trying to restrict
Maybe you could do a video about food as a way of coping with procrastination? I have a feeling that’s a huge factor of BE.
Wow such a helpful video thank you
I really felt what you said about using food as an excuse to not do something. Going forward, I am going to allow myself to relax when I want because I think needing an excuse to relax and lie down is what causes me to overeat. I think my overeating has more angles than just this one, but it is at least a start.
I also am starting to understand why making the reason for my overeating about food is unhelpful. The behavior of overeating itself comes from restriction, and it may not only be from food. It may be the restriction of a behavior. It was never about the food, but rather what the food allowed me to do for myself. Maybe if we allow ourselves to behave like we do after we overeat, we wouldn't care about the food because it was just the initiation to a behavior that actually soothed us.
Hey Rachel, I just found your channel and really love what you have to say. I'm working on improving my relationship with food myself, but in a different way, that I don't hear about often, and I'm hoping maybe you have some thoughts.
For me, I feel like I don't think about food *enough.* I don't have any food rules, I don't calorie-count, nothing like that. The thing is that I *hate* cooking and eating. I resent the fact that I have to devote so much time, energy, creativity, effort, and money into eating every day. If I could take a magic pill that allowed me to never eat again, I would - not because I want to lose weight, but because I never want to think about food again.
I've been trying this year to change this mindset. I realize I'm gonna have to eat every day for the rest of my life, so I might as well try to enjoy it, right? And it's been going... Okay. I find my biggest issue, though, is that I need zero-effort food, and generally those foods aren't very balanced. I don't want to just eat chips for every meal, ya know?
My self-worth and self-esteem is solid, and I want to nourish my body because I love it. I like how healthy food tastes, and I love how it makes me feel. But it's just such a massive pain in the ass to me to cook up something balanced for most meals! I've already figured out certain hacks, like buying canned or frozen food, rotisserie chickens, etc. but I once I get bored with a recipe, I'm back at the drawing board. It's so, so draining. I hate it!!
Any advice? How can I learn to enjoy cooking enough that it doesn't feel like pulling teeth just to make a salad?
I love you girl, you're the best
Hey, I was wondering if you can talk about the more practical side of learning how to become a normal eater. As someone who has struggled with BED a really big struggle for me has been just not really knowing how to plan to have enough time, food, or the budget to eat enough throughout the day. I would LOVE super practical tips to becoming a normal eater!
im in recovery from a binge, restrict and over train ED and my issue is hunger, im starving all the time. 20kgs overweight also 😢
im sorry to hear that! I know this is 2 months since the comment but wanted to know if you are okay. i am a health coach helping clients overcome their ED, self-image, and relationship with food. if you are struggling and need help, reach out to me. I do free 30 day full recovery sessions
THANK YOU❤❤❤
Thank you for all of the wonderful information you’ve shared. I’m looking into intuitive eating but I find it difficult to make the food I want to eat out of what I actually have. Do you have any tips for intuitive eating when your budget is tight and your energy is low?
Thanks again :)
Wow. Not giving herself permission to relax before chores. So just kept eating. I can totally relate to that. Your other video talking about scarcity mindset. We forget we can just go out later and buy the cake instead of "having" to eat it now, before "it's all gone". My mother restricted our sugar intake so much that whenever I have it around I feel like I "have" to have it "or else..." - b/c as a child you have less control of these issues. Using food as a way to relax, (or an excuse to), for comfort, for strength, or security. So weird all the "meanings" food can have for us
This is an important message, that we should not substitute problematic rules-based dietary thinking as we evolve our relationship with food. Also we need to remember that as women, our menstrual cycle and hormonal changes will influence our relationship with food on a daily basis. Thus, intuitive eating involves responding to the hormonal cycles of the body. It is ok to eat more, or certain types of carbohydrate and fat rich food, right before, during and after your period. Your body is restoring nutrients and eating more calories can help you feel less tired due to blood loss.
Rachel-Would you ever consider sharing with us what you eat in a day-i hate to ask because I’m tired of seeing all of them on internet and I know it’s a topic actually an obsession on the CZcams channels but I respect you so much and would appreciate knowing a little better the balance of nutritious foods and pleasurable foods. I’m 66 so I need to have balance but it’s really easy to get restrictive when thinking “healthy” also. Just a little extra sharing if not an example of your day. Obviously my day likely needs a ratcheting up of nutritious food due to age. Than you Kathy
i really really appreciate your channel! ive felt in the past that there was no one who truly dealt with the same severe binging that i personally do. other than the my 600 lb lifers lol.
ive been doing a lot better especially with my environment changes and a better home life. but i think your main point in this video is so incredibly real... if we just stop feeling that guilt and really ask ourselves what we actually need..
THANK YOU
What about when you can’t stop eating because the food taste so good? This happens to me every night.😭😭
Being mindful and eating slower. No matter what you’re gonna have to stop eating eventually and the feeling of stopping will be equally painful as if you’d eaten less. So try to savour each bite of the smaller portion
Do you have a podcast? I would love to listen to content like this ❤❤
Maybe one day! ❤️
hii Rachael, i tried to get the free checklist, but the email is not arriving for some reason.
there's something i can do?
Rachel if I am in my sixties can I stop binging need to lose twenty pounds, The doctor says it is to hard at this age I have lost if before very active work out almost every day and walk.
Can you offer some advice about soda. It’s my Vice lol
I've worked so hard to lose weight then when I got to my goal decided to move away from calorie counting and move to intuitive eating. I am finding I'm gaining weight and feeling fat again. How do we deal with the weight gain while trying to intuitive eat. This is why I feel I can't intuitive eat and need to go on yet another diet to lose the weight. Thank you.
That's a really important question and a big one. I have discussed some bits of this in other videos. If you don't find what you need there you are very welcome to reach out for a call (in the description). This is a mixture, in my experience, of self-value, confidence, body image and understanding how the body regulates weight (amongst others).
This is a plea for help. I'm 18, 40lbs overweight. I finally realized I'm an emotional eater. I've dieted and binged and recovered. I just feel this need to eat all day, every day regardless of how I feel. I do stop when I'm full and don't "binge" anymore but, it's like every hour of the day. I tried the methods suggested and I just ended up eating "junk food" all day.
I cannot by any means pay for help. I need it so badly though! I know you wouldn't do any work for free and I wouldn't ask that of anyone. I just really feel so helpless...
I am sorry to hear that, i was once in your shoes and know how difficult it is. im a health and wellness coach that help people to implement the right mentality and beliefs towards their body, health, and self-image to overcome the destructive cycle. --- let me help you! I do 30-day free coaching to identify what the source is and help you overcome it. reach out to me, i would love a conversation :)
Every time I feel full and want to stop eating food I start to get anxious and I don’t know what to do, so I end up overeating.
A question I might ask you with this is what do you get stressed and fearful of happening? See if that helps you to dig a bit deeper and address the root. There are many reasons why someone may become anxious at the idea of stopping eating, all of which make a lot of sense (although it can feel confusing). Including but not limited to scarcity mindset, emotional blocking, guilt, lack of trust in appetite cues, abstinence violation effect, procrastination, food meanings and more. A complex topic, but journalling and asking yourself deeper questions can be so illuminating to bring you that clarity and understanding. This is certainly not something that has to continue forever for you. And if you ever need an extra helping hand, you can always book in for a call (so long as you meet my client criteria and are eligible ❤️) or reach out to another experienced professional.
I am 13 years old girl and i had ed in feb2023 only i started binge eating and its august and still i am not abke to stop my binge eating i am not able to study properly because of binge eating habit ( i always think about food) even though i try not to skip breakfast, honor my cravings( but whenever i do so i eat the whole thing and binge) but still i binge
Could you please give me some tips to stop it
Thank you for your comment and I'm sorry to hear you're struggling with your relationship with food. Please understand that because of your age and that I haven't seen you personally it wouldn't be appropriate for me to give you tips. But I recommend that you do reach out for help from others and a professional to support you in this ❤️ Because help is certainly out there for you!
@RachaelWrigley actually in india ed is very rare and my parents thing that it's normal I had just stopped eating junk food for 8 months that's why I am eating so much but they can't understand my situation I have lost self control for food
Do you know when you would be more available to book calls with/ become a client?
Hi! Thank you for your interest in working with me. I will be releasing spaces for my program in the next few weeks. If you want to hear more about that make sure your on my list - link in description. If you’re suitable for it, it would be lovely to have you!
Thank you so much :)@@RachaelWrigley
I noticed after the video ended a desire to keep consuming YT content even after already having “enough” and the same line of questioning is applicable. Am I avoiding something?
Your website gives 404 errors when we try to add to the wait-list. Is it still ok ?
It should be! And should be sorted now.
I’ve watched a lot of your videos and I just want to be sure I understand… intuitive eating is when you just eat whatever you want and your body will just figure it out and you’ll lose weight and find your natural weight? And once you allow yourself to eat what you want the stigma of that “bad” food will go away and you won’t want to eat so much? I’m trying so hard to understand but it’s hard. I think about food ALL the time. I want to embrace this but it is SO difficult.
That story at minute 7 is totally me.
Yes, somewhat. But somewhat may not lose weight of course. And if it's being used for the purpose of weight loss I doubt someone would be able to get a healthy relationship with food. It is slightly more complex than that. Because there's also emotional uses of food, body image, your physiology and how you think about food to account for. Sometimes it can be as simple as eat what you want when you want, but not amongst those I have worked with. If you're interested in the whole process start to finish, then you can email us support@shethrives.co.uk. I have made a comprehensive course for the purpose of making the journey extremely clear ❤️
Thank you! Best wishes to you in your journey! @@midnite6848
Thank you so much for all the help and hope you inspire in so many. 🥰@@RachaelWrigley
Hey there Rachael!
This was really helpful!
It helped me take control over my bad eating habits and on top of that, I developed a healthier relationship with food.
That's exactly why I believe that you can help even more people by using 2 marketing strategies that will most likely increase your subscriber count by 5,400 in 3 or 4 weeks.
If you're interested, just tell me, Would 4 pm tomorrow be a good time to discuss them in great detail?
Sometimes I feel very unconvinced by people talking about struggling with their relationship with food for a decade, being 'overweight' and not liking how they look - and then talking about healing, whilst being super fit. It just seems like - how do I know this is not just another phase where you fool yourself and us ?
Note: I realise that this comment might come off as too direct or harsh. I am not a native english speaker, and I lack the vocabulary to express my thought with more empathy lol
I hear you. And what a great and important question. And I hear the question coming from a place of genuinely wanting to get a good relationship with food and wanting to separate the fact from the fiction and not waste your precious time further listening to people who haven't got real experience on this topic. I'll speak personally on this as it seems you're asking about my relationship with food personally. The reason I know I have a healthy relationship with food now is because I had eating disorders for 10 years. I know what it feels like to struggle with and obsess over food, be on diets, be restrictive and then feel so out of control it would terrify me. I now have peace with food, self maintained and have for years now. I also have helped 100s of other women do the same with the same process and studied for 5+ years on this topic to know it in and out and all the warning signs and signs of 'recovery'. I also haven't been successfully following a plan for years, I worked for 4 years to heal my relationship with food, doing things that really scared me in the aim of getting my life back and eating freely without concern. I can say with 100% certainty that my relationship with food is healthy now and I worked very hard to get here and wanted it more than anything. Having a really healthy relationship with food doesn't take willpower to maintain, it just is. Like breathing. That doesn't mean that my eating patterns or weight won't change over time. I expect they will based on different periods of ageing and life. And that's part of the point. A healthy relationship with food is not a particular weight or a specific eating structure. I remember when this 'food freedom' seemed very mystical and abstract and I would have been sceptical too, but obviously people do heal and the fact I lost weight as a by product of not restrict/binge eating any more does not make my recovery any less real than someone else's (though I understand why you ask and I think it's an important question to ask!). For instance, I still had to work exceptionally hard to improve my bad body image which was present wether I was in a smaller or larger body than I am in today. If I still struggled with my eating disorder I would still be trying to manipulate parts of my body and focusing intensely on it/ weighing daily/ wearing only black etc. As it stands, I have no desire to do this. I can't speak for others, that's about me personally as you raised it. I hope this helps ❤️
@@RachaelWrigley it helps a lot, and it really gives me hope! I have fooled myself (and others) numerous times, into thinking that I’ve found the “perfect” way to recover (i.e. stay thin AND find food freedom). Your videos really speak to me, but because of my own experience, I tend to be sceptical. The fact that you even replied, and in such a way, convinces me. I know how much I would avoid questioning my quasi-recovery; I guess just desperately wanting it to be real lol. Thank you for sharing so much, and helping us ❤️
I completely understand and hear you. I'm so glad that this helped ❤️❤️ You can have hope. Real recovery exists x
Curious, the criteria to book a breakthrough session is to have a BMI of 18-29? I understand that you have specific range of women who you want to work but why use such an outdated standard of measurement that was never intended to determine a person’s value or health? We are talking about changing our relationship with food and here comes the BMI scale….of course I don’t fall into the criteria 😅 I was really actually surprised when I saw the old BMI scale, a cornerstone of diet culture.
You're absolutely right that it is outdated in many regards. The reason it's there is not because of who I want to work with but because of scope of practice. I am recieving additional training to make sure I can safely work with this demographic and help as much as possible. The vast majority of work I do with clients is of course relevant regardless of BMI, but throughout my training it was made very clear that there some differences that need to be accounted for and I'm not yet fully confident with those. I'm working hard to remove this limitation because I'm keen to help everyone really effectively. I hope this answers your question ❤️ Also I do work with women outside of the range on a case by case basis if we mutually agree I'm the right person to help once I explain the potential differences and nuances. Then it's up to the individual if they wish to proceed with me or someone else. I have the criteria there to be fully transparent about my area of expertise. It is absolutely not out of prejudice, that couldn't be further from my mission with women, but out of scope of practice. If you wish to have a session with myself and meet the rest of the criteria, it would be a pleasure to take you through all of this and help in any way that I can. I am also going to make sure now that all of this is fully explained on my website. Thank you for bringing it to my attention that this criteria needs further explaining on my website!
@@RachaelWrigley thank you for your honest answer, I appreciate it, I respect your ethical dedication 😀💐🙏🏼 blessings
You're more than welcome 🤗
Intuitive eating does not work if you take long term steroids or have type 1 diabetes and I have both.
I’m I the only guy that watches your videos? Lol
You're not! ❤️
Okay, I am changing my mind about the clip. I have listened to more of it. I am sorry, Rachel, I did not give you enough of a chance. I am just so sick of all this vague intuitive eating content.
Thank you 🤗 Yes, I hear you. I have similar frustrations wich is why I do the work that I do. I like clear tangible actional pointers as well. That being said, do bear in mind that I can imagine most individuals whos job it is to help women become intuitive eaters likely keep a lot of the practical application for those in their paying practice. For instance, 90% of the work I do with clients through a clear process is not on this channel! So that may play in to the tips being 'wishy washy ' (possibly!)
Just subscribed to you@@RachaelWrigley
Jesus Christ is the only way💌✝️
This is so timely. I’ve just come off a two week “out of control” period due to the excuse of stress and anxiety, then celebration overeating period. 🥹
I'm glad that it helped. It can be hard to make sense of things so the fact you're able to pick out the underlying drivers is really commendable ❤️ That's the important first step.