Gabor Maté - The Roots of Healing
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- A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.
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Tami and Gabor talk about the immune system and how it is connected to healthy, emotional expression, and why it matters so much that we own our healthy anger and express it. They also talk about how our body can function as a teacher, and how Gabor views such diagnoses as ADHD and depression, and how his views differ from the way the medical community views those conditions.
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"Depression is not an emotion, it is a state of mind in which emotions are being suppressed." Gabor Maté.
Very bright
It is the actual suppression, pushing down of the emotions, not thoughts of suppression..
Huge!
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Depression is Soul suppression in need of authentic Expression!
-monica
5-10-2015
Thank you for all the work that you do. You saved my life ❤️ after being poked by over 80 doctors over a 3 year period and going from Lyme to fibromyalgia to lupus, with no available help, I finally understood now, after 7 years later of suffering over 100;symptoms that there was a deeper explanation. Was raised by a narcissistic mother who created a narcissist environment since the beginning 41 yrs ago. I left home at 16 because I ‘knew’ something was off and would only visit her once every 3 yrs because I would become physically ill just in anticipation. She got cancer and passed 5 months ago and although I have a very VERY long journey of reprogramming EVERYTHING I know the KNOWLEDGE that you share has literally made me feel like a newborn at 41. I will be forever thankful to you for helping me see. 🙏🏼
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That's a great story
Kudos to you and your journey and you are not late: I am starting too my journey at 44 into recover and rehabilitate myself after much damage suffered at a very early age
Mario Barraja i have done a lot of damage to myself as well - addiction for the majority of my life on top of the health issues -The lengths we go through to fix that which we dont fully understand. I think it’s more normal than not. I wish you strength on your journey to connect to yourself once again - the answer is within 🙏🏼
Much love to you. You are not alone
Dr. Mateo is so right on, my friend is in his 40's has ADHD I had dinner with his family. I observed his mom correcting him by screaming at him in this eerie, screechy voice at that moment I saw my friend face turn beet red and he start shaking. Later, I told my friend that his mom screaming had him shaking and red faced, He goes. " I didn't know that happened?" I realized he was totally disconnected from the body, to survive the abuse from his childhood. His ADHD was a coping mechanism created by him to shield the self, from the trauma of mental, verbal and physical abuse from the mom. His siblings one had a nervous breakdown, one is an alcoholic, one rocks back and fourth, to self soothe while conversing. It's so sad. How different their lives would be if she just loved, comforted , cared and accepted them
Sorry to hear - what a disturbing story! Is he getting help for this? Not the ADHD per se - but rather, its root cause?
Dude that happens to me! I go completely crimson like you've never seen anyone do I dissociate. I've done it for 25 years that I can remember and it gets triggered in social situations or when I'm yelled at and I've isolated my whole life to avoid having it triggered I want to fix it but dont know how and when I tell my counselor she doesn't seem to know what it is
It would be nice to put it all on the mother but how was she raised? How was her mother raised? We can go back to the beginning of time. It’s not about placing blame. It would be unfair and illogical to blame our parents.
@@Pagingnursejackie yes it's to accept if we feel on pain but that was the truth. our parents is not goddess, they was just a child too inside, they had their own trauma growing up. It's confusing. I feel hurt but after realize this im confused and this anger is nowhere
@@1threat2humanityakausa25 hey Eddy. I have the same problem. Chronic blushing. I could tell you about it if you want to PM me. I’m slowly starting to get help for it. It’s really been hard but I have hope now that my future can be better.
Just listening to this because I was having a panic attack. I can breath again. The hard work is yet to come, but tonight you helped me to regain control. Thank you.
Panic attacks are terrifying. The first one I had was a complete shock. Now when I sense one coming on I get up and move around, try to get my muscles moving and find people so I can distract myself. I get them if I’ve been up too late partying. Not always, but that’s the reason and I can control how often I do that. If there were other causes I’d try to do something to reduce them as they take a lot of effort to overcome once they start and leave me tired. I hope you are coping ok with yours.
This is one of the strangest illnesses. It is excruciating, dramatic -- but not dangerous. It's one of the most severely symptomatic but least "serious" psychological problems a person can have. EVERYONE who has ever had this becomes convinced they will be "the one" who never recovers. But recovery is basically 100%.
Emma Stone had one of the worst cases I've ever heard of. Kim Basinger struggled with agoraphobia after her attacks subsided. Agoraphobia is sometimes a complication. :/
Looking back, I can hardly believe I ever had it. Doesn't seem possible. At the time, I was sure it would never stop. It's not a "deep" disorder. It won't muck up your personality or anything. Reading the story of a decorated veteran who had it helped me; he wrote: if I had not been brave in combat, I'd wonder if I was a coward. He recovered fast, actually. Knowing the panic was not "him," but just a termporary condition, helped him to turn the corner.
How are you doing now Dee?
@@zion367 I don't have alot of these now. I've changed a few things in my life
@@deemurray3206 How awesome to hear that! Congratulations for overcoming that!❤
I am so thankful to be able to listen to Gabor Maté... I no longer feel like an alien, separate from others, he genuinely helps keep me going and also be a healthier mum to my little girl. He helped me heal from decades of addiction. This is still a process.. 5 years on.... I have learnt to give my body attention. I am so so grateful. I am learning to reconnect to Myself. Xxx
Katy, you are spot on with your comment. Dr. Mate is a brilliant speaker who offers hope, which is needed in my life for healing, and in the life of so many who are hurting. I am moving beyond just surviving to thrive. ❤❤
beautiful xx
Katy Cockle Thank you so very much for interviewing Gabor Maté. I am looking forward the next interview on the topic on psychedelics and healing holistically.
Check out Tim Fletcher's CZcams videos on complex PTSD as well. His series on Re-Parenting is especially enlightening.
His voice is so real and compassionate.
Omg this changed my life
I know. I think I'm addicted to his voice! 🤣🤣🤣
becaseu he is mostly " emotionally competent"
AS a person with autoimmune diseases, it’s true, I never got angry when I was young. Now I’m slowly getting angry, but it’s unhealthy anger. I see it now from Dr. Maté
Me too... Sending love and compassion your way 🙏💕
I was not allowed to be angry. I also have autoimmune
Me too. The „bad“ me was not wanted and had to go. Angry was bad. Maybe a cause for my Hashimoto.
I have Crohn’s disease but in remission for 7 years now. I was not allowed to express ANY emotions when I was young. Any attention I brought to myself could be cause for physical violence or the endless threat of it. I learned to blend in and hide in plain sight. The classic lost child. My anger erupted as a teenager and young adult. I left home at 16 never to return. I still can’t handle standing out in a crowd - it’s a mix of excruciating embarrassment and panic of persecution that I can’t shake after 47 years. I would never in a million years put myself out there on the internet.
Me too. Abused by my parents and teachers for showing anger. I endured and laughed at them . Not showing pain . Pain is losing because no one at my side . Now I developed auto immune disease allergy and severe sinusitis. I cannot eat anything . I was not born with it . The stress in my teens developed such a condition
Gabor is predictably brilliant, as he always is. There's so much great material here. But the unsung hero is the interviewer. She just steps back and lets him speak and answer each question as thoroughly as he would like to.
She’s not unsung. She is here I’m grateful ..
I’m not good in electronics. I’ve been trying to find who she is. …..that is true humility. Still I’d like to know who she is so I can follow…hear more from her
I know her voice… she’s great
Dr. Mate is a genius!
When my mom was pregnant with me she found out my father had a girlfriend who was pregnant at the same time. Unbeknownst to my mother, I was named after his girlfriend.
I left the family as soon as I could. My family is still messed up. I cannot be around them without getting physically ill.
Dr. Mate, Dr. Joe dispenza, Wim Hof, meditation and yoga give me hope. Namaste
Have you tried soma breathwork. It could be of interest for you. Also the complete course inner-engineering from Sadhguru/ Isha fondation can be life-changing. And last the book the power of eight by Lynne McGarret is a book I just started reading. It seems very promising and brings a lot of hope for healing thanks to the help of a small group. It is backed by scientific evidence also. Really worth reading about it. Hope this can be of some help. 🙏🌱🌻
that took a turn...
Men are incredibly self serving without any concern for anyone but themselves
What about forgiveness?? Can we forgive our parents and heal ourselves through making relationship better if both parties are willing to work
Avi mae, look into family constellation work. When people name their sons/daughters with the same name as another person in the family tree, the son/daughter takes on unconsciously the destiny of the individual with the name.
Also look into transgenerational trauma and scripts. The works of Anne Ancelin Schutzenberger and Bert Hellinger should give you more clarity on your situation and those unhealthy dynamics in your family tree.
Thank you Gabor for sharing your experiences with such authentic candor and kindness. Your findings and insights are invaluable to mankind.
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Hello 👋 dear how are you doing
Thank you Dr Gabor....My own personal experience also being abandoned in all ways possible, including by my father, and being left with a relative for care at age 8...sexually molested since a toddler for almost a decade in different times by 4 different men, it seems as my environment was plagued with sexual predators all the time...having an emotionally disturbed mother, and on top growing up in a very violent country (Civil war), and later on the abuse of psychotic and Narcissistic partners...I have survived cancer, ADHD, Fibromyalgia and all what It accompanies, depression, anxiety and chronic fatigue...No religion or practice being promoted, The life changing experience for me was the deep study of the Bible, which addresses all the topics, negative effects of stress, righteous anger, and resolving anger before the sun sets, hmmm...Having found the reality of Jesus Christ at age 29 ( I’m 51 now) truly, truly changed my life....(Note that I’m not part of any particular church at this moment, i feel that i can’t deal with that for now...I did in the past though and graduated from a very intensive theology course that transformed my life in a powerful way...but for now I study with Mike Winger here on CZcams)...And yes Dr Gabor, we are a work in progress, for sure. However going through it all with a peace that surpasses all understanding , it is possible...
Much love and prayers for all that are seeking answers to the challenges we are facing now due to childhood trauma. ❤️
That's so beautiful. I'm so sorry for all that you suffered
Wise, compassionate, empathic, authentic human being. Thank you for sharing your humanity so others can heal.
Dr. Matè's speaking empowers me to continue pursuing through this often painful process of self parenting and self exploration. Combine this with the fact that I live just north (600 miles) of him. He is a humanistic superstar in my books.
All the best and strength in your journey
Dr Mate's insight on ADD and Addiction coming as a result of Childhood Complex PTS is transforming. I can't wait to see what unfolds when the medical society actually embraces and uses this information.
The western medical society will not embrace Dr. Matés thoughts, there is too much money to earn with medicines, therapy, special schools, teachers, and so on.
Let’s hope that the medical establishment starts to listen to Dr Maté!
Discovered him recently. No talks enhanced my awareness and my personal development this strong then Gabor talks. Great interview!
Hello 👋 dear how are you doing today I hope we could talk.
Love Gabor's work and his attitude towards healing. I've listened to so many of his talks, but always learn something new each time.
I wish I had found this material years ago. But I've found it now and it's changing my life. The illumination is profound. Thank you, Dr. Mate.
It's all happening in divine time ❤
Thank you! You are assisting us to liberate from our own emprisoment
Yes he got me out of jail 😁👍
Excellent talk as always! ADHD is definitely a stress response. Ayurveda sees it as a Vata (nervous system) imbalance which can be improved by a calm and regularised environment (a predictable schedule, healthy meals prepared with love). It is a product of our crazy society. These people aren’t sick, they show a normal response to the abnormal circumstances they grow up in.
AMEN.
They are dealing with deep layers of emotional disregulation due to dysfunctional parenting when they were very young. This causes problems with ability to stay focused on anything or to remember things list a doctor's apptmt. It is not a disease nor does it affect intellectual capacities but rapid thinking/speech/hyperactivity and dissociative episodes are the burdens.
@ a video I watched earlier claimed that when they circumcise...the baby is given something with sugar in it. I normally research these things before I blah blah blah, but I just thought I'd mention it.
@ definitely not! If I had kids I wouldn't feed them sugar. My philosophy revolves around honouring the painfully loooooooong process of human evolution, which dictates how we are HARDWIRED to BE.
When I try to come up with a more efficient strategy to ensure that people might always look to sugar as the answer to trauma, not much comes to mind!
Are there any books you can recommend on Ayurveda?
After a year of being tested for auto immune with possible MS or other neurological complications, poked, prodded, and suffering through so much pain I came across Gabor Maté and am weeping...so many repressed memories and overwhelming pain have risen. I’d disassociated from so much trauma and was such an overachiever that I ran my body into the ground. I was resilient and could overcome anything. It’s not a badge to wear because it comes back to haunt until it is healed. I have always been empathetic and could feel the suffering of the world, and never discharged that suffering. A lifelong sentence of abandonment...how apropos. I feel like this is the beginning of a journey into m own healing.
And frankly, I need you, with your consciousness and compassionate presence to be here also -- if you so wish.
I'm the same . I was allways empathetic since I was a child . I'm now dealing with a neuro immune muscular disorder at 30 with rashes all over and I have just figured out about the suppressed emotions . .
@@jamescharles4958 did your doctor tell you that the diagnosis became because of your suppressed emotions.
@@Dzanarika1 yes I was told anxiety and stress by 40 different Drs
I didn't beleave it fo to full years of excruciating pain and fatigue .
Here I am thinking I must suck it up and ignore my pain and disress from ptsd, depression and trauma in order to care for my son and in reality I'm hurting him more. Gotta work on my healing.
Hello 👋 dear how are you doing today
Phenomenal as always. Thank you for providing this for free.
I had some revelations after hearing him. They seem the kind that could have an impact.
Can we take a second to recognize how amazing the interviewer was. She was absolutely in control of the direction of conversation and asked amazing questions. She is one of the best I ever heard in my life!!!
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Whilst I have been fortunate in that Gabor's work and messages are well- known to me, it is remarkable to me, that each new interview, and of course the timing of each exposure, elucidates new ideas. Thank you for this.
“Before ours minds create the world, the world creates our minds” - Dr. Gabor Mate
I think this man is a genius. I have also just discovered the videos of Lisa A Romero who works with people who had narcissist parents and I've learned that my mum was/is gaslighting me. It's opened up a whole new world of knowledge. And yesterday while watching a normal programme where the daughter had a bad childhood, something in me triggered somehow physically and I had to go to the bathroom and kept (TMI) dry wretching and breathing like an asthma attack (but my lungs were open) and had a tiny bit of sick come up but it felt totally emotional. And after I was relaxed. It was so weird like I'm hoping the honest work I'm doing about my younger self is working and yesterday it literally felt like I threw up a piece of guilt lodged inside me for my negative feelings towards my mum when I was young. Stay strong people. It's a bumpy road 🙏❤
Jenni Yvonne Lisa Romano is awesome! She has done great meditations on insight timer app
@Jenni Yvonne "...yesterday It literally felt like I threw up a piece of guilt..." Great imagery! The first time I heard the word 'gaslighting' was when, after hanging up the phone from a particularly contentious call with my mother, my then 13 yr old son said to me, "She's gaslighting you again..." I asked him what he meant and he said, "Let me show you something." He took me to his computer and pulled up a website - Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. What a revelation. By way of my 13 yr old son! As he grew older he did not like what he kept seeing me go through & so had decided to do something about it. He's now 30. Over the years I discovered the demons that both my mother & her mother had had to deal with & as a result she & I were actually able to come to a hard won understanding before she died at the age of 95. The first time I heard Gabor Maté speak I knew he KNEW. (I dealt with autoimmune & other issues for 18+ years) His counsel is always solid, compassionate and correct. I am so happy for you in your Awakening! Much Peace and Joy to you on your Journey!
Sonja14athome Wow what an incredible son you’ve raised despite your own family and experience. Hats off to you.. and for finding a way to talk with one another before she passed. That’s amazing, your story is so wonderful, thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much. I am not surprised that I have ended up as emotionally stunted. I was raised by two doctors, both of them alcoholics, narcissists. Myself and my brothers were destroyed. I know exactly what happened to us.
If you are breathing, you are not destroyed forever. You have a chance to raise your consciousness, to 'recover' (uncover) a part of you that had to get buried, perhaps, to survive the upbringing you had. I believe you! Your healing is a very worthwhile thing....and is possible NOW. May you find the inspiration, help or experience you need for healing and living with more joy, health, sanity internally and otherwise. xo.
Healing will happen to you and you will find peace🙏🏻💚.
Love that he mentions the book "Dying to be me" by Anita Moorjani. It's such a powerful book, definitely one of my favourites.
Thank you so much for sharing the title & author of a book that helped you.
Lymphoma is curable cancer. She had treatment in the hospital that's why she got cured.
@@kingadziubak8139 you realize you diminish the results of the lesson she gained from the healing, right?
@@szoya5365 I don't know what you mean. I only know that lymphoma is 90% curable.
@@kingadziubak8139 did you have any event in your life that changed you? Then you know what I mean ;)
Aaron Mate is one of the best things that Gabor Mate has produced. Aaron's intelligent and well-balanced journalism is excellent.
Aaron is great!!
Chip off the ol' block as we used to say (haven't herd it for years though)
@@MrPotatochips4
In my language, translated, we say: "Chip doesn't fall far away from the block"; meaning the same thing.
@@MarkoKraguljac the apple falls close to the tree :) It's another one for the same in English! Combination styles
Total respect for father and son!
Just listening to that one quote about the child feeling the parent's pain goes in parallel with what some recognize now with the mother child physiology during pregnancy. If the mother's kidneys aren't filtering properly, the embryo isn't getting filtered either. With humans consuming food which is not the default diet, resulting in most people having compromised kidney and lymphatic systems, it is why we see younger and younger people getting chronic illnesses.
Yes - nutrient-providing food is definitely required.
Doritos and Coke should be occasional treats, not staple, steady eats.
So honoured & grateful the algorithm gods brought me to this awesome episode. Dr. Gabor Maté has helped me understand that the dysfunction of my family of origin has left me quite ill both mentally & physically. I can still heal myself even after all these years! So happy to hear that even at 73yrs he has a yoga practice coz that's definitely one of the healing modalities I'm benefiting from 🙌
Thank Tami & be blessed for the great work!
One of the best interviews with Gabor Maté I've heard. Thanks for posting it.
Absolutely love Dr. Gabor Matte .. he is key to the future and transformation of medicine and healing ....
the interviewer is brilliant.
His awareness that he still feels the natural human evolution a.k.a. attachment to his wife is his growth is his healing is his recovery! That he’s aware that he can feel abandonment and rejection is what makes him connected to his humanity. Healing does not mean we stop feeling it means we stop reacting.
Although I wish I'd known about this stuff decades ago, I'm so thankful to have now discovered Gabor Maté. Thank you with all my heart ❤
"We can look at depression as a medical disease to get rid of, or we can look at it as a teacher. " I love learning and growing in awareness. And I am so grateful to the people who present these teachers and the experience and knowledge of the teachers themselves. I believe these conversations add so much to the healing of our planet. Namaste'
This talk is a blessing. Gabor Mate, you just mirrored the emotional/psychological/physical story of my life with the most profound insight, clarity and compassion. More than words can tell. Deepest gratitude to Gabor Mate and Tami Simon. 🙏💕
Unhappiness comes from paying too much attention to our story and less attention to our inner being .. nothing outside will fix it but higher power of god within , blessings 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
Yes - all too often we come to believe that "our story" defines us. When, if we can get enough help in order to gain the necessary insight, we would see that "our story" was the manifestation of a life sorely lacking in not only information, but also in any proper and effective tools in the toolbox. Just as you cannot grow a healthy physical body without proper food, nor can you grow a healthy mind and psyche rich in confidence and efficacy without having the necessary "nutrition for the mind", such as being believed in, being taught useful, fundamental and transferable skills, as well as wisdom, and just how to be both a decent human being and to have the knowledge of how to make your way in the world with dignity and with integrity.
Wow! I love Dr Mate and the interviewer is brilliant. Much love💜
Keboetsoe Yes!
DEEP THANKS FOR THIS DEEPLY MINDFUL DIALOGUE. DURING THIS GLOBAL PANDEMIC, ALL OF HUMANITY IS LISTENING FROM ITS HUMANE CORE NOW. THANK YOU BOTH FOR SHARING YOUR UNIQUE TALENTS AND EXPRESSING THE WONDER OF WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A HUMAN BEING. WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER.
Much love to you Dr. Gabor mate
Amazing. Most informative facts I have found about ADHD and depression. And to think I have just stumbled onto this video while cruising youtube!
Christopher Schelberg
As most of us do Christopher.. I’m just so grateful that I stumbled across him a few years ago.. enjoy your journey.. because this is life changing.. xx
Tami Simon and Gabor Mate - What a wonderful combination! Thanks so much for posting!
She expressed my thoughts as heart about Gabor at the end...."I'm so glad you're on the earth"
The last question Tami asks is just beautiful! Thank you Gabor for your honesty.
Integral Dukkha - The first ennobling truth of Buddhism is that “dukkha, (suffering, incapable of satisfying, painful) is an innate characteristic of existence in the realm of samsara”. To spend a lifetime learning this truth to some degree could mean a life well spent. Gabor seems to have learned this to a beautiful degree. He tells us that mental “illness” such as anxiety, depression, and drug addiction are not illnesses. They are not even the problem. They are ways of coping we learned in our early childhood. Dukkha is the problem. The solution, for lack of a better word, may be to directly face our dukkha as emotionally mature adults. It is nice seeing Tami still well, strong, and relevant. I fondly recall many years ago, when the old boys of the integral corporate establishment were spending a huge amount of time and effort trying to cover up for a strongly endorsed wanna be “integral” “leader” who was particularly fond of inflicting great harm upon innocent young girls, it was Tami who was one of the first ones to stand up and show with her decisions and actions that she was not going to go along with this kind of thing. May you be well Gabor and Tami.
I feel like I've been angry all my life. It's painful to be almost permanently angry. You want to let it go, but it won't let you go. I think it can even become addictive and becomes part of one's identity over time.
Self-insight & validation, and then Insights you are having here, and implied good questions. The beginning or someplace along a healing, restorative path....
You're right, one can become addicted to emotions, specially the ones we experience most. Also if you feel like you've been angry all your life it has kind of become part of your identity so changing it will feel like your kind of losing that identity, but this is your ego self ruling and allowing you to stay the same, because the ego self never wants to change. But the good news is that within you there is a supreme / higher self, full of love, joy, peace, acceptance. Discover it. Stay conscious. Good luck my friend.
Hey Jenny , I pray 2020 has not been a year of anger for you and that you got healing, love and sweet people in your life 😊🙏♥️
@@larsstougaard7097 Thanks honey. : )
@@mairaacevedo2681 What a caring response!
Love Gabor Mate' ...I was born January 9 1953... I feel a kinship with him. I'm a mess and have been a work in progress for my lifetime. I have been on a philosophical journey the last ten years. U-tube has been a source of great training.
Tami Simon is an excellent Host with an extremely soothing voice and way about her.
A development problem which began as a coping mechanism. This is such a breakthrough in understanding ADHD and similar disorders. 🙏
Beautiful, allowing our humanness and all our emotions in a healthy way. I loved listening to this.
these are my sentiments, observations and experiences also, nice to hear the reflection. It is pertinent to mention the latest coaching pseudo spiritual messages proliferating from the US right now that are also really idiosyncratic / detrimental - - 'its a choice' - your choice, mental health / depression etc. On one very initial and shallow level perhaps, but that response comes from those who have never been there in the murky depths where the multi-layered programme is running without your consent from ancestors through present living relatives - the hive/group, underlayers of traumatic experience. it is only a decision when a certain amount of healing and conscious awareness has taken effect and is a discipline to choose differently and quickly and then before it occurs and or not at all (takes a specific type of healing to remove the programme altogether albeit very possible). Thank you for a great interview.
Propaganda about choices and pseudo- spiritual coaches is spreading through south-east of.Europe in spite the great number traditional religous families.
Thank you for all the work you have done Dr. Maté and specially for this excellent interview.
I guess we are very much lacking in healthy role models!
When you ask the question 'what does a healthy response look like?' We all sit up and pay attention because it's pretty difficult to form an image of what it looks like. We need as much input as possible to try and form a good image of it.
Exactly, totally right
This man speaks beautiful truth, if the world would listen it would be a much much much better place!!!
Tami asks very insightful questions. I wish they would have delved into the dialectic in the therapy world regarding recovery. Discussion goes both ways - how childhood trauma changes actual brain physiology and how adaptations are often lifelong, creating long-standing relational challenges vs how the brain has properties of elasticity and love cures all. My view is one cannot undo the past and this we manage these issues life long. But I would love Gabor to expound on this in a presentation. He is an amazing thinker and speaker.
Gabor Mate is a profound authority on this subject, which may be one of the most important and urgent issues of our time. You cannot love someone into good health after they have developed a life long pattern of pathological behavior. Both physiological and psychological health are determined by the early environment. The physical and mental health of the mother and father as well as the early environment are determining factors which are crucial for developmental well being. It is very difficult to treat people with congenital diseases because of inherited gene damage from environmental toxins, toxins and mutated genes which have been passed down to them from their parents. It is also nearly impossible to change people with certain psychological pathologies such as Borderline Personality Disorder, Malignant Narcissism or Anti-Social Personality Disorder.
This whole conversation is so needed. Thank you so so much for uploading it. As someone like me who has ADHD, i have been fully concentrate on the message. Thank you so so much again Dr Gabor Mate, you are a beautiful gift for the whole humanity ❤❤
Great interviewer with amazing questions. Love Gabor
Expressing my deep gratitude to Dr. Maté and Tami at Sounds True for this recording.
Thank you, Mr. Gabor. You helped me very much! 🙏🏻
blessed to discover Dr. Gabor, incredible human being who deeply understands the human condition
Great interviewer ! It's rare to be able to hear such profound and deep questioning from a really present interviewer. It is my first time on this channel and I am grateful to both of them. Thank you very much for that great moment of beautiful exchange and sharing.
I love this interviewer; she is excellent at drawing from him extra info/experiences
I can't believe that Gábor mentioned that very book by Anita Moorjani. I was thinking about that book today because they was the last book I read in November 2017. I haven't read a book since than because something is going on behind my eyes that has been preventing me from reading books. I have Gabor's book "When the body sais no" in Hungarian next to my bed since May 2018. I still haven't managed to read it but just to say it is the only book I have in Hungarian (my mother tongue) and it will be the first book I will read when my eyes will be well enough to read books again. Blessings to both of you
Aniko Szitta Blessings for your speedy recovery!
@@melaniel7263 thank you so much. You have a wonderful name. I love the ocean. It means so much to me.🐬
How about getting the audio books? There are free trials I think at Amazon...I how you recuperate your sight very soon.
Incredible life saving and life changing message this wonderful man is spreading.
MAGNIFICENT. But the audio is brutal on speakers. While Mate's voice is barely loud enough, Tami and the bass make me vibrate my anger away.... Brrrrrrrh
That was one of the best talks. Everything he said I have been doing to process and reconnect for many years now. This could really help many people. Thank you🙏
Everytime I listen to Gabor I am deeply moved and inspired in my healing journey. His perspective is naturally affirmed by every essence of my trauma, coping mechanisms and healing journey🌻
His insight is unparalleled! Bravo!
Yeah. What he is saying is true 👍
You are so humble, sharing your personal story. Thank you so very much. Your examples bring an honesty and a way for me /us to see our own pain, and helps myself to accept a bit better my own short comings.
ADHD, I can't spell when stressed, and I'm distracted by sound. I went on to earn three degrees but it's been a journey. "It took a lot more work than I expected," Dr. Gabor Mate thank you for your insights.
GABOR 😮😮😮 words can’t describe my gratitude 🙏🏽 you are the most brilliant, compassionate truth teller elevating this world! THANK YOU for the monumental impact you are having on us. Wow 💜
Tami, I could listen to your voice all night. And I often do. You have the most consoling, gentle, and healing voice.
I’m in love with his mind.
He can create such a palpable explanation for every aspect of a human being’s behaviour.
His work is so important. Thank you for this interview.
Guys is so clear in his insight, truthful and a sheer genius. Thanks so much !
My 17 years, working my Al Anon Program has been instrumental in starting me along my Life Healing Path, to healthy changes, as outlined by Gabor Mate, Grateful for your confirmation (of my thoughts) and your perspective.
This man is amazing
Thank you for being you
Great interview!!!! You did excellent! No one wants to hear someone else just talk when interviewing an expert. You asked all the right questions, and let him answer. Awesome flow and excellent content! Thank you both!
Beautiful expression. Your articulation Gabor Mate is rare and so nice to listen to someone speak like that. Thank You to the skilled wonderful interviewer.
You can always tell when someone genuinely wishes the very best for all others.
He is so much helping me and my children. I am so grateful for his work, love and wisdom. Thank you Gabor Mate!
Thanks Gabor, you have done something like no one here else has....I have always suffered, endured pain and enstranged anguish related to feelings from abandonment. You, Dr Mate’ have delved deep into the physiological aspects that are relative to healing, growing and eventually accepting.
Your voice is easy to listen to matter, as a of fact your voice is also very captivating. There’s a gangster about you 😉 and you remind me of the character/actor Alpacino! I like that, a lot.
Thanks..
Awakening Reflections..
Definitely Changing My own Ego.
My Own Path
Growth..
And The Compassion Which We often Forget Tune Into..
Human Nature & Universal Humanity Matters..
Simplicity In Pattern.
Even The Pittfalls..
I Am Trying To Cultivate Educating Myself in Matters We Are Facing Globally.
Effecting All Of Us in Different Ways..
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Present situation living
&
Past situation living
Emotion responsibility means...
...interacting fearlessly in the present situation
,
...staying emotionally stable (i.e. not getting agitated, etc. with someone's conduct),
...& not speaking to someone ...in the present ...under the influence of past traumatic situations.
Thank you, Dr. Mate & Tami : )
Luv listening to this man. So much insight and wisdom. Thank u for sharing I hope we can all step forward and help make the world a better place
I have searched for an answer to a question for years. I found it listening to you. Thank you.
Thank you very much for sharing and
all the best to you!!
You are such a wonderful teacher! I have no words to express my gratitude for you and your teachings! With deepest gratitude and appreciation! 🌺🙏🏻💕
I need to meet up with people with BPD, depression & anxiety.. I can see I’m not alone, lots of people like me
I have diagnosed m.d.d. and PTSD. We are broken pieces to a greater whole. Hold on.
There are so many people that struggle with those conditions. I've had anxiety and depression, too, and all my hard work on myself has paid off. It still arises, but it doesn't stay long anymore. You're not alone and know that if you keep working at it, you'll find your way through to your True Self.
Call me if you'd like to talk about BPD. I HAVE IT
No...you are not alone...l am73 now and my mother has been dead for more than 7yrs but at times, l still get caught in the loop of why she ( felt like) abandoned me even though l know she left me in a safer place and environment than she had grown up in and had a place to take me...
Simply wonderful!!
Love this guy and his message! ❤
My mom and I love Gabor, he’s fantastic
And Tami, you are SUCH an excellent interviewer! You ask just the right questions, and you always let people speak. You’re very calming to listen to as well ❤️
What a excellent conversation between calm adults that was easy to listen to and absorb.
Yes, and gives Cancer, my mother had four brain tumors and lung cancer, she died in 1996 my stepmother Betty Lu had Lung Cancer, she died in 1997 My uncle had bone cancer for 20 yrs he died in 1990 my step mother Judy has had breast Cancer, my dad died of Bowel Cancer, in 2017 After watching that generation die of so much Cancer, if you decided to put the anger in the body yes, that can happen. Seen Cancer in my family since 1968. I met Dr. Mate when he was writing his books. They were all avid readers and is a shame they didn't meet you Dr. Mate.
I’ve listened to many conversations with Gabor. This was the best yet. Both of you are brilliant. Thank you. 🙏🏽
G-d bless Dr. Gabor Mate.
I like the voice of the woman, not only the voice but the way of how she talks, and the questions she asks.
Anger in the present is healthy boundary. But don’t stew.
Don’t take things personally.
maplegingko I always take things personally
Find him to be authentic & humble😊😊👌
I agree. Authentic, humble...and transparent.
Yes I wish I had a mate like him 😁🙏