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If you're a "thinker", you're always going to be alone, even in a crowded room.
You have a point.
I feel this regularly.
I relate to this a lot
I wish I had friends like you guys
@@elvisdaru Ditto
"Whosoever enjoys solitude is either a wild beast or a god". Aristotle
I have so enjoyed the pandemic as I have found my alone time again and don't want to go back
@Mr305Maxxx Better be alone, and alone than to have company of others and still feel alone.
@Joe Billielo well said sir
or both
That's Aristotle mate
Are you married? : No
Kids? : No
Girlfriend? Not at the moment
Weird silence
...weird silence... [thought bubble] - Must be gay.
That's been my answer for 20 years now
This will become increasingly common was more young men wake up.
One guy I worked with asked me that round of questions, to which I replied ‘no.’ My last day there he told me that he thought I was a serial killer at first.
Genesis Von Keglar Did you tell him you also had a deep freezer and do no care for tedious questioning?
The sooner men realize, “the Calvary ain’t coming,” the better off we’ll be.
Perfectly phrased. It seems like there is no desired cavalry on so many fronts: The political, organized religion, relationshits (thank you, Stardusk)...nothing for anyone....
When you have friends becomes you had friends. People are too busy. You're responsible for you. After that, you have to shrug off the leaches that took advantage of you.
@Ams Consider yourself lucky
Spot on. If life was 20% harder we would be better humans.
I refer to it as “operating with out a safety net”
@ 2:53-3:00 "The term, "Be a man" is akin to 'grow up', and that's why we notice women are never told to 'be a woman' they don't have to 'grow up'..."
Well said!
Thanks for the highlight
I have always wondered why I had never heard "woman up" or "be a real woman" I had never considered it to be the simple fact that women don't have to grow up.
I would recommend The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle as it may help people through these hard times. Its also about looking inward.
Is the term 'be a man' really about growing up, or could it be more like 'be a utility'? Also, It might be wrong to juxtapose men and women in this regard, since the gender roles have traditionally been (and the cultural legacy still is) quite different.
I literally blurted out a laugh when I heard this line.
The only person who will ever take care of yourself is yourself.
There's nothing wrong with caring for others - but aside from family, etc - if you forget your own needs as a man, others don't care that much about you. The instinct is that "he's a man, he can take care of himself. He's not on my radar"... not so with women and children.
Yes, the pagan gods (from the forces of nature) are all man-made. But God revealed Himself to Abraham. Abraham wasn't looking for a crutch, but for the truth and is why he smashed his father's idols.
Get super sick and watched my spouse leave me! Autoimmune had me barely walking up steps! Getting sick showed me how sick people can be! I vowed to rise up! You realize so much when you are down on your luck! Vultures everyone for men and women! Stay woke!
Learned it the hard way, Phil?
When a man is alone....he is seen as a loser. Like there's something "wrong" with him.
When a woman is alone.....she's a strong, independent, empowered woman.
(Btw, I have never, in my entire life, met a woman under the age of 40 who was alone. She always has a boyfriend/husband/roommate/relative she lives with).
chewface So true. Speak on it, speak and write about it. Save men’s lives. The narrative must be changed, and the darkness in Women must be exposed....freely and openly.
Wrong. See the statistics on the percentage of single people. There are many (statistics).
Women hate alone time. She's with her thoughts......and for a woman, that's
invitation for her naturally negative mindset to take over. That's why women are
flock creatures and conformists, they need a community. Community dogma
keeps her from thinking her own thoughts or forming her own opinions, and that's
just fine with her.
@@burgcarli929 Such people aren't even real people, in my opinion. That's some creepy hivemind crap. Robotic empty soul.
@@chewface I'm not sure I understand your reply. What I described above comes
from many years of observing and interacting with women. I'm in my early forties,
I've dated hundreds of women, been married. What I described, is women to
a tee. If you're not aware that this behavior is part of a woman's nature, you will
in time. The only time a woman spends time alone with herself, is when her friends
are busy or she's not in a relationship. Very few women choose to spend a night
alone. Why is that.......they are given to negativity and anxiety. FACT.
Exactly. I looked outward being married with 2 kids for so long I forgot what inward was. I sacrificed myself for 17 years. Then one day I caught my wife cheating on me about the time the kids were out of the home. All of the sudden after divorce and empty nester, I was alone. It's been 2 years. I am now free.
How do you deal with loneliness
@@tree3946 Dont get me wrong. It was hard at first but time has been a healer and guys like huMAN have been tremendously helpful not to mention others. I called up old buddies and went out, started back on hobbies, and worked on myself. I chose one day after a year to walk down to a pond a half mile away and threw my wedding ring in and wept for an hour to just "burn the baggage" and "let go". Forget the women. They start buzzing around when they see a guy that loves themselves and pursues goals. I promise it gets easier. Never think you "must" have a woman at your side. She is and will always be an accessory to your life that comes at a price.
Loneliness only exists in the mind of the beholder!
Good luck with that. Time a great healer. Same , I'm 10 years down the line , spiritually awoken, egoless, totally different person now, happier nicer and boundaries galore now no one fucks with me. Good luck and a good things coming your way.👍🏅🏆
22 and 18 respectively for me.
The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.
Albert Camus
Morpheus said it BEST when he told Neo to "FREE YOUR MIND!"
The rebel by Camus great book tho
The “be a woman” argument was very spot on.
I paused when I heard it.
Great. just great.
Thomas Florio I would love to see you tell a woman to be a lady when she is throwing a tantrum, It would be hilarious my friend lol!
Liberation comes when you have that Eureka moment and realise that being cast away from women, marriage and relationships isn't a disaster, it means you are completely and unfathomably free. This week alone I have been surfing on 4 different evenings in colossal waves, sailed my yacht 10 miles out to sea and rescued someone in need as a coastguard. As a man over 40 you have endless passions, hobbies and pursuits to see you through your whole life. That's all you need.
Which coast guard do you work for?
I do work for the same department in India.
"The only adventure that is still worthwhile for modern man lies in the inner realm of the unconscious psyche.“
- C. G. Jung
Modern man in search of a soul, one of the best books I have ever read. Brilliant.
Foreal. I have done so much inner work and I keep thinking why would I care for the external world?
“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom, for it is when he is alone that he is really free” Schopenhauer
True freedom is found within and not externally. Alone I can go within and be truly free
Good old Schope is a treasure!
Folks like to quote Nietzsche, and IMHO he is a treasure but still couldn't carry Schope's jock!
Thanks for sharing the words of this criminally ignored thinker.
Men are taught from birth to be a plantation worker with no excuses....I've learn to like the shaming. Tells me I'm going the correct direction
if you need something other than what's inside of you, you will always be in lack till you find what's inside you want. That is know thy self first
I have never had many long term relationships with women. I have been mostly solo in the dating aspect. And I noticed that when I'm alone, I enjoy it but would like to have a grilfriend, someone who supports me and can be there for me. Problem is, when I actually get one it literaly feels like my whole freedom is taken away and is directed twords them and only them. Which makes mo want to go back and be single again.
@@henriquebilbao1851 Gotta learn how to relieve those chemicals that create the so called desire of need for a woman....
I've spent almost all my life trying to make a woman happy failing abysmally. I'm done so now it's my turn.
hey, how are you doing now?
How about now?
Richard Blazek your turn to become an incel?
" No one can construct for you the bridge upon which precisely you must cross the stream of life, no one but yourself''.
- Friedrich Nietzsche
@Tyler Hawkins, good to see others who study the philosophy of the past. Have you studied or practiced stoicism?.
_Commitments are more dangerous to the truth than lies._ - FN
Mind blown bruh.
@@keithhawkins7907 i'm currently studying it
Love your work with The Foo Fighters
Human. This is probably the most visceral video you've made. This hit home.
"Mens sense of feeling alone comes from the fact that there's nothing beyond us. Women can lean on us, but Men don't lean on anything else."
S B26 Visually and philosophically stunning. This vid was the bomb!
Agreed, one of my favorites for sure
That's an excellent point. The best quote from the video
Men are meant to lean on Christ. The head of Christ is God. The head of man is Christ. The head of woman is man. If a man doesn’t get that like this guy doesn’t then he will never be able to find a right woman and hAve a good life with her..so that is his fault not the woman’s.
@@lionofgod5843 isn't it funny that Christ & God don't have wives🤔
Men are used to giving more than they receive. At work, employees have to give more than they receive or the company goes broke. With marriage men had to give wives more than they received so there was excess to give to children. Now that wives refuse to allow men to remain fathers, some men are saying "No Thank You" to the opportunity to be used by women.
Very true.
@Brandon Morris not true - respectfully
This guy is the Australian version of the Thinking Man's Templar. Keep it up, down under mate!
Hans Descollines really? TMT is my dude and I just came upon this channel. I’m going to watch a bunch of his videos now
My wish is that young men in masses would hear these kind of messages. The philosophy literally has to potential to save lives. Thank you huMAN.
Lucky Rockmore Totally agree. Speak on it. Not about hate, it’s about truth. The playing field we are on is beyond unfair, it is punishing.
@@davidbolen8982 buried a friend's son today. 24 years old but seen him grow up so I still saw him as a child. I can't but help that if him or guys like him would be bothered to learn about the truths of our world and our existence and listen to thought provoking content the likes of which found here on this channel as oppose to be being distracted by the literal endless distractions he might be still alive.
@@luckyrockmore2796 I am 18 yrs old and been reading about such similar topics from 16 year age first due to bullying , introverted nature but now it's kind a became a food for my curiosity . I personally like these kind of psychosocial talks. I wanted to know true human nature and it's also a reason why i am interested in these type of things. But as result i find many times myself alone when introspect about these almost crying once every week , hopefully a day will come when i will be able to accept this.
The Truth shall set you Free.
I am 26 year old and from past 6 7 years I have always done the "Right" things that I was told by society and by my friends to do but I never connected with 90% of people around me and it's such a relief to be around the other 10% it's like what would have happened if there was no internet I would have lived a miserable life thinking this is what you are supposed to do in life. It's scary to think about it. Thank you huMAN and people like you to be around.
If you don’t want to be alone you’re lonely, if you want to be alone it’s solitude.
Well put.
Very good
Philosophy is the food of thought. Life without philosophical principles is a ship without a rudder.
@ W S, so true mate, was that Socrates?
'thought' is the biggest problem. to be alive is to be without thoughts
@@keithhawkins7907 Thats my own
Yes. The more I go in my life the more I realize that I am alone and I must take care of myself, because, besides my immediate family, there won't be anyone out there for me. Please continue to make these videos, huMAN. There isn't any other older MGTOW channel out there I can relate.
I’ve come across this video and although I have a family now both one of my own and a good relationship with my parents, good job...etc. I did lose it all to a severe illness years ago, lost my house, my job and the girl I was with left...all in the same month of my diagnosis. When I found myself with nothing all I had left was me and more often than not I found myself in hospitals awake for days upon days alone with no one visiting and a body that wouldn’t move, everything was gone but my mind and my consciousness, let’s just say it was an extreme way of spending time alone. I then realised that my whole life was a lie in terms of love and career and in the end it’s just a bunch of people leaning on you and sharing your plate of food. However, with that same realisation I found peace within myself because for the first time ever I was no longer wanted or needed, despite the fact that it was because I had nothing to offer to anyone, I still enjoyed the peace. I only had myself to save myself, get through the hard days and physical pain, keep myself company, I survived my illness years later and now I rebuilt it again but this time around, I have a great relationship with myself...I am my own best friend. Thank you for this video, I truly appreciate it.
As a man much older than many watching this video, I can tell you this is spot on, even if you lived through the previous generations.
I was conditioned to serve. The world of the 40s and 50s was permeated with the “duty” of men. I was conditioned by the world of those years. And I served. Man how I served. My life was so very much focused outward. And now, all the kids are grown and gone. (Ever hear the song “cat’s in the cradle”?) The wife is completely turned to her own interests. And I don’t know how to be me. All I can do is find ways to help others. Or sit alone and wonder who I am.
Sometimes it makes me wish I could still cry.
I hope the two of you have some common interests. Certainly she's helping you avoid prostate cancer; according to a Harvard study, two Os a week will lower your chances by a third. She's helping, right? If not, does that mean she wants you to contract prostate cancer? I don't know, just asking.
TAR ICO, do you live in a country where the women still give a feces about men? The only concern I see left in western women is how “their” man can provide for their needs and wants. Even many of the women of my generation. You see, the women of my generation were the ones that decided equality wasn’t enough.
No, I can only hope that whatever brings my end will bring it abruptly so I don’t have to long ponder my lost life of service to the ungrateful.
@@thinkingoutloud6741 I live in these United States. I haven't dated in eight years. Yes, I too want to die in my sleep, or so quickly I don't know what went wrong. So are you trying to get involved with your kids more, but they're rejecting you? Grandkids?
Check out GirlWritesWhat vids; she's aka Karen Straughan. Not her recent stuff, see her "in the kitchen" vids from 2012 and '13. Spetsnaz's older vids are also highly recommend. BarBar or Barbarossa put out some awesome stuff a few years ago, too. Too bad we couldn't have enjoyed their vids when we were in our teens. I didn't take the red pill till about age 50.
ThinkingOutLoud Thank you my brother. Well said.
I find the same thing as I get older. When I was younger it was easier to cry. Now it is so hard to shed a tear. I never realized why. Maybe the hard knocks of life.
This is an excellent counterargument to Jordan Peterson's claptrap about men only finding meaning through marriage and children.
Peterson also speaks about purpose as fundamental for man and once talked about how marriage may have an advantage when you clock 50yrs or something like that.
Jordan blue pill peterson
I'm now 70, retired, and always single. The reward of solitude is FREEDOM, both physically and mentally, and your bank account. I enjoy other people in small doses, the prospect of the tyranny of a partner killed any thoughts of marriage.
That is exactly how i feel. I have been living alone for 20 years, although in a couple relationships. And i am ok. I was always expected to be grown up and be self sufficient. I have looked inward. Which is why i appreciate a man and a relationship. And am so grateful to be able to support a man and also myself. It is a gift to have a man in your life.
Fantastic work, Human.
In the end, a man is always alone. I guess, it's one of the last steps to fully become red pilled. To free yourself as a man.
I prefer being alone. “I love humanity, it’s people I can’t stand.”
N. Brandon, Psychologist, in his book, "Taking Responsibility," discusses the importance of men coming to terms with the fact that "Nobody's Coming," that we're pretty much on our own. Over decades I've had girlfriends and even my Sisters lament over my living a lifestyle well below my means... "You need a better car," "bigger place," "newer washer and dryer," "your towels don't match," and on and on...Eventually, last year, one of my Sisters asked, "you've obviously been saving your money, what are you going to do with it?" I just looked at her, smiled and said, "I'm retiring this August." The dumbfounded look on her face was priceless.
IMHO happiness and contentment--even in retirement--is not derived from fun toys and expensive, exciting activities, but rather on a man's ability to turn inward and discover healthy activities that give HIM meaning and purpose. Viktor frankl, in his book, "Man's Search For Meaning" states how the survivors of the WWII death camps shared one thing in common...their ability to derive meaning through suffering. The consideration of the level of deep, introspective courage that must have taken boggles one's mind.
John Carlson Nicely said, my man, nice. I’d give two thumbs up, but just allows one.
I used to think that philosophy was useless. But then I lost the ability to be happy and I had to reach deep to find out why. I had to think about life and I found what truly makes me happy. If I had given philosophy a chance when I was younger, I'd be a much much happier man today. Instead, I let society and religion choose my life for me.
Philosophy is essential for development of your "internal timber" . Without it, you are just another fool.
If only every man and boy could read this comment and take it to heart.
When we let go and stop trying to control/change the outward, we gain the one thing we can honestly control, ourselves.
even then you will be caught up with the dire need to 'control'. And when you understand the absurdity of all of this you will just LET GO. Then you are ALIVE.
lord offools it’s similar to unplugging from the Matrix, huMAN nailed the point that it’s a “continual process” where “we cannot unplug once and become Yoda”. The same concept applies here.
@@aplexity77 The faster the 'continual process' comes to an abrupt ending the better.
The 'unknown' can't be understood within the field of thoughts. The mind has a limit. The limit of the 'known'. The moment the mind captures something it becomes the known. To feel or understand or realize, whatever word you use, the unknown you will have to step out of the mind. As long as mind is there you are in a desperate need to control. LET GO. It can happen now, this very moment. The real question is, are you ready to let go?
lord offools I largely agree with this. The problem occurs when you have a situation that conflicts with two or more of your core values where a choice has to be made and you can’t let go yet, but you nailed the question that ultimately has to be asked.
Right we can control ourselves only if we don't want to control others
I have been alone my whole life. I'm 40 now, I have no family and I have never been in a relationship before. After seeing female nature I see no reason what so ever to get with a woman
Having a kid. That's the only thing I can think of. My son is by far the most interesting thing I've ever seen and experienced. Knowing he needs me helps motivate me and keeps away the self destructive thoughts that tend to come with loneliness. Watching him develop from a fetus, to a pale helpless baby and now a funny little toddler was the ultimate key in understanding how life works and why it matters that you try as hard as you can no matter what. Sadly children can be used to make your life a living hell in the west so don't blame anyone who doesn't want kids. Society ruined nature's blueprint.
Big D why don‘t u become a priest then? It‘s already been 40 years, it‘s not going to get better with women. Btw it was your attitude the whole time.
@@josephmueller3752 priest? Why would I want to become that when I don't believe in God anymore? So being nice to people was my fault this whole time?
@@Wolfman7870 I have very mixed feelings about children. While they may be a motivation, wouldn't it be less selfish to adopt a child or a pet? Why does it have to be "your" child. Thousands who are begging for love that are already alive.
Same here, 39 in a few months. You are not the only one!
I absolutely live for winter. The sting of the cold air in my lungs invigorates me. Without the oppressiveness of the sun blinding me, I am free to contemplate. I tend not to be compatible with those who love warmer climates. There is generally a huge personality difference. It’s usually women who love warm weather.
That is so true.
wow just wow
boths weathers are nice.
in summer you can just walk around in your underwear... which is nice.
The only issue is carrying....
in the winter it's nice to wear a winter coat, contemplate and conceal carry.
running is also a lot more pleasant than summer, as the air is extremely moisty so you don't need to be afraid of getting a dry mouth or throat....
Not dealing with bugs and sweating to a point of concern is nice. Sometimes, a severely white washed setting with a sharp intake of cold crisp air is refreshing.
Right on.
If both more men and women took this advice -- to face solitude, face themselves, and face their failures and strengths -- I think we would be much less likely to repeat these patterns of wearing each other down in toxic relationships.
Very thought-provoking video as always, I am somewhat bingeing your content currently!
We remember Candidate Mayo's line from An Officer and a Gentleman: "You're all alone in the world. Once you got that down nothing hurts anymore."
After being 7 years in a toxic relationship and a few months on my own I realised I was alone all along - even during those 7 years. The thing is that I didn't notice it from all the distraction and noise a relationship brings. Now I enjoy the solitude so much that I think I'm permanently done with the relationships :)
"When no one is coming to save you, you need to save yourself." - huMAN
Indeed, that is the wake-up moment. I think it all starts from there. I know for me, when I realized that at 21 years old, at the lowest point in my life up to that point, that is where I built the foundation for everything I am today.
I was married to an angry woman for 33 years, had three outstanding children who are feeding themselves at the moment. I had 28 years with a great employer with a good 401K program and a great retirement bonus. Ine thing my wife allowed me was to aggressively save for retirement. The kids were gone when I turned 60 and a Strange annual review told me it was time to get out. I had been back into motorcycle camping and I was still very fit so I took that step.
Wife died of cancer at 60 after a running battle of half her life so I sold the house, my old car and all the household goods. My kids all live West of the Mississippi so I took my motorcycle, pickup and moved to Far East Tennessee where the whole Eastern seaboard is available. I can read, ride and walk to my heart’s content.
I’m now 73 yrs young and life alone is exactly what I dreamed it could be. I will never share a thermostat or a tv controller with another woman. Life is good alone.
I watched the movie 1917 the other night. It made me sad more than anything - seeing how the men were called to something larger than themselves. But also seeing how the women were servants to that call in a man's life & how compassionate & nurturing they were toward men every step of the way.
It sunk in how far society has warped itself. (even though 1917 is a movie).
i'm sure it wasn't some cultural utopia back then by any means (far from it), but there's always more regression that can take place as life goes on & by gosh what a regression we have.
Couldn't agree more huMAN. I've thought a lot about this lately and I really appreciate this discussion. Thank you
I listen to you and your words have really touched home. 13/6/2013 I was employed as a pneumatic tanker operator in NZ . A role I worked my way up to perhaps because there weren't many on the road. And at 40 I'd been trucking for 22 years. And on the aforementioned day I sustained a traumatic brain injury. Full thickness left temporal and frontal lobe. I was not the same person. I lost my job and my role as a volunteer fire-fighter. I was not allowed to retrain. This was stopped by over educated idiots reading some shit in a book. I lost my family and my friends. Some of these folk were people I went into structure fires etc with. So yes they were very trusted. Everyone took advantage and ridiculed me for mistakes while my brain was finding its way. Still do. Shit heads. Anyway it was during these times I was at my strongest. The time when I was the most alone but the most together. You learn the true meaning of the words 'friends' and 'family'. For me anyway. I've an actual friend whose wife left after 26 years. He couldn't even use a slow cooker. He freaked. 6 months later he's his own man. Doesn't need anyone. Cooks me a feed now. I believe the time alone is the best thing for anyone. Cos you really only have yourself.
I love my solitude in the MOUNTAINS...with Mother Nature and with the Universe that our God has created for us. I feel connected. Too many people make me uncomfortable now.... I have a difficult time trusting the hearts of man. I follow my spiritual path. Besides, life begins INSIDE each of us. Get that right, and we get the family right, our communities right, our nation right. Simple.
@huMAN the moment I really knew I was alone was when my Dad died 3 years ago.
I also realised that women and the would (including work) are really only as interested in men when we have value to add. Now that level does vary but mostly it rings true.
Great video
I love a gray sky. Plenty of those in winter.
I’m always on my own: hiking, restaurants and even movie theatres in the past. I’m totally okay with it and never felt embarrassed.
Me too..Im good by myself.
I remember the first time it hit me that, when it comes to the vast majority of women I have known, it's a case of 'out of sight out of mind' and that ultimately, I am completely unimportant. All that effort I put in over the years to be the 'good' guy, a good listener, compassionate, helpful, etc etc... once you're not doing it anymore, it's like you don't exist. And what's even worse is that, nowadays, nobody has any real obstacle preventing them from contacting you instantly, because in a split second touch of a button you have access to a network, several different social media platforms, internet calls etc, where people could contact you unimpeded, 'if they wished'. And that's the point 'if they wished' they would do.
The realization of this was shocking and hurtful. But with time I viewed the upside of this. You are free to be whoever you wish to be without the pressure to be something someone else wants you to be. Really, I had always been chasing validation, and once I figured that, at best, it is only temporary, I largely abandoned the pursuit of it, especially through women, and eventually through friendships; I still enjoy a few friendships, but no longer need friends to be caretakers. Life feels much better now, and I no longer obsess about why such and such hasn't contacted me for a long time or why such and such only responds to me with a short shallow message that seems to reflect a lack of desire for deeper conversation.
A really powerful message. I have always taken care of myself, and I have never feared being alone. I have many strong friendships, and family relationships, and I need and value them, but I still relish my time alone. As people care less and less about religion and philosophy, you can see the voids in our character.
I think this is what the young ones refer to as being "based and red pilled".
He mostly looks depressed and bluepilled. Bluepilled because with his woe-is-me attitude he expects to get noticed from women
Wow ... your talk hit home big time . As you said ; we have to rely on ourselves . I have said long before seeing your video , that ; " I only rely on myself " . My former partner used to nag at me about this posibility or that going wrong & I always said ; " I guess I will have to figure it out if it happens ." I have to figure out a solution ... not whine , belly ache or blame someone else but figure out a solution on my own . That doesn't mean not listening to or taking any suggestions ; it just means making the decisions on my own & accepting the consequences of my actions . Another awesome video . Thx again
'When you realise that women and the world will never be interested in you back you feel more alone than ever'. This is a powerful truth that sent shock waves to my soul when I woke up to this 'Red Pill truth'. A sad reality that send me on my journey of accepting solitude and appreciating the small joys in life such as relationships with one daughter, few friendships, nature, my health, my dog, and relative freedom.
This describes my own red pill journey, into a more solitary life, almost perfectly. Thanks, huMAN.
as a 18 year old i have been starting to accept this red pill
It's challenging to deal with the fact that there really isn't anyone in your life that truly cares. People only "care" when they have a vested interest or when caring is convenient. Once you see it, you can't un-see it. However, it's incredibly freeing once you get on the other side of it. When you put your attention on yourself, you can accomplish a lot in a relatively short period of time.
Hopefully i would also be able to accept this reality soon, this realisation really hurts me because i am young and i cannot run from it.
Become nobody and "you" will not only be blissfuly alone but you'll also be with everything and everybody all together in One.
I'm not alone, I have my 2 puppies that make this struggle of life worth it.
A well-spoken and engaging message. I enjoy your work. What you said about intelligence is true. I pay very close attention to intelligence. Always doing something to sharpen my mind, my thinking. Being the lone wolf that I am I have the time to do that which is one benefit of being a man going his own way. Cheers from California!
When there's no one coming to save you, you better save yourself
I really love watching HuMAN, he really makes me think about things and it makes me think about what I want and need in my life.
Well said, I've always looked inward and been in my own world. It wasn't until I got into a relationship to then understand the pressure of what many men go through in regards to focusing on building someone else up and supporting someone else. I've always depended on myself, for emotional and financial support for the most part. Seeing everyone as a human being as well as women wanting equality, I almost assumed they should do the same but I see a lot of them do not prepare for that because they don't have any pressure to depend on themself (women). When you're alone and you accept being alone, being friends with yourself.. it truly is the most liberating experience from my experience because you learn to trust yourself and it almost feels you need no more than that it's a great sense of security. While many others are trying to trust others to do what they should do for themself, which is a great sense of insecurity. I've for the most part have always been under the mindset of if everyone worried about themself first the world would be a better place, there would be no-one to blame but yourself.. less dependency issues, less disappointment, more self reflection/growth, less resentment, and once one properly fills up their own glass they can then truly and more efficiently help others.
I firmly believe that stoicism is the trait of man, to look outwards and into the uncertain and tackle it. You are 100% right that women can lean on us for support, but they will look to you to steer the ship or to forecast their future for them. Stoicism works well when you are met with challenge, as it keeps your feet firmly planted against the toughest of winds. But when the wind stops, then we realise just how purposeless our life can feel. It is the inherent fault of man, but hopefully as we move closer towards a society that allows men to become more introspective and emotionally available, we will inevitably be able to steer our ship into the winds stronger than we have ever done before.
@ Kyle Griffin, very well said sir. We need more perceptive and intellectual people to pass on knowledge to the younger generation.
Useful would be a heavy understatement in my case.
You just helped me to grow as a Human in under 6 minutes, thank you for that huMAN!
Be well & may Fortune favor you!
Brilliant. Nearing the completion of orbit number 50 for me, and what huMAN says here is the reality of every man's life explained in just a few minutes.
Anytime someone comes into my life problems are sure to arise. People always expect sh$t from you. They expect you to be a certain way, they always want something. They want you to go to this place and be there at this time, they want you to lend them this, they want you to be like that, etc. People just make you miserable with their expectations of you. They just want, want, want your energy.
Here’s the kicker, you can’t survive without people. So, guess I’ll just die miserable.
The momentum will shift one day where any kind man is valued. Unfortunately I will be dead by then.
Freedom is a free fall into yourself. If there is nothing there you will fall right thru and land where you began. RS 2020
BRILLIANT!
This verrry thought process has become exceedingly obvious since my Wife’s passing 2 yrs 4 months ago...
I’ve come realized just how ‘alone’ I truly am...
All Our children are adults w/Families, Professions & thankfully doing well & though I have plenty of ‘stuff’ - that’s ALL I have...
Ur vids have opened my eyes in many ways & to subjects/matters I’ve rarely if ever realized much less contemplated...
I’m appreciative for all Ur efforts & Wish U a Happy & Prosperous New Year... Mac😎👍
Thank you for describing Self Talk as being to Live by "The Four Agreements", I have realized to speak to myself kinder, and more edifying; I'm not stupid so don't call myself that, EVER! The Power in Speaking into ourselves of what we want; not blabbing it out to everyone else lest you talk about it instead of be about it.
On the same page of the journey my brother.
Epic. This one will be watched for generations.
Quite the refresher. Thank you. Great video. I always go to the last quote in Emerson's "Self-Reliance" essay whenever I feel down. The part where he says, "... don't believe it..." has taught me the meaning behind relying on one's own spirit/fire. 🔥
Thanks for the video huMAN. Many people seek all sorts of distractions just to not be alone these days. To avoid that sort of thinking, avoid looking inward and asking themselves uncomfortable questions that might bring uncomfortable answers. Always hyped, always on the move, always somewhere else.
We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.
Orson Welles
“When there’s no one coming to save you, you have to save yourself.” Bingo
Straight to the point and no fluff. Highly appreciated.
Thank you. I needed to hear this especially now.
Ayn Rand, “Love is a response to values. . . . ... In The Virtue of Selfishness, she writes that, “To love is to value. Only a rationally selfish man, a man of self-esteem, is capable of love - because he is the only man capable of holding firm, consistent, uncompromising, unbetrayed values.
Philosophy is Greek for Love of Knowledge.
the love of knowledge will lead you to the point where you question the absurdity of all your knowledge. that's when my friend you will really start living
Great production again 👍, haven’t seen any of your videos pop up in my feed for ages for some reason but I now have a right seam to mine now thanks Human 👌👍
Great quality content. Thank you for your insights. This video was just fantastic. I also wanted to say I enjoy the lighting and sound in your videos. You make it with a lot of care and it shows.
That's exactly where i am in my life right now, i've lost two of my closest friends, i had a very bad depression for 3 months until i started to figure it out, now i'm working on myself pretty much all the time. The realisation of being alone is very bad thing to go thru in depressed state, but it gets liberating when you start doing good, that's when i think you realise you dont need anything else besides yourself... the main thing i still strugle with is making sense of all of the mess we call life... it's a very bad video game, a very short one and your decisions can make it even shorter and at the end it doesnt even matter, homeless guy or a rich guy... I dont know, just me blabing, i had a lot of deaths of people close to me during past 2 years, so i'm well aware of death, shorteness of life and the things i can change and the ones i cant, so all in all i'm trying to get out of a very dark place, solitude plus depression... Sorry if this is off-topic, every now and then i need to put something out there.
It is not off topic; It is THE topic, and you, my friend, are not struggling alone. It's important that we use the insights and the help that people like human provide us (we help them as well). We are in the same boat. keep it strong, and take it easy...
@RichBlackburnMusic thank you, i'll do that
"Women can lean on us but we ( men ) dont really lean on anything else"..
I needed this, thanks, indeed a great talk about the good of acknowledging loneliness
Quality content and video! The fact that the world tells men "To be a MAN" and "MAN UP" while nobody tells women to "Be a WOMAN" or "Woman up" pretty much tells a lot about how men and women are viewed on our societies, and what is acceptable to say. It also tells us, albeit at a much more subtle level; That men "need to man up" so that they can take care of all the hard, dirty and sometimes dangerous matters that needs to get done. Because most of the sometimes brutal hardships and burdens (save for giving birth to children, which to be fair is a ordeal out of this world!) do actually rest on the shoulders of men, even after decades and decades of female empowerment and feminism. This is actually such a huge subject that needs more attention.
The most painful loneliness is you missing yourself....
This is one of your best videos Human.
I think you touched on a big aspect of our society which tells men women are the same as them. They demand equal treatment and it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking men and women think the same.
Before third wave feminism men and women were men and women. The feminists hadn't yet been able to blur the lines (and why should they, as doing so only makes women more unhappy). But the point is that men such as myself were led to believe that women could and did love like men do. When that wool is pulled from our eyes, it leads to that sense of loneliness that you describe (or at least that's what I associated it with when I was listening to your thoughts).
Eric B Yep. Has a LOT to do with movies, and most culture media professionals are women. They control the narrative. Any generation before our Grandfathers would have spit at all this nonsense. Read Schopenhauer on women. One of the last men to be straight and honest. I grew up the same way, believing they were equal in every way.....no, actually, i grew up thinking the white male was the scourge of the earth.
What a wonderful channel. It’s refreshing to see this community exist. Beautiful.
When you can start a discussion in your head, you are not alone. And you never will be. There's always a physically you, and a mentally you. In times when you are 'alone', you can balance these two. Inner peace is the end effect
P (physical balance) + M (mentally balance) = I (inner peace)
an old saw "everyone cries on my shoulder and leans on me.. when i have to cry its its one me" #100%trustory
When a Woman feels Loneliness, a Man feels SOLITUDE. Enjoy the time you spend alone, at least you're not wasting it on a Woman.
You have such great interesting angles on "common" topics.
I am thankful that you brought us so many insightful topics 🤝🏻
I think something that should be added, is that if a man feels lonely and sad, they may think they're somehow doing it wrong. Even the most ardent Zen monks got lonely and sad from time to time. If it was easy to be alone, then we probably would've already gone extinct. I still get lonely and sad even after being alone since moving out of my parents' home, which was about 20 years ago. I neither reject nor embrace it, and it always passes me by eventually. It was much harder at the beginning but has become a mild annoyance these days.
I agree... I have the odd down/flat day too, but I'm talking of the guy whose PERPETUALLY down, bitter & regretful, and is not at peace.
One of your top 5 videos, easily. Thank you.
Glad you liked it :)
This is an amazing post. Thank you.
So true, It's why many Men have 'serious' hobbies, were it is not so common with women. Sane Men must always keep busy, even in retirement - its in our DNA.
Everything comes to an end, eventually. For those who denies the truth, when reality hits them in the face, the truth becomes unbearable. This is why its important to make friends with reality. Our goals and plans aren't guaranteed despite our work ethic, life is what happens while we are planning and hoping for the best. Many folks don't realize that they make it harder for themselves, with all unnecessary possessions, unrealistic expectations and impressing people that they don't even like, seems like a total waste of time.
If I wouldn't chase the dream, I would not marry my ex. Instead I would choose a complete person, who isn't chasing an "American dream" because he knows that life isn't a fairy tale.
We have such a short time, why waste it on unnecessary stress and drama.
Time is the only thing we cant get more of.
Well said. With experience comes wisdom and now that you know where you want to go you have a far better chance of getting there.
@@lifesabeach5405 That's a lie. Money is freedom. That's the truth.
@Patrick Silva That's true. That's Why you need to earn your freedom and figth against the ones who want to take it away from you.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it crazy how I thought I was the only one going thru this but you are right once you figure out the no one is coming to save you or make your life better you feel a big weight off your shoulders .
Thanks for this video!
I am God's lonely man.
@Charles voy, change the word lonely to solitude. Saying your lonely will make you feel depressed, instead enjoy being in solitude, you can have a great time on your own.😊.
We are all alone in the end, don't stress it too much, bud.
There are many of us. It is a shame when a man feels that way in a marriage.....