The Power of Hypnobirthing | Bee Ting Ng | TEDxTARUC
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- čas přidán 20. 11. 2016
- Delivering of baby without pain is always a dream for all mothers. Bee Ting shares the idea of giving birth without pain, which actually is a psychological control of mind.
Bee Ting spent 17 years of her working life in the investment line as an investment analyst and REIT manager. Her last position was the Chief Operating Officer of a listed REIT. After the birth of her third baby, she left the corporate world to pursue her passion of advocating for gentle birth as a HypnoBirthing childbirth educator. She is a faculty trainer of the HypnoBirthing Institute and the co-author of "Gentle Birth" which is a book for Malaysian mums to understand the importance of preparing for a positive birth experience for their family. She is also a certified Infant Massage Instructor and a Dunstan Baby Language Instructor. She founded ‘Baby With Bee’, a very successful conscious parenting centre which offers a variety of classes and workshops for modern parents as they embark on their parenting journey. She is also a featured speaker for public and corporate events and regularly conducts talks and training for birthing professionals.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
By God's grace i will deliver naturally. I am 29 weeks. I have to practice this. Thank you for sharing.
What an encouragement this was to me! My first baby is due in winter time and the more and more I’ve researched the power of natural birthing, the less fear I have! I am actually so excited!
Julianne Colangelo congratulations! it can be the most incredible experience, and I hope it is for you! Good luck and enjoy the new little one!
Congratulations! I wish for you a happy birthing day!
Ive been sooooo anxious but am in process of watching this
I think a huge part of the fear is not understanding whats happening to ur body. I remember complaining (and i still complain) about how hollywood films bastardize womens ideas about birth and delivery and make it out to be a sort of joke, a quick process that begins and finishes in cut scenes.... and they never dive into post partum. Then ofc men dont know anything about babies so alot of them dont research what they can do to help mom out, and lastly women themselves go into labor without mentally preparing.
So how was it?
Birth is a healthy process ❤❤❤ so uplifting, empowering.
I definitely plan to take charge of my birth when it comes time. I can’t wait to become a mother! I truly believe what she is saying. Mind over matter is SO REAL.
13:53 "the only reason for pain in child birth is fear"
Your positivity is so contagious I love this video. I too have had several miscarriages and now I'm 23 weeks pregnant and over come with so much excitement for the birth. Thank you 😁
Omg LOL this is why I am never letting any of my dramatic family be around when I give birth 😂😂😂😂😂😂 too much fear and also unnecessary stress and I’m usually a chill and laid back person hahahah I will make sure my birth stays chill and laid back with some humour too 😂😂
My mother didn't know back in the 90s what hypnobirth is, but she gave natural birth to me and my brother. She always told me how during the labor she was thinking about the comfort of her children and how painful they must feel. I think hypnobirth is something that can come so natural to a woman, if she doesn't let the fear dictate her experinece.
Awwww just love this share!! Three positive and beautiful experiences....and it happens when a mama-2-b takes her birth experience into her own hands, learns about the miracle she is about to experience, understands the workings of her beautiful body and how her baby is a team player in the birth too....its the most exquisite experience!! I also became a Hypnobirthing teacher after my 15minute birth....It was MAGIC, exquisite and that birthing moment is stored in my cells as the greatest experience I have had in my life. So many blessing to you and family. Sonia
We need to tell our stories more so that positive birth stories are the norm, not exception!
I immediately loved your video when you called your first child, your "angel baby;" so heartwarming. Your sense of humor put me at ease. Thank you so much for helping me heal & prepare to have the birth I believe I can & should have.
check out in a mays guide to childbirth. My sister in law read it and gave 2 natural births at home. She's delivered over 5,ooo babies. I am reading her book (I amin first trimester) and will most likely be delivering on her farm. I wish you a happy pregnancy.
@@hennahtriedit4809 I read it & it was very inspiring. I went on to have a home birth this November. I was in control and calm during labor. It was nothing like media portrays birth; much better.
Love her!! Been doing meditations and reading about hypnobirthing for the past few weeks - 33 weeks pregnant. This woman is an inspiration!
How was your birth? I'm due in April and want to use the hypnobirthing technique.
She is so cute and awesome!!
Thank you for your kind words. You made my day.
Beautiful message she is spreading 👏
Bee Ting Ng thank YOU - I appreciate you standing up for other moms and sharing this good wisdom, I am on the same path
Loved this and needed to hear it, thank you xx
Awesome! I feel confident and less fearful about giving birth. Thank you.
Thank you and so wonderful to hear that you feel confident about birth.
I am 2-4 days overdue... which I don't mind... I like having my baby stay in as long as he can, as long as he is safe... but I am so happy to have found this... I'm late to the game for Hypnobirthing... but I believe the mind is a very powerful thing and I believe this will help. Thank you! I love your funny attitude and of course accent! Thank you!
You were not too late, you could start any time even during labour
How was it? :) Congratulations until now you already have birth**
THANKS .... May'GOD BLESS U!
💕 Thanks so much! You are so right!
I enjoyed this discussion. 🙌
she's so funny and lovely! such a good teacher
Brilliant!
Wonderful encouraging and inspiring talk. Thank you!
vertical suggestion was awesome
Thank you for spreading the message of positive birth x
Thank you too for watching and maybe share the video with more people? We really need more women to know that birth does not have to be traumatic!
Thank you
Birth is healthy! How beautiful
great video!!!!
Hypnobirthing was created by Michelle Leclaire ONeill PhD, RN in 1987. It is a complete Mind / Body program
I took a hypnobirthing course. My first VBAC was about 12 hours long, the 2nd was 7 hours long, the 3rd was 5 hours long. Each one is easier also.
I’m pregnant with my fourth and going for a VBA2C. Can I ask how you got yourself passed that mental hurdle? Believed in yourself to do it?? I’ve had three very traumatic labors, but I don’t ever want to be cut open again.
@@claudiawangfitness For me, it was the active effort to fill my mind with new images and facts about birth, looking for stories of those who achieved a VBAC, and doing all I could to stay calm and informed Hypnobirthing helped me heal some of my fears. I was trying to make it an empowering experience in which I could make my own choices instead of just fearfully accepting everything they told me. And if for some reason a c section is needed, even those can be respectful and loving experiences.
@@GinaGargollo thank you very much! ☺️ 🙏
@@claudiawangfitness I truly wish you a positive experience. I had my 4th VBAC 5 months ago. It was even quicker lol.
@@GinaGargollo Praise God! I mean, we only want four. But it’s possible if my experience is very great I may be tempted for another. 😂
I agree about hypnobirthing as one of the way in midwifery science. So a pregnant mother will give birth easily
These are valuable tips. 😁 "Easy deliveries" need to be normalized, especially families planning for +2 natural births. If gravity can help my partner deliver, I'm all for it.
I wonder the sizes and weights of her babies at delivery.
This is an amazing video! But I feel like I have to share a warning here... Birth is such an unpredictable experience, and while hypnobirthing can be a great help to assist women in relaxing, you have to be mentally prepared when things don't go as planned. I had a super calm, easy pregnancy. My mom gave birth to me in 2 hrs. I watched so many hypnobirthing videos, read books, articles, found a midwife and I was so pumped and excited for my hypnobirthing homebirth!!! But despite us being told that we had a small baby (ultrasounds can be off by as many as 2 lbs and my husband and I were both tinyyy), I ended up having an 8.5 lb baby with a head in the 99th percentile ...I had to have an emergency hospital transfer. I tore in 5 different places, and couldn't pee for 10 days (had to have a catheter). No amount of hypnobirthing is going to take the pain away when your skin is being torn in 5 places. We did everything right, the perineum stretching/massaging, breathing techniques, etc. But sometimes it just doesn't work. And women who are taken by surprise by how unexpected these things can be often have traumatic birth experiences. I'm all for natural and hypno birthing. But women should also be made aware of the reality & unpredictability of birth. And to be made aware that it's ok if things don't go as planned and that they should not blame themselves. Birth is an amazing victory no matter how you accomplish it and your baby's gonna love their mama no matter what kind of birth they had.
Anna D I practiced for weeks and followed all the hypnobirthing techniques but suffered a 3rd degree tear and felt a lot of pain. I would still try it again but at home next time. I don’t think it’s realistic to hope for a “pain-free” birth but you can absolutely have a natural birth and just manage your pain with your mind
Very important to keep in mind! The hypnobirthing mindset can be a very helpful approach and it is nice to hear birth stories that are not horror stories, but moms shouldn't be made to feel like they did it "wrong" if they didn't have a pain free or complication free birth. I actually did not study hypnobirthing prior to my first birth, but I did approach it very relaxed and confident - this certainly helped me get through it but it was by no means pain free and it was a very, very long labor - I feel like I often hear messages that if you are relaxed, the baby will slide right out which is also not true for many people!
Thank you for your comment. I love the mantra from Marie Mongan: “I’ll calmly take whatever turn my birthing will take.” You can still use hypnobirthing even if you need interventions, the key is to not panic ❤️❤️❤️
100% @@ohana-bordi
In labour watching this 😌❤️
Hello Bee Ting. I enjoyed listening to your hypnobirthing story. Within a few months I will give burth to a baby boy and I am planning to have a natural instinctive birth. I am currently reading a book about Hypnobirthing. For women who are interested to read about the hypnobirthing method, I highly recommend the following book: ,,Hypnobirthing- The Mongan Method''- ' (Marie F. Mongan, M.Ed.,M.Hy.(Foreward by Lorne R.Campbell, M.D. (updated 4th edition).
I love this!!! Hahaha so funny
Sorry to be a party pooper but no, pain in birth is really not just about fear. I was trained in hypnobirthing during my first pregnancy, and when contractions started I was so joyous, not stressed and not fearful at all. I remained calmed and happy throughout, moving a lot and receiving all the natural help of a very well-trained staff and a very supportive, calm partner, with music and chanting and water and what not. It was NOT easy. It was NOT pain free. It did NOT progress swiftly. Yes, I did not tear, and I felt great minutes after and the day after was up and about. I consider my birth to be a positive birth story and recommend this method to others. BUT IT WAS NOT EASY, PAIN FREE, or SWIFT as so many hypnobirthing trainers are saying.
The truth is that each body is different. We accept this fact when it comes to everything else - diet, health, athletic skills, what not - but somehow we think we can all birth the same. Well, no. The truth is that some women have easier births than others. Some women get stuck at 3 cm (I did). Some women have very powerful contractions for hours and hours and hours without any progress in dialation (I did). Some women just have a harder or easier time than others. You can't know before you birth how it will go down. You can prepare and that's great, but every body is different. I know mothers who were very scared and birthed naturally after an hour of contractions. I know others who had an amazingly positive birth with epidural. IT IS NOT ALL UP TO US AND NOT ALL OF US CAN HAVE THE EXPERIENCE SHE IS DESCRIBING, is the buttom line.
Thank you for sharing this
Do you have to push ?
In HypnoBirthing (Mongan Method), we teach a breath called Birth Breathing so we work with our body and breath downwards to help baby along but not the typical forced pushing we often see in the movies. Most importantly, if you wait for your body's natural explusive reflex, it would be effortless.
My mom tried hypnobirthing. At first it was great. Really working. She had actually stopped feeling contractions. She was in her labor room. Sh was there for a while, she doesn’t know how long because she was so relaxed she may have even fallen asleep. She continued hypnobirthing and then the nurses interrupted her to bring her to the delivery. While they were moving her she tried to continue the hypnobirthing but it didn’t end up working, the lights were then too bright and she was in a bad position, etc. She couldn’t get back into that state and then the rest of her labor was very painful and she decided to get an epidural. 😞 She tried again with my next sibling and almost the same thing happened except it wasn’t as effective this time. She couldn’t get into that completely relaxed state of mind and just decided to get an epidural.
They messed with her too much. They should have left her alone.
@@northernstardoula6184 absolutely
I was expecting hypnotized women giving birth while clucking like a chicken 🐔