I agree with this, BUT dating a person in the closet means that you have to be willing to go back into the closet when you are around him. He has to realize the stress it puts on you. You're a great guy Russ.
Russ Don't leave us hanging on this?? How did thinks go and how was the discussion after you guys thought about it. This is a complicated issue that needs some serious discussion and you are the guy. thanks
I have not dated anyone who is closeted, and I would not. Way too much grief. If they need time to come out that's fine. I'd think about dating them after that.
I like this video so much...You meant well by kissing your boyfriend -an ordinary enough act of intended affection and yet you have the ability to reflect on the action and recognise that it may have hurt him. Sooo thoughtful and so respectful of his feelings too. You have tremendous maturity and yet you can be fun too...a winning combination!
O_o Who the hell wouldn't want to show you off?? I'd be like, "F*ck yeah, this is my boyfriend, bitches!" and then start mad making out with you in front of them. In all honesty, yeah, that's a tough situation. I've dated a closeted guy before too. It wears on you. That respect goes both ways though, Russ. So I hope he's gaining the courage to open up to people soon and introduce you as the person in his life that you are.
you should be a therapist for real....this video was soo true!! and it lets others hear the emotions and problems that come from a closeted gay.. been there..and still there.. Thanks for the videos~!!
I agree with the minority opinions here. I have never dated someone who was closeted, and I never dated a man when I was closeted. If you are in the closet don't date. I am sorry, if that means you never date because you never come out, so be it. I was not with anyone until I was in my 30's because it would not have been fair to the other person. If you are attracted to a person who is closeted, I am sorry and this sounds harsh, but find someone else to be with.
yes life is too short to mess around with people we are not compatible with. Learnt a LONG time ago that being gay is stressful enough without dating folks who add to that stress. Happiness to you.
I am late to the party, by 8 years, I don't know how this rough worked out for, but I have recently followed your post's, you appear to be honest and compassionate, and heart felt in your explanation of the past situation. Here's to hoping all is right in that regard, it just touched me watching that post, ✌
Its okay to be in the closet , what is not okay is to play with people fellings , having a girlfriend, and dating , having sex with guys. I think this type of closeted guys deserve no respect at all
I know this is very late, obviously, but either way, I am still sorry to hear that this happened. I do, however, have a question. I am new to this channel (just started watching today) and have not yet seen all 65 videos, but i'm on my way there. SO if you've answered this before, sorry. Was this person Matt?
This video came out of nowhere. One of my friends asked me yesterday was getting advice from me about coming out because his bf was pressuring him to come out. And I told him that he shouldn't be pressured but it might be the best idea to come out. So I, his friend, put that pressure on him and watching this made me realize that it was wrong of me to do that. And that his bf should be more understanding. Thanks Russ.
Hey man, I like your videos. Thanks for sharing your experience! While the events that unfolded in the party were unfortunate, I hope you guys are able to work it out and realize it wasn't malicious.
You are so sensitive and understanding. I hope your boy friend appreciates you and knows you kissed him without thinking. You mentioned there was drinking at the party. If you had a drink, it lowers your inhibitions and you are more likely to act on your feelings. You're an amazing man, just remember that fact.
Been there done that....but here is the BIG problem with trying to date a guy who is still closeted. You wind up getting dragged back into the closet with him. I am happily married to a husband now, but back when I was single, I learned one major rule, I would never date any guy who was still closeted. Being gay is challenging enough without having to be put back into the closet. I respect people taking time to come out, I just chose not to get romantically involved with someone still closeted.
I felt bad that I had to lie to my friends. I am in the closet and I actually had a fake GF who agreed to come out to meet my friends with my BF. We would make up story that my BF and my fake GF were brother and sisters. When introducing my fake GF to my friends at Buffalo Wild Wings, my BF sat 2 seats away from me. I would feel so bad about that since I was not ready to come out and that he would just sit and eat in the corner quietly.
I don't even understand " coming out". If I were heterosexual I wouldn't go around announcing it. I understand some people need to do it but I never felt the need. I live my life and anyone that knows me knows I'm gay but not because I announced it. I just live my life and what other people think just doesn't factor into my world.
You are so adorable, and it is so heartbreaking watching this video. We all make mistakes and I hope it all worked out man. I'm sure he knew you weren't trying to out him, you just made a mistake. It's very hard when you love someone and you have to hide it. ;(
My bf was in the closet. He came out to his family very soon in our relationship and that meant a lot to me. That meant he was serious about our relationship. I hope your bf can see that. Love is more powerful than losing homophobic friends.
I can see how awful you felt about this, but I bet you didn't do it on purpose. It's very difficult to put yourself back into a closet for someone else after all the hard work you did to make your way out. Meanwhile, it's also very important for the closeted man to come out when he's ready and not before. That's why I really don't recommend dating closeted men. I understand that you can't always help how you feel, but It almost always ends in disaster one way or the other.
1) give them time; 2) be understanding (he's under a lot of pressure); 3) let them come out in their own time; 4) have a cover story for his friends/family; 5) learn from your past experience; 6) no PDA; 7) no outing via words or actions; 8) don't rob him of choice to come out; 9) don't pressure them to come out;
My boyfriend is an ex marine and currently in the closet with most everyone in our lives besides his family. But we never see them? Idk. He calls me his cousin to everyone we actually see and hangout with so it sucks majorly.. he also refuses to show me legit any sort of affection or anything if we are not in a locked down house….
Russ you are so amazing. You liked this guys so much , you wanted to show him a sign of normal affection (barring our crazy religous zealot society, that we solely left england to escape ironically) , and you were able to reflect on what your actions did to your boyfriend and his coming out. I hope he understands . PS Is this Matt who you are currently engaged? Best to you both and have a great week.
I'm dating a bisexual who's in the closet, we've been together for 4 years. It is stressful, but the wonderful times we do have together is worth it. I thank you for this because it's like how can you keep something that makes you want to explode or scream inside hidden? It's so liberating being OUT that I take it for granted. I literally wanted to confront him about it, but this video came upon my attention. Thank you. You're an amazing person.
We certainly didn't date, but we never did it or anything either so for a short time I may have been involved with a closeted guy w/o realising it. Looking back he seemed to have a problem with me meeting his friends and it's obvious that his (African) parents kept going until they had a (gay) boy... I feel a little silly for not connecting the dots :D. He didn't act particularly closeted, talked about gay topics, but who knows?
What you said....everyone makes mistakes, we are all not perfect....but please don't worry, you and your boyfriend will be fine, you are a good person Russ, you deserve to be happy snd you will be happy. Your video's and your story mean so much to so many people, you are the best....sending love from France.xxxxxx. Davidxxxxxx
Russell, could see you were visabley see you were hurting from you mistake. Appreciate you sharing your story so others might not do the same thing. Bravo.
I was jusy in this situation... She fucking broke up with me when we were almoat celebrating our 3rd anniversary :'( she said she realized she can't fucking fight for me after all the understanding and fighting that i did for her. I'm so fucking broken i gave her morethan my 100percent, no limit for her just to please her... pure bullshit. Now I'm having a hard time moving on it hurts so bad
This was clearly a painful experience for both parties. You show deep emotions in this vid that most men are not willing to show. That tells me a lot about you. You are easily hurt and are very sensitive to the feelings of others. Any man that catches you will be very lucky, I just pray that he is as true and good as you.
I have the opposite problem actually, my exbf is totally out and I am only partially out... I kissed him in the middle of a crowd and he kinda flipped shit. Thus us not being together. Lol Good luck with life man
Russell: There's no way this is your fault, dude. Matt knew u were popular, cute, easily made friends, and he was looking for an easy way to get into gay life in AFG & Bragg, hoping u wouldn't be as out as you are. Maybe a naïve marine(him) was using you to get in the gay club? Russ, only live 30 miles from you in Cincy, & know best weapons to take out a mortar, & you better not get a scratch, little Hoosier! Stay safe, Russ. Rob Elsaesser, Cincinnati, OH. 45248
just from the title/ i knew what i was about to hear- been there done that- you are a great story teller | and i hope your not beating yourself up too much!! Russ it is alright, life goes on, if only someone would have told me that 40 years ago!!!U R awesome x
A questão nem é o que as outras pessoas irão pensar e sim o quão a vontade com a própria sexualidade os dois estão. Se ele ainda possui amigos que não sabem que ele é gay e vocês passam por situações assim. Desculpe, mas o problema não são eles. Não entendo realmente essa questão de estar "meio" dentro do armário, ser "meio" gay a partir do momento que se assume tem que ser tudo e para todos, somente. Bjo, Adriano Coelho - Brazil.
The fact that you mentioned nothing about what it's like for you not to be able to show your love for your boyfriend, because he was closeted, speaks a lot about you as a person. You also didn't throw in "but I was drunk" excuse. Good people like you are hard to come by, it's good that you have the willingness to post these videos and share your experiences with others
This is a thorny issue I've dealt with on more than one occation. And you're right, coming out is a personal thing and no one has the right to force you into it. That being said, a closeted person has no right to force you back into the closet for their convenience or comfort. Once is enough, the second time is unbearable. Hence why I live by a credo. Closeted? We can be friends, but that's it.
Relevant content even now! Thank you for being so honest and open in all of your videos . You are potentially an LGBTQ+ pioneer! And for that we say "Thank you"
I just subbed to your channel Russ. You are A1 in my books & my opinion of you has just gone through the roof after this video. You are mature beyond your years! I have now watched ALL you vids so I need to know, as far as this video is concerned, an update on where you are now with that guy if you don't mind. How'd it work out..? Cheers from Australia.
I had a relationship like that except this was late 90s, so neither of us were out. I go more in to this in my Coming out story. I want to talk about the mistakes in that relationship in a video but I don't know if I could keep composure.
"Get hold of you"?!?!?!? ---- I wish - lol. We've all been there where we have been dating/seeing a hot as fuck guy who is scared to death of kissing you in public, or even holding hands. You are so mature - you put me to shame, even although I know how hard it was to come out to my parents. After them (and they already knew BTW) - I came out to anyone who was there lol (and they already knew too!!).... This video should be shown in schools xx. You are awesome xxx
Hey Russell. I get it. Your sadness and regret are so tangible. I hope your boyfriend sees that as well. Also, you had been drinking so it seems what you did was not intentionally done to hurt him but an expression of your feelings for him. I hope he gets that as well. I dated a guy I was very in love with. He was out to his friends but not his family ( his brother was also gay which complicated it all and they had determined that not telling was the best thing to do). Eventually his hiding such an important part of himself from his family eroded his love for me and destroyed our relationship.
I had a relationship with someone I liked a lot end because of the closet. The weird thing was that I could deal with him being closeted (this was 25-years ago and we all had to deal with that reality, then) - no, the thing that ended our relationship was that he could not deal with the fact that my parents were so accepting of him. He was so afraid of his own parents that he could not deal with mine accepting him.
HI! Russ, I just subscribed to your video blogs! I've watched a lot ot them, and just really enjoy them. You really do seem like a great guy. I just watched the "Dating a closeted guy" one. I personally haven't dated very many guys, but I do know that I couldn't date one that was still closeted. I never really was closeted myself, I just can understand that situation, it would just suck! LOL
It's so sad that you feel so bad for loving and kissing a man that you love. Yes I understand the part about being scared of coming out but you didn't do it maliciously. So now you have to feel regret because you love him? This really doesn't bode well for a long term relationship an honest relationship and a loving relationship. Sorry just my opinion. Because he's in the closet he's shoving you back in the closet how fair is that?
this was a really good topic, and I could tell it was hard for you, and your a really good person to share you story..hope all worked out..keep on saveing the world russ...one gay at a time : )
It's not easy dating someone in the closet. My fella of 6 years is in the closet. I'm struggling to make the relationship last. I will never out him as I know it's hard for him. But 6 years....is a long time and I don't feel I have the strength to keep fighting 😔
Russ you may not notice this or get a reply But I have been consistent viewer back at 2013 but got busy and havent checked out your channel for a while I am really not used to watching you alone nor without you talking about matt and seeing you guys together. I really wished it worked out because you got engaged! I couldn't have even imagine that would happen to someone when you thought he's the one but it turns out it was wrong. I tried looking for answers on to how things went wrong and this video was the closest. Oh well, at least now you moved on I guess specially even another breakup with your recent boyfriend. Take care russ! You'll find Mr. right don't you worry! PS i hoped you didn't delete all your videos specially from russ and everything your viewers have watched and enjoyed from the past
I haven't seen anything from you lately, Russ. And, I don't remember watching this vid before: but, yeah, that was a dick move, man. Heh. I'm going to say it was pure Marine mentality. I dated a Gay Marine once heh.
Russ I just saw this video and I got to say this to you. If your boyfriend loves you then he will forgive and get on with your relationship. I know it's hard to come out of the closet but it has to happen sometime. You seem like an amazing guy and if you were my guy I would not be afraid to show my love for you infront of people. Your partner needs to make that decision to wether he wants to move on or not but if he chooses not to then that's his problem cause you are great
If I was in the closet and you started dating me, I'd come out and scream to my mom "LOOK MOMMY! I BAGGED A GOOD ONE!" :P but I'm so out it doesn't even matter lol
Ironic isn't it - as gays, we belong to one of the most discriminated against groups in the world - and then we do the same thing to members of that same group.
Hi Russell, like all your videos.. love the one of your house, and this one as well. You are so sweet and a very nice guy, very handsome and smart. Like that so much. I'll love to be your friend man! Take care and hope to know from you. Tommy
Agree with you. But, still, you did something that a person in a relationship would normally do, but for the homophobia that exists in the world. So maybe you shoukdnt have done that- but you weren't so very wrong to want to. but
WAIT.. You knew he wasn't complety OUT yet you gave him a kiss in front of everybody. You said there was 200 people there, some ya knew and some ya didn't know. I think you put him and yourself in danger but pulling that stunt.. HEY, I'm a prior active duty Marine and totally understand how it is BUT it is not wise to do things like that. What if some breeder would have went Ape Sh*t and went cray? BTW I know this video is was made two months ago :)
I agree with this, BUT dating a person in the closet means that you have to be willing to go back into the closet when you are around him. He has to realize the stress it puts on you. You're a great guy Russ.
Russ Don't leave us hanging on this?? How did thinks go and how was the discussion after you guys thought about it. This is a complicated issue that needs some serious discussion and you are the guy. thanks
Everyone makes mistakes, leaning from them is important.
Russel, I am so moved by your emotion. This was an exceptional sharing of your personal experience. You are very caring.
I have not dated anyone who is closeted, and I would not. Way too much grief. If they need time to come out that's fine. I'd think about dating them after that.
I like this video so much...You meant well by kissing your boyfriend -an ordinary enough act of intended affection and yet you have the ability to reflect on the action and recognise that it may have hurt him. Sooo thoughtful and so respectful of his feelings too.
You have tremendous maturity and yet you can be fun too...a winning combination!
O_o Who the hell wouldn't want to show you off?? I'd be like, "F*ck yeah, this is my boyfriend, bitches!" and then start mad making out with you in front of them.
In all honesty, yeah, that's a tough situation. I've dated a closeted guy before too. It wears on you. That respect goes both ways though, Russ. So I hope he's gaining the courage to open up to people soon and introduce you as the person in his life that you are.
you should be a therapist for real....this video was soo true!! and it lets others hear the emotions and problems that come from a closeted gay.. been there..and still there.. Thanks for the videos~!!
I also had to do these things while I was in the military
I agree with the minority opinions here. I have never dated someone who was closeted, and I never dated a man when I was closeted. If you are in the closet don't date. I am sorry, if that means you never date because you never come out, so be it. I was not with anyone until I was in my 30's because it would not have been fair to the other person. If you are attracted to a person who is closeted, I am sorry and this sounds harsh, but find someone else to be with.
yes life is too short to mess around with people we are not compatible with.
Learnt a LONG time ago that being gay is stressful enough without dating folks who add to that stress.
Happiness to you.
It will be great when we do not have to "come out"!
don't beat yourself up over it bro
i know how you feel its horrible to see that person out when there not ready :) :/
Great and kind advice Russ as always love ya, and thank you so much for serving our country!!!! Davidxx
I am late to the party, by 8 years, I don't know how this rough worked out for, but I have recently followed your post's, you appear to be honest and compassionate, and heart felt in your explanation of the past situation. Here's to hoping all is right in that regard, it just touched me watching that post, ✌
Its okay to be in the closet , what is not okay is to play with people fellings , having a girlfriend, and dating , having sex with guys. I think this type of closeted guys deserve no respect at all
Obviously this is something you have thought a lot about. A big man makes mistakes by admitting them and teaching through them
I know this is very late, obviously, but either way, I am still sorry to hear that this happened. I do, however, have a question. I am new to this channel (just started watching today) and have not yet seen all 65 videos, but i'm on my way there. SO if you've answered this before, sorry.
Was this person Matt?
I'm out but I have to admit that when I was in the closet there was an exciting side to it.
This video came out of nowhere. One of my friends asked me yesterday was getting advice from me about coming out because his bf was pressuring him to come out. And I told him that he shouldn't be pressured but it might be the best idea to come out. So I, his friend, put that pressure on him and watching this made me realize that it was wrong of me to do that. And that his bf should be more understanding. Thanks Russ.
I think the point of the video was that he understood he made a mistake...
Hey man, I like your videos. Thanks for sharing your experience!
While the events that unfolded in the party were unfortunate, I hope you guys are able to work it out and realize it wasn't malicious.
Obviously.. I was pointing out that he should be careful!
Eggcellant Advice. Compassionate and Honest !
You are so sensitive and understanding. I hope your boy friend appreciates you and knows you kissed him without thinking. You mentioned there was drinking at the party. If you had a drink, it lowers your inhibitions and you are more likely to act on your feelings. You're an amazing man, just remember that fact.
Been there done that....but here is the BIG problem with trying to date a guy who is still closeted. You wind up getting dragged back into the closet with him. I am happily married to a husband now, but back when I was single, I learned one major rule, I would never date any guy who was still closeted. Being gay is challenging enough without having to be put back into the closet. I respect people taking time to come out, I just chose not to get romantically involved with someone still closeted.
I felt bad that I had to lie to my friends. I am in the closet and I actually had a fake GF who agreed to come out to meet my friends with my BF. We would make up story that my BF and my fake GF were brother and sisters. When introducing my fake GF to my friends at Buffalo Wild Wings, my BF sat 2 seats away from me. I would feel so bad about that since I was not ready to come out and that he would just sit and eat in the corner quietly.
I don't even understand " coming out". If I were heterosexual I wouldn't go around announcing it. I understand some people need to do it but I never felt the need. I live my life and anyone that knows me knows I'm gay but not because I announced it. I just live my life and what other people think just doesn't factor into my world.
You are so adorable, and it is so heartbreaking watching this video. We all make mistakes and I hope it all worked out man. I'm sure he knew you weren't trying to out him, you just made a mistake. It's very hard when you love someone and you have to hide it. ;(
My bf was in the closet. He came out to his family very soon in our relationship and that meant a lot to me. That meant he was serious about our relationship. I hope your bf can see that. Love is more powerful than losing homophobic friends.
I can see how awful you felt about this, but I bet you didn't do it on purpose. It's very difficult to put yourself back into a closet for someone else after all the hard work you did to make your way out. Meanwhile, it's also very important for the closeted man to come out when he's ready and not before. That's why I really don't recommend dating closeted men. I understand that you can't always help how you feel, but It almost always ends in disaster one way or the other.
1) give them time;
2) be understanding (he's under a lot of pressure);
3) let them come out in their own time;
4) have a cover story for his friends/family;
5) learn from your past experience;
6) no PDA;
7) no outing via words or actions;
8) don't rob him of choice to come out;
9) don't pressure them to come out;
And your definitely hot in my eyes. Keep your head held high and remember that if he truly loves you he will come around.
I disovered your channel yesterday and I like what you're doing so far. Thank you!
thank you for serving in the military
My boyfriend is an ex marine and currently in the closet with most everyone in our lives besides his family. But we never see them? Idk. He calls me his cousin to everyone we actually see and hangout with so it sucks majorly.. he also refuses to show me legit any sort of affection or anything if we are not in a locked down house….
You are both so cute and I am so happy you found someone that makes you happy! I hope you both have a wonderful and awesome life together.
You're a good kid... be the best example of an "out" man and he will uncover his strengths and bury his fears...
Russ you are so amazing. You liked this guys so much , you wanted to show him a sign of normal affection (barring our crazy religous zealot society, that we solely left england to escape ironically) , and you were able to reflect on what your actions did to your boyfriend and his coming out. I hope he understands . PS Is this Matt who you are currently engaged? Best to you both and have a great week.
I'm dating a bisexual who's in the closet, we've been together for 4 years. It is stressful, but the wonderful times we do have together is worth it. I thank you for this because it's like how can you keep something that makes you want to explode or scream inside hidden? It's so liberating being OUT that I take it for granted.
I literally wanted to confront him about it, but this video came upon my attention. Thank you. You're an amazing person.
We certainly didn't date, but we never did it or anything either so for a short time I may have been involved with a closeted guy w/o realising it. Looking back he seemed to have a problem with me meeting his friends and it's obvious that his (African) parents kept going until they had a (gay) boy... I feel a little silly for not connecting the dots :D. He didn't act particularly closeted, talked about gay topics, but who knows?
unless he is very generous....?
What you said....everyone makes mistakes, we are all not perfect....but please don't worry, you and your boyfriend will be fine, you are a good person Russ, you deserve to be happy snd you will be happy. Your video's and your story mean so much to so many people, you are the best....sending love from France.xxxxxx. Davidxxxxxx
Russell, could see you were visabley see you were hurting from you mistake. Appreciate you sharing your story so others might not do the same thing. Bravo.
I was jusy in this situation... She fucking broke up with me when we were almoat celebrating our 3rd anniversary :'( she said she realized she can't fucking fight for me after all the understanding and fighting that i did for her. I'm so fucking broken i gave her morethan my 100percent, no limit for her just to please her... pure bullshit. Now I'm having a hard time moving on it hurts so bad
This video broke my heart, you looked so sad... It is such a joy seeing you so much happier now that you are with Matt, wish you the best!
This was clearly a painful experience for both parties. You show deep emotions in this vid that most men are not willing to show. That tells me a lot about you. You are easily hurt and are very sensitive to the feelings of others. Any man that catches you will be very lucky, I just pray that he is as true and good as you.
I have the opposite problem actually, my exbf is totally out and I am only partially out... I kissed him in the middle of a crowd and he kinda flipped shit. Thus us not being together. Lol Good luck with life man
Never be a dirty little secret
Well done for this video. You made a good point so very very well. Enormous admiration for you! Ian
Hi iam in the british army as a surgeon and i was at a ball when my b/f kissed me best day of my life.
Russell: There's no way this is your fault, dude. Matt knew u were popular, cute, easily made friends, and he was looking for an easy way to get into gay life in AFG & Bragg, hoping u wouldn't be as out as you are. Maybe a naïve marine(him) was using you to get in the gay club? Russ, only live 30 miles from you in Cincy, & know best weapons
to take out a mortar, & you better not get a scratch, little Hoosier! Stay safe, Russ. Rob
Elsaesser, Cincinnati, OH. 45248
Wow and now you are engaged. So glad it all worked out because you guys are perfect for each other
Good luck. I hope it works out for you and your boyfriend
just from the title/ i knew what i was about to hear- been there done that- you are a great story teller | and i hope your not beating yourself up too much!! Russ it is alright, life goes on, if only someone would have told me that 40 years ago!!!U R awesome x
A questão nem é o que as outras pessoas irão pensar e sim o quão a vontade com a própria sexualidade os dois estão. Se ele ainda possui amigos que não sabem que ele é gay e vocês passam por situações assim. Desculpe, mas o problema não são eles. Não entendo realmente essa questão de estar "meio" dentro do armário, ser "meio" gay a partir do momento que se assume tem que ser tudo e para todos, somente. Bjo, Adriano Coelho - Brazil.
The fact that you mentioned nothing about what it's like for you not to be able to show your love for your boyfriend, because he was closeted, speaks a lot about you as a person. You also didn't throw in "but I was drunk" excuse. Good people like you are hard to come by, it's good that you have the willingness to post these videos and share your experiences with others
This is a thorny issue I've dealt with on more than one occation. And you're right, coming out is a personal thing and no one has the right to force you into it. That being said, a closeted person has no right to force you back into the closet for their convenience or comfort. Once is enough, the second time is unbearable. Hence why I live by a credo. Closeted? We can be friends, but that's it.
that has happened to me as well.... eventually he got over it. when there is love, there's always a solution :)
Relevant content even now! Thank you for being so honest and open in all of your videos . You are potentially an LGBTQ+ pioneer! And for that we say "Thank you"
I just subbed to your channel Russ. You are A1 in my books & my opinion of you has just gone through the roof after this video. You are mature beyond your years! I have now watched ALL you vids so I need to know, as far as this video is concerned, an update on where you are now with that guy if you don't mind. How'd it work out..? Cheers from Australia.
Dang Russ, I'm sorry to hear that man. :\ That would be rough. I wish you two the best.
I had a relationship like that except this was late 90s, so neither of us were out. I go more in to this in my Coming out story. I want to talk about the mistakes in that relationship in a video but I don't know if I could keep composure.
"Get hold of you"?!?!?!? ---- I wish - lol. We've all been there where we have been dating/seeing a hot as fuck guy who is scared to death of kissing you in public, or even holding hands. You are so mature - you put me to shame, even although I know how hard it was to come out to my parents. After them (and they already knew BTW) - I came out to anyone who was there lol (and they already knew too!!).... This video should be shown in schools xx. You are awesome xxx
Hey Russell. I get it. Your sadness and regret are so tangible. I hope your boyfriend sees that as well. Also, you had been drinking so it seems what you did was not intentionally done to hurt him but an expression of your feelings for him. I hope he gets that as well. I dated a guy I was very in love with. He was out to his friends but not his family ( his brother was also gay which complicated it all and they had determined that not telling was the best thing to do). Eventually his hiding such an important part of himself from his family eroded his love for me and destroyed our relationship.
LOL that sounds scandalous.
Ouch. This was obviously kinda traumatic if you're posting still affected by it or after a few drinks..
It goes to show that actions have consequences. Still, at least you've learnt a lesson.
I had a relationship with someone I liked a lot end because of the closet. The weird thing was that I could deal with him being closeted (this was 25-years ago and we all had to deal with that reality, then) - no, the thing that ended our relationship was that he could not deal with the fact that my parents were so accepting of him. He was so afraid of his own parents that he could not deal with mine accepting him.
HI! Russ, I just subscribed to your video blogs! I've watched a lot ot them, and just really enjoy them. You really do seem like a great guy. I just watched the "Dating a closeted guy" one. I personally haven't dated very many guys, but I do know that I couldn't date one that was still closeted. I never really was closeted myself, I just can understand that situation, it would just suck! LOL
You have taught me a lot
It's so sad that you feel so bad for loving and kissing a man that you love. Yes I understand the part about being scared of coming out but you didn't do it maliciously. So now you have to feel regret because you love him? This really doesn't bode well for a long term relationship an honest relationship and a loving relationship. Sorry just my opinion. Because he's in the closet he's shoving you back in the closet how fair is that?
this was a really good topic, and I could tell it was hard for you, and your a really good person to share you story..hope all worked out..keep on saveing the world russ...one gay at a time : )
Yeah but true------------------something the out and loud brigade will never admit to lol.
It's not easy dating someone in the closet. My fella of 6 years is in the closet. I'm struggling to make the relationship last. I will never out him as I know it's hard for him. But 6 years....is a long time and I don't feel I have the strength to keep fighting 😔
Russ you may not notice this or get a reply
But I have been consistent viewer back at 2013 but got busy and havent checked out your channel for a while I am really not used to watching you alone nor without you talking about matt and seeing you guys together. I really wished it worked out because you got engaged! I couldn't have even imagine that would happen to someone when you thought he's the one but it turns out it was wrong. I tried looking for answers on to how things went wrong and this video was the closest.
Oh well, at least now you moved on I guess specially even another breakup with your recent boyfriend.
Take care russ! You'll find Mr. right don't you worry!
PS i hoped you didn't delete all your videos specially from russ and everything your viewers have watched and enjoyed from the past
So what was the outcome?
Been there, painful.
100% CUTE, MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
I haven't seen anything from you lately, Russ. And, I don't remember watching this vid before: but, yeah, that was a dick move, man. Heh. I'm going to say it was pure Marine mentality. I dated a Gay Marine once heh.
Russ I just saw this video and I got to say this to you. If your boyfriend loves you then he will forgive and get on with your relationship. I know it's hard to come out of the closet but it has to happen sometime. You seem like an amazing guy and if you were my guy I would not be afraid to show my love for you infront of people. Your partner needs to make that decision to wether he wants to move on or not but if he chooses not to then that's his problem cause you are great
Andrew Miller I married the love of my life and have never looked back I am gay and will never think enytining than I love him so much
If I was in the closet and you started dating me, I'd come out and scream to my mom "LOOK MOMMY! I BAGGED A GOOD ONE!" :P but I'm so out it doesn't even matter lol
Don't you want me baby!
Ironic isn't it - as gays, we belong to one of the most discriminated against groups in the world - and then we do the same thing to members of that same group.
i used to date a USCG commander who was in the closet it was horrible wotn ever date another liek that again
I've been talking to this guy from the army. i honestly think he's in the closet. he's so distant with me. I dont know what to do anymore
Let it go. Because if he really wanted to be with you, closet or no, he would find a way to make it happen. Even if it were just for the sex.
a surgeon u say?
Aw... you look so guilty... :S hope it resolved itself.
at 0.1 when your forming the word Russell, it looks like your are preparing for a kiss. that is so hot.
Hi Russell, like all your videos.. love the one of your house, and this one as well. You are so sweet and a very nice guy, very handsome and smart. Like that so much. I'll love to be your friend man! Take care and hope to know from you. Tommy
Agree with you. But, still, you did something that a person in a relationship would normally do, but for the homophobia that exists in the world. So maybe you shoukdnt have done that- but you weren't so very wrong to want to. but
hope to see you with your boyfriend together you seems like a humble sexy gentlemen
ur sooooo adorable i can't even
WAIT.. You knew he wasn't complety OUT yet you gave him a kiss in front of everybody. You said there was 200 people there, some ya knew and some ya didn't know. I think you put him and yourself in danger but pulling that stunt..
HEY, I'm a prior active duty Marine and totally understand how it is BUT it is not wise to do things like that. What if some breeder would have went Ape Sh*t and went cray?
BTW I know this video is was made two months ago :)
Dating someone who's still in the closet...?
Aint nobody got time for that. lol
If I were your bf, I might do the same.
Sorry for saying that.
ok, no offense, but that was a really dick move.. btw thanks for your contribution to the military..
Im in love with my best friend Steven Cannon. He is the love of my life.
uncool dude!!!!!