The problem with being intense, is that you're not giving him anything to work for or chase after. Remember...men are hunters! The harder they have to work for, the more they appreciate the prize!
@@zazlar4228 Correct. Just like the man have requirements he wants in a woman, preferences. I was married for 34 years to a good moral Christian man before he went to heaven.. my requirements was we agreed on the big things like Christian Faith morality, He was different than me, but I didn’t care about the differences. The little differences I want to make sure our worldview was the same and he also had to have character and integrity. His words matched his actions. American broke in fact I made more money than he did, but it didn’t matter because he was a good man. after we married I stayed home and had kids took care of all the household stuff and everything related to the kids while he worked and when he came home he had a very good organic healthy meal to eat. I had a big garden and I was involved in our Organic co-op long before Whole Foods. He never cheated. I never cheated because we believed the same thing as far as the Lord was watching us. And he made enough money and we had a small house used cars and that was fine. He did what he wanted to do and I could trust him because I knew him good enough that he would’ve never done like some of these men do cheat on their wives. he said he knew he wanted to marry me real quick well it wasn’t like that with me. I didn’t want to date him right off the bat but he just kept on so I decided I’d give him a chance but it took me a lot longer and eventually after year and a half, we got married. Sam, my requirements was not that he had to be over 6 feet or that he had to make a lot of money like some of the young women today that to me is unrealistic. Of men in fact people make less than 100 hundred thousand very few people make over 100 150,000. It’s best to look for the inner being of a person his character what he stands for because that’s what’s gonna last money can come and go and we all know that we all both get fat and skinny thru our lives.
In a society where most females lose their virginity before graduating from high school, the baseline standards for selecrion by men are very low and frequently centered around sexual gratification, and women dont seem to mind otherwise there would be less infanticide by plan b....levels, yup!
He can also be a narcissist love bombing. Lets use the correct terminology. Women take your time... Stop allowing men to have things so easily. We teach every thing in relationships other than abstinence. WAITING... Getting to know one another. Actually DATING rather than getting intimate so soon. Relationships are so much more than S3X.
That's what I was also thinking... who in their right mind would be with a predator as he said in the video, yeah 👋 bye... life's too precious to be wasting time with 'predators' 😂
Thinking like this sets u up for failure..the Narc also is persistent he/she will do everything rite for a long time to get your guard to go dwn..they keep other partners on the side so patience is not an issue..
Yea see these men try to sugarcoat it as something that’s not a big RED FLAG but this is imperative to know because they try to butter it up and paint it as something different to keep control over women. This is Narcissistic behavior!
Narcs don’t like boundaries, to slow things down you need to have consistent and solid boundaries. Narcs will get bored when they can’t force you into adoring them. Even people with just some narc traits will go away if you match them rather than chase and adore.. they can’t handle equal interactions for all that long. It creates too much insecurity for them.
No man is worth all this trouble and energy tho... Dating has gotten wayyy to complicated and selfish because of social media... One swipe to the left or right takes you immediately to another "situationship"...smh..🤦🏽♀️
And a mature person should be able to decipher and see through the fickleness of a swipe over someone who is there and genuinely loves and wants you. Only a fool would throw that away
@@zazlar4228black men have waay too many options across racial lines. Its always fish bitin in some part of the lake. You'll be dry and geriatric like Vivica Fox waiting on men to care about your abstention from the proverbial "coochie carousel"..✌️✌️✌️✌️👈👈🤣🤣🤣🤣
When he pauses, stops, goes silent all of that, I block and keep my energy up. I send the signal that I am not the one to wait because I know what it means. No hard feelings, I'm moving on too!
Playing with people feelings. Leading women on & then changing your mind. Lord, I pray that I never date a double minded man; that’s never stabled in all of his ways.
Exactly. Too many think that a woman was created to jump through hoops just to have a man. There are plenty of other things to do with the life God gave me.
Amen. Doubled minded man unstable in all their ways. We don't have to put up with this why they lust other women, and if she don't work out, he's back to where he started.
@@Nola5427they don't wonder. They know. They use confusion to get you talk to them again by explaining yourself. It's a con and women full of themselves think like you. That men out here that didn't want you enough to begin with, actually care when you back away. 😅
@@nayjavu It doesn' t mean you are full of yourself to think like that, plenty of times ppl do things to us and if we do it back they don' t like it and wonder why or they know why we did it, either way it bacfires because I don' t need or want a guy like that, gets old fast and I don' t play games, there are plenty of real men out there that don' t play games, can communicate and want a chance, no one should settle.
Usually that man that slows down be the one that wasn’t for you anyway . Once you realize who he really is you’ll be glad he disappeared then when you reunite with him and start looking at him for what he really is, you will find out he wasn’t worth the worry .
Exactly. I was waiting for him to give an example of them slowing down because you didn't have sex yet but I get most people build connections physically first so I guess he decided to pass on the closed leg possibility. 😅
When a man treats you like an OPTION it's because YOU ARE ONE!🤦♀🙄😒 Your time and energy doesn't mean sh*t to him! ESPECIALLY, IF Your TIME and ENERGY doesn't mean sh*t to you!🤷♀️ It DEFINITELY doesn't mean sh*t to him!!! #GetItGotItGOOD! 🙌
I was in this situation with someone I was so called engaged to. He showed me his patterns lol. I ended it within less than the time allowed. We were engaged one year, been involved for two. Within that time I broke up with him once. He didn’t approach me at all. I made the mistake to call him, and he thought we could resume as if nothing happened. I became logical and just broke it off. I dodged a bullet! A man will naturally chase a woman and will show deep interest. No head games, not hot and cold. Women and Men… please be direct. Especially women his actions are more important.
This is what happened to me, except even quicker! He put a ring on it fast! Then, he wanted to immediately get married! When I wouldn't comply with the timeline, all the other behavior in the video came along... I was minding my own business, until he showed up! Then, he started love bombing me! I'm not desperate! It's over! I'm praying for your heart to mend. It is sometimes difficult to navigate your feelings without closure. Be grateful that you got out before you jumped the broom! I know I am glad that I got out! Rejection is God's protection! 🙌🏾
I agree with your points but would like to add that some men say they are not ready for a serious relationship or not ready for the wonan not just because he does not want her it is to slow things down and give them more of what they do want which is SEX with NO strings attached. But I think it still will go back to what you said, he is saying no but saying it indirectly. Most men do not mind still having sex with you even though they are NOT looking to be in a relationship with you. At this age and stage I do what you advised, I match a mans efforts not his energy. Or just say Take care. I Refuse to chase love in 2024🎉
Yup. This part. Another issue is men like women need to heal from past traumas as well. Too many fear the next step because they stay in the past as well.
We have all these "good" men and wise women coming online sharing their knowledge and advice on how to avoid the predatory male, and now you have these women in their 40s and 50s who have fallen victim to those guys, and now they just want to be alone, or have no desire to even bother. Its sad what men do to good women who trust. Because even when you see what the male is doing, often a woman will still treat him like she wants to be treated until she's given all she has to give and decides to stop, but by then its too late. She's hurt, broken, in pain, and would just rather be single.
SOME MEN LIKE TO TEST YOU DONT FALL FOR IT DO THE OPPOSITE AND LOSE INTEREST CAUSE WHO PLAYS OR WASTE PEOPLE TIME EITHER YOUR INTERESTED OR NOT 🤷♀️ THEY LIKE TO TEST YOU DESPERATION OR WHAT YOU WILL ALLOW OR SETTLE FOR SO THEY CAN PUT YOU IN A BOX 📦
Jesus protect my children both of my sons are special needs. I’m overwhelmed because I’m on my own as a single mother. My husband passed many years ago. I have no one to turn to, but God. Heavenly Father. Give me strength as I struggle to buy groceries, and as I struggle to pay rent every month is a struggle and I’m in fear of losing my home. Please keep my sons safe and protect us from the evil ones of this world. 💕
This is a very nice video and out of the majority of male guru online i think this guy is one the few that understand the psyche of a woman and he explains a mans mental very well
@beb5407 Alot of things are smoke & mirrors. I had a guy I was interacting with, he had a 3 bdrm house, a Benz. Porche suv & Buick. He was stingy & cheap as hell the 2 times I hung out with him. IDK if he's having financial problems or just cheap. Either way I'm not going to stick around to find out.
Mister Kirk Your TEACHINGS AND WISDOM ARE GOLDEN!!! ❤ 💯💣THANK YOU For UNFOLDING THE TRUTH About This Emotional Manipulation. Which Goes Both Ways. As A Woman We Can Easily Get Caught Up With Emotions (Lies) Of What The Brain And Our Past Tries To Keep Us In… I’ve Grown So Much From Your Wisdom 🙏🏾❤️👏🏾👏🏾
Ladies focus on yourself , become the best version of yourself and that’s it. Most men are so disconnected from themselves that expecting them to be better to you is just not worth it! Men will always be there find your glow
Nahhhh. That's why he slowed down. Because he couldn't get me were he wanted. I fck his ego up. He seen I wasn't desperate. That's why he's all over the place. Because he's lost. He's after every woman over here. They chase and I'm sleep.😅😅😅😅😅😅
Why are we as women asking certain men about ALL MEN! The majority of men are saying, this is another reason we are so CONFUSED. I f you really want to know how men behave, pay attention to Men, plural.. Please seek honest answers to honest questions. My Uncle used to say. "A bee never asks a ant how to fly" 😊
“Don’t match the energy. Match the effort.” There’s a difference. Think about it with your mind not your feelings and circle back…wait for it… to yourself. It’s better to be the one that got away rather than the one that won’t leave no matter what.
Left eye from the R&B group TLC said it best. They only really want it when they know they can't have it. That's some of the problems of those types of men think you're not going nowhere..
This guy started off strong & we never hung out in person. Soon as I decide to hang with him he flakes and then text me the day after apologizing for canceling but did not even say anything the day of. Cut off lol I have no time for mind games
Thank you for sharing your advice with us. I recently had a run-in with a predator like you're talking about but once I quickly discovered what he was about I knew I would have to let him go even though he tries to call us friends to keep the door open I guess.
So True i met this guy, he was like telling me he could fix anything for me , because i told him im lonely,my husband passed away. Well long story short he was so helpful and nice and after about a year ,he finally caved in and started to say hes a broken man,has no money, hes a A hole and told me i should find another boyfriend,blah ,blah blah. Im am so confused and exhausted. We never had sex ,but he told me i was a goddess and he loved me.!??? My heart is so sad ,why play with me like that.😢
@lumity238 It may all be true. He loves you but doesn't want to hurt you. Sounds to me that he is telling you that he doesn't have what is takes to maintain a relationship. Maybe he has met someone he wants to explore. You can ask yourself "Reveal his true character to me" and it will be shown to you. Wishing you the best!
Hello Kirk!👋 Thank You for the truth! I appreciate u greatly. We need more men like u. It's a 2-way street, not one. Keep it coming! 🔥💯🥰🤗🤗 Ps wish people didn't play these games. We all need love but why smh. Oh boy! Lol
I am not moved by his movements.... I have learned to depend on me. Yet... Loving... Kind... etc. I have learned this lesson... I am not easily won over, and, at all cost to focus on my life... Which does not leave any time for gameplay... There is a man that has been my faithful friend and has desired me for 16 years.... No intimacy by my choosing. ❤... He's very kind and very patient. He cannot do too much for me. We respect each other... And I am there for him as well.
This is so helpful. I’m going through this right now and am so glad that I’ve decided to end things. I’ve allowed him to take me on a roller coaster more than once and this is the last straw.
Great advice! I could have used this lesson along time ago!... There would have been alot less pain and wasted time in my life! Thank you for your Honesty...I had to learn the hard way!... Ladies EVERYWHERE listen to the MAN! Save yourself some Heartache and time! Embrace your individuality! It is okay to be alone until you take the time to find TRUE LOVE in an Age where Ego is as Dominate as their tangled web of lies and Deceptions...both Men and Women! The TRUTH shall set you free! Be real! Be Authentic! Be YOU! Be Truthful above EVERYTHING ELSE... Much Love and Light, Peace and Unity Brothers and Sisters of the World
The best thing in my opinion you have ever said “ a man will do for the woman he wants “ that right there should be part of what women should be taught at a young age . Because it is sooooo true , it would save women from a broken heart if we truly understood the power in that phrase .
Mr. Kirk! You're God sent. Thank you for setting me free! God is ussing you mightily. You're the only relationship coach that is hitting it on the nail everytime. 🎉
Damn - this is some hard core truths right here. Wish I heard this before waiting for almost 8 years for my man to go back to that original state and action place where he was when I fell him with him. Sigh. #SomeLessonsAreHardLearned.
I'm smiling from ear to ear because thanks to your previous advice, I finally understand this. I'm proud of myself for not taking the lead when he stops like I used to do. It's all common sense once you use logic & not emotions. Thank you
So many of us women have become so comfortable being alone that we learn to mirror the guy, which in turn emasculates him. Then we get the whole "be a woman" "be soft" "be submissive" BS and when we don't follow suit, they lose interest because they realize they can't get over on us. It becomes a viscous cycle and keeps black people single because no one puts in the work and no one is willing to bend to make things work. It's really quite sad. Myself included
I match my mans energy. I dont know why. If they pull back then so do I.
Same lol it’s very natural
Same!!!
Me too. If you show low to no effect then I do the same.
Me too
Idk if I watching you or video rn….🙄😩😂😂 sorry🦋
This is why I mirror a man…If he’s intense , I’m intense, if he retreats, I retreat…Simple… I will NEVA chase a man
- Vivica Fox at 60.👀👀👈👈😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@MisterNegusorrrr...someone with boundaries. Did you notice, in the video, the man said, "Do not chase a man"?
The problem with being intense, is that you're not giving him anything to work for or chase after. Remember...men are hunters! The harder they have to work for, the more they appreciate the prize!
That part.
Women think with your head first. If he doesn't match your requirements then end it asap. Don't force anything
Yes, they don't say they're at first bc they want sex.
Your requirements are not his obligations. Requirements HAVE to be realistic and rational and communicated
@@zazlar4228 Correct. Just like the man have requirements he wants in a woman, preferences. I was married for 34 years to a good moral Christian man before he went to heaven.. my requirements was we agreed on the big things like Christian Faith morality, He was different than me, but I didn’t care about the differences. The little differences I want to make sure our worldview was the same and he also had to have character and integrity. His words matched his actions. American broke in fact I made more money than he did, but it didn’t matter because he was a good man. after we married I stayed home and had kids took care of all the household stuff and everything related to the kids while he worked and when he came home he had a very good organic healthy meal to eat. I had a big garden and I was involved in our Organic co-op long before Whole Foods. He never cheated. I never cheated because we believed the same thing as far as the Lord was watching us. And he made enough money and we had a small house used cars and that was fine. He did what he wanted to do and I could trust him because I knew him good enough that he would’ve never done like some of these men do cheat on their wives. he said he knew he wanted to marry me real quick well it wasn’t like that with me. I didn’t want to date him right off the bat but he just kept on so I decided I’d give him a chance but it took me a lot longer and eventually after year and a half, we got married. Sam, my requirements was not that he had to be over 6 feet or that he had to make a lot of money like some of the young women today that to me is unrealistic. Of men in fact people make less than 100 hundred thousand very few people make over 100 150,000. It’s best to look for the inner being of a person his character what he stands for because that’s what’s gonna last money can come and go and we all know that we all both get fat and skinny thru our lives.
Exactly!
In a society where most females lose their virginity before graduating from high school, the baseline standards for selecrion by men are very low and frequently centered around sexual gratification, and women dont seem to mind otherwise there would be less infanticide by plan b....levels, yup!
He can also be a narcissist love bombing. Lets use the correct terminology. Women take your time... Stop allowing men to have things so easily. We teach every thing in relationships other than abstinence. WAITING... Getting to know one another. Actually DATING rather than getting intimate so soon. Relationships are so much more than S3X.
That's what I was also thinking... who in their right mind would be with a predator as he said in the video, yeah 👋 bye... life's too precious to be wasting time with 'predators' 😂
Thinking like this sets u up for failure..the Narc also is persistent he/she will do everything rite for a long time to get your guard to go dwn..they keep other partners on the side so patience is not an issue..
Yesssss!! I just experienced this! Wow! I’m so glad I had the awareness and common sense to dodge that bullet!!💯💯💯
Yea see these men try to sugarcoat it as something that’s not a big RED FLAG but this is imperative to know because they try to butter it up and paint it as something different to keep control over women. This is Narcissistic behavior!
Narcs don’t like boundaries, to slow things down you need to have consistent and solid boundaries. Narcs will get bored when they can’t force you into adoring them. Even people with just some narc traits will go away if you match them rather than chase and adore.. they can’t handle equal interactions for all that long. It creates too much insecurity for them.
No man is worth all this trouble and energy tho...
Dating has gotten wayyy to complicated and selfish because of social media...
One swipe to the left or right takes you immediately to another "situationship"...smh..🤦🏽♀️
Sad but True....smh...
And a mature person should be able to decipher and see through the fickleness of a swipe over someone who is there and genuinely loves and wants you. Only a fool would throw that away
@@zazlar4228black men have waay too many options across racial lines. Its always fish bitin in some part of the lake. You'll be dry and geriatric like Vivica Fox waiting on men to care about your abstention from the proverbial "coochie carousel"..✌️✌️✌️✌️👈👈🤣🤣🤣🤣
Indecisiveness = NO
Mixed Signal = NO
Silence = NO
Absence = NO
No Answer = NO
Pause = NO
Wait = NO
I’m not ready = NO
Yep! 😂
Very sound advice and make so much sense but we women want to think otherwise 🤔
Lol
Yup!!!!
Vivica A. Fox (where the "A" is for ALONE) at 60, Yup. 😂😂😂😂
When he pauses, stops, goes silent all of that, I block and keep my energy up. I send the signal that I am not the one to wait because I know what it means. No hard feelings, I'm moving on too!
🎯THIS.⬆️⬆️⬆️.RIGHT.⬆️HERE⬆️ 💯
❤
Such good and true description of narcissistic tendencies, the narcissist will marry you then come to a complete stop...
@@survived1643whew ! That’s gotta be the worst. Like a trap 🪤
say that🗣️🗣️💯💯
Playing with people feelings. Leading women on & then changing your mind. Lord, I pray that I never date a double minded man; that’s never stabled in all of his ways.
Leading someone on and changing your mind are 2 different things. Interesting that's all you heard.
Exactly. Too many think that a woman was created to jump through hoops just to have a man. There are plenty of other things to do with the life God gave me.
Amen. Doubled minded man unstable in all their ways. We don't have to put up with this why they lust other women, and if she don't work out, he's back to where he started.
When he slows down, I fall back all the way and then leave. I won't reach out...especially when he goes hot and cold. I immediately go cold.
Then they don' t like it and wonder why we did that, smh 🙄
@@Nola5427they don't wonder. They know. They use confusion to get you talk to them again by explaining yourself. It's a con and women full of themselves think like you. That men out here that didn't want you enough to begin with, actually care when you back away. 😅
@@nayjavu It doesn' t mean you are full of yourself to think like that, plenty of times ppl do things to us and if we do it back they don' t like it and wonder why or they know why we did it, either way it bacfires because I don' t need or want a guy like that, gets old fast and I don' t play games, there are plenty of real men out there that don' t play games, can communicate and want a chance, no one should settle.
And the body count continues to mount annually 😂😂😂😂😂
Usually that man that slows down be the one that wasn’t for you anyway . Once you realize who he really is you’ll be glad he disappeared then when you reunite with him and start looking at him for what he really is, you will find out he wasn’t worth the worry .
That Part!!!
@dollybenton1112,no reunite,from intially u found out who he is that is it 'Redflag' move on😅
I agree, very well said.
Straight facts!
That means don't open your legs to soon as well...
At all😂😂😂 Just get them dinners lol
Exactly. I was waiting for him to give an example of them slowing down because you didn't have sex yet but I get most people build connections physically first so I guess he decided to pass on the closed leg possibility. 😅
Gotta stop giving it to them!! Once they have post nut clarity they KNOW you aren’t the one for them.
Exactly
@@2_blAck..From the Vivica Fox (pathetic and alone) at 60 think tank🤣🤣🤣
Self control needs to be exercised with both sexes regardless of hormones or attraction.
This came at the right time because I’m experiencing this right now 🙄
✋🏾👌🏾😢
Frfr
Literally, right now🤞🏽
Bl9ck and leave
Dang same here this was meant for me to see 1st thing when I opened CZcams
Ladies, don't ever be afraid or ashamed to admit you were wrong. Be honest with yourself, let go of what you know will never work and move on.
I was crazy about him, but as soon as I noticed a slight change, I was gone. I refuse to play those games.
@kimberlyblunt,exactly
Yes ma’am
It's hard..but definitely necessary! Keep it moving.
You let go and I’ll let go too 🙌🏾- Lauryn Hill
😅😅😅
Thank you! I now understand those lyrics!
Sound like lust, not real love. Game playing, ain’t got time for it.
That part!!!
Or A full blown Narcissist
🎤
I’ve noticed that recently. People are pursuing the dating field in lust, not love. Major difference
A pain in the 🍑 it's like like dealing with a child, no thanks.
Never LET A MAN TELL YOU TWICE THAT HE DOESNT WANT YOU. MEN ALWAYS KNOW WHEN THEY A BABY WHEN AND WHO THEY WANT TO MARRY. NEVER EVER CHASE A MAN.
When a man treats you like an OPTION it's because YOU ARE ONE!🤦♀🙄😒 Your time and energy doesn't mean sh*t to him! ESPECIALLY, IF Your TIME and ENERGY doesn't mean sh*t to you!🤷♀️ It DEFINITELY doesn't mean sh*t to him!!! #GetItGotItGOOD! 🙌
The best response EVER!!!! In my opinion 😊
Ladies know your Worth
. Too many are desperate, needy and lonely. Don't be like this. You should be able to be alone if you need to. Be patient
This should be shown to EVERY. WOMAN.OUT.THERE. Period, it means no.
I was in this situation with someone I was so called engaged to. He showed me his patterns lol. I ended it within less than the time allowed. We were engaged one year, been involved for two. Within that time I broke up with him once. He didn’t approach me at all. I made the mistake to call him, and he thought we could resume as if nothing happened. I became logical and just broke it off. I dodged a bullet! A man will naturally chase a woman and will show deep interest. No head games, not hot and cold. Women and Men… please be direct. Especially women his actions are more important.
This is what happened to me, except even quicker! He put a ring on it fast! Then, he wanted to immediately get married! When I wouldn't comply with the timeline, all the other behavior in the video came along... I was minding my own business, until he showed up! Then, he started love bombing me! I'm not desperate! It's over!
I'm praying for your heart to mend. It is sometimes difficult to navigate your feelings without closure. Be grateful that you got out before you jumped the broom! I know I am glad that I got out! Rejection is God's protection! 🙌🏾
I agree with your points but would like to add that some men say they are not ready for a serious relationship or not ready for the wonan not just because he does not want her it is to slow things down and give them more of what they do want which is SEX with NO strings attached. But I think it still will go back to what you said, he is saying no but saying it indirectly. Most men do not mind still having sex with you even though they are NOT looking to be in a relationship with you. At this age and stage I do what you advised, I match a mans efforts not his energy. Or just say Take care. I Refuse to chase love in 2024🎉
Wow. Ty for that.
Yup. This part. Another issue is men like women need to heal from past traumas as well. Too many fear the next step because they stay in the past as well.
@chrishanswann433,so true
Block and delete is my best sign language. Peace am out ✌🏽
@tashbrown1237,so true only answer ,less stress
😅😅😅
We have all these "good" men and wise women coming online sharing their knowledge and advice on how to avoid the predatory male, and now you have these women in their 40s and 50s who have fallen victim to those guys, and now they just want to be alone, or have no desire to even bother. Its sad what men do to good women who trust. Because even when you see what the male is doing, often a woman will still treat him like she wants to be treated until she's given all she has to give and decides to stop, but by then its too late. She's hurt, broken, in pain, and would just rather be single.
💯💯💯💯💯
Absolute Truth
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SOME MEN LIKE TO TEST YOU DONT FALL FOR IT DO THE OPPOSITE AND LOSE INTEREST CAUSE WHO PLAYS OR WASTE PEOPLE TIME EITHER YOUR INTERESTED OR NOT 🤷♀️ THEY LIKE TO TEST YOU DESPERATION OR WHAT YOU WILL ALLOW OR SETTLE FOR SO THEY CAN PUT YOU IN A BOX 📦
Jesus protect my children both of my sons are special needs. I’m overwhelmed because I’m on my own as a single mother. My husband passed many years ago. I have no one to turn to, but God. Heavenly Father. Give me strength as I struggle to buy groceries, and as I struggle to pay rent every month is a struggle and I’m in fear of losing my home. Please keep my sons safe and protect us from the evil ones of this world. 💕
It is well with you 🙏 don't look at yr circumstances look at how great God is
This is a very nice video and out of the majority of male guru online i think this guy is one the few that understand the psyche of a woman and he explains a mans mental very well
Thank you so much🙏🏾🙏🏾
What he's "explaining" is games lol
My dad once told me that consistency is the way to know that a man is serious 😊
Stop waiting and 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️
We let people do this to us. " feelings" Wish sometimes I didn't have them lol
yesss!!!!!!!!
He can "make sure" without me.
This why dating is stupid
All these rules and stuff for what?
Another person just ain't worth all that
Are you a predator or a prey?😢
I had a guy do me like that. At first, he grooms me. Later own he says he's broke and doesn't have any money
Whew trying to date a broke guy is miserable
He been broke he was just fronting from the beginning
@beb5407
Alot of things are smoke & mirrors. I had a guy I was interacting with, he had a 3 bdrm house, a Benz. Porche suv & Buick. He was stingy & cheap as hell the 2 times I hung out with him. IDK if he's having financial problems or just cheap. Either way I'm not going to stick around to find out.
Facts ❤My dad always said go by the actions. Keep dating intentionally until you get married.
Mister Kirk Your TEACHINGS AND WISDOM ARE GOLDEN!!! ❤ 💯💣THANK YOU For UNFOLDING THE TRUTH About This Emotional Manipulation. Which Goes Both Ways. As A Woman We Can Easily Get Caught Up With Emotions (Lies) Of What The Brain And Our Past Tries To Keep Us In… I’ve Grown So Much From Your Wisdom 🙏🏾❤️👏🏾👏🏾
Ladies focus on yourself , become the best version of yourself and that’s it. Most men are so disconnected from themselves that expecting them to be better to you is just not worth it! Men will always be there find your glow
Agree!!! Crazy thing, when they play tug and pull. Once I let go of the rope! They come full force. By that time I’ve lost interest
Accept its a no and not the end of the world!!😊
Nahhhh. That's why he slowed down. Because he couldn't get me were he wanted. I fck his ego up. He seen I wasn't desperate. That's why he's all over the place. Because he's lost. He's after every woman over here. They chase and I'm sleep.😅😅😅😅😅😅
Ouuu oooouuu! 😂😂😂😂😂
@@timekabolden5309 thanks Meoww
You better say it you said something then lady 🤣🤣
@@TonyaAtkins-yb9oh thanks Meoww
PERIOD! 💯💯💯✌🏽
It took me 50 something years to finally learn to love myself first and get to know me. What I want and what I don’t want.
Why are we as women asking certain men about ALL MEN! The majority of men are saying, this is another reason we are so CONFUSED. I f you really want to know how men behave, pay attention to Men, plural.. Please seek honest answers to honest questions. My Uncle used to say. "A bee never asks a ant how to fly" 😊
“Don’t match the energy. Match the effort.” There’s a difference. Think about it with your mind not your feelings and circle back…wait for it… to yourself. It’s better to be the one that got away rather than the one that won’t leave no matter what.
Left eye from the R&B group TLC said it best. They only really want it when they know they can't have it. That's some of the problems of those types of men think you're not going nowhere..
I SWEAR HE SEEN MY RECENT SITUATION!! DAMN!! 😮 OMG!!! BROOO! EVERYDAY HE COMES UP WITH WHAT'S GOING ON CURRENTLY! 😮😮😮
And remember the devil is the God of Confusion 👿
This guy started off strong & we never hung out in person. Soon as I decide to hang with him he flakes and then text me the day after apologizing for canceling but did not even say anything the day of. Cut off lol I have no time for mind games
Thank you for sharing your advice with us. I recently had a run-in with a predator like you're talking about but once I quickly discovered what he was about I knew I would have to let him go even though he tries to call us friends to keep the door open I guess.
So True i met this guy, he was like telling me he could fix anything for me , because i told him im lonely,my husband passed away. Well long story short he was so helpful and nice and after about a year ,he finally caved in and started to say hes a broken man,has no money, hes a A hole and told me i should find another boyfriend,blah ,blah blah.
Im am so confused and exhausted. We never had sex ,but he told me i was a goddess and he loved me.!???
My heart is so sad ,why play with me like that.😢
Run!! Don't Collect
@@johngreen5623 Yes
@lumity238 It may all be true. He loves you but doesn't want to hurt you. Sounds to me that he is telling you that he doesn't have what is takes to maintain a relationship. Maybe he has met someone he wants to explore. You can ask yourself "Reveal his true character to me" and it will be shown to you. Wishing you the best!
He gets bored in the midst of the journey like everyone else.
Hello Kirk!👋 Thank You for the truth! I appreciate u greatly. We need more men like u. It's a 2-way street, not one. Keep it coming! 🔥💯🥰🤗🤗
Ps wish people didn't play these games. We all need love but why smh. Oh boy! Lol
THIS IS/WAS THE BEST BREAKDOWN/EXPLANATION EVER ‼️‼️‼️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I listened to the ending part concerning what means NO from a man so I can get it and keep it in my head to protect my peace when dealing with a man .
WRITE IT DOWN! ✍️
I am not moved by his movements.... I have learned to depend on me. Yet... Loving... Kind... etc. I have learned this lesson... I am not easily won over, and, at all cost to focus on my life... Which does not leave any time for gameplay... There is a man that has been my faithful friend and has desired me for 16 years.... No intimacy by my choosing. ❤... He's very kind and very patient. He cannot do too much for me. We respect each other... And I am there for him as well.
He is speaking the truth. I lived it, but had to learn for myself. That type of treatment will not happen again to me.
Thats the funny thing it does'nt matter how much we hear we just have to learn it for our selves.
You're telling the truth. I thank the Lord for the men in my family for talking and teaching me.
This is so helpful. I’m going through this right now and am so glad that I’ve decided to end things. I’ve allowed him to take me on a roller coaster more than once and this is the last straw.
That was me that asked you that and he has done it again. I have not heard from him in 5 days now. Well I am done with it. 😅😂
Recently me
Same. I'm on day 9. 😩😭😆🤣🤣🤣🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@timekabolden5309 I will not call him. My mom always said if a man wants you he will call you 🙄 😒.
Appreciate the information Kirk is giving. Its very helpful! It helps me recognize predators out here!
I came across your channel today and am soo glad I did. You speak facts.
You are SPOT ON. Thank you!!!
You are so wise! I’m happy I found your channel ❤, keep up the good job, Sir. I love your energy even through the screen.
Great advice! I could have used this lesson along time ago!... There would have been alot less pain and wasted time in my life! Thank you for your Honesty...I had to learn the hard way!... Ladies EVERYWHERE listen to the MAN! Save yourself some Heartache and time! Embrace your individuality! It is okay to be alone until you take the time to find TRUE LOVE in an Age where Ego is as Dominate as their tangled web of lies and Deceptions...both Men and Women! The TRUTH shall set you free! Be real! Be Authentic! Be YOU! Be Truthful above EVERYTHING ELSE... Much Love and Light, Peace and Unity Brothers and Sisters of the World
Thank you SO MUCH
Kirk!
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This is Brilliant and Right on Time, Kirk. Just great!!😊 Your teachings are on point.🎯 I'm listening, learning and applying!!
Thank you so much!!❤
MESSAGE RECEIVED!💯 Thank you Kirk!
This is so insightful Brother Kirk. Thank you 😊
The realest I believe I've heard a modern day man speak
You are speaking a hundred percent facts. Thank you so much ❤
Wow! You are so on point with this video!! Straight facts!!💯💯💯💯
My Gid. You are so needed
Silence is a "No." Thanks for sharing the male perspective.
The best thing in my opinion you have ever said “ a man will do for the woman he wants “ that right there should be part of what women should be taught at a young age . Because it is sooooo true , it would save women from a broken heart if we truly understood the power in that phrase .
You ain't never lied my brother and for that, I thank you!
Absolutely Truth 💯, Us Women Need to Pay Attention to what You are Saying! Very Poignant Message. Thank You ‼️
Thanks for the confirmation, Kirk. Subscribed. One ❤
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 you told no lies !!!!!
This is absolutely true!!!! Learn the art of letting go ladies, the sad thing is most men move just like this!
Mr. Kirk! You're God sent. Thank you for setting me free! God is ussing you mightily. You're the only relationship coach that is hitting it on the nail everytime. 🎉
Match his efforts.... point blank got it🎯
You hit it on the point every time. Omg I love listening to you
Thank you so much
I love your content. You are so wise!❤
Thanks for this video.❤It came at the right time.
Thank you for your honesty
You are speaking straight facts 1000% !!!
Preach young man! ❤
Out here saving lives. From a woman who's tried it all's perspective, this tracks and is clairty on a platter. Thanks!
Damn - this is some hard core truths right here. Wish I heard this before waiting for almost 8 years for my man to go back to that original state and action place where he was when I fell him with him. Sigh. #SomeLessonsAreHardLearned.
It’s okay 🥹 he changed his mind! It’s the heartbreak phase that hurts. I’m a over-thinker for sure .
I'm smiling from ear to ear because thanks to your previous advice, I finally understand this. I'm proud of myself for not taking the lead when he stops like I used to do. It's all common sense once you use logic & not emotions. Thank you
Thank you! It ALL means no. Definitely will help with our mental health. No more confusion and trying to figure him out.
Thank you, really appreciate this
I just love this guy😂
Thank you Koncious Kirk!! You are the Best!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥☀️🎉❤️🖤💚
Awwe. Thank you 🥰
So many of us women have become so comfortable being alone that we learn to mirror the guy, which in turn emasculates him. Then we get the whole "be a woman" "be soft" "be submissive" BS and when we don't follow suit, they lose interest because they realize they can't get over on us. It becomes a viscous cycle and keeps black people single because no one puts in the work and no one is willing to bend to make things work. It's really quite sad. Myself included
Very interesting
So so true🎯🎯I agree with you🎯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Thank you👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽for this confirmation 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽😇
1st one to coment. Thanks for the advices from Ireland.😊
love this advice. such wisdom thank you.
Thank you for the distinction between Men and Predators. Great Video.
Thank you! This makes a lot of sense. ✨🙏🏻✨
Thank you so much, you really are saving lives ❤
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