Ask Dr. Tony - February 2023
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- Subjects Addressed in this Episode:
Diagnosis
- ASD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder - Starts at: 1:51
- Myers Briggs and ASD - Starts at: 3:48
- Telling the family they have it too! - Starts at: 5:48
Living with Autism
- Estrangement and ASD - Starts at: 9:57
- Common physical health problems - Starts at: 13:17
- Psychosis and autism. What's the difference? - Starts at: 15:25
Depression
- "How do I deal with this?" - Starts at: 29:12
Catastrophizing and Anxiety
- "Help!" - Starts at: 33:49
Masking and Making and Keeping Friends
- Multiple masks for different audiences - Starts at: 38:19
Empathetic Attunement
- ASD and animal love - Starts at: 42:37
Intimacy Dating Sex and Marriage
- "Neither of us like the idea of a wedding" - Starts at: 46:51
- Asperger's and PTSD - Starts at: 50:26
If you'd like to submit a question, please fill out the "Question Form" found at www.autismhangout.com. Due to the high number of questions received, we may not be able to include them all.
Regarding animals: I'm on the spectrum (used to be called aspergers) I love animals because they accept me for who I am and I don't have to try so hard to put on a mask when I'm with them. They don't judge me if I'm exhausted and stay in my pj's for days, they don't tell me to put my big girl pants on if I'm upset, they don't give unsolicited advice or platitudes such as "it could be worse" "it all happens for a reason" etc... they are just simply there. I never feel lonely with my four rabbits around! 😊 I've been obsessed with rabbits since I was a child and read every book in the library, every article in magazines/encyclopaedias and my parents used to take me around different libraries and bookshops and id often ask the librarians to order books about rabbits for me and id even pop in the local vetsbto ask questions about them.(no Internet in those days). Even now I'm the same and also have rabbit themed decorations such as ornaments, throws, lamps, bedding, curtains, cushions and I've also started making my own out of clay. I can also...dare I say... *rabbit* on for hours about them! 😁
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Regarding loneliness as the cause of depression in ASD, I personally feel loneliest in larger groups and least lonely alone or with one of my few close friends.
I can sincerily relate here. but the loneliness impression in such context - if arising so, as rather usual - usually is triggered in registering to not belong to the crowd at virtually all. eg in realising that the only connection to anyone else is 'etheral' as in listening to, and enjoying the 'same' music as actually performed of stage. or in other settings, filled with small talk chatter etc. or eg, as for me, I'm a highly passionate argentine tango dancer, in particular attracted by highly differentiated repertory of 40s and 50s, but even if I dance for 8..10 hours a day during events, I'm mostly on the pista, in non-verbal setting-of-two, in control of high detailed improvisation play (in leading role, obviously).
Yes! Thank you. All of this. During my testing, I said yes to the do you intend to deceive me because the mask is technically a lie and I can't help but to deceive you becauseI can't take the mask off. After the testing, I told the doctor that whoever created these tests must accept a certain level lying to be acceptable. Also, yes to autistic individual not be admitted to a psych hospital. I discovered this June after my dog died of bone cancer, how much I pick up on the physical and emotional environment of others. So much so, I have retreated to my home because I don't know how to interact with people in the world without being infected by their emotional and physical states. There are no noise canceling headphones for that.
It would be even harder for the survey makers to be prepared to !handle the truth.
Wow, thank you
As for animals, totally agree. I'm ASD and am also a wildlife rehabilitator. I specialize in raising and releasing orphaned baby tree squirrels. It's very rewarding and therapeutic. I talk to my animals, both pets and rehabs, I probably look crazy to an outsider, but I talk more to my animals than I do to people
You found your calling! CONGRATS!! I prolly also talk more to animals than people. Do trees count too?
About the wedding:
1. I have attended a wedding online. It was short and almost pain free. They exist.
2. Just elope if you feel like it. 😊
3. If you cannot get around it come to Sweden -> Stockholm -> Skansen museum. Once a year they do mass weddings. In total it’s one huge party, but each pair has much less hassle/cost with it. Their family gets the party they want without you needing to be their ’babysitter’ (sorry for the negative connotation). And you don’t need a one-time-use dress!
Happy marriage!
I wanted to touch on one point, which is the pain threshold. From my point of view, it is not the threshold it is the communication of the pain ( Black and white, 0 or 1 thinking). I would argue that pain is felt much earlier than most people due to high sensory ability. Communication is ignored. It does not mean that the autistic person is not aware. They are fully aware of everything around them and their own feelings. Just not communicating it as expected. This can also mean that over-communication can happen e.g everything hurts or nothing hurts.
I completely relate to animal empathy. It's been this way my entire life
This man is a godsend.
My take on narcissism and autism: It's hard being constantly told or telegraphed that you're 'weird' as a young child. The judgment from the world is that "weird" is "bad". As you'd expect, we struggle with this "weird/bad" designation, but eventually, we have to accept it but adapt to "weird/good/special" and yes, as Tony says, sometimes even "superior". Importantly, however, we're not born thinking we're different - the world TELLS us we are and we deal with it as best we can.
A narcissist doesn't need anyone to tell them they are different and superior, they know this themselves. No one has to tell them. Of course, the kids who bully and torment us by calling us weird, are trying to hurt us. So when we accept and adjust the insult into a kind of compliment, they are outraged. Then they shout, "Who do you think you are!?"
I think a lot of kids with personality disorders are diagnosed 1st with autism as superficially, on the surface, the symptoms are similar: social difficulties, withdrawal, etc. The difference is, kids with autism care very much about this exclusion. Psychopaths don't. But in school, both are clumped together.
I'm autistic, and I'm an INFJ. I also saw a video where an autistic CZcamsr, who was also an INFJ, asked for us to put in the comments what they tested as. Many were INFJ. For some reason that personality type seems very common with the aspire crowd...
I loved your explanation of the difference between psychosis and autism. I got misdiagnosed with schizoaffective disorder before I got my true diagnosis. I always make sure people know that when I'm talking to myself, I know I'm talking to MYSELF and I know I'm alone. And there's only one me. I hated being in hospital. It was scary! I've had tests for schizophrenia and all its relatives and am not even close to being a possibility of any. I'm sorry for people that get stuck with that label unfairly...
Dr. Tony thank so very much
you healed a piece of my heart that longs to hear my son's voice
Estranged since covid started
I continue to send letters and pray that someday he will call
So appreciative of your video !!
Thankyou both for making these videos. They are invaluable in helping us better understand ourselves when so much of ASD remains a mystery, even to those of us on the spectrum!
I sure miss these. Hoping for a new one soon 🙏. Thanks for all you’ve done so far Dr Tony and Mr. Evans.
Working on one. Will film/post in early November.
Thanks for making these videos. I have Aspergers syndrome & depression, and these videos with Dr Attwood have been very informative and useful.
Wonderfully inclusive content ! 😌
Such kindnesses
not inclusive they only talk about aspergers like 2 and 3 don't exist
@@princessadora thanks for interacting with my post 🙂
I perceive as kind inclusiveness in dr t’s videos. 😌 safe to listen to
@@princessadora There are other episodes which adress the other types too. The audience (and people asking questions) seem to be mostly Aspergers. But this channel is inclusive 😊.
P.S. I don't want to open the discussion about terminology... My personal opinion is everybody should be free.... Type XY, Aspergers, Aspie, ASD, whatever.
@@princessadora rubbish it is inclusive but also those with Aspergers are discriminated against far more
I have just watched this after a visit to a doctor who for once seemed to understand me! Here I am a soon to be 73 year old woman with ASD and Dr Tony has been a lifeline. I’ve been saying yes yes yes all the way through especially at 20 minutes but my diagnosis has put my growing up into a framework of recognition of traits and makes me sad there was no help. There’s very little help now but I’ve lived a lifetime of difference and am now determined to be me! So thank you for autism hangout. I just wish Uk could learn from Dr Tony and now I’m here particularly Scotland. Janice
I've just recently found Tony, after a suggestion from an ASD friend, as I have autistic traits, but because everyone is more focused on my Bipolar &, only recently, ADHD - he has really inspired me & help me pluck up the courage to discuss further with my psychiatrist - late diagnosis for me... Also a fellow Scot! 🐱✌️🙏💯🌱❤️
Edit: Dr. T makes me cry as he mentioned summertime in Australia... cold, rainy, foggy, dark times where I live.
Edit II: Okay, Dr. T. had been in Europe, too 😂
I've had a horrible day today and this episode will calm me down. Because of people/psychiatry-psychotherapy/ autism is one of my special interests and because of feeling validated and accepted looking your Videos. Thanks Craig Evans, Dr. Tony and all people supporting this channel.
I live in Australia and the sensory processing difficulties which I have are around bright sunlight. I find it very difficult to function in the daylight hours here. I would dearly love to live in a dark, rainy climate ❤ 🌧️
@@buttercxpdraws8101 Oh, that's an issue, I understand! Do you have sunglasses (I think you do in Australia). I have issues with artificial light, not sunlight. Last year - after my diagnosis - I bought my first glasses (wearing medical glasses since elementary school) with a light tint always and + automatic UV adaption. Very helpful!
What are your strategies? Wearing caps or something?
It's everytime interesting to hear about the different issues all over the world!
@@buttercxpdraws8101 I have been enjoying the mild summer that Sydney has had this year. Many cloudy days, moderate temperature. It is a bit hotter at the moment, but nowhere near boiling. I always wear sunglasses outside -- my optometrist was insistent about that (cataracts). I am finding bright light even worse now that I am getting close to needing cataract surgery. I always had the fluorescent lights switched off in my office at work, and my home office has muted lights pointing away from me, so I just get soft reflected light. I would definitely suggest polaroid sunglasses if you don't have them -- cuts down the glare.
Thanks so much for providing the opportunity for people to receive cutting edge and up to date info on autism. 👏💕🌻
This series is my favourite content on all of YT! Bless you both, Craig and Dr. T!! I really enjoy watching you guys 'cos of your great chemistry and friendship too. It shines through the screen each time :D I definitely get a "cat-person vibe" from Dr. T as well.
I hope more people end up here 'cos it's the best autism resource I've found.
Thank you again! Can't wait for the next one. I keep binge watching this series over and over, and I always find something new to learn.
Great episode. Regarding psychosis. I can have some breakdowns and not want to be around people. I also have an innate distrust in people because of childhood bullying and sexual abuse someone I'm aware that it happened but blocked out the details for the most part. I don't like classrooms...etc. Leave that at that. When I went to get help because I need to be a member of society and get through the anxiety I feel around people being an Aspie, the Psychiatric Nurse not only wanted to medicate me for being "paranoid" of people and she used the term schizophrenia. I told her right away she should be careful using a term like that and once again lost faith in people. I'm fully aware I have issues with PTSD. CTAD clinic is doing a wonderful job at combining understanding of Autism and psychiatric disorders such as depersonalization and derealization and even DID. You should do an interview with the staff there sometime.
On a side note -- I wish my brain wasn't wired in such a way. It makes life really hard. Do you think that because of an increase in population and overpopulated areas that high functioning/Aspies just come down to having more primitive brains? It seems living anywhere we're just assaulted with stimuli constantly.
All of this. Every single category. This needs to be broadcasted on every network.
I was treated for psychosis with anti-psychotics but did not present with it - my autistic traits were also confused by the doctors for psychosis, and I didn't know I was autistic at the time. The medication precipitated another major mental health break not long after discharge. My whole life went off course because I was mistaken for having psychosis or a history of (because of my poor way of explaining autistic meltdowns and sensory overhwlem, i guess). I was also held several days longer than 72 hours because I wasn't socializing or chatty enough with the nurses and did not want to go into the noisy chaotic common areas full of strangers.
my mother gasped in horror when i told her about my dx it was over text message we never really spoke again after that. (5 yrs) she has some traits herself but maybe not enough for dx. (my brother and uncle do however) -imo
Thanks to you Dr T and Craig. An invaluable resource you are providing, extremely important information here..more up to date than our local services! I look forward to the next installment.
Prof. Tony Attwood's understanding about autism is second to none. You will learn from his years of sound knowledge. A big thank you from me.
Autism and faux psychosis: I'm realizing I need to learn to adjust my language in the area of "voices." The large majority of thoughts I am aware of are consciously spoken to myself in words, mostly not out loud, though I do talk to myself as well. These I call "thoughts," because they feel generated by myself. There are other thoughts that I perceive but which are nonverbal, which I gather is normal. These feel nebulous; it's only been in the last few years that I have been able to recognize these as non-verbal thoughts. (Many are also darned hard to catch ahold of before they're gone!) They still come from me, but they don't quite feel like it. These I tend to refer to as coming from "the voice in my head."
I might say something like: "sometimes I am extremely aware of my autistic traits. But other times, when things are going well, there's a voice in my head that says: 'you're making this all up! There's nothing wrong with you.'" (I know "wrong with me" is unduly autism-perjorative, but that's what the "voice" says.)
It's NOT a literal voice, and I don't physically hear it; in fact it doesn't use words at all. Nor do I in any way think it's a real voice. It's mostly a thought-feeling, but I can't tell what part of my brain it's coming from, and I suspect I'm somewhat alexithymic. It's just my way of describing how the thought feels to me, partly because it's an idea that was clearly put in my head by others. I'm sure I've used the term with my therapist and not made her think I'm schizophrenic. But then she's spent a couple hundred hours with me. But it occurs to me that I should really learn to describe it in different terms, lest I use it with the wrong person.
Sometimes I wonder if the voices I hear are conversations on replay, that I am still trying to 'nut' out. I imagine it much the same as when young children are learning to talk & experience echolalia, repeating the same word over & over as if to commit it to memory. Just my thoughts?
Re: black and white thinking and estrangement: Neglect and Acute Stress are the #1 causes of my black and white thinking. I'd be very surprised if this family wasn't causing huge amounts of stress for quite some time, most likely from emotional neglect and dismissiveness, or an emotionally volatile home. I highly doubt someone would cease contact after a single argument or meltdown. It's likely been a chronic situation that was ignored and reached a breaking point. These talks are informative but the tone is generally pretty biased towards a neurotypical perspective.
Often, it’s a neurotypical’s misunderstanding that has caused the problem in the first place.
Re: marriage - when my husband and I were married 30 years ago, both undiagnosed Aspies,, I did not wear a “proper” wedding dress, I acted surprised when people I had invited turned up bc I had forgotten I had invited them, we had sparkling wine and sandwiches for everyone at the Parish hall and then dinner with the family. I was glad when it was over and don’t cherish the memory, though I do cherish the marriage.
Ever since then when I was invited to a wedding I think: oh dear, we did EVERYTHING wrong! And: do people REALLY enjoy all these strange social rituals? 😅
You did the right wedding for the 2 of you! I think there is a lot of pressure on young couples to do something similar to what other engaged couples are doing at the time. However, most neurotupicals probably do enjoy such things ngs more than Aspies tend to.
I believe I have ASD and I had/have no desire to plan events. 25 years ago, my husband and I got married in my mom's house and I had very little to do with it. :) The family handled all the arrangements. My dear husband made my bouquet with my favorite colors All I had to do was write my vows and show up! lol
I never had patience when attending other weddings.
I wonder if there is anything re helping entire families. My two adult daughters and I are on the spectrum and I am under the mental health team due to finding them so difficult to deal with. Both of them seem to lack the ability to function; chores mainly, which I deem as a failure on my part. We fall out a lot but love each other dearly. It is so hard!
Hi Pennie. I’m interested in learning if you can help assemble the database. Can you please write me at autismhangout.com and leave me your email address so we can chat? Thanks. Craig
Thank you to both of you! The part on Psychosis and psychiatric hospital will greatly help one of my autistic friend who lived a similar experience.
I wish these videos with Dr Tony had more specific titles, they’re such an awesome resource but it’s tough to tell which topics are generally covered in each one!
38yrs old. Just recently discovered that I have Asperger's. Slowly diving deeper and deeper about it and im happy and upset that I missed it when I studied Clinical Psychology when I was in college. Heaps of flashbacks now since my childhood. Trying to recollect everything in my memories not only the pictures but also my feelings.
Very grateful also that I discover Dr Tony Attwood, I currently reading his book and I love it. Hope I will meet/see him one day im a fan of him now, and nice to know he lives in Brisbane (?) too.
Would like to ask Dr Tony about adult female autism diagnosis, how do you determine if person is autistic if they came from an abusive family and was never diagnosed with autism? Referencing me, 45 year old female, have grand son with autism and daughter with torrets syndrome. I believe I'm autistic but can't get Dr to listen because Dr only wants to say I have cptsd and OCD behaviors and general anxiety and social anxiety and I also have learning disorder and eating disorder since I was little. No income for proper formal diagnoses, need advice. I self diagnose as autistic as well as the rest of the stuff.
Also forgot to add Dr is stuck on adults can't be diagnosed,has to be done when your a child. Please help😞
Absolutely agree with the infj profile type being asd. I’m the same. infj profiles are known as the chameleons, deep thinkers, the ones who adapt to others, so they barely known themselves. Exactly like ASD.
Thank you both so much! Great information, as always 💜
regarding the question ASD and Myers Briggs, iti is INTJ and ISTJ , who are the most common among people with ASD , So I T and J is congruent here
INTJ (Introverted, iNtuitive, Thinking, Judging): This personality type is often analytical, independent and focused on long-term goals and as well
ISTJ (Introverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging): ISTJ people are structured, responsible and follow rules
Thank you Dr Tony you're the best!! Please make these videos more often
42:38 special connection to animals
Cows don't know that Temple Grandin designs "humane" slaughterhouses. Just saying.
The NPD question was mine -- I was previously diagnosed with NPD before my current Autism/Asperger's diagnosis, and as such, it was indeed a formal diagnosis -- even though I now believe it was incorrect and based on my undiagnosed autism.
The personality disorder service has since agreed that they are not the correct service for me, but will not reassess me to adjust or amend their opinion.
Can anyone else relate to or clarify this for me?
Anyway, thank you so much for this video.
Yes! If there are others like you, you've got evidence that would support you being reevaluated for autism (versus NPD). If/when that reevaluation happens, play them this video with Dr. Tony's comments! Good luck!
narcissists are cruel and play horrible head games not nearly the same as an autistic person showing arrogance.
@@princessadora Narcissistic Personality Disorder isn't just about that though, it can also be about an over-obsession with self and a need for constant validation -- it's not quite the same as the popular idea of narcissism.
This is why I question my own diagnosis, as I don't think this is pathological in me -- maybe a little bit, but no more than the rest of society.
The perceived manipulative behaviour of the clinical narcissism (NPD) is also based in overcompensating for insecurities -- same can apply to BPD and HPD too, but with a different presentation/methodology.
Very true Paul re the distinction between what is popularly perceived as narcissism vs the actual clinical diagnosis that comes under cluster b personality disorders. Given that personality disorders are not constituted as 'severe and enduring mental illnesses' aka you can fall off that spectrum with treatment/it's not a life long diagnosis, irrespective of whether you meet diagnostic criteria or not you should qualify for a reassessment on this basis. What is the rationale behind this decision?...Does it boil down to poor clinical provision as you've been discharged? Have you tried a general adult psychiatrist as opposed to the personality disorders service as they should, from my understanding, be able to amend this for you.
@@Tified967 This has been a long fight with the NHS (Uk health service) and the various people who think I'm too complex for them.
It's ongoing and very hard to know what is right.
The autism assessment was comprehensive and covered so much of my life, but the PD assessment was based on a snapshot of how I presented at the time. I might be comorbid, but if I am, my presentation really isn't typical and as such I do not think so.
I'm about to go through PALS (Patient Advice and Liaison service) to see if they will advocate for me, as it's been an absolute nightmare trying to sift through this.
The bit on psychosis and autism is *so interesting* and I very much appreciate Dr. Tony taking the time to talk about it! I am an autistic child of a Schizophrenic parent (with paranoid delusions), and I have myself experienced mild paranoid delusions when I've been under extreme amounts of stress, so the intersection between the two is something I find very interesting :)
Oh my. Oh my oh my oh my - it's like looking in a mirror (2:19 to 3:47). Yes I 100% relate to relying on my intelligence for my sense of self and sense of self esteem, and for looking down on others who in my opinion didn't share my skills at school. I am now, aged 56, on the rebound from five decades of surviving on my intelligence and I'm trying to re-engineer myself. I've retired; I no longer solve complicated problems & get a boost from that. Sometimes though (and this is another common theme) looking at old age feels like staring into a void.
Hello, dear Dr. Tony. I feel terrible because I don't think I have any positive motivation for myself anymore. I hate going to college, it's bad there, there are a lot of sounds, bright lights that overload me, I need to use public transport to get there and that's also terrible. I have no friends and have never had any, I feel like no one understands me and I think that's really the case. I've been making efforts all my life to understand other people, but it seems to me that they don't make any effort to understand me and it seems to me that they don't need it. After college, I wanted to go to university to be a scientist. I decided to go to college only because I hated school, and my parents wouldn't let me study at home. Now I don't think I want to go to university, because I'm too tired and I don't want to endure this sensory and social nightmare anymore. If I don't get a good education, then I won't be able to earn money and it seems to me that fear is my only motivation right now. It seems to me that I'm not interested in anything else and I just want to end my suffering. I don't want to ever leave my comfort zone again. How do I get out of this? How do I find positive motivation? How do I get the passion back for my special interest? (I don't have a diagnosis, it's very difficult to get one where I live)
09:57 Estrangement; Dr. Tony missed familial criticism as a reason. If I received that from my family, I’d shut them off immediately.
A constructive observations: To help spread the inside of Asperger’s day by day I respectfully like to say that the voice record should have a pristine quality to make it more pleasant and pleasant experience always wanting more .. Thank you for reading
Hi there, just started to watch this (as recommendation /for your website (Ask Tony )from my Dr. -I'm finding it helpful.
However, about autism and health problems, I've recently brought a book, a treasure that answered to many of my questions) I'm struggling with chronic spontaneous urticaria, chronic migraine and others since earlier childhood: 'Autism, oxidative stress, inflammation and immune abnormalities ' by Abha Chauhan, Ved Chauhan and W.Ted Brown.
Dr. Tony, Thanks to your videos, I can now understand my child better. But I would like to know, how to contact you. The psychologists here dont seem to understand Aspergers, now they no longer consider it Aspergers, now they are considering it as just Autism. My child is now 13 years old and goes to first grade middle school. My name is Edith Murillo and we live in Ensenada, Baja California Norte, México. Greetings.
Perhaps the couple could get married at a registry, and tell their families a few years later. "Oh, didn't I tell you? We got married years ago!" Or go away on a vacation and come back married -- a work colleague of mine -- not autistic -- did that. She was married on a beach on a Pacific Island with just her partner, the celebrant and a choir of village children. Sounds idyllic. And because of Covid, my daughter had to get married with just five people in total at the ceremony. Shortly afterwards all weddings were banned. I think tiny weddings are a little more common than people realise -- especially around Covid lockdown.
Dear Tony, I so wish to sit and have dinner with you. I believed my ex is autistic..was researching my experiences. I questioned my ex.. he saw me as being critical, and blaming… anyway, listened to your podcast in uk, and guess what.. I think I too am autistic. I am 62. INFJ…I have been delving deep with interoception. Psychologists have been useless, completely useless. 6th sense of other people, I feel highly attuned.
Dear Dr Tony, I am a 50 year old lady from the beautiful Isle of Man, who has suffered my whole life and only now found the confidence to seek assessment for ADHD and/or ASD. Please can you speak more about the connection between them and how to live with both in your life?
Thank you
Hi!
I'm an aspie and I'm having a hard time finding comfort in the things that are normally suggested to us, namely animals and nature. Here are my explanations.
In theory, I love those 2 things. I'm actually active into animals advocacy and ecology protection. BUT, there's a big "but"... My sensory issues get badly in the way.
I can't really be too close to the majority of animals because of their smell (body and mouth), the noises they make (and not just vocally, but their claws on the floor or when they eat for instance), the texture of their hair or skin (if it's not "rabbit soft", I can't even touch them) and the fact, for dogs in particular, that they are really getting into my space without any invitation, touching me, licking me (about the worst: I can't stand being wet, and it's from stinky saliva!)... So you see my point? Let's not even mention all the work that comes with it, checking where I put my own food so the dog won't eat it, getting them exercice, vet, etc. etc. It's just really not something that works for me. I can only manage to have a cat, and a really specific one: long haired so it's soft and it protects her from the cold even in winter, going outside with a cat flap so no litter and no opening and closing the door, a hunter so it doesn't cost as much in food, trained to not meow loudly (I spoke to her "in secret voice" since she was a kitten, so she communicate in the same way, very subtly, and trained to ask things mostly with a gentle tap of the paw, so no sound at all), and being a cat, she's not making any noise when she walks, which is pretty rare for any animals. She is a bit affectionate, but like a cat can be: she'll get 5 minutes of it and get on with her life! So that's the only way I can have an animal that won't burn me out!
So it's not so different for nature... I love to see it from the window! But I can't really be in there: too hot or too cold, too humid or snowy or rainy or windy, too bright or too dark, mosquitos, sounds of animals, sounds of wind in the leaves, birds singing that is ripping my ears off (literally, it hurts), long grass touching my legs, unflat terrain which mess with my sensation under my feet and the repartition of my weight, becoming sweaty (I can't stand being wet, even with my own sweat), nose running and tears in my eyes when it's cold (same "wetness" problems), or then having to wear winter gear so thick, it's a problem to feel on me and to move (boots to heavy, scarf chocking me, gloves making it difficult to handle things, etc.). I could go on for 2 pages like that.. But you certainly get the gist.
So I find it really hard to enjoy other things then what I carefully choose in terms of comfort, and that would be indoors obviously, and except for this particular cat, mostly alone. Not that it's a problem, I love being alone. But just how can I find a way to work with all those sensory issues?
Thank you for all of your exceptional work!
Not sure if this is helpful but I enjoy VR glasses and walks in "fake nature"
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Haha. I had my cowork ask me if I didn't have an internal monologuing because I think outloud so much
Dad was struck in the temple which caused the grand mal seizures which in turn caused a lot of damage and the line between real and not real reduced down to nothing as he went into the abyss of schizophrenia.
Temple Grandin totally not in on the psychiatrick bs, right? Because here in America the "psychiatrick" industry they treat their victims like cattle. With very rare exceptions, especially in my case only one of them that happened to be very religious and her faith impressed me making said impression and encouraged me to get back into that and my roots in religion and spirituality and oh by the way she and her whole parish which is Egyptian also winded up getting harassed and why because they were trying to help me and save my life and find out whom and what did harm against me? Because it wasn't them or their directives.
MBTI ? first time i’ve seen the term Dr. and MBTI in one video. i am certain they’re related … excited to listen ! (ADHD i comment throughout vidéos as i listen)
Yeah telling the family one by one ... brother and mum done. Will be skipping dad for now ... Currently i am just telling him when he communicates the way i dont like and what would be better option.... And i am no longer surprised when dirty cuttlery is left on the table sorted by size and perfectly parallel ;)
my husband always mentions that he’s a professor when we are in line at places so that people can hear him 😞. it always makes me feel bad
Also - i understand eyecontact from animals! Not humans!
If I ever marry I'll have a pot- luck dinner with wedding cake.
Any ideas for therapy with those compensating for asd with grandiosity? I have a client who doesn't think he needs help and who tries to hide emotions
Here in America there's also those that try to falsely claim that PTSD is the same thing as schizophrenia. Same thing with anxiety and depression and ocd. And so far the only ones on my side going very far back in those regards are AA though I don't have a drinking problem, and believe it or not Scientology though no I'm not converting but if they want to help and work with me on that angle and make all the bs stop and bring about justice they're very welcome to do so. AA if you didn't know is very much classically against all psychiatrick bs. Psychiatrick likes their word against AA's and religion's and psychologists and more.
And yeah if this much never went through to Tony Attwood, because I never get responses, I was pediatrically diagnosed by a pediatric neurologist psychologist that actually outranks basically everyone in psychology by itself. I've no idea if she still practices or is retired or is deceased at this point though especially in regards of covid.
Is there any way to contact Dr Tony?
Thyroid deseases ?
Im shocked that autism is not complusary learning for phycatrists. Luck have some freinds around poktucs and push them on this now to get it complosary. Miss diagnossing and treating people with inappropriate medication or incarasation is abuse.
Hmmm During the section on Depression. I believe Dr. T missed that the person asking stated that they were working from home. That would make it very difficult if not impossible to have their "Line" Manager consider increased social experiences as a possibility.
Sorry. Just an observation.
What the person said was that their work was "solitary", no mention whether this was from working out of the home, or perhaps an overnight shift, or self-employed.
Please explain the difference between ‘developmental disorder’ and ‘mental disorder.’ If autism means that the “wiring in the brain” is different, are you saying that it is biological rather than mental? So, autism belongs in the realm of physical disabilities (like birth defects) rather than psychology or psychiatry conditions? Seems like that would change many of our views for understanding, treatment, acceptance, accommodations . . . ?
When’s the next one?
Working on it. Been a busy year. Thanks for your patience.
If only i could do that lady's cow trick with my latest crush 😍 😅
What’s the best way to submit a question to ask dr Tony?
Complete and submit the form at Autismhangout.com
Regarding Myers-Briggs - the 4 letters mean a bit different from what Dr. Tony said.
I thought that too: Ni Fe Ti Se 😊
39:13 teenagers
A partner can help provide support? What the hell is a partner?
Thank you, as an INFJ this content is absolutely eye opening. At 63 , so many prolific dynamic characters in my family. Ostracized bit I think if they were willing to introspect perhaps we could all heal. Regardless of proximity. A mediator would be wonderful.
Have ADHD, awaiting official autism diagnosis. I’m sure now my son does, possibly many family members.
I’m dumbfounded as to how to heal my fragmentated family tree 🌳.
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It starts with you. Good on you for taking on the challenge. Other members of your family will benefit. Again, good on you!