Being Dark Skinned In India - My Response To Fair & Lovely
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- Bullied For My Skin Color - My Response To Fair & Lovely - Being Dark Skinned In India - Brown Girl Problems
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Thanks for making this video. A makeup artist in India put a foundation on me that was at least 4 times lighter than my skin color in the name of making me look fairer on my wedding day. I had to wipe it off and do my own makeup for my wedding. Later I found out that the guy I married had told her to do that. In short, I am happily divorced now. :)
Lol, awesome! 😁😂👌
Jincy Chacko hahahaha! Sorry I had to laugh at this. Was your ex husband Indian himself?
yes.
@Jincy Chacko. GOOD FOR YOU! liKE WHOOOOA. There are benefits to being first generation American. Arranged marriages are frowned upon.
lmao. congrats! power! 😇
Dark and lovely all day everyday 🙋🏾
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Good video!This obsession with fair skin must stop. I get a lot of patients who wish to change their skin colour. The worst part is parents bring along their children asking for fairer skin. Girls as young as 5 years old are made to feel their complexion is dark and are pushed into believing that only fair is beautiful. We have to work towards changing this mindset.
It breaks my heart to see how much this affects self-confidence of girls everywhere!! 'Skin Colour Shaming' needs to stop!! I see my friends being criticised for being "too pasty" or "too pale"!! I also see my friends being criticised for being "dark skinned"!! Please ladies, you really are beautiful just the way you are! Your skin colour doesn't define you, it's your kindness, your smile, your confidence, your own unique personality- THAT'S what makes you truly beautiful! Jovi, I'm proud of you for making this video!! This needs to be heard! Sending you lots of love and hugs! 😘😘
perfect timing, i recently got a marriage proposal and they rejected "ya rejected" me because iam dark skin.. LOL!!! people with these thoughts make me laugh.. i dont understand y even the skin tone matters!!! and now parents want me to use all sorts of creams and what not to get fair! (arrggg!!! i love my skin tone. iam 100% happy with it) why shud i even think to change my self for a weirdo.. guys u are beautiful no matter wat. just be happy in ur skin. be comfortable in wat god gave u!!! thanku for making this video jovita di :) ur amazing!! love u :)
+Tanu Shona You have an awesome mind set. I hope it never changes!
+Tanu Shona Congratulations btw! You just got saved from marrying a narrow minded moron and his family for a better life ahead. Doesnt matter even what ur near ones might suggest, just keep strong. You will definitely get an awesome deserving partner!
+Tanu Shona Honey, if people care so much, you probably didn't want to marry that guy anyway! Whenever I visit India, and watch fair and lovely adds, they disgust me. I completely agree with you man!
Why don't u just go and find the right man? Why being dependent on parents for sooooo long! You will definitely find someone who appreciates your beauty, I know there are many places in India which are open-minded and educated well.
Tanu Shona they rejected u bcz the baby will be made through u and ur not fair then the baby would also can be dark
bollywood had so much to do with this. they deliberately hand pick fair skinned actors and actresses so the most beautiful people in india are seen with very fair skin, while the dark skinned men and women usually portray the villain or the poor people in a vilage scene. very unfortunate.
Same thing here in America, ALWAYS whitewashing dark skinned characters
+Nik Nikki lol pathetic
+Ty t yes it's a big dilemma. can leave scars on small children . dark hair has been out the door for so long too. we need to learn to love who we are.
Omg that's so true
+Sherin Mathews thanks
I grew up with alot of Indians and still today have many many Indian friends. Yet it breaks my heart to see the darker Indian women passed over for marriage, last to be praised, or constantly told about their skin. I think that is SICK!!!!!! I find the darker ones are more beautiful than the lighter ones. Beautiful shades of brown-- gosh they are gorgeous. please PLEASE be proud of your lovely brown skin. Don't let white supremacy and the stupid caste system make u feel less beautiful. ugh!
black men would pass a dark indian girl for white too!!! it a worldwide thing
not everyone
Nubian Khaleesi even darken men now go through a similar fate
Nubian Khaleesi It Is As Indian Myself It Sucks Cause I Myself Find Brown Girl Exotic An Beautiful
Nubian Khaleesi is this your actual sirname?
I have a golden skin tone. In primary school, my school re-enacted a play on Aladdin and I'd auditioned for jasmine and got rejected despite acing the audition. They told me that "I did not look like the princess jasmine they were looking for and it was unfortunate". Eventually, they picked a girl who was very pale and applied a foundation shade that was like 5-6 shades darker than her skin tone. It affected me a lot as a kid and I literally used to scrub my skin off till it bled as I was so disgusted with my skin colour.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I bet your skin is beautiful :)
sorry for you... that was awful !
+Rasinah Firdaus I think that's the most ridiculous thing ever!! Embrace who you are love!!
That must have hurt, I do hear a lot do stories where brown people who have issues like that.
+PublicDisplay76 yes, everyone should embrace their skin, including brown people who felt inferior.
Growing up Latina & Indian obviously I have an awesome tan. But I was made to feel less than beautiful by the lighter skinned Latinas, they constantly made jokes about me "being cooked too long" It's pretty gross, the sad part is I know those little girls didn't come up with that nonsense on their own, they learned it from their parents.
Yess! Within my own family as well. Like I can love my beautiful brown skin too😕😠?!
oh really it's in latin culture too ? yikes. I grew up in a 70% latin population in school but I guess I just wasn't observant enough.
+Sabrina Denise Right?!Your tan is gorgeous girl!
+mustafa Yes it is, it's pretty bad.
+Sprinkles of Shelly yikes
there should be a brown girls rock series, we as women of color should come together and do and do a series on CZcams or a tag video. this negativity has gone on to long.self love is the best love
That is such a great idea. I wish someone can reinforce that.
dshae2293 well in America. Its a huge issue
In America my people have been told we were ugly for 4oo yrs.
Oh its over now i refuse it and reject it
It's an issue in Europe too, especially some parts of Europe where they reject dark skinned people as well. I think confidence in one self goes a long way.
Jovita, I cannot stress how important this video was. Thank you for making it. The amount of pressure I felt for being dark skinned while living in Kerala was unbearable. In contrast, I have only loved my colour more and more after moving to Australia. To all dark skinned ladies and gentlemen: Wear it with pride :)
+Amulia Maya I know! I hated myself and my color when I was in Kerala. I was embarrassed to go out with my muslim friends (because they are light skinned) Now that I am out of Kerala, I love my skin, and I'm proud of who I am! No more hiding, and no more shame!
Tho I only visit Kerala during my vacation, my lighter skinned cousins make it a point get the fact that they are beautiful , a thousand times in front of my face!
I wish I retorted to it!
But I just smile
PS : I'm several shades darker than you and the struggle is real
Yeah.. Amulia.. seeing all these comments I m feeling proud now..
In Australia they like dark skin ?
Growing up, i had to deal with a lot of hate for being darker than most of my family. They used to call me names and even say i was mistakenly exchanged to my mother at the hospital where i was born. They would even say mean things like the milkman left me at the doorstep and my parents had to take me in.It was extremely hurtful growing up with this and to this day, it stays a part of me. No matter how many compliments i get for looking good, there's always a part of me that still hurts. I love you for making this video, jovita! god bless us coloured girls! ❤
me too 😉 had the same problem.
Its happens to me too as my mom is fairer than me .
I feel sad when I see someone saying that oh that color will suit u becoz u r fair.. I feel like saying the earth is brown and it does not complain what color flower grows becoz everything looks beautiful
What a beautiful thought!
Subhanallah nice thought
Such a great thought that was😍😍😍
Man sees skin, Lord sees heart ! ❤
+suzan charly Amen!
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@@MrJovitageorge i have the same situation as you but it's the exact opposite. I have milky white skin and people often tell me to get a tan because In my country Russia,Being pale is seen as Poor and Tan is seen as wealthy. Luckily, I'm proud to be pale no matter how many times people including my family forced to me to get a tan.
Totally agree! When I was in school, a boy used to call me ugly black worm. It was highly irritating, but my mom always told me I was beautiful, so his comments didn't stick.
me and my sister turned out to be dark skinned and oh my god, we faced all kinds of miseries.we were constantly criticised by relatives, teachers, colleagues and so on.today I am 27 and will be married soon.i'm still trying to move on from negative comments
my thought is "skin colour is like rainbow.imagine the rainbow with only one colour, it would be really dull.that's why God created all skin tones just like the rainbow.and everyone is beautiful except people with "dark" hearts!
ignore people and dont start to bleach otherwise youll get skin cancer and your true beauty will fade away trust me. you need ti accept yourself. Anyways the darker you are the lesser you age so being dark has its advantage. 😁😀
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my mother always told me that dark skin is lucky because god baked the chocolate cake well. not to offend anybody but it feels nice when someone says you're beautiful when everyone calls you ugly. believe me or not, my boyfriend (ex now) broke up with me because others made fun of him because I'm dark. not to blame him, he loves tanned skin, bronzy women. but it hurts when u know that its all prejudicial beauty that matters.
to add on this. my father with Aryan origins Loves me and my skin tone. people dont believe I'm brahmin, which of course doesn't matter at all but that's what I am. I'm Aryan blessed with dark skin. people say thank god you're not darker. what if I was darker? and oh those nigga jokes! people with dark skin feel inferior. what if U're African? aren't they beautiful? if someone calls a pale skinned woman american in India , it would mean the whole world to them but calling a dark skinned woman dark its disrespect? its time for the dark skinned girls to be proud!
+Angana Thakur You are beautiful!
Giana Gomez thanks, I'm sure you too are very beautiful.
+Bhavya Doshi hahahaha
I have heard that it's common for men to break up with their gf because she is dark, that's really sad. It is true fair skin is seen as beauty ideal in many parts of the world and darker people are made to feel inferior and ugly so parents try to make their children feel better. I think parents should just try to tell their kids they are lucky and perfect from the day they are born no matter what shade their skin is because it is 2016 and it is too pretty to focus on skin color. Everyone is blessed as long as they are healthy and happy, not just fair skinned people.
I am a black American woman and there is a lot of prejudice with in the black race !!!!
there is :(
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MrJovitageorge ..I wish this video was there when I was a kid ☺️☺️it would have changed me as a person and given me some confidence in my earlier days!!! For me just because I was not as fair as my sisters and medium skin tone I was always ignored and given bad names :( When you are a kid these things haunt you and pull you down always. At that age you really need someone to tell you that dark skin, fair skin, these are all crap and we all are beautiful the way we are. Now as a grown up I always regret the time I wasted on these things when I could have invested my mind and precious time on more sensible things 🤔🤔 btw love love love to you Jovita....stay as you are 😘😘
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Yeah india isn't getting anywhere with stupid mentality that fair girls r beautiful.... It all depends on the feature...hey I've seen average looking fair girls n gorgeous dark skinned girls... All r beautiful in some way...just don't get y these Indians r insulting their own kind then the blame the foreigners for being racist....first respect yr own people then others will respect u... Such an amazing n brave video dear....keep it up... Proud to b brown skinned!!!! Hope Indians change their mindset about fairness...hope they realise beauty isn't about colour but the face features n mainly your inner heart
They consider you dark? No you're tanned. Many people would love to have your skin tone. What are they on? lmao.
Cheesus is MY Savior tanned is dark medium dark she's certainly not fair
True
No one is ugly because God made us and He never makes mistakes :)
I'm very passionate about this issue - it's so ridiculous. You can't change your skin colour so why is it something we discriminate against? Nothing physical about anyone is ugly because you can't change it! :) it's ridiculous! I think your skin colour is beautiful ❤️
+Lisa Chen I think she means that it's not a permanent change. Whether you tan or whether you bleach, the melanin in your skin will always generate a new layer of skin in the shade God gave you. Tanning/bleaching is temporary. If you feel ugly because of the shade of your skin, whether pale or dark (I by NO means find Jovita dark considering how beautifully dark skin can be), you will NEVER be happy because the tan will fade and the bleach will darken as your new skin appears. Pale skin is beautiful. Olive skin is beautiful. Tan skin is beautiful. Brown skin is beautiful. Dark brown skin is beautiful. Self tanning hasn't had the same negative skin effects as bleaching has. Bleaching is a chemical alteration of the skin, whereas self tan is a protein dye (think food coloring) that adheres to the skin making it temporarily darker. Unless you are going to bathe in lemon juice, potatoes & tomatoes to lighten your skin, there is no SAFE way to lighten yourself several shades. Love yourself
+Lisa Chen Bleach doesn't make you lighter, it only makes your hair blonde so all the darkness from black hair is gone. Your skin color remains the same though.
+Lisa Chen And so you say a celebrity doing it makes it okay?
+RainbowSmile Yes, every skin color is beautiful.
+Mezzra Tey nobody should be put down.
Here's my story, my mom started to give me fair and lovely when I was in elementary. In addition, my mom gave me skin lightening bleach creams and skin lightening soaps. Everything she gave me irritated my skin, so I did not use it. My mom is obsessed about being light skinned and she wanted me to be light skinned as well. She did not want me to play outside because I became darker.
As a little girl, I always viewed myself as ugly because I was not light skinned. In my teens, watching Bollywood movies only validated, that light skinned girls were considered beautiful and Bollywood movies barely had dark skinned girls.
In my 20s , I accepted my skin color and am proud of it.
I would not change my skin tone. Many people have approached me and told me that I have a beautiful skin color and I am very lucky to have this skin color. Indians and Pakistanis need to stop obsessing over light skinned because not all of us are light. We come in all shades, shapes and size.
I am a 18 year old Indian girl and I have faced this problem like for whole my existence . My friends who are fairer than me like to click pictures with me . why? because apparently I am dark and they are fair which makes them look "good". This always hurt me a lot but then as u correctly said people with dark skin are wayyyyy more photogenic! My grandma wants my mother to take me to some damn baba to make me fairer because Indian boys LOVE girls with fair skin.
manasvi dalvi Wow Now You Painted Your Face Too Fit In Wow Plus In That Photo Lighten The Picture Up So You Can Look Lighter Hypocrite
My dear - marry a non Indian who will love you and your skin colour!
You don't look dark btw.. 😕
@@malpalmer3269 westerners are mostly racist to us Indians.. They will never marry an India 😞
Jason Pinto actually many white westerners I know have been far less racist towards dark skinned women, many have married dark skinned women - the most racism towards dark skinned women are other dark skinned women and men.
I really needed this video. Been feeling so insecure about my skin lately. You are absolutely right. And SO beautiful
And so are You! 😊
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My best friend has a slightly dark skin tone. I do a bit of photography so I did a couple of little shoots with her. She looks gorgeous! Better than most fair skinned girls in front of the camera. Even otherwise, she is really pretty. She keeps comparing herself to other lighter skinned friends but I keep telling her that she looks prettier than so many of them. Because she really does. I have high standards for visual beauty and I think you are one of the most beautiful women I have seen on the internet, dark or not.
yes girl! preach! many girls in India are dark skinned but very beautiful.. the features of your face is just amazing.. beautiful proportion..
One thing I have noticed in this country is that majority of people who are darker, are generous and kind hearted and those fairer have a pride of skin consciously or unconsciously. People who are fairer can never know what it is like. While those who actually faces it know exactly what this video is about.
Never think you are accountable for an explanation to any one regarding your capabilities just because you are dark.
Dark is beautiful. Dark is goddess Kali.. Worshipped by people who discriminate on grounds of colour. What an irony!
Kanishka Sharma Amen
Lol! What when your own parents nickname you "Kali" 🌚 !? I grew up thinking I was ugly all my life until I came to USA and bunch of white ppl with blue eyes , who I thought looked gorgeous, told me how pretty my dark skin and dark blue eyes are! I was in utter shock🙀... He he
Oopsies! I mean my dark brown* eyes!
every skin color is beautiful ..indian kbhi nhi badal skte ..hahah they want kudi bs gori chitte howe ..bawe dimag na howe..i love my brown skin color ..
YESS GIRL!!
u r right
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shona dalord loved your comment ... I too am dusky and always gets tautnt from relatives ... 😔
I'm a dark skin girl.
is it a crime ? then arrest me..
if not, then shut ur mouth up dear dull society..
why I shouldn't be proud of my skin colour, when white Skinner can be for their ?
when I can be proud of my black hair, black dresses, black shoe, black eyes then why not for black skin????
I'm BLACK & LOVELY...
thank you for this video.. 😃
to be Frank India is racist . lts not blame ppl of other countries. we ourselves are racist
100% true.
@Alok Singh hey I do wanna do it
Let's embrace every skin tone and no compare because we feel bad or guilty. Confidence is sexy.
We have to give kids dolls which are not white and blond. We need good role models who are dark skinned. Children should be taught how melanin in skin protects us from skin cancer
thank you for making this video! :) we need to do something to change India's mentality when it comes to skintone.
When i was young, all my friends bleached their skin. I'm a dark skinned girl and i wanted to bleach my skin too but didn't and i'm glad i didn't.
Embracing what God has given us is the beginning of beauty :)
PREEAACCHHH!!! I'm South Indian and this is soo true.
jiminie's hypewoman I am black this happens to me too
I'm a Fair Good looking guy and to just wanna shout out loud to all the women who think dark skin is not beautiful... or even less... I Love Dark Skin Women... they're just so flawless nd mesmerising without having too much of anything not even their color... They're just so perfect... Thank you so much for cleaning such myth and notions from the mind of the beautiful women of this country born with the beauty of brown skin.... Keep up the good work...
Vedant Tripathi we need more guys like u. :)
Vedant tirupathi you itself should not say you are fair and beautiful man others have to say any way iam not teasing you iam just saying man
Yes you shouldn't have mentioned that your fair.. It feels like ur trying to say a fair guy like u who is superior still likes brown people...
You itself ruined the whole praise to us by saying I am fair and good looking!! Like what the hell
same thing is instilled in african american culture. our stems from slavery and the difference between slaves in the house and outside the house. This idea that fair is better is still a strong idea in our community. Although now we are seeing this #melanin love going on :) seems to be getting better. maybe you should start some empowering word or idea for darker skinned girls to start embracing themselves
+DriSter :* thank u for commenting sweet heart!
+MrJovitageorge you look fine. You do need to worry about your skin. By the way if you are in the sun you can just enjoy yourself because you do not need to sun cream to protect cancer. You skin does it for you. Be grateful for ya skin.
+Dwane Wade That is a common misconception. People with darker skin tones are not immune to skin cancer. People of all skin tones should wear sunscreens. Skin cancer aside, darker skin is also prone to hyperpigmentation which sunscreen can help to prevent. Please read more about it.
+DriSter ... its not even just african american u know that 5million people died in the Rwandan civil war because of this. Team lightskin is nothing compared to the damage this can cause.
Nathan B to my knowledge the Rwandan Genocide dealt with different ethnicites within Rwanda. A type of ethnic cleansing not dealing with skin shade- which is what we are talking about right? how shade color means superiority in some societies i.e India, and with african american society.
I remember when I was 5 years old, living in New Zealand. I had to go to an after school care while my parents worked seriously hard for us (typical migrant story). there was this one girl, one afternoon, who told me I eat dirt, I was made of dirt, that I was simply mud because I was brown. I was only 5 years old and I had no idea what the problem was!!! and then I grew up, people around me were tanning, my family was all "foshha"/fair and I had moved to Australia and my dark skin had become progressively darker. I was always reminded of how dark I was comparative to those around me, as if though I was less of a person for being darker skinned than all the pretty Bengali girls who could wear medium shade BB cream without a worry. I struggled to find good foundation in my skin tone that wasn't ridiculously expensive. I digress.
I read a poem by a friend a few years back, and she wrote that our skin is brown because gold flows through our veins, which was so... it was such a change to read after many, many years of loathing my darkness. anyway, this video... I'm not crying I promise.
thank you, you are the best. much love.
Hi Jovita it felt like you were narrating my teenage story. I have been ridiculed for being dark skinned since the age of 7 years. It did affect my personality but now I have moved on and don't care a damp
+lulu123 Knaan thanks dear for the compliment. I must say that these instances have made me a strong and confident person
+Helo123 thank you
+Sneha Mishra Nobody should be put down for their skin color. Beauty is skin deep.
+Sneha Mishra Good for you. Ignore people who hate your dark skin.
Hi it's sad that this issue is everywhere. I have recently spent 4 months in Chennai and was surprised that everybody was dark skin there because that's not what we see from India from the outside. I was also surprised that even in Chennai the movies the advertising were full of ONLY light skin people. But you know even in the USA they have this issue most of the big Black american/women stars and actresses with the big roles are light skin but when you go there you realise that most women are dark skin but they are less represented on TV/film etc... Just sad and stupid !
+HereDianna So true. Do you know that 90% of the Tamil actresses are North Indians? They prefer the North Indians cuz they are lighter skinned! Would you believe that they don't even caste their own people in their own movie?!?!
MrJovitageorge yes u are right. South Indians are normally darker than North and most of there actress are North Indian.
i love this.
this addresses all the extremely ridiculous social issues and preconceived ideas, not only in India but in heaps and heaps of countries all around the world.
all my life and even till this day i've been told "you're dark but you've got nice facial features"! why should being dark skinned alter whether you're pretty or not, or whether ur intelligent or not?!?!
this is something that has annoyed me my entire life, and i'm sooo glad that you've addresses this.
"We should not be judged by the colour of our skin but by the content of our character"!!!
+Leanne Walton Oh yes, the " aww, you're so dark, but you're "still" beautiful. like, wtf? I was recently contacted by an organisation that wanted to make the message that I did, but their slogan was " Dark, still lovely" And for that reason alone, I refused to work with them. We are not "still" beautiful. We are beautiful. period.
hi, you won't believe how much I suffered due to dark skin taunts. when I was in first std I was told by my teacher that I couldn't be the princess in the school play because I was dark and only fair girls suit the role. such non sense but it etched in my head and it wasn't until my 20ies that I dealt with this psychological torture and believed in myself, and that I am beautiful.
I'm a neurosurgeon today working in Germany, and my skin colour had nothing to do with it. I'm beautiful for who I am.
I love your videos. Thanks for them.
Loved this video! I can definitely relate to this when I was in highschool, boys would never have looked my way because I'm dark skined. It did hurt, but as I matured I couldn't give a damn! lol. I'm not directly from India, so it isn't so bad on this side of the world. Slowly society is changing. One day when I have kids, hopefully they won't have to face what we did. But I know the stigma is still very much strong in India, it's quite sad :(
I just don't understand because most of the people in india have dark skin but why people bulling other people for been darker thu ,,tha's crazy lol we all are the same wether it's black dark Brown light or white skin we all are going on the same place at the end heaven or hell😒😒😒😏😏
Can't be the only one who could sense you actually feeling this video while making it. #jovitaforpresident
+Kanupriya Sachdeva hahahhaahhahaha that hashtag!! you're killing me!!!!
I like u so much..I was always compared with my sister who looks fairer than me... despite encouraging me in studies at which I was very good... eventually this feeling dragged me down so deep....later a day I spoke to my self fr the various reason ...y I'm going down in my life ....later I realized being dark was also one of reasons ...that made me turned into low esteemed prsn ...of course latr I turned successful in my terrain
Stereotypes judge Einstein from the way he grooms his hair
I would love to have dark skin! And you are right: everyone is beautiful the way they are! We should appreciate what we have, not what we don't!
Lots of cultures do focus on fair skin being the the most beautiful but I think each individual should look at their own beauty and just not care about what other people think. Our own opinion of ourselves is the only opinion we should listen to or else we would go mad.
+Tulisa Tinkle that made me feel better.
What does it mean to be a dark person in India? A country where people are obsessed with fairness, a land where black people are openly shown to be unattractive in mass media, in a culture where a ‘gori ladki’ as a wife is respected more than a caring and understanding woman..
Being a dark person from India I can sum up my 2 decades of existence in one word: hell.
From the earliest days that I can remember I have been called names by my classmates, too derogatory to even mention. My kin, my parents, and my grandparents all used to indirectly call me ugly.
Every time I visit someone they used to tell me that I got a bit ‘fairer’. Life was a living hell when people used to give me ‘tips’ to be ‘fair and beautiful’ every time I paid anyone a visit.
The mass media only added to my grief. Whenever I saw ads for cosmetic products like ‘fair and lovely’ and ‘fair and handsome’ a little part of me used to die and still does knowing the fact that I may never be like them.
In Indian television the humor stopped about being able to laugh and became more about laughing at the cost of others. The jokes that are shown is all about shaming: fat shaming, color shaming and worst of all jokes on handicapped people.
I can’t even imagine the toll this had on my mental development. I have reached a point where I can’t form any strong relationships, with my family or my friends. I have to cry myself to sleep almost every night, I have suicidal thoughts every now and then. I pretend to laugh on a joke in a movie but deep down I feel like crap. My low self esteem has taken me to a stage where I even refuse selfies with my friends. I despise my photographs. I have become a sociopath.
I feel only pity for myself but I know that no one is to blame for my misfortune. Maybe I am just unlucky to be born black.
thane krios and the worst part is when your own family members try to convince you that you are ugly.
hey you are not ugly! you know they are wrong and you are right! so do not give into what they believe is beautiful because just cuz they feel so doesnt make it right....is sharukh khan fair, aksay kumar fair, kajol,priyanka chopra shilpa shetty bipasha basu, deepika padukone, chitrangada singh ....everyone is dark!!!! love urself! become the best in what you love doing and have 1000 percent confidence in urself! you dont need anyone to tell u ur beautiful ! you believe it! because you are! thats the most important thing!
I'm unfair and lovely..
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Hi
I can relate to this completely 💯%
My mum is from India and she still believes that girls and guys with fair skin are beautiful, regardless of their features. In her eyes I'm ugly because I have a brown skin. My mum has tubes of Fair n Lovely in her cupboard. I totally understand you and your frustration.
😢😢I am so sorry for you
somebody really needed to speak this out!
This video made me cry. you are and exceptionally beautiful lady inside and out jovita... keep up the good work.
It's true fair skin is seen as ideal in many parts but people should really love themselves. Everyone is blessed as long as they are alive and happy. People should not focus so much on skin tone.
This is soooo interesting. I grew up in the 60s and 70s, and am a very pale redhead. In my teens it was considered ugly to be as white as I was, so I spent too many hours trying to tan. As we know now, that is very damaging for the skin, particularly if one is as naturally pale skinned as I was. It's bizarre what we are lead to believe is beautiful, when we should embrace whatever lovely skin tone God gave us. I now revel in my ultra-blinding white complexion, and am not embarrassed by it anymore.
What's strange is that the perception of dark and fair is different depending on the culture and community you are from. In my community you would not be considered dark. You would be viewed as having a medium skin tone. I actually had an argument with this person on youtube about people being tan in the West and fair in the East, she said it has the same effect and it is the same thing. I actually really like Indians with the rich chocolate reddish skin tones.
Hahahaha tell me about being a dark tone girl indian! I've always been called ugly all my life, and still am being called by those same bunch of relatives, cousins and aunties..when I was younger,I always did feel ugly, cuz I was being told I was directly and indirectly..if I wore henna, they would say this would look nicer on my sis(she's super fair)..As I grew older, I started appreciating myself and seriously,I've gt better features then some of those ppl(fair)who call me ugly..but they always call me black/ugly till date..hahah I've learnt how to deal with this negativity slowly but seriously this has to stop, it is kinda hurtful for a kid..
hahaha I've even used fair and lovely when I was around 7/8 for being repeatedly called dark..now I find it soo funny tht I did that...hahahah! Even now being a teen, ppl are still telling me tht I will never make an ideal girl for a guy..seriously is that all we girls are worth for??Our personality/character are way more important na?Its nice to be fair but its also okay to be dark..both has its own pros and cons!:D
nashath farhana I say give em a Slap
OMG.... this video is so awesome. This totally helped me to build up confidence in me. I am a Sri Lankan... the neighbor of India ;) and I totally agree with all what you mentioned in this video. It is so true that fairness adverts give a very bad impression about dark skinned girls and boys and in a society like this, its amazing to have people who think like you. Down here in Sri Lanka, majority are dark skinned, I would say tan to be more precise. Specially those in the capital, Colombo are of a lighter tanish color. The view regarding tan skinned girls here has not been a very severe one.. but yet its true that it exists, specially you see how differently you are treated when you go to other countries, not joking, I am telling this through experience. Love you so much and please make more of these videos to cheer up the girls..
I just do not understand why people consider dark skinned as ugly,actually they look beautiful.
I thought Nandita Das was the most beautiful woman till date, you are even more beautiful! I love your positivity :) I went through the same things.
Wait but her complexion is so beautiful tho so why... 🤷🏽♀️😍
I have never understood why being dark is/was considered ugly. I have always loved dark skin and I think it looks beautiful. In fact all skin is beautiful whether paper white or very dark.
I love all your videos anyway but for this #Respect !! Someone actually needed to say this out loud. I have a friend who is a bit on the duskier side n she is soo depressed because of that matrimonial crap dat a FAIR N SLIM girl is required. I'm gonna share this video with her n I can't thank u enough for this Jo !! Love ya !!
Great video! I agree. Every shade of skin color is beautiful. I am naturally tan, but I like being burnt to the crisp honestly. I like when my skin is dark and one of the reasons is because it camouflages my imperfections. My cellulite, acne scars and other imperfections. Really, I just like when my skin is darker, Like when my face is brighter in the winter though. I like my skin color whether tan or not actually.
i been through this alot esp when i was teen alot of racist remark due to my skin colour .... i end up having inferiority complex... but i came out of it eventually ..... but i still hear ppl talk about my skin colour.... seriously wat colour gonna do for them ..... .... anyways hi 5 jovita for doing this video .....
I Know right!!
Just because you are several shades lighter you don't earn a degree, become successful , travel the world ..... Pretty much nothing!!
But you know people know this but they are ignorant and dumb
I can totally relate to this.I'm from coorg and girls out here are sort of white skinned. Though my skin tone is wheatish, my relatives and friends who are born white skinned would totally bully n talk shit about my complexion. The dirty names that would Adress me would make me feel so low but nowadays I hv fallen in love with my color n wouldn't mind getting darker. :D
I am so glad you made this. I remember I was in 8th grade, a 14 year old kid when one of my classmates said that I am dark "but" I have a very pretty face, I don't see why a "pretty face" is seen as a compensation for dark skin, and who decides what is and not a pretty face anyway. I am glad that I grew up in an environment where my notion of beauty completely changed.
We have the same problem with Indians in South Africa. I agree with you 100%. Being who you are is way hotter than being someone you're not.
+megziev lOVE WHAT YOU SAID!
I'm a 15 year old girl and have dark skin, and I feel so bad about myself when I hang out with my fair skinned friends. It's this idea that fair skinned girls will never get a good husband, that bothers me so much. I feel horrible about it and even contemplating just staying single for the rest of my life. But videos like these give me hope and so much confidence, pulling me on the right track. I loved this video!
What do you mean by this statement good looking husband if you want a person husband then you are a racist person …shame on you
I was shocked when I first saw the fair and lovely commercials here on youtube. I had no idea that commercials could even be so blatantly offensive towards dark skin..
I am actually black. ... not tan... but you knw what I love my skin colour nd proud.... I never thought that fair could b grt... I present my skin prity good.....
Getting to hear criticisms for being dark was or maybe still is something which is very common in India. I too had lost my confidence back in my school days when a few of my classmates would mock me by calling various names. However what i realize is times are changing, to a certain extent atleast. People have started appreciating and accepting that we all come in different shapes and sizes. Well cheers to those very few people who always see the positive aspects in everyone around and not be so judgemental
I live in Africa Somalia people in here will do anything for whiteness using chemical products to lighten their skin my skin color is like yours just little bit lighter and I love it even if I was dark I would love it too people need to know that being pale is not the only beautiful skin tone sorry for my English
stop lying about Somalis cos not all of them are as obsessed as people in Asia. At least Somali mother doesnt start saying shit to her daughters to hate themselve or hurt their feelings.
+Lovely Aisha okay this is my second account and why the fuck would I lie to you skin discrimination is every where even in africa
she's actually right. and somali mother's do for a fact tell their kids to marry a light skin person so they can produce white grand kids. face it sweet, it is indeed a huge global problem. including Somalia.
Wow.. I didn't know that at all! I am from eritrea and many people in the horn of africa are VERY dark so I wouldn't think there was any colorism there. In my country people don't care that much about it, but obviously lighter skin is seen as better. My grandma is super light, like arabs and she thinks she is better because of it! lool.
this is very true. i understand what are u saying Jovita. i have heard things and experienced the dislike of many people because of my color at a very young age. i was very dark skinned, but as I grew up the skin tone has lightened about two shades. i could be around 5 or 6. Imagine the school going girls, in 8th or 9th standard calling a girl from 1st-grade 'KALI' in an insulting manner, in front of the whole school and bus, almost every day for a year until I decided to tell my mom one day. then my mom talked to those three girls, and then they stopped. i took so much time to tell my mom because being a child didn't know how to deal with this. I was way too sensitive girl and quiet and reserved. even though my parents tried to teach me that skin color isn't important at all because being intelligent is the best thing. and it helped me a lot, I studied and stood first in class. my grades caught the attention of other students and teachers and they started to like me......but there was one teacher who was mostly nice to me and liked me but she did pass comments about how I looked for three or four times. this really hurt. i couldn't get past that. i felt that even with grades I couldn't be in a society of fair people. my overthinking brain would nag me that people don't want to be friends with me, even though my best friend is very fair, and she never made me feel bad...for her the color didn't matter.... but... but... the thoughts that have been put in my mind for years, won't go away.. no matter what. every now and then I'd become obsessed with DIY to whiten my skin because I still feel the bias in people's minds how I look. i don't fit in the criteria they have in their mind because most of the time I observe others and find that people judge each other by how costly their clothes are...not by nature. but now I'm trying to love myself and standing up against this bias...it'll take time but I know I'll be stronger.
I'm a Cuban lady and when I was about 30 years old I have a friend Indian work with me and they tould me if I go visit india I will married a rich guy because I have a light skin ..that was a chock for me ...
My Dad is Pakistani, very fair and my mom is African American, brown skinned. Some of his relatives teased him when he married her. Oh don't marry this black woman, your kids will be so dark. I've grown up in America and it took me a long time to see this ugly side of the culture. My parents sheltered me from it. I remember meeting some of my Pakistani relatives, and although no one said anything bad, no one ever said I was beautiful. Not to toot my own horn but I'm a good looking girl! Lol I get compliments all the time. And so it just stood out. I felt a little bad. It is so sad. I am a grown woman though, I'm over it. I already know that I am beautiful and not just because of my outward appearance. I cannot imagine how heartbreaking it is for a child to hear such things. Especially that you can't be successful in life! It makes me so angry! Unfortunately you can lighten your skin with bleach, although it's incredibly bad for it. I know many who do this.
How did your mom and dad meet? Their story must be really fascinating. AA & Pakistani is not a common combination.
You are my favorite youtuber but i am commenting for the first time. I am of the same skin tone as you and agree with you completely. My husband is quite fair and so sometimes i get to hear nasty comments but i don't get affected anymore. Thanks for the video!
I can completely relate to what ever you spoke in this video...I am a dark skinned girl ...most of my relatives always upset me all the time...they have nothing to say other than my looks... I got pcod and things got worst, I got pimples and gained weight which made me look uglier than before..I took medicines and the symptoms have kind of reduced, and now people tell that l look a lot more better than before...they think that by telling that they are trying to make me feel better but the reality is that they don't see anything other than my skin....
Perfect answer for judgmental mentally people thank you dear
I am dark and I call it perfect .....
LOVE THIS!
+Fictionally Flawless :*
First of all, I just want to say....AMEN! and second you're not even dark! you're gorgeous, yaar!
I really loved this video! I may not be Indian, I'm actually black, but to know that we have had the same experiences is crazy. I remember how my family members wouldn't even let me go outside in the summer because I might "get TOO dark". It's absurd. I love my skin and I love it even more when it darkens. Thank you for this video, I will be sharing :)
I completely agree about the tan! I tan so unevenly that my body and especially my face looks so akward. It looks as if I applied leftover makeup in the dark. -_-.
But THANK YOU so much for this video!
+Ladlii I wanted to also say, I agree with everything. It's taken me years to come to terms with my complexion. I was called so many names by classmates when I was younger.. Especially when I wore brown clothing.. if you can catch my drift.. And from aunties trying to be kind, telling me that girls shouldnt play out in the sun.. Its load of @. Everyone is BEAUTIFUL!
u made m lol, it looks like i applied left over make up in the dark lmao hahahahahaah
A great way to help with uneven skin tone is to take oil and sugar and scrub your skin so it's an even tone.
Girl. You are not dark skinned. Especially not in India.
good job jovita:-) i wish this video goes viral because this has a deep message and it should be imprint on every heart.If people can fall in love with dark chocolate, black tees, black hair, black coffee &black shoes then why not dark skin? The funniest thing is the olive and dusky skin tone is the most mimicked in the makeup industry as well.
I am from Guyana and my ancestors are Indian. So many people from my culture also believe that light skin is somehow more appealing. I am dark skin and I love my skin color. I remember growing up, family members always urged us to stay out of the sun like it was burn us. Now, I really enjoy the outdoors and I could really care less what anyone else thinks about my skin color. You rock!!
Sorry if you were put down for your skin being too dark. Your skin is very common in Indians though which is different from tan. But still very unique to your culture. Sad thing is, many brown people put each other down for their skin. I think people should embrace all skin colors from fair to dark. Not try to say which one is better. True, many people see fair skin as being better and more beautiful and fair skin is beautiful but we the only thing that matters is how we feel about our skin.
+Greg Pearson well said.
+Greg Pearson I am white and I become that girls colour when I go on holiday LOL. I think brown people are lucky because they are naturally brown and yet I am here dying for a tan.
Electric Pikachu And people are dying for white skin.
many brown people think fair skinned people are lucky, just be yourself and healthy.
Yeahhh everyone wants what they can't have.
gosh, girl...i know abt this too well, here in Trinidad its the same😦its so sad, thank God i had alot of self esteem...i love my complexion! im like ur complexion😘😘😘ur my fav u tuber ever!
yass girl! Proud of you for loving yourself! :*
exactly! someone finally making sense! I wrote a post on the same and I work in a retail beauty sector where people daily come and ask me for products which will make them fair and when I tell them that its not important to become fair and fair doesn't mean beautiful then all.they tell me is yea this doesn't affects you coz you are fair. and I just stand quietly :(
Im Indian and I totally feel u. My cousin used to tease me alot when I was in primary school and I had a very low self esteem. Until now people do still discriminate me because of my skin colour. I'm 22 and nowadays I get "compliments" from people saying "oh you are dark but sweet looking " or " you are a 'black' beauty". The point is I have never heard anyone saying to fair skinned girls " you are so fair skinned and so pretty or you are a white skinned beauty". I hate discrimination
Such a lovely video!! I can soo relate to you!! I was about to make a video on my channel on this same subject! And now I m even more motivated to do a video after watching you!! I love you sooo much!!
+BeautyAll0710 Do it hun!
+MrJovitageorge Yes!! Definetely!! And it would be a dream if you watch it!! :) #notpromotingmyself You're just a big inspiration for me and i adore you to death!!!
BeautyAll0710 for sure :*
i know how hurtful it is. many have asked me why am I dark . My husband is fair and i am dark . many have asked questions like he is good looking as he is fair and i dont look good as am dark . oh my god how painful it is. i have even gone through depression.
You reject dark skin guys so you are a racist girl..
Love your channel! I'm a malayalee born and brought up in the uk, but the abundant amount negative comments I receive when I go to Kerala is ridiculous! I don't let it bother me, but I feel for the little boys and girls that are put down day in day out because of the colour of their skin. Wish there were more people like you on CZcams or other social media platforms to spread this message!! Xxxxx sending lots of love from the uk
love you for sharing this video....When I was young I was very much insecure about my skin color..Now, I am not :) I love my skin and I love how it looks....I can totally relate to all these that you said in this video..In India, ppl are obsessed with white..I recall an incident where in for a school/collg function girls who are medium toned like me were asked to stand in the back rows and fair kids were made to stand in the front row....That incident, as a kid really made me n my other frnds cry a lot....But, now, i really feel so good about my skin...and the photogenic part...I totally agree...I have the worst dark circles that i got as hereditary..Well, I can cover it up with word's best products now..I never feel insecure about my skin now... Nobody is perfect.... it's the mindset that ppl should change.,..Fair n Lovely should be banned...seriously...the ridiculous ads they make....and this whole matrimony fair/medium/dark category- OMG - it sucks..really!
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Thank you for this video. As a dark skinned mallu girl, i was taunted for most of my growing up years and i learnt to love the skin i was in only when i went to the US to study in my 20's. While the taunting didn't stop me from achieving any of my dreams after that, it did make it hard for me to like the society and country i was raised in and I dont like going to Kerala because i dont know of any other way of protesting against this ridiculous bias especially considering how gorgeous dark skinned women look!
I am also Indian and absolutely hate, hate, hate those fair and lovely commercials. I think the skin cream makers and advertisers should rot in ... you know what - I kid you not. I am very glad you made this video. We need to spread more awareness and understanding about such issues. Keep up the good work - I enjoy your videos very much.