Toxic Marriages, Right Time To Marry & Red Flags In Relationships - Shefali Shah | FO205 Raj Shamani

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    Timestamps:
    00:00 - Introduction
    02:50 - Should Parents be transparent about their relationship?
    08:44 - Kids today don’t wanna get married
    13:19 - The idea of a good marriage
    24:59 - Struggles in marriage
    27:10 - 4 Cs of a lasting relationship
    29:01 - Women are not very celebrated in India
    32:34 - When should one get married?
    37:19 - When is a person ready for a relationship?
    39:41 - Who to marry?
    46:58 - Red flags in a marriage
    51:26 - Should we have movies like animal?
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    In today’s episode of Figuring Out, we have Shefali Shah in conversation with Raj Shamani. Her acting is seen in movies like Darlings, Dil Dhadakne Do and Three of Us. But our conversation isn't about the movies she did but her perspective on marriage, relationships and struggles in marriages.
    In this episode, we talked about her performance in Dil Dhadakne Do and whether it's fair to show kids the fights and the good side of their marriage. Then we discussed the struggles in marriages and what are the common problems in it. She also shared a heartwarming story of how her kids surprised her on her birthday. We then discussed when people should marry and advice for young people looking to get married and how people can decide who to marry.
    Towards the end, we talked about different types of people in marriages and can two ambitious people have a great marriage. We then discussed red flags in marriages and when we know that someone isn’t for us or this marriage isn’t for us. We ended the podcast by discussing her views on the movie ‘Animal’ and how it impacts people.
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Komentáƙe • 1K

  • @minazkhan1440
    @minazkhan1440 Pƙed 28 dny +440

    Lack of Financial Freedom is the biggest reason woman stay in bad marriage...its very important to give Financial support like a business setup or rental property to daughters instead of grand weddings..she don't have to compromise with her dignity

    • @ritika80
      @ritika80 Pƙed 27 dny +7

      Well said 👍

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny +9

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @AshishKumar-qj6oi
      @AshishKumar-qj6oi Pƙed 27 dny +3

      You live in dream.. wake up kid this is not world works

    • @ashwinimanwatkar4359
      @ashwinimanwatkar4359 Pƙed 27 dny +8

      Nah ..even with financial freedom ladies are not being able to move out of marriage

    • @aminaik3404
      @aminaik3404 Pƙed 27 dny

      If u are earning less than your husband then that could be a card towards u as well.

  • @anupamashrivastav4361
    @anupamashrivastav4361 Pƙed 26 dny +88

    I had a toxic marriage pulled it for 24 yrs and communicated with the kids and left. I could do this because I was financially stable but believe me I am very happy now and same with the kids. So be strong ladies

    • @sa11h_1
      @sa11h_1 Pƙed 23 dny +1

      Happy to know that your kids are happy.

  • @gitasrimandal4477
    @gitasrimandal4477 Pƙed 27 dny +100

    Shefali is so true and honest in this conversation .. lots of love for her
 no high funda thought.. just day to day problems of specially Indian families
.Bring one more episode on relationship with her.. pls

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore Pƙed 27 dny

      Can we date

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny +1

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @jackryan2709
      @jackryan2709 Pƙed 14 dny

      Shefali Shah is a wonderful actress and she is doing really good acting in podcast also.

    • @shuchitamahindru1843
      @shuchitamahindru1843 Pƙed 4 dny

      I second that... another episode is a must...

  • @najumehra1966
    @najumehra1966 Pƙed 27 dny +70

    Omg her brain is exactly like mine!!! So so true !! Love her for coming and being so vocal about what the reality is! Salute!

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny +1

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

  • @716Sbbmsmiia-hx3kf
    @716Sbbmsmiia-hx3kf Pƙed 27 dny +31

    The way she is sitting - it's more like how comfortable cool she makes the environment

  • @ShreyasKa92
    @ShreyasKa92 Pƙed 14 dny +9

    If you started dating in early 30s and want to date for 4-5 years, one might have problems conceiving a child.
    What if one or both of the partners are not open to adoption.
    You’re in a trap & this is only one of the reasons why you shouldn’t listen to these people blindly.
    Marry early, learn to grown and correct your mistakes together.
    Live a little spiritually.
    God bless!

  • @Namrata_Singh_Raghuvanshi
    @Namrata_Singh_Raghuvanshi Pƙed 21 dnem +34

    Hi Raj!
    An honest opinion here.. If you're bringing psychologists, lawyers, or someone who has actually some experience like people who have studied relationships, marriages or breakups then related questions are valid. A person from media should be asked media related, movies related or fashion related questions.. it increases credibility for us as audience..

    • @jackryan2709
      @jackryan2709 Pƙed 14 dny +2

      Agree
 she is just doing acting in front of camera now in this podcast.

    • @akshansh6471
      @akshansh6471 Pƙed 10 dny +1

      Absolutely agreed!

    • @kamalp2242
      @kamalp2242 Pƙed 8 dny +2

      Don’t agree here, anyone who’s been in a relationship good or bad can share their experiences provided they are honest about it n here she was quite forthcoming, love her for that. But being a public figure you can’t say it all on a national platform . We should understand that.

  • @akshadachougaonkar5134
    @akshadachougaonkar5134 Pƙed 27 dny +16

    I think you should have called someone who has seen the bright side of marriage too along with this guest who saw the dark side. Or maybe make another podcast with Riteish and Genelia and ask the same questions and ask them how they both maintained and had a so beautiful marriage. Please note this.

  • @gulaabi.jazbaat
    @gulaabi.jazbaat Pƙed 21 dnem +9

    I have been absolutely in awe of Shefali Shah for the last few years. I can't put into words how much adoration my heart holds for her. Thank you @rajshamani for having her on Figuring Out. I am so thankful.

  • @alka935
    @alka935 Pƙed 24 dny +9

    I just love this lady. How she speaks, how she react, how she understand the thnigs is incredible

  • @nandinisharma2577
    @nandinisharma2577 Pƙed 28 dny +105

    Though I agree that everyone should have the right to speak up their minds but brother please don't call the film industry people for relationships related advice bcoz:
    1)They comes from world where there is no line between professional & personal life, therefore we have very different perspectives towards life.
    2)Because of the kind of work they are in, the people they are surrounded with and the society they live in, is literally poles apart from ours.
    3) Most of their opinions on marriage and relationships are bizzare and irrational. These people have damaged the sacredness of marriage as an institution and have ruined the societies.
    4) You can't just go and take relationship advices from people who are okay to attach their names with any person just for the sake of publicity.
    5)They are literally marrying for the brand values how can anybody ask them for personal life or relationships related advices???
    * Nothing against Shefali Shah, I love her work and she just best at it.😊
    My thoughts are in general as I follow your channel regularly and lately, I have been observing that your questions to the film celebrities are much about relationships and less about their work.
    Mind it, they might be experts at acting(à€Źà€čà„à€€ à€žà„‡ à€€à„‹ à€‰à€žà€źà„‡ à€­à„€ à€šà€čà„€ à€čà„ˆ) but that doesn't mean they are experts at relationships as well.
    Their opinions and thoughts on relationships are only as important as any other common person if not less.

    • @AJ-vz4os
      @AJ-vz4os Pƙed 27 dny +3

      I’m 100% agree with your opinion.

    • @Shubham-iitbh26
      @Shubham-iitbh26 Pƙed 27 dny +5

      Yes sister i completely agree with you if you want real relationship advise just look around middle class Indians.In love sacrifice is needed but these movie stars don't want to sacrifice and even most of them marries just for money and fame they don't love each other truly.

    • @screensafari17
      @screensafari17 Pƙed 27 dny +12

      No one is expert in relationship. Criticize the points not the person. Common people are also not saint. It is just that they don't have many options like celebrities. In multi national companies, affairs are quite common. How many men would remain loyal if they are approached by beautiful women who are out of their league?

    • @Shubham-iitbh26
      @Shubham-iitbh26 Pƙed 27 dny +2

      @@screensafari17 bro which mnc are you talking about, I interned at Microsoft and haven't seen much cases and why you are getting offended it's true that most marriages are just for money and fame and in reality also such marriages exist but I have witnessed how my parents truly loved each other sacrificed many things and I am sorry if you didn't like any of my words.

    • @prachijain9351
      @prachijain9351 Pƙed 27 dny +2

      Yeah. Everyone has a unique and very different journey. We can relate to a few incidents, but it's up to the individual how does he/she deals with the situation. Not an appropriate person to give general opinion on this issue for sure. She is great on her craft, but in terms of relationships, she can share only her experiences and uni directional perspective.

  • @20dainty
    @20dainty Pƙed 24 dny +7

    This podcast is so relatable. The discussion on flawed marriages and kids growing up to believe that marriages are a flawed concept and then being pushed by the same parents into marriage saying sab marriages ek jaisi nahi hoti...and then pressurizing them to ignore red flags saying sabki aisi hi hoti hain. Hypocrisy at its peak.

  • @rishisharma8311
    @rishisharma8311 Pƙed 28 dny +123

    I dont know how credible this information is. Shefali Shah is neither a psychiatrist nor a marriage counsellor and being an actress i will think twice before agreeing with her because bollywood is just famous for presenting distorted realities.

    • @maryamhinatahir3782
      @maryamhinatahir3782 Pƙed 27 dny +9

      Unfortunately we always label mindful people. On the other side most of psychiatrist just have degree so they allowed to whatever they want. Right?

    • @rishisharma8311
      @rishisharma8311 Pƙed 26 dny +12

      @@maryamhinatahir3782 "degree" is backed by some research atleast, specially in psychology. And what Shefali Shah did here was that she shared her own experience (which is just one experience). If a marriage consellor would have come in, he/she would have shared the experiences of multiple couples (multiple experiences) and the different paths they took to resolved their couple issues. There are much more ways to resolve things apart from a divorce. Wouldn't that have been a much better learning for us?

    • @rohitbelani4500
      @rohitbelani4500 Pƙed 26 dny +6

      Totally agreed. The most irritating podcast in my opinion

    • @sandhyaslittleworld5913
      @sandhyaslittleworld5913 Pƙed 26 dny +1

      Agree totally i thought she ll talk abt her career

    • @swatikurtkoti1534
      @swatikurtkoti1534 Pƙed 25 dny +6

      It's not information he already mentioned in first few minutes, it's her wisdom she is sharing.

  • @sumitatulkar7384
    @sumitatulkar7384 Pƙed 28 dny +390

    Brother Please put thumbnail like "Dark reality of Indian Marriages" your are making people mindset to see negatives of indian Marriages even before the start of the videos, instead of making people to see what good and what is bad of marriages. Click bait is ok but don't make your audiences pre conception that indian Marriages are bad.

    • @Saikath_76
      @Saikath_76 Pƙed 28 dny +7

      What was the thumbnail before?

    • @_Avinash_singh_solanki_
      @_Avinash_singh_solanki_ Pƙed 28 dny

      Same question 😂​@@Saikath_76

    • @sandeep283
      @sandeep283 Pƙed 28 dny +4

      Bro thumbnail says toxic marriage and red flag which itself interprets negativity

    • @vivekalexander1217
      @vivekalexander1217 Pƙed 28 dny +7

      Most of his thumbnails are like that
 even an Adani one
raj knows negativity sells and he is cashing in on that

    • @sandeep283
      @sandeep283 Pƙed 27 dny +2

      @@vivekalexander1217 yeah all you tubers r behind dis tactic to garner viewership

  • @TataSky-jr7td
    @TataSky-jr7td Pƙed 28 dny +47

    Add one more C- Communication. Nowadays couples have stopped or minimized communicating. They r busy in their own world.. rather just talk anything n everything. Just pick up some topic n talk . Tell entire day stories. Go out with frnz n then come n tell ur person how your day went etc..

    • @sonasandhuji
      @sonasandhuji Pƙed 27 dny +1

      Life is not like that... In marriage..it's not possible to pick a topic n talk ..plus if one is not interested in talking then it's just enraged both of them... So eventually they or one have to become quite .. other wise. .. what would u eat or wear or buy or do is big discussion for a couple

    • @screensafari17
      @screensafari17 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      Jab criteria hi beauty aur money hai partner select karne ka to communication kaise hoga.

    • @TataSky-jr7td
      @TataSky-jr7td Pƙed 27 dny +1

      @@sonasandhujiyes thr will be times wherein either one is tired or just wanna be alone n don't wanna talk, but to make a relationship work, someone needs to create that habit of sharing, talking, maybe gossiping sometimes. It's ok. Start with what the other person likes to hear n then say what u wanna say

    • @simrandakni7725
      @simrandakni7725 Pƙed 27 dny

      They are busy tagging on IG😂😂 indirect taunts... I feel bad for such partner

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

  • @amitamittalgupta7893
    @amitamittalgupta7893 Pƙed 28 dny +14

    A very nice , real conversation on relationships , marriages.......

  • @diyasirvya7951
    @diyasirvya7951 Pƙed 22 dny +7

    This podcast was like realllllyyyy amazing i sat down to watch it with very diff expectation, but till the end i just got a very amazing perspective about relationships and like every relationship in & around us!!!! just wow!!!!!

  • @imanmalik5631
    @imanmalik5631 Pƙed 28 dny +26

    Her advice on late marriage is not practical especially where women are concerned. Women who decide to have children in mid thirties are at higher risks of having babies with deformities.

    • @carrad123456
      @carrad123456 Pƙed 28 dny +5

      Mid thirties is ok, mid forties is problem.

    • @Hassan-fd6yn
      @Hassan-fd6yn Pƙed 28 dny +14

      children are not only reason for marriage.

    • @Hassan-fd6yn
      @Hassan-fd6yn Pƙed 28 dny

      who cares about fooking babies...first manage each other

    • @_Avinash_singh_solanki_
      @_Avinash_singh_solanki_ Pƙed 28 dny +1

      ​@@carrad123456mid forties me menstrual cycle band ho jati h đŸ€”

    • @carrad123456
      @carrad123456 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      @@_Avinash_singh_solanki_ not necessary, it can go on till 50-55

  • @ChildFirst
    @ChildFirst Pƙed 28 dny +114

    Not all points she mentioned are having logical reasoning. She haven't get into the depth of issues & experiences in her own marriage. Her body language is highly impatient. This podcast is just a conversation and not any such to take away.
    12:28... Interesting

  • @preetkaursethi
    @preetkaursethi Pƙed 27 dny +3

    OMG HAS TO BE MY MOST FAV PODCASTS TILL NOW , love the way she spoke and the points she kept is so on point 🙌

  • @thebabar786
    @thebabar786 Pƙed 28 dny +15

    6:15 she said that she is earning and she is independent. If man says he is earning and independent then women go to court and files false case of 498

    • @alankritakaushal
      @alankritakaushal Pƙed 28 dny +3

      Listen to her further. She is saying that men too have terrible marriages.

    • @thebabar786
      @thebabar786 Pƙed 24 dny

      @@alankritakaushalyup

  • @aminaik3404
    @aminaik3404 Pƙed 27 dny +3

    Very nice episode. great questions and Shefali did wonderfull job answering them.

  • @gillianchanga-nj4lm
    @gillianchanga-nj4lm Pƙed 11 dny +1

    Very realistic conversation on marriage. It’s ups and downs, 80/20 some days, but you push through. And the part of celebrating is so true. You have to put the work in.

  • @mainumedhi406
    @mainumedhi406 Pƙed 27 dny +21

    Jab tak shaadi mein naaptol chalega tab tab esa hi ghisipiti jhagre honge..
    Marriage is totally a bond between two souls who are different from each other but still likes to be together with the differences and equally enjoys each other's company.. I got married at 25 and i got a partner who is immensely fond of me and i am fond of him.. We both have different personality though.. Not all who are on screen are perfect to give judgements.. Sometimes you should also bring normal common people on podcast too.. So that we all feel related

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore Pƙed 27 dny +3

      Ye sb family or society ne suru Kiya h
      Sirf need dekhi jati h ladka ladki hot h sex mil jayega ladke ki job h to sukh milega
      Baki iske alawa to koi kuch dekhta nhi ki love sbse pehle hona chahiye

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny +1

      100%

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny +2

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @tanyayadav8815
      @tanyayadav8815 Pƙed 27 dny

      Behen tum lucky aur highly understanding ho...in most of the cases aisa nhi hota hai...just 2 different opinions (you and shefali) stating facts...()

  • @premangshunaskar1491
    @premangshunaskar1491 Pƙed 28 dny +6

    First time I have seen something which is very practical in today's time.

  • @tejaswininepali9557
    @tejaswininepali9557 Pƙed 26 dny +3

    Hey Raj Shamani ! this is the first podcast I have heart( watched) completely....its like a deep conversation...going to watch all others now....lots of love from Nepal!

  • @jayameera19
    @jayameera19 Pƙed 27 dny +10

    Best podcast everyone must watch this 😊 many many tiny things to learn from this podcast
    Continuity is not breaking that's good đŸ‘đŸ»

  • @IOSALive
    @IOSALive Pƙed 28 dny +15

    Raj Shamani, You're the best! I subscribed because I love your content!

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  Pƙed 28 dny +1

      Thankyou so much! your support and love is something that motivates me to bring the best content that might add value to my audience!!!

    • @karanchawla950
      @karanchawla950 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      Yes but don’t let people spread negativity. Thumbs down đŸ‘ŽđŸœ

  • @user-ov2yp6nf5k
    @user-ov2yp6nf5k Pƙed 23 dny +4

    She is soo soo intelligent and aware about what women and men feel in their marriage and relationship's etc. And every single individual should watch this episode if ur struggling with your relationship and marriage.
    I know that there is somethings are wrong with my relationship but I don't want to or I don't know how to address things to my partner after watching this episode in so many topics it just open my eyes for both of us, I will share this podcast with my partner, family and friends!!!
    Such a great podcast Raj sir keep rocking!!! Love your every podcast!!! ❀❀❀

  • @ritubajaj93
    @ritubajaj93 Pƙed 23 dny +3

    I am speechless because it was a mind-blowing podcast. I just loved it. Keep up the good work.

  • @sushmabhalla243
    @sushmabhalla243 Pƙed 24 dny +1

    Thank you so much to you both ❀very real and inspiring podcast. Respect is main in Good relationship. Stay blessed all.

  • @SaarthiCounselling
    @SaarthiCounselling Pƙed 25 dny +4

    In order to build awareness and psychoeducating people about mental health and healthy relationships, these people are invited and not Psychologist/Marriage Counsellors like us. They may have experience but we definitely have education, expertise, and experience.

  • @Arsalan928
    @Arsalan928 Pƙed 28 dny +13

    bro please try to communicate in hindi because the community to whom you want to teach/target , unable to understand english.

  • @shreyasingh606
    @shreyasingh606 Pƙed 28 dny +8

    Seriously, I've never watched anyone's podcast all the way through until the end. But Raj, you and your content are so good.
    You gain a subscriber.

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  Pƙed 27 dny

      Thankyou🙌 Let me know what you want to see next on our podcast💯

  • @JatinChhabra95
    @JatinChhabra95 Pƙed 28 dny +6

    loved this particular one

  • @ChandaVaswani
    @ChandaVaswani Pƙed 27 dny +2

    Awesome podcast... Loved shefali... A very genuine human being❀

  • @sonumonu5553
    @sonumonu5553 Pƙed 27 dny +4

    It is two people sharing their personal opinions... not a nail in the thumb....it all deoends and varies person to person and good luck

  • @anitha7500
    @anitha7500 Pƙed 27 dny +2

    Nice message " chose to be alone, rather being with wrong partner"

    • @48038
      @48038 Pƙed 22 dny

      à€žà„ƒà€·à„à€Ÿà€ż à€•à€Ÿ à€žà€Ÿà€°à€Ÿ à€žà„Œà€‚à€Šà€°à„à€Ż à€žà€Ÿà€°à€Ÿ à€žà€‚à€—à„€à€€ à€žà€Ÿà€°à„€ à€žà€‚à€”à„‡à€Šà€šà€Ÿà€ à€žà€Ÿà€„ à€œà„€à€šà„‡ à€žà€Ÿà€„ à€°à€čà€šà„‡ à€žà„‡ à€žà€Ÿà€„ à€œà„à€Ąà€Œà€šà„‡ à€žà„‡ à€œà€Ÿà€—à€€à€Ÿ à€čà„ˆ à€…à€Șà€šà„€ à€—à€°à€żà€źà€Ÿ à€…à€Șà€šà„€ à€œà€żà€Š à€…à€Șà€šà„€ à€œà„€à€”à€šà€¶à„ˆà€Čà„€ à€…à€Șà€šà„€ à€§à€Ÿà€°à€Łà€Ÿà€“ à€…à€Șà€šà„‡ à€…à€šà„à€€à€°à„à€”à€żà€°à„‹à€§à„‹ à€•à„‡ à€šà€Čà€€à„‡ à€…à€•à„‡à€Čà„‡ à€°à€čà€šà€Ÿ à€à€• à€šà„à€šà€Ÿà€” à€čà„ˆ à€žà€źà€Ÿà€§à€Ÿà€š à€šà€čà„€ ....

  • @Chetna24.
    @Chetna24. Pƙed 24 dny +2

    Beautiful podcast ❀  .thoroughly enjoyed it ✹

  • @ramikatamang6655
    @ramikatamang6655 Pƙed 27 dny

    Superb.. thank u so much 🙏 u open my mind ❀

  • @shreyas5696_YT
    @shreyas5696_YT Pƙed 28 dny +63

    Answer to last discussion: it's easy to spread negative ideas than positive. As per human psychology, bad habits are easier to form.
    For example: getting addicted to smoking is easier than a book

    • @aakashsingh1188
      @aakashsingh1188 Pƙed 28 dny +1

      Yea I was thinking the same, he completely changed her perception. But they both have their reasons, they're both right, but its just what you said.

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore Pƙed 27 dny

      And i think all the negativity in u tube becoming reason for depression. Real life is very simple.

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny

      100%- this person only talks negatively about everything becausr he knows negativity sells😂. He is telling and making this as if all marraiges are bad😂. Such a shameful person.

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore Pƙed 27 dny

      @@ZoldicsDiaries you r right
      These influencers are f#cked up totally

  • @KrishNa-zg2jp
    @KrishNa-zg2jp Pƙed 28 dny +7

    Thankyou so much for this podcast ❀ Raj Shamani

  • @premanjee3800
    @premanjee3800 Pƙed 27 dny

    Wonderful podcast enjoyed watching...

  • @tejaljatte
    @tejaljatte Pƙed 28 dny +2

    All episode are class ,I shared with my loveobe keep doing podcast

  • @wilmanoronha5988
    @wilmanoronha5988 Pƙed 28 dny +3

    Wonderful podcast! Huge fan of Shefali Shah
    This could have been a lengthier episode..I feel like many portions were just cut off abruptly

  • @ashwiniratnaparkhi146
    @ashwiniratnaparkhi146 Pƙed 28 dny +8

    đŸ‘đŸ»â€ Raj, bring more & more podcasts on relationship

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  Pƙed 27 dny +2

      Stay tuned! Many more to come💯💯

    • @therakeshkumarrathore
      @therakeshkumarrathore Pƙed 27 dny

      Find a guy who can be with you for a year without sex
      Marry him
      That's all don't watch stupid podcasts

  • @hetalbhatt6524
    @hetalbhatt6524 Pƙed 8 dny

    Wonderful interview. Thank you so much

  • @lizakazi2217
    @lizakazi2217 Pƙed 22 dny +1

    Excellent talk show. Loved the topic. Loved the conversation & Shefali was pointing every single point, loved how she explained so beautifully. Thank you for bringing my all time favorite actress Shefali Shah. I have been seeing her from Hasrate drama from TV.

  • @hardikbpandya
    @hardikbpandya Pƙed 27 dny +4

    Unfortunately her own marriage failed and she making her personal experience as universal truth..

  • @baratbushan8230
    @baratbushan8230 Pƙed 28 dny +17

    Majority Indian marriages are all full of sacrifice type of life for for future of their children etc

    • @jessaabraham
      @jessaabraham Pƙed 27 dny +1

      Maybe when they reincarnate the hope is a better life. If we thought this is the life we may think differently.

  • @roshnishah3655
    @roshnishah3655 Pƙed 28 dny

    I loved it Raj❀ You seem to be empathetic ..You explore perspectives well.

  • @jyotideshpande3593
    @jyotideshpande3593 Pƙed 23 dny

    Tks Raj for such a wonderful podcast...keep up the good work..😊

  • @riyatalksgenderequality
    @riyatalksgenderequality Pƙed 28 dny +15

    Oh what a podcast! WHAT A PODCAST!!! â€đŸ‘ Kudos and huge thanks to you both for bringing up such content and highlighting the unsaid details. More than loved it ❀

    • @rajshamani
      @rajshamani  Pƙed 27 dny +2

      Thankyou🙌🙌

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries Pƙed 27 dny +1

      its becoming a trend for some podcasters and youtubers to only talk about negative of marraige as if all marraiges are bad. Such a shame. They never talk about it positives. They are also propagating that marraiges are bad but live in is good😂. What a shame.

    • @engineerofemotions1183
      @engineerofemotions1183 Pƙed 24 dny

      @@rajshamani Raaj you used to replied for one's who make a sheer positive comment only, please read constructive criticism as well. It will help you to grow fast and real....
      And genuine I am a regular viewer and admirer as well

  • @HARISHKUMARYADAV-jm1oq
    @HARISHKUMARYADAV-jm1oq Pƙed 28 dny +9

    à€čà€żà€‚à€Šà„€ à€źà„‡à€‚ à€žà€źà€ à€źà„‡à€‚ à€œà„à€Żà€Ÿà€Šà€Ÿ à€†à€€à€Ÿ à€čà„ˆ à€źà„à€à„‡ 😊

  • @gitanjalipuri6866
    @gitanjalipuri6866 Pƙed 24 dny +1

    So relatable
    Feeling normal as I am 51.
    Good to know my marriage is okay.

  • @nafiskhan9281
    @nafiskhan9281 Pƙed 22 dny +1

    Thankyou for this program,its an eye opener.I shared it with my grand children

  • @renukabisht9706
    @renukabisht9706 Pƙed 28 dny +8

    Thanks Raj and I really appreciate it the kind of question you ask. Your podcasts are very informative.

  • @ramyapidugu1027
    @ramyapidugu1027 Pƙed 28 dny +21

    Very informative.. much needed... and the flow of the podcast was awesome - Natural & On-point

  • @bindahteewanti442
    @bindahteewanti442 Pƙed 27 dny +2

    I could relate to it in some ways, loved it.

  • @prachijain6934
    @prachijain6934 Pƙed 2 dny

    I didn't expect this to be that greatt.. but I loved listening to every single conversation in this podcast.. awesome

  • @shreyas5696_YT
    @shreyas5696_YT Pƙed 28 dny +48

    Marriage is a complicated thing and giving generic tips like "early marriage is bad" will help no one, because there are studies showing people who marry outside 22-28 range tend to get divorced soon....This lady doesn't know the reality of marriages in these times... my family has been searching for a bride since 2 years and haven't found a match even though I'm handsome guy with good salary and background.....some of my friends have been rejected by girls because they crossed age 30...

    • @jessaabraham
      @jessaabraham Pƙed 27 dny

      And do you know the reason why? It’s because people are able to recognize right from wrong. Earlier people married at 10 to 13. Is that okay? Wait for forebrain to develop. Get financial ability. Ok now why you want to marry and stay married for 60 years. Marriage only works 45per or so. It’s natural. Marriage is a man made conscious decision. It’s not natural.

    • @homegardeningandfishes1510
      @homegardeningandfishes1510 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      That's fuckin truth

    • @homegardeningandfishes1510
      @homegardeningandfishes1510 Pƙed 27 dny +6

      But some suedo feminist will not agree with it because of their illogical mindset

    • @nandinisharma2577
      @nandinisharma2577 Pƙed 27 dny

      She has literally compared a life partner with work, like if a person is a workaholic then she/he may not need a life partner....!
      I wonder if she's aware of WTH is coming out of her mouth!

    • @ToughCookie100
      @ToughCookie100 Pƙed 27 dny

      She said there are people who are completely involved with work. Such workaholics many not prefer to have a partner because they want to devote all their time to work..for example people like Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam who dedicated their whole life to their profession.
      Such people also exist..​@@nandinisharma2577

  • @shreyaguptoo
    @shreyaguptoo Pƙed 28 dny +14

    I really like your podcast but with great actors like Vidya Balan and shifali shah why are we stuck on with marriage & relationship? They are ACTORS not a couple therapist . Yes they are humans like all of us with opinions and relationships. But I wish we could have known more about her journey. What is the right time to marry ? Asking shifali shah won't influence us . Idk . It's disappointing ya !

    • @mrudangdalal
      @mrudangdalal Pƙed 28 dny +1

      Exactly.. this is non-sense.

    • @meeta4397
      @meeta4397 Pƙed 27 dny +3

      True.. there is too much talk about marriage. Raj, there are NO formulas.. what will work is very subjective. Maybe you could talk about how middle aged women can become actors!

    • @kaveeshaweerasinghe6803
      @kaveeshaweerasinghe6803 Pƙed 24 dny +1

      I agree.

    • @krunalthakker588
      @krunalthakker588 Pƙed 24 dny

      Ek dum! I was like... .. bawadi ho gayi ke? 😂 They are having convo like night out with friends 😅

  • @nimitberry5257
    @nimitberry5257 Pƙed 26 dny +2

    This was a great podcast and a great conversation. Shefali Shah is a gem 💎. I felt there there were multiple cuts here which stopped the natural flow of conversation, I’d prefer if it was a free flowing conversation. I want my podcast to be uncut and unedited, but that’s just me

  • @sakshiaggarwal6199
    @sakshiaggarwal6199 Pƙed 7 dny

    Great Podcast!! Thanks Raj Shamani!!

  • @ameya7723
    @ameya7723 Pƙed 27 dny +4

    Just ask her how much her husband makes. Then you will find the answer for why and what she ' loved more'.

  • @UKKH01
    @UKKH01 Pƙed 28 dny +6

    Love listening to her. Lovely podcast, please Invite her again, Thank you.

  • @SandipKumar-og6xm
    @SandipKumar-og6xm Pƙed 24 dny

    Thank u so much
    Great video

  • @csneelampathak6301
    @csneelampathak6301 Pƙed 27 dny

    Nice topic😊 thanks

  • @Naruto12.v
    @Naruto12.v Pƙed 28 dny +26

    This is called real content

  • @kayjc0975
    @kayjc0975 Pƙed 28 dny +5

    She's living on another planet kya ,yaar raj kya hogaya aaisey guest kyon ?! Shes a great actress no doubt.

    • @maryamhinatahir3782
      @maryamhinatahir3782 Pƙed 27 dny

      Whats wrong she spoke on this topic?

    • @kayjc0975
      @kayjc0975 Pƙed 27 dny

      @@maryamhinatahir3782 nothing to say I have unsubscribed , n it won't make a difference.

  • @snigdhabrahma2702
    @snigdhabrahma2702 Pƙed 26 dny +1

    Absolutely right Shefali ,I agree with you ❀

  • @manisha4224
    @manisha4224 Pƙed 27 dny

    Super like 👍 really liked your observations on relationships!!

  • @ikiraw21
    @ikiraw21 Pƙed 26 dny +5

    Marriage in early or late thirties is really bad. Genetically Caucasian women have large egg reserves and longer maternal windows. Modern Asian / Indian women have low egg reserves and low maternal window. Above 30 , women are considered advanced maternal age and complications of food allergies, Down syndrome, autism for the fetus increases exponentially! Also you down want to be too old too take care of your kids and experience the joy of your grandkids! Your kids want to be there for them!

    • @quizudita
      @quizudita Pƙed 26 dny +1

      Your comment made sense till Talking about your next gen...
      You want to alive to look after your Grand kids.... is TOO MUCH to Expect from Life...
      Does "LIVING FOR OWN, SELF IMPROVEMENT, PRIVATE TIME, PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT " comes to your Radar or ... no personal goals/upliftment... just Family Planning 😅

    • @ikiraw21
      @ikiraw21 Pƙed 23 dny

      @quizudita I am living my best life and stating facts about human biology! Quoting everything in cap .. you seem very frustrated!

  • @diksharawat2888
    @diksharawat2888 Pƙed 24 dny

    Great conversation!! ❀

  • @jannatulmauwa9198
    @jannatulmauwa9198 Pƙed 28 dny +2

    One of the best podcast i have ever heard

  • @Naruto12.v
    @Naruto12.v Pƙed 28 dny +7

    I allways learn new things from your podcast thanks for that

  • @martuja3732
    @martuja3732 Pƙed 27 dny +4

    Baseless prodcust ...
    Only show negativity...
    This could be the life of TR 1 City's ....

  • @deeptimohla8672
    @deeptimohla8672 Pƙed 24 dny +1

    Many a times Raj's questions were offtrack for which there can be no definite answer. I however loved the way Shefali fielded all of them. Honest and from the heart. Have always loved her.

  • @divya4g
    @divya4g Pƙed 26 dny

    Amazing podcast.Reality of life.

  • @naveenkumar8305
    @naveenkumar8305 Pƙed 25 dny +2

    All of his Podcasts have similar template. Relationship, Marriage, Red flags etc. Bro don't you have anything better to talk about with women guests ?

  • @lovesharma4883
    @lovesharma4883 Pƙed 27 dny +5

    No disrespect, but how does an actor become an expert on relationships?
    What's the qualification?
    Again, no disrespect intended to anyone..

  • @likitha-pk6eg
    @likitha-pk6eg Pƙed 27 dny +1

    way more interesting in general perspective! sometimes what all matters about a relationship is two of them how they deal with things for betterment rather than getting out of relationship and its fine when things are not working for both of them to get out of the relationship. diplomatic gen z . love is a choice shamani as u said , loving them even when things are not fine is what that works for long lasting . may be the need for long lasting relationship is not a goal for few then whats that u needed in a 70 year life ! peace and happiness with yourself is ultimate .so the thing is build yourself strong to deal with anything and stand for yourself is what i learned .

  • @radhika1807
    @radhika1807 Pƙed 27 dny

    Awesome Podcast. Shefali ji , i am exactly exactly like you ...when you were talking about being expressive .

  • @thequestforknowledge9252
    @thequestforknowledge9252 Pƙed 28 dny +23

    Like who Addicted of Raj shamani podcast❀

    • @thukan295
      @thukan295 Pƙed 28 dny

      😂😂😂😂😂​@@gautamichalke3627

    • @thukan295
      @thukan295 Pƙed 28 dny +1

      Aapse advice kisne maangi

    • @av9703
      @av9703 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      😂😂
      đŸ€«

  • @rajsparsh4
    @rajsparsh4 Pƙed 28 dny +3

    Yeh sikhayegi ab hume jiski khud ke marriage ka pata nhi. Like others she might be faking too

  • @swapnalilobo4962
    @swapnalilobo4962 Pƙed 24 dny

    I simply adore n respect Shefali ....she is a Gem...thanks ..was great listening to her ..n her experience

  • @nk694
    @nk694 Pƙed dnem

    One of the finest actors I have seen. Her journey from Monsoon Wedding to Darlings, needless to mention her performance in OTT has been fabulous, fabulous being understatement.
    Her eyes itself is whole lot of dialogue and statement.
    Always look forward for her next fold of performance.
    My wish, just want to meet her for a minute and tell her how accomplished people like us to have a talent like her.
    Shefali the beauty of your performance is just mesmerising. Keep working

  • @loveenajain1
    @loveenajain1 Pƙed 28 dny +10

    Why is she any authority to talk about relationships?

    • @frolicflair
      @frolicflair Pƙed 19 dny

      I think it's more opinion based than claiming it to be actual facts

    • @jyotirathee6045
      @jyotirathee6045 Pƙed 7 dny

      Life experience

    • @kittyanu4460
      @kittyanu4460 Pƙed 7 dny

      True we cannot make someone our teacher when no one can be termed perfect.

  • @rupamborah1729
    @rupamborah1729 Pƙed 26 dny +5

    I suggest @RajShamani someday you just bring up a proud homemaker from a random city or town who is happy of being a woman and a mother and let their idea flourish, rather everytime bringing up a working women to talk on behalf of them is an utter doublestandard.

  • @caankitagrover4992
    @caankitagrover4992 Pƙed 23 dny

    Good content. Thanks

  • @truptidave9862
    @truptidave9862 Pƙed 25 dny

    Good one, enjoyed thoroughly!! Keep it up!👍

  • @Akashriyaz_99
    @Akashriyaz_99 Pƙed 28 dny +6

    Jab AAP dono ko Hindi aata he to English kayu?
    I don't understand English

    • @user-zz1zb1ki2f
      @user-zz1zb1ki2f Pƙed 28 dny +4

      Inhe apni bhasha par sharam aati hai. Iss maamle me Beerbiceps accha hai. Uska hindi channel bhi hai ❀

    • @rohankashyap4016
      @rohankashyap4016 Pƙed 28 dny

      Phir angrej ke aulad kaise lagenge.

    • @_Avinash_singh_solanki_
      @_Avinash_singh_solanki_ Pƙed 28 dny

      ​@@user-zz1zb1ki2f 😂

  • @Om_Namah_Shivaay888
    @Om_Namah_Shivaay888 Pƙed 27 dny +9

    Is it just me or are you all also annoyed by how he is talking over Shefali
..it’s very cringy to me!! And disrespectful too

    • @roushansharma1861
      @roushansharma1861 Pƙed 27 dny +6

      It is just only you mam. He talked very nicely and she seems very happy about the conversation in the last.

    • @shraddhapande8539
      @shraddhapande8539 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      I agree he almost always does this..... Talks to much over others

    • @Anish51
      @Anish51 Pƙed 27 dny +2

      I totally agree
.bro does amazing podcast but someone please remind him sometimes that we want to hear the guests experiences please so let them speak


    • @surbhithaker
      @surbhithaker Pƙed 27 dny +2

      Even it bothered me..lil disrespectful..pura sun ne k baad last me fatafat cut kardeta hai line..he is more eager or curious in his own written questions rather than experiencing other person energy.

  • @prakharpathak8d227
    @prakharpathak8d227 Pƙed 8 dny

    I used to watch your shorts
    Tiday saw two long videos and immediately subscribed it
    Your thoughts are very reliable

  • @siddhu353
    @siddhu353 Pƙed 26 dny

    picked some real good points on the early marriage, delayed marriage, when does one know they are done, how should one keeps on trying.... keep it up

  • @Acid7676
    @Acid7676 Pƙed 28 dny +5

    Brother, do podcast in hindi don't understand many people english because the people of the country mostly understand Hindi.

  • @RojaJaneman
    @RojaJaneman Pƙed 28 dny +3

    Y is an actor giving advice on society, psychology, relationships?? Bring in experts in d field. Not this 👆👆 đŸ€Šâ€â™€ïž

    • @geethanjalihc4078
      @geethanjalihc4078 Pƙed 27 dny +1

      Don't you think she has life experiences. MAy be she has 3 decades of experience certificate of being in a marriage and seeing the people around how they are in their marriage, that's quite a credibility

    • @Nitin0g
      @Nitin0g Pƙed 25 dny

      Do you understand experience?

  • @komarrajusoujanya6684
    @komarrajusoujanya6684 Pƙed 26 dny

    Liked the podcast abd the flow of the discussion. Of course you dealt with very important things abd questions snd i could see it toll the end because i had time. If the time is reduced i.e, if its a short and crisp podcast it will be much easier for people like me to watch till the end

  • @Cindy-hr1xx
    @Cindy-hr1xx Pƙed 27 dny

    This interview was so much for me I too stayed in a toxic relationship for 21 years and once my son started uni I left home my son's 19 now and my son still sees me during his vacations I feel so much at peace now

  • @homegardeningandfishes1510
    @homegardeningandfishes1510 Pƙed 28 dny +8

    She is so negative throughout the podcast and 80% of hers thoughts are wrong with the narrative of toxic feminism touch