Vidya Balan On Marriage, Meeting Sid Roy, Relationship, Cheating & Situationship | FO191 Raj Shamani
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Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
03:45 - Vidya Balan and romance
05:05 - Vidya balan on her marriage with Siddharth Roy Kapur
10:23 - Boat and Anchor theory
13:01 - Relationship with parents influence choice of partner
15:35 - Immature fights and how they deal with it
20:08 - Advice to couples
22:32 - Individual physical space in relationships
25:52 - Giving time to family Vs having personal space
32:27 - Relationship Hack, Thankyou over sorry
36:03 - Why do people cheat in relationship?
40:39 - Harvard’s study on polygamy
44:10 - Sofa theory
46:50 - Situationship
49:35 - Connection Vs Instant stimulation
54:38 - About Do aur do pyaar movie
57:10 - Vidya balan on realising Siddharth is the one for her.
58:46 - Thanks for watching!
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In today’s episode of Figuring Out, we have Vidya Balan in conversation with Raj Shamani.
She is an actress who has not worked in a template but always did movies that were unique and different from one another. From Mission Mangal to Dirty Picture, she has nailed every movie that she has done. Our conversation was one of the most heartwarming conversations on love we had on our podcast.
In this episode, we talked about her equation with her husband Siddharth Roy Kapoor, and how she never saw herself getting married before meeting him and her perspective on getting married. We then talked about two types of people in relationships and how it is related to the people we attract or are attracted to and the theory of the Boat and the Anchor. She then shared how her equation has evolved with Siddhart over the years and how she practices self-love and self-acceptance and maintains her individuality being in a marriage.
We then talked about why people cheat and this was the most interesting part in our conversation because we figured out so many reasons that most of us haven’t thought about. Then I shared the Sofa theory in relationships and how men and women have different mindsets in relationships. She then shared her take on situationships and shared about her new movie which is about relationships. We ended our conversation with a romantic story of how he realised that Siddhart was the one for her. For more such episodes don’t forget to subscribe to our channel.
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She shows excitement while other person is speaking that's excellent communication skills
the best thing about her ,
From "Parineeta" to "Paa," "The Dirty Picture," and "Kahani," Vidya Balan consistently proves herself to be an exceptional individual.
Zee ma hum panchh aati thi usme bhi thi
The aura of her is just so beautiful❤
Vidya is very intelligent...The whole podcast..The way she was taking a pause....thinking about the questions answeing...I felt so good. It felt like Raj is the younger brother and Vidya is the elder sister...both adults discussing LIFE❤
Her voice and laugh are just purely delightful.
Thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. I repeat myself here saying this, "Raj, I love your way of interacting with your guests. You let them talk and you listen well and your questions are well curated and thoughtful."
He forgot to ask “kya aapne apni maut k baare mei socha hai?” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hahahaha! I know who this comment was hinting at!
😂kya aap bhoot main maante ho. Kya aapne yeti dekha hai😂😂😅
Totally agree as I love watching his style of interaction so very pure something like what we would ask if we were in his place:)
I’ve been watching most of your shows as I missed so many from the past.. keep going Raj! Kudos
This is such a beautiful episode. What I love about Raj is that he doesn't shy away from putting across his point of view and stick to it and justify it sensibly
I’m that kind, hehe! Wow, you noticed and pointed that out, you guys observe very closely!! Thanks 🙌🏻❤️
Vidya Balan's laughter is infectious.....She always gives Positive Vibes! ❤ 😊
Vidya ma'am rethinking her entire relationship during this session. Nice session through 50%.
53:00 "connection se daar lagta ha".. afraid of trauma, the sadness it brings, we see constantly connections getting broken evey day, whether loosing someone, pets, no one stays forever, don't wannay be vulnerable for anyone to hurt you later. Connections are meaningless just harmonal highs, its you, your personality, your journey, also no one wants to change for the other person, you want to get accepted as you are, (I am not saying not dresssing up) like not wanting to put up a show for the other person, relationships nowdays are only for adventurous types, looking for thrill of dangers(breakups), cheating/affairs just the thrill of getting caught, not like hiking because its difficult and challenging, but like gambling, its easy and gives similar high. Idk, finding true honest people that are willing to open up, show true self, is very difficult, social dating is all a show,(show of money power influence) no one want to see or even think of the future like 20-30yrs down the line, how will life look like, how we want to spend our future together, everyone wants to just live in today, aaj hi karlo jo bhi karna ha, kal ka kuch nahi pata, But no one is planning for the furture and acting accordingly, thats why these situationships, meaningless relationships.
Great show. Bro I want you work with you if possible, this was a deep conversation, thoda deep and better questions aur and it will be Lex Fridman lvl.
This is not jus an interview this is a reflection of everyone's relationships which we all faced and some will. We need some other podcasts like this to understand things.
The best part was end of the conversation where you mentioned that you skipped all the questions to keep the originality. It so simple to have conversations and you proved it right rather faking it. Its wow ❤
lack of connection with yourself definitely comes in the way of one forming a connection with the world. and I have experienced this firsthand.
Vidya Balan is my all time favourite...not just her looks, but how she thinks and speak is soooooooo deep & beautiful.....This podcast is just awesome...THE COMBINATION of Vidya and Raj is mind blowing....Lovely coversation
Effort is the sexiest thing in the world. This line hit me hard when it comes to relationships. learnt this lesson the hard way.
The most honest, heartfelt, deep, analytical flow of conversation I have seen in a long time. No wonder Raj did not need to look at his notes.
Vidya Balan is very beautiful...she talks from her heart.... felt good through out
Podcasts mein na yeh ek bada gap tha ke beerbiceps he hai jo sabse top ka podcaster hai but honestly he is lame. His way of conducting podcast sucks. Yeh cheezein sabhi maante hai. We as viewers were wanting ke koi iss gap ko fill karde beerbiceps jitna high level quality podcast provide karte huye. And only Raj Shamani and his team does that👍🙌 Fills the gap✅
No bullshit. No rubbish. Not being over excited, just being perfect💎
Raj Shamani is perfect in doing podcasts that’s why we enjoy as viewers😍
P.S.- I’m definitely gonna watch film Do Aur Do Pyaar only because of this podcast❤️
This podcast is exceptional, truly one of the finest I've listened to. The chemistry between Raj and Vidya is remarkable, and witnessing it has elevated my admiration for Raj significantly. I am definitely looking forward to tuning in to more episodes. Good luck and keep growing.
Superb Raj Shamani !! Different converation !! Its realisation convertion i loved it !!
Vidya In Parineeta was fabulous
Me and my husband are in long distance relationship because of jobs.we talk every now and then on the phone. We never fail to communicate.❤
Why u and your husband?
Where your job?
Same dear my husband is in armed forces and i am in state government job. So we have to live apart. But if you want to make it happen everything goes smoothly
@@spreadlove8539 thanks for sharing mam
God bless you ❤
That's one of the sweetest pitch that I have ever had. Subscribed. :)
Who wants Raj to have a podcast with his girlfriend.❤
Mm...I guess only you 😂😅
Public nhi kr skte usko
bhai podcast dekh kar kuch shikhna samjhna hain uski gf se kay shikhna hain how to love raj 😂
Thank you for letting the conversation flow naturally and giving us a beautiful podcast. One of my favourites. Loved the way you guys talked about relationships, even though I'm single I understood a lot more about myself and my relationship type. Brilliant ❤
She’s an actor and an amazing one, why no questions asked about her methodology of acting/ her work, like for example, Manoj Bajpai was asked. Imagine if Manoj Bajpai spoke about the relationship with his wife for an hour and nothing about acting.
Exactly 💯
heyy,actually the thing is that shes here for her movie promotion,and hence its more relationship based(as per the movie also),shes been doing similar promotions at other places also
@@SlaylorSwift14 Yea, you are right
Most of the people on podcasts are there to promote their products.
This was an amazing episode ❤. She is so sensible and smart in her life. I love the healer part, and to every modern day persepective she has one that defines her soul. 😍
We can ask @rajshamani to get her back to talk about her acting journey bec that interests allllll of us. 👍 but this doesn’t undermine this podcast in any way. This conversation was excellent bec it got us to know Vidya as a person. And she’s incredible 😍❤️
Thanks and Need more such podcasts, so that we can understand the female prospective also.
Glad, this episode could help. I'll sure bring more episodes around this topic!! Stay tuned 💪
Next should be Samantha
What she said is so true about connection and commitment.. at the end of the podcast..made me realise fault in myself and relationship with myself.what a great conversation !!
"it's in the presence of a good partner,we really discover ourselves" that's so true,I am experiencing it,we have fights,but we fight for better😊
You asked such nice questions . and the chat in overall was very informative , eye opening and leaves one with lot of questions about oneself .
Great work Raj !
This is the second time i am listening to Vidya mam on a podcast. She is such a beautiful person inside and out. Her thinking, her point of views are so on point. I could really see myself agreeing to what she was saying. And Raj this is the first time i am watching your podcast and i must say Its brilliant ❤❤❤
One for the ages, Raj! Vidya Balan Chechi (all respect!) opens up abour relationships and everything that makes it work. Pivots, perspectives and a positive feeling of being loved. Let's hope all of us experience it! Cheers Raj, and thanks for having this honest individual and supremely talented actor on the show!
Vidya balan looks so elegant and fit at 45❤
What took you so long to get her on the podcast???The only celebrity from Bollywood who articulates her hearts thoughts so well. Beautiful episode❤
Absolutely loveddddddd this conversation!!!! So good! Shes right, you’re like a healer✨ hihi
Beautiful conversation! Very human, guards down, aise laga hum saath beth ke coffee pi rahe hain. If only humans were so comfortable being vulnerable with each other... This is true connection :) Thank you once again Raj, you're helping me sail through in tough times.
Excellent .. 'Hume connection se darr lagta hi'.. I agree 👍 53:37
I felt a lot of healing listening to this. Learned about the sofa theory, also about doing something new every month with your partner, so you explore and know each other more. My husband and me have been stepping out of the house for dates, but doing nothing and we come back feeling we have nothing to do. This was a super duper episode , that I could sit and listen to you guys for hours.
Raj you are a great conversationalist! Vidya Balan is an exceptional individual! She has no star airs, she is listening to what Raj has to say with keen interest and excitement. Her thoughts are so sorted and she comes out as a truly humble and genuine person! I am a great admirer of her acting prowess but now admire her intellect and her thought process as well. 😊
Oh! Vidya ma'am ❤love from Bangladesh
Excellent conversation and an apt topic chosen @Raj Shamani
Sharing my viewpoint. There is a distinction between realization due to insights and feeling guilty.. A thin line difference.. Hence I agree to both the views on 'spending time with family for 5 mins or just saying had a bad day need some time off' when back home..
In both ways we are communicating with the other person. Sharing our views and setting expectation is important and over a period of time the other person understands you even if you dont communicate.. That's connection and understanding.
In my view this was one of the best podcasts..
I loved how you spoke about a situation and explained the solution as an example of 'thank you' instead of 'sorry'.
This session was really hitting at different levels….. it was a in-depth conversation 😊
Listening to vidya is like listening to music 😂 she is so surili ❤
From apologizing to thankful, great lesson learned today. Thankyou
Wow best podcast.
So much to learn❤
After listening to gazillion relationship podcasts, I felt this one as most succinct, & closer to Indian context ... Amazing work 👏🏻😍
Wonderful conversation thoroughly enjoyed it,good job💫
This was one of the most insightful conversations I had heard in a while! Love the format!
She laughs , I feel happy :D..
I really really loved it! Her voice is still so good omg 😭❤️
Raj is right here. Even when you are in bad mood, you don’t have to take out frustration of someone on people who love you are there for you. So your 5 min rituals is well thought out and healthy. You don’t have to brush off people who have nothing to do with your bad mood. And you can give a couple of minutes and tell them that you are tired and you will come back to them in an hour or whatever. What Vidya is saying here is not healthy but it works for her because her husband is like that, he doesn’t feel there is a need to tell her that he needs his space but just takes it, but you have chosen to be in the relationship and it is your prerogative to communicate your needs instead of expecting someone to just guess.
I think it is a balance of both. Overall one should give that 5 mins time every dayand make that effort because the relationship was a choice of ours. But again there are days when you are so tired or down or whatever you need your alone time, then you should be able to shut off without any explanation. Even if in those occasions you feel the need to explain your mood, etc for 5 mins, then one day you will surely get tired trying to live up to the best version of yourself, you’ll feel drained off, your relationship will feel fake and you’ll be neglecting yourself. A family is someone in front of whom you can be the most authentic version of yourself. If they can’t take your bad days they are not family, similarly you should accept the bad days of your partner or parents. There is always a thin line though. For example if you face toxicity or abuse at work you don’t have the right to channel or project that toxicity on your family/ relationship. But you can always come home and ask for a day to yourself… This would be happily accepted by your loved ones if for the majority of the other days you ensure that you have spent time with them. They are assured that you love and respect them and your efforts, so they will respect your space. So more than extreme of a scale, it’s balancing both in the right amount.
Example: if someone who is a kind and sweet person behaves rudely then automatically the people around understand that he/she might be going through something difficult even without an explanation and will be supportive. But if someone constantly avoids or behaves badly and never seems to care, then even the smallest things can trigger discord. So the bottom line is, be kind and understanding, try to put yourself in the shoes of your loved ones and understand their feelings and needs. Respect and give them time, at the same time be brutally honest with them. This way no one gets tired or unhappy, both you and the ones around you.
Don’t u think that’s very unrealistic to expect. We are humans we are going to have certain implosions and outbursts it’s only natural u can’t be a calm rational logical mahatma machine all the time and I think having a partner that allows u the space to do that is very cool
@@ayushisharma162 you are confusing allowing space with lack of communication. And no, if you are doing something wrong you need to make efforts to be better instead of blaming your short comings on 'I am only human', that is not being human that's being lazy, avoiding doing inner work. It you want to stay that way then do, but them don't be in relationship or expect the other person to tolerate your toxic traits. You will still get space if you just tell the other person that you need some space instead of throwing tantrums and expecting the other person to just get 'the hint', it is disrespectful.
@@AishiBhattacharyaOfficial I understand what you are saying, but if you love your family why would you be rude to them even when you had bad day? Esp when they are being nice to you. I think it is not right to expect your family to tolerate your bad behavior just because that is your family and you can be your authentic self. The point is, what is your authentic self? Do you think being irritated is your authentic self? Is that you 95% of the time or is that only 5%? If it is only 5% then it is not yourself, yourself is the version that you are most of the times. And if your 'authentic self' is someone who snaps at people who are just being nice with you then you need to change your authentic self because that authentic self is toxic. I hope you are getting what I am trying today. Realizing that our time here is short, oue time with our family and loved ones is limited then why cause unnecessary drama? In my opinion your family is your family later, everyone in it is an individual first and you have to respect them, you have to respect the people you spend moat if your time instead of taking them for granted or treating them with a lower version of you.
@@SA-cb2it i think like I said it's unrealistic to always expect yourself to be perfect. And that's where a good partner can be understanding. Being a good communicator doesn't mean u have to be a good communicator ALL the time. It's not possible. Otherwise we would never experience any negative emotions ever. Rationalising and hacking relationship through guidelines and rules is one thing. But giving your space to truly be human sometimes is also an understandable aspect of existing. It's really not that big a deal if one day out of several days there is simply a breakdown in communication on your end. You can circle back to it when u r feeling better. It's not that big a deal. Always working on yourself like you are self improvement project 24x7 is actually detrimental to your natural existence. Balance is everything
The entire podcast had such a natural flow of normal conversation that it made me think about a lot of aspects in relationships. Kudos to you @Raj Shamani that you held up to a natural dialogue in progress for an hour as compared to asking noted down ‘interview’ questions. Vidya Balan of course is someone who is loved by millions but her thoughtful mature answers made the podcast even more interesting and left me (and I’m sure a lot of viewers) pondering over inward connections, validation and stuff to bring novelty in relationships while not losing connection with yourself and the need for space! Thx for such a natural progress of conversation Raj. And I must say thx also bec I also learnt about the sofa theory from your podcast only. Keep up the good reading you do. Looking forward to more learnings…All the best to you. And God bless!!
She is connected to herself..natural, genuine and true .. The Vidya Balan !!
From her very first Ad on TV..predicted She will be famous soon..(predicted too for Pretty Zinta..Lyril Ad and Shahrukh Khan..Fauji)
Watched the show first time because ..Vidya Balan..❤❤❤🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
She ie powerhouse..even in personal level seems like sorted and well articulated one
Raj aapnae Jo apni mummy papa ki grateful wali baat btayi
That's very very true ❤
We must be grateful to everyone in our life 🙏
I'm grateful to Raj becoz he gives me very informative podcasts.
Thankyou thankyou thankyou 🙏🙏🙏
this is the first podcast that i have seen tbh because every time i think of podcast i felt it was waste of time to see it for long time but as you said even i couldnt see how time passed i just felt your podcast is more better than anyone because you are so calm and listens to the oposite one i really loved it tbh this has to be watched by youngers nowdays. thank you good job keep doing and inviting more people like her because she is just so natural and real from inside
You are doing a great job Raj! Your pace, calmness and the peace that you maintain throughout the convention is awesome. Keep going.. ❤❤❤
Brilliant podcast, first 10 mins of it and I'm hooked, compelled to comment right away and sold on it to watch full.
Also how about if I feel like the air and neither the boat nor the anchor?
Fantastic show raj with a brilliant & natural actor vidya Balan true conversation about how a relationship should be between our people ...... lovely show I am proudly watching this show on you tube channel on my computer from chennai, Bharat
This is so great Raj ❤️❤️❤️, keep bringing more podcast like this
lov the episode sofa theory and basicaly different perspective about topics keep the work going
Fantastic episode I enjoyed till date. Thank you for sharing🌷🌷❤️
I just love the conversation I usually miss this go with the flow attitude in your podcast I am glad that you didn't open your note book keep making such natural conversation podcast
..best of luck
I just love listening to the conversation between you and the other person, its so knowledgeable... please make more of it
Amazing podcast everytime
Thanks buddy!! 💪🏻🚀
I love how calm you keep it all, felt the connection and learned a lot. Thank you ❤
First Podcast which i have seen full very enteraining and educating....thnks raj and vidya
Vidya continues to shine with her brilliance, and Raj, you’ve truly mastered the art of interviewing. Your ability to bring out the best in your guests and effortlessly engage in conversation is commendable. It was a wonderful interview.
This was a fabulous podcast. Loved it you should have part 2 with this and ofcourse few lighter questions ❤
Hi @rajshamani Hello @Vidyabalan
Loved this podcastttttt❤❤❤
This is exactly what I am going through in my daily life
Relationship with my loved ones
I am trying to be a hustler but I feel I am not giving time to my relationships. Learned a lot from this podcast and @rajshamani, ONE DAY I LL BE THERE ON THIS PODCAST FOR SURE😇🙏GRATITUDE for everything in my life and THANKS to @rajshamani for bringing amazinggggg people on this podcast and knowing what journre exactly is to be discussed with which person 🎉KUDOS🎉
WOW, this was fun. Some of the podcasts I've followed in the past got boring after a certain period and sometimes they don't know where to direct the conversation and it looks "fake". This was genuinely my first ever podcast i listened where by the end I felt like this was so short. And dude the amount of info you have and how you express it and indulge your guests with, nice skills.
Forgot to mention Vidya mam's energy here. Very authentic.
All in all, this was very entertaining.
SHE IS SO KIND HEARTED WOMAN
Loved the conversation. Got many of the thoughts validated and at the same time gave me few new insights and perspective about the life and relationship in general. Love each and every podcast of yours. Very informative and deep. Thank you @rajshamani
Thank you for making this podcast , it gave me so much of insights and perspective on relationship .I learned a lot
Amazing podcast, this is how a podcast should be equally interactive❤ . I have seen most of the host do out cast the guests in a way to show how smart and knowledgeable they are! Or not being reciprocative to the guest what they speak of. It's a wholesome conversation 😍and Raj have an amazing and genuine way of forming bonds with the guests 👏 and it's always a treat to see Vidya talking 😻
A very pure and genuine vibe and conversation! Loved it. :)
Beautiful synergy ❤
felt some sort of smile througouttt the conversation..
when there is nobody to talk to especially when I want to then through you I feel like I am part of the conversation
Thank you both of you
♥️
Wow! That was one of a kind podcast… truly enjoyed every bit of it. And how both got so intrigued by each others opinions/experiences, the way it ended.
Loved it ❤
Loved this podcast, felt as if I was a part of this too , and made me think on so many subjects . Thank you .🙏🙏
Thankyou Raj 🙏
What was this …amazing conversation..so unique
This is my 2nd podcast of urs I watched/ heard
Lovely stuff
Need so many podcast like it ...
its really really a wholesome podcast. i really enjoyed listening to u and vidya maam and in reality i wanted the podcast to go on and on 😊
New subscriber....loved your podcast..the conversations are so deep
Deepest conversation that I have listened to after a long time. Please do more like this
Very natural effortless talk sir, loved this ❤
Raj..Raj..Raj..Raj..Raj..your podcasts are so therapeutic for me..❤
Simply loved it, totally honest and Vidya Ma'am toh apne naam ki tarah hain, unki baaton se pata chalta hai, how much she loves reading, and she shares with experience. She is an amazing person, an idol. Best wishes to you 🌟Keep growing ✨
Felt as if: Vidya is at one of her BEST phases in life as an artist, a wife, articulates very well and a relatable person, so worth chilling out with BUT, On a "One on One" dialogue basis. 🌹 ✨️ Thoroughly satiated with this podcast, you conducted it so well Raj. God Bless ❤ 🙏 ❗️
She speaks in elegance 💯
It’s a worthwhile and beautiful episode ❤ Thank you Raj and Vidhya ji ✨
One of the best interview I have seen after a very very long time. Extremely relatable & debatable!!
Most relatable podcast, its like someone is sharing or telling me about how and what exactly I’m feeling. Loved it ❤️
I’m just GLAD, let me know what suggestions or feedbacks you have for me!! 😌💯
I believe people without much to do in their lives crave more for someone to be around. Relationships are not at all necessary. So don't worry if you are not into one. Moreover don't take your parents and siblings for granted just like you know that if you take your partner for granted then they are going to leave you. Love is only when someone doesn't leave you even if you repeatedly ignore their needs and just use them.
Hey Raj I am writing this because I have seen Divya on TRS and on this podcast both. I feel how Divya is an example off being independent but also acknowledging the other person's presence is a great discovery. U would live to explore her healing journey as a tomboy and then later accept her femininity without feeling shy of it. As she has talked about it very little but very wisely.
Best of the Best..... Totally different from routine,,,,,, simply awesome
Raj Shamani your point of view was so so good in this podcast. ❤ We should give atleast 5 min to our loved ones
Deep and lovely discourse ! Loved it ❤
Thanks alot 🙌🏻
Just amazing conversation.. I just watched random reel nd came here nd watched entire convo ... Amazed how sofa theory nd genex convo went