You're not stuck. You just care too much.
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In our fast-paced world, many of us feel stuck in the whirlwind of social expectations and norms, constantly worrying about what others might think. I feel that many times we're not actually stuck, we're just caring too much about society's opinions.
It's a common struggle, rooted in social pressure and the desire to meet society's expectations. We often hesitate to make changes in our lives because we fear judgment or criticism from others. But the key to breaking free lies in learning how to stop caring so much about what people think ☘️
To embrace slow, simple living, start by questioning societal standards and expectations. It's essential to understand that you're not stuck; it's just your mindset that needs a shift. You will never be able to satisfy everyone with your choices.
The journey towards a more peaceful life begins with letting go of the need for approval and focusing on what truly matters to you. Explore ways to simplify life, find joy in small moments, and own your choices ✨
Remember, the journey to slow living is a personal one. By stopping the constant worry about others' opinions, you open up the possibility of living authentically. So, take a step back, evaluate what truly brings you happiness, and embark on your own journey towards a simpler and more fulfilling life.
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In what aspect of your life do you feel the most pressure to meet others' expectations?
Mostly when it comes to liking the mainstream stuff, for example football or hockey, you're just supposed to like it but I've never liked it, I forced myself to try it when I was kid just to be accepted or to feel normal. I don't listen to the radio and especially don't follow the (bad) news. Why would I? People just have this saying "But you need to be informed about the world?!?"
To that I say "No I don't have to know that there has been a murder in some state in the USA, that's waaaay out of my circle of control, even if I lived in that state, what would I do? I'm no cop or politician". I haven't missed out on anything important and I haven't watched the news intentionally for the last 10 years, it has been a gamechanger when it comes to my mental health. You don't actually learn anything about the world watching the news, you just hear about all the atrocities that's happening but you never get to know the "why's", only the "What's". And I especially don't listen to the radio, I don't need to hear some jerk on the radio station telling me what opinions I should have or hear them fake scream and laugh. I Crave authenticity and I get that from smaller youtube channels where I can feel people being themselves.
Or owning a TV. I haven't had a TV for 8 years now and that's the first thing people notice when they visit my home for the first time "But where is the TV?" they ask.
I can come up with many different examples.
i have struggeled a lot with feeling unproductive, or as you would say in german "without hobby". i have never had a hobby in life that i really loved doing, but that is only because of the perception of "hobby". i too have things that i love to do everyday, like reading, going for walks, singing by myself. but i believe many people wouldn't call those a "hobby", because for them it is only the weekly going to a certain social club to do something for a few hours. therefor i end up feeling useless and as if other people see me as boring or lazy, because i am not productive in the way they would understand it.
@@plin.i I 100% get you and have felt this many times as well. I have hobbies like exercising but when a rest day comes, many times I don't know what to do and get this fomo or feeling I "should" do something. I think it's quite normal to feel like that so I have tried to stop beating myself up for feeling it. These days, I just try to find whatever inspires me in that moment or would balance out my usual routine or tasks, so it can be anything from just lying on the sofa to have weekend trips. But I would say the activities you mentioned are definitely hobbies! My hobbies are mostly antisocial as well haha!
@@mentalmadness9783 Yeah I agree with that. Most news are very irrelevant, and don't add anything to your life. I get that it's important to stay up to date with some important things happening in our society but just reading about crimes doesn't do good for my mental health at least. I have learned so much more about the world by reading books than newspapers. Glad you are staying true to your own values! 😊
@@SunnyKindJourney thank you very much for putting in so much time in answering! it helps a lot to know that you can relate and we are not weird after all 🍀 just own beings with their own needs. honestly, i really appreciate your effort in answering to all these comments under your videos. that's very rare to see these days and i hope you don't stress yourself too much at answering everyone. take care of yourself!
I suffer from depression and social anxiety and often times I feel like this holds me back from living my life. I either have to be medicated or force myself sometimes to even do the little things it can be so debilitating. I needed to hear this today thanks
youtube.com/@anxiety_recovery?si=0zaCEWI9tddv5Tsm if you have time you can look at this channel. I guess that can be helpful . Have a good day friend 💪🏽
Eventually everything will be okay. Hang in there, friend.
Hope my videos can be helpful you. Wishing you all the best ❤ Thanks for the comment!
You’re not, not living life because you’re depressed and anxious, you’re depressed and anxious because you’re not living life
You lack energy in some type of way you are drained, I know from experience get right you only depressed cause you ain’t where you want to be or don’t have what you want
One thing I must add too. If you’re struggling, be silent. Sit there in silence. Go outside with no external noise. (Music). Silence will give you the answer your looking for within.
So true and something we actually miss a lot in our modern lives
Truth!
Please explain? I'm not entirely sure I believe this.
It was windy and rainy yesterday so I just stood outside for awhile. The cool air felt so good.
Thank you this is also great and very helpful advice!
This isn't always the case. Sometimes being stuck has nothing to do with society and expectations, but being unable to have the life you want because of decisions made in your past or situations that happened.
I’m exactly the same. I can’t sleep tonight because I realised the reason I didn’t get an interview for my dream job recently was because I wasn’t enthusiastic enough or now I think about it enthusiastic at all!! I spoke to the fundraising manager and discussed the role but I realise now that at no point did I actually say this has been my dream job for years! The trouble is because of past trauma I find I now get anxious when at one time I would have been bubbly and excited. I’m literally ruining my life by being this way
Also issues with health can completely limit you, then there's the having no supports, life really just hates on some of us when we have circumstances out of our control.
Using or following social media. The only social media account that I actually have is this one on CZcams where I hardly ever comment on any videos. I don't use TikTok, Facebook , Insta or any other stuff. Therefore it's hard for me to follow my friends' conversations about the latest trends or about people on social media that I have never heard of. I live in a digital environment but my lifestyle is the opposite. It consists of taking long walks, drawing, reading and listening to my record collection with music from the 60s,70s and 80s. Your channel is a gift because it helps me to realize that there are other people who are just like me. So thanks a bunch for creating such a positive and helpful content:-). Love from Germany!
Thank you for your nice words! And yeah I am exactly the same, no tiktok, fb, ig any of these anymore even though they were part of my daily life a few years ago. Much better this way 😊
You are doing good from what you describe. Theres a lot more people like you than you think. You dont see them becasue they are not on social media. The irony. If I could advise anything, maybe search for a hobby or activity with a local group of people - like biking, hiking, or just anything. Thares a big chance you'll meet alike people there. You are not weird or anything, society is fd up generally speaking.
Same except with music. There’s so much great music within the past decade that emulates the sounds from the 70s/80s. Check out Roosevelt, Modest Mouse, Parcels, etc. Really great vibes!
I've lived much of my life comparing myself to others and concerned about what they thought of me. What a waste.
We have one life. All of us have the opportunity to travel our path with or without these unnecessary burdens.
Living in fear vs living in freedom.
It is delightful to live in freedom. It isn't a selfish freedom. It is just free from the concern for what others think of you.
That witchcraft of control from others is so painful. No need to put ourselves under that yoke. But that is what we do, until we learn.
And it's a long process as well, doesn't happen overnight. But eventually while understanding more about yourself, the noise starts to fade away. Thanks for the comment! 😊
So perfectly stated! I’ve lived much of my life the same and am trying to break myself of these thoughts. Agree with you 100%👍
I've lived this way for too long...I'm 62 now. First of all who says what other people think is right...who made them the judge?Secondly most people are thinking about themselves not us....nothing matters in the end. Live your best life for you
Well said. Any path is always going to have a share of failures, criticism, sadness and the pitfalls we all face. It is a great service to others to show that they are not alone with these experiences.
Stay on your own path. Keep the faith.
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Thanks Seve, not being stuck in the worry of others' opinions / expectations is what I needed to hear today. Some people only know their perspective, from a life-time of operating that way, and unintentionally judge us negatively. I should just accept their opinion as theirs, not feel offended or be offensive to them, and follow my heart while considering other people.
Well said! Exactly, it is their opinion, not a fact. You know yourself the best 🌱 Thanks for the comment!
Just discovered you. Love your channel. It's a breath of fresh air to listen to your content!
Glad you enjoy it! 🌱
Thank you so much for this.. I really needed this ❤
So glad to hear it was helpful 🥰
Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom🙏
Thanks for watching! 😊
The legendary Seve is back in my algorithm!!
Let's gooo Austin 🙌🏼 You've been on mine like every week haha 😂 I guess it's time to even it out
Thank you for sharing your story. It's amazing to me, that for such a young person ( I'm almost 60) it sounds ot me as if you have gained so much wisdom. And honestly, age really does not have anything to do with wisdom. Some people live well into their senior life and have yet to obtain the wisdom you have shared.
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Thank you so much for your lovely comment 🥰
Thank you for your sharing, it feels very genuine your approach 😊💕
Thanks for watching 😊
Love this video! I feel and view this topic the same way. Great video. I've been wanting to grow a CZcams channel as well, but I've definitely been feeling stuck and caring too much of what others think. It's can be hard to stop comparing ourselves to others and get the negative thoughts out of our minds. This video came at the perfect time. New subscriber.
Thank you so much! I hope eventually you will just hit record and publish - there isn't much to lose after all. You can always stop and delete your videos if you find it's not for you after all 😊
Thank you for this video
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WOW- thank you for this, i am so glad and grateful that you kept creating and i am so glad that i was guided to you and really took this in and definitely need to answer these questions. You definitely have a new subcriber.Thank you!
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for being here 😊
I feel like a failure and accomplish nothing at the age of 31. I don't want to live up to my parent's expectations anymore and what they want to be. I never got to be myself.
Hope my videos can help and you'll be able find solutions to create a life that feels more like your own ✌ What would you like to be and what they want you to be instead?
At 31?!?? Im turning 49 in less than a week. And i have nothing🤷🏻♂️
Freeing yourself from the expectations of others is a good beginning. Life is long. Become yourself.
You are extremely charismatic and I love what you had to say here. Joy to listen to 😊 Subscribed
Thank you so much! 🤗
I needed to hear that, it's been years and years I've been wanting to make videos and your unique view was extremely helpful and inspiring me and others to just start and follow their heart.
You can do it! ✨ The hardest part is getting started
Just came across your utube - love it and listening to you. ❤🏴🇨🇦
Thank you so much! I am glad you found me 🌿
You have inspired me so much in this video. Thank you so much. I'm glad you continued after the poor quality recording
I'm so glad to hear that. That's my goal with my content 🤗
Love the topic & your wonderful channel, just subscribed! 😊❤️ Big hello from Ottawa, Canada! 🇨🇦
Awesome! Thank you so much! 🥰
You are a great person. So helpful
Glad you think so! 😊
Don’t live in fear of what others think. But also take stock of your life, and make it focused in a direction that you can build on.
Yess 🙌🙌
My wife and I shifted to a single income and moved to Japan to fulfill a mutual goal of becoming better global citizens and refining ours values.
Needless to say, it's come with a fair share of positive and negative criticism, questions of "Am I doing the right things?", "Am I lazy?", etc.
Started a CZcams and discover more of myself and others every day.
Great video, Seve.
Amazing! Actually we've been thinking a temporary move to Japan at some point as well. Got some friends there and have heard so much good about the countryside! Keep it up 🌱🌱
Thank you
Thanks for watching 😊
Thank you 🙏
Glad you liked it 😊
Whoa CZcams on point. I do felt at times stuck in a rut and i get tired of comparison of seeing rich and successful people flourishing via social media. Yet i am slowly won't let that get me and grateful what i got
Well done! I think it's a struggle we all have these days because of social media. We see so many different lives compared to before. Hope you can stay true to your own path! 😊
How to facilitate a healthy balanced lifestyle without rejecting your culture?
Authenticity is born from honesty.
Escapism is a real concern.
Finding healthy solutions is a valid challenge.
So....
how to proceed?
No wonder we feel stuck!
This time in our history is demanding something of us that we are unaccustomed to.
We are inexperienced in this current climate.
There's no go-to option in a changing World.
Surrender and trust are important strategies that we need to harness rapidly.
Otherwise we'll drown in our own self-doubt.
I resonate with you so much ❤
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Such an important topic! Great video Seve! I look forward to enjoy your course which I just bought as an investment to myself🥰
Awesome! Thank you! ❤
Great video!
Thanks! 😊
In all honesty it was the uncle that either wanted a simpler life or thought himself a loser.
Most likely yes, hope he'd just have the self-awareness to see that
Lack of money is what keeps me stuck in life
That's very true an Ive had the same issues before myself. I learned to take it as a lesson an learn to manage an invest my money better the next time I get money.
In relationships for example, finding a partner is often a game of luck or chance especially in your 20's, being single beyond your 20's and it's not as simple as just going out and meeting people. People who just couple up in uni have it easy and don't get it.
This hasn’t been my problem my issue has been major self sabotage. It’s impacted every area of my life now and I used to have a very very good life. I was so in alignment before and close to my dream life but I let trauma mess me up. Lost my fiancé, a very good friend and now messed up potentially getting a dream job. I feel this last one has really pushed me over the edge now there’s only so much disappointment a person can take
Sorry to hear that! Hope you will find ways to deal with the self sabotage. You already seem to have the awareness of it, which is already a step forward. Not many people even realize why their life isn't what they would like it to be. Sending you strength and wishing you all the best! ❤
I like your look on nature in itsself. That gives me big psylovibes. I like that.
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So I have to disagree. Some people are actually stuck. I’m living with my grandma and uncle with no job and no car. Yet nothing is panning out. So how can I will myself out of this situation? I’m 28 and it’s well past time to be successful. Am self aware and not lazing around.
I’m sorry, that sounds like a difficult spot to be in. I wouldn’t say you’re past your time to be successful though, it just seems that way when we compare ourselves with every teenager online that’s seemingly doing better than we could ever even imagine. I’m currently feeling stuck for certain reasons too but if you have a career or even if you don’t I would try to visit your nearest chamber of commerce, or see if you can start a career online with a student loan if you know what you like, or start by finding a nearby job or even ask friends and family if there’s something they need help with… man this entire comment of mine just made me realize how much easier it is to find solutions for other. I’ve been stuck for a while now and suddenly a bunch of ideas came in leu of feeling some empathy for someone online lol
@@KatM272 It's very easy to make suggestions when you may or may not be in the same position. and unfortunately, these are not an option for me. Whatever your situation may be, wishing you luck.
@@timyrica sigh I wish you luck too.
I understand where you are coming from. I'll give you a few questions to understand even more: 1. Where do you think you "should" be now at 28? What about 38? 2. Where is that answer coming from? Meaning where did you learn it? (not negative thing per se but it's good to know what influences you) 3. What do you think, why are you not where you think you are supposed to be? 4. With the current life expectancy of around 80 years, you still have 50+ years to live. With the technological advancements probably that will be even higher for millenials and gen z. How long do you think it will take to reach that ideal life situation if you put in the effort consistently? And lastly 5. What do you think you should do next to change the situation?
@@SunnyKindJourneydo you really want to live past 80’s? The only reason for that is so the government can make more money off of you it’s not like you are living a worthwhile existence.
It is a very hard balancing family and work. Thank you your video is very helpful
Some good work life tips coming in my new video ✌️
Human beings are the only creatures who compare themselves with others of their same species. This should get you to thinking...
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Of course this breath of fresh air comes from Finland 😂❤
It is a nice place 😊😊
w video
Do you speak Finnish and German?
Finnish yes but German no. Italian yes though 😇
nice finnish accent
kiitos
Kiitos 😄
i have autism i am stuck there is no way out
Bro what do u mean .
This resonates with me. We all have a story to tell. Many of them are total fiction when we put life in perspective.
That uncle may have been rich, but he’s not wealthy. A wealthy person can live simply, because wealth is about building one’s finances, not displaying them. And one way to build wealth over time is to live frugally and manage income mindfully.
Yeap, the real rich don't need to show or care if they are rich. Wealth is so much more than just money 🌱
Delete your social media accounts. It’s not that hard.
You have a very thick accent.
Thank you ✨
@@SunnyKindJourney I’m from the American deep South. They say the same thing about me (only it’s not a compliment here). However, the lesson I learned from this is not to judge by external appearances.
When typing on line I have no accent. It’s a lesson in being yourself.
You do good work.