Katherine Woodward Thomas: Conscious Uncoupling
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- čas přidán 27. 08. 2024
- Katherine Woodward Thomas is the creator of the Conscious Uncoupling Process, made famous by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, who used her now infamous term to announce their own divorce.
Most of us know that breakups are often filled with hostility and festering hurts that can take months if not years to fully heal. In the midst of a breakup, it's easy to behave in unconscious and antagonist ways, even for the most conscious and caring of us.
Yet none of us want to break up in ways that will do irreparable damage to ourselves, each other and our children if we have them.
Conscious Uncoupling is the first program of its kind, and provides a 5-step blueprint for how to breakup better!
Come learn these 5 simple steps of how to end a romantic union in honorable and loving ways, and discover how to live your happily even after life.
Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT is the author of the New York Times Bestseller Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After which was nominated for a Books for a Better Life Award, and the national bestseller, Calling in “The One:” 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life. She is also a licensed marriage and family therapist and teacher to thousands from all corners of the world in her virtual and in-person learning communities. Katherine is the originator of the Conscious Uncoupling process made famous by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin as well as creator of the Calling in “The One:” 49 Days to Love online course. To date, Katherine has trained and credentialed hundreds of people as Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coaches and as Certified Calling in “The One” Coaches. Katherine has also had the honor of being interviewed by Maria Shriver on her infamous Architects of Change series, was a main stage speaker at Lewis Howes Live Summit of Greatness Annual Conference, and has been privileged to share the stage with Alanis Morissette, Marianne Williamson, Neale Donald Walsch, Jean Houston, Mary Manin Morrissey and other extraordinary teachers.
Her life-affirming and highly transformative teachings been featured on The Today Show as well as in The New York Times, Time Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, The London Times, People Magazine, Women’s Health and many other media outlets throughout the world.
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Produced by Wanderlust Festival (wanderlust.com)
Filmed at Wanderlust Whistler 2017
"Relationships that do not end peacefully, do not end at all."
Thank you for this awesome work Katherine!
That is the one statement that deeply strikes me. But how do we do it peacefully when the moment we'r in is so heated & vengeful? Thanks for such awakening talk 🙏
@@evelynmills495 Well, the book FALLNG FOR LOVE shows us how we get into those illusions of love in the first place . . . how we contribute to the projection of the perfect fit with this person we hardly know, and what our blind spots are in the first years of relationship. Knowing these from the beginning, we are hardly likely to blame the other for the loss of love, for betrayal. We learn to appreciate or at least accept the vast otherness of the other.
"Money is everywhere, My daughter has only one father!!" - Awesome words!!
This is so smart " You have to set the wound correctly, like a broken arm, or it won't heal."
Here's to accepting change, accepting life's own natural flow, accepting our own immortality ...
Take responsibility for what role I played: I give away myself in service to my relationship. I have done that over and over.
21:56 Thank you for this. Also, bought the book and can't wait to hear it (Audible).
To myself, I amend to:
Always stay connect to my feelings & needs.
Always be responsible to sharing my needs and feelings with others.
Learn how to have and maintain Boundaries.
Always trust my deeper knowing and intuition.
"I will always honor that person for being the dark guru that woke me up. Thank God that person woke me up!"
a. Marie Absolutely same here
I love him 😍 for doing that
This is a great perspective
This is her quote 29:00
EVERYONE, no matter the age, needs to watch this after a breakup.
Thanks for such an amazing video. I have done very well after our break-up. We even talked today after he not picking my phone calls over a year. Thanks to Dr Joe Dispenza who’s teachings helped me to heal and took my power back. I am so proud of my self how far l have come.Working on my future self, loving meditation 🧘♀️ and having a blissful moment. I even thank him in my heart where this break up has landed me.🙏🏼 Am blessed and l blessed him too
Inspiration for so many! More power to you!
What joe dispenza work helped you?
your power is always connected to the responsibility you are taking!!
The book FALLING FOR LOVE (or its shorter version THE SOUL MATE ILLUSION) illustrates to us how we must take responsibility for deep unconscious forces within us, forces which create the illusions of love in the first place - especially by the projection of perfection onto our "soul mate" partner in the early stages of our relationship.
Blessing someone as they go will lead to freedom
I will always honor him for being the dark guru that woke me up….It is so hard to write that sentence
The honesty of this is so appreciated. Another healthier option is 'discernment therapy'. It is very unpleasant to an elder friend/relative or find letters after they pass that tell you they were not happy in their life. They usually don't want to share in your youth and often lead you down that path as if.... Depending on the culture we are almost manipulated into marriage by everyone from parents to society. I'm going to spend some more time with this woman. Many thanks to YT for brining her into my life.
It's so very uncomfortable to live with a person when you are not allowed to be yourself. Worst thing is I hv nowhere to go.
Thank you so much for sharing and pointing me into a direction of finding a way out of the confusion. Thank you so much.
Hatred is quite a bond
SUPER GRATEFULL MAM.. Wishing every soul is blessings to go through the process of CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING thats going to leave them whole happy, healthy and capable of being more loved on the other side of heartbreak.
Found myself nodding along with everything she was saying!
It is the wise way to live
Such powerful and helpful messages. There is always hope. This is the best explaination of healing a heartbreak that I've came accross. Thank you so much, God bless!
THE SOUL MATE ILLUSION is a book which shows us the deep unconscious forces that make us see perfection in our relationship in the early stages (when we feel we have met our soul mate) and to have blindspots to the full nature of the other. It helps us see the illusions of love.
Wow wow wow!!! This is brilliant!!!
Money is everywhere but my daughter only has one father. Boom!
Beautiful talk, Katherine. ::-)
Hahaha PR problem ... You're a powerful lovely woman ... Thanks for sharing your story and style and calmness
Thank you so much ❤
Its too painful to live with. Not sure if I will get through it.
So much good info here... while I do think "age" is an aspect of this movement it is way beyond viagra however... and rather maturity and personal growth and self respect...
😊I wish I could know all that when I was going throught divorce
Really it is all about creating a new culture... 💗
What if that guy wont forgive you for leaving him. How do we move on peacefully when you are not forgiven.
We are only responsible and in position to have right intentions and forgive ourselves. If you feel the partner has not forgiven in deep you have not forgiven yourself! It’s hard takes time but you will reach there soon. Iteration of self forgiveness is the key!
Damn, the Israel comment around 13: doesn’t quiiiiite land anymore
Thank you. Terrible analogy.
it's all wise wise stuff from this lady.
how does one apply it when the trail of destruction is done, betrayed by partner, child abducted and fired by CEO.
Wow, that sounds bewildering and devastating, and I'm really sorry to hear you're going through that. I would get her book if I were you and go through it consciously and intentionally, and do the work. Also, if you don't have it already, I would recommend seeking out professional support in the areas you needed it in (e.g. counselling, child services) to help you navigate everything you're going through, because that sounds like a LOT. Sending you blessings and well wishes. You will come through this a stronger more compassionate person.
Jay Dubeta
reading books is not going to change any of it.
Met with "professionals" etc. nothing much they can do. listen. Say take pills and anti depressants etc. not much else really.
did all the legal stuff. 13 court hearings. have lots of rights but made everybody more angry and entrenched. Made matters worse.
yeah can read some book or tell more professionals all about it. makes no difference to any of it.
Life is over now.
take care.
Jay Dubeta
not sure how a person comes through stronger.
I've lost my family. I don't need to put words on the affect of this on my life.
My child is out here with no dad. It is torturous.
My career is gone which was a meaning and a distraction and a belonging and a salary.
not sure how this makes me stronger at all. i don't see that at all.
I think this talk was very good but I can't help but point out that Israel is a genuinely terrible metaphor to use? There is still a lot of tension with Israel and their, in my opinion, absolutely vile treatment of Palestinians. Maybe not a great example of how you want your own relationship to end up.........
Lol relative
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I was getting into this while listening just now, navigating uncoupling, and she said that. So triggering. Terrible example. The occupation has systematically oppressed millions of people. To use it as an example of how people needed to "let go"...ma'am, people were forced out of their homes. Millions of people have been bombed for almost a year now 😭
wow
💯
❤️❤️
We are always going for dinners and lunches and to the cinema
Is that a good idea
How do I meet new person
Wow I love her shoes... does anyone know the brand...?
I got divorced last year - best thing I ever did. As a married man and father I was running around being made to feel I needed to do everything. Post-divorce I sadly only get to see my kids every other w/e, but I am so much happier. No more volunteering, no more 'community', no school pick-ups, doing things for others, it's MY TIME! I work a little less at my faculty position and have since started a small scale reptile business, which has led me to move 2 hours from my work-place - across state lines so I can keep reticulated pythons! I would never have had taken all these risks had I stay married. My goal is to quit my day job and focus on the business full-time. Thanks Katherine for giving me the faith to walk away. Cx
Wow, how selfish. What a disgusting comment. A true window into a narcissistic mind.
Such a shitty dad. ! Your kids are so unlucky to have you as their dad. You can't just walk away from your responsibilies man ! You need to grow up !
Break news , you were doing your responsibilities as a dad . Obviously we don’t know the full story but what you’re describing is that you have left all your responsibilities to your wife. It’s your time , yes it’s everyone’s time however ...your kids didn’t chose this ! I wish you all the best and hope you won’t leave in regret .
Breaking news: Every child suffers when their parents “consciously uncouple” or it’s “for the best”.
Yeah - the partner(s) might think it’s for the best, but not the kids.
This is a BS story. The concept of “life being different back then” is such a bunch of nonsense.
Children are not small adults and are not as “adaptable” as parents think they are.
Most adult children of
divorced parents - well - this show is about the parents, not the kids.
Divorced marriage therapist must really know it all!
@@lynnanncastle77 This man did not "consciously uncouple" . . . and he says nothing about consciously uncoupling in his story. He says nothing about his post-marriage relationship with his wife . . . which does not seem to concern him (hence someone called him "narcissistic"). There is nothing about a cooperative, kind nurturing of each other post-divorce. So although he feels more free, he has not, not at all, it seems, consciously uncoupled in the way Katherine Thomas is teaching here. Read Falling for Love to learn more about the taking in of the authentic other.
Married people are not "life partners," they are contractually connected. There are many legal contractual principles (let alone family law) attached to marriage. Married couples are not socially dating so when they break up they get a divorce, they do not uncouple. Also, the institution of marriage is over 2, 300 years old. Why this author begins the story of marriage in renaissance Italy, boggles the mind. So much of this lecture is not grounded in neuroscience. It's cute and maybe great for dating couples but in the complex international legal universe of marriage conscious uncoupling is irrelevant.
She talking about the fairy tale idea of happily ever after. Not the origin of marriage until death.
Disagree 1000% percent. Depends on the relationship and if your with a narcissist that changes the whole dynamic of whatever kind of relationship you’re dealing with.
12:18 aged poorly 🙃
How can you actually preach love Katherine when you are normalising abuse and oppression when you are clapping for a genocide to happen, just because Palestinians are not white western Europeans does not mean they do not have the right to live free in their homeland! Out of all people I didn't expect you to be one of those people who enable abuse and oppression and I couldn't believe my ears when I heard you in a very manipulative way blame the victims for what is happening, it's just sad that toxic people are leading the way towards love and prosperity, so they teach us distorted values instead of working on clear and humane values. For all that I have been studying in psychology, you are what they call "flying monkeys", just like Cinderella's sisters, allowing abuse to happen and they cover it and call it by pretty names to let it pass passively.
Men’s Logic: “Baby, I really love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you. You’re beautiful, fun, sexy, and someone I really enjoy being with. I’m really glad we got married!”
Women’s Logic: “Baby, I really love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you. Now that being said you need to understand the rules to my happiness:
1. You will always come a distant second to the children.
2. I will constantly inform you that I can be doing better when it comes to men
3. I will communicate with you in cryptic messages that you are expected to decipher without the passcodes
4. On a daily basis, I will test your loyalty and then berate you if I determine it’s not up to snuff
5. Always remember, you are like a used car that I am test driving with an option to buy.
Oh, and BTW, aren’t you really glad you married me.
aeromedical67 disgusting comment.
@Lindsey Ventura - just because you don’t like my comment doesn’t make it untrue. Poll men and ask them how they feel about marriage. Women change the second that ink dries on that marriage certificate!
Maybe that is your experience... that does not mean it matches other people’s reality. “Poll men” 🙄 very scientific..
@Sofia Reis - yeah, poll men. Why would you poll women as to how they think men view marriage. Oh, that’s right - you’re a women. You don’t operate on logic. I digress .......
I can see your perspective on the matter. But I urge you to look past these certain situations. Polls can be misleading, and often misunderstood, and frequently are answered with quick, naive answers.
I can see that you have probably dealt with that toxic situation in the past, your feelings are valid. But I ask for you to look at the bigger picture. Us men often become attracted to woman for their traits and specific personality. As your words put it: "You're beautiful, fun, sexy, and someone I really enjoy being with." This is great, and isn't wrong, but it isn't the full truth. We should strive to appreciate woman, for what they allow us to be and what they put effort in.
The relationship you described is toxic. Find a way to free yourself from it.
But there are more types of relationships than that. Free yourself from that toxicity, and find someone who will let you be their equal and be yourself.
Look for reality, and the variety it grants us. Don't focus on the small picture.
I suggest for people to forget this kind of pseudoscience that is being taught recently and focus on real science, get your info from psychiatrists and psychologists, and therapists, they will help you the most when it comes to understanding how to break up especially when the relationship is toxic, when you are involved with a narcissist, psychopath or sociopath...there are steps to take before doing anything, and understanding how to leave safely without looking back, for each case it's different.
Could you explain further? This woman IS a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. What pseudo science do you think she is claiming? Also, I think it’s a given that this technique won’t work for everyone but that’s not to say it won’t work for everyone.
How many lies!!!!
So is placebo but it works!
Wow. If every woman is this comlex... I would never date them...
Matt Lord guess you will end up with a man then
Too many men out there that feel this way. Men want easy so they don't have to do anything that requires actual true intimacy. It's unfulfilling and boring. No thanks
Please don’t, you sound like a man no woman would want to be with.