Fertility Stress & Mothering Twins with Rachel Cole - Baby Steps Ep. 6 - Pregnancy Week 29
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- This week Rachel Cole joins us to talk about the stresses of getting pregnant, fertility, and mothering twins!
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In this irreverent weekly parenting podcast, CZcams stars Ned & Ariel Fulmer reveal the dirty, messy truths behind raising a blissfully instagram-ready family. Follow Ariel’s pregnancy journey week-by-week with a dash of not-so-expert advice, trending product reviews, and poop-in-your-big-boy-pants raw sincerity from a couple experiencing the extreme life-upheaval we call “the miracle of life” in real-time.
NED & ARIEL
Ned and Ariel Fulmer are the internet’s mom and dad. Part of The Try Guys collective, they have 7.3 Million subscribers and over 2 Billion life-time views. Ned is a comedian whose first book The Hidden Power Of F*cking Up was a #1 New York Times Bestseller, and Ariel is a successful Los Angeles-based interior designer who weilds a circular saw in one hand and a glass of chardonnay in the other. They have hosted CZcams shows doing celebrity DIY makeovers, home-cooking competitions versus professional chefs, and adorable family vlogs. Pregnant and chasing a toddler during a pandemic, they are embracing the chaos of parenting with their irreverently funny new podcast "Baby Steps."
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Tbh I won’t be surprised if Rachel reveals she has a masters and PhD degree while finishing law and med school.
Reminds me a little bit of Susie Carmichael's mom from Rugrats ... didn't she know how to do EVERYTHING?! She was so fucking cool.
She is just like Eugene
@Mr. & Mrs Smith isn't she 35
Also that she is part plant and plant human that does not require any sleep or food only water and sunlight
She was Miss Vermont and competed for Miss America
PLEASE PLEASE INVITE MAMA DOCTOR JONES. SHE LOVES YOU GUYS LIKE LEGIT ITS HER DREAAAMMMMMMMM
Oh YESSSSSSSSS
PLEASEEE
THIS!!!
Second this!
Yes please and I would love for Rachel to also be there.
Would love to hear about Rachel's cancer journey and how she overcame it.
Wow that woman has experienced so much. I’m the same age as her and feel useless in comparison.
@@Mikibear222 i know right. she’s participated in Miss America, had cancer, and then had twins!
Rachel Friez would be interesting to hear also through You Can Sit With Us!
Yes maybe on the girl's podcast just cause it doesnt fit the theme of this one. She's in the try guy team and she's a wife it works AHAHAH
@@clarenceloieprima6747 not to mention she's buds with Tina Fey
What we know about Rachel so far: competed in beauty pageants, mother of twins, a cancer survivor, a media producer, world traveler, clearly an amazing friend, openly defended gay rights in the conservative pageant circuit, and is... like 35? I assume she's around Ned and Ariel's age, but who knows? Wow, what a life she has led already.
She was also a nanny turned teacher, then production staff. And she's also friends wish so many amazing people. Like celebrity level awesomeness. Yep. Wonderwoman who lived a hundred lives. 🥰🥰
Also, close with Tina Fey
Also she worked on Portlandia
I mean if any woman could handle triplets it would be Rachel the woman who has done everything. There needs to be a video or something about her telling her life story.
Rachel told part of her story (how she became a producer) in "You Can Sit Us" with the Try Wives
Tbh i think it would be AT LEAST blockbuster length
I would buy her autobiography
We have been working to have a baby for a year and a half and when Rachel said, "You won't want any baby but the baby you have" I legit started crying lol. That's such a positive way to view this time, Thank you.
Me too!
Ned's face the entire time they're talking about their trip to New York breaks my heart... It looks like he's reliving that time, and I can only imagine how worried he was and how devastating it was when their suspicions were confirmed.
Every time they talked about something sad he would flinch as if he wanted to grab her hand🥺
I appreciate living in Denmark, when I listen to these podcasts. My daughter is made with IUI. That was free. She is also born with emergency c-section and we stayed in the hospital for 18 days while she recovered. This was also free. I had 9 months of paid maternity leave after birth and 4 weeks before. I am grateful for being danish.
I desperately wish I weren’t American
while we have to pay for our own healthcare we also pay way less in taxes than countries with free healthcare so unless u want them to take half of your salary i wouldn’t complain
@@frostyskeletons8950 right?! 😭
I’m also danish and I was born 7 weeks prematurely with a c-section only weighing 1.5 kilograms. I had to stay in the hospital for a month... so yeah I’m pretty grateful too
@@morganjane5693 I live in Germany where I pay almost 40% of my salary in taxes and I wouldn't have it any other way. Not only can I sleep at night without worrying about an illness that could destroy my life both physically and economically, I also know my kids will get to go to university if they so choose without having to get into massive debt and, while the social system isn't perfect, many people with little to no income are taken care of and have a roof over their heads. Among many other things.
The comment about people suggesting adopting when someone is trying to make Ivf work totally hit home. I never wanted to be pregnant and was so excited to adopt, and yet people kept saying “well maybe you’ll get pregnant and won’t HAVE to adopt”. It was so strange to me bc adopting was my first choice.
THIS
Agree - I am the same way, though I haven't had people say that too me (yet). And they talked about the expense of adoption, but that is private adoption - if you adopt through the state or foster to adopt, the expense is significantly less and there are SO MANY children looking for forever homes and families. Just know though that if you are going to commit to a child - be ready to really commit to them, whatever they are like, whatever issues they may have - you are making a promise to them and to society when you adopt a child.
I love that adoption was your first choice!!! That's awesome.
I always assumed I'd adopt but my hubby and I are going through infertility treatment right now to try for bio kids first. If it doesn't work out by the end of 2021, we will start adoption paperwork.
Everybody has their own journey.
Aww I’m an adoptee and I really appreciate your comment-my parents always wanted to adopt too. It annoys me when people don’t acknowledge how some people have adoption as their first choice when starting a family because it’s seen as “the last option.” For me, personally, I wouldn’t want to be seen as “the last option” because I find it belittling like someone’s calling me, my journey and my identity insignificant.
Unpopular opinion: people go crazy if you get a dog from a breeder because "there are so many dogs looking for homes" but why doesn't that apply to children?
Don't come for me, as long as your baby and dogs are ethically sourced I'm happy for you.
Ned: water weight you're like a body builder..
Me .. Literally pregnant women are building bodies lol
Rachel and Arial, my heart breaks for your losses. I was never able to get past the 12 week mark after my first pregnancy, which ended at 32 weeks My daughter Samantha would have been 29 this year, I have 7 angle babies and 3 wonderful step children. Back when I was going through all of this loss there were not channels like this. It should have been so helpful to know that I was not alone. I am so glad you have a supportive network, and that you both are so open to sharing your stories!
Even 30 years later. You aren't alone. 💚 sending thoughts your way.
I'm so thankful our generation has platforms like this to discuss these things.
I’m glad you found your family, I hope you all have a wonderful life
@@murron1125 thank you. I do I love my kids as my own and they gave me the family I never thought I would have.
I'm sorry for your loss and am glad you found a family to be part of. I didn't have a dad growing up until my mum met my stepdad so I know step parents can be just as important as blood.
Any woman raising child is a superheroine but, to have twins, triplets etc it's just Captain Marvel superheroine level
Poppy and June must be the Wonder Twins! The world better watch out when they activate their powers👍😀
I can feel myself ovulate normally. I’ve talked to friends and other women and it’s more of a common thing than you might realize. It feels exactly how Rachel described it!
I feel it every month also. I knew everytime I was pregnant immediately!
My Dr told me I most likely have a cyst on my ovary and that why I am able to feel it every month, but she's right it does feel like she described
Wait I missed it what does it feel like I’m 22
Me too.
I came here to say this, I feel myself ovulate each time and it hurts to varying degrees. I do wonder if it’s a cyst issue and each time I ovulate it’s bursting because that’s what it feels like
A woman my mom went to school with had fertility issues, and on her last try of getting pregnant she had quadruplets!!! The female body is so amazing. Anyone who has gone through pregnancy is a literal hero.
Jesús... good luck to her
Yesssssss Rachel’s here!!!!
@Lorena Treichler I
Who doesnt love rachel. Shes just so likeable
Ariel: Rachel is petite!
Rachel: I'm 5'4"
My cousin: *concerned look after watching this video because she stands at 5'1" and is expecting twins*
Right when they said she was petite I thought she would be shorter than 5’4”. I’m (almost) 5’1” and even just a singleton pregnancy was a strain on me, especially since I gained just under 60 lb. I can only imagine what a twin (or higher multiple) pregnancy would be like.
And congrats to your cousin!
Rachel is average height! 5'4" to 5'5" is average for women.
Rachel every other line: Well that's a whole another podcast
Me: -surprised pikachu face-
Also Me: I am subscribed and ready to take notes!
Yess!!!
@@Claireannette77 You better play Clarinet Claire Annette
@@fancyfangcrossing2781 Trumpet is my specialty 😌
@@Claireannette77 awwww, but it would be so fun to introduce yourself as “Hi! My name is Claire Annette and I play clarinet!” But trumpet is cool too
I love the way Ned and Ariel smile at each other, it is like the visual representation of the line 'their eyes met and the rest of the world faded away'. It feels like I am witnessing something magical whenever I see them smile especially in this podcast! Hope you have a hundred billion of these smiles in your life and a hundred billion more every year 😍❤❤❤
this is sad
Ok so just chiming in as someone who has done ivf twice... the genetic testing is on embryos not the eggs. And they try to get as many eggs as possible. But the number of eggs will vary drastically based on specific fertility of each person.
For example, I had 16 mature eggs my first cycle (which failed and had nothing fertilize naturally). And 19 mature eggs my second cycle. I technically had 29 eggs retrieved my second cycle, but only 19 were mature and fertilized (by the embryologist this time). 17 fertilized normally, and we had 11 embryos left on day 5.
I’m currently holding my 3 week old that was the result of transferring one embryo from our second cycle. ❤️
Congratulations! Very happy for you!💯💜
Congratulations on your success! I’m going through my first IVF cycle right now.
Chelsea Yamashiro good luck and baby dust!!
My first cycle i over stimulated and got 40 eggs but only 5 fertilized and none made it to day 5. I'm on my 3rd ivf cycle and we 'only ' got 20 eggs 8 were good 5 fertilized and 1 made it to day 5. I go in for my fet on the 21st!
@@KimberlyButlergamer oh my goodness! What a roller coaster! Sending you so much love, luck and baby dust! ♥
“Former large media company” That’s growth.
One of the worse things said to me after my 2 of my miscarriages (by the same person) was that "Perhaps this lesson will teach (me) to pray more and see the error of being a Catholic." and "God has a plan and obviously being a parent isn't to be one of them.". Unfortunately this came from an in-law that was on her 4th or 5th pregnancy at that time. Then she was shocked when I told her she could take her God and shove it if her God was like that.
Same woman also told me after my son was born that I wasn't a "real" mom because I had to have an emergency C-section. Not a "natural birth" with my son. Again, then shocked when I asked her if she really only has 6 "real children" then because the other 3 were c-section? Unfortunately I did let a little devil take over after her 9th child and asked if she knew if God was going to bless her with more, or is she not praying hard enough?
Oh my...some people are really evil. You live a happy life and take care of your family
We do, and I've learned it's not all evil as it's so much a mixture of prejudices, pettiness, and basic bullying tendencies.
I have PCOS. Been fighting it for eight years... hugs to anyone struggling to bring their rainbow babies here.
Woah, Rachel is a breast cancer survivor?! I did not know that. That's amazing!
yes! on her instagram she's opened up about it.
We went through infertility issues in the early'80s when "test tube babies" were just starting to be possible. We don't have children. Sometimes it still is difficult. Mostly we have had great times with nieces and nephews and been happy to send them home.
Life without children has its own rewards :)
I’m so thrilled that they are talking about fertility in this episode. me and my fiancé (will be husband in 6 days) got pregnant the first time we tried and now have a 2.5 year old daughter but I’m getting my nexplanon taken out in 3 months to grow are family and am just a smidge nervous it’s going to be a struggle sorry if that’s TMI
Congrats with the engagement! And good luck!😊
Sending positive vibes💕
Congratulations and good luck! 💜
Congrats, it is wedding day I guess :D
I’d love an episode with some friends who do not want kids to discuss what that is like. I don’t want kids and never have and people think I’m crazy and always say “well who is gonna care for you when you’re old??” like that’s the reason to have kids??
I have a daughter that I conceived easily, twins I conceived spontaneously, and I've had 3 pregnancy losses, followed by a rainbow baby we conceived after a year of trying. 🌈 Thank you so much for this episode discussing fertility. ❤
“Unexplained infertility” wife here 👋🏻 I literally had my first IUI ✨TODAY ✨and this podcast could not have shown up on my feed at a better time! I love Ned and Ariel sooo much, and holy cow listening to Rachel talk about her life is wild, she’s a total badass! And it was so helpful, thank you guys for doing this episode, the solidarity and affirmation for other couples struggling with infertility goes so far 🥰🙏🏻❤️
how is it going???
We’re still working on it, the IUIs haven’t decided to take just yet but we are making it through with a great support system! Thank you for asking 😇
I'm really curious if, at the end of the Baby Steps Podcasts, Ned has to very mindfully keep himself from staring into the camera and crooning, "Until next time, stay beautifuuuuulll."
I’ve had a chemical pregnancy as well where the test was positive then I had my period. Recently I had a 10 week miscarriage and had to have surgery to remove my twins. It was the hardest experience of my life.. and now I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant with rainbow baby 🌈👶🏼
What is a rainbow baby?
@@nicolegonzalez6571 a rainbow baby is a baby conceived after a miscarriage
I was an ivf baby and I didn’t know until this past year and now I call myself a tube baby and my dad laughs and my mom talks about her labor lol
I love how much Ariel and Rachel obviously love and support each other!😊
I never knew that Rachel went through that! She is truly amazing. My mum had to go through the same procedure and IBF as well, and my parents had to live in canada for a while but even then they weren't able to make a baby. She is so lucky to have June and Poppy! But I am also so lucky that they ended up adopting me a few years after the procedure.
Rachel!!! love her!
My parents really struggled to have me in the 90’s. If they had had me when they wanted to have me, I’d be at least 7 years older than I am. They had many miscarriages. That being said, it’s really hard being a miracle child/rainbow baby because I much pressure is put on you (at least for me) and you’re overprotected and sometimes it’s really hard being the kid. Maybe that’s just me because of my parents and I’m also an only child, but man, it’s a wild ride being the miracle baby.
Can I just say the names Poppy and June just make me feel so fuckin warm and happy inside. Great name choices!!
We stan Rachel
Having my first baby and am in the UK. My husband can only come in when in active labour (4cm dilated and over) and then has to leave an hour after birth 😭 terrified! Glad to hear that at least Ned can be with Ariel during those times!
oh no good luck! - from the UK too lol
That’s crazy! I couldn’t imagine. I just gave birth 4 weeks ago and when we got to the hospital i was 4 cm. I don’t understand making your husband leave after an hour after birth. The first hour will go so fast and I absolutely needed my husband there so I could get rest and recover after labor and so my husband could bond with baby. It doesn’t make sense to me to make him leave because the same germs would be in the hospital whether he’s there 4 hours or 24 hours. So sorry you’re having to give birth during these hard times!
Wow, I just keep learning more and more about Rachel! What a woman
I have two older sisters who are twins, and I can confirm that the one who was one minute earlier did and still does hold it over my other sisters head😂😂
I'm thankful you mentioned how it feels to just be told to adopt, when you are struggling with infertility. I have several medical issues that make it hard for me to conceive. I remember having an old workmate go off at me when I was talking about having kids, and that as much as possible I wanted biological ones. And it turned out that she was adopted, so she took offense that adoption was not my immediate option. It was a tight spot to be in. While I understood her feelings, I also had my own valid issue. And as you guys mentioned, adoption is really expensive. There's more paperwork too. And here in the country where I am, from what I learned, it's also extra difficult to process adoption. Your statements here made me feel a bit better...
After 5 failed IUI treatments I finally told my parents about our infertility and that we were moving on to IVF. The very first thing out of my dad's mouth was "have you thought about adopting instead?" and it was so hurtful. Now three IVF cycles and two miscarriages later my mom is asking the same thing. It is a completely different process, financially, legally, and emotionally, and not linearly connected or mutually exclusive the way so many people assume. I also have friends who have been on adoption waiting lists for 5, 6, even 7 years. It's not an easy 'Oh, just go pick up a baby' quick fix for infertility. 🤦🏼♀️
Wes was just under 6lbs they said that and I'm like.. awww.... I had giants at almost 10lbs.. it's incredible how different it is from one baby to the next.. congratulations on your new baby boy! I have 2 boys also one just turned 3 and the other just turned 1... Boy life is different. I feel like I haven't slept in 3 years.. Love the podcast! Xoxo 🥰💜
that’s so interesting!! i was 5 lbs 6 ounces & my sister was 5 lbs 9 ounces (she’s older)! how cool :)
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my boy was 8.4lbs but waa 12 days over.
@@hp89p35 I carried full term with both pretty much. 2 days shy of 40 weeks with 1 and 3 days shy of 40 weeks with the other. Wow 12 days past 40 weeks I can only imagine how that was.. 🙂🙂🙂
@@MargieLeigh3 I was 7lbs 4ounces my husband was a premmie at around 7 lbs but he's also 6'6".. usually premmies are a lot smaller.
June and Poppy are truly so so adorable
Am I the only one who saw the IG post and dropped EVERYTHING I was doing so I can hear and see this episode? Because Rachel is a BOSS
I was told I will probably struggle with fertility as a teenager. As a 24 year old now I feel better about it I want to foster children and teenagers and possibly adopt a few of them in the future.
Same! I’ve know since about 12/13 years old I’ll probably never be able to have biological children and came to terms with it and wanting to adopt by high school. Now at 28 I am looking forward to the day I can adopt and make that a reality
"at a former large media company" the shayyddddeeeeeeeeee
My maternal Grandmother (start of Alzheimer's & just a sassy woman) kept asking if I was pregnant yet. Around our 4th anniversary I was visiting her before a trip. During a regular phone call just before we left for a trip to Vegas she asked me, again, if I was pregnant yet. I told her no. She was quiet for a few heartbeats, I thought she hung up. "Grandma? Are you there? Are you okay?" She sighed heavily and said, "I am going to speak with your father about this." WHAT? "I am going to have him speak with your (husband). There are positions that he can have sex in that will help you get pregnant. Are you trying different positions? You're not just laying there, right?" WHAT THE HELL GRANDMA! I informed her we were having sex just fine. "Don't you dare call my Dad, Grandma! You'll embarrass him and us! I am seeing a fertility specialist when we get back." Nope, she was determined to have my DAD speak to my husband about how we have sex!" I asked how she felt when she was dealing with her own infertility, way back in the 1930's & 1940's. How she felt whenever people told them how they were doing things "wrong" or to "try this or that". It hurts. It's embarrassing and very frustrating. We said "I love you", goodbyes and hung up.
I immediately called my Dad to forewarn him and the jerk (loving) laughed at me because he didn't believe for one minute that 4'10" Polish widow of over 40 years (at that point) would ever talk to him about sex, let alone his daughter's sex life. She never spoke to him about the subject, EVER. "OK dad. I just wanted to warn you that she said she was going to call you ask you speak to (husband) about this."
This was in the 90's, I didn't own a cellphone so I didn't speak to my father for 7 days. When I did call him I was crying because I was laughing so hard. Grandma followed through and called him. He was shocked, embarrassed as hell, and then upset as he had to argue with his mother to NOT call my mother (they were divorced), my priest, her priest or his brother (because he being so difficult - my Uncle has NO children) to talk to me about sexual positions.
Now, when someone asks about this subject, either for themselves, a friend or family member, I tell them this. Only listen to your own hearts, follow it, never let anyone tell you that you're being punished or "don't deserve" children. Then to speak to a FERTILITY specialist, not their primary care doctor unless the are a specialist. Research options & doctors. It's okay to get a 2nd, 3rd or 4th opinion. Only "do" what you're comfortable doing or financing. Ultimately, although it is true "what will be, will be" that does NOT mean you can't kick it in the ass to jump start it or give it a helping hand. If you (they) are blessed enough to have children - wonderful, great. If it doesn't I hope they'll get help dealing with that sorrow. I can only pray for you (them), be there to listen and if you tell me just to listen, that is all I'll do.
I LOVE the sass of your nosy Polish grandmother!!
What a story! Thanks for sharing :)
So I would love it if the hint for the next episode meant Eugene and Matt (especially because it would be more inclusive and they could adopt a child if they wanted), but would also love to see Zack and Maggie get adorably flustered since they are engaged now and potentially having family planning conversations (if they weren't already).
Wes saying "want to see friends..." hit me right in the feels.
Same little man. Same.
Ned: went to Princeton for chemistry
Also Ned: sucks at biology
His chem major checks out.
princeton? you mean yale
@@andii256 whatever ivy is an ivy
@@spookygreg lol cos Ned ALWAYS talks about Yale that i found it amusing you mentioned Princeton instead 🤣
@@andii256 I know how much ivy's hate other ivy's (jokingly...or seriously in some cases). This probably would make him rage haha!
I was thinking whether you could have guest or guests who have either studied being voluntarily childless or have decided to be so. There is still so much stigma around it yet it is more and more common to choose that path. Would be lovely to hear their comments and thoughts (as I am part of that group as well) - and let people know that most of us do not hate children. :)
I’ve always, as far back as I can remember wanted to have children so very badly. I’d get teary-eyed when my coworkers would bring their babies to the office to meet everyone. And then suddenly out of no-where after I adopted 2 kittens I realized I no longer want children. I crave nurturing other living things but I don’t think my anxiety or my body could handle being pregnant (I have a hip problem and sometimes I can’t walk without excruciating pain). I feel guilty for not wanting to have kids because I have family that has tried for years and years and they have not been able to get pregnant. But I’ve made the decision not to and the stigma around that decision is still really difficult.
This is a good idea!
Would love this!
JICYDK- Adoption through the foster care system is very low cost. It comes with it's own struggles and baggage but so does every other way of growing your family. ALL families are all valid regardless of how they came together. LOVE this podcast!! Love anything with the TRY family! ♥
Fantastic episode! Love Rachel! She’s been through so much and look at her now! She’s the definition of light at the end of the tunnel!
Thank you Ariel and Ned for sharing your loss too. I’m appreciative of your openness.
And the saddest thing about IVF is that the sperm tests and viability tests take 6-15 minutes for $6000
"People do this for free, drunkenly by accident" GIRL. I FEEL THIS. I have been trying for 2 years now and my only pregnancy ended in early miscarriage. I've gone through the testing, and we were also diagnosed with unexplained fertility so IUI is our next step but it's absurdly expensive. It's so unfair that we, a couple who has the desire and the means to have a child, has to struggle so much for it, when there are teenagers getting knocked up in the back of 40 year old beater cars after having sloppy sex that barely lasts 60 seconds. It's a real struggle to cope with, as I'm sure you're aware.
My mom and dad tried for 13 years to have me (I'm an only child). They did tests, but didn't have the money for IVF or surrogacy or adoption. When I was conceived, it was initially an ectopic and geriatric pregnancy and my mom had to go on bed rest when she was only 3 months pregnant. I hear about the story a lot and my parents are humorous people so they often joke about how much sex they had for 13 years and they encourage me to ask them about the best positions lmfao
@@saruhhhh yea idk man I just know what my parents told me, they just said the first time they went to the doctor, she suggested aborting me because I was ectopic but my parents are Catholic so they changed doctors, dunno what really happened lol
Oof, what aggression from “Me”! That could’ve been worded SO much better. A quick search would tell you ectopic pregnancies with live births aren’t 100% impossible, although you may want to double check with your mom- there appears to be very few recorded cases! And if you really were an ectopic pregnancy, you’re a miracle :)
@@jaywilliams4810 thanks for the info, that's fascinating! And omg I cringed so hard at "miracle" coz that IS what they called me growing up haha all my parents' friends referred to me as the "miracle baby" and it was a little *too* Catholic for my taste haha
Jacq Parairo whoops sorry I didn’t mean to make you cringe! Let’s call it... a rare case >:)
Plz do more with rachel
she is adorable 😍😍❤❤❤❤❤❤
I luv her so much
Husband just told me he had a damn of coming home from work to settle our *hopefully future* bub ❤️ thankyou these podcasts really help me lose my fear of not knowing how to handle pregnancy
I always love hearing about fertility. My sister and I are ivf twins. My mom was lucky enough to have us in her first round of ivf. But now I’m worried about my own fertility chances because most if not all of the women on both sides of my family have had fertility issues, fibroids etc. and I was just diagnosed with pcos last year.
Find an OBGYN you trust and like when you decide to start trying. The PCOS rollercoaster can be a real b**** but a good doctor will help you process it a little easier.
I'm gonna need a documentary on Rachel and her life adventures because she sounds amazing, please and thank you
Rachel is such a sweetheart
It is crazy how much adoption costs! I was adopted at birth in the early ‘90s and my adoptive parents were VERY fortunate that my birth mom was a family friend so it didn’t have to go through super expensive channels. All they paid for was the home study and the court fees if I’m not mistaken. But the fact they make a killing off of infertility is just insane and unethical. And, being an adoptee, there are a lot of things that need to be considered and acknowledged before going through that process.
But anywho, great episode! 😊
The whole "gotta see it to believe it" thing is soooo true. We lost our twins last august and then we got pregnant with our rainbow girl 3 months later and it took actually seeing her and hearing that heartbeat for us to finally take a breath cuz we had an ultrasound for the twins and they didnt have a heartbeat. Also we told people immediately with the twins(thankfully not too many people) and with our girl we were still just telling important people at 6 months.. But wouldnt change my rainbow girl for anything and shes always gonna know about her brother and sister in heaven❤☺ she was actually born just over a year from when we lost the twins💙💜
the part where rachel was talking abt which one was first - like she said 'june will lord it over poppy forever' - that is exactly me and my twin sister. I am the older and I definitely lord it over my sister all the time!!
Rachel is Wonder Woman, Superwoman and Captain Marvel combined!
Ned *has chemistry degree* : it's like a centrifuge, LIKE A SPERMIFUGE
We had our first without trying. When we decided to try for a second, we got the IUD removed, but couldn’t get pregnant. After struggling for months, I found an online community that had the same problem. Someone said it took them nine months before their body was back to normal from the birth control. We kept trying, and Voila! Nine months later we were pregnant. It was agonizing waiting that long, and my heart goes out to others struggling with infertility longer than us.
This was what I needed today. We have been trying for 5 1/2 years. 6 months in we found out we were pregnant but I experienced the "less pregnant" tests ending in a miscarriage. 3 years ago we started seeing a fertility specialist. 2 years in (and a lot of treatments) we did an exploratory surgery because my doctor thought I had endometriosis. We get in there and I dont have endo, I have PCOS. They couldn't diagnose me without the surgery because I have none of the telltale symptoms. I found out I was pregnant in March and then I ended up miscarrying that one too. Pretty much my body has an issue with every step of pregnancy. I'm now on hormones to fix the situation that caused my last miscarriage. My due date for that baby is approaching and I'm receiving all the new baby care packages in the mail even though I canceled them. That was the hardest. I thought I was done dealing with it but it all came flooding back. Long story.
As a twin I can confirm that I hold being 36 seconds older then my sister.
I was born 3 minutes after my twin brother but it was already the next day so he always says he's a day older and people do believe him lol
On my TTC journey right now, meds and docs and definetly so much harder than we were taught in sex ed. Thank you for the show guys! 🍍
I regularly feel ovulation cramps!!
The episode we’ve been waiting for!!!!!
This is THE podcast we been waiting for!
This was a great episode!! Everything is better with Rachel!😂💕 This hit everything I wanted to hear and I don’t even want kids for a while😂 Y’all are some of the greatest people ever and I’m very thankful to be able to go through life with each of you💗
I've always been able to feel ovulation though not always every month. I remember when I first felt it as a teenager and I was so uncomfortable because of it and my dad took me to an out of hours GP surgery thinking I had appendicitis. That was how I found out what it was!
I actually regularly feel myself ovulate. Not every month, but I do feel the pang, and because I track my cycles I know what it is. Plus all the other ovulation symptoms.
Rachel talking about her height and being scared of having twins and then I realized that I am 4'11 :) in suuuuper tiny...I terrified now
Best podcast ever!!!!!!!!!!!
Love this podcast!! Thank you guys ❤️
I am an IVF baby and a fraternal twin. They implanted 3 or more eggs (at least in my mom's experience), but I think it depends on each women's fertility journey as well.
i love this Ariel-Rachel duo!!! ❤❤❤
Yes Rachel! I love this podcast!
Aww the part where rachel said her twins will never be alone - I totally relate to that. I always say that it's basically like having abuilt in friend. I know that my sister will always be there for me no matter how far apart we are. And I'm pretty sure june and poppy will be exactly like that
All gas no breaks. Great channel and podcast.
I love ned more and more each podcast!
I loved this episode!!!!!
This podcast makes me feel all fluffy and happy and still makes me stay even if I have no plans on having kids, I love you guys so much!
My favorite episode thus faaaaar 🥺🥺🥺
Love this xxxxx thank ye for all ye bring to light xxx
I've been waiting for an episode with Rachel since this podcast was announced!!
I like this - love that Rachel was in this episode! More of her!
I absolutely love how open and honest these podcasts are. it's so great getting to hear about everything! Especially the bits no one really tells you about
fertility is such an important topic to talk about, thank you all for sharing!!!
The twins sounds so adorable!! ❤️❤️👏👏
I absolutely love this podcast! I watch on CZcams. I just got married earlier this year and me and my husband are thinking about trying in the near future for kids. I have learned so much listening to this and your honesty makes it less scary!!!! Thank you for doing this!
I love hearing Rachel's story! She seems like the most amazing person!
We need more Rachel across all the podcasts!
Been really enjoying this podcast. Crazy some come so early. I'm 41 wks. And waiting still. :) Love you guys are getting people with different experiences to guest.
it's very common to insert more than one with ivf. my mom teaches in a wealthy area where a lot of women can afford ivf, and many of the twins she teaches are as fraternal as they come bc they come from two different eggs.
Rachel is the cutest! Love seeing her and as always Mrs. and Mr.