Overcoming people-pleasing tendencies to become a stronger engineering leader | Nikita Rathi

Pleasing everyone, except yourself
As a South-Asian woman, I was conditioned from a young age to prioritise the needs of others over my own, limit my self-expression, take up as little space as possible, and be adaptable, even at the cost of my own personal and professional growth. This talk is about my ongoing journey towards recognising the different patterns of people pleasing that I tend to fall into, like countless other folks, and how this impacts my work as an engineering leader.
Most importantly, I'll share strategies and learnings on how to break free from the people-pleasing trap, while still being an effective, empathetic and authentic leader. Whether you're a seasoned professional or just starting out in your career, I hope you’ll leave this talk having had some 'aha' moments of your own tendencies, and a deeper understanding of how people-pleasing can hold you back and how you can overcome them.

[@subashbabugandhi607]

Great one.. i am the combo of all 4.. definitely will try the strategy..

[@MrAnanthnarayanan]

4 archetypes are interesting but the end strategies are not new. It’s just that packaging is interesting but the final output falls short and pretty generic like: suggesting to delegate, set goals, clarify roles and responsibilities. Pretty generic ones.