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Komentáře • 148

  • @victorialee1239
    @victorialee1239 Před 3 lety +118

    As a bride who did everything DIY my biggest advice is plan way further ahead than you think is necessary. My friends thought I was crazy that I ironed my napkins 4 months in advance in a cute design. But you do not want to do that the week or the day of the wedding. Those things take so much time.

    • @geofferypmeyers
      @geofferypmeyers Před 3 lety +1

      That’s so funny but so true! Might as well do everything early that you can 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @valerielinares2068
    @valerielinares2068 Před 3 lety +243

    I love this... I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this. Too many times in the CZcams space, when one person reacts in a critical way to another creator's video, they don't do this. Instead, they make back and fourth, passive-aggressive videos. Getting defensive, maybe even making personal attacks out of anger and being offended. Neither of you did this.
    But you two chose the higher road and said to yourself, "how about instead of being passive aggressive, we talk things out in a constructive conversation between two grown adults?"
    I love this. There needs to be more of this...
    CZcams creators far and wide - take notes. When you have a disagreement with a fellow CZcamsr, how about having a mature and constructive conversation instead of creating content for drama channels? Do this. Do this thing. Be better than the drama.

    • @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371
      @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371 Před 3 lety +2

      How about be passive aggressive in person? At least the other person has a chance to react and defend.
      So like I love they met up!!!!

    • @valerielinares2068
      @valerielinares2068 Před 3 lety +3

      @@rieschelleannjavier-basina7371 passive aggressiveness is stupid, immature, and counter-productive. Having a respectful, honest and open discussion of issues is far more effective.

    • @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371
      @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371 Před 3 lety

      @@valerielinares2068 respectful honest conversation. Yes. I like that. So I hope they meet up already. They all are reasonable people so that makes my hopes go up that the 3 of them could Collab.

    • @valerielinares2068
      @valerielinares2068 Před 3 lety

      @@rieschelleannjavier-basina7371 the three of who? Who is the third person you're referring to?

    • @djk5v
      @djk5v Před 7 měsíci

      I agree. I think Chelsea had certain misperceptions that the wedding industry was out to fleece everyone out of their money, but I think they’re more on the same page of not letting societal pressures dictate how much money gets spent on one day.

  • @Internet-Queen
    @Internet-Queen Před 3 lety +215

    a crossover i didnt ever expect but am delighted to see

  • @baileysipila7569
    @baileysipila7569 Před 3 lety +138

    I’m so happy this collaboration was made! I think you both are great creators and I’m so happy you were able to talk so kindly to each other.

  • @keziawright
    @keziawright Před 3 lety +43

    In a very public space where CZcamsrs often ignore or fight each other in the face of disagreement, this collab is so refreshing. Amazing work.

    • @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371
      @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371 Před 3 lety

      😱 Chelsea and Graham
      🤯🤯🤯 Jaimie and Chelsea
      Been watching them a lot even though I'm already married

  • @meghanjirik8543
    @meghanjirik8543 Před 3 lety +86

    I watch both TFD and Jamie’s channel, and the initial set of videos made me really uncomfortable because I’m very conflict avoidant and I like both channels. So logging onto CZcams and seeing these videos surprised and delighted me!

  • @jillianharvey
    @jillianharvey Před 3 lety +114

    I've watched all four videos now and I have to give a praise to both Jamie and Chelsea-you both have your own opinions on the wedding industry and yet you were both able to come together and have two respectful conversations about the subject matter. Thank you for showing your audiences that you can have have a different view than others and still have a respectful conversation about ideas (and not tear people apart) AND raise other women up.

  • @cassandrasiegel-chau6645
    @cassandrasiegel-chau6645 Před 3 lety +100

    The uneven amount of work put in between the groom and bride is maddening. I have been caught in that trap multiple times while planning my own wedding. Some of it is due to me not being good at delegating, and some is because I hate how my partner procrastinates until the last minute (meaning that the stress of the task does not leave me as I have to remind him about it), and the last is because it is things that I have the skills and training on while he doesn't. I have been working on voicing my need for help more and we have sat down and talked about how when I ask for something to be done it needs to be done in a timely manner so I don't get stressed out. It has helped us find the flaws in our relationship dynamic and work on them before getting married.

    • @TheEmmaHouli
      @TheEmmaHouli Před 3 lety +9

      Oh I feel you!!!
      My husband is the crafter of the two of us and he waited until a WEEK before the wedding to do a lot of the decorations!
      We talked about it a lot in pre wedding counciling as well.
      He did really shine day of the wedding though. He was at the venue setting up all morning while I got to be with my bridemaids and family. He was also a dream when we were taking everything down the next day (in the pouring rain!!).

    • @7ScarletRoses
      @7ScarletRoses Před 3 lety

      That sounds stressful but good that it has helped identify things you can work on! My partner would prefer eloping, as he has some social anxiety, dislikes being the center of attention and also just easily gets stressed about organizing events. However, he is willing to have a wedding because he knows I really want to. We are planning to have a small, inexpensive wedding, but I still feel unsettled that all the planning will fall on me. It doesn't really feel fair to put extra pressure on him, but I feel like the planning would be less stressful and more fun if we could approach it as a team...

    • @haenahkim
      @haenahkim Před 3 lety +1

      @@7ScarletRoses If it helps, my partner will likely not care about the decorations/color scheme/etc as much as I will, but food has already been a topic we talked about around our (eventual) wedding. So maybe it's something as simple (assuming one has a love for food) as "hey let's go buy a treat from this bakery to see if we like it" or "checking out this place we might cater" or even "do you think this type of food is something we could eat in formal wear" (it has been pointed out to me that fried chicken with bones is not an ideal thing for me to eat in a white dress already lol) could help relieve decisions. Like my partner doesn't care about color coordination/balance, but he has already said he really wants the color red to be involved somehow after a random discussion of favorite colors. For me at least, decisions are easier if it's between A or B vs looking at a whole menu and choosing from a couple dozen. Sometimes it's taking the decision out of the context of "wedding" (we desire a winter wedding because we've both talked about how we like the cold, gaming themed cocktails/open bar because we enjoy fun references, short/no speeches because we dislike them in general anyways), and it makes it easier for you making the Official Wedding Decision of Expenses with those guidelines.

    • @7ScarletRoses
      @7ScarletRoses Před 3 lety

      @@haenahkim that sounds like a good idea, thank you :)!

    • @astrea79
      @astrea79 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes, same! I keep trying to get him more involved and it just turns into me nagging him to complete the specific tasks I delegate to him. I told him it would be great if he could take the reigns on making a planning appointment with a vendor for next month. Three days later it still hasn't been completed, and those days were his days off from work, so he had time. I HATE nagging but if I wasn't on his ass nothing I delegated to him would get done. Also I get a little resentful when he does something and everyone showers him with praise but I don't get any acknowledgment for the work I've done. It's just expected of me to do most of the work planning a wedding and I don't get any acknowledgment for the work I've done.

  • @lapetitepoire5
    @lapetitepoire5 Před 2 lety +10

    I'm in the midst of planning my wedding right now and I'm going through all your videos, but this one is one of my faves so far. Something I'd STRONGLY add to the point about considering the financial burden you're offloading onto your guests is their TIME cost, especially when it comes to destination weddings or travelling for a wedding. Most people, at least here in North America, have a very limited amount of vacation time. Even if they can financially afford to spend a week travelling to your destination resort wedding, asking them to sacrifice a week of vacation time, when they may only have a week or two for the whole year, is a huge burden.

  • @mcalvo7925
    @mcalvo7925 Před 3 lety +28

    Been watching both channels for years and now watching them come together is such a treat! Such dignified, respectable, women coming together to have an open conversation instead of going back and forth creating drama for clicks.

  • @michaelab6070
    @michaelab6070 Před 3 lety +40

    I think this can be a comment on society and marriage as well as finances and how the three intertwine...we often don't think things are appropriate to talk about or save for before it is too late. An example, we are often told that it is inappropriate to talk about big things in life when first dating someone (marriage, kids, etc.) but if you and that other person don't agree or see eye-to-eye on that, better to find out early than later when you've invested so much time and money in a relationship that may not be willing to compromise. At a certain point in life if you know you want to get married and you know you don't want to take money from others for your wedding, you need to buckle down. If anyone says that's not necessary or crazy or inappropriate, don't invite that person to your dope wedding.

  • @rn2787
    @rn2787 Před 3 lety +20

    Personally I would always suggest choosing the honeymoon over a wedding. It's generally cheaper and it's always great to go on vacation. (Before anyone asks I eloped.)

    • @kristennorth3268
      @kristennorth3268 Před 2 lety

      We eloped and had a honeymoon in Europe. 10+ years later and no regrets.

  • @Dancewithloveforever
    @Dancewithloveforever Před 3 lety +42

    Jamie showed up looking gorgeous with a kind and open heart, per usual❤️

  • @maggiesucampbell2006
    @maggiesucampbell2006 Před 3 lety +28

    I can’t even imagine what the two of you reacting to shows like Marriage or Mortgage would be like 😂

    • @NataliaNNS
      @NataliaNNS Před 2 lety +1

      That would be such an interesting premise!

    • @LadyAhro
      @LadyAhro Před 2 lety +1

      I’d love to see that. Me and my partner love/love to hate that show because while we want to get married we’re desperate for a house and automatically team mortgage (especially because we aspire for a wedding under 10K and the mind boggles at some prices of various wedding elements that the show’s participants want.)

  • @clairemichellecece
    @clairemichellecece Před 3 lety +32

    Loveeeee this video. Slightly embarrassed to say that I’ve had the mentality of “I’m saving for the wedding I want” since I was in high school 😬. 26 now and thankfully have a good chunk of money!

  • @anamazing2297
    @anamazing2297 Před 3 lety +24

    I'm getting married technically today (just past midnight), and my future husband barely got a suit this past week, and still doesn't have a tie. Same for his groomsmen. My Maid of Honor didn't get her dress she ordered, and we had to haphazardly put together something to try to make it look okay. I've already broken down, 'cause it's way too late to be awake, and I'm just hoping things don't end in disaster... I feel like I haven't done enough, even though I have been planning alone since the beginning. I'm not good at asking people to do anything for me as I was told I want too much, too often. My phone is at 8% because I don't have a charger, and I was using it like crazy the whole day. I don't know what's going to happen for half my day. I thought I had it under control, but the day is here and the last day doesn't feel over yet. I need a shower, my nails are ragged, and I hate my haircut. So many things are going wrong. Everything won't be magically fixed when I wake up, but I'll still be in love, and I'll still be excited, and surprised at every good thing. At every person who shows up. Despite all the previous ranting of all my stresses, my wedding day will be my favorite day for a long time to come!

    • @anamazing2297
      @anamazing2297 Před 3 lety +4

      Thank you to whoever reads through this whole mess of a comment! I didn't even watch the video... I probably should have put this on the Facebook community posts, but my brain is fried!

    • @lisav9794
      @lisav9794 Před 3 lety +5

      I wish you an amazing wedding day, may it be everything you have hoped for! Hopefully you have gotten some hours of good sleep and may you wake up refreshed and excited. I am sure you and your bridal party will look lovely! I bet all the hard work you put into the event will pay off! Just remember to take it all in - it will pass so fast...
      All the best from Vienna, Austria, you are in my thoughts
      -Lisa

    • @nataliedavenport4557
      @nataliedavenport4557 Před 2 lety +1

      @@anamazing2297 I really hope your day came together and was beautiful 🥺

    • @anamazing2297
      @anamazing2297 Před 2 lety +3

      @@nataliedavenport4557 It did! There were a few hiccups, but things worked out, and we eventually got to relax at a cute little inn for our minimoon. I do wish I had communicated more with people who were helping, or bought tie sets earlier on, that I thought to learn how to press flowers beforehand, or that any number of things could have been better, etc., but there's no going back to smack any sense into myself now! It had all I needed and more, and that's all I care about! 😊👍

  • @titogels
    @titogels Před 3 lety +31

    Love the two of you and been following you both for a while. I’m so glad you both came together to learn from each other rather then be upset this is what truly collaborating and choosing to rise above together and gives me hope. I learn saving tips from the two of you and would be cool to see that maybe you combine forces to have a segment once in a while about smart cool ways to be financially smart and savvy for a wedding budget. Just an idea! 😉

  • @alicewilliams____
    @alicewilliams____ Před 3 lety +29

    I came to your channel from TFD. I love it!

  • @ilsemartinez3139
    @ilsemartinez3139 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I've noticed the opposite at the weddings and Quinceanera's I've been to, the cake is barely touched but the desert bar is typically cleared out in the first half of the reception.

  • @Liza.Strizhkov
    @Liza.Strizhkov Před 8 měsíci +1

    Also it depends on what culture background your coming from! If there is left overs food and cake etc its definitely going with family and friends and not to be waisted, so make sure you just purchase to go boxes from Costco!

  • @beckylee7238
    @beckylee7238 Před 3 lety +5

    It's actually funny because you have a lot of shared fans and followers.... Like a lot lol. Great to see you both here lovelies!! 💖💕

  • @evelynrenee9513
    @evelynrenee9513 Před 2 lety +2

    It's really nice to see CZcamsrs have real talks about a misunderstanding/disagreement instead of just creating more drama.

  • @diannaanderson
    @diannaanderson Před 3 lety +9

    LOVED THIS! And I'm so glad TFD addressed about how to inform would-be "donators" (before giving it) that their donation is greatly appreciated, BUT it affects NOTHING except the gratitude you have in your hearts.
    And I love the "planning ahead regardless" idea. The "Sink fund".
    Who'd of thunk???
    Just an awesome video overall. (& one, as mentioned, that can easily translate to other costly items in life.)

  • @mirunapopescu
    @mirunapopescu Před 3 lety +10

    There is so much to be learned from how you managed this situation, both in spaces like CZcams and in life in general.
    Also, I didn't realize how useful this video would be to me personally. It answered a lot of questions I've been having.
    Congratulations on your collaboration!! We need more of this!!

  • @KwincyS
    @KwincyS Před 3 lety +10

    I make wedding cakes and I had a bride that said they didn’t even end up cutting the cake the day of 🤦‍♀️ fake cake and cupcakes are the way to go

    • @26Bluegb
      @26Bluegb Před 3 lety

      Do you charge way less for a fake cake? I've always heard they are close to the same price since most of the cost is in the decorations and time, not the sugar/flour, etc to make it edible,

    • @KwincyS
      @KwincyS Před 3 lety +1

      @@26Bluegb less by $2 a serving but these prices will vary with every baker. The actual foam isn’t too cheap either but it’s just the time of baking and filling that I’m taking off

  • @Randomconsiderations
    @Randomconsiderations Před 2 lety +4

    I'm here after seeing the TFD side. I appreciate this sort of discussion. I have been in a committed relationship for 14 years and neither of us have any desire to get married/do a wedding. After the '$100/person' commentary, I really have no desire to. I wouldn't even spend that on myself, much less any one else. I have no desire to plan a wedding. I have no desire to be in a wedding. I genuinely don't get the appeal or why it's so important to people. But I appreciate the topic and love how happy it makes the people I care about to get married and have a wedding.

  • @Lilyka71
    @Lilyka71 Před 3 lety +5

    I giggled and screamed when I saw the two of you together

  • @courtneystewart8006
    @courtneystewart8006 Před 2 měsíci

    I felt lucky that u didn't go crazy on Pinterist with my wedding because it is easy to do. However, I tried to stick to specific items I knew I was getting and use Pinterist as an inspiration board to communicate what I wanted to vendors. Especially my flourist. I was able to get very specific with them about the bequests and flower crown, and with my stylists on my vision for hair and such. It was really helpful to help the get on the same get with me and my wedding turned out absolutely gorgeous. It was everything I envisioned and I was so grateful to your content for helping me through that journey, giving my permission to set boundaries and priorities, and enjoy it all. I was so happy with all my choices and my vendors were all wonderful!

  • @sim771
    @sim771 Před 3 lety +17

    Ive been following you both for years and I'm just really happy to see this collab happening on both your channels

  • @claraontheroad3049
    @claraontheroad3049 Před 3 lety +6

    I'm a fan of both of you, and I felt there were limits and flaws to both of your original videos, things in your discourses that needed to be nuanced and so it makes me so SO happy to see you both have a more in depth personal conversation about this! Thank you both for educating me so much and for being good role models for an open mature conversations ❤

  • @DAshleeD2
    @DAshleeD2 Před 3 lety +4

    I got engaged just in time for this video. Lol 😂

  • @ownyoursxtaylormorganne8551

    All the respect that this is happening no matter the outcome

  • @bethchurchill7523
    @bethchurchill7523 Před 3 lety +7

    I’m so happy to see this collaboration!
    I watch both of you, and I’m so happy that you have connected and shared your own thoughts TOGETHER instead of against each other. Thank you for being an example of productive conversation! ❤️

  • @tommivarela1051
    @tommivarela1051 Před 3 lety +4

    The love between people should be celebrated

  • @lovelywishes4235
    @lovelywishes4235 Před 3 lety +1

    Yay!! So glad this happened!

  • @allisonsweeney7938
    @allisonsweeney7938 Před 3 lety +1

    Kudos to you both this was definitely needed! Love this!!

  • @taylorrego8925
    @taylorrego8925 Před 3 lety +2

    I'm so happy about this. This is wonderful

  • @carlyinprogress6550
    @carlyinprogress6550 Před 3 lety

    I love this so much! Love you both and found this an excellent and informative video

  • @SD-hs2pk
    @SD-hs2pk Před 3 lety +3

    This was awesome truely, thanks!

  • @almalaura18
    @almalaura18 Před 3 lety

    HOW DID I MISS THIS?! Thank you lovely human for doing this for us! 🙌🏻😍

  • @Melissa-fp1kh
    @Melissa-fp1kh Před 3 lety +4

    Yay I’m glad you two made a video together 😁😁😁

  • @ashleywest
    @ashleywest Před 3 lety +3

    I'm engaged and a fan of both channels! Thanks for this collab!

  • @kelseystark724
    @kelseystark724 Před rokem

    Love this! so wholesome!

  • @gabriela.castellanos
    @gabriela.castellanos Před 2 lety +1

    I love you Chelsea! 💖🙌🏻 great combination for this video!

  • @jasmineredmond9377
    @jasmineredmond9377 Před 3 lety

    Ugh I love this collab

  • @gretabikelyte5640
    @gretabikelyte5640 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you, absolutely a great talk. Many excellent points touched. Huge admirations for both of the ladies

  • @kellibridgeman6494
    @kellibridgeman6494 Před 3 lety +4

    I need more of this! I hope you guys collaborate again. Two very inspirational and beautiful women. Thank you for being such wonderful role models. ❤

  • @Rachelhappyface
    @Rachelhappyface Před rokem

    I love that you guys had this conversation! It’s so nice to see people dealing with conflict in such a healthy way 😊

  • @maddytedesco6084
    @maddytedesco6084 Před 3 lety +1

    Love this

  • @TheKchar
    @TheKchar Před 3 lety +4

    Love this! As a TFD fan, glad to see Chelsea get a chance to explain (and called out a bit) and for there not to be reaction video on reaction video

  • @victoriajane8067
    @victoriajane8067 Před 2 lety

    Love this!!

  • @hardchooligan
    @hardchooligan Před 3 lety +2

    Didn't see this coming but applaud you both for it,nicely done having a real adult conversation 👏

  • @aprilpowell6619
    @aprilpowell6619 Před 3 lety +6

    Very informative collaboration! This made me think about a lot of things. I’m not seeing anyone at the moment but it’s good to have a plan for when that day comes.

  • @glossbones
    @glossbones Před 3 lety +8

    Would love timestamps on longer videos like this :)

  • @rhahavyb
    @rhahavyb Před 2 lety +1

    Watched both your guys videos and wow wow wow I’m so glad you guys had this conversation. Big respects for the grace involved in all of this to make this happen, kudos to you both for the valuable insights you provided us. It definitely opened up my eyes on BOTH sides

  • @mechellepryor4421
    @mechellepryor4421 Před 11 měsíci

    I’m blessed that my FH is very involved in our wedding planning and budget.

  • @sandorkocso1798
    @sandorkocso1798 Před 3 lety

    i love you both sooo much!

  • @tabithalymburner3909
    @tabithalymburner3909 Před 2 lety +1

    I love your guys as response and respect you both. Oath. The one channel I can't watch that often because she just goes so worthy and goes on and on and on but I do like her channel. I love you And all your wedding help.Wish the master plan was there for me more when I got married last year.

  • @ramenchuu
    @ramenchuu Před 3 lety +1

    Came over from the financial diet! Love this real talk. I've never wanted a wedding and I talked with my s.o. and we both feel the same. We would rather go on a trip abroad together ❤ I've heard many people regret the things they were pressured into regarding their wedding, and we've recieved some of that pressure too. Its sucks to recieve it, but I'm trying not to let it change our mind. It's not an expense I want to make just to make them happy.

  • @FM-ny7xh
    @FM-ny7xh Před 2 lety +1

    Bravo 👏🏽for Jamie and Chelsea collaboration videos! I watched all the 4 videos and each one of you have their own opinions but also have common grounds. 🥰 I would love to see a behind the scenes video 😉 (as your intros and questions asked are different on your respective channel). CONGRATS to both of you🎉🥂Sending Love from South Africa💌

  • @alyssapfluger4236
    @alyssapfluger4236 Před 3 lety +5

    This is a great collab!
    My fiance and I have been together 11 years (as of tomorrow) and we have a 3 year engagement specifically to give us time to save up for a mid-size wedding. It's good to note that if you're planning in advance, vendor costs can increase pretty substantially every year - we had an image in our head and budgeted accordingly, but the costs have risen so much (especially with covid) that we now are having to make adjustments to keep up with our goals.
    We also knew we would be gifted money with strings attached, and we made it clear from the get go that we would accept cash contributions only if the gifter acknowledged that it would not impact our planning. It was a long process to get them to accept that, but we did say we would be grateful if we received a gift but do not feel entitled to it or expect it.
    For example, we budged for 80 people, but could only afford 70 with the raising costs. The gifter wanted us to add guests. We had to say we would have to research what other venues (since we're close to capacity) and vendor costs would arise from that change while still keeping our vision, and requested all those associated costs to be covered. In the end it wasn't worthwhile to the gifter.

  • @krystalmoore8585
    @krystalmoore8585 Před 3 lety +3

    Love this video! It seems like you agree on most things 😂

  • @Faceitwithdee
    @Faceitwithdee Před rokem +1

    Late to the party here - but since my fiancé is in med school so I’ll be doing most of the planning. We are doing something simple but there’s still a lot research and planning that goes into the wedding planning process. I think it comes down to understanding each other’s workload and setting boundaries from the start.

  • @youtubeuserremainsanonymou9022

    hearing you guys talk about the waste cake gets, glad I kept mine small (75 servings for 65 person wedding) and 3 different flavors

  • @badacepro
    @badacepro Před 3 lety +5

    This was a fun watch as I have followed you both for a while and when I saw the original reaction I was a little bummed, because I like you both. Happy to this collab : )

    • @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371
      @rieschelleannjavier-basina7371 Před 3 lety

      Do you watch Graham Stephan too? Chelsea's Collab with Graham was very uncomfortable at first but he got invited again! So there's something there. Mutual respect? I love it.

  • @daniellehurrell6620
    @daniellehurrell6620 Před 3 lety +6

    Great video! I watched this one and the one on TFD. Both you and Chelsea were awesome and extremely receptive to an open and frank conversation. Great comments and tips on both sides. Commendations to both of you! I have to say it though...HUGE difference in the viewer comments on Jamie's video and Chelsea's video. Lots of grace, acceptance, and openness on Jamie's. Lots of judgement, closed-mindedness, and bitterness on Chelsea's video. YIKES. 😬

  • @umpinou
    @umpinou Před 3 lety +2

    What a constructive video. Was I living in the US + not yet married, this video would make me wanna choose you as my wedding crew instantly. 👍🙏

  • @26Bluegb
    @26Bluegb Před 3 lety +1

    Do as one(1) large deposit CD(like maybe 18 months) and then when you get closer change it over to a Money Market Account. NEVER withdraw before maturity- hence don't do a long term CD. A higher deposit (what you deposit) will often bump you into a higher interest rate or it may be tiered where anything over a certain amount earns more. Plus just basic math due to compounding. Get that higher interest rate baby!
    Also-sometimes a bank will offer a higher rate for customer loyalty, so blanket advice to open somewhere else is not sound. Shop around. Most CDs you have to wait until maturity to add to, but I've seen exceptions and always look at compounding frequency,

  • @christinetobiasz
    @christinetobiasz Před 3 lety +2

    My husband and I spent about $30k on everything for our wedding (dress, venues,rings) we honestly didn’t think it would prices rack up. Luckily we were renovating our first home so we weren’t tempted to spend money on useless wedding stuff. I also know someone who’s spent 30k on a just a reception venue lol…

    • @SamarkandChan
      @SamarkandChan Před 2 lety

      Sounds like venues in the US are so expensive, in norway a lot of venues are under $1000, although food an alcohol is obviously expensive

  • @lucilasandoval3084
    @lucilasandoval3084 Před 3 lety +1

    Oh my goooood

  • @tonikraus8665
    @tonikraus8665 Před rokem

    loved this video. Finaces are such a big thing I worry about cuz I want it to be mostly half and half. My dad gave advice of "Keep things simple. Live simpliclity. Don't live with things over your head. Buy when you have the money and pay items off asap." He and I grew up with very different money knowledge/ learning. For the wedding, we are getting a part-time job to go straight into the wedding only. Try to start marriage off with no debt. :)

  • @Lilyka71
    @Lilyka71 Před 3 lety +2

    Greetings from Costa Rica central América

  • @Sustainabledoula
    @Sustainabledoula Před 3 lety

    We are waiting to get married 12 years into our relationship with a 4 year engagement. We made sure that financially we would be okay for housing and bills. Months to a year of security. This was our priority. The house was also a fiscal priority. As well as ensuring family financial planning. A wedding will not jeopardize our financial security and successes.

  • @bellaswan44
    @bellaswan44 Před 3 lety

    Hi Jamie, can you do a video on destination weddings?

  • @minikaplan8762
    @minikaplan8762 Před 3 lety +1

    💕 this

  • @djk5v
    @djk5v Před 7 měsíci

    I feel like prenuptial agreements are like advance directives. People don’t want to think about it because they don’t marry intending to divorce. However, divorce is a possibility. For me personally my husband and I did not have enough assets to really do a prenup, but if we acquire assets, I will certainly consider a post-nuptial agreement.

  • @jamiebrown5151
    @jamiebrown5151 Před 5 měsíci

    I think it is (lack of a better term) rich for Chelsea to say don’t use a credit card if you can’t pay it off at the end of the month. I have always done this to build up points and raise my credit score but it isn’t feasible for most people. Especially if you are using the credit card to cover a bigger cost that if you simple had the money for you’d probably not be using the credit card in the first place. An example of this could be a wedding dress. Even if a person finds a great find/sale and spends $500 on a dress they may not be able to afford it in the moment.They may only have $100 extra to put towards the dress when they are looking at their overall finances. If they were to wait until they saved the $500, the dress may no longer be available. So it makes sense to put the cost of the dress on the credit card, put $100 each month towards the balance and then spend a bit on interest.

  • @feychildtarot355
    @feychildtarot355 Před 11 měsíci

    Ok on the guest list question.... how do you handle that when there are large groups of cousins/aunts/uncles etc who if you invite one you need to invite most if not all.

  • @KateHistoryMysteries
    @KateHistoryMysteries Před 3 lety +5

    At least I found Jamie out of this

  • @minnie9649
    @minnie9649 Před 2 lety +1

    I wish that people would talk about the fact that time spent planning and doing = time money opportunity cost for women. For a lot of women, it is a critical time to focus on career goals, and depending on the career, there may be a direct billable hours impact to fussing over planning. In other words, going with a planner/ full service venue and saving the headache is a smart trade off if you’re billing 50-60 hours a week rather than doing 40 and carrying this huge weight and stress.

    • @HayleighPaige
      @HayleighPaige Před rokem

      As a public accountant with billable goals - AGREED!! I am notoriously frugal, but I pay for a house cleaner during busy season because the stress of cleaning with very little free time available is too much and at that point, it’s worth the money. And during non-busy season, I do it all myself :)
      For myself, when the time comes, I’m definitely going to be factoring in my job when it comes to choosing to do something myself for my wedding, or finding another option that could save me that stress - for me, it would 100% be worth it!
      I’ve had a few wedding take place during busy season and I’ve either had to somehow accommodate some work while traveling for that wedding, or I’ve really had to cram a ton of work in preemptively to essentially budget for the time I’ll be away for the wedding. It can be really stressful, and staring down the barrel of a thousand bridesmaids events knowing how stressful it may be with my job can very much influence my decision to be a bridesmaid.

  • @eileenbrans1000
    @eileenbrans1000 Před 3 lety +2

    I love Chelsea ❤️

  • @jdvera6847
    @jdvera6847 Před 3 lety +17

    I love how Jamie's thumbnail read's "Let's Talk" with both people equally represented while Chelsea's (on the same collab) reads "I got called out" with her on the foreground and only a small frame to represent Jamie. It represents their personalities well.

    • @supernova622
      @supernova622 Před 3 lety +24

      Well, i think if you follow TFD and not Jamie, you might not have known about Jamie's video. A thumbnail like this one wouldn't have made any sense because there would be no context. It might have looked like just another TFC episode. Jamie's followers are already going to be familiar with the initial reaction video

  • @crimbleland
    @crimbleland Před 3 lety +2

    so much female empowerment in one video

  • @cindy846
    @cindy846 Před 5 měsíci

    Sooooo… this became a series 😂

  • @NoryFayeFashion
    @NoryFayeFashion Před 11 měsíci

    What about wedding mark ups? Why vendors, some of them, mark up shamelessly for the exact same service??

  • @checkinwithchinajessegonza7759

    I love Chelsea! Bottom line people should spend their money how they want. If people want to get in debt and live paycheck to paycheck, that’s cool. If people want to be frugal with their money that’s cool too. But a wedding is a luxury and it is definitely not a necessary expense. But do you Boo!

  • @saschamayer4050
    @saschamayer4050 Před 2 lety

    Ok

  • @KwincyS
    @KwincyS Před 3 lety +1

    She looks so much like Pam from the office

  • @robertstanley9633
    @robertstanley9633 Před 3 lety +1

    This is a Chelsea Fagan stan account

  • @writerspen010
    @writerspen010 Před 2 lety +2

    Her comment at 2:11 kills me, because I stopped watching TFD because this IS her attitude in a lot of videos when giving examples about what not to spend your money on. She gives good overall financial advice, yes, but I felt so insulted and belittled for wanting to eventually spend my money on things that were important to me because of her judgmental attitude.

  • @kerenlouis172
    @kerenlouis172 Před rokem

    The amount of ads on this video is ridiculous smh

    • @kerenlouis172
      @kerenlouis172 Před rokem

      This was a great conversation, by the way. The interruptions were just distracting.

  • @jessicavictoriacarrillo7254

    Is it me or did she tone down her makeup for Chelsea's benefit?

  • @ratatataraxia
    @ratatataraxia Před 2 lety

    Who gives or loans money to someone, least of all for a wedding, and then attempts to tell them what they can and can’t do with it? Oh yeah, losers. Just be cool about money. You have it you give it, you need it you take it.

  • @rachel7455
    @rachel7455 Před 3 lety +10

    Damn that back peddling tho 😭🤣

  • @ieatgremlins
    @ieatgremlins Před 4 měsíci +1

    Don't do a destination wedding, no one likes that!

  • @rachel7455
    @rachel7455 Před 3 lety +10

    We are not here for Chelsea only Jamie...

    • @michaelaegge8808
      @michaelaegge8808 Před 3 lety +20

      Then clicking on a video that's a collaboration with Chelsea in the thumbnail titled "An Honest Chat with The Financial Diet [Chelsea]" wasn't a great idea, lol.

    • @rachel7455
      @rachel7455 Před 3 lety +2

      @@michaelaegge8808 only here for Jamie sweetie

  • @cashisqueen3825
    @cashisqueen3825 Před 3 lety +34

    I unsubscribed from TFD long ago. Can’t stand the host’s condescension. There’s no “do what’s best for your finances” there. Just a lot of strong opinions, judgment and general hatred of... well, everything.

    • @hieronymusboschful
      @hieronymusboschful Před rokem

      I laughed at the ‘no judgement’ bit in her intro. Total lie.

  • @christinelewin654
    @christinelewin654 Před 3 lety +14

    Jamie was great. Chelsea… eh. I don’t buy her backpedaling.

  • @daydreamhealthbeauty2070
    @daydreamhealthbeauty2070 Před 2 lety +4

    Nope….. still not a fan of her 🤷🏼‍♀️ sorry not sorry