The Entitlement Cure with Dr. John Townsend

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  • Entitlement sets us up for disappointment in many areas of life. It can disrupt your relationships and cripple your potential to succeed. Fortunately, you don’t have to live with it. In this message at Saddleback Church, Dr. John Townsend, best-selling author, leadership coach, and psychologist, will provide insight into overcoming entitlement. Watch this message, The Entitlement Cure, and learn principles that will help you identify areas in your own life where you are stuck in "easy-way" living and navigate life when you’re confronted with others who struggle with this mindset.
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Komentáře • 56

  • @shlomorocks770
    @shlomorocks770 Před 6 lety +53

    #1 Change "I deserve" to "I am responsible"
    #2 Do the hard things first
    #3 Keep inconvenient commitments
    #4 Engage in service
    Great talk.

  • @sssttt2211
    @sssttt2211 Před 3 lety +5

    Wow, whenever you have to depend on someone else taking action to get you something that's disempowering. We must rely on ourself.

  • @Brian-rs4ug
    @Brian-rs4ug Před 4 lety +7

    Whether it be your time, resources or talents. Giving back can be a lot of fun. It took me many years to learn this truth.
    It’s pretty amazing how our lives can have meaning in ways we would have never imagined when we give of ourselves “just because”.
    Gods ways are contrary to our natural desires but prove to provide abundant returns when we do what He teaches us to do.

  • @dselectroshock1010
    @dselectroshock1010 Před 3 lety +9

    When you are given scripts for anti-depressants should be a script to volunteer as much as possible. Let that become the one drug that is most healthy.

    • @politereminder6284
      @politereminder6284 Před rokem +1

      Volunteering is nice, but many people still need medicines to re-regulate enough to get back to functional. Anti-depressants have their place in life. No need to over prescribe them, but no need to underprescribe them either. 💞

    • @dselectroshock1010
      @dselectroshock1010 Před rokem

      @@politereminder6284 yes they are required at times but limited and patients warned for the risks of withdrawal, toxic side effects, and instituting practices besides medications.

  • @ewalltom
    @ewalltom Před 4 lety +18

    Entitlement is the key element which drives narcissism.

  • @summerbreeze553
    @summerbreeze553 Před 7 lety +11

    Love the part about Keeping Inconvenient Commitments. That hit home for me.

  • @suntahoannes7671
    @suntahoannes7671 Před 3 lety +3

    The moment of now reveals the miracle of love Christ our Savior

  • @suntahoannes7671
    @suntahoannes7671 Před 3 lety +1

    The trust of the miracle of love by Jesus Christ is the commitment

  • @liviapiotrow5805
    @liviapiotrow5805 Před 2 lety +2

    I Loved this thank you so much may god bless you

  • @ljp9402
    @ljp9402 Před 3 lety +2

    please pray i stop being entitled. thank you

  • @generationx9294
    @generationx9294 Před 7 lety +9

    Thank You, Dr. John for this *outstanding* video! The information you give and the way you tell it is *GOLDEN* 👌

  • @politereminder6284
    @politereminder6284 Před 2 lety +3

    I agree with everything except for the "I deserve vs I am responsible" bit.
    Sometimes you DO deserve better. Sometimes you are NOT responsible for what has happened to you in life.
    You ARE responsible for certain things. You are NOT responsible for everything..

    • @mikerugoyi452
      @mikerugoyi452 Před 2 lety

      U deserve better based on wt?? U myt not be responsible 4 wt happened but u are responsible 4 the way 4wrd u can't jus sit n do nothing n say its not my fault I'm here in life u will stay there is his point of being responsible 4 everything cause u blaming n thinking u deserve stuff will keep u suffering. Well technically u are cause u are the one who is living the life u r the one in it so u must take responsibility or u will keep suffering is his point. Blaming solves nothing thinking u deserve better without ur effort is Ludacris wtis it based on only tym u deserve is when u put in the work like training hard at a sport diet etc them u are deserving to win over someone who is not working hard as u.

    • @mikerugoyi452
      @mikerugoyi452 Před 2 lety

      Its like saying I don't deserve to be in the ghetto in a poor family guess wt u gone die there blaming if u don't do something bout ur life aka I am responsible 4 me having the life I want than chilling, ohh poor me wt can I do its not my fault I'm from a poor background.... U will die there if u don't move no one is coming to save u

    • @politereminder6284
      @politereminder6284 Před 2 lety +1

      @@mikerugoyi452 You are responsible for what YOU are responsible for- for what is in your power to influence.
      You are NOT responsible for things you cannot change. You are not responsible for the actions of others.
      EVERYBODY DESERVES BETTER from a fundamental level. Everybody and anybody DESERVES fundamental human rights. If you are in a situation where OTHERS acted on you in a way that violated you, then you DO deserve better.
      To take responsibility for things that you are not responsible for is mentally unhealthy and completely delusional and is not based on reality , and does not work for living a healthy, forward-moving life.
      If you were abused as a child, you DID NOT deserve that. If you got raped , you DID NOT DESERVE that. If you got caught up in a war-torn area YOU DID NOT DESERVE THAT! If you are a child growing up in a famine stricken land, YOU DID NOT DESERVE THAT! If you were jumped by a bunch of thieves and got beaten up in the process, YOU DID NOT DESERVE THAT! If you found yourself on the receiving side of a genocide or ethnic cleansing exercise, YOU DID NOT DESERVE THAT!
      Children DESERVE to be fed and cared for. All humans DESERVE basic safety and security

    • @kevingoodman6617
      @kevingoodman6617 Před rokem +1

      I hear you. You ARE responsible for what you do about what has happened to you and how you let it affect you. ❤️

    • @politereminder6284
      @politereminder6284 Před rokem

      @@kevingoodman6617 once again, I only half agree. You are responsible for what you DO ABOUT THE AFTEREFFECTS of what happened to you. But you cannot always control it's effect on you.
      E.g. If someone cuts and gashes you on the head, you will bleed profusely. You have no control on how a blow immediately affects your human body. It's your responsibility to seek medical heath if you are still conscious, but , you are not responsible for all that blood.
      If your suffer a severe emotional trauma or several sustained emotional traumas, the Trauma response gets stored in your body and brain. and you can't control it. You can seek therapies and treatments- getting help IS your responsibility. The fact that this happened to you...is NOT

  • @TheRosa63
    @TheRosa63 Před 7 lety +12

    stems from pride and selfishness.

  • @tw.bluesea
    @tw.bluesea Před 2 lety +2

    When I'm playing a game with my handphone, people in the game will automatically recognise you with a higher respect, when you are high in VIP in the game, which means you spent lots of money. Therefore, it's not by oneself entitling himself will make him higher. Someone has that entitlement because the people surround him gave him that status. It's like you always get better treatment when you are VIP, first class costumer, isn't it? It's the people making the individual entitled.
    The daughter won't get attitude problem unless parents spoilt her. So to speak. A guy can meet a girl who has a high attitude like a princess on a date, but if the guy doesn't take that girl as his girlfriend that high attitude has no place to develop itself. Therefore, if you have lots of members with attitude. That means the church is giving a place to develop attitude.

  • @angelaroubique333
    @angelaroubique333 Před 5 lety +1

    Excellent teaching! Thank you!

  • @Lynn3389
    @Lynn3389 Před 6 lety

    Have always enjoyed Dr, Townsend's common sense....

  • @ruthhalsall5398
    @ruthhalsall5398 Před 7 lety +2

    Awesome !!!

  • @teresiahwambui9017
    @teresiahwambui9017 Před 2 lety

    God bless you 🙏

  • @annamaria1929
    @annamaria1929 Před 6 lety +4

    56,000+ views and 0 likes? Is that even possible?...

  • @belovedofthelord7355
    @belovedofthelord7355 Před 6 lety +1

    I find it hard to change when people around me think have entitlement attitude...

  • @Jalina69
    @Jalina69 Před 2 lety +1

    In the world where people struggle to feel deserving of love and respect, struggle to accept the fact that God himself may actually love them, teaching kids to be undeserving is abuse. It may be so that believing in deserving something is a prerequisite step required for someone to acquire responsibility to get it. Why have responsibility if a person a priori believes they do not deserve it anyways? Dr. Townsend addresses the wrong crowd. Entitled people woukd never read his book and responsible people woukd only feel worse about themselves if they do.

  • @friskyt5722
    @friskyt5722 Před 8 lety +2

    nice message .

  • @suntahoannes7671
    @suntahoannes7671 Před 3 lety

    Arrogance will never find God equality is the denial of Jesus Christ
    The empowerment of Christ will always be the miracle of love the miracle of love

  • @dinoortolani9188
    @dinoortolani9188 Před 6 lety +1

    What if you feel you lack it?

  • @autumngrace8541
    @autumngrace8541 Před 7 lety +6

    The whole new age follows the practice of you are feeling bad because you have something to work out within yourself...lol...they can be abusive to you and not take responsibility for being abusive....its the other persons issue to work out within.....oy!!!

  • @ne2448
    @ne2448 Před 4 lety +1

    Would you classify entitlement as "first world problems?"

  • @avalynnwaller6885
    @avalynnwaller6885 Před 4 lety +1

    .....do.the.hard.things......

  • @waverlyjohnson7901
    @waverlyjohnson7901 Před 5 lety +6

    no special treatment?... Joel Osteen would disagree

  • @suntahoannes7671
    @suntahoannes7671 Před 3 lety +3

    Entitlement is the Prince of darkness the devil you

  • @RobertMOdell
    @RobertMOdell Před 6 lety +2

    "God ... sees the devastation this is causing to industry." What? Are you talking about God here, or you?

  • @nancydrew5
    @nancydrew5 Před 7 lety

    HR director did not handle that interview properly. That was totally not within protocol abd could leave the company open for unfair treatment by tellung the interviewee that "It's probably not going to work out".
    She should have continued with the interview then discussed the merits of tbe candidate with the hiring people. Does the candidate fir the skills as stated in tbe job description? Dismissing a job candidate based on "one thing" does not show good business sense.

    • @4everu984
      @4everu984 Před 5 lety +11

      nancydrew5 what planet are you from? You are ridiculous. The HR person was kind in not wasting everyone’s time. Life is a great teacher...you know you sound entitled right? Lol.

    • @moralmoderate5438
      @moralmoderate5438 Před rokem +2

      Seriously? Texting during an interview showed he was more interested in his social calendar than her time and the company. Can you even imagine what he would be like as a worker if he was that entitled as an interviewee? Then to top the cherry off his parents call. That’s pure insanity. Nobody owes you anything and you need to be considerate of peoples time and effort by being available and actively listening at the bare minimum.

  • @jakubthedanger8158
    @jakubthedanger8158 Před 7 lety

    who the hell needs to cure entitlement? If anything i want to have more of it!

  • @Brian-rs4ug
    @Brian-rs4ug Před 4 lety +1

    Whether it be your time, resources or talents. Giving back can be a lot of fun. It took me many years to learn this truth.
    It’s pretty amazing how our lives can have meaning in ways we would have never imagined when we give of ourselves “just because”.
    Gods ways are contrary to our natural desires but prove to provide abundant returns when we do what He teaches us to do.