5 Signs of A Fake Empath (NOT Dark Empath)
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- čas přidán 15. 07. 2024
- Have you ever met someone who seemed very empathetic but all their assumptions about what you were feeling were wrong? Perhaps you even come away feeling even more misunderstood. If so, you may have met a fake empath instead of a genuine one. Some narcissists masquerade themselves as empaths. They may tell you things you don’t relate to or point out qualities that are inaccurate. If you’ve had these experiences, here are 5 signs of a fake empath.
Watch our dark empath video here: • 5 Signs of a Dark Empa...
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References;
Becky Storey (March 25, 2020). 5 Things Fake Empaths Do That Make Them Different from Real Ones. Retrieved from;
hwww.learning-mind.com/fake-empaths-differences-real/
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I do not know if I know any one like that but however I hope you have a great day ♥️
am i the only one who clicked on this worried that im a fake empath 😭
No, not really.
Not the only one.
Bruh I was so actually worried for like half the video🤣
😂 ur not alone
We are narcissist
Oh...I'm an actual empath but I do the analyzing thing. It's not at all to try to put them down and I don't broadcast it to outsiders, but I've learned to ask before and I always try to preface it with letting the person know I could be totally wrong. The reason I do it is because I study psychology and topics like it both for fun and because it's helped me a lot in dealing with my own stuff over the years. If someone close to me is hurting, I want to help by maybe giving them some information they can explore to help them in the long run. I'm never trying to diagnose, just help them spitball ideas for a possible solution.
Yes, I agree right here. Although it does feel to me that I am trying to diagnose them despite just wanting to help, I do also try to tell them that I might be wrong, that what I'm saying here is just an assumption based on their experiences that they've told me and what I know about them.
Same, hearing is super important but trying to help with ideas is too.
I can relate to that. Once I have learned about psychology in my own therapy...I had a phase where I would analyse everyone around me. I was overwhelmed for month at a time. I only had discovered that I was an empath and that I do not lie (like my mother always told be i would). I could sense when something was really off and I was not overreating my whole life, I was simply showing my emotions...only they were stronger due to me being an empath.
I think, there is nothing wrong with helping others with this "gift", as long as they willingly take your help or ask for it. And we all grow and we are not perfect from day one. I embarrassed myself so many time and made other people feel uncomfortble...but others were very thankful for the reflection.
@@melodieangelique3385 and it just...you can't stop diagnosing, can you? I can't. But I keep it to myself mostly. Cos...I wouldn't have an argument about it. You know what I mean?! Oh I read this and suddenly didn't feel alone anymore.🥲 like...strangers but totally the same here. Thank you all for sharing
Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you are mindful about how you go about it. That's what counts!
I’ve met a few people like this and its nothing worse than a fake empath. They gaslight and are combative. Definitely a good thing to avoid 🙏🏽
To me these people see the logical side of things, by wondering what is wrong with someone and how to treat it. They treat life like a problem, but not all fake empath people are following these rules. It’s like saying schizophrenic people hallucinating all the time. It isn’t true. Only half the time
Same here I met someone like that too it’s still haunts me
@@isablame1263True, I agree, I feel like some of these are traits of narcissists who wants to be seen as empaths...
These traits (in the video) are much harder to distinguish from a real empath... because most empaths wants to speak the truth, and I don't think we're wrong (most of the times, considering these are real empaths lol)... I think the only way to find out, is actually find out whether they're narcissists or sociopaths... or people who wants attentions to themselves, because again, most empaths don't like the spotlights, but we do want the truths to be heard by the world...
Maybe another way would be: "I don't think I'm wrong, but it could be." (Emphasizing that they could miss something that could trigger the otherwise could happen behaviour lol)
I often say this when they say my "judgements" is wrong...
Empaths don't gaslight people, UNLESS one of you is actually a narcissist lol... it could be that person is a narcissist, while it could also be that the other person is genuinely an empath (or actually just a normal people but they know you really well) and he/she is right, but you're the real narcissist lol 🤷 so it could go both ways 🤭
My mom is a lot like this. She will state facts and pair them with bold assumptions. It can be really uncomfortable, especially when she tells me I'm wrong about my own emotions, thoughts, feeling etc.
How did you confront your mom about this? Do you want to send her this video?
@@Psych2go i would guess that they didn't confront her. it can be really stressful to have to come to your parents about anything that they might be disappointed in you about. Especially if their mother thinks they're wrong about their own emotions.
@@ChikinNuggz119 you may need to cut her off cold turkey. It's not worth being surrounded by such an evil aura, especially when you know well that it's not good for you.
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1) They want to diagnose you
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2)They can’t stand being wrong
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3) They will point out your negative feelings
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4) They want everyone to know that they’re empaths
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5) They blame emotional influence
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1. They want to diagnose you.
2.They can’t stand being wrong.
3.They will point out negative feelings.
4. They want everyone to know they are empaths.
5. They blame emotional influence.
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@@LionDaCat sorry for late reply thanks dude
1,2,3 but i never mean to fake it tho :(
Honestly being an empath is exhausting in general. Any strong emotions from others, even if they're not directed at me, can tire me out very quickly, like anger, happiness, and even love can leave me feeling awkward and downright desperate to leave the situation.
For sure. Have you found any strategies that work for you to prevent that?
I can relate
@@Psych2go Usually just distancing myself from the situation until it cools over or distracting myself with other things around me
Although I am not a real big empath, I can relate. I hate drama because I end up feeling bad for the victim
Yep. Growing up, everytime someone even mentioned having their expectations not met, even if it wasnt my fault at all, made me want to immediately help them as much as I can. Horrible tbh
Anytime someone says "I'm an empath" or "I'm very empathetic" without being prompted, I do a lil side-eye. I've always felt bad for it bc I don't want to judge or diminish the struggles real empaths go through, but it's good to know there are people out there who just say that without actually BEING an empath. I think they think HAVING empathy is a special trait, rather than like... a normal human experience.
I agree with what you’re going at but if people don’t have actual empathy doesn’t that make them a psychopath which is even more of an uncommon trait
I find it odd when people label themselves... if someone is (whatever they claim to be) their actions will show it, and those around them will see it
I think when people tell you "they are something" it's likely a subtle form of manipulation. People who are honest.. don't need to tell, but show.
I'm a serial kil...
Nevermind, you're right: let me show you instead!
@@europeansovietunion7372 😧(jk)
This is having a fake friend who you think you can trust and you want to tell them stuff and you trust what they say but you soon realize is all just a lie
My realization wasn't as soon as i wanted it to be. I have a friend of 11 long, hard years, but i just figured they might be narcissistic and fake empaths. I learned the hard way that they do not care about me or my feelings at all. Even though they always played the role of " always there for you " kinda friend, they never were.
@@Fairyhanabi i understand that
If you meet someone who calls themselves an empath thats a good indicator to turn around and run as fast as you can in the other direction
Yes.. that's usually a good sign. Any stories you want to share openly?
i think that depends. if u have to describe urself to someone (ur qualities) then it's normal to mention you're empathic, in such a way that you don't have to mention it separately.. i've had this one friend who claimed to be empathic when talking about other people and in reality she tend to be two-faced and far from being empathic
@@jaaa944 thats exactly what a fake empath would say to justify identifying as an empath
@@Psych2go nothing specific but ive known people who in an attempt to be empathetic were super nosy and kinda insensitive and too personal
@@DaTLMusicI disagree, because not everyone are like that, especially me, because it's annoying to always been misunderstood... I think if you're an empath you could understand what I mean by being misunderstood (?)
I think telling everyone might sound arrogant, or actually wants other people to know the truth, because we don't lie... hmmm I think it's hard to differentiate empaths from the fake ones, but I think we could see them as narcissistic people who are trying to seem nice, so the key is to find whether they're narcissistic or not... even when debating with someone whether they're correct doesn't mean they're fake empaths, it could mean they miss something that trigger the behaviours of the said (judged) person, or something like that, if that makes sense (?) Lol
I’ve met so many fake empaths and I’m an empath myself I get very sad easily but I stay far away and quiet and don’t do these things to others. I always try to own up to my mistakes as well :/
Are you sure you’re an empath?
@@HoodedSpidey yep pretty sure I am
@@Sincerely.jeanaa Why?
@@Sincerely.jeanaaI don't believe in fake empaths... I mean these traits are more like narcissists (attention seekers) who are trying to project to the world that they're kind...
I have met alot of fake empaths in my time. Especially my mom. She makes assumptions that are genuinely fake and ridiculous, and I can tell she thinks she is in the right. As an empath, I try to help people in any way I can, but sometimes I feel like some fake empaths are just attention seekers.
Whenever I encounter something like this it makes me question myself. Worried that I misunderstand and misrepresent myself. Hopefully that is a good sign.
Do you want to elaborate on the specifics?
I guess the first and easiest answer is Imposter Syndrome. Any place that I fit, I believe that others are more qualified to fit than I. I've been working on that in recent years. Making space for myself, and accepting that just about any category that can be assigned is a spectrum. Even in my profession, that I've been doing for 20+ years, I don't consider myself an expert.
Secondly, when people accuse me of some sort of negative behavior, I give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they may be right. Spending time reading about the subject and inquiring with friends and loved ones to see if I truly fit that negative trait. Sadly, regardless of how much confirmation I get, I will always carry with me some doubt, from that point forward. "Perhaps I am a narcissist", "Maybe I was gaslighting them and I just didn't realize I was doing it", various things that cause fundamental doubt about the kind of person I am.
As much as it feels harmful, I think it's important to keep someone in check to make sure they self-assess on a regular basis that they aren't slipping into bad behaviors. To make sure one is always seeking self-understanding and self-improvement.
i myself am an empath and i have a friend who claims to be one too. i don’t know if they’re really a fake empath but they sure check off the boxes. always saying their an empath whenever emotions come up. they always ask “do you have this issue?” and usually they are wrong. it’s just weird that in situations where i can empathize with my suffering friends, they seem to just skew things. Leave it to them to bring up their own mental health issues when supposedly helping someone else with theirs. it’s not a competition but it definitely feels that way when they say things like that, also makes it feel like your issues aren’t important and shouldn’t get talked about.
Dang, I think I may have some fake empath traits, mostly the analizing/diagnosing one. Empathy doesn't really come naturally for me and I struggle a bit to empathise and understand other people's emotions and perspectives, but it's something I'm really trying to work on.
I think I've met a fake empath or two, and I think I've been a fake empath.
I recently fell in love with a fake empath. She easily recognized I was an empath and flaunted it, tried to relate and take advantage of it. In the end I didn't want to let her go but ended up overwhelming her. To her I look like the bad guy. To me it's the opposite. I don't think either of us will learn from this.
I think you will learn from it. I know where you coming from I just recently left my wife and our four year relationship. Give it time and you’ll learn to keep the people in your life who genuinely love you and appreciate you. It’s not easy and it won’t make sense all the time but focus on yourself and you’ll start realizing who actually cares the way you deserve.
Sorry to hear that.. sounds more like sociopathic tendencies.
@@Psych2go honestly she had rough past. She told me so much I can't put everything on her.
Some of it's on me too. I related to what she told me but it wouldn't work out in the end. Right now it's just hard to let go. She made me feel special but didn't care. That's never really happened before.
Ohh, very similar to what I experienced years ago! She was a narcissistic sociopath, it was crazy what she had done to me, our juniors finally recognized her toxic behaviours (they told me to stay away from her lol), but they haven't seen her true darkest side that I don't think even her parents or her best friend had ever seen!! Now I can't trust anyone anymore lol 🥲 maybe my "mirror" is too strong that she revealed herself 😕
Fake empath:"There there little sheep it's ok I know your sad"
Sheep:but I'm not sad-
Fake empath:"YOUR SAD I CAN FEEL IT"
Ooh, good subject choice. My ears perked up 💜💚
It’s interesting you post this, I had a friend for a about a year who was self-proclaimed empath. I just cut off this friend because they did things to risk my safety but didn’t care.
Thanks for this video. I'm actually trying to learn how to be Empathetic to my Friends and Family members but I never claimed that I'm an Empath. I know very much that I'm not and this video helps me to realize what I am doing wrong, specifically the first one really hit me like a truck. Most of my friends come to me with their confused emotions and I always asked questions and explain what they might be feeling and ask if it's right or wrong, in short I was trying to diagnose them and analyze their emotions which is wrong and this video help me realized it, thank you very muchh!! ^^
Well, firstly empath traits are mostly intuitive, and less judging using logics / analysis... like you feel people by instinct, for example you know whether a person is good or bad (but this is tricky and isn't always correct), regardless of their appearance, they might look kind, but their personality might not, it's like judging a book by it's cover, but another version 🤣
Sometimes I can feel other people's vibe from when they walk behind me, and I didn't feel the "wind" like when someone passing by, but I just feel like there's someone passing by and I don't like his energy etc... but again, I can't prove it (because idk them and I don't talk to them lol), so idk 🤷😅😂
I’ll never call myself a empath or consider it I’m too busy looking out for other snakes
Listening to this...I really can't tell...I feel for both the genuine empath and fake empath qualities, and it just...makes me doubt myself. Sure, I don't really want to put the spotlight on myself, and I don't really believe my abilities are that good, but I still tell anyone if the topic comes around to it. That, and I tend to let how other people feel affect me and everyone else when I don't mean to. I come from a family of empaths so I always thought I was one. ...Am I a fake empath..?
It's possible that you have a high level of empathy without being an actual empath, if that makes sense. Like, moods naturally rub off on you, but you don't feel exactly what the other person is feeling, just the vibe they give off through body language and tone of voice.
@@bekahmccue I agree. Then again, I’m starting to think such is the case for ALL “empaths,” mostly because of the sheer amount of fake empaths out there, and you can’t know *exactly* what someone is feeling without being told. Also, I’m positive it isn’t diagnosed by an expert so you HAVE to label yourself as one, leaving room for mass human error unlike depression autism or sociopathy.
I've heard it said that a lot of people who consider themselves empaths actually just have poor boundaries and let themselves get enmeshed and caught up in the problems and feelings of others. Maybe something to think about, but also take it with a grain of salt because I can't actually remember where I heard it so it could very well be wrong.
@@HoodedSpidey Well for me, I do often know what someone is feeling - it's a feeling! You can't TELL someone a feeling - you can describe what you are feeling, if that makes sense.
I don't know WHY someone feels the way they do, because I'm not psychic! Often with strangers in a group I can’t tell if it’s my own emotion or someone else’s. It would be handy to have the psychic part too, but it’d also be so much more awkward that I’m glad I don’t!
I can only speak for myself or my mum, there may be other types of empath, I'm not an expert by any means.
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Thanks guys...honestly, I'm not sure if it's because of autism or not, but I've just always been really sensitive to negative emotions, whether it's my own or not. And yea, I get upset if someone raises their voice a little bit or seems angry. Especially since I want to become a therapist, I know I have to get past this but I don't really know how.
i am kinda a fake empath kind of thing cause i try to show my friends that i understand when in reality no matter how hard i try i just can't feel the pain they'r going through
I'm not a fake empath, IDK if I'm fully an empath, but I'm sure I kinda am an empath, but I do the analyzing thing, I do it to understand the situation and give some understanding to the other person, not to diagnose someone who just wants to share how they're feeling.
yeah i feel u, "diagnosing" thing was kinda shocking to me since i'm not trying to diagnose anyone, i'm not telling im 100% right what i'm saying, i'm talking from the experience and my point of views.. like i'm really trying my best to genuinely help the person with the solutions
...have to admit that I do diagnose sometimes because of my gut feeling/instincts. I could be wrong but most of the time I'm right. People will know if you are a fake of a true empath. You don't have to broadcast it. People know and will copy your style..and you will know and feel that your different from people. Because you know yourself. Not better just different. A fake empath will expose themselves sooner or later..especially when it comes to empathy.
These new animations are awesome!
Unfortunately I feel like this may be true for a close family member I live with. I used to think that they were a empath but they may be the opposite and show sociopathic tendencies thoughts. It can be disturbing and exhausting to deal with.
This was really helpful, thank you
Her voice is so calming and relaxing..😌❤️ and the animation is these videos are so cute..😅
Specially the crying faces, give me emotional sensations.🥺
I met one and I didn't understood narcissism well until I met that one.
It's like talking to someone that live in their own bubble, they don't interact with the real you, but want you to be an echo of their own fake empathy. It's pretty insane.
Did not last long, at the second attempt to gaslight, I told them to go away.
It's tough... but it's good that they're gone when you told them to go away (I suppose they did? Lol) the problem is when they still arguing with you after you told them to gtfo 😢 (happened to me with this one fker), although he's also a pretty good friend, he's a sociopaths, but I feel like he'll flip if I tell him 😅🥴🤣 so I just keep a short distance from him... make sure he doesn't take too much for granted from me...
When I heard the first one, I was a bit surprised because I kinda do that when someone vents to me, but it’s not really that straight forward because sometimes some people do want answers to things, I just try to guess what it may be like why they do that. For a bit vague example, a thing one of my friends told me that their mom who is not that religious, started to pray more, and from what they’ve told me before, I told them “maybe your mom is finding answers or relief and she found it in a higher authority to cope with stress” and I do get things wrong and it does hurt my ego but I don’t deny that it’s wrong and try to help in a different way.
Good video. I get tense when ever i meet someone who refers to themselves as an empath. Sadly the people i have met are far from empaths and have zero.morals
I can't exactly think of anyone who is a fake empath. I do have a friend who I thought could potentially be one, but he is actually a very genuine one. The first few days of me talking to him, he was making dark jokes, always giving me the impression that he didn't care about other people's feelings, and only cared about himself. But all of a sudden, he was one of the nicest people I knew, sacrificing anything and everything for something a friend or family member wants. He also quickly notices emotions and always uses comforting words. I personally wouldn't call myself a fake empath either, but I try to make sure that people know that I am willing to listen to what they have to say and that I will never use it against them. I have never tried to draw attention based off my empathy, but many of my friends automatically seem to know that I am. Just earlier today, I had a friend who was feeling sad and I noticed it immediately. That was when I realized that other people's emotions can really affect my own. It's the first time I've really considered this and noticed this. I really hope that this is a sign of genuine empathy. My parents sometimes can't understand why I retreat to my room abruptly and abandoning my meal during conversations at the dining table and think that I should just tell them if I'm having issues, but I consider them to be empaths, too, so I really hope that they understand how someone else's emotions can affect my own.
thanks for this video, I realized that I have some of the signs, and now I'll change
I'm a fake empath but I have some experience, and I do mentalism 👀 which means I'm correct 80% of the time. And I also admit I don't know everything, it's something I had to learn to accept 😅
Me too I'm fake but when I analize the situation I always find solutions
Say that I'm empath help people to find me to have help soooo
@@sofyxa1067 Yes! And I tell them I'm good at reading, sensing and understanding people. I hate when a friend comes to complaint about the same situation for the 100th time so I try to offer a concreeeete solution.
Sometimes the way I analyze them is just a bit brutal because I'm upset and losing patience
Every fake empath should have their real empath with them to work in pair lol
@@Blounem the problem is probably that u are giving them answers, they are obviously coming to you just to vent & talk like a friend would.
The best response is to ask if they would like a solution or did they just need you to listen to them?
A lot of problems arise because people are unheard & unnoticed & conversations are usually one sided with the other person not listening & thinking of what they want to say.
The greatest gift of listening I ever recieved was when my friend didn't say a word & just hugged me.
@@toddmcsweeny 💯 true. Empaths don't always offer solution, they're good at listening and feeling what people's thoughts, pain, experience, etc, as if they are their own.
Love all of your videos
I had this problem with my friend she always fought when I told her she was wrong even tho she was wrong and one day I was having a bad day she didn't care she just kept telling me I look so depressed for no reason and she hate talking about feelings or if I want to tell her something of my life she looks so annoyed turns out she was talking behind my back
Silence is power , that's how I deal with fake empath. They don't deserve my or anyone's time.
Ohhh my clients all the time🙈 very well explained. It is suddenly bright here, so many light bulps went on😅
Wow! I’ve been struggling to understand an acquaintance of mine, and this describes her perfectly.
Very accurate, as usual 💜💚🌈⚡🪶
Tons of fake empaths!! Seems to be the actual description for a narcist when you first meet them!! Like the description says they will say they are empaths and then go announce to everyone around them they are close to negative thoughts that they assume about you that aren't true!! This is true for me and my experiences anyways!!
I don't know if I am a empath or not, I just want everyone to be okay and happy, and I try to help people to the best of my ability
Me too but I have autism and manic depression
@@landonneale8903 I have social anxiety and terrible mental health with gender dysphoria topped upon it, even though I have those things, I still try to help,
@@0ldAcc0unt ME TOO
@@0ldAcc0unt do you remember your past?
@@landonneale8903what does that have to do with being an empath or recognizing a fake one? 😐
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I hope you have a great day ♥️
Same 2u
those who are currently in pain, i hope your pain goes away. Like truly, mental pain is not a good thing. I experienced and never want to feel that again..😭
And I hope you all do best in your lives..❤️
And I hope you all do best in your lives..❤️
Oh, I *definitely* know somebody who reminds me of this. I don't know if they're actually a fake empath, and I usually get along with them fine, but they always try to tell people what they're feeling, *especially* when they think somebody is mad. They will always say "I can see in your eyes that you're angry". It was a *very* fun conversation when I tried to explain my Autism to them.../s They also think that depression is just a phase and that su*cide is weak and "the easy way out" and she wants to become a psychologist/therapist😰
Love your channel
Thanks! Now I know how to seem more real
You make great videos
Jesus. I cant believe it. Every single thing in this video describes my mother. I've never seen her that way. I dont know what to feel now.
I kind of relate to the first one, but I also try to bring support when someone tells me their problem
Wow I feel better now. I was making friends with someone that said they were an empath but instead of being understanding and supportive they treated me like a monster and exioed me from their space even after I tried to explain my feelings. They said my feelings weren't important and were besides the point. It haunted me for months.
I had another friend that said they were an empath but came off as really manipulative as well.
I'll be the first to admit I'm overbearing and probably an emotional drain on people, but it feels better to know that these were probably not saints exceptionally superior to me and that I'm not some worthless insect for being rejected by these supposedly hyper empathetic beings.
😢😭 your story sounds horrible! I want to help, but I just hope you aren't making up stories 😵💫🤧
But if you really have emotional problems, I think it's fine if you share with others, don't feel inferior to others!! I also have anxiety problems where I can't function/work properly and when I told to some people and they just straight up didn't believe me and outright dissed me, I'd just tell them to gtfo, I don't really care about their opinions anyway, I know some of them (my friends) are narcissistic and sociopathic... I told them simply because they asked, otherwise I won't... (there's no need to feel haunted for months, ignore them) well unless you feel betrayed by someone close... happened to me before, now I have trouble trusting people lol 🥲😓
I am strongly guilty of this..
I've been slowly trying to work on myself. Wish me luck:)
oh yeah - I used to work with one of these... they can get very hostile & hold a grudge when you distance yourself from them...
W-Why can I relate ? Oh no, I'm not going to lend an ear to my friends anymore before I work on this 😭 I'm so sorry for all of my friends who trusted me but all I did was make them feel worse
Well, when you study stuff about psychology, it's hard to not try and diagnose someone. But it hinges on whether you keep it to yourself and/or use the information to make things better for the person concerned, instead of using it as a weapon against them or gossiping about your findings to others who aren't involved.
Personally, I HAVE semi-diagnosed a friend and told another friend about it. However, the reason was that the other friend was pissed with the person in question and insulting them, so I felt the need to proposition a clinical explanation of their emotional problems to clear their name. It worked because the other friend started to feel bad when I put it that way and stopped blaming the friend, saying she didn't think things through from the other's POV.
I didn't even know that was it, I just felt that the way I did it was wrong and tried to change.
i think i'm being pushed in a position where i have to be an empath. i pointed out my best friend's masking mechanism in a fight (not to worry, we are still close!) but he brings it up every so often and asks for more details. it was a fluke but i don't know how to tell him that! i'm always saying "i'm too tired to tell" and even now i do say to him that it's a fluke but he doesn't believe me. what do i do? i don't want to lie, into another fluke or not.
Ngl, I felt like ever since I tried understanding my mental health and learned more and more terms, diagnosis,etc., it feels like I try to make some sort of analysis on myself and everyone that had an impact to my mental health and I tend to implement those to them. I realize it's probably not the best to do so. I'm just trying to understand from their side and why they acted towards me. It's hard trying to understand yourself while other's too 😅
If you have ever gone through something like this I'm sorry.
I think I can relate to the first point, but I don't always do that kind of diagnosis because it feels weird, I mean, I'm not an expert
As an empath, I meet people with these behaviors all of the time. It's exhausting.
almost 3 years ago i met a fake empath who was very nice at first, then i got a crush on her and we got togheter. some time after she always would just diagnose me for anything id do and everytime id say she was wrong i would get threatened and treated extremely badly bcuz "i am always right and you are wrong and you need to be punished for that". everytime id get sad or in a mad mood, she would always tell my friends "omg your friend is sad just go and help him" and she wouldnt do anything abt it other than "just stop being sad already its nothing". i tried leaving her multiple times also but she would just guilt trip me, "i am going to kill myself if you leave", "you just leave me because i am always right and you are mad about it" "you can always just listen to me and we can forget about this". and when i finally did (after 2 entire years of suffering) most of her friends just insulted me because they were also manipulated into thinking she is a real empath.
its been 1 year ssince the relation, its still extremely painful for me thinking about it.
I have cognitive empathy, and due to some recent trauma my ability to feel has somewhat diminished. But I do my best to help my friends when they need it, making it clear at first that i could be wrong since, after all I'm no professional, and that nothing would change unless they themselves do smth bout it since no one can magically fix their problems. I cheer them on and encourage and give them some personal tips if it helps.
My best friend on the other hand, checks off all the points on this list 💀. At the same time she's studying psychology so when hearing bout someone's problems, she's quick to diagnose, and did the same to me once🗿. Although i wasn't upset then, so she didn't really make anything worse or smth. I was talking about some unpleasant experiences in my past cuz she wanted to know and I didn't really mind, and then she began her long array of diagnosis, I patiently listened to all that and told her after that i don't relate to any of these symptoms nor am I upset or in need of comfort rn 💀. It might have hurt her esteem though, cuz she sounded like putting up a front by saying theres only sm i know n all-
I don't even mind, I love listening to her rambles thinking why is my bestie so cute 💀😭
First one I never do diagnose or analyze if they ask for help, tho I do it if I ask someone to help me with research to see how childhood impacts behaviour in teenagehood, I am 15. I genuinly don't know if Im an empath, I always seem to know what the other person is feeling tho I rarely feel it myself strongly. Second one I dont have I am sure 110%. I think if Im wrong I should accept the mistake and see where I could have improved. Ok I never point out when I think someone has negative emotions. I will ask them if they're ok if we're alone and it feels like it would help. I never give out personal info, esspecially if its negative or they asked me to not tell anyone. I hate it, and I dont want to do it to others. Yeah I never knew what an empath was till like a few weeks ago when I watched your videos on them, and I dont think of that skill like that, so the fourth one doesnt apply to me. I dont even know if Im an empath, and also, why brag about it, its not like everyone knows what an empath is. And I dont even want to know about the fifth one, tho it is genius, and very stupid at the same time, I will give them that.
Lezgo! The rare time that an octopus enjoyed a psyche-to-go video.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the tip-offs:*
0:25 (1) Quack diagnosis
0:59 (2) Hatred of self-errors
1:37 (3) Spotting negatives
2:05 (4) Toxic advertising
2:40 (5) Blaming emotional influence
*Side note:* As a hypothumic autist, I give preprogrammed reactions on protocol. Haven't learned as of 28 September 2022 to read others' faces and body language; am downright unable to sense others' emotional states.
I swear if you delve into this level of detail in daily life you will spend your time diagnosing people and threats everywhere.
It's just people being people doing what people do.
Love you your so amazing
A friendship with a fake empath can seriously mess you up.
I analyze and overthink literally everything, but I am trying to work on where I give advice or ideas instead of just listening.
I don't know if "diagnose" is exactly the right word... BUT wherever they look they automagically "know" what your problem is, and have to tell you about it. The worst part is that there doesn't even have to be an actual problem... BUT they know what it is, and that it's DEFINITELY YOURS... and somehow you NEED to find out all about it.
Granted, sometimes we have a personal problem or issue and we SHOULD find out about it through some well reasoned and sensitively handled advice... BUT most times, we just need to work through our own sh*t on our own...
AND a fair chunk of the time, the so-called "empath" who knows whatever your problem is, really IS just projecting their own crap onto you to feel better about themselves. It's infuriating... and makes for a very quick and easy route to a punch in the nose... while I storm out of the room. ;o)
The amount of people I have come across like this is... well i cant even put it into words but i appreciate this validation.
I know the empath term because my flatmate told me she's one approximately 10 times this year. She ticks all the boxes of fake empaths and acts with nasty superiority. I'm starting to think she's a covert narcissist and it's getting really hard to live under the same roof... She's extremely passive agressive and sometimes makes horrible comments out of nowhere. The last time that happened I confronted her and she accused me to blow things out of proportion, played victim and forced me to have a conversation even after I told her I didn't feel it was the perfect time (we came back from a trip and I only had 2 hs sleep, I told her I wanted to take a nap because I couldn't think properly)She chased me to talk, invading my personal space and didn't stop until I had a pannick attack. She now acts like nothing happened and didn't even apologize, but treates me in a very condescending way because of my anxiety. I can't stand being near her anymore, thankfully I'm leaving in a month, but I wish I could just move now.
Yeah, it happens.. 🖤🇺🇸🇰🇭💗🙏💙🦔
I think this is probably rare. I can’t think of an example in my experience. It just wouldn't be tolerated under most circumstances.
Sounds like the psychologization of someone with Dunning Kruger effect that is being explained in this video.
I’m not sure if I’m and empath but I’ve got this situation with a friend where I was trying to help them figure out why they felt a Certain way so that I could figure out what to do and how to help them stop feeling that way and stop causing a bunch of unneeded drama. Like for example this person kept accusing me and my friend group of bad things that we didn’t do and then they started apologizing we told them it was ok they were forgiven but then they would do the same thing all over again.
Lol this is so me. My friends go crying at my dms and I immediately start diagnosing
I’m so sick of me not understanding whether I am or not an empath, awh
i just realized im probably a fake empath and its because of watching this channel a year ago when i was trying to learn more about narcissist and how to be more empathetic
so my dad. alright, this is all i need to know for our next argument 🕺💃
I am going through my medical records and found the following labels; Sociopathy, narcissism, split personality disorder, Asperger syndrome, autism, bipolar depression, anxiety, ADHD, and OCD. will be 27 years old and haven't ended my life yet! anyway searching for a wife candidate I'm scheduled to die or near-death experience in my 30s. she must be 18 to 21 years old.
*Today's message is about a song by Alan Jackson titled - Angels and Alcohol.*
Funny title, right.*
Personally, I think Alan must have been high on whiskey when he wrote that song.
Lmao.
So the first verse of the song goes like this...
"You can't mix angels and alcohol
I don't think God meant for them to get along
When it takes control, you can't love no one at all
You can't mix angels and alcohol"
Each time I hear that song, I just keep thinking about the line:
*"I don't think God meant for them to get along"*
Just like Angels and Alcohol (according to Alan)...there are things that just won't go along in this life no matter what.
An example that comes to mind is "making money" and "making excuses"
I always say you can't make money and make excuses.
You have to pick one and be okay with it.
So, which one are you choosing today?
Angels or Alcohol?
Making money or making excuses?
Just one.
And be okay with whatever comes out of that choice.
*Have a great day!* 💗
For those of you who 'diagnose' people. :) Just remember that one constellation of symptoms could be a number of different things - and most likely, it is a normal person without any problems.
Just because people use fake empathy, does not mean they are narcissists; a rough period does not make them bipolar; being insecure due to past experiences does not mean someone is co dependent. People seem to love labels. But really, they show inability to truly understand and empathise, because humans are more complex than that.
am i a fake empath or something related to one? i didn't even know about this term until now
basically i try to be the best version of myself every day, i realize when i mess up and i try to overcome that guilt and that lowering of self esteem when i've done something wrong, i've been told i was wrong before and i got defensive but it was very mild, i would try to point out my reasons for what i believed was right and i would never lash out on anybody like i've done in the past, sometimes i have mental breakdowns but i never yell at anyone anymore, i probably haven't yelled at anyone since early this year or even last year
what makes me feel this way is that from april to early september i focused only on improving as a person, i would be devastated every time i did something wrong, it lead my mental health to an all time low and i was depressed every day, everyone was trying to help me but i filled them with negativity even though i didn't want to, but i also felt i had to be negative in order to stay in that mindset of improving as a person, because i acknowledged that i cared less when i was happy since i'm more concerned about having a good time then my real worries
i surf the internet for answers and i finally found something that can help me, "being negative gives you solutions that (i don't remember all of it) and are possibly safer, but not necessarily better", thanks quora!! i've been using that advice and it's helped me lessen the thoughts i have about finding a solution to everything and trying to forgive myself in deep thought countless times, i'm able to just know my intentions and not think about it for too long until moving on with my day until something else happens, which i can say has improved my mental health a bit, still have some unhealed trauma from over a year ago and the thoughts are still there but i can finally be generally happy at times, which makes me feel like i am one step closer to getting better
the trauma i had didn't start it, but it made it worse, before when i was 12 (i'm 14 now), i hated my personality and wanted to be less toxic (i was very toxic at the time), i felt i was improving until the end of may when i manipulated my parents with my phone's password because i didn't want them to see my discord, i wanted to keep it personal
so i felt horrible that day and felt horrible for things i realized i did for months afterwards, it went sort of dormant for a while until april of this year when it started to get worse and my depression came back and it got so bad that i started to feel hopeless and i felt like i would never get out of it, i have hope now, it will just need some time
also the main part i have trauma with is when i came out as trans to my parents and they didn't accept me so i lashed out at them the whole day because that was my defense mechanism (i learned that term in health class a couple weeks ago and it made me realize more, it means how you react to situations like this), i have dropped the topic, don't get me wrong, they're very supportive people but this was a lot to take in and i was casual about it the night i came out which was wrong because it was such a big discovery about my identity, it was the next morning everything went down and i started crying and lashing out at my parents saying mean things like "you don't love me" and i would refuse to do things they said like to get out from under the covers, that day was traumatic and it's resonated with me since because of one, the regret i have, and two, the feelings of gender dysphoria present daily, hating how i am and not having any confidence, losing the ability to even want to look at my face or school picture because i just cannot love myself, which is also why i spread negativity to everyone in my family
overall i'm just worried if i'm a fake empath because i fear i am a bad person without realizing it, thank you for reading if you got this far and respond if you'd like
there was like a bullying program today explaining how bullies usually don't have high self esteem and that people with high self esteem always want the best for people, i don't have really any self esteem for my looks and my identity except for what i feel inside and also i feel high self esteem for my abilities (like art, music, poetry, etc.), i don't bully anyone, and i have the lowest self esteem as of late and i always want people to be happy, i just don't try hard enough all the time
i also thought this was important to mention, we did a stress management survey and most people got around 300-500 and i scored an 833 which is not good at all, i circled either half or more than half of the estimated 40 questions
Wow, sent this right to my husband who checks all the boxes😂😂😂😂
At this stage I’m not sure if I’m a empath or not, but I am sure I’m not a fake empath. What I can say is that I like to listen to peoples problems because I can find myself in them. Idk it makes me feel more human?
I may be a fake empath, cause when someone talks to me about how they're feeling i always want to think of solution when they can really just do it theirselves or just wants to talk. Well, time for changing.
I feel like the ability to read other people’s feelings comes as a natrual thing for empaths. They don’t need to analyze things, they just know
I have a slight tendency to diagnose people. I am an empath. I do support and understand people's feelings. Me diagnosing people stems from me noticing their symptoms and doing research about it. I don't tell them they have something, cuz I'm not a professional. I just say that they might have something because of their symptoms. It comes from my love and care for people.
Another thing. Due to me having my dad's genes, and him being a narcissist, I don't like being wrong and I get so happy about being right. I'm more of my mom than my dad, who isn't a narcissist. I'm trying to be fine with being wrong about things, but being wrong still triggers me.
I don't necessarily tell other people how someone is feeling to prove that I'm an empath, I just have a habit of over explaining to other people what people tell me. Like if someone tells me a situation that happened to them and I feel bad for them, I'd tell another person about it to get it off my chest. I try my best not to explain every single detail, but it makes me uncomfortable if I don't say it a certain way. I'm not sure if explaining what happens to other people is bad, but I beat myself up about it because I don't realize I'm oversharing until after I said it. I have bad trust issues, so that and a tendency to overexplain stresses me out.
Agree on most of the things you said! Explaining vague things like emotions is really tough and sometimes I don't even know how! Sometimes I just tell them that they're [insert bad traits] without any complete explanation lol, and I just tell them to fk off when they irritate me too much 🤣 it's hard to talk sense / or emotions with a narcissist-sociopath (one of my friend) 😑
Hmm I was confused in the beginning, because I am a person who analyzes many things. One of the reasons why I have a "Kowalski" avatar ^^'
BUT... I am glad to discover that I am NOT a fake empath.
They can't stand being wrong... I'd add that they can't stand certain types of people -- humble introverts who sing or get actual satisfaction just from being geeks with colorful memories -- demonstrating some sort of appreciation of their self-worth.
I might actually work with one or two of these. I've certainly known a lot more the further back in age I go.
Any video to stop being a fake empath lol? I got that masculine desire to fix a problem. Now I see that I am also using those to justify my behaviour. Ima just sit quiet and listen 💀
I believe that you shouldn’t call yourself an Empath, but instead let others decide whether you should or shouldn’t be called one.
I disagree, we tell people we're empath because most people don't even know this term lol, and secondly we're often misunderstood, and often be seen as weird... 😮💨 like it's impossible to explain that you get overwhelmed and exhausted just by meeting with / talking to some toxic people... you don't know how long it takes to recover when all I did was go out for dinner with a friend who's a sociopath (narcissist)
Well I do think you can tell some of your traits and situations, and ask other people whether it fits with the criterias of empath... lol
Im pretty sure my ex was a fake empath bc when we she claim to be conservative while I actually was the little to nonemotional showing type guy She would trying to get to see how im feeling and deeper layers of what I say she try to be emotionally observing while getting mad over to fact I hard showed or talked about my emotions I thought I was doing it out of respect bc not most people would want to date a person who talks about themselves bc after a while she broke up with me thank god bc it was emotionally draining and mind caging so this video helped looked back to see what I was in to and why I feel mentally tried of some people thanks
This video hits hard, I think I might be one :( what can I do to fix this?
The friend of mine always said that she's empath when I was in bad mood and said that she understand my emotions but that was lies...