I would be heart broken to hear someone say I was a "good one" of whatever group they mark me as being, because it would imply that they view the majority of that group very negatively and I would hope that no one I would consider a friend would be that level of prejudiced or bigoted. Let's all just aim to be good humans
PREACH!! Being a “good gay” should only entail being a kind person!! Anyone who feels as if LGBT people are “shoving it down (their) throats” needs to think about *why* seeing gay people enjoying their existence makes them uncomfortable or feel imposed upon. It is NOT our responsibility as a community to suck up to these people, it’s our responsibility to open hearts and minds until there is no distinction between straight or gay or bi, or cis or trans, or man and woman, and everyone can just *be* without predilections or prejudice!!
The problem with it is is that when you teach it in schools, ideologize it, and put people into classification's like "oh I'm bi" "oh I'm gay" and you actively tell people that you are, that's what shoving it down peoples throats is. its one thing to want no one to care if two guys are holding hands in public but its another thing to publicize identifications. if you want it to be normal, you can start by just consider your self to be a normal person and not let the world know who you like to be romantic with. straight people don't blast all over the internet that their straight until they have a girlfriend and people can assume they are based on the fact that hes dating a girl.
@@Jimmy_Lowreypeople have the right to talk about things and their identity may be something they want to talk about. Maybe queer people had basic human rights then we wouldn’t have to talk about it as much to build a community of comfort
Crazy, I literally had an Old White Lady say something similar to me. After we had a lengthy conversation at my job, she says, you're one of the good ones. You know a good Black. 😮 I had to laugh to keep my sanity. Ignorance is real, but Never stifle yourself to please other people.
💯 x 💯 In my youth, I was a "bad queer" who made people uncomfortable frequently. No regrets :) but I've gotten complacent (also am single lol) in my 50s...
Another retired teacher here who appreciates your gift of communicating classroom humor, family life, and of course, lunch pranks! Thanks for just being you!!!
I’m gay and about to marry my fiancé in the south. I know how it feels, and I love seeing your family because it gives me hope that I can have my own someday.
I started following you because I am a retired teacher who could relate to your stories. I wish everyone could just live their life and let others do the same. #ally
Why do people have to be labeled “good gay”? You and your family are freaking amazing people. Don’t be afraid to correct people. That’s how they’ll learn to not assume anything. You’ll make them feel bad, and they’ll remember that feeling of assuming something of someone, and next time they’ll just ask. Ms. Chang, Og Chang you are a gift to this world. Keep your being awesome.
Im so happy to see this being put out there so simply & kindly. I remember when I was a kid my dad accosting a gay couple for having the audacity to hold hands in a Walmart parking lot in front of his child. I can't ever remember being more embarrassed and sad when I realized what they went through just live their lives.
Being queer for all of my adult life (I’m 63), I understand and I can relate. It’s often a constant thing, trying to ‘read the room’, is this a safe space or not? Will my kids be okay? What about my spouse? What will the person I’m talking to think? Most of the time, I have just been ‘out’. But- this year, my spouse and I are taking a trip behind ‘the Pine Curtain’ (East Texas) and I’ll probably be much more on guard. No rainbow flags. 🏳️🌈
@@i.m.watching5536To give people a hint that they are welcome in a place and reassure them that they will not need to hide or be fearful. None of which are a given in many environments. Maybe in 100 years the pride flag will be an interesting history lesson, but I don't think we're there yet. Give it a few more generations at least.
@@mschanggifted lol compared to where u live yes😂. But human rights violations aside, I couldn’t live down there either. I’d melt 😂 But to trade off, we don’t have provinces banning drag 🤷🏼♀️. And my city has a large, thriving open LGBTQ+ community that for the most part doesn’t have to feel that fear (I mean ignorant hates exist everywhere) But yes😂 move to Canada!!! We can be friends and I can show you how to make maple syrup on a stick 😂😂😂
As a bisexual. The places everyone gawks and complains about being "Homophobic" I have found are the best places to be. It's only bad if you make your sexuality your entire personality. The LGBTQ+ community is also toxic (maybe only in US or just areas you haven't been?) I've distanced myself from the community because it's become a weird obsession in the community. Pride has become an event of disrespect, narcissism, and abuse. If you live your life and mind your own business in most places, nobody cares about what gender you like. I have only ever been harassed by LGBTQ people because of the viewpoints I hold and my unwillingness to participate in the forceful negativity that has corrupted the movement. I have serious conservative parents, and when I came out they smiled and said they still loved me no matter what. They have supported me throughout the first half of my adulthood. I know some aren't as fortunate as me. But I do say this with 100% confidence that a lot of the people you're told are homophobic are in fact NOT homophobic but just dislike the side that overpowers people like me in terms of loudness. And I think that's what the person was trying to convey to her. She just wants to live her life and doesn't want it all to be about her sexaulity. Which I understand fully. Also Drag is only not allowed if it's directed towards children. Adult targeted drag shows are completely legal. Actually educate yourselves on the laws. You'd sound a lot smarter if you did.
My husband is black and gets the " you're really white for a black man" or people giving him the side eye when he goes shopping with our daughter, who is almost as whit as her momma. People can be stuck in stereotypes. So you gotta get in with kindness
I never thought about it this way. But I cant count how many times I "cover" just not to make things awkward as a gay. But it really is fear that drives this compulsion. I really do just want to exist without any judgement.
It definitely sucks having to feel that way. I'm a bi woman, but I'm married to a man and we have two kids, so I've only had to tell it to the people I want to tell (which doesn't include my conservative Christian family). If it were just me, I'd probably have more pride stuff, maybe a flag for the yard or a sticker for my car, but I worry about that having consequences for my kids. I feel like I have to protect them from even the possibility of backlash. It's so unfair.
aww. you ARE a good gay! just for better reasons. 😂 thank you for sharing this + for your visibility! p.s. please tell OG Chang i said thank you, especially since she’s camera shy. 😊 + as a Black Queer woman, her visibility means more than she knows. 🖤✊🏾
I hate that you feel in fear. I think people would just live their lives how they want to. You have a beautiful family. People are so busy being angry about things all the time 😢 I am very glad I was raised to just be kind to people no matter who they are.
I wanna scream at the top of my lungs “DONT CHANGE FOR THEM” But I’m a person that has faced very little resistance or oppression in my life. I cannot speak FOR you…but I will ALWAYS SPEAK WITH YOU. Love is the only end game.
I struggle with being comfortable in public because I don’t have the energy for judgement or harassment. I have tried holding my boyfriends hand outside walking around town. But, I get so anxious and scared. It seriously sucks not feeling comfortable to be yourself. And then obviously people makes assumptions. Which then just makes us LGBTQ+ uncomfortable in situations.
You and your wife are amazing souls. Those boys are living their best life and you can see it on their faces. 😊. I pay attention to all the different “3’s” I see and think of Fox. 😊 much love to you all.❤ ✌️
You are a hilarious person. I enjoy your daily dose of humor. I’m especially enjoying your videos with your sons. I also forgive you for wearing a coke shirt.
Ms. Chang, I don’t care if you’re gay or straight. What matter most is that you’re a good person who is easing 2 sweet boys and sharing a good life with your partner. You have the right to be and live happy, joyful and be loved. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and vlogs.
Breaks my heart to hear that you live in fear 😔. No one should live in fear. But you know what?…you ARE brave and fighting the good fight by what you do on social media. You are helping to turn the tide. Keep doing what you do. You have people like me as an ally. I hope this fear will one day be needless. Love you and your family! 💕
I live in Eugene OR. Which is known as a very accepting town. I am so thankful for that. I couldn't imagine living in some other states, though. My son is trans and we go to pride every year together. There is always a hateful group of people protesting it. Why? Why do you feel the need to spend your time spreading hate? Noone is asking you to join in. They are just asking to be allowed to live their life like everyone else, a basic human right. How is it affecting those protesting who you or I love. I just dont understand why people can't let everyone live their own life in a way that makes them makes them happy. In the end i believe love will win it always does!
Thanks for reminding me why it’s so important to be a good ally, even when it’s hard. I’m sorry you live with that fear and I hope one day you won’t have to.
As a trans queer teacher I feel this. I’m just livin in fear each and every day of being called a groomer on our local Moms for Liberty facebook group…. Our school board has made the news multiple times for it’s bigotry, it’s so sad.
as a southern gal who goes out in full gay apperal, jackets pinned and patched with however much queerness I can aesthetically place there I fully understand where you're coming from
"Shove it down our throats" yeah I just express myself how I enjoy that and that way is pretty queer, it's not shoving it down anyone's throat to be happy and confident in one's self. Me talking about my experiences as a genderqueer bi trans woman isn't shoving it down anyone's throat. It is me existing as myself.
Also I may talk about it a lot but that's because it's my life, and honestly the closest I've been to pushing my queer identity on people is when they refuse to respect it and misgender me repeatedly and intentionally or make fun of me for it
Oh wow… I thought I was the only one who had this fear in this way in this day and age. I’ll fight harder for both of us and anyone else who feels it’s better to deny who they are in public than to just live our own truths
I am a lesbian woman. I am certified to teach high school. Children scare me. =) But I watch you because you're real, funny, honest, and a darn good teacher wow! BUT I know for a fact deep in my heart there are people out there that are watching, or have watched your channel, that didn't care for us much. Maybe had some very strong negative opinions about us. But they watched a video. Then another. Then another. And by the time they heard you say you had a wife, and reality set in, they decided to open their minds and change their opinions. I know some walked away. But I know some stayed. You are deeply impacting and changing adults not just children. Keep being you and doing what you do!
Gawd. It kills me to know how terrified you are just to love your everyday life in peace. I pray the world gets better, but we need to try and remember, the storm always comes before the rainbow 🌈 Much love to you Ms. Chang
I feel this for a another reason I am disabled I am a wife and mom. But the looks and questions I get sometimes are just outrageous. Like are those yours? Its like do random kids follow you around the store? Yes they are mine😂❤
Your a good good great girl and everything more... I hear you and I’m here as a fearer as well. We just want to live. I don’t want to March in a parade, I want to be free and not feel shame. You and family are loved. Stay positive. Your beautiful family is a shining example of your proof of who you are not what you are!! Brooklyn loves you 🌷😘😘😘😘❤
I am a proud unpalatable queer who makes it my WHOLE personality by...drum roll....being openly ~different~. That means they don't think about raunchy gay sex when they look at you. Unfortunately I inspire lewd thoughts, I guess.
as a mum of a gay daughter and seen what they go through its tough its wrong that she and so many other gays and other people have to do what they do why cant they be left alone they are hurting no one as long as its consensual and not kids or animals then love who you want and stop persecuting them for loving someone of the same sex i have a few gay nephews as well that their own family disowned i couldn't believe it they thought i would do it i told them never love who you want and be proud to do it i knew my daughter was gay from young age she didn't have to come out to me or her brother and sister and i even got flack of family members about her told them i don't care about her sex i want her be happy and if its this then good for her not enough is done about the harassment of the gay community i have been with my daughter out and some people think she is male they say son and so on i say no get it right daughter and she is gay so live with it you keep being you love and you stick up for your rights a s a person gay or not you deserve same treatment as anyone
great video!! as younger teen i was seen as the “bad gay” bc i wasnt raised that way n didn’t realize you had to be hush hush. for most of my teenage years i thrived off being called a “good gay”, which is very hard to do without putting other gay people down. that’s no way to live!
Sometimes its just easier to say yes to the costco lady. While you might feel bad about it later, in the moment we don't have time to think through the "right" decision. You've got this platform showing the world that a family with two moms can thrive and that queer teachers are an asset in our schools! We need the loud gays to bring up the issues and the more subtle Mrs Chang gays to be the example in the community. It takes teamwork to change hearts and minds. ❤️🏳️🌈
I ❤ you Miss Chan I’m sorry that you feel scared at times and hope that this isn’t always the case. Life is a struggle at times and we should all just be kind to one another and celebrate the fact that we are here living our lives the best we can. With love and friendship to you and your beautiful family from the UK 🇬🇧🤝🇺🇸🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️xx
I get very skeptical when people say "shoving it down throats". Like what do they mean? Some people think having gay representation on TV is shoving it down their throats, even if that representation is super limited! Some people think Pride is shoving it down their throats, even though Pride started as a protest against discrimination and we still fight discrimination to this day. Like what the hell do they mean? I mean I get their heterosexuality shoved in my face everywhere I go, but I don't complain about it. I feel like when people say "You don't shove your gayness in my face" they mean, I am very comfortable with my hetero privilege and I don't want what I consider not to be normal to take up more space in society.
I don’t understand why anyone would think that a persons religion, orientation, gender assignment, race Etc would have anything to do with how they behave, come across, or treat people. I’ve had people tell me that “I don’t seem like a Jew.” Or “I don’t act Jewish.” What do you say to a comment like that? Other than “how, exactly, do you think someone Jewish is supposed act?” It’s ridiculous.
It blows my fucking mind that our choices about our own lives become a beacon for mockery and/or violence if they don’t fit into a narrow path. I recently realised I’m agender, and I’m scared to tell people outside of my husband and my therapist. If I did tell, probably my biggest social boundary would be that people don’t call me gendered words within earshot. It’s such a small request, and yet… *_anxiety_* 🤢 🖖🏿🖖🏾🏳️⚧️🖖🏽🏳️🌈🖖🏼🖖🏻
If my queerness makes someone uncomfortable that’s no my issue until they make it my issue. I’ve grown up in Georgia and still live here, and y’all I’m just not a day walker. You can tell from a mile away so hiding just wasn’t an option. Be kind, be strong, and be queer cause at the end of the day they’re gonna hate you for it no matter how you act 🌈
I have been a gay mom for almost 33 years now. We did in home insemination before it became a thing. My partner and I never denied our family and never once did we have real issues. We’re we “secretly scrutinized”? Yep! Even as far as having people say to us you guys just act normal. Like a normal family. You do family things and take care of your kids just like a normal couple. (Gee thanks we think?) we decided not to really pay too much attention to the scrutiny because most of that turned to acceptance and never once did we have issues where someone didn’t want their kid to be around ours. We were good people who like good clean family fun. Our birthday parties were kid oriented and we lived our family life kid friendly. No alcohol at our kids birthday parties. Not even for the adults. We actually became admired by some parents because they didn’t know how not to have adult beverages available at a kids party and so on etc. just be authentically The Changs. You guys are alright.
you’re fighting the good fight too :’) i don’t know if you understand how much you mean to me as a young gay who always wanted to be a teacher but felt she couldn’t because it’d be inappropriate for my gay self to be around children.
I love watching you and your joy you bring ❤️ .....but (being a gen x'er myself) I have to say being mistaken for a grandparent of a young child has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on sexual preference. I'm 44, my husband is 12 yrs younger than me, my child just turned 6.....and at a doctor's appointment I got mistaken for not only being the grandmother of my child but also being the mother of my husband.....yeah, makes a woman feel real great about thier looks 😢😂❤ People just don't "think" sometimes....don't read too much into that encounter. Just keep on❤
In my books you're a good gay because if all the work you do with your students. So basicallyva good person who is also gay....rather like a BUNCH of my friends.
In my books, you are just good ❤. Gay or straight what does that matter? I’m so tired of the archaic world we’ve become (again). You and your wife are no different than me and my husband. I’m not going to fawn over you because you’re gay (or hate you either). I can tell the first time I watch one of your videos we were going to be virtual friends because I liked you as a person, love your little family and how cute and funny your boys are AND your funny as hell! We have the same sense of humour ❤. Keep up the good fight.
Crazy idea, so bear with me...what if everyone, everywhere, were just good people. We accepted others for who they are and recognized we're all just trying to exist. I can dream right?
The only real fear I have is being shot. I have been close to 5 mass shootings her in my state and I know 3 victims of these mass shootings. Oh, something has to change...
Took my niece into store and was asked if I was her Grandmother. I was 34 at the time. Has nothing to do with whether you are gay or not. Cashier thought her mother my sister who was 32 was my daughter.
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You don’t have to be a good gay, just be a good person that’s the most authentic thing I’ve ever heard.
I agree. Being a good person it the best thing. If you then happen to be gay as well, that's okay.
lets be honest, ms chang is the best gay
Heyyyyy 😀
I would be heart broken to hear someone say I was a "good one" of whatever group they mark me as being, because it would imply that they view the majority of that group very negatively and I would hope that no one I would consider a friend would be that level of prejudiced or bigoted.
Let's all just aim to be good humans
PREACH!! Being a “good gay” should only entail being a kind person!! Anyone who feels as if LGBT people are “shoving it down (their) throats” needs to think about *why* seeing gay people enjoying their existence makes them uncomfortable or feel imposed upon. It is NOT our responsibility as a community to suck up to these people, it’s our responsibility to open hearts and minds until there is no distinction between straight or gay or bi, or cis or trans, or man and woman, and everyone can just *be* without predilections or prejudice!!
The problem with it is is that when you teach it in schools, ideologize it, and put people into classification's like "oh I'm bi" "oh I'm gay" and you actively tell people that you are, that's what shoving it down peoples throats is. its one thing to want no one to care if two guys are holding hands in public but its another thing to publicize identifications. if you want it to be normal, you can start by just consider your self to be a normal person and not let the world know who you like to be romantic with. straight people don't blast all over the internet that their straight until they have a girlfriend and people can assume they are based on the fact that hes dating a girl.
@@Jimmy_Lowreypeople have the right to talk about things and their identity may be something they want to talk about. Maybe queer people had basic human rights then we wouldn’t have to talk about it as much to build a community of comfort
Crazy, I literally had an Old White Lady say something similar to me. After we had a lengthy conversation at my job, she says, you're one of the good ones. You know a good Black. 😮 I had to laugh to keep my sanity. Ignorance is real, but Never stifle yourself to please other people.
💯 x 💯
In my youth, I was a "bad queer" who made people uncomfortable frequently. No regrets :) but I've gotten complacent (also am single lol) in my 50s...
Another retired teacher here who appreciates your gift of communicating classroom humor, family life, and of course, lunch pranks! Thanks for just being you!!!
I’m gay and about to marry my fiancé in the south. I know how it feels, and I love seeing your family because it gives me hope that I can have my own someday.
Congratulations!! Marriage is such a wonderful state. ❤❤❤
I started following you because I am a retired teacher who could relate to your stories. I wish everyone could just live their life and let others do the same. #ally
Retired….goals 😀
@@mschanggifted 34 years in Philly. I earned it.
@IamSnowbird how many years? Congrats on retirement and thank you for serving the community! 🎉
I didn't realize I had caps on. 34 years.@@msjkramey
Ohh I needed someone to say this out loud!! Thank you on behalf of a fellow LGBT teacher who has been scared like this!!
Why do people have to be labeled “good gay”? You and your family are freaking amazing people. Don’t be afraid to correct people. That’s how they’ll learn to not assume anything. You’ll make them feel bad, and they’ll remember that feeling of assuming something of someone, and next time they’ll just ask. Ms. Chang, Og Chang you are a gift to this world. Keep your being awesome.
Preach, Ms Chang. Being a “good gay” just means making people comfortable over your own feelings and comfort. Love what you do! ❤️
Other people's comfort should not come at the expense of her family's right to exist.
@@kathyryder828 this is a beautiful way to put it 👏👏👏
@Kit M thanks, I like what you said in your original comment, too! We care about Ms Chang and don't want her to deny her feelings.
There was really a lot to unpack in that simple video.
Im so happy to see this being put out there so simply & kindly. I remember when I was a kid my dad accosting a gay couple for having the audacity to hold hands in a Walmart parking lot in front of his child. I can't ever remember being more embarrassed and sad when I realized what they went through just live their lives.
Being queer for all of my adult life (I’m 63), I understand and I can relate. It’s often a constant thing, trying to ‘read the room’, is this a safe space or not? Will my kids be okay? What about my spouse? What will the person I’m talking to think? Most of the time, I have just been ‘out’. But- this year, my spouse and I are taking a trip behind ‘the Pine Curtain’ (East Texas) and I’ll probably be much more on guard. No rainbow flags. 🏳️🌈
Why are rainbow flags needed? Anywhere?
@@i.m.watching5536To give people a hint that they are welcome in a place and reassure them that they will not need to hide or be fearful. None of which are a given in many environments. Maybe in 100 years the pride flag will be an interesting history lesson, but I don't think we're there yet. Give it a few more generations at least.
As a Canadian, I cannot fathom being a member of the lgbtq+ community in the US. Some places must be unbearable 😢
Me: should I move to Canada? 🤔 🥶 NOPE. Way too cold 😂
@@mschanggifted lol compared to where u live yes😂. But human rights violations aside, I couldn’t live down there either. I’d melt 😂
But to trade off, we don’t have provinces banning drag 🤷🏼♀️. And my city has a large, thriving open LGBTQ+ community that for the most part doesn’t have to feel that fear (I mean ignorant hates exist everywhere)
But yes😂 move to Canada!!! We can be friends and I can show you how to make maple syrup on a stick 😂😂😂
As a bisexual. The places everyone gawks and complains about being "Homophobic" I have found are the best places to be. It's only bad if you make your sexuality your entire personality. The LGBTQ+ community is also toxic (maybe only in US or just areas you haven't been?) I've distanced myself from the community because it's become a weird obsession in the community. Pride has become an event of disrespect, narcissism, and abuse. If you live your life and mind your own business in most places, nobody cares about what gender you like. I have only ever been harassed by LGBTQ people because of the viewpoints I hold and my unwillingness to participate in the forceful negativity that has corrupted the movement. I have serious conservative parents, and when I came out they smiled and said they still loved me no matter what. They have supported me throughout the first half of my adulthood. I know some aren't as fortunate as me. But I do say this with 100% confidence that a lot of the people you're told are homophobic are in fact NOT homophobic but just dislike the side that overpowers people like me in terms of loudness. And I think that's what the person was trying to convey to her. She just wants to live her life and doesn't want it all to be about her sexaulity. Which I understand fully.
Also Drag is only not allowed if it's directed towards children. Adult targeted drag shows are completely legal. Actually educate yourselves on the laws. You'd sound a lot smarter if you did.
@@kennedy4257 bro really said educate yourself on the laws then completely did not read the laws 💀 you are part of the problem.
Many parts of British Columbia are actually pretty nice temperature wise throughout the year! Feel free to come to Canada :D
My husband is black and gets the " you're really white for a black man" or people giving him the side eye when he goes shopping with our daughter, who is almost as whit as her momma. People can be stuck in stereotypes. So you gotta get in with kindness
I never thought about it this way. But I cant count how many times I "cover" just not to make things awkward as a gay. But it really is fear that drives this compulsion. I really do just want to exist without any judgement.
You're making the world more comfortable for us other gays by being out & seen. You help bridge the gap btwn stereotypes & reality. Thank you.🏳️🌈💜
I hate that people think that being a good gay is making it convenient for everyone around you. I hate it.
Yeah, it should just mean being a good person who is also gay.
I can't wait until no one is judged by anything other than being a good person. I probably won't be alive, but I swear my spirit/ soul will celebrate.
It definitely sucks having to feel that way. I'm a bi woman, but I'm married to a man and we have two kids, so I've only had to tell it to the people I want to tell (which doesn't include my conservative Christian family). If it were just me, I'd probably have more pride stuff, maybe a flag for the yard or a sticker for my car, but I worry about that having consequences for my kids. I feel like I have to protect them from even the possibility of backlash. It's so unfair.
Why is it unfair? Why do you need a pride flag?
aww. you ARE a good gay! just for better reasons. 😂 thank you for sharing this + for your visibility!
p.s. please tell OG Chang i said thank you, especially since she’s camera shy. 😊 + as a Black Queer woman, her visibility means more than she knows. 🖤✊🏾
I hate that you feel in fear. I think people would just live their lives how they want to. You have a beautiful family. People are so busy being angry about things all the time 😢 I am very glad I was raised to just be kind to people no matter who they are.
Be who you are. Don’t be scared. You are a good mom and a good teacher.
This right here… is exactly the type of content needed. So thank you. ☺️
Be Proud and Loud Ms Chang!
Thanks for a vulnerable moment ❤
This made me tear up. I'm sorry that it's too scary out there for you to feel free to be yourself. That's so wrong and not your fault
Darlin, you are a good person...anything else you may be does not matter. Much love to you and yours ❤
A person's character and how you treat others are most important to me ❤ Be you 🎉
Your family is awesome, lots of fun and smiles😊
I wanna scream at the top of my lungs “DONT CHANGE FOR THEM” But I’m a person that has faced very little resistance or oppression in my life. I cannot speak FOR you…but I will ALWAYS SPEAK WITH YOU. Love is the only end game.
Thank you for saying this. 🙏🏿🤎
I struggle with being comfortable in public because I don’t have the energy for judgement or harassment. I have tried holding my boyfriends hand outside walking around town. But, I get so anxious and scared. It seriously sucks not feeling comfortable to be yourself. And then obviously people makes assumptions. Which then just makes us LGBTQ+ uncomfortable in situations.
As a gay person, watching you happy and living your life with your family gives me hope that having that someday is possible. ❤
You and your family are awesome!!!
Yes i hear this a lot as a gay man when people tell me i don’t “act gay” and i’m like what??
No fear! You are beautiful, your family is beautiful and you deserve all the good things. No fear!
Some could say, one of the best gays.
You and your family make this world a better place just by simply existing.
Thankyou Mrs Chang and co ❤
You and your wife are amazing souls. Those boys are living their best life and you can see it on their faces. 😊. I pay attention to all the different “3’s” I see and think of Fox. 😊 much love to you all.❤ ✌️
Go girl. ..
Love ur videos Love ur family
You are a hilarious person. I enjoy your daily dose of humor. I’m especially enjoying your videos with your sons. I also forgive you for wearing a coke shirt.
Ms. Chang, I don’t care if you’re gay or straight. What matter most is that you’re a good person who is easing 2 sweet boys and sharing a good life with your partner. You have the right to be and live happy, joyful and be loved. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and vlogs.
Breaks my heart to hear that you live in fear 😔. No one should live in fear.
But you know what?…you ARE brave and fighting the good fight by what you do on social media. You are helping to turn the tide. Keep doing what you do. You have people like me as an ally. I hope this fear will one day be needless.
Love you and your family! 💕
I live in Eugene OR. Which is known as a very accepting town. I am so thankful for that. I couldn't imagine living in some other states, though. My son is trans and we go to pride every year together. There is always a hateful group of people protesting it. Why? Why do you feel the need to spend your time spreading hate? Noone is asking you to join in. They are just asking to be allowed to live their life like everyone else, a basic human right. How is it affecting those protesting who you or I love. I just dont understand why people can't let everyone live their own life in a way that makes them makes them happy. In the end i believe love will win it always does!
Thanks for reminding me why it’s so important to be a good ally, even when it’s hard. I’m sorry you live with that fear and I hope one day you won’t have to.
💓all gays are good gays, you included Mrs Chang.
Happy Pride Month to you and OG ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
So well said
As a trans queer teacher I feel this. I’m just livin in fear each and every day of being called a groomer on our local Moms for Liberty facebook group…. Our school board has made the news multiple times for it’s bigotry, it’s so sad.
as a southern gal who goes out in full gay apperal, jackets pinned and patched with however much queerness I can aesthetically place there I fully understand where you're coming from
"Shove it down our throats" yeah I just express myself how I enjoy that and that way is pretty queer, it's not shoving it down anyone's throat to be happy and confident in one's self. Me talking about my experiences as a genderqueer bi trans woman isn't shoving it down anyone's throat. It is me existing as myself.
Also I may talk about it a lot but that's because it's my life, and honestly the closest I've been to pushing my queer identity on people is when they refuse to respect it and misgender me repeatedly and intentionally or make fun of me for it
Oh wow… I thought I was the only one who had this fear in this way in this day and age. I’ll fight harder for both of us and anyone else who feels it’s better to deny who they are in public than to just live our own truths
I would defend any gay family if I seen them being picked on and discriminated against.
I am a lesbian woman. I am certified to teach high school. Children scare me. =) But I watch you because you're real, funny, honest, and a darn good teacher wow! BUT I know for a fact deep in my heart there are people out there that are watching, or have watched your channel, that didn't care for us much. Maybe had some very strong negative opinions about us. But they watched a video. Then another. Then another. And by the time they heard you say you had a wife, and reality set in, they decided to open their minds and change their opinions. I know some walked away. But I know some stayed. You are deeply impacting and changing adults not just children. Keep being you and doing what you do!
Gawd. It kills me to know how terrified you are just to love your everyday life in peace. I pray the world gets better, but we need to try and remember, the storm always comes before the rainbow 🌈
Much love to you Ms. Chang
I feel this for a another reason I am disabled I am a wife and mom. But the looks and questions I get sometimes are just outrageous. Like are those yours? Its like do random kids follow you around the store? Yes they are mine😂❤
People mistake me for my kids grandma all the time... and I'm only 51! Guess I look old😂
We all scared, Stay safe. ❤️❤️❤️
You’re a good person to me!
Your a good good great girl and everything more... I hear you and I’m here as a fearer as well. We just want to live. I don’t want to March in a parade, I want to be free and not feel shame. You and family are loved. Stay positive. Your beautiful family is a shining example of your proof of who you are not what you are!! Brooklyn loves you 🌷😘😘😘😘❤
From all I can see you're simply a good person, mom, wife, and teacher.. and many more things I'm sure. =D
I am a proud unpalatable queer who makes it my WHOLE personality by...drum roll....being openly ~different~. That means they don't think about raunchy gay sex when they look at you. Unfortunately I inspire lewd thoughts, I guess.
I love this. :)))
That's really rude of them to say
as a mum of a gay daughter and seen what they go through its tough its wrong that she and so many other gays and other people have to do what they do why cant they be left alone they are hurting no one as long as its consensual and not kids or animals then love who you want and stop persecuting them for loving someone of the same sex i have a few gay nephews as well that their own family disowned i couldn't believe it they thought i would do it i told them never love who you want and be proud to do it i knew my daughter was gay from young age she didn't have to come out to me or her brother and sister and i even got flack of family members about her told them i don't care about her sex i want her be happy and if its this then good for her not enough is done about the harassment of the gay community i have been with my daughter out and some people think she is male they say son and so on i say no get it right daughter and she is gay so live with it you keep being you love and you stick up for your rights a s a person gay or not you deserve same treatment as anyone
Not a good gay, you are a great person! Being a good person means living your life with integrity by being you.
great video!! as younger teen i was seen as the “bad gay” bc i wasnt raised that way n didn’t realize you had to be hush hush. for most of my teenage years i thrived off being called a “good gay”, which is very hard to do without putting other gay people down. that’s no way to live!
Sometimes its just easier to say yes to the costco lady. While you might feel bad about it later, in the moment we don't have time to think through the "right" decision. You've got this platform showing the world that a family with two moms can thrive and that queer teachers are an asset in our schools! We need the loud gays to bring up the issues and the more subtle Mrs Chang gays to be the example in the community. It takes teamwork to change hearts and minds. ❤️🏳️🌈
I ❤ you Miss Chan I’m sorry that you feel scared at times and hope that this isn’t always the case. Life is a struggle at times and we should all just be kind to one another and celebrate the fact that we are here living our lives the best we can. With love and friendship to you and your beautiful family from the UK 🇬🇧🤝🇺🇸🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️xx
I get very skeptical when people say "shoving it down throats". Like what do they mean? Some people think having gay representation on TV is shoving it down their throats, even if that representation is super limited! Some people think Pride is shoving it down their throats, even though Pride started as a protest against discrimination and we still fight discrimination to this day. Like what the hell do they mean? I mean I get their heterosexuality shoved in my face everywhere I go, but I don't complain about it. I feel like when people say "You don't shove your gayness in my face" they mean, I am very comfortable with my hetero privilege and I don't want what I consider not to be normal to take up more space in society.
I don’t understand why anyone would think that a persons religion, orientation, gender assignment, race Etc would have anything to do with how they behave, come across, or treat people. I’ve had people tell me that “I don’t seem like a Jew.” Or “I don’t act Jewish.” What do you say to a comment like that? Other than “how, exactly, do you think someone Jewish is supposed act?” It’s ridiculous.
For many other reasons 😂😂😂
In our school district they don't let staff be openly gay. It's more of a don't ask don't tell situation.
You are a good gay for both reasons now
Old term meaning happy and because you love your family!
I’m so sorry the world is not safe enough for your most basic right to just exist peacefully in it… my heart hurts for this injustice 😢
It blows my fucking mind that our choices about our own lives become a beacon for mockery and/or violence if they don’t fit into a narrow path.
I recently realised I’m agender, and I’m scared to tell people outside of my husband and my therapist. If I did tell, probably my biggest social boundary would be that people don’t call me gendered words within earshot. It’s such a small request, and yet…
*_anxiety_* 🤢
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If my queerness makes someone uncomfortable that’s no my issue until they make it my issue. I’ve grown up in Georgia and still live here, and y’all I’m just not a day walker. You can tell from a mile away so hiding just wasn’t an option. Be kind, be strong, and be queer cause at the end of the day they’re gonna hate you for it no matter how you act 🌈
This!
You seem like a good person and your family seems like a sweet family. FULL STOP. I hate that you feel that fear.
I have been a gay mom for almost 33 years now. We did in home insemination before it became a thing. My partner and I never denied our family and never once did we have real issues. We’re we “secretly scrutinized”? Yep! Even as far as having people say to us you guys just act normal. Like a normal family. You do family things and take care of your kids just like a normal couple. (Gee thanks we think?) we decided not to really pay too much attention to the scrutiny because most of that turned to acceptance and never once did we have issues where someone didn’t want their kid to be around ours. We were good people who like good clean family fun. Our birthday parties were kid oriented and we lived our family life kid friendly. No alcohol at our kids birthday parties. Not even for the adults. We actually became admired by some parents because they didn’t know how not to have adult beverages available at a kids party and so on etc. just be authentically The Changs. You guys are alright.
I don't think hiding your truth is equivalent to not shoving your sexuality down people's throats. Don't allow someone else to do the same to you!
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you’re fighting the good fight too :’) i don’t know if you understand how much you mean to me as a young gay who always wanted to be a teacher but felt she couldn’t because it’d be inappropriate for my gay self to be around children.
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Hey do y’all have a “join” or a Parton?
Fear of God takes away all other fears. When you have Christ, you don't need any of these other identities.
I love watching you and your joy you bring ❤️ .....but (being a gen x'er myself) I have to say being mistaken for a grandparent of a young child has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on sexual preference. I'm 44, my husband is 12 yrs younger than me, my child just turned 6.....and at a doctor's appointment I got mistaken for not only being the grandmother of my child but also being the mother of my husband.....yeah, makes a woman feel real great about thier looks 😢😂❤ People just don't "think" sometimes....don't read too much into that encounter. Just keep on❤
In my books you're a good gay because if all the work you do with your students. So basicallyva good person who is also gay....rather like a BUNCH of my friends.
In my books, you are just good ❤. Gay or straight what does that matter? I’m so tired of the archaic world we’ve become (again). You and your wife are no different than me and my husband. I’m not going to fawn over you because you’re gay (or hate you either). I can tell the first time I watch one of your videos we were going to be virtual friends because I liked you as a person, love your little family and how cute and funny your boys are AND your funny as hell! We have the same sense of humour ❤. Keep up the good fight.
Thank you
Crazy idea, so bear with me...what if everyone, everywhere, were just good people. We accepted others for who they are and recognized we're all just trying to exist. I can dream right?
The only real fear I have is being shot. I have been close to 5 mass shootings her in my state and I know 3 victims of these mass shootings.
Oh, something has to change...
Why do people have to classifie people by their sexual preferences. They are human
So right here!
CAN I RePly to some of your followers about celebrating the grandparents well both my parents grew up in care so I've never had any grandparents
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Wow, disappointing what the other woman considered being a "good gay". She's very wrong. I was hoping to hear the opposite.
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Took my niece into store and was asked if I was her Grandmother. I was 34 at the time. Has nothing to do with whether you are gay or not. Cashier thought her mother my sister who was 32 was my daughter.