It's Not Perfect... These Are Our Struggles | LGBTQ Relationship

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
  • DAMN relationships are hard! We love sharing all the incredible things we've gained in being together but, to be honest, this past year has been wildly difficult for us as a couple. With the growing pains of coming out, the first relationship with a woman for both of us, family, and growing as individuals as well as a couple, being together 24/7 during the pandemic has been especially challenging. As we pull back the curtain on some of our hardest conversations, we hope you'll know us a little more deeply and feel empowered to have your own tough conversations with yourself or other people you love.
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Komentáře • 76

  • @nicolynjnordell3856
    @nicolynjnordell3856 Před 3 lety +30

    I continue to love and respect you two exceptional women. Your honesty and transparency is so refreshing..so real. Thank you! 💜🕯💜

    • @Gina-um4kt
      @Gina-um4kt Před 3 lety

      I couldn't describe it any better!

  • @barryhopwood6172
    @barryhopwood6172 Před 3 lety +23

    Thank's for letting us sit in on your therapy session ... The fact that you panic at the thought of losing a relationship just tells you how important it is.

  • @thebestwillow
    @thebestwillow Před 3 lety +4

    The what if I was wrong fear sounds terrifying! I'm sorry you're both having to deal with that.

  • @thebestwillow
    @thebestwillow Před 3 lety +9

    I think society and the media teaches us to expect our love lives to be like a fairy tale - it's okay for there to be one big fight in the first couple of months, but after that, we should be in total harmony and agreement with our partners on every little thing, and that sets us up to think our relationship is a disaster because that expectation is just not realistic.

    • @Reef113
      @Reef113 Před rokem

      I agree completely. I only recently started dating my gf about 3 and a half months ago, she has a 3 year old son so it takes some adjusting even in str8 relationships. yes we have disagreements but we always work it out. she lost her grandparents recently and as her partner I am there to support and comfort her. no relationship is perfect, u will have disagreements and arguments but u work it out

  • @hmmcms1
    @hmmcms1 Před 3 lety +4

    I hate saying relationship goals but it seems like so much of the world sucks at communicating and seeing yall talk stuff like this is out definitely gives me hope😬😊

  • @curtisweaver7392
    @curtisweaver7392 Před 3 lety +5

    Please pace yourselves. Living with someone is difficult no matter if woman/woman or man/man. The world can be hard on us humans. Love each other and let the bad things fall away. Life is short. LOVE!❤️✌️🌈🙏🐕💘

  • @liquidnapkinz
    @liquidnapkinz Před 3 lety +3

    GAD is so rough to deal with. I feel like I finally grasped some decent coping mechanism in the past 2 years or so. I try to expose myself to music with more positive upbeat messages because I really feel like music can influence my moods. I practice mindfulness, and listen to meditation music a couple times a week. But it's a constant struggle. Sending good vibes your way! Both of you are amazing.

  • @alisonlove2784
    @alisonlove2784 Před 3 lety +11

    Talking out problems is the best way to have a healthy and happy relationship. Great video guys 🌈❤️.

  • @lassam333
    @lassam333 Před 3 lety +3

    Your relationship story was wild and you had to pretty fast learn to live together being each other's first same-sex partner. This definitely needs its time, and before you know it you're in the middle of a pandemic. Altogether a lot to handle.
    The fact though that you're willing to make these difficult conversations and are make concious efforts to find the necessary compromises, is helping you build up a relationship that is working best for you.
    Shell is just so adorable.

  • @Mtnsunshine
    @Mtnsunshine Před 3 lety +8

    You two continue to amaze me with your honesty and bravery. 👍👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. Hannah, your opening statement is perfect. 👍. Yes, for some reason, and one that is hard to shake, the belief that having honest and sometimes hard conversations means there is trouble in a relationship. I'm so glad you and your therapist are telling us that it is the opposite. What a valuable statement. Thank you! 🙏🏼

  • @andrewmarkbrown7943
    @andrewmarkbrown7943 Před 3 lety +5

    Without a few disagreements, a few speed bumps, true love will not grow, cannot flourish. Always talk with each other, not to each other. Listen, do not just hear. Say I love you all the time, when you think it is too much, say it again. Much love and happiness for you both :)

  • @caryldineen9051
    @caryldineen9051 Před 3 lety +6

    I respect so much how you two are able to be totally honest with one another and work at trying to understand one another🥰

  • @ToddDouglasFox
    @ToddDouglasFox Před 3 lety +7

    S&H, In a forever romantic connection on the deepest level so many aspects of one another and the relationship bring a definitive realization of permanency. There is a shift from a degree of uncertainty and the concerns you eloquently and humbly express in this video, to nothing will rock this regardless of imperfections, health, and other concerns. When this hasn’t happened, it doesn’t foreshadow a break up. It just means one or both people have not settled completely, yet. The intangibles that simply have no words are what put it way over the top beyond equivocation.

  • @wazaaaken9256
    @wazaaaken9256 Před 3 lety +7

    No relationship is perfect instead it’s always good having little arguments, that means the couples are trying to solve things instead of letting go

  • @karinhenson8201
    @karinhenson8201 Před 3 lety +4

    I forgot who I was when you showed the ripped abdomen at the end. Lol. Sorry couldn't resist. It is so hard navigating any relationship, let alone each other's first time with a woman. Love your channel.

  • @ale-hc4sk
    @ale-hc4sk Před 3 lety +2

    thank you for sharing your story in such a genuine way. i, myself,recently ended a very long, important relationship with a boy because i am questioning my sexuality and it is very important to know that things can be difficult even after figuring things out. romanticizing things can be very detrimental to people who are going through this journey of self discovery. for me, knowing that it is okay to feel insecure sometimes and that not everything can be figured out immediatly is really reassuring. thank you!

  • @chouyounne
    @chouyounne Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you, i needed this video.
    Those hard, difficults and heavy conversations always seems and feel scary but you are so relieved, at peace after.
    Using your differences, disagreements, insecurities to make it a force to strengthen your love and relationship thus making you, in my eyes, a perfect couple.

  • @zakhonanana149
    @zakhonanana149 Před rokem

    Hi Hannah and Sadie. I am yr fan.I was following you from the start until now 2023,today but your vlog is 1 yr old and I love it.I'm from South Africa.Please Don't Give Up; everyone got up and downs in lives.We Loves you.God Bless You BOTH in 2023

  • @robertasproule8848
    @robertasproule8848 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks ladies I admire you both this brought back a lot of memories for me, I have been with my partner for 30yrs and now she is my wife and have been married for 9yr I am 13 years older and she was only 18 and I was 31 when we met. It was hard for me I was always thinking she’s young she’s beautiful her family never spoke to her for 11yrs and I always had the fear she was going to leave me but I was so wrong we were strong we done everything together, if there was something bothering us we dealt with it so no one needed to walk on egg shells, let me say there is no relationship perfect you have to work at it, you ladies went through hell and high water to be together that’s says a lot about the love you have for each other and just remember you always have to have Sadie and Hannah time
    everyday mealtimes are very important so please talk to each other when something is bothering you both, take care of each other much love and hugs to you both Roberta from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 ❤️❤️

  • @chrisduffield430
    @chrisduffield430 Před 3 lety +2

    My old nan always used to say, those who talk together, stay together, so I. don’t think you two have much to worry about, thinking off you two, stay safe, best from the UK, 😘🌈🇬🇧❤️

  • @bernadettezito8106
    @bernadettezito8106 Před 3 lety +4

    There is give and take in every relationship, it seems like you both are figuring everything out and what works for you.😃

  • @Mtnsunshine
    @Mtnsunshine Před 3 lety +2

    Lol...loved the outtakes at the end. Hi 👋 Shelley! Am so happy you did not end the video after saying Hi to all of us. 😂. The content was much too valuable. ❤️

  • @ulrikeklein1787
    @ulrikeklein1787 Před 3 lety +4

    Thanks for sharing so honestly what is going on in your relationship. I really appreciate that you are talking about the wonderful but also the hard moments. xoxo

  • @loveearthspirit829
    @loveearthspirit829 Před 2 lety +1

    Maybe this was the prelude for the silence....... whatever happened, you worked through A LOT, healed parts of yourself.
    You're loved and life challenges us. Happiness to you!

  • @Sampson2833
    @Sampson2833 Před 3 lety +1

    I’ve watched you two for over a year and I am so incredibly grateful for that. Aside from the fact you are both attractive young women, you are beautiful people....beautiful in substance, thought, emotion, values, goals for yourselves and the relationship. Keeping those parts of you healthy is an enormous responsibility yet imperative to your wellbeing individually and as a couple. Continue to work on yourselves while being respectful of the others perspective. I really appreciate you two and the fact you have chosen to share. Be well.

  • @tearagallinger2853
    @tearagallinger2853 Před 3 lety +4

    Another great video lover the coffee mugs

  • @debbiehorton17
    @debbiehorton17 Před 3 lety +1

    This video is the crux about what makes your channel something I need in my life. Thank you.

  • @katiemalolo2859
    @katiemalolo2859 Před 3 lety +3

    Loved it ladies!! This was such an interesting and great video..It has been so amazing watching you two grow on here.. Like you said, no relationship is perfect.. You got to have disagreements sometimes..That is how you make your relationship better!! Many of us have struggled through everything, no matter if we talk about it or not.. To me it is better to talk it out.. But also, if it okay when we need space too.. Like, find a quiet room and meditate.. You two are so funny and adorable together!! Keep being you.. Shell is so precious.. Much love to you all.. Stay sweet and keep on rockin!!

  • @dawnbuddha
    @dawnbuddha Před 3 lety +4

    Thanks girls. If I'd seen this 10yrs ago me and my ex may still be together. We'll done. Side note, are the books on the shelf colour coordinated because of OCD or aesthetics. Love you guys 😘

  • @milagrosmos
    @milagrosmos Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you girls for sharing your experience! I am a young lesbian and I learn a lot from youuu 💜

  • @sidessherri
    @sidessherri Před 3 lety +2

    Great video! But I kept looking at your color coded bookshelf 😂

  • @itsmeelli
    @itsmeelli Před 3 lety +1

    oh wow I love your honesty& helps so much! I wish I would finally find someone who wants to work with me through the harder times of the relationship. Inner child work helped me a lot to understand my patterns etc!
    love from Germany ❤️

  • @Soccernat358
    @Soccernat358 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for sharing this! So important to see real relationships with real ups and downs! You both are great at communicating and we are lucky to witness.

  • @briannoland3544
    @briannoland3544 Před 2 lety +1

    You cant change the past
    But you can change the future

  • @samanthamartin632
    @samanthamartin632 Před 3 lety +1

    Love your channel! Another silver lining to covid!
    We constantly grow and change as individuals and my god have we all changed over the last 12 months! I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 9 years and the pandemic was a challenge, for me it was more due to the mental challenges brought on from working from home and the lack of separation between work and home. Understanding what was triggering my anxiety was the break through. I suck at communicating so that is always fun 😂
    Thankfully Australia has returned back to normal a lot faster than other countries not sure I could have handled 12 months, 6 was enough for me.

  • @JoseLuisGarcia500
    @JoseLuisGarcia500 Před 3 lety +1

    Love you ladies. I admire your honesty and your willingness to share. It inspires.

  • @kimberlydidia39
    @kimberlydidia39 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow. Another great video that just dripping in respect and thought provoking communication. Thank you.

  • @loupelizzo2399
    @loupelizzo2399 Před 3 lety +1

    I think if you want a relationship to work it is hard demanding but there is a lot of payback for any couple, but you very transparent and open and honest but that’s what I love about the both of you. Well it seems you’re both worried about the same thing and the blame or guilty feelings you have maybe let them go and just enjoy each other and don’t beat each other up. Life is short live in the day and situation and what I here is you don’t want the lose the relationship. Don’t have secrets with each other and don’t be so hard on yourselves but also what your both saying sounds like you’re in a loving respectful relationship please enjoy and I enjoyed watching this video and thank you.

  • @angelmichelle666
    @angelmichelle666 Před 3 lety +2

    Not going to lie but I clicked on this mainly for the bookshelf aesthetic 🥰

  • @hunterzeep4989
    @hunterzeep4989 Před 3 lety +2

    Haha. Totally get the sibling thing Hannah. I'm like that with mine, I just never realised until I watched this. Lol 🤣

  • @pierrerutten
    @pierrerutten Před 3 lety +2

    Love you two imperfect people!

  • @withhernosestuckinabook2507

    I just started binge watching your channel and I love your videos! I’ve just realized that I’m a lesbian and I’m having a hard time coming to grips with it. I live and have been brought up in the deep south where everyone believes a same-sex relationship is sin so I’ve been struggling with a ton of guilt. I’m really scared that if I date a woman it won’t feel like a “real” relationship and will just feel like a close friendship. How have you guys been able to move from a close platonic relationship to dating? Is it easier to accept the longer you date?

  • @theodor2186
    @theodor2186 Před 3 lety +1

    💙 you're amazing. I can't describe it otherwise 🤷🏼‍♀️💙💙

  • @graceturbott2809
    @graceturbott2809 Před 3 lety +1

    You guys are fantastic. Thanks for sharing. X

  • @patricialewis5662
    @patricialewis5662 Před 3 lety +1

    hope you guys don't think it was a mistake getting together, i know you guys love each other, am trying to get if your feeling like worried that you think each other is feeling it was a wrong choice and walking on egg shells. hope you are not secretly thinking of going back to men

  • @geoffreygoddard4864
    @geoffreygoddard4864 Před 3 lety +2

    love your videos

  • @lucybush5993
    @lucybush5993 Před 3 lety +1

    Excellent video💙

  • @steevoridgeline
    @steevoridgeline Před 3 lety

    what a great talk. thanks you guys !

  • @thebestwillow
    @thebestwillow Před 3 lety

    I'm a thunderstorm. Powerful and unpredictable. And I make a lot of noise.

  • @ashleyelizabeth90
    @ashleyelizabeth90 Před 3 lety

    I have those same fears, in a relationship with a man, identify now as bisexual but have never been with a woman

  • @tanyam4969
    @tanyam4969 Před 3 lety

    I have same problems that you guys have. We don't live together yet. Because of our differences. I want to be with her forever, but we fight alot. We love each other like crazy. She also does not know how to deal with my depression attacks and she gets upset. She ends up threatening our relationship if I don't stop. It hurts alot when she's like that and it takes all day for me to recover. I have a therapist too and she suggests to break up basically. I am So confused. So I feel for you guys.

    • @louwinters508
      @louwinters508 Před rokem

      What happened with that. To me that sounds incredibly cruel of her. You can't help having depression attacks. To use that against you is wrong. She can't be the support you need.
      Your therapist is right.

  • @mang88888
    @mang88888 Před 11 měsíci

    I miss you you guys.

  • @husseytdh5743
    @husseytdh5743 Před 3 lety

    You ladies are awesome, you ladies are a beautiful couple... 💕💐🇿🇦

  • @gillianslattery1765
    @gillianslattery1765 Před 2 lety +3

    Does anyone know if Hannah and Sadie are still together please ? I cant find any recent posting on CZcams and I don't do Instagram

  • @deemoore97
    @deemoore97 Před 3 lety +2

    I feed the cats dinner and my girlfriend feeds them breakfast cause she gets up early and makes me coffee

  • @ferncowsnake
    @ferncowsnake Před 3 lety +1

    You 2 are beautiful
    Have a great day
    Happy Pride ❤️

  • @m3l0d1cg
    @m3l0d1cg Před 3 lety

    My sis and her bf take turns with their dog. They plan the day before who’s taking morning/mid day/evening shift. It seems to work out that way.

  • @karinhenson8201
    @karinhenson8201 Před rokem

    Are the two of you still out there? Miss your content, hope you are doing well.

  • @chwilhogyn
    @chwilhogyn Před 3 lety +2

    💜

  • @user-tj6ot7tw8g
    @user-tj6ot7tw8g Před 3 lety +2

    good morning 🌈 girls.

  • @christopherhachet5184

    Anyone know if these two ladies broke up?

  • @jaimedarling6716
    @jaimedarling6716 Před 3 lety

    Damnnnnnn

  • @EITURKEY1
    @EITURKEY1 Před 3 lety +2

    anything worth having is not perfect, this may be your first same sex relationship, but I suspect that it might be your last, one would want to be awfully dumb not to recognise your intense regard for each other...

  • @STbabyable
    @STbabyable Před 3 lety

    Im obsessed w u too ❤️😊

  • @celiajacobson-ross6171

    Queens

  • @jimwalden-h9o
    @jimwalden-h9o Před dnem

    So, have you totally given up on each other? Are you with males?

  • @sierra3646
    @sierra3646 Před rokem

    I hope the dog didn’t end up in a shelter.

  • @mitzieweir3112
    @mitzieweir3112 Před 2 lety

    You two are bisexuality donot talk about a lesiban and a bisexuality woman kissing each other you both talk about your ex boyfriends if you still love them go back to them or stop talking about them if not it proves you still love men if you know so much about lesibiansem write a book about it I don't think you have the Brian's to write one.

  • @emilechang5882
    @emilechang5882 Před rokem

    I love you!