Critical Role fan asks Matt Mercer for Dating Advice
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- čas přidán 17. 02. 2021
- Critical Role fans united at ReedPop's MCM London back in 2019, and one critter had a personal question for DM Matt Mercer: how do you get a wife as cool as Marisha Ray.
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For this panel, we were joined by Matthew Mercer and adventurers Liam O'Brien, Marisha Ray, Taliesin Jaffe, and Sam Riegel, as well as Between the Sheets host Brian W. Foster. Find out Matt Mercer's DM dating tips and why Liam O'Brien's accent was so important to German Critters.
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two years later update for anyone who's curious: found a girlfriend who is all those things and much more for me. our dnd characters fell in love first, so i'm pretty sure it was at least a little bit of Mercer Magic
Wait, this is you, who asked the question? I am so happy for you!!!
Are you the girl in the video or real, or?
@@lauralide4804 not technically a girl, but yeah that's me ^^
Aww, I'm super happy to hear that! I know it's not much, but I, a random stranger on the internet, support you and wish you well!
Major props for getting up there and asking, I bet it was terrifying.
I like how Matt rightfully assumes everyone in the crowd has anxiety and depression.
have you ever met a mentally stable Critter?
didn't think so
lol
Ace Trainer Astrid What is this stability you speak of?
@@An_Average_Idiot point proven
@@acetraineraster5171 Why do you think we pretend to be heroes in another world?
Liam looked so happy when that girl thanked him for playing a PC with a german accent :,-)
it comes up often, doesn't it? I've seen people thank him for playing a German who isn't completely evil.
@@HipsterKhan I'm not German and I appreciate a non-evil German character. Entertainment has little variety in the nationality (i think that's the right word) in their villains
There was a sort of akward-german look shared between them, I love it.
I never thought people would feel that way about other people playing their ethnicity.
Eye opening.
@@faisalhussain2270 There is more of a "thanks for being interested in our culture" outside of the US than certain people in the US would have you believe.
If Millenials killed anything, it's the 'I hate my wife' jokes industry.
Perfect, bout time it died.
lmao it didn't, you just are away from the people who do it
@@Hakimgrr_ wait who did then?
Its still funny if you ask me, you just need to know how to tell the joke
@@darkrage1138 my wife is a real battle-axe
mercer's tips - when in the bedroom ask your partner "how do you want to do this?"
Mercer's tip.
@@D_U_N_E well played.. that ones gold
this actually made me laugh out loud, well done
I almost choked lmaoooo
@@coconosuga5351 glad you didnt
Is it just me or is it easier to believe "be yourself" when Matt Mercer says it
Can I just be Matt Mercer instead? I think that would work out better...
@@JO-xg4ij Pretty sure the Matt Mercer effect is also in play in releationships...
He said once he was a very reserved and shy kid, he knows the experience of being anxious, not knowing what to say or whats the best way to act. Thats why its easier to buy from someone like him. Also, because as people who share the same interests and ideals, its easy to feel a connection to him.
he's not a DM for nothing
Not really. If you got looks charisma and talents like him, everbody wants to be your wife. Easy to be who you are, if you are already pure awesome.
“One of my all time life goals is to find the. Most. Awesome. Wife.”
In the back of his mind, Matt be like, 'She's already taken.... but I hope you find the 2nd most awesome one?'
Wife Pokémon
same, same
@@Megidramon I was half expecting "you can't have her! She's mine!" from him.
based
Getting a wife as bomb as Marisha is the most difficult quest
He had to face many advirstities
All the high DC checks and saving throws....
The first time buying her something with sleeves must have been a challenge.
Not if you're as bomb as Matt Mercer
@@MrUmakemelaff She sees sleeves and she insta rolls for initiative
Its not even her choice its her passive
Props to Matt for taking the most cliche advice ever given, and making it sound so fresh and genuine.
Moreover, he turned this cookie-cutter advice into the best one ever. Speaking from my experience, we may not realise it, but we constantly hide or... underplay certain aspects of ourselves to please another person, to make the conversation more smooth. And this is fine, this is basic courtesy.
But when you find someone with whom you can be yourself to the fullest, it hits different.
It wasn’t difficult because it’s true. He didn’t say it coz it’s the easy answer. He said it because in his experience it’s the only advice worth giving.
@@lunar_storm when we first met my now girlfriend said real love is finding someone who makes you “more you”. We’ve been together nearly 7 years now and I’m yet to think of or hear a better description of love. She supports me when I want it, challenges me when I need it. But she makes me more me.
@@ArtOfShannonLee you have a point, indeed! It's just that this idea is something I have only recently discovered.
I'm very happy for you and your partner :) definitely going to remember this description. It's simple but so much better than anything I've ever thought of.
It's cliche because it's true, Matt just went into detail as to why it's true.
"say düsseldorf" im wheezing
Do you know the reference? Has Liam been there? Why does Sam know a random german state capital? :D
The reference is just that it's a random German city people are likely to have heard the name of, and is identifiably German.
@@ArgusStrav Oh, okay. I didn't realize Düsseldorf was that internationally recognized, I guess. It's only our 7th biggest city. Is it because of the fashion shows?!?
@@QemeH I'm not sure myself, and I'm pretty sure most couldn't actually place it on a map. But for some reason, a lot of people have heard of it.
@@ArgusStrav Interesting...
[It's the state capitol of _North Rhine-Westphalia_ (commonly just called NRW), which is the westernmost state of germany. It's central on the north-south axis and quite far in the west - about an hour or so from both the dutch and the belgian border. Just fyi...]
Matt: Dangling between giving heartfelt advice and looking at Marisha
Marisha: Dangling between gawking at Matt and being flustered
Taliesin: *l a u g h t e r*
Liam: Absolutely thrilled by someone being made so happy by just an accent he played on a character, also doubling-down for fun.
Sam: SAY DÜSSELDORF!
It’s just the show dynamic XD
😂
😂
I'm getting second hand anxiety from this person, I can feel the tremble
Yes I feel the same way
Thre's an update several comment up yours: they (because they're NB) found a girlfriend, and their characters fell in love first.
Me too, but I felt like the group was helping her to not be so nervous
Man Matt Mercer is such a wise and kind person.
Matt, the Firbolg rolled an 18 for his wisdom ability score.
@@flynnforgeau9750 Nah his wisdom is 30!
The way marisha looks at matt when hes done awww
I know! Every so often on the show she looks at him like that, and my heart melts
Mercer's dating tips is something I would watch daily.
"DM tips" Where 'DM' stands for 'Dating Marisha'
Same
only if he did it as Henry Crabgrass
@@zacharyerickson6302 I would be in for Gilmore.
Matt's voice at the "I don't know how this happened" is so perfect
Shout out to the person asking the question, for her amazing hair, as well as for the way she introduced the question. Great life goal ^^
I think it may be a wig or she colored it. I'm not an expert on follicles though.
@@MrUmakemelaff it was, and it was a very nice one! She looked really pretty with it!
@@xBlacksStarx It was very nice. My only point is that if you like it, you could probably buy the same or similar thing. 😊
@@MrUmakemelaff haha I'm not nearly as beatiful or bold as she is, but maybe someday when I have such self confidence
Marisha was beaming after he said that. I can only imagine how happy and proud that made her.
There was another time, not on a panel, that Matt said much the same thing that he didn't know how he got so lucky, and she looked at him with pride that he made her feel so special but also confusion as she clearly felt she was the one that was lucky to have him. And that's their relationship right there.
The metaphorical balls on this woman for standing up in front of a large crowd of people and asking a group of famous people for dating advice. I wouldn't even be able to get a word out
I absolutely /love/ Taliesin just big loud clapping with his signature 'I approve' smile at her life goal. He is so accepting and supportive. Also Marisha exuding badass Beau energy, but then being shy and adorable like here is the best. So happy for her and Matt
"One of my life goals is to find THE MOST awesome wife" I think many of us can relate
Bruh ..... Matt’s response straight up made me cry
You are pretty emotional then.
and her
"I'm glad that I could very awkwardly help you find confidence" is my new favorite Caleb quote. This is why representation is important 🥺💕
I'd like tips on finding a man like Taliesin, but, unfortunately, I don't think there are more men like Taliesin. He's one of a kind.
especially since he's been around since the start of time.. not many guys around like that anymore
Nah..my brother in law reminds me of taliesin
I just want his style; epitome of cool.
If I could only attain a fraction of his awesomeness, I’d be complete
I don't think External Eldritch beings are cutting deals as much these days. Maybe they just got tired of maintaining all those connections, so now you gotta be friends with one to ask for that favor.
I saw this live, it was epic and so marvelous to see Marisha's reaction.
Hey TP love your vids
Really hope she found a cute wife, if not, I'M SINGLLLLEEE
are you kidding? She probably walked out of there with like 10 girl's numbers after that lmao
“We’re” single.
I can imagine a lot of the girls there doing their best Katniss impressions "I VOLUNTEER!" Lol.
@@davidparkes7741 before there was Katniss, there was one brave soul from Chex Squadron.
They commented on the video, and apparently, they did! Well, they found a girlfriend, not a wife (yet, at least) but apparently, Matt's DnD magic helped
If Liam spoke to me as Caleb I think I’d cry and then melt into the floor.
SAAAAME
The critical role cast are just so wholesome
1:40 Sam said go to Kentucky. I'm sitting here dying like "man, accurate"
Wait, can you explain? Im not american
@@nitindasiah991 Marisha grew up in a state called Kentucky.
As one who currently lives in Kentucky, I totally agree.
@@nitindasiah991 and Kentucky girls are 👌👌👌
....*me in kentucky*
The Talisein slow claps though....
They are too pure... I must corrupt something to balance the universe.
Here have a bag of kittens laying next to this deep riverbed
I think it's because Laura's not there... But we still had Sam
I'll get the marmalade, you get the puppies.
my tired brain saw this and went "I'm innocent, corrupt me!"
idiot, we're asexual AND already corrupted!! Go back to sleep!!!
I think they are the balance to our corrupted universe
Can we also just appreciate how that young woman basically came out to a room (& an internet i guess) of complete strangers? That's incredibly brave of her.
In other news, man i wish I could find my own Marisha.... Or Matt, lol.
Came looking for the coming out comment, was not disappointed with the extra 😂
I mean, the first part is technically true though. To be that open about yourself in a room full of strangers IS incredibly brave. Lol, I'm not normally too extra hehe.
All for an indirect flirt at Marisha. Worth it, tho.
When both Marisha and Teliesin are just bi-eing it up on the stage too it probably helps, it's a lucky sense of comfort to know that in aspects like those the people you are looking up to would defend you to death if need be.
I love how casual she was about it. Just not making a big deal out of it
Haha i'm actually from Düsseldorf and this made my day.
I think it made the day of every German viewer... except those from Colonge (Köln). xD
Whoo, me too!
I'm from Cologne and it made me very angry :D
I think the "bait and switch" tactic is what kills a lot of relationships. This idea that you can "finally be yourself" after moving in with someone, etc. and then wonder why the dynamic between you changed for the worse. Can you blame them? You were pretending to be someone you're not and that's who you made them fall in love with. And to think "well they should love me no matter what" is just an excuse to change into someone they didn't fall in love with and pretend they should love you all the same. Be yourself and find someone who loves the things that make you, you. And no, there's nothing wrong with changing yourself to become a better version of you. That's called growth.
Does anyone realize how brave that girl must be to stay before so many people and ask such personal question? :-) I very respect that
When we first met my now girlfriend described real love as finding someone who makes you “more you”. We’ve been together nearly 7 years now and I’m yet to think of or hear a better description of a healthy relationship. She supports me when I want it, challenges me when I need it. But she makes me more me.
Hey this is unrelated but isn't Shannon Lee also an author's name?
Reminds me of that quote about “what’s a soulmate” that makes its rounds around the internet again and again. I totally get it too. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 11 years, nearly 12 at the time I post this. We’ve been best friends since long before though so that’s an added 5 years of that on top of the dating years. I’ve known her more than half my life now. But yes, the amazing part that clued us in that we didn’t just love each other platonically, but also romantically, was that we both don’t like touch much, yet would always welcome it, regardless of our mental state, if it was each other. I always felt more me, a better me, and she motivated me every day to be a newer and better me and supported me even when I couldn’t quite be better or when I was at my worst. I have always tried to do the same for her. I want to do the same for her. But yeah, she reminds me every day why I would choose her again and again.
I wish you the best of luck in your relationship and hope it’s still going strong. Thank you for your post. It’s nice to hear there are others out there with long term relationships that feel so wholesome.
2:23 I can't tell you how many times I replayed this part to hear his little "hehe, eeaighnn, man". Absolutely kills me every time XD
the courage of that fan was just incredible
"Be yourself"...except when you can be Matt Mercer, than just be Matt Mercer.
It also might help to be able to sound like a door.
Yaaay, I have at least one requirement to find a date... some day... * leaves with an exaggerated squeeeeak*
At the least, it also helps to not roll a Nat 1 on a Persuasion check when you do find someone as a possibility...
I think it's safe to say that Matt inadvertantly rolled a Nat 20 with Marisha, and didn't even know it, lol.
Aaaah its so cute
I don't meet the requirements to be a wife. Best of luck to you random German girl.
Oof…
Literally the only two things stopping you from qualifying as a wife are:
1. Not being a female (I don't mean cis woman, I mean any variation of female)
2. Being underage.
That's it. If you wanna be a wife and that's what you want, I BELIEVE IN YOU
xoxo,
An internet stranger who 100% believes in you
Why is it when these people are put together in a room it's so wholesome
I love how Marisha is 50 shades of unable to deal with this compliment :D
I was expecting him to say something like "put more points into Cha" and then tell them to learn charm spells
Charm spells do not make the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Managed to find my right person through DnD. After just a few months of playing I found the courage to be the person I wanted to be instead of the obsequious coward I had become and to get out of a really bad situation I had stayed in much too long. A few months afterwards I asked out my DM. We've been together three years, living happily ever after on a ranch we've named Dragons Gate.
This was amazing! Where can I see the whole panel?!
It's the MCM Comic Con 2019 panel
Matt is such a nice and humble person.
I wish I had a crew like the cast of Critical Role. Not just to play D&D with, but just generally hang out with. Their chemistry together is so out of this reality
Sometimes when I'm down or exhausted, I get recommened the right Critical Role video to lift me back up!!!!! This is the kind of positivity and light-heartedness I think a lot of us need 😭
I remember being in this room, the outpouring of love and the overall energy felt like home, it was so amazing
"How do I get a wife?"
"Roll a d20"
I got in to both the sat and sun panels (on my first full mcm weekend) and it was SO worth it!!!
Came for the d&d stayed for the dating advice.
She was so adorable! I hope she found her wife ^^
I love how Kentucky ALWAYS comes up with Marisha LOL
I love this group. They all seem genuinely kind and sweet.
That was great!
i was smiling and wincing at the same time.
This just makes me want to hug Matthew Mercer!
Bidet, critical role fan, I volunteer as tribute! Your look and energy are A+++ 10/10 would love to know more about 🙈
this is gold
Simona has got some damn good priorities (I really hope I spelt their name correctly).
And an equally good fashion sense.
"say Düsseldorf" oh man I can't...
This absolutely did not go the way I was expecting it to, and I love it all the more for the way it turned out.
Boy I better not mess this up...expect disappointment. lol
This was amazing
what a lovely group of friends
this is why I love Matt, he knows what's up!
Say "*Eld-rich Blaaaast* . . . "
I thing I will add to Mercer's advice:
While it is true that you should not try to hide who you are, there is nothing wrong with changing who you are if you have flaws.
If you have a lot of issues don't just be like "oh the person I love is going to love me for me", yes that might (or might not) be true, but if you don't even love yourself enough to at least try to put in the effort to improve yourself, then how do you expect others to love you?
Relationships are as they say a 2-way street. You can't just keep taking, or just keep giving. There needs to be a balance, and you both have to stand on equal footing, one way or the other.
Yep. One of the great ironies of great relationships is that to find one you have to put in the work to be a happy and whole individual without one. If you are relying on another person for your sense of happiness and fulfillment that relationship is doomed.
The other thing that most people forget is that in a healthy relationship both people have to show true love which is defined by selflessness. You have to be willing to sacrifice some of your own comfort and preference for the sake of the other person. If one or both people can't do this, the relationship is doomed without serious intervention.
This is awesome, i thought id be alone for the rest of my life but recently ive been talking to a girl that really seems tonlike me for who i am. Its been very comforting and i really like her too.
how is every single person in this just so likeable?
How is the entire cast so awesome.
What a lovely group of people
That IS the dream for us all... to find a person to D&D with... to fall in love and to play happily ever after... I've been a DM since I was 15 and I'm still looking. But my first love will always be the game itself.
This is a great moment
oh christ, i was in that audience, how do i not remember this?
Yes! Finally someone recognising Liams accent.
He has such a distinctive voice, I can recognize him in any role he does, regardless of the accent, even though he can completely submerge himself into a character. I just adore him, and could listen to him read a phone book. Liam is awesome. And watching him and Sam together makes me so very happy, they play off each other so well.
she's beautiful
1:15 YESSSSS GIRRLLLL
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I know I'm late to this, Matt your amazing thx
Oh wow, that was beautiful!
Liam started to tear up with that, I love this community so much ❤️
Still one of my favourit moments
I tried to transcipt the signal in this awesomeness 🙂 Mr Mercer says:
No, ah... I'm glad you can come here for Mercer's Dating Tips...
Rule one: prepare for dissapoinment. Because I don't know how this happened!
Man honestly, it sounds so hackney but
be yourself
because the perfect person and the awesome person is gonna appreciate you for
all of your weirdness and
all of your idiosyncrasies
and your corks
and your frustrations
and your anxieties
and your depression
and all the things that come to being a human being.
and you want to make sure that you don't hide those aspects,
You want to find somebody that can see you as a full picture and go:
Yeah, let's go ahead and spend the rest of our lives together.
Liam being a nice guy*
Constantly reminded that he is Gaara and being scared
To be fair, Gaara had a wonderful redemptive character arc.
Liam can play a deliciously wicked villain, though. He’s just so talented.
Where do I get my "I was there" token, thanks :) Awesome weekend
I am crying for real
I love matt... But Liam and his many voices and accents are truly something to behold XD
that was beautiful
WHOLESOME
So sweet~
I'm gonna cry
"Thank you I'm gonna go cry in my seat now"
Look at her looks at him as he says it! Excellent
*takes notes*
Id like to see them do a one off special of sorts where their fictional characters would give dating advice based on their rolls.
This happened in London so why does the main image and title card of the vide say this was at NYCC?? 0:12
i was there. this was in london. not new york
Perfect life goal