4 things you must do if you like a guy
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This video is about 4 things you must do if you like a guy. If you like a guy and you want to give yourself a chance you have to follow these rules to protect yourself and maintain your self respect. Trying to get a guy to like you can be hard when you sacrifice your own dignity. If you have a crush on a guy don’t let it cause you to lower your standards. It won’t make him like you. So many women lose control over themselves when they like a guy and want him to fall in love with them. Remember these 4 rules.
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1.Detach your emotions from your standards
2.Know why you like him
3.Stay out of your own head
4.Immediately set the rules and standards for YOURSELF
Thank you. This information is useful at any age. I love it.
I came to this epiphany last week. I love myself lol
Thank you 🙏🏾
Thanks for the recap!
Goat
“Your standards and your emotions must be separate”
“There is a difference between what you FEEL and what’s REAL”.....
Not always easy. Standards & emotions do fight for position. Often potential partners play on the position struggle 2 the tune of.... "What's the least they can get away with" exhausting anothers emotional intelligence in the process.
That part
@@darcycaramunford4200 you have a point!🤔
Amen
I feel so called out 😔
Ok but real talk- the fantasy/imagined men and relationships are actually the hardest to get over. 😂😂😂
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Facts sis
I totally agree!!
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It is hard getting over an illusion
"It's just something about him."
"You know why there's something about him? Because you made it up!" 😄
I hollered!! So sad but true!!
Lmfao
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Man! I thought I was the only one who does that! 😆
Girl!! I literally laughed out loud. No emoji needed.
“You wasn’t thinking. You was imagining.” 😂
I HOLLERED❗😫🤣😂
😭🥴😂
😂🤣😭
That’s too funny 😂😂
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Just because I like a guy, that doesn’t mean that he likes me back. My feelings have no bearing on how he acts, so I just watch what he does. If he doesn’t act like he likes me like I like him, I feel sad, but I don’t do anything about it. I cry alone and move on. I don’t want to get attached to someone that I love and doesn’t love me.
Facts same here
Respect RESPECT! I adore your confidence and boldness
It happened to the best of us
That's right sweetheart 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
For real!👏
Creating a whole love story in your head, this is true.
I do it all the time!
Yeah .. it happened wid me recently .. 5 years back , there was a guy who used to follow me ..bcoz of shyness or hesitation we did not talk ... In lockdown we met again on FB we started talking .. I confessed my feeling .. he is still talking to me but he did not say anything abt liking n dating .. he never initiates conversation but he replies me within 5 mins .. he is a doctor .. dunno y he is like this ?
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I’m so happy it’s not just me. I need to get it together😳
I plan out the wedding and how we visit my family in my head. When I talk to the guy in reality I see him as the same guy in my imagination. Needs to stop
"Far too many men and women create damage in moments of insecurity that they can't repair" - Kev Hicks
I love how he’s just calmly rebuking me😂
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🥴😩 yes!
Right!!?? 🤣🤣
For real! 😂
same😂
"You made it up"! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Bruh all this time we have been in love with ourselves 🤣
yassss!!! self love all the way hahaha
Maybe WE are the narcissist🤔 Into ourselves too much!
Yet hoping we enough for the one that we get dreamy about lol im married to self now lmao
So damn true 😍😂🤣🤣 that's what I told myself I love me so much I'm trying to put me in another's body ....preach sis
There's just somethin about him, there's just somethin about him........."cuz you made it up" 😂😂😂😂😂oh my god it's so freekin true. Do I laugh or do I cry. Love you man. Thanks for keepin it real.
😂😂 I relatively relate with" there's just sth abt him" phrase
@@daizysanya9918 sadly I'm in the same boat girl.
I watched him 2× and its ALWAYS refreshing to gear the TRUTH of reality to REMOVE the blinders . and in acting like we don't see the red flags.KEEP GIVING IT TO US RAW KEVIN. straight no chaser babee
@@shelanel5348 worry not ,you're in the best space ever to know better for yourself 😌 you're bold, you're enough and you're the best
“There’s just something about him” LMAO I feel attacked 😂
Me toooo 🤦🏽♀️😂😭😭
Same!
Yes, We All Been There!
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Excuse me sir, you in my business. Don't do that. 😂😂🤣 Do you know me? I be planning the wedding and he only liked a pic. 🥴 I need help lol
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Me too lol We gonna be at our fake weddings together
@@LuvMiwrite LoL 😂
Lmfaooooo 😂 stop
@@LuvMiwrite 🤣
I realized once I overextended myself....the disrespect started... Smh. Wish I seen this video 2 months ago. Lol.
Same 🤦♀️
Same here. This is so frustrating.
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Foreal!!
Yes, the moment you become to available or easily accessible that’s when everything will go to shits.
"Don't create shame by letting your insecurities get in front of you." This is probably the most important video (to me) that you've ever done.
Agreed.
I agree
I should remind myself this sentence more often... "there's a difference between what you FEEL and what is REAL". Thank you! 🙏
Me too
Me too
I SCREENSHOT IT😂👍🏽
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@@cynthiamorley1873 👍🏽
Hardest lesson I am continuously learning: Don't assume that any time, money, emotion or efforts given to others will be reciprocated. Once you give it away, know it's gone, so be cautious who you give it to.
That’s where I messed up. I acted with my emotions and not with my standards.
@UMN Mode she’s a black Barbie
Thank you Kev. I'm always falling in love too quick because I started imagining things😔😔
Me too! Hug♥️!
My main problem and it never ends well
Same 🙄
I was same like you but now i know to control
Me 2
“BECAUSE YOU MADE IT UP IN YOUR HEAD “ 🗣🗣🗣🥴🤕
😂😂😂
Kev just shredded my whole desire to text this man that I’ve been digging so much. He hasn’t made time for me, so what am I doing even considering texting again? What kind of nonsense is in my head? And yet i have another suitor who is consistent even though he owns businesses and keeps me focused on my goals. But I want the hot guy. Argh!
Me too I need to stop
Same here
Your videos has made me delete the guys number even
Girl same.. wtf
Gurl same!!!! I feel u!!!! Hahah
"Stay out of your own head"
*now time to put it into practice ❤
Hey member 🙌🏾
@@KevHick ❤👏
"sometimes the best thing you can do, is nothing." Great advice 😊
Why did I not see this when I was 18? 🤦🏾♀️ Thanks you Kevin, simple FACTS. It’s a fantasy in your head...
Same!!!! Ugh 2 years later still trying to get over that “situation “
'Most wars are won or lost in the mind.' I felt that. ♥️♥️♥️
"you know why it's just something about him? because you made it up!" 😂😂😂😂 Kev you did not need to come for my neck like this!
“It’s because you made it up” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 this whole video cracked me up. The straight face made it even funnier. But big favtssss this video helped me make a decision I been fighting ❤️❤️❤️
I know right 🤣🤣🤣🤣 that line was funny
That line killled me too 🤣
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Omg😂😂😂😂
Idk how the algorithm got me here but this is more than relationship advice, this is just good life advice.
So True , esp overgiving and its consequences with people in general
#2 😭😭 I'm guilty asf. I start imagining how our life would be great together 😭😭😭
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
I'm guilty too 😩 with a guy I like a lot right now 😭😭...
@@erinkristin6536 it’s ok miss! Are you still on date with the guy?
@@richardrivas3294 yes, he is still around.
@@erinkristin6536 where are you from n how old?
“There is just something about him” this sentence ruined a lot of women’ lives....indeed we are Toxics 🤦🏻♀️
Guilty... it hurt me worse than my divorce.
Detach your emotions from your standards
Know why you like him
Stay out of your head
Immediately set the rules and standards for yourself
Wow this is just the best I’ve ever heard. Thank you Kev
It’s really hard for most people to be mad at themselves. Often times it’s easier to be a victim, but often times there are no victims, just volunteers. We don’t want to admit we ignored that little voice warning us. you keep trying and giving, but getting no results. You can only control yourself so don’t waste time waiting for someone to change, or trying to change them. They will change when they put in the effort. It hurts because you wanna be that girl they put in the effort for… But if it’s not happening then do yourself a favor and walk
@ Kay Dukes
I ❤❤❤ This!! ... Speak on it!! ... Preach!!
.... Thank You!💕
Greatest Advice?
Don't Walk...RUN
Excellent explanation. I love it. Bravo.
"You wasn't thinking, you was imagining". 😂 That hit home.
THE FREE CHIPS PART 🤣🤣🤣😭 DAMMIT
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Wow every woman needs to hear this !!!
you’re right it’s not these guys, it’s me.... im the toxic one 😭😭
1. Detach your emotions from your standards.
2. Know why you like him( e.g tangible reasons like how he may treat you, stop imagining and start paying attention so you know real reasons of why you might like him. You might be liking only what you're imagining.
3. Stay out of your own head. Women end up imagining things and start social media stalking etc. What you feel is not always real. You don't have to act out of insecurity and start sending someone a lot of texts because of what you're thinking or imagining. Sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing, people cause irreparable damage.
4. Immediately set the boundaries and the rules when you're dealing with him. Keeping YOU in check is the most healthy thing you can do for yourself in the relationship. Know what you will and won't do for love, to impress a guy. Make sure you know what you're willing to do and what you're not willing to do. Make sure that you hold yourself to your own standards.
Notes taken sir, thank you.
With love from South Africa. 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
I'm from kwazulu natal where you from
“Detach your emotions from your standards”
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"There's a difference between what you feel and what is real"
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Whew child! Some women are going to feel attacked ...it's me I am some women. Because I have done all of these things and I had to learn. But the way you said it opened my eyes to some different aspects!
Emotions and standards. you choose one for the relationship to work out.
Have a reason why you fell in love with that person. Stop imagining
There's a difference between what you feel and reality
Set up your standards.
I have loved everything. thanks so much. I have picked a leaf
“...because you’ve made it up”
WELL GAHD DANG, that hit me 😭😭
if im being honest, 99% of the time we make it up ahah
My ex ex non boyfriend: the only thing I could say about him "there's just something about him" SMH 🤮
This should be shown in high school. I always believed relationship 101 should be taught to children.
I was just telling my friend this earlier. I really like a guy, but I’m realistic about how things can end up, since he’s thinking of moving cities. about an hour and a half a way. Not far, but still a transition. I’m not expecting anything. If the guy is willing to go through with a relationship, I’m down. If not, then I have no reason to invest. I’m willing to let him go. This is the first time I’ve really liked someone, while simultaneously knowing the reality of a potential outcome. I’m happy with myself, I don’t need him, love so many thing about him. Never caved into sex, either. We’ll see where it goes.
What’s interesting about both of you ladies experience I’m in that exact space as we speak. Except I’m the one that moved to another state. The reality for me is!!! we were friends first, then we bonded, and after 3 yrs of celibacy on my end I shared my most intimate self with him, all the while knowing I was relocating to another state. We said we would keep in touch although no commitment or committed relationship was established, and we’ve talked about visiting and keeping the lines of communication open, but after a month of being in a different state. I realize I simply just want more, but I also know my reality is it’s not going to happen. I’m heartbroken because I allowed myself to become emotionally attached knowing ultimately we were on two different paths I was moving away... Spare yourself the hurt if you can and if no commitment is made don’t invest anything further emotionally , it hurt waaaay to bad...💯💯💕💕
Thank you ladies for your feedback, it is MUCH appreciated. I’ve been down the same route before and it left me fucking broken, so definitely protecting myself this time around. That’s why I haven’t had sex with the dude, which he’s been incredibly respectful of. But he’s just not pursuing the same, so I’m gonna take a step back. If he pursues, I know where he stands. If he doesn’t, then I know where I stand. ❤️
Gosh, same here. I’m really digging a guy who isn’t putting forth any kind of effort to pursue or date me. It’s disappointing but I refuse to put myself on the line emotionally like how I used to do. I value myself, peace of mind, and body too much to allow a man to toy with my emotions. I really like how Kev said we have to respect our OWN BOUNDARIES first. That’s what I’m doing now. It’s tough, but, it starts with me first and foremost. The right one will eventually cross my path.
I like him because he’s a man of God, family oriented and he’s there for me when I need support or encouragement.
I made all 4 mistakes 😅 when I fell in love for the first time in my life at the age of 29 🚂 💥 Man do I hope this never happens to me again
You are brilliant Kev!! ♥️
I just made this mistakes I hope I can fix them now 🤣🤣🤣.
Muna hahaha you should be able to. In my case the guy had a girlfriend, who had moved away for a year and they got back together when she returned.
If there is no drama like this, you can do it! ☺️🤜
I was in the exact situation. Oh it hurt had... Lol. We live and learn !
Ask Sis Podcast I guess a lot of us go through it in their lifetime. Hope you’re over it now ✊
@Shade oh yaaa.. such a late bloomer 😂😂it’s not all bad 💪
I wasn't thinking, I was imagining😂😭
Yup... professional line drawer here.🙄🤚🏼 Thank you, Kev... I expected something totally different from this video... but I admit, I like the reality way better, even though it hurts a little.🥴🙈
I've learned that self-love includes protecting myself totally...If what I want to do or give a man is going to make me feel bad about myself or possibly harm me emotionally in any way, I can't do it...I must keep me safe at all times...Get some boundaries...draw the line somewhere...
Yay. Here early today. Love the ad too. Love to see our brother secure the bag🙌👌
1. Detach your emotions from your standards. These two must be kept separate at all times. There's a difference between what you feel and what is real. Don't let your emotions win over your standards, if you do, it will most probably end in tears. Let your standards remain in place no matter how strongly you feel about him.
2. Know why you like him. When a dating coach asks why you like him, you should be able to say why. If you can't list why you like him, it is probably because you made him out of your head. Sorry, not sorry. If it's real, you know why you like him or liked him even if you break up.
3. Stay out of your head. Don't act on your insecurities. Don't be emotional, beg a man, text him, stalk him, etc. out of insecurity because most times your insecurities aren't based on reality. Don't act on your insecurity or anxiety,or you will regret it. Sometimes doing nothing is the best thing.
4. Immediately set rules and boundaries for yourself. Sometimes it's not them it's you in your pursuit to win him over. Your over extensions. What you give freely. And why would a man turn down what you offer for free? People love free s÷!t. Keep yourself in check. Have standards for yourself and uphold them. 😘🙌
Take a bolt😂lol
Yessssss sys its such a joy fo Kev we luh u big bro queen if all queens brown gyrls
And that's the real truth...
Love the ad too!
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This guy is an angel. OMG I love your advice. From now on ladies don't lower your standards for a guy. Your standards should be fixed no matter how much love you feel for some dude.
You the realest everrr! Damn I didn’t realize I lived in my imagination so long !
Never wrote this before. Thank you! My standards the things I need from my partner: Attention, loyalty, trustworthy, intelligent (not formal education), passionate, interesting, confident, vocal, take charge/lead,
You just gone read us like this?? 😫😂 Luckily I've learned but this was spot on. Thank you for these honest videos. Women have to know their standards and stick to them. You will not be happy in the long run if you keep allowing people to give you mediocre treatment.
I've listened to tons of your advice but this was totally fabulous. I wish I had access to your advice ages ago it would have saved me a whole lot of heartbreak and tears.
You have just summarized every video I've listened to from you! I will still keep listening however. If you never make another video, you will forever be remembered for this one. Maybe because it has instantly set me free because have intentionally let it. Not only does it speak to female /male relationships but relationships with everybody, everywhere at all times. Wisdom prevails, thank you!
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i needed to hear this..
Wow...I needed this
I was about to text a guy about my feelings for him then I saw this😂😂
I think am gonna take a step back💯...thanks kev
“Theres a different between what you feel and what’s real.” ☮️🕊✌🏿
I like this guy. No stupid advices. No misoginy. Lots of common sense, logic and good real no cliche advice for women
I have to work on myself before even thinking of working on a relationship
This is the talk I’ve been needing someone to have with me for a while. I felt like a daughter whose dad loves her and is looking out for her as I was listening. Thank you for telling it like it is.
YES sponsorship!! We love to see it for you sir! 👏🏾
U are wise. I have to remember to " stay out of my head!"
Yesss thaaaaaank u!!! You're so smart and well spoken 💋💚💋
I wish I knew about this channel a long time ago. I am still learning and I know for sure I would have saved myself heartache and suffering if I knew Kev Hick awhile back. I feel kinda dumb...
We live and learn....not dum much 🙏
You’re not dumb my dear, we’re in constant learning and evolving…life never stop teaching YS until we learn!!🙏🤭
It's just something about him.. I used to always say that!!!
😂😂😂me too always
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
🤣🤣🤣 it’s the “it’s just something about him” 💯💯💯
Excellent video! I will add this: When we first meet someone we form an "image" of that person in our own mind. The image is ideal and seldom is the reality of who that person really is. Because they can not meet up to the image that we habe created, we feel disappointment and resentment. It is always best to give a relationship time to reveal the true character of the individual before any decisions are made as to their placement in our lives. Sometimes they may not fit at all. No time is wasted. No love is lost.
A simple thing I have been working on is "responding" instead of "reacting", if I'm spiraling into a panic attack or anxiety, then I put on a guided meditation for anxiety on youtube and I practice my breathing, I let myself feel the emotions I'm going through and then I just acknowledge it and will maybe ask myself "where is this emotion coming from" "why do I feel so strongly about this?" etc, then discuss it with my counsellor, which at that point I'll decide if it's worth bringing up or not. It has made me 100% better communicator! Life changing and I feel so much more in control of myself and my emotions, it is a gift to myself.
Kev, your advice is much appreciated. You've got quite some knowledge about human minds and behaviors. Do you have advice on essential reading?
Lol
I am in a relationship and I always have to check myself and not get carried away by my fantasies. I try my best to keep myself grounded and it’s helped a lot ❤️
In love with their imagination🤣🤣🤣
"Sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing" LOVE THAT THANK YOU
First of all, I feel like you was out here reading me. Secondly, I'm over dying at "...or something stupid like that." 🤣🤣🤣 I love that you keep it a hundred always. Definitely needed this video
I have been like this my entire teenage years and 20's and i regret it, now the focus will be my career, education, health hobbies fitness and finances, and I'm so excited to live my life on my own terms 😀
Your wife styles you. She does a great job 💪🏾
“Stay out of your own head” 😳💭......Yes 🙌
Protect your heart ladies. Especially if you’re an empath ❤
Thank you. That’s very sweet of you!
Grew up without a father. Learned long time ago to fall in love with results/actions not words or kind gestures. Been married for seven years now let me tell the only reason I stay because his results/work ethic are reaping the same if not better results than when I met him. A man that loves you will always want to grow with you.
I feel sooo attacked 😂😂 but man thanks for this video, very eye opening
"I'm trying to tighten up myself. "
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thank you!! this video helped me a lot. I realized i was in love with my imagination of my coworker i only spoke to like 3 times, without even knowing him well.
I subbed after the free chips analogy 😭 I shall carry that with me henceforth! Lol
The timings of your videos are more apt and helpful than the tarot card readings 😛😊
Those tarot card readings are demonic. Like the horoscopes. Just to let you know.
Lol! "Something stupid like that" 🤣🤣🤣
U know why its just something about him? BECAUSE you made it up☠️☠️☠️😂😂💯 💯
Instead of sending that insecure text message, I email it to myself (only!!!) and read it again later. I can tell you every single one of them made me think WTF is wrong with you?! lol. And then I was so thankful it went no further than my own inbox, and then right into the trash. Whew!!!!!!
"You know why *it's something about him? It's because you made it up!" 👍🏼✨
Okay, Kev - you got me! I'm normally like... "TELL THEM"... when I watch these videos. But today, I was like... "so you gonna call me out like that" lol. I am definitely guilty of 2 and 3. Thank you, Kev for calling out and making me see my flaws!!!! Smh
Nailed it so hard I've been crucified.
OMG Classic!! Kev Hicks on point! This made me laugh, so true! SMH
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Straight forward, user friendly, succinct speech, enlightened guru. Finally.
May your career and life be blessed dude.
Love it! Without bashing.. this is the most truthful, honest and powerful advice I’ve heard!! So on point. Thank you Kevin for sharing. After getting out of a short “getting to know you relationship” I found myself fighting with my emotions vs standards. This man spoke a good game & I had been attracted to him for awhile before actually trying to get to know him. You hit on something, trying to find reasons to make him work ( whew I felt that) When he fell short on most of the qualities I looked for in a man, basic simple things, i did that, I started negotiating. Then the struggle within myself began. I was getting more agitated with him or maybe myself because my spirit was telling me he’s not the one ( you know that spirit of discernment)? Not to be ignored. I really had to turn to GOD who never fails, I had to readjust myself. My fear of disappointing GOD became greater & stronger then my emotional ties with this man. I already know what is true... GOD’s love, he wants the very best for me .. there is no confusion in that.
Mourning Love ❤️
In any relationship when your fear of disappointing GOD is stronger and greater then your emotional attachment to that person..you will never lower your standards & values for anyone. Always put him first.
"you like your imagination" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 You are good! 🤣🤣🤣
"Free Chips!" 😂😂👏🏽👏🏽🤣 I love this video! You always have great advice! 🙌🏽
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
😂😂😂 very informative! Thank you so much for this!
You like your imagination 😱🥴😂🤣😂🤣🎯
The way you speak with clarity ... I have no choice but to hear your
I love how you laugh tho