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"You and your husband need to see a marriage counselor... because his parents are freaks..." LOL.
Maybe they will get the tools they need from the marriage counselor to know how to set boundaries with the In Laws and put them back in the place they belong. I took it as that when Dave said to see a counselor.
Telling your daughter in law youâll hate her forever for something like this is the most manipulative thing Iâve ever heard.
dave's response is spot on "oh well"
Manipulation=witchcraft đ§č
"Go down to Walmart on aisle 3 and pick up a backbone, boy!" LOL
Amen!!!!
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And as many cojones as you can get
Not in a million years do u let someone borrow a helicopter
@@diann9159 yes!!! also, i laughed for so many minutes at the validity of this comment and absurdity of the whole thing.
@@diann9159 hahahahaha, good one
Most people are hesitant to let someone borrow their car, as they should be, because things can go wrong.
Itâs not a lawnmower... itâs a frikkin expensive temperamental piece of machinery, that requires knowledge and money to maintain.
Let the son hire one if heâs so desperate.
Too much liability
"Because it's my freaking helicopter I don't have to defend my rules!" - Dave 2021
2018 dude
It sounds to me like this poor woman married herself into a narcissistic household.
Exactly!
Haha you said poor and they are fighting over a helicopter.. sorry that just made me lol đ€Ł
Nothing says she needs to stay there. Divorce the guy and live happily ever after. (And the helo will get sold in the divorce court)
@@belatoth1446 not easy to leave if ur in love with the person. lucky for me i was never in love with the mother of my child. so guess what? i left with the kid. never been happier!
Yeah I feel bad for my husband for having my parents as his in laws. I told him not to offer or agree to lend my parents any money if they ask because they're selfish leaches and will try to use guilt as their weapon just like they're trying to do to my brother and sisters. My husband is a super nice and caring man who wants to help everyone. But he can be too nice to people sometimes at it hurts him when people take advantage of him. I keep saying that it's okay to give someone money as a gift, but don't expect to be paid back. But it's also OK to say no. It's your money not theirs.
How can you explain such a simple story in such a complicated way.
sphericalsphere I have a headache
I was SO confused! I had to listen to this several times, and I'm still not sure.
Hahahahaahaha
@@lmgam not worth it really...
Sheâs nervous, obviously.
I don't understand why it's so hard to say NO to people who think they are entitled to other parents stuff!!
And who the heck asks to borrow the HELICOPTER! It's a HELICOPTER!!!!!
Her husband is allowing his whole family to gain up on his WIFE including himself. He doesn't deserve a wife yet, because he doesn't know what it means to have one. When the cousin crashes the helicopter is the parents going to pay for itđ€đ€·ââïž
That man is pretty trash. And she seems like she really didn't want to take Dave's route or she was put off by it when she responded with a sigh. I'm confused as why adults even need this kind of advice, it hurts my brain sometimes. These people are old enough to be my parents or older siblings and some cases and they can't get simple stuff like this, it amazes me.
It's a crazy world we live in. Hopefully she will confront him or divorce him for her peace of mind.
@@mrfred1000 Absolutely!!
How do people this successful allow themselves to get WALKED on so hard? What a joke
This is beyond "helicopter parents", this is downright abusive.
Bryan Jacobs
yep! Narcissistic personality disorder run rampant!
Exactly.
It's a pun
Mother in Law bullies husband and son to get her way. Who would force somone to loan such expensive property to someone who has proven so irresponsible? Nuts.
she is a test pilot for a broom factory.
you sir, won the internet for this week
Massive amounts of wisdom from Dave Ramsey here. Never marry someone who demonstrates a lack of boundaries with their own family.
Thats honestly facts!! If the man I end up dating isn't man enough to have boundaries with his own family, hes not a man, hes a wuss
đ I learned that one the hard way! No matter how long we were married they never learned to mind their own business. And he was right in there gossiping our business! I now have freedom! 25 years happily divorced!
She brought up the fact that his parents paid for his helicopter schooling, which has nothing to do with her husband and her owning a helicopter.
The reason then that it came up is because itâs undoubtedly being used by the parents as a justification for why they have a say in who uses the helicopter. This whole situation is insane and weird.
Long story short, she has a helicopter and doesn't want to let her relative use it. Her family wants her relative to use it.
Dave's advice summed up - it's your helicopter. Do what you want.
Saved you ten minutes lol
Amanda Stern haha thank you đ we are confused
I listened to the whole thing too, but I thought it was really about a marriage thatâs in dire need of help,...and an adult male who needs to become a man.
thank you for saving me 9 min
THANK YOU, AMANDA!!!
Thank you that first minute was hard to get through.
Somebody is mad because I wonât let them use my helicopter......âOh sure, here are the keys to my gajillion dollar piece of equipment! Have at it you irresponsible person who blew $100k.â Iâm so confused. Are these folks trailor trash or are they rich? Somebody help me.
justin hill Itâs rich people acting like trailer trash...
Trailer trash comes at all price points.
crowtservo
Nailed it
@@jusssable more like ganged up on. I had that situation one time, over my husband's father dying. I almost divorced him, But he got backbone and told his family to back off. They did.
Yea they are expensive. There is also the hourly operating cost I.E. - fuel and maintenance. I was a helicopter crewchief in the army. There are maintenance schedules, at different accumulated flight hours maintenance has to be performed.
Quote of the day: "oh well!" -Dave Ramsey
Lol đ right
BEST. QUOTE.
"I want to use your helicopter." First world problems
Al Lopez 1% of the first-world population problems đ
You can barrow my helicopter. Just leave $1.5 million, in cash on my desk on your way to the hangar.
Are you kidding me???? YOU and YOUR husband bought a helicopter...NO ONE gets to use it and that's that. Man Up, Grow Up, Take the Helm at Adult-ing YOUR Life!
âHis mom will hate you for the rest of your lifeâ. Tell me why you care?!?! Get in your helicopter and fly home please... đ đ€Ł
Ms. Pants?
That's am odd name, some of the names on here are weird!
Man, if I had in laws like this my middle fingers would get such a good work out!
She blew the money for the helicopter training but she wants to drive the helicopter?? đ€ŠđŸââïžđ€
She wants her son to drive it
Your parents raised you. Now youâre your own adult. Your loyalty is with your wife. This guy is still acting like their child with his parents scolding him and telling him how itâs gonna be lol. Did she not realize she was marrying a man child?
Do you know the woman and her husband personally if this is even true 90% of radio is fake voice actors anyway.
No sir.. she didn't because she either never dealt with people like this or never had boundaries established in her own life. I know because this was my life on both sides till I got divorced
â His family is a FREAKSHOWâ đđđđđđGotta Love Dave ! OMG !
Arguing over a helicopter? Rich people's problems! Y'all need Jesus in your lives!
The problem is that her husband puts his family of birth over his wife. She has no reason to be there.
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Wow, problems in the family are still problems even if you cant imagine having the same scenarios. Get over yourself
Lol would jesus tell them to not loan out their helicopter? I guess He could make another one appear đ€
Lol
Toxic family, and does the relative even have her license to fly it?
I was wondering the same thing. I thought the cousin didn't complete the program.
"How do you know your rules are right?"
"Uh...because it's mine."
It's crazy how many people get marriage counseling from Dave Ramsey! I loved the callers laugh of relief when she realized that it's her (and her husbands) helicopter and if they say "no" that's the way it goes! It's almost like she never thought of that as an option.
I bought a dragon and no one gets to ride it but me!
Now youâre just being selfish!
This is not complicated. If the cousin or whatever wants a helicopter, they need to get one themselves!
There's a tough truth I learned. You don't just marry the person, but also your significant other's family . Make sure you like them & they like you. Marriage life will be easier that way.
That's that knowledge people need to cling on
That's a tough one, some of us don't like our parents. How can we expect anyone else to?
Belinda Garza For real...
That's only true if your spouse can't set up boundaries. My family is crazy, but I do NOT let them intervene in my life, marriage, or household in any way. My husband doesn't have to deal with them unless he's ready to.
*B O U N D A R I E S*
"She's a test-pilot for a broom factory!" haha nice one.
Sorry, what's your financial question??
is it in my budget to start marriage counseling?
@@faridpuente2573 đđ
Yeah that's true. But Dave is a very wise man. Several people call him for morale questions. And dave gives them great advice just like in this video
Love Dave!!!! "test pilot for a broom factory"!
You know how some callerâs voice and tone just make you want to just immediately want to skip to the next? This is one.
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If these were my in laws I'd need bail money
What happens when the niece wrecks/damages the helicopter?? Will SHE pay for it??? Not likely!!
Sure she was probably going with instructor for hours. Insurance...insurance.
And owner of helicopter will be liable for whatever this niece does to other people.
"His parents are freaks"
God, I wish I could get Dave Ramsey to say that about my husband's parents. His mom is the worst enabler that puts her wants before her children's needs and his father is constantly disappearing on them for years at a time.
My husband doesn't understand that that's not normal for parents to so heavily put themselves first and is constantly bending over backwards for them because "they did so much for him". I keep trying to explain to him why they don't deserve that treatment, but he honestly just doesn't know any better. I feel so bad for him. :(
Arguing over a HELICOPTER!! While I'm driving a 10 year-old rusted Nissan sentra...lol
I need to double check if this is still Dave Ramsey show....
Wow. Just wow.
Boundary issues
Who blames their parents marital problems on their spouse?? So manipulative
Stand up to emotional abuse by bullies.
That's rich ppl problem.....arguing over helicopter...lol
Elton Elzee I was thinking the same thing... yâall need dr Phil not Dave Ramsey
For real
Lennae Daley lol đ
Elton Elzee true story!
The dude's a helicopter pilot not the CEO of Apple. A lucrative career for some people could mean over $100,000. I wouldn't call that rich.
People out here buying helicopters đ what am I'm doing with my life
Ricky Will LOL, right?
Ricky Will đ
And me? I'm just happy to have some food and a roof.
Buying helicopters meanwhile I'm looking at a '97 Silverado.
@@shannon2748 vegan princess?
âThat chick is a test pilot for a broom factoryâ LOL
Yes! I was wondering how this call was going to turn out. This call goes in top 10 of 2018! đ
What a mess! Man up , itâs your freaking helicopter!
Emotional abusers say you're bad if you don't give me what I want.
nateb19 - Maybe he SHOULD lend out the helicopter. Load up all the crazy relatives. Might JUST solve his problem . . . Just make sure the helicopter adequately insured . . . May not have to worry about overbearing relatives asked to use the next one.
I had the exact same problem with my mother in law
Demanding I loan out my time machine to my niece
I said no but she said if I didnt she would hate me for the rest of my life
So
I went back in time and broke up her mother and her father so they never had her
Problem solved!
Her call is actually a breath of fresh air. We're getting tired of all the debt-free screams.đ€Ł
Shew yeah cause we can all relate to 100k gifts from grandparents and owning helicopters
Iâm a little confused I thought that Dave was going to his rant thing about helicopter parents...
So was i at first. Then I started listening. And laughing. And nodding my head in agreement re : the need for marriage counseling.
If the husband puts the parents first then sheâll never be a priority for him. Marriage is headed for divorce.
My 13-year partner and I have never been married. His mother has become god-awful. Her son and I share a 12 year old child, and she has become more and more controlling of our child, to the point where she tries to dictate who's house he's going to live in, and for how long. During a recent therapy session, I dared to make light of the fact that she could be removed from my son's life due to her behavior. She cocked her head back and laughed, and told me: "You can't do that because my child is his father!" That level of entitlement blew my mind, and is helping me to work even harder to get away from both her and her son.
Loan you my mower ok
Borrow you a few chairs ok
A helicopter, NO. That's to much of a risk
OK then my middle name is compromise.
How about a kidney?
Dave is a saint for putting up with this caller! LOL
Amen Amen ! Thatâs why Iâm divorced now... no backbone đ€Šđœââïžđ€Šđœââïž
Is it just me, or do we need a movie about boundary issues in the whole country?
I have a headache lol. I donât understand why this is her problem.
It's her helicopter
Her husband is giving in to his family demanding the daughter/sister gets to use their expensive property, though Sara doesn't trust her or want her to use their property.
Christine C She married into a family of lunatics. So sad.
It's her husband's cousin who wants to use the helicopter.
@@NateshasAmbience - correction: RICH lunatics.
If you do what the mother wants, she will never respect you are care about you. Until there is an enforced boundary they will keep running!
I made it clear to my wife I don't care what my family thinks of her, I CHOSE her. Luckily they do love her to pieces but that was never a prerequisite.
I can't believe members of the in-law family told her that if she didn't cave and do what mother-in-law wanted that she would "hate you forever". What a bunch of twisted manipulators. I loved it when Dave said, "Oh well". I agree with him absolutely. So she caves and allows junior access to the helicopter so MIL won't hate her. THEN, "If you don't name your child what MIL wants you to name her, she will hate you forever." and then, "If you don't allow the in-laws to move into your house, she will hate you forever" and on and on and on. I don't see this ever ending. Better to just stop it before it really gets started and if MIL hates you, it isn't really much of a loss to you. We are told, "You're known by the company you keep" so we are sort of judged by the people who like us. I think we are also judged by the people who don't like us and if the people who don't like you are a bunch of no-boundaries, manipulators I see that as a HUGE compliment to you. I also agree with Dave that husband needs to develop a backbone and stop allowing his mother to dictate his behavior to him. What is he? Five? He's a grown man. He doesn't really need his mommy's approval for everything he does, especially not if mommy is the kind of woman his mother is.
rofl I about died laughing when she said well we bought our own personal helicopter.
Sarah, I doubt you will see this but I wanted to say that Iâm sorry you are being treated this way.
Geez. Her husband is a mamaâs boy. The answer is NO
It seems like Dave is doing the counseling, not financial advice.
He just got done saying how he gets these cases all the time.
I'd also be worried about the student pilot's skills. How does she do with autorotations? Can she manage a glide so as to retain energy in the rotor disc? You might lose both the airplane and the cousin if she can't. --Retired Naval Aviator
There is this magical word I love to use when someone asks me to do something I don't want to do.
"No."
End of story. End of conversation. No more discussion. As soon as someone else pays my bills, they can tell me what I can do with my stuff. Since that will never happen, I'm safe to do what I want.
Many husbands are like that these days...they don't step up when they need to.
I had to set boundaries and set it with my parents. I did it with my big boy pants. My mom doesn't like my wife cause she stand up and I stood up for her
This is a moral dilemma about a financial asset.
Dave gives such good advice! Helps people see clearly through the fog that is their lives.
This is the only episode that has sent me into hysterical laughter
I just can't imagine being in this situation
I would like to know how this ended đ€
Divorce
Unless the Husband broke ties with his dysfunctional family - not well...
"She's a test pilot for a broom factory." đ€Łđ€Ł
She lost her doggone mind from spinnin' around in that helicopter all day!
I feel like the ones threatening divorce are just looking for an excuse to divorce.. an argument over not lending a helicopter to someone who essentially stole $100k so they can keep taking vacations (or however that ended up)... please.. If it's not the helicopter it will be some other excuse.
Girl. RUN.
Poor lady. Prayers for her.
I hope she will get through this
Absolutely!
My standard response to people that threaten to hate me forever is "On, goodie...8 billion people on this planet and there's one that doesn't like me".
This woman is making excuses that it is ok to be treated like this. I wonder if everything worked out.
Wow! What a narcissistic family. I'm sorry girl. Your in for some difficult times. Keep your ground and don't let non of them push you around.
I rather hear my kids complain about taking each others toys
Ok Dave...I have listened to you off and on since 2009. When I was first a member of your online chat group. I have never heard you say..."She's a test pilot for a broom factory". I am cracking up laughing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I can relate so much to this caller. My former MIL was very similar. Manipulative and controlling. Although mine was masterful at being very covert and passive-aggressive. Needless to say she was not fond of me because she knew that I had her number after a month of meeting my former spouse. I got 16 years of watching this show and her trying to pull everyone in the family's puppet strings.
Those in-laws are narcissists.
ShiaGirl18 yep!!!!
Love the pun in the title! LOL!!!
3:20 your in-laws are FREAKS!!!!! I
Love Dave.
2 mins in and I have no idea what she's talking about đđ
Whenever Dave calls out the caller, the caller always response â...Ok...â
I loan my helicopter to my irresponsible niece, niece crashes helicopter and kills self and passenger she was trying to impress, parents of both parties sue me for being irresponsible and loaning irresponsible person helicopter. Just a side note, helicopters are wildly expensive to maintain per flight hour. Is niece paying for maintenance?
The mom in law is a "Test pilot for a broom Factory" ......so true haha!
Well said Dave
Omg! Dave gives financial advice, really donât understand ppl that call him to fix their marriage problems.
âSo...you want me to buy another helicopter?â
The husband has no, no...........................MARBLES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I âMIGHTâ let her use my microwave âMIGHTâ đ
Funny how she doesn't realise that he has allowed them to do what the parents and family do... he has to put them in his place. I love what Dave is saying... that he's saying the truth... im sorry for this lady... i feel really sad.... she has a bullying family-in-law and husband is a nightmare!
OMG this was a great video! LOL I couldn't stop laughing through the whole thing
I listen to the show almost every day. Must have been during one of my dental appointments when I couldnât listen. Definitely a different boundaries issue.
Sounds like the husband and wife don't want to get cut off from the gravy train "his parents".