Why is it So Hard to LOVE our NATURAL HAIR? | Part 1: INSECURITIES and SELF-LOVE ‼️
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
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In today's video, we will be discussing the different reasons as to why it is so hard to love our Natural Hair (specifically in the black community). I will admit, and you all can let me know down below if you’ve ever felt that you didn’t like your Natural Hair.
Questions such as why does our culture emphasize Natural Hair Journeys? Why is the texture of our hair not worth celebrating? Why does short hair get looked down-on-on kinkier hair but not straighter hair textures? Why do we believe so much that our Natural Hair is difficult? And Lastly, Why our Hair has become a political stance. (unpacking the Afro)
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I grew up around people (mostly white people since I did not grow up around people who looked like me) who always complimented my natural hair, especially my father who made sure no chemicals or straightening combs touched my strands. I have never longed for European textured hair. Thankfully I have always loved my hair. I must say that your hair is so beautiful 😍
Yes, kudos to your father🙌🏾🥰
@@jaleenmorris9221 he is an unapologetically proud Black man and he made it clear to every little Black baby that they are beautiful just the way God made them ❤ thank you angel!!
Loved this! So inspiring ❤
@@sherlynbrown5270 I love to hear this
Me too
Let’s be real very few of us are comfortable with short kinky hair… Let’s work on that!
Black people need to stop saying we and us. Many races of women don't like having short hair in. General but in blackistan texturist are the only ones who hate on 4c hair
Most races of women don't look good with short hair. You have to have the head for it and the facial features for short hair. We don't have to like short hair. Plus shrinkage is when we get the most knots and tangles in our hair. Our hair does better when stretched out not necessarily through heat but stretched nonetheless. Our hair was made kinky to protect it from the sun but most of us don't live in africa and protect against bugs in our hair. Our hair was created like this for practical reasons but we don't typically live in those conditions.
Such a productive way to approach this discussion. I think that we as Black women have a false perception that women of other races don't spend any time on their hair. Women of other races who are perceived to have beautiful hair quite often spend a LOT of time on it - EVERY, SINGLE day. We may do our hair one time a month and it takes 10 hours. These women spend 30 mins to 2 hours on their hair every, single day of the month (multiply by 30). So who is actually spending more time on their hair?? I think that this whole concept that we are supposed to be able to not comb our hair and leave it alone for weeks at a time is part of the reason for our hair resentment. I don't mind (and even enjoy) spending a little time on my 4C hair every day - my hair really appreciates it and cooperates with me. 🙂
Exactly and it makes no sense to compare routines like I was talking to my colleagues 1 takes like 2 hrs the other less than an hr and literally they spend different times on their hair because of different needs, thickness, length and whether its dyed or not, I used to wash my hair once a week and it would take about 2-3hrs the routine so it's I spend about 8-12 in a whole month and you have people washing their hair everyday which in a month its a lot of time.
That's beautiful Sister 💖💖
Yah, I cut my hair off because I didn’t want my dreads anymore…I loved it but ppl close to me were worried I’d look like a slave. That made me really sad…plus those who were slaves were still beautiful woman they were just oppressed ☹️
....wait what..that wild, are you from the US?
No, I’m from Canada
@@tikkithompson8771 huh that makes it even weirder. Sorry you didn't have the support.
Thanks I appreciate that. :) Some Ppl from older generations were just raised to think differently.
Why do you allow others to dictate your decisions
I was born in Haiti and my hair was glorified and appreciated. I was told it was beautiful. It wasn’t until I came here and got made fun of sooo bad I cried home and begged my mom for a relaxer. Not to fit in just to be left alone since they were putting glue in my hair. 😞I HATED my relaxed hair so flat and dull. But I kept it going until 2015 when I big chopped after I got my FIRST & LAST sew in. Now 7 yrs natural and I’m so happy I don’t even wear braids like that anymore just twist ❤️
Natural hair is beautiful and should be uplifted in the community. One of the major issues is media and rappers. There are many other factors. Rappers have allowed brainwashing and self hate to warp their minds. They always throw out these subliminals and ignorant good hair comments. They show non blk women in the videos with straighter hair. BW internalize these things and think their natural hair is too different and not good enough. The men don't date the women with natural hair enough and it further pushes this idea of natural hair not being good. Plus the female rappers don't show their natural hair and wear wigs all of the time. Ari Lennox is one of the few beautiful artists who shows her natural hair the majority of the time. Also, it is important for parents to take care of the hair, learn techniques and nurture the self esteem of the children.
I agree and is about time we as Blacques people stop supporting these type people in the Blacques community since Blacques women are not good enough for them.
@@rfinna8029 Exactly!! You are 100% correct. They also let racist people control them and then persecute their own women. Disgusting!
Why do black women care for what dusties think ??
I'm very obsess with my type 4 hair. I love the texture, feel, volume and color of it. It took my 4th big chop to realize that straightening it is not what I desire. My hair fell out and got thin from straightening it. I feel so beyond sexy and proud to live my life as I was created. My hair is bra strap now and my goal is waist length.
Same here!
For me, my natural hair wasn’t healthy when I started trying to care for it. I never really saw my hair until I was 15. I always had braids or had it straightened. When I let my hair be coily, I didn’t know how to care for it so she broke a lot, was dry, and uneven. Plus just about every black person i knew had protective styles all the time to avoid doing their hair. I didn’t see what healthy 4c hair could look like. Fast forward 10 years and my hair is flourishing. I learned 90% of what I know about hair care and styling from CZcams. My hair is even, I undid my obsession with length and fell in love with having my hair in a heart shape. Trying to pull my hair down to make her look long by blow drying, braiding, twisting, etc. was killing her. I wouldn’t moisturize so she wouldn’t shrink and “ruin” the style. But natural hair is unique in that it can take on any form, any shape. It likes to be big, it defies gravity and that’s ok! When I first cut my hair until she was a big sideways heart…my whole world changed. Now it doesn’t matter if my twist outs are defined, undefined, frizzy, or whatever. I feel my hair is always beautiful and never “ruined” because she’s in a beautiful shape. I damaged my hair so much in the past trying to obtain an ideal that wasn’t for me. I let her be big now and now she thrives. I wish for others to find the same acceptance and love in their hair journey. ❤️ ❤️
I went out in town in a short fro today and cause i live in a predominantly white area, i felt like the few black people who saw me may have thought i wasnt representing them well. Even though im growing to love my hair i still feel like black people around me may think im embarrassing them and just wish it was represented more
As long as you love your hair that is all that matters half the people that wear wigs and weaves and not embrace what God the Father has given them they have a problem!
As long your hair is healthy that is all that matters. That is there own insecurities coming out. Stay true to you and who you are! You are beautiful
Feck what they think. What they think is not your problem
We don't care girl we all have our own issues. Do it for yourself first!
That's a them problem! Wear your hair proudly 🖤
I love seeing fros in public they draw attention and are beautiful. If they didn’t cause me so much breakage I would wear them too
I can only speak for myself. I always got made fun of my whole life because of my hair and my skin. My mom permed my hair so much I barely had hair left. I started my natural hair journey in 2015. I still didn't understand it until 2018 I would say. I wear my natural hair majority of the time. Soon I will start wearing wigs because I don't feel like doing my hair often. I love my natural hair. I just want to grow the the back of my hair because that part breaks off the most.
I love how your hair looks in the Pom Poms. Very cute style! I must have thick skin because every time someone said something to me about myself I would say to them, "So what." ex. If you say to me ,"You walk funny" I'd say "So what." I don't care about what people think. Even as a small child I didn't care about what people think. I'm a caring person, but I do not need validation from others.
I never hated my natural ( 4c short ) hair. I used to Loathe my relaxed hair. It was always damaged , when wet it was stringy. It hardly covered my ears. Then I knew it was purposely to look “less black” and avoid having “nappy” hair. That I hated. My hair journey, personally, brought me a lot of inner peace. I love & always have loved my hair. It’s so sad to see so many girls hate their hair because they don’t have a loose texture with long strands
Same as me!
Same for me, I hated it when I had to relax my hair. And it was my cousin who relaxed it, I was so irritated about relaxing and my mood must have confused her. Sorry sis😃.
My hair was continually cutting and I felt like I just came out from a chemotherapy. It WAS NOT working for me
However, it's a choice to relax or go natural, but I don't think we should hate it, I did get frustrated with my natural hair especially when I couldn't actually tell what I was doing or wasn't doing right. But I never hated it, and have no plans of going relaxed.
I even saw a length increase in my hair today, so happy but I am going to stay consistent with all I did and believe that aided my hair growth and retention
Same, I hated how I could do nothing with relaxed hair and it just didn’t look good with my full features😂
I used to hate it because I didn't know how to take care of it and it was just stuck at the same length so I ended up relaxing and eventually doing the big chop severally. However once I watched several CZcams channels on 4c hair and learnt how to take care of my hair, it has grown much longer and I've grown to love it
In my humble opinion I think girls that have locs are far more comfortable and satisfied with their hair. Think about it; extremely easy to manage therefore little time is spent on it get up and go. The length retention is high and because of the nature of locs u see the length better then loose hair (locs seem longer). I feel like I see loc girls wear their hair out more in a year then a loose natural. U constant see the change in locs then loose so u grow more confident. Ofc u hear people tired of locs but I feel like I hear the most « I hate my hair » from the 4c (loose) girlies while loc 4c girls are thriving with confidence.
My two cents from a newly micro loc’d 4c girly.
True. I don’t think the texture is the issue. It’s the poor length retention and forced unflattering protective styling (if using your own hair).
Partially true but locing it up is basically not wanting to see it become a fro. The sister lock thing which I think is really cute is like a way to get straight hair by just combing few strands together. I think the biggest issue is wanting length.
For me, growing up in the 80s as a child, I rarely got compliments on my natural hair. It was fine but dense and around armpit length most of my childhood. It was tightly coiled, and my mom hated taming it. I wore a lot of braided styles with beads and that kept my mom from having to do it a lot of times. My whole maternal family (mom's parents and siblings) except my grandfather and 1 uncle had jheri curls. I wanted one so bad, but my mom said no (which I'm thankful for now). I was only told my hair was pretty when it was straightened. It was long and flowing so that's what made it "pretty". I got a relaxer, not by choice, when I was 11 in 1991. It broke my hair off until I found a bomb ass beautician at 13. Rico had my hair long, thick and healthy. I got a bob at 14 and kept it that way until I was 17. I grew it out to wear an updo for my senior prom. I wore it about bra strap length until I was 23. Then I got a horrible chemical burn and said never again. I didn't even bother to transition. I just went to the barber shop and had it all shaved off! And I loved it!!! I wore a very low haircut until I was 25. Then I let it grow. My texture now is totally different from my childhood. It was around a 4b/4c as a child, but its 3c with a patch of 4a in the crown. I don't know why or how but it's just looser now. And it's almost tailbone length when straightened. In its curly state, it's at my waist. Headband wigs have people thinking I'm wearing a wig. 😒😒😒 I had on a headband with my hair down recently and a woman in line behind me at Target said "IDK why she's buying hair products knowing she's bald under that headband wig!" I took off my headband and put my hair in a high bun, with curls hanging down in the back. I actually showed my scalp and said " Some people had hair BEFORE the invention of lacefronts and headband wigs. You do know that right?" and turned around to look her dead on the face. She turned red as a beet! 🤣🤣🤣 I guess because I'm a brown woman I'm supposed to be bald because I can't grow hair longer than 3 inches. I'm 42, post menopausal and my hair is in its best health of my life. I do DIY hair oils for my massages every night, as well as my own hair products from prepoo to gel and every step in between.
I've finally fallen in love with my hair. Not because the texture changed. But because I finally learned it and how to care for it. I can feel it and know exactly which oil blend to use because it needs certain things. I have taken my time to love and care for it, and in return it's growing faster than I'd actually like for it to grow. I've started making individualized oil blends and other hair products for my family and friends specific hair needs and I'm beginning to see the difference in their hair as well! It's amazing what our hair can do with the proper care and products. Learning my hair has definitely been a journey. But I'm now at the middle of it, where you know what you're doing and it's paying off with visible results. It's not the end until I'm not on this earth in this physical body anymore. I'm only 42, so I'm looking for at least another 40 years with the journey of life. And I look forward to seeing what my hair will do in the future.
Thanks for this series and I look forward to seeing the future parts to it. I've learned alot from you and your hair journey as well. I stopped cutting my hair so much. Once I started caring for my ends better, I didn't need it and I retained so much more length that way!😊😊😊
Some people's genes are like that their hair gets looser as they get older. It's a real genetic trait it's not in your head. I think either 23nMe or Ancestry tells you if you have the trait. I think this is the case for people in my family.
Yes! I can’t wait for this series. I also wish we would talk more about what is considered “presentable” for kinky textured hair. Depending on cultures this can differ vastly but personally my family has always gave me a hard time because my hair never looked “done”. I do some simple chunky braids and mind my business but it looks “unkept”. I feel like this a noticeable pillar of natural hair resentment.
The question on why the title “natural hair journey” is so common is such an exciting and broad topic. The natural hair movement was inspiration for self love in its inception. If anyone remembers the OG hair CZcamsrs (early-mid 2000s). You know the journey was just women coming on CZcams and sharing what weird/new/helpful things happened w/ their hair. “big chop” and “hair journeys” trends grew quickly alongside the internet and with such new spread info brings shifts in our society and culture and perception of natural hair. I have so much more to say but I’ll save it, phew!
The presentable topic lord, older generations love to talk about presentable especially when it comes to hair. I'm a very leave my hair alone person. After I've styled it, unless it's out and I feel like people have got on me for that
@@KrissyFizzle Yes girl and funny enough a small portion of old-school natural hair ladies challenged this idea of presentable too. Idk where this stemmed from bc I see it subtly showing up in new-generation culture as well. Hrm
Yes, i think us 4c girls and women would love our hair more, if we collectively choose a day, week, or month, where we all walk out with our fros either shrunken or stretched. So, if your employer tries to send you home, your other bw coworkers can have your back...yall could probably sue for discrimination at that point lol. World afro day is Sept 15, but we could choose another day here in the USA to walk out with our afros.😍 Also, I've always said straight, short hair on a bw, especially when styled, is more acceptable to society then short afro textured hair.
Love this topic. Just started truly loving and embracing my natural hair last December and it’s wonderful. For me, this means no weaves or extensions, no neglecting my hair while it’s in a protective style, and not being lazy with moisturizing. We don’t have to be perfect. We all get As for effort. Natural hair isn’t hard to manage at all, but it can be if you don’t learn how to take care of it. Anything can be hard if you don’t put forth the effort required to learn a new skill.
I’m excited to watch because I am REALLLY struggling to love my natural hair 😢😢😢😢 I’m ready to big chop, get Locs, or almost anything bcuz I feel so defeated with it…. Then, it makes me feel stupid , and shameful for being so sad over something as vain as hair… but then it’s like that’s the thing bw are judged the most for no matter what, unless your hair fits a very specific and certain category. I sometimes just wish I had “get up and go hair”, and I know that statement is dumb which is why I wish and want my feelings about my hair to change. I think a lot of it is conditioning tbh… I big chopped in 2016!! I still have my days and my hair is back to where I started, when does it get better 😅
Don't be ashamed. It is a priority to you.
Here in Nigeria, hair isn't even thought by 99 percent from my observation.
And I don't talk that much about all the time I put in my hair because I would rarely find someone who relates, but it is important to me and I keep on putting efforts in what I can and the essential stuffs that are needed.
Steranda, you’re so eloquent in speech! I love how carefully you choose your words and still get your point across without being disingenuous!
Yes to a blog! I do think we’ve made a spectacle of our hair so it’s hard to “normalize” it. I just don’t want so much political or cultural attention. My hair is just what God gave me and I love it just for that reason. But once I wore an Afro and people would say “black power” 🙃. Lol, it’s just my hair
Stop bc I hate how wearing your hair in it's natural state is always seen as a political statement and not just wearing your hair like everyone else does 😭
i love that you open up these discussions about our natural hair !!
I think how we feel about our natural hair absolutely depends on how we were taught, and the things that were said to us as children, especially by women in our families. My experience was as follows.
My mom and her sisters would have hair care parties with us on weekends when all the moms had time. At least once a month we would have these get-togethers. Among my sisters and cousins, we had all hair types except pin straight (2B - 4C}. The only thing we were always told was that our hair was beautiful, and we were all in each other's hair. None of us had chemicals and it was just a matter of shampoo, conditioner, and leave-in or in some cases lotion and a ponytail or twisted style that was suited to girls our age. At home, our hair was shampooed once or twice a week depending on if our scalp was itchy. When I was 17 I let peer pressure get to me and snuck out and got a relaxer. The moment the process was over and my hair styled I knew I had made a mistake. I HATED my relaxed hair! It didn't even feel as though it belonged on my head. My parents were disappointed by my actions but when they saw how sad and hurt I was they knew that nothing they could do would make me feel any worse about what I had done. Three months later I allowed myself to be convinced that a different brand would be better so I hesitantly got a touch-up and that was the end of my relaxer experiment. I let my hair grow out for six months and then cut my waist-length hair off down to only six months of new growth. I had never seen my hair that short, but I was so happy to touch my hair and feel my natural texture that I didn't care about the new length.
I have never had any other race call me, nappy, headed or say anything bad about my hair. It was always other Black people that called me nappy headed, or African booty scratcher. just different derogatory terms. It was always other races that complemented me.
I love my kinky, tight, coarse hair. However, the amount of time and effort it takes to detangle, moisturize my hair is problematic for my lifestyle and my hair isn’t even that long but it’s HUGE in density. I work out 4-5 times a week and I sweat crazy in my scalp which causes irritation and redness so I have to wash my hair weekly. Caring for it in that frequency has become a pain 😅 so I’ve converted to wearing my hair stretched with heat as it doesn’t get as tangle and has become more manageable.
Girl..🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
How does the sweat work out with the heat stretching, does ur hair revert?
@@dominiquereece8545 hey! So I usually blow dry my hair out very well and either do mini twists or braids. I will wear a tight headband (since I tend to sweat mostly around my edges) and leave it on until after I shower. That way my roots stay flat and don’t swell up.
@@lovedbyYahuah ohh girl that's an idea thank you! Im going to try that. I workout at least 3-4 times a week and I sweat alot so this helps
@@dominiquereece8545 no problem! ☺️
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When I have spoke with a few different women who have a lot of shrinkage or 4c hair , they said their issue with their hair comes from the combo of their spending a long time detangling and styling for the style not to come out how they want or to shrinkage back up that same day or the next day. Which always turns into a whole convo about what was used , was the expectation of what they wanted realistic etc so this is like a really big conversation with so many moving parts I’m glad there is going to be a break down of a number of different things.
Loving my hair wasn’t really easy but once I got to figure out keep it moisturized what it liked and needed from me. As well as trying different things with it , it grew on me lol literally !
Love this, you touched a lot of topics that the olden black people should have thought about dealing with their childrens hair
I’ve been natural my whole life, and when I started doing my hair myself I was obsessed with length. I wanted it to grow and it did. The length was beautiful and I got complimented on it constantly. But I felt for ages that one, my hair was where my beauty came from (it wasn’t), and two, that it could only grow in protective styles (for me, that’s styles done with my natural hair). And I was aching to enjoy my natural hair instead of only having it out a certain time. It was causing me to treat my hair terribly.
A couple of years ago I cut my hair for the first time (curtain bangs) and I fell in love with it. I cut it into layers with face framing pieces afterwards. Then as I’ve grown more into myself as a person, I now wear my hair out 90% of the time in a no-heat twist out. I moisturise regularly, do protein treatments, and I actually enjoy my hair now. I don’t obsess over length anymore, but I go for health and enjoyment, and I actually feel more comfortable with my hair this way. My hair is now an accessory, and not my beauty itself.
I absolutely love this topic and your delivery. I think for the most part, we tend to shy away from our natural hair 1-is because our hair is not the norm per se (not like the other races - standing out is difficult for some people and they are only comfortable fitting in and 2-because of the extra time required to manage our hair (we live in a fast-paced, microwave, want-it-now society, and 3-because of what Hollywood calls beautiful. Heck, people are having surgeries (BBL) just to meet the qualifications of how others define beauty. I have been natural for about 20 years. Are there times that I wish I could just wake up and run a comb through my hair and go? Are there times that I wish I could just hop in the shower, shampoo my hair, run a comb through it and go? Of course, but I have to step back and remind myself of my hair texture and embrace my God-given coils. As much as I love natural hair, I love to keep mine in some type of style. I feel like any hair texture that is unkempt is undesirable and unattractive.
I love natural hair, even my own .....EXCEPT when I'm washing it....which starts me fretting about it not really growing (or looking like it doesn't), or how I can't really wear my hair out because I get thousands of knots (I live in a dry environment btw), and how much it shrinks (oh it shriiiinnnnkkksss), and such like. So I wear it in two braids and keep it covered most of the time, but I love seeing all the natural curls out there and wish I could (really) join them. But even at my worse, I don't yearn for straight hair. Nothing wrong with straight hair....it just ain't me.
PS: I would definitely read your scripts. I like videos, but I love words! All the best.
This is exactly like me. I can’t stand wash days because my hair is prone to knotting, even after I detangle. I bought a detangling brush a couple of weeks ago so I’ll see how that works. I keep my hair in mini braids and it does wonders😊
I'm actually so excited for the upcoming videos. I definitely feel like this would elevate your channel and bring a different side of you to us. On my perspective, I have always been teased about my hair texture, right on middle school like you did. In Portugal, the diversity pool when I was young was a bit lower. Whoever had 4c hair or natural hair was deemed "Unkept" or "Unmanageable". As of today, now in London, I am finger detangling only, no more brushes, rocking my natural everyday, trying to understand and accept what my heritage left for me. It's a process. To wipe out all the negative connotations about your identity. It's a process.
I’m actually love and embrace my hair. And I’m happy to be natural after being relaxed for so long. Thanks for doing this series.
One reason I feel like natural hair is "hard to manage" is bc a lot of people are obsessed with their hair looking presentable which is passed down from older generations usually and parents and stuff
And another thing, with how people talk about hair textures and texturism. Bc my niece has 4c hair I think? And my hairs a bit more curly than hers and I've noticed her point out how curly my hair is and I think it's so sad bc it's bc of how my sister has talked about her hair, acting like it was so hard to manage and do and wouldn't do what she wanted it to. And so she's picked up on this and so she most likely (I hope not) will grow up to glorify textures that seem "better" than her own. And also the fact my sister relaxed her hair bc "it would be easier to do" 🙄 and now she's having to grow it back bc it all broke off.
But another thing texturism also ties into colorism so if you're darker skinned and have shorter natural hair you're more likely to be bullied about it compared to if you were lighter skinned and had short hair.
And also it's the already set masculinization of darker skinned women so if you have shorter hair it makes it seem worse for you
I didn’t like my hair or was frustrated with it when I went natural because it was hard for me to style it. I didn’t know how to take care of it from 2016 to 2020. With being in quarantine that’s when I found the balance on how to properly take care of it.
I love that you're starting this series! I've worn my hair natural for about 4 and half years now and I love it (trust me there was a time I didn't). I often wonder why it's so hard for us to love our natural hair. I've honestly been more and more inspired and empowered to be that inspiration for others to love their natural hair. Looking forward to more of your vids.
Commenting after several months, hoping you’ll continue these types on videos. I love having these conversations!
Yess! When ever I wear my short natural hair in it’s natural state I always get some backhanded comments or looks. When it’s manipulated into a looser style that’s when I get compliments and pleasant looks. Lol the hair length discrimination is real especially when you have 2-6”s of hair
Our hair is definitely something to celebrate!
I love your two buns your hair is so long and thick it looks like two puffs 😍😍
Great intro video. Excited to see the rest of the series.
We are a peculiar group that I try to understand why we tend come down on ourselves we have stop 🛑 doing it a good topic
Your hairrrrr 😩😭❤ it looks so cute and pretty 🥺❤
Hey Natural Academics. I hit the 👍 as soon as the video started based off of a few videos I’ve seen in the past. Glad you’re devoting time to this topic (I’m personally exhausted trying to convince our community that natural Black beauty IS beautiful). But I support beautiful women like you who do. Side note: your 👂 shape???? Please don’t hide them…only extremely insecure ppl point out differences that’s not a big deal at all. Your are a natural beauty (but I’m sure you already know that😊). So your question/topic of video….I say DENIAL. That’s the main issue. We claim that our desire to wear straight hair isn’t influenced by outside forces. Also, our subconscious mind is very sneaky. It controls us even when we aren’t aware. White supremacists knew this. That’s why we grew up bombarded with commercials, shows promoting European beauty. The media is only one of MANY tools that have been used for centuries to indoctrinate our self hatred. We then pass it on to our daughters and sons.
Lastly….yes we ARE THE CHOSEN ONES. Christianity (another White supremacy tool) has lied to us. All the famous ancient stories were about BLACK/DARK people. We’ve been sitting in churches all of our lives thinking those ppl were European. That’s a different video lol.
Keep inspiring and teaching!
I love watching these videos. Can’t wait for pt.2!!!!
Yes, yes, and yes! I loved this!
Beautiful hair like yours is like one of the best racing cars. Maybe not the easiest - but really wow! You are so beautiful 💖
For sure. I think towards the end of elementary school/middle school I really did not like my hair, especially since my siblings and other family members had long relaxed hair and I was the only one with short hair. People would also point that out so that didn’t help.
I’m here for this!
Thank you for this video. It was very refreshing today, especially with the current discussions surrounding
natural hair
I love hair.I always have, but I love all textures and lengths even though my favorite length is the longer the better, the texture isn't as important as the length. I admire long hair on both women and men. As for braids I like 1 braid or 2 braids on either sex. I grew up in the 60's and 70's and we wore our hair in various textures and styles: straightened, natural, and relaxed was common. No ever said anything about natural hair being a problem.I was around all races as well as Blacks and it wasn't an issue. I love wearing my hair natural and I always have. Do I enjoy it straighten too? I use to but relaxers damage my hair and if I straighten my hair I'd rather a temporary straightening. But i just love the natural curl patterns in my natural hair and I think it's easier for me to style and maintain in its natural state.I've worn my hair very short (shave off) and weaved to my butt. I got compliments on either style. Healthy hair is the most important thing to me now. Thanks for discussing this.
Difficulty is only a problem when it comes to natural hair
I didn’t like my relaxed her. It was okay at first but I grew to hate it as I went to middle school & high school. I used to be jealous of the Hispanic girls and White girls because their hair looked fuller and longer. In my graduation high school photo there’s literally a gap in my hair. It just looks weird.
Tangles and breakage and shrinkage I don't think our woes are in our head. Most other races of people do not have to worry about their hair tangling and breaking off at the rate black women's hair does and the single strand knots that always have to be cut off. I feel like lying that there is no reason to have issues with our hair or that there is not issue is also dishonest. I don't use chemicals and haven't most of my life but I totally understand why people use wigs and weaves. If one can't braid which is a lot of people than outside of a puff ponytail or wash n gos which don't last. Plus people want length.
Happy Wednesday 🙂
hii I love your outfit and hair style
Girl, You’re the revolution Thanks for that subject ! ✨
Non black people usually think afro hair is cool unless their racists lol its blackistan that puts down kinky afros tbh. Kinky hair is gorgeous
I love it
I don’t hate the texture as much as I hate the length. It’s so hard to grow.
not at all. the reason why majority of black people have short hair is simply because we don’t know how to take care of our hair properly.
on tv we mostly see people with straight hair or loose curls but we don’t really see kinky hair so that’s maybe one of the reason why we lack so much knowledge about our hair. But I am here to explain our hair and how to grow your hair!
most humans grow hair at the same rate 1/2 inch per month the reason why other races have longer hair is because they have slicker hair which is less prone to dryness and breakage than kinkier hair which allows them to retain more length with less effort and their hair apears longer because it’s straight our hair shrinks which make it seem short.
our hair is naturally dry
so for our hair to grow is to moisture it and put it in protective style ( braids ,cornrows ,twists) for length retention! No extensions tho.
if you look at tribes in Africa : chad , Ethiopia , Somali and gambia they all use something that moisturises their hair and than put it in protective styling for weeks or even month.
The most important thing to know on how to grow you natural hair is your hair porosity because if you know your hair porosity than you’ll know what products will work the best for you you have 3 types of hairporosity : high, medium , low
“High-porosity hair means that the cuticle has large gaps allowing moisture to enter seamlessly, however, the hair is unable to retain the moisture that is able to penetrate the hair fiber.”
If you have low porosity hair, it means the structure of your hair doesn't easily allow moisture to be absorbed into your hair shaft. This can make it harder for water to saturate your hair when it's washed
With medium or normal porosity hair, the cuticles aren't too close together, but aren't too open either. This allows moisture to penetrate easily, and it also makes it easier to retain moisture for a longer period of time.
if you figured your hair porosity I recommend to search which products you can use xx
I hate my natural hair because I literally cannot do anything to it. Like it’s extremely thick and course. It’s not the texture that I hate. It’s the way that nothing works, it’s always dry & I can’t lay it down to save my life. I get charged more money because my hair is thick. My hair doesn’t curl, it VICIOUSLY tangles together. My hair in it’s natural state is unhealthily because of fairy knots and the fake looking curls which are really knots and tangles. I feel like o don’t have regular hair. I tried ti watch all the videos. I tried to figure out how to keep it moisturized. I tried to find a stylist that wasn’t going to charge me more. I can’t do nothing but blow it out and wear protective styles.
you might have high porosity hair.
I recommend to do a pre poo either with aloe Vera or hot oil treatments
any updates on making the series sis?
Part two? :)
Nah I love my 4c.
Indigenous aboriginal native copper colored people of Turtle Island the Niiji were already in the area known as the Americas misidentified as African American/black/negro. The term black is a social construct status meaning non-existent or dead under the color of law/black codes and has no legal standing. It's a color not a race.
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