Everclear is the anthem of all us broken home kids. Thank you for giving us something to turn the volume up all the way and be alone growing up. Teaching us lessons our parents couldn't preparing us to have our own kids.
I had a great childhood and I have 4 girls now and I want them to have a greater childhood than me. I admire you for wanting the same for your kids even having a terrible childhood yourself. Hats off to you
Life isn't fair as we know. Sorry for your pain. The only positive is you are likely a better parent as you know exactly what NOT to do and be. Your kids will be richer for it.
This song here ✌️❤️ I loved this song back in the day - now that I have kids 🎶”Promises mean everything, when you’re little and the world is so big🎶 - 5 months ago I lost my husband to Lung/Brain Cancer/Covid - our two kids who are only 12/14 .... they hear me listening and singing this song to them - “Please Don’t Tell Me Everything Is Wonderful Now” ........
@@mnw-butterflywolfe8035 I'm so sorry about your husband. And I'm sorry your kids lost their father. That's more pain than anyone should have to bear. I wish I could give you a hug.
This song still holds true not "someday", but today. Why? The world is still wonderful now because you are still here with us. Always remember anyday can be a new years day, all it takes is one person. One person to start the movement and any day could be your new years day. All life has value so live it up and make a difference in this wonderful life.
I grew up in a loving home, free from domestic violence and family strife. My parents were always supportive and kind. So why does this song hit me so hard? The lyrics are deceptively simple, yet they manage to bring a grown man like me to tears. It's a testament to the power of a well-crafted song.
I ran with 4 kids from an abusive marriage of 29 years. We were homeless without a penny and just the clothes on our back. Thank God for food stamps, child care assistance and housing! I attended nursing school and was able to provide for my children from that time on. My son, Greg, was 17 at the time. He joined the Navy and after he was released and came home, he got burned all over his body. That threw him into a mental illness. After that, he listened to your songs nonstop. Especially this one and Father of Mine. Your story is our story. During abuse, I wasn't allowed to help him. After abuse, we cried together whenever we listened to this song. He just had his 37th birthday and we listened to this again. Can't get it out of my head! It means so much! I am now a nurse for young adults trying to get started in the world and have history of abuse and mental illness. I will be playing this for them all the time. God Bless You for.sharing your pain with those.who share it! Thank you and we love you! We also had the joy of a welfare Christmas!
'Wonderful' and 'Father of Mine' make me want to be the best dad possible to my 2 kids. Thank you, Everclear. You made a lot of people not pass on to their kids the same crap they had to go through.
I was 9 when my mom and dad separated. My dad died less than a year later. I shut the world out. Counseling didn't help and I was recommended to be institutionalized. It took everything to crawl out from that pain. I've married the most wonderful woman and raised 3 of the best children anyone could hope for. This song came so close to that pain. I'm 60 years old now and crying like I've opened the box I've locked away so many years ago.
My heart breaks for kids in broken homes. I was raised in the most loving house...Parents married til death did they part. I cant even imagine what the pain must be like. I'm not sure why I felt compelled to comment but God Bless You.
@@kevingotchal1992 i come from a broken home. its so hard for me to imagine a home with loving parents. i thought what i lived was what everyone else had... the abuse, lies, neglect...
I’ve been a pastor for many years now and tell the men in my church that the great thing they can do for their kids is come home every night and love their wife. Once you have children, it’s no longer about you…It’s setting an example for them. I hope and pray your pain has diminished over the years. There is a God and He loves you!
When my ex wife said she was leaving this song was always in my head because I could see it being acted out in my 3 kids. It killed me watching their world shatter and I couldn’t stop it
"I don't want to meet your friends and I don't want to start over again. I just want my life to be the same just like it used to be!" That line gets me every time.
This whole song describes my childhood memories ... I was a straight A honor roll student who PURPOSELY got detention everyday just I didn't have to go home ... funny thing now is why didn't anyone ask why I was doing it on purpose
Divorced Dad here....knowing how it affected my kids....literally hard to live with...Izzy, Nicole, Vinny...I'm sorry about what happened. I Love You, Dad
I'm 50.. *FIFTY* and this song still bring tears to my eyes. I think the hurt from vengeful parents never goes away, even when they're dead. :( That's a big reason I never had kids of my own.
I’m now 36 and I still listen to this song and it takes me back to my childhood. They hit the nail on the head. We carry that sh*t our entire lives. Let’s not do the same thing to our babies. They deserve better. Love this song and love the meaning of it.
Yeah for real.. I feel like the culture I grew up in, the locals, all told themselves to keep believing things were wonderful instead of allowing/accepting that they weren't always. It's as if so many people didn't allow themselves to process their emotions. They told themselves to feel fine or they were wrong.. I mean, who can be strong 100% of the time? I think Jack Johnson said it better, "I need this, old train to break down. Oh please just, let me please break down!" Ya break down. Ya fix it 'nd move on. Damn. I'm really 31 already.
@@Swizzle62 Perhaps instead of quoting know nothings like "Jack Johnson" you should quote the Creator of the world, seeing he knows best, seeing as He is the Creator :-) 14And it will be said, “Build it up, build it up, prepare the way, take every obstacle out of the way of My people.” 15For thus says the One who is high and lifted up, who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy: “I dwell in a high and holy place, and with the oppressed and humble in spirit, to restore the spirit of the lowly and revive the heart of the contrite. 16For I will not accuse you forever, nor will I always be angry; for then the spirit of man would grow weak before Me, with the breath of those I have made.…
@@seedofabraham8284 but it's poetic and I liked it. Don't speak for me, speak for yourself. That's a nice passage too. Not sure where it fits in this context. My point was about others who wouldn't allow themselves to show weakness/emotion much at all. Can you paraphrase the core message in your quote and tell me how it relates to not quoting know-nothings? I'm not sure exactly what you mean.
As a divorced father with shared custody of two young boys, this song really gets me every time...It's a reminder that as adults sometimes we need to just stop talking and listen to what our kids are saying and feeling. Our rationalizations and justifications are not what they need to hear, they just want to let you know how they are feeling and they want you to hear them. Thank you Art.
WRONG! Listen to the Creator of marriage the God of the whole earth, Jesus Christ. Do not listen to kids, parents need to grow up and turn to the only one with wisdom, the LORD Jesus Christ.
The true Son of God is Jesus Christ, he is the child that you must seek forgiveness from, God bless the simple who turn to Jesus for salvation and forgiveness from their sins.
It's great to hear from someone I'm relating to this song with in 2020. I've been separated from the mother of my children, we also have two boys. 3 year old Twins and I can see the effect it's having on them during our exchanges when they're barely getting to spend time with me. And the clear animosity between their mother and I, no matter how much we try to hide it they can see right through the BS
I get a lot of crap for my devotion to Everclear. I hear the "sellouts" the "overrated" and all that, but for me, Art Alexakis spoke for a generation of kids that had been lied to in a variety of ways, mainly by the people they trusted the most. I can't listen to this song without breaking down. Everclear is the voice of my time growing up while constantly being let down by the people who were supposed to protect me. Thank you, Art, for encapsulating our pain and giving us your music as therapy.
I'll bet whole theaters full of people cried every single night when they played this song live. This is the kind of song that moves people to tattoo lyrics on their bodies. It's an achingly personal deeply authentic cry of pain that millions of people feel is telling their own truth. Sung with determination it is fiercely life-affirming. God bless Alex for putting these feelings into song.
As a kid I used to fall asleep to the sounds of my parents screaming at each other. I knew it wasn't right but sort of just accepted it. It wasn't until I was about 20/21 when I was going on a nostalgia binge and listening to music from my childhood. This song came on. I just stared into the distance for the entire first verse, then it hit me. That fucking line. "I just don't understand how you can smile with all those tears in your eyes and tell me everything is wonderful now." I broke down. Just started sobbing. I would often come home after school or from a friends house to find my mom on the couch, obviously crying but hiding it, and she would just smile and act like everything was normal. She'd ask how my day was and give me hugs and all I'd want was to just go and seclude myself in my room.
I had this problem too... but then my parents divorced when i was a teen and it got so much worse. Dad wasnt there and the fighting with the new guy started but he wasnt dad so didnt give a shit about me at all... id give anything to live back in the comforting house with just the sounds of my own parents fighting with each other. At least they were both there and mine.
I'm at work, I had to hide for a sec so ppl wouldn't see my tears for you . You're not alone love I always think of unhappy homes during this "stay home" quarantine shit.☹️. God be with us
There is no song my childhood relates to more than this one. "Promises mean everything when you're little and the world is so big." Heard so many promises as a child, that always filled me with excitement only to break my heart later. Will never hurt my nieces, nephews, or kids that way, ever.
Same. My dad dropped my brother and me off at Raging Water in SoCal. When he picked us up, we went home to a different house and my mom had moved out but didn’t tell us. I was 10 and my dad left my brother and I alone for a week, and, yet again, didn’t tell us
Everclear is one of the only bands I can relate to on a personal level. My parents would always fight when I was a child, and people wonder why I’m socially awkward. Even the bit about not being excited about going home after school I can relate to, especially when I was in middle and high school.
My nephew used to scream this song as much as his little lungs would let him. Now he’s 23 and suffers terrible from depression and I just wish I could make him realize how wonderful he is. He grew up with terrible parents and my mom and granny and I have been around through the good and bad. Jacob never forget how wonderful you are
I remember listening to this song in 2005 after being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer that left me disabled at 14. all my friends left me, was rough but had good music to get me through
This song is surprisingly apropos for an Awful Diagnosis, even though that's not what it was written for. "I just want my life to be the same - just like it used to be!"
I remember when they came to play for us while I was deployed to Afghanistan and they were hanging out in front of the stage for hours so that anyone could walk up to talk to them. You could tell that they sincerely wanted to meet every one of us. Very relatable and super nice.
Damaged people are some of the most creative geniuses. Everything they write, paint, draw, or sing about shines through as beautifully,brutally honest. We're still here, listening, years later, because we know they "get it".
This song will always take me back to my childhood. Thank you Everclear for being the words a lot of us couldn't speak as kids. For being that hug we needed through our headphones.
This is my first song and band. That made me feel better when I was being abused. When I was kid. ART is a amazin person and I learned he went thru what did. So I understood why this song hit me hard. At 10 yrs old and at 24 yrs. Hell I'm crying at scream are so amazing.
Amen baby! I used to listen to this in a Roca Jacks coffee house after panhandling for coffee change.. I was 14 and homeless in the middle of winter in Saskatchewan Canada.. very cold.. and I'd sit there and listen to this on repeat for hours crying quietly so nobody around me would ask me questions.. I never was so alone and this song brought me a sad joy and made me feel less alone and less abandoned.. still makes me cry and smile 20 years later..
@@tank6561 You're comment made me cry as soon as I read it. I'm 35 now but when I young me my little sister and brother were between 4 houses and missed a lot of school. Sometimes having no water and light for months and whatever food and services the school could help with. GOD BLESS you and thank you for sharing.
Im 41 and am just now getting a stable place to live, after 4 decades of trauma It means everything to me, even if i cant feel it yet Thanks complex PTSD Love your kids I had basically nothing for 4 decades, dont have kids if you cant handle your own problems
EXACTLY! And don't use having a kid to try to save your relationship. Wait until you are mature enough and can financially support a child. I feel bad for the places forcing women to give birth. Lots of kids will have to go through this at no fault of their own.
This is such an amazing song. I cry so hard every time because I'm divorced and I think about how it makes my kids feel as relating to the lyrics. I love you boys and even though you are grown now, I'm sorry for everything you went through. God bless you
They know..... I'm 53..... My Father left when I was 6 years old.... my memory of him is watching him beat my Mother in the Kitchen and wishing I could protect her.... still haunts me to this very day. That being said, my Mother will ALWAYS be my HERO!
Hey you...... is it wonderful now? If not, hang in there. It gets better. Life will become more beautiful than you ever imagined, if you can just get to the other side of the chaos. I spent my adolescence jamming to this- really struggling with mental health issues stemming from a broken home and abusive psychotic father. I'm 33 this year- heavy shit is going on in the world- but I'm so thankful I decided to stay. My children are my light, and although we struggle, everything is wonderful now ❤ it was all worth it. You're worth it. Hang in there, kid.
This song came out the same year that my parents got divorced and was something I really bonded with. A million years later, it still reminds of the devastation I felt, but now I remember how I was able to overcome that profound loss. At some point in your life, for no fault of your own, you are going to go through hell and your only choice is going to be to grow or die. I can promise you,, for every hell I have endured, for everyone loved one lost, choosing to grow has made me happier and healthier. You got this. I know it's hard, but please know that I love you for the strength you've shown to make it this far
Mandy Morales The inbetween non-stop fighting during a divorce happening. I'll never forget the terrible feeling of coming home and my parents were still screaming at each other.
Mandy Morales My father loved to drink and come home to take his anger out on my mother. As a little kid, I still stood up to him but got a beaten. I tried to think that everything is wonderful.
This song kept me from killing myself when I was 14 and homeless in Saskatchewan Canada.. in the middle of winter when it was -30! and my mom and step dad wouldn't let me come home for a night to get out of the cold so I slept in a disney princess sleeping bag every night either in a parkade/car park or on a park bench being hassled by heroin junkies for the bench.. this song is the reason I'm alive.. someone felt the same as me.. this song is so relatable to me.. dont ever tell me anything could ever be wonderful ever again.. lots of love and happy thoughts to anyone reading my story..
Heard a snippet of this song on the radio the other day and remembered how much i loved it. Came back to play the video and then I remembered why I hadn't listened to it for so long. Been crying for 20 minutes.
2022 this song popped into my head. I’m 30 now, ya know this one hits right in the feels. I can’t believe I still have every word of this sad old song memorized. What’s that tell ya?
I'm 30 now... this song makes me cry. I didn't think about the words 20 years ago singing along to it on the radio and how I was living it. I'm still trying to find my peace today and the panic attacks still haven't stopped. Keep smiling with those tears in your eyes❤️
"Promises mean everything ehen you're little and the world is so big" Remember this, when you are grown and you are fortunate enough to be trustedwith small children. Peace and thanks.
I close my eyes when I get too sad I think thoughts that I know are bad Close my eyes and I count to ten Hope it's over when I open them I want the things that I had before Like a Star Wars poster on my bedroom door I wish I could count to ten Make everything be wonderful again Hope my mom and I hope my dad Will figure out why they get so mad Hear them scream, I hear them fight Say bad words that make me want to cry Close my eyes when I go to bed And I dream of angels that make me smile I feel better when I hear them say Everything will be wonderful someday Promises mean everything when you're little And the world's so big I just don't understand how You can smile with all those tears in your eyes Tell me everything is wonderful now Please don't tell me everything is wonderful now I go to school and I run and play I tell the kids that it's all okay I like to laugh so my friends won't know When the bell rings I just don't want to go home Go to my room and I close my eyes I make believe that I have a new life I don't believe you when you say Everything will be wonderful someday Promises mean everything when you're little And the world is so big I just don't understand how You can smile with all those tears in your eyes When you tell me everything is wonderful now I don't want to hear you tell me everything is wonderful now I don't want to hear you say That I will understand someday No, no, no, no I don't want to hear you say We both have grown in a different way No, no, no, no I don't want to meet your friends And I don't want to start over again I just want to my life to be the same Just like it used to be Some days I hate everything I hate everything Everyone and everything Please don't tell me everything is wonderful now I don't want to hear you tell me everything is wonderful now
omg. i have missed this song. this song was the voice that i never had as a kid of divorced parents. i was like 19, a cutter, druggie,sex addict when it came out. it help me have a voice to my feelings and really changed my life
It was a different song in our car, but same statement with every bone in her body holding back the tears. My parents never split but she never wanted us to witness their fights and the pain. Your absolutely right.
Little me getting off the school bus dreading to come home knowing what awaits me on the other side of the door. Now I’m 33 with 5 kids happily married , proof is you are not a product of your environment if you don’t allow it to be.
Man, this song gets me every time.. I grew up with seeing domestic violence and my parents fighting so much I would shake at night in my bed hearing the screams of my own mother getting hit. As a kid you really don't get it or know why it's happening you just pray and hope everything will end up okay or ... wonderful as this man says... It effected how I did in school and my emotions I still to this day cant control... Its sad to know a lot of other people have went through the same things I did.. I still pray for any child that deals with domestic violence, divorce, even just arguing and having a dysfunctional family just know... you're not alone and I'm always here if anyone needs someone to vent too...
Yes thank you for sharing and letting people know they aren't alone, I grew up with a very abusive step father l, he went after my mother one time when I was 10 and I got in between them and he grabbed me up and choked e instead, so I knocked him over the head with a lava lamp, the closest thing to grab, and ran out of the house, the cops came and nothing happened he was in the military and was always buddy buddy with the cops. I wish I could say that was the only time that happened but it just got worse until I moved out at 17 and got into drugs like oxys and then morphine and then heroin, I'm 27 now and have been clean coming up 5 years, thanks for letting me vent and to everyone going through similar stuff or that had gone through things like this it can and will get better just stay strong and focus on what you can control, you can control your own life, concentrate on getting through school and away from the abuse and seek help there is help for people that go through things like this in the form of therapy or just venting on CZcams lol but things will get better and can be wonderful if you stay positive and work hard
+Melissa Stewart I really appreciate your comment. Thank you for sharing! This is one of my favorite songs. I love the message. What it means to me is that there are times when life really is not all that great, but you can still make the most of it - just do not give up. Case in point is one of my favorite shows, Jericho from 2006. The final episode of season 1 this song was playing in the background during a flashback. Very telling song for a very powerful episode. I agree with you Melissa and everyone - this song is special to me too as it helps me to remember about being happy and overcoming things like abuse and dysfunction.
"Promises mean everything when you're little and the world is so big." dang it that really hits different when you have kids of your own... I'm gonna go home and hug them.
As a child who had divorced parents and an abusive alcoholic stepdad and drug addict mother this song was always a release and I still love it to this day.
I hope that you changed your life because of what you grew up with. There is nothing wrong about growing up like that but you got to man up and be different and let it drive you.
Seems like it someone wants to be a nonconformist these days they need to say they were the mentally and emotionally healthy child of two married parents living within the same house, who had a happy and fulfilling youth.
I was born in 1962 and turned 62 July 2024.ear buds in blasting that music and locked the world outside. The late 70s 80'S 90's were the best. Many great memories. Wish my parents were still here miss them everyday. I'm still here August 2024!!!!
I can’t stop crying. I grew up poor in Los Angeles and I would hear my dad hit my mom. She would cry for help but I was 8 and scared and didn’t know what to do. My brother pulled his eyelashes out from the stress. My dad would even hit the dog when he tried to protect us. My mom named him Alex. He was a very good dog and would watch Sesame Street with me. I wish I could’ve fixed everything. I won’t ever understand someday. They were adults and should’ve treated us better. What really makes me cry is the fact that I looked like the blonde girl as a child
hands down one of the most powerful songs ever written. I've never connected More powerfully or deeply to any other work of art in my life. its like the absolute truth of this experience distilled into the perfect words, the perfect cadence, and the perfect emotion. I don't want to meet your "friend" and I don't wanna start over again I just want my life to be the same just like it used to be. Some days, I hate everything. I hate everything. Everyone and everything. PLEASE don't tell me everything is wonderful now.
I'm not the only one? I don't even know how this song makes me feel. It's a sadness, mixed with joy, emptiness, fulfillment. This really seems to be a 'coming of age' song to me.
the moon just behind in the city at night, it is difficult not to feel like a derelict, some grumbling mountain of old, dirty, mismatched clothes scratching at his sores and muttering unshaven thoughts. someone loved that man once. a mother, perhaps even a father, knew him at his beginning, dwelt with him long enough to give him a name which everyone, perhaps even he, has now forgotten. this vision is the place where my heart has dwelt since that november day when the clouds sobbed out their souls to anoint us both. i for the first time, you for the last. no man, no woman, no child can truly forgive god for taking away those dear, warm bits of memory that hang as ripe fruit in the branches of the tree of each life, all lives. some of us lose faith, others lose hope, still others never look inside to see the wreckage they’ve let grief make of their hearts. yet, god is not the villain, nor is grief, nor are we. god is just the mender of souls, grief is his apprentice, and we are students who have but a brief time to understand our lessons. it has taken far too long for me to know how to look up into the night sky and see the moon, to understand that its light is your love. its face the changing nature of your mood and advice. it is in standing between the city buildings and looking up that i understand that the moon is somewhere, even if i cannot see it. the moon is always shining, if not on me, then on that man asleep on a bench, dreaming of reunion with those who shared his beginning. 09/01
I like how this music video is shot really bright, it definitely helps convey that no matter how things may look on the outside you never know what kind of shit people could be dealing with on the inside.
The cathartic release of pain and then hope for better futures that this song and video provide are a monumental gift to all of us that were and are hurt or neglected. You might be the very first one in generations to stop the cycle of hurt, thus sparing not only your children but your descendants of the long climb out of the well just to get to a more normal place in life. Not to preach, but Joseph in the Bible faced this and more, and saved his entire family’s lives because he just kept going.
I love the song's emotion and the kid's reaction to their parent's separation. I never saw the video until recently and wish I hadn't, but the song is still as good as it ever was. The other comments about this being a broken home kid's anthem is so true and it touches my heart even after 5 decades.
That is the beauty of the music from the 90's. Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Everclear, The Cure, Soundgarden all have lyrics that flay flesh from muscle but with a beat that makes you want scream and mosh your guts out. It's one of the secrets why the music from then was so fucking powerful. It's a beautiful gore crisis of the senses....
This is about as deep as a song can get. Everyone wants to be able to turn back the clock to a time they can never have back. We really have to learn to take nothing to granted, live in the moment and appreciate what we have.
+TheNumberOneGuyDude nobody cares what your musical interests are. Funny thing is you clicked on this video though. So if Everclear is Nickelback, then you like Nickelback. Or something like that, but really your comment has no point.
The end of the video when Art wipes away tears says it all. I’m 47 and the song hits made a hard every time. I had a shitty childhood as well and often wondered when I was a kid why everything in my life was so fucked up while everyone else seemed to have it so good. There was never a good answer for that the best advice I always got was don’t stress over what could’ve been appreciate what was move forward and make your life happen. And that’s exactly what I have done my son will never know the pain that I felt growing up just like the other Everclear song.
This song came out when I was a kid and my parents where going through a very bad divorce. Would listen to it constantly. Mom left and didn’t see her again for 20years. She meant the world to me then. She didn’t think the same for me. Now I’m 36, married to the most amazing woman and have the most loving child. Now they’re my world and living my best life. I can truly say, things are wonderful now. Cheesy but true. Lol
I would always listen to this song growing up when I was sad. I moved around a lot and I had music to turn to, no friends. Music makes you feel not alone.
I was one of those kids. My kid became one of those kids even though I vowed to never put him through that. He's truly better off now, but it still hurts. This song, as much as I love it, still stings my soul.
Shockingly real and musically overwhelming. The song structure I can't even imagine what that was like to write... just an epic creation. Stuck in my head as top 10 in a lifetime...
This song came on randomly a few years ago, I was just a Freshman in college, and for some reason tears just welled up inside me. I didnt really know why, it was just a moment of sheer despair and weakness that I can't explain. God it's a great song
I dedicate this song to all 4 of my amazing boys. You have learned life,and u learned tje hard way. But you have become the most perfect young men. I love you, Mom.
I have this Song on my Now 5 CD I was Listening to it Earlier Today I love Everclear and I just think that Art Alexakis is a Great Guy and he's an Incredible Musician I can totally relate to this Guy since I thought about Listening to Most of these Songs about the Singer's Life and what he had went to when he was Young I went through the same thing he went through I thought Listening to his Songs so they can help me get through my Life (Past and Present) Art Alexakis is an interesting and Incredible Guy since he grew up in L.A. Santa Monica and I grew up in San Bernardino/Highland since we're both from Southern California we can totally relate to each other
Everclear is the anthem of all us broken home kids. Thank you for giving us something to turn the volume up all the way and be alone growing up. Teaching us lessons our parents couldn't preparing us to have our own kids.
I cry because I suffered terribly as a child, but now I do everything in my power to make my two sons feel loved and secure!
You do that because you are a REAL man! Hats off for breaking the cycle
Same buddy. But we are no longer in that place. So theres hope to feel happy again.
I had a great childhood and I have 4 girls now and I want them to have a greater childhood than me. I admire you for wanting the same for your kids even having a terrible childhood yourself. Hats off to you
Life isn't fair as we know. Sorry for your pain. The only positive is you are likely a better parent as you know exactly what NOT to do and be. Your kids will be richer for it.
Me too buddy. Me too
One of the wisest quotes ever said, "Promises mean everything, when you're little and the world is so big."
This song here ✌️❤️ I loved this song back in the day - now that I have kids 🎶”Promises mean everything, when you’re little and the world is so big🎶 - 5 months ago I lost my husband to Lung/Brain Cancer/Covid - our two kids who are only 12/14 .... they hear me listening and singing this song to them - “Please Don’t Tell Me Everything Is Wonderful Now” ........
@@mnw-butterflywolfe8035 I'm so sorry about your husband. And I'm sorry your kids lost their father. That's more pain than anyone should have to bear. I wish I could give you a hug.
PREACH!!!
@@mnw-butterflywolfe8035 marry me
This song still holds true not "someday", but today. Why? The world is still wonderful now because you are still here with us. Always remember anyday can be a new years day, all it takes is one person. One person to start the movement and any day could be your new years day. All life has value so live it up and make a difference in this wonderful life.
I grew up in a loving home, free from domestic violence and family strife. My parents were always supportive and kind. So why does this song hit me so hard? The lyrics are deceptively simple, yet they manage to bring a grown man like me to tears. It's a testament to the power of a well-crafted song.
probably because it's from the heart. somewhere out there a kid is living this life and you are empathetic to it. which is the right way to be.
Men don’t cry
I grew up in a loving home also and dang, every time I hear this now I break down sobbing now.
I ran with 4 kids from an abusive marriage of 29 years. We were homeless without a penny and just the clothes on our back. Thank God for food stamps, child care assistance and housing! I attended nursing school and was able to provide for my children from that time on. My son, Greg, was 17 at the time. He joined the Navy and after he was released and came home, he got burned all over his body. That threw him into a mental illness. After that, he listened to your songs nonstop. Especially this one and Father of Mine. Your story is our story. During abuse, I wasn't allowed to help him. After abuse, we cried together whenever we listened to this song. He just had his 37th birthday and we listened to this again. Can't get it out of my head! It means so much! I am now a nurse for young adults trying to get started in the world and have history of abuse and mental illness. I will be playing this for them all the time. God Bless You for.sharing your pain with those.who share it! Thank you and we love you! We also had the joy of a welfare Christmas!
'Wonderful' and 'Father of Mine' make me want to be the best dad possible to my 2 kids. Thank you, Everclear. You made a lot of people not pass on to their kids the same crap they had to go through.
Man father of mine was my intro to them. Hooked from there
Ditto
Yes man
I was 9 when my mom and dad separated. My dad died less than a year later. I shut the world out. Counseling didn't help and I was recommended to be institutionalized. It took everything to crawl out from that pain. I've married the most wonderful woman and raised 3 of the best children anyone could hope for. This song came so close to that pain. I'm 60 years old now and crying like I've opened the box I've locked away so many years ago.
God bless you! You did it dude!
Healing isn’t linear. All the healing loving vibes to the wounded child you were and the well adjusted adult you are now.
I was 9 when my parents divorced. My mom walked out on me and my sister it messed me up for alot of years. I'm 37 now but I have never forgotten.
Call me.
This song hits different when you come from a broken home
My heart breaks for kids in broken homes. I was raised in the most loving house...Parents married til death did they part. I cant even imagine what the pain must be like. I'm not sure why I felt compelled to comment but God Bless You.
@@kevingotchal1992 i come from a broken home. its so hard for me to imagine a home with loving parents. i thought what i lived was what everyone else had... the abuse, lies, neglect...
I’ve been a pastor for many years now and tell the men in my church that the great thing they can do for their kids is come home every night and love their wife.
Once you have children, it’s no longer about you…It’s setting an example for them.
I hope and pray your pain has diminished over the years. There is a God and He loves you!
I mean it was specifically made for us silly people.
When my ex wife said she was leaving this song was always in my head because I could see it being acted out in my 3 kids. It killed me watching their world shatter and I couldn’t stop it
For everyone else that comes back to this song because of how much you can relate.
You are loved.
You are strong.
You can do this.
We can do this.
Thank you
Jack Oxendine thank you for this comment! I needed it
Your comment was the first one that popped up. Thank you i need that
2nd time today I have played it after years of not hearing 😪❤
I can never hear this song without tearing up. It's rough.
"I don't want to meet your friends and I don't want to start over again. I just want my life to be the same just like it used to be!" That line gets me every time.
Freaking same
me too!!!
This whole song describes my childhood memories ... I was a straight A honor roll student who PURPOSELY got detention everyday just I didn't have to go home ... funny thing now is why didn't anyone ask why I was doing it on purpose
which line? or lines are you referring to?
Ditto... Me too. That has to be my favorite line in the entire song I don't know why cause the entire song hits me like a ton of bricks. But ya...💔
Divorced Dad here....knowing how it affected my kids....literally hard to live with...Izzy, Nicole, Vinny...I'm sorry about what happened. I Love You, Dad
I know how you feel but hope you are hanging in there. Just keep trying to be the best father you can be.
Rather than tell CZcams, how about telling your kids.
Man you the best
I'm about to start that path. I'm crushed.
"I laugh the loudest so my friends won't know"... right in the feels.
Omg Preach girl 🙌
I mean every fucking line is a god damned sledgehammer to my soul
i laughed the loudest who'd have known - mark hoppus
This song saved my life. It made me feel like I wasn’t alone in those dark moments.
I'm 50.. *FIFTY* and this song still bring tears to my eyes. I think the hurt from vengeful parents never goes away, even when they're dead. :(
That's a big reason I never had kids of my own.
53. And I always tear up.
I had a vasectomy @ 23 yrs old. I have three houses & women still try using me to the hilt. I turned fifty this year 2023
Never heard this song before and I'm tearing up,
Me too
? sounds like it's you, sorry to say. Try different women.@@jeffreydahmersribshack9570
I’m now 36 and I still listen to this song and it takes me back to my childhood. They hit the nail on the head. We carry that sh*t our entire lives. Let’s not do the same thing to our babies. They deserve better. Love this song and love the meaning of it.
Totally agree 💜 I'm breaking the cycle with my children.... I hope that they will fare better in life than I did💜
Yeah for real.. I feel like the culture I grew up in, the locals, all told themselves to keep believing things were wonderful instead of allowing/accepting that they weren't always. It's as if so many people didn't allow themselves to process their emotions. They told themselves to feel fine or they were wrong.. I mean, who can be strong 100% of the time? I think Jack Johnson said it better, "I need this, old train to break down. Oh please just, let me please break down!" Ya break down. Ya fix it 'nd move on.
Damn. I'm really 31 already.
You must be an 80's baby like me. 😍😍😍
@@Swizzle62 Perhaps instead of quoting know nothings like "Jack Johnson" you should quote the Creator of the world, seeing he knows best, seeing as He is the Creator :-)
14And it will be said, “Build it up, build it up, prepare the way, take every obstacle out of the way of My people.” 15For thus says the One who is high and lifted up, who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy: “I dwell in a high and holy place, and with the oppressed and humble in spirit, to restore the spirit of the lowly and revive the heart of the contrite. 16For I will not accuse you forever, nor will I always be angry; for then the spirit of man would grow weak before Me, with the breath of those I have made.…
@@seedofabraham8284 but it's poetic and I liked it. Don't speak for me, speak for yourself.
That's a nice passage too. Not sure where it fits in this context. My point was about others who wouldn't allow themselves to show weakness/emotion much at all. Can you paraphrase the core message in your quote and tell me how it relates to not quoting know-nothings? I'm not sure exactly what you mean.
I am 52 years old and I STILL come back to this song every once in a while...😢
As a divorced father with shared custody of two young boys, this song really gets me every time...It's a reminder that as adults sometimes we need to just stop talking and listen to what our kids are saying and feeling. Our rationalizations and justifications are not what they need to hear, they just want to let you know how they are feeling and they want you to hear them. Thank you Art.
WRONG! Listen to the Creator of marriage the God of the whole earth, Jesus Christ. Do not listen to kids, parents need to grow up and turn to the only one with wisdom, the LORD Jesus Christ.
The true Son of God is Jesus Christ, he is the child that you must seek forgiveness from, God bless the simple who turn to Jesus for salvation and forgiveness from their sins.
It's great to hear from someone I'm relating to this song with in 2020. I've been separated from the mother of my children, we also have two boys. 3 year old Twins and I can see the effect it's having on them during our exchanges when they're barely getting to spend time with me. And the clear animosity between their mother and I, no matter how much we try to hide it they can see right through the BS
Yeah but adults are children raised by children.
Relax @@seedofabraham8284 … For a religious, you are quite judgmental Lol
We wounded children always cry with this song and father of mine. Thank you everclear for describing it so clear. God bless you
I get a lot of crap for my devotion to Everclear. I hear the "sellouts" the "overrated" and all that, but for me, Art Alexakis spoke for a generation of kids that had been lied to in a variety of ways, mainly by the people they trusted the most. I can't listen to this song without breaking down. Everclear is the voice of my time growing up while constantly being let down by the people who were supposed to protect me. Thank you, Art, for encapsulating our pain and giving us your music as therapy.
You said it Perfectly...
Eric Petty I KNOW, RIGHT!?!?!?!
Have an issue?? Get a tissue!
Totally right Eric...and don't sweat the troll
Eric Petty theres a very good reason why you haven't gotten one single thumbs down for this comment
i was the parents yelling....and my baby was wanting it to be wonderful again. She's 22. We made it.
I'll bet whole theaters full of people cried every single night when they played this song live. This is the kind of song that moves people to tattoo lyrics on their bodies. It's an achingly personal deeply authentic cry of pain that millions of people feel is telling their own truth. Sung with determination it is fiercely life-affirming. God bless Alex for putting these feelings into song.
That kid belongs in a zoo
this is the kind of song that can save lives
@@julianmendoja7697 I have no doubts at all. Did it help save yours?
at one point in time yes it absolutely did
FYI it's Art not Alex.
Happy Valentine's Day 2024, forget everything from the past.... just ENJOY
As a kid I used to fall asleep to the sounds of my parents screaming at each other. I knew it wasn't right but sort of just accepted it. It wasn't until I was about 20/21 when I was going on a nostalgia binge and listening to music from my childhood. This song came on. I just stared into the distance for the entire first verse, then it hit me. That fucking line.
"I just don't understand how you can smile with all those tears in your eyes and tell me everything is wonderful now."
I broke down. Just started sobbing. I would often come home after school or from a friends house to find my mom on the couch, obviously crying but hiding it, and she would just smile and act like everything was normal. She'd ask how my day was and give me hugs and all I'd want was to just go and seclude myself in my room.
I had this problem too... but then my parents divorced when i was a teen and it got so much worse. Dad wasnt there and the fighting with the new guy started but he wasnt dad so didnt give a shit about me at all... id give anything to live back in the comforting house with just the sounds of my own parents fighting with each other. At least they were both there and mine.
So many of us out there...
My poor kids
I'm at work, I had to hide for a sec so ppl wouldn't see my tears for you . You're not alone love
I always think of unhappy homes during this "stay home" quarantine shit.☹️. God be with us
Funny how that seclusion carries over to your adult life. Even causes problems with my marriage at times.
There is no song my childhood relates to more than this one.
"Promises mean everything when you're little and the world is so big."
Heard so many promises as a child, that always filled me with excitement only to break my heart later.
Will never hurt my nieces, nephews, or kids that way, ever.
Ditto for threats.
Same. My dad dropped my brother and me off at Raging Water in SoCal. When he picked us up, we went home to a different house and my mom had moved out but didn’t tell us. I was 10 and my dad left my brother and I alone for a week, and, yet again, didn’t tell us
Everclear is one of the only bands I can relate to on a personal level. My parents would always fight when I was a child, and people wonder why I’m socially awkward. Even the bit about not being excited about going home after school I can relate to, especially when I was in middle and high school.
58 years old and sitting at my desk crying my eyes out
NOOOO 😭 I
My parents are pricks and now I can’t stand either of them! Don’t let the bastards win! You deserved better and so did I and just focus on you!
My husband to 44 yrs old
Hugs to you brother.
:')
My nephew used to scream this song as much as his little lungs would let him. Now he’s 23 and suffers terrible from depression and I just wish I could make him realize how wonderful he is. He grew up with terrible parents and my mom and granny and I have been around through the good and bad. Jacob never forget how wonderful you are
You just made me cry. I pray he realizes this too. And that he has amazing aunt 🫶🏾
I hope Jacob is doing better 💓
Hey Jacob it will get better buddy. Keep your head high and your chest out.
I remember listening to this song in 2005 after being diagnosed with a rare form of cancer that left me disabled at 14. all my friends left me, was rough but had good music to get me through
💓💓💓💓
Hope you're doing good now
This song is surprisingly apropos for an Awful Diagnosis, even though that's not what it was written for.
"I just want my life to be the same - just like it used to be!"
I hope you're doing good today. I love you.
One cannot write the lyrics to a song like this without experiencing it. That is what made it so sincere and heartbreaking.
I remember when they came to play for us while I was deployed to Afghanistan and they were hanging out in front of the stage for hours so that anyone could walk up to talk to them. You could tell that they sincerely wanted to meet every one of us. Very relatable and super nice.
Damn that is awesome. Wish I had the chance to meet them on one of my deployments
@@staywoke354 also got to meet Sublime with Rome and the Harlem Globetrotters on a separate deployment lol
Back when musicians knew they were damaged, not pretending like they arent and telling us we are.
This.
Damaged people are some of the most creative geniuses. Everything they write, paint, draw, or sing about shines through as beautifully,brutally honest. We're still here, listening, years later, because we know they "get it".
@@melissamac2478 yeah but I'm still not into female directors. The bad guy always wins.
This song will always take me back to my childhood. Thank you Everclear for being the words a lot of us couldn't speak as kids. For being that hug we needed through our headphones.
I wish I could count to 10, make everything be wonderful again. 40 yrs old here, I still cry when I listen to this one.
This is my first song and band. That made me feel better when I was being abused. When I was kid. ART is a amazin person and I learned he went thru what did. So I understood why this song hit me hard. At 10 yrs old and at 24 yrs. Hell I'm crying at scream are so amazing.
Amen baby! I used to listen to this in a Roca Jacks coffee house after panhandling for coffee change.. I was 14 and homeless in the middle of winter in Saskatchewan Canada.. very cold.. and I'd sit there and listen to this on repeat for hours crying quietly so nobody around me would ask me questions.. I never was so alone and this song brought me a sad joy and made me feel less alone and less abandoned.. still makes me cry and smile 20 years later..
Everyone here is you in a past or future life 🌟
I'm 35 now but this was a big song and a big part of my life and I still tear up everytime I hear it.
@@tank6561 You're comment made me cry as soon as I read it. I'm 35 now but when I young me my little sister and brother were between 4 houses and missed a lot of school. Sometimes having no water and light for months and whatever food and services the school could help with. GOD BLESS you and thank you for sharing.
2024 anyone?
Absolutely!
Of course...The song is timeless!
Yep!
Present! We can swim out past the breakers and watch the world die. Your WW3 playlist
Yup... Still a classic from my childhood
Please tell me I'm not the only person who cries when I hear this
You aren't.
father of mine hits home more =/
This song makes me and my dad cry
Every single time...
Awesome
My heart aches for those who relate so closely to this song. I wish you all the best
Im 41 and am just now getting a stable place to live, after 4 decades of trauma
It means everything to me, even if i cant feel it yet
Thanks complex PTSD
Love your kids
I had basically nothing for 4 decades, dont have kids if you cant handle your own problems
EXACTLY! And don't use having a kid to try to save your relationship. Wait until you are mature enough and can financially support a child. I feel bad for the places forcing women to give birth. Lots of kids will have to go through this at no fault of their own.
I think this is a very underrated band. Love them!!!
This is such an amazing song. I cry so hard every time because I'm divorced and I think about how it makes my kids feel as relating to the lyrics. I love you boys and even though you are grown now, I'm sorry for everything you went through. God bless you
this song isn't just for the little ones, it also applies to grown ups. Maybe more so? I miss my ex so bad?
They were better off. Trust me.
Same here Sara...
They know..... I'm 53..... My Father left when I was 6 years old.... my memory of him is watching him beat my Mother in the Kitchen and wishing I could protect her.... still haunts me to this very day. That being said, my Mother will ALWAYS be my HERO!
Feels
I think as adults we need to learn how to talk to each other and we need to learn how to listen to each other and validate feelings .
"Promises mean everything. When your little, and the world's so big.." so beautiful
Hey you...... is it wonderful now? If not, hang in there. It gets better. Life will become more beautiful than you ever imagined, if you can just get to the other side of the chaos. I spent my adolescence jamming to this- really struggling with mental health issues stemming from a broken home and abusive psychotic father. I'm 33 this year- heavy shit is going on in the world- but I'm so thankful I decided to stay. My children are my light, and although we struggle, everything is wonderful now ❤ it was all worth it. You're worth it. Hang in there, kid.
the 90's really were something special
Agreed
I think about this all the time. What happened to the good ole days...?
Indeed they were... too bad this song wasn't released in the 90s. :)
+D Correia lmao exactly
deep purple
This song came out the same year that my parents got divorced and was something I really bonded with. A million years later, it still reminds of the devastation I felt, but now I remember how I was able to overcome that profound loss.
At some point in your life, for no fault of your own, you are going to go through hell and your only choice is going to be to grow or die. I can promise you,, for every hell I have endured, for everyone loved one lost, choosing to grow has made me happier and healthier. You got this. I know it's hard, but please know that I love you for the strength you've shown to make it this far
Wise words.
Same. I was 8. I’m 30 now. Takes me back in time
The heartbreaking thing about this song is how many people can relate
What's it about ?
Mandy Morales The inbetween non-stop fighting during a divorce happening. I'll never forget the terrible feeling of coming home and my parents were still screaming at each other.
Mandy Morales My father loved to drink and come home to take his anger out on my mother. As a little kid, I still stood up to him but got a beaten. I tried to think that everything is wonderful.
Carne Asada or GTFO *****
So true.
Childhood trauma is the #1 destroyer of children and their futures. It kills different parts of the child and continues on into adulthood.
This song kept me from killing myself when I was 14 and homeless in Saskatchewan Canada.. in the middle of winter when it was -30! and my mom and step dad wouldn't let me come home for a night to get out of the cold so I slept in a disney princess sleeping bag every night either in a parkade/car park or on a park bench being hassled by heroin junkies for the bench.. this song is the reason I'm alive.. someone felt the same as me.. this song is so relatable to me.. dont ever tell me anything could ever be wonderful ever again.. lots of love and happy thoughts to anyone reading my story..
I needed to read a story like yours. Thankyou for sharing my friend.
@@JackHawk78 anytime.. I hope no child ever goes without a warm home and supper the way I did so many times..
I hope you’re doing much better now!
@@ryanwilsonbackup yes I am thanks 😊 ☺
Glad youre still here. I know how fucking cold it can get up here. It literally kills you or takes a limb. Add me up on FB.
I saw a form of hell but I was protected,forgive and you will be forgiven,love jesus don't forget..
Heard a snippet of this song on the radio the other day and remembered how much i loved it. Came back to play the video and then I remembered why I hadn't listened to it for so long. Been crying for 20 minutes.
2022 this song popped into my head. I’m 30 now, ya know this one hits right in the feels. I can’t believe I still have every word of this sad old song memorized. What’s that tell ya?
That this song depicates your childhood or at least it does mine
i had ths on my mind too 1998 s so long ago but this is timeless and has true meaning
Im 65 an thhhis still hits my feals
I never had the love from my parents but my kids and grandchildren have all my love
I'm 31 and It brings me some many memories everytime I heard it as well. Such an unforgettable song
It tells me you’re cool.
I'm 30 now... this song makes me cry. I didn't think about the words 20 years ago singing along to it on the radio and how I was living it. I'm still trying to find my peace today and the panic attacks still haven't stopped. Keep smiling with those tears in your eyes❤️
"Promises mean everything ehen you're little and the world is so big"
Remember this, when you are grown and you are fortunate enough to be trustedwith small children. Peace and thanks.
when my sister died last year i came right to this song and just felt an indescribable sadness.
I close my eyes when I get too sad
I think thoughts that I know are bad
Close my eyes and I count to ten
Hope it's over when I open them
I want the things that I had before
Like a Star Wars poster on my bedroom door
I wish I could count to ten
Make everything be wonderful again
Hope my mom and I hope my dad
Will figure out why they get so mad
Hear them scream, I hear them fight
Say bad words that make me want to cry
Close my eyes when I go to bed
And I dream of angels that make me smile
I feel better when I hear them say
Everything will be wonderful someday
Promises mean everything when you're little
And the world's so big
I just don't understand how
You can smile with all those tears in your eyes
Tell me everything is wonderful now
Please don't tell me everything is wonderful now
I go to school and I run and play
I tell the kids that it's all okay
I like to laugh so my friends won't know
When the bell rings I just don't want to go home
Go to my room and I close my eyes
I make believe that I have a new life
I don't believe you when you say
Everything will be wonderful someday
Promises mean everything when you're little
And the world is so big
I just don't understand how
You can smile with all those tears in your eyes
When you tell me everything is wonderful now
I don't want to hear you tell me everything is wonderful now
I don't want to hear you say
That I will understand someday
No, no, no, no
I don't want to hear you say
We both have grown in a different way
No, no, no, no
I don't want to meet your friends
And I don't want to start over again
I just want to my life to be the same
Just like it used to be
Some days I hate everything
I hate everything
Everyone and everything
Please don't tell me everything is wonderful now
I don't want to hear you tell me everything is wonderful now
Gracias! =)
Why post the lyrics. It is everclear
@@sheldontapp3769 haha
omg. i have missed this song. this song was the voice that i never had as a kid of divorced parents. i was like 19, a cutter, druggie,sex addict when it came out. it help me have a voice to my feelings and really changed my life
God be with you, i understand your fellings, in my case, i lost my father...
I know the pain, my friend.
God damn. The old comments on this video are brutal.
Life's not anywhere near perfect now........But it is wonderful........Every day is a gift cherish it like its your last one........
Still remember my mother getting me to listen to this song on the radio when it released. Crying she said "Sorry". That means everything to a child.
It was a different song in our car, but same statement with every bone in her body holding back the tears. My parents never split but she never wanted us to witness their fights and the pain. Your absolutely right.
I’m sorry for whatever you went through. Try to make it wonderful, the best you can!
Little me getting off the school bus dreading to come home knowing what awaits me on the other side of the door. Now I’m 33 with 5 kids happily married , proof is you are not a product of your environment if you don’t allow it to be.
Man, this song gets me every time.. I grew up with seeing domestic violence and my parents fighting so much I would shake at night in my bed hearing the screams of my own mother getting hit. As a kid you really don't get it or know why it's happening you just pray and hope everything will end up okay or ... wonderful as this man says... It effected how I did in school and my emotions I still to this day cant control... Its sad to know a lot of other people have went through the same things I did.. I still pray for any child that deals with domestic violence, divorce, even just arguing and having a dysfunctional family just know... you're not alone and I'm always here if anyone needs someone to vent too...
amen
very nice of you!!! glad theres peeps with the ability to offer to the troubled youth!
Yes thank you for sharing and letting people know they aren't alone, I grew up with a very abusive step father l, he went after my mother one time when I was 10 and I got in between them and he grabbed me up and choked e instead, so I knocked him over the head with a lava lamp, the closest thing to grab, and ran out of the house, the cops came and nothing happened he was in the military and was always buddy buddy with the cops. I wish I could say that was the only time that happened but it just got worse until I moved out at 17 and got into drugs like oxys and then morphine and then heroin, I'm 27 now and have been clean coming up 5 years, thanks for letting me vent and to everyone going through similar stuff or that had gone through things like this it can and will get better just stay strong and focus on what you can control, you can control your own life, concentrate on getting through school and away from the abuse and seek help there is help for people that go through things like this in the form of therapy or just venting on CZcams lol but things will get better and can be wonderful if you stay positive and work hard
This comment, nailed it.
+Melissa Stewart I really appreciate your comment. Thank you for sharing! This is one of my favorite songs. I love the message. What it means to me is that there are times when life really is not all that great, but you can still make the most of it - just do not give up. Case in point is one of my favorite shows, Jericho from 2006. The final episode of season 1 this song was playing in the background during a flashback. Very telling song for a very powerful episode. I agree with you Melissa and everyone - this song is special to me too as it helps me to remember about being happy and overcoming things like abuse and dysfunction.
Mark of a "Wonderful" song. Still gets me in the feels today. Great band and message:)
"Promises mean everything when you're little and the world is so big."
dang it that really hits different when you have kids of your own... I'm gonna go home and hug them.
My parents are fighting and currently live separately. This song hits me in my feels
As a child who had divorced parents and an abusive alcoholic stepdad and drug addict mother this song was always a release and I still love it to this day.
joseph Dunegan Dude.... Its like we're from the same Family..
That makes 3.
+Aurelio Intermagio. Lol!
I hope that you changed your life because of what you grew up with. There is nothing wrong about growing up like that but you got to man up and be different and let it drive you.
Seems like it someone wants to be a nonconformist these days they need to say they were the mentally and emotionally healthy child of two married parents living within the same house, who had a happy and fulfilling youth.
I was born in 1962 and turned 62 July 2024.ear buds in blasting that music and locked the world outside. The late 70s 80'S 90's were the best. Many great memories. Wish my parents were still here miss them everyday. I'm still here August 2024!!!!
2020 - Everclear is still goddamned amazing.
Dam straight!
💯
Yes!!! So much better than 90% of the garbage that was getting air play att
yup , listening to this while being quarantined at home.. stay safe, coz life’s wonderful! 😘
Hey watch the spicy Language ! but they are fucking awesome !
Yes
I can’t stop crying. I grew up poor in Los Angeles and I would hear my dad hit my mom. She would cry for help but I was 8 and scared and didn’t know what to do. My brother pulled his eyelashes out from the stress. My dad would even hit the dog when he tried to protect us. My mom named him Alex. He was a very good dog and would watch Sesame Street with me. I wish I could’ve fixed everything. I won’t ever understand someday. They were adults and should’ve treated us better. What really makes me cry is the fact that I looked like the blonde girl as a child
I won’t tell you everything is wonderful
The lyrics along with the melody is pure magic...Great, real, raw songwriting.
The way he wipes his eyes at 4:09 is genuine. I know Art went through a lot of pain as a kid and some of it is still there.
I am 36 and remember listening to this in the year 2001 as a teenager. I loved it then and I still love it now.
I've had so many students mention this song throughout the years b/c of how they relate to it. It's amazing how music hits the heart!
Good and bad. Now we have rap and its violent
hands down one of the most powerful songs ever written. I've never connected More powerfully or deeply to any other work of art in my life. its like the absolute truth of this experience distilled into the perfect words, the perfect cadence, and the perfect emotion.
I don't want to meet your "friend"
and I don't wanna start over again
I just want my life to be the same just like it used to be.
Some days, I hate everything. I hate everything. Everyone and everything. PLEASE don't tell me everything is wonderful now.
2024 here. this song still means as much as it did almost a quarter century ago.
I've never not cried when listening to this song. It strikes way too many chords in me.
I'm not the only one? I don't even know how this song makes me feel. It's a sadness, mixed with joy, emptiness, fulfillment. This really seems to be a 'coming of age' song to me.
the moon just behind
in the city at night, it is difficult not to feel like a derelict,
some grumbling mountain of old, dirty, mismatched clothes
scratching at his sores and muttering unshaven thoughts.
someone loved that man once. a mother, perhaps even a father,
knew him at his beginning, dwelt with him long enough to give
him a name which everyone, perhaps even he, has now forgotten.
this vision is the place where my heart has dwelt since
that november day when the clouds sobbed out their souls
to anoint us both. i for the first time, you for the last.
no man, no woman, no child can truly forgive god for taking away
those dear, warm bits of memory that hang as ripe fruit in the branches
of the tree of each life, all lives. some of us lose faith, others lose hope,
still others never look inside to see the wreckage they’ve let grief
make of their hearts. yet, god is not the villain, nor is grief, nor are we.
god is just the mender of souls, grief is his apprentice, and we
are students who have but a brief time to understand our lessons.
it has taken far too long for me to know how to look up into the night sky
and see the moon, to understand that its light is your love. its face
the changing nature of your mood and advice. it is in standing
between the city buildings and looking up that i understand
that the moon is somewhere, even if i cannot see it. the moon
is always shining, if not on me, then on that man asleep on a bench,
dreaming of reunion with those who shared his beginning.
09/01
This song breaks my heart. Not because I lived it. I did. But because other people have to live this.
I like how this music video is shot really bright, it definitely helps convey that no matter how things may look on the outside you never know what kind of shit people could be dealing with on the inside.
The cathartic release of pain and then hope for better futures that this song and video provide are a monumental gift to all of us that were and are hurt or neglected. You might be the very first one in generations to stop the cycle of hurt, thus sparing not only your children but your descendants of the long climb out of the well just to get to a more normal place in life. Not to preach, but Joseph in the Bible faced this and more, and saved his entire family’s lives because he just kept going.
im an adult and still feel like this
Me too
@@allimac5104 I pray things get better for you both.
Right in the feels ;-;
I'll be 50 in a few days and i feel the same. I have living now.
Every time I listen to this and others it brings tears to my eyes 😭
Raise your hand if you're here dealing with childhood trauma..
I love the song's emotion and the kid's reaction to their parent's separation. I never saw the video until recently and wish I hadn't, but the song is still as good as it ever was. The other comments about this being a broken home kid's anthem is so true and it touches my heart even after 5 decades.
The bitter irony of the uptempo beat against the beautifully brutal lyrics. I don't know whether to scream this song out or cry. Life.
That is the beauty of the music from the 90's. Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Everclear, The Cure, Soundgarden all have lyrics that flay flesh from muscle but with a beat that makes you want scream and mosh your guts out.
It's one of the secrets why the music from then was so fucking powerful. It's a beautiful gore crisis of the senses....
This is about as deep as a song can get. Everyone wants to be able to turn back the clock to a time they can never have back. We really have to learn to take nothing to granted, live in the moment and appreciate what we have.
Yep, that's exactly right!
+maninthebox0 Did somebody really unironically say that about an Everclear song? This band is the nickelback of the 90s.
+TheNumberOneGuyDude I consider them more of The Cure of the 90s.
+TheNumberOneGuyDude nobody cares what your musical interests are. Funny thing is you clicked on this video though. So if Everclear is Nickelback, then you like Nickelback. Or something like that, but really your comment has no point.
+maninthebox0 Amen to that!
Forever an anthem for 90s kids who grew up in broken homes. Thanks, Everclear.
"Close my eyes and count to ten, hope its over when i open them."
As someone who deals with anxiety and panic attacks, that hits deep
Sure does.
The end of the video when Art wipes away tears says it all. I’m 47 and the song hits made a hard every time. I had a shitty childhood as well and often wondered when I was a kid why everything in my life was so fucked up while everyone else seemed to have it so good. There was never a good answer for that the best advice I always got was don’t stress over what could’ve been appreciate what was move forward and make your life happen. And that’s exactly what I have done my son will never know the pain that I felt growing up just like the other Everclear song.
37 and I’ll listen to Everclear
Forever
And
Ever
This song came out when I was a kid and my parents where going through a very bad divorce. Would listen to it constantly. Mom left and didn’t see her again for 20years. She meant the world to me then. She didn’t think the same for me. Now I’m 36, married to the most amazing woman and have the most loving child. Now they’re my world and living my best life. I can truly say, things are wonderful now. Cheesy but true. Lol
Gets me every time when he wipes his eye near the end. Like a gut punch to a remembered pain. So yeah, tears in my eyes.
I remember watching this on MTV, when it actually had music n it.
I think this was the first song i ever saw on mtv... I disliked music videos...i was a music person not a tv person...
I would always listen to this song growing up when I was sad. I moved around a lot and I had music to turn to, no friends. Music makes you feel not alone.
I love being alone
I feel this so much ♥️ music was the one friend I could trust, and rely on, and it gave my heart a safe place to feel.
No matter how modernity spins it divorce is devastating to kids.
I was one of those kids. My kid became one of those kids even though I vowed to never put him through that. He's truly better off now, but it still hurts. This song, as much as I love it, still stings my soul.
Shockingly real and musically overwhelming. The song structure I can't even imagine what that was like to write... just an epic creation. Stuck in my head as top 10 in a lifetime...
This song came on randomly a few years ago, I was just a Freshman in college, and for some reason tears just welled up inside me. I didnt really know why, it was just a moment of sheer despair and weakness that I can't explain. God it's a great song
Same here. I thought the song was written especially for me
Dude. Same.
I dedicate this song to all 4 of my amazing boys. You have learned life,and u learned tje hard way. But you have become the most perfect young men. I love you, Mom.
There is no song like this
I'm 40 years old and this song took back to the 8-year-old kid I was when my parents split up.
My parents split up when I was 10
I feel you. My parents divorced when I was 5.
Time flies so fast
@@amypoppell5835 same
What's bitterly ironic is that Art Alexakis (the blond singer) was also 40 when this song came out.
I had this CD when it just came out as a kid. My parents divorced around the same time and I listened to this a lot.
I wish i could count to 10 make everything be wonderful again.
I have this Song on my Now 5 CD I was Listening to it Earlier Today I love Everclear and I just think that Art Alexakis is a Great Guy and he's an Incredible Musician I can totally relate to this Guy since I thought about Listening to Most of these Songs about the Singer's Life and what he had went to when he was Young I went through the same thing he went through I thought Listening to his Songs so they can help me get through my Life (Past and Present) Art Alexakis is an interesting and Incredible Guy since he grew up in L.A. Santa Monica and I grew up in San Bernardino/Highland since we're both from Southern California we can totally relate to each other
My first cassette tape!
4:14 I love his sarcastic angry face and tone.
Everything is wonderful isn't it?
Life is about listening. We learn nothing from talking