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Expectations with Charles & Abby Metcalf | Navigating Singleness, Parenting & Anxiety in Your Home

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  • čas přidán 6. 08. 2024
  • It wasn’t ‘duh’ when we did it”. Curt and Kelly Harlow interview Charles and Abby Metcalf on singleness, waiting for the right person, how to continue to date your spouse and what happens when anxiety hits your home. Charles and Abby open up about what it’s like to be new parents and still love your spouse through trials that are out of their control.
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Komentáře • 142

  • @kamrynetia5835
    @kamrynetia5835 Před 3 lety +191

    “Even if you mess up you can still honor God with today” Amen💯

  • @emmasudharman7921
    @emmasudharman7921 Před 3 lety +97

    “if God is not enough, no man/woman can ever be!” amen, really love the authenticity and fun and Godly wisdom here! :)

  • @geminiqueen3626
    @geminiqueen3626 Před 2 lety +36

    It would be interesting to hear from people who did not get married so young. As a woman in my 40s, I think it's easy for 20 something's to say "wait" because they haven't waited a long time.

  • @tlhagimmutlana5215
    @tlhagimmutlana5215 Před 3 lety +74

    "Anything you're in can only be as healthy as you are" - come on PC!!

  • @MTblonde92
    @MTblonde92 Před 2 lety +15

    I would love to see a video on the reality of life ( singleness, etc) in your 40’s and 50’s. This video assumes getting married in your 20’s -LOL. Who does that anymore, esp if you are building a career, etc? It’s easy to hang in there for a few years when you are 20….. what about when someone is in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s?

    • @iamcurtisbryant
      @iamcurtisbryant Před 2 lety +2

      That’s actually a very valid point. I am in my 30’s and single. And dating is very challenging these days. I’ve had to really take a back seat and continue to believe God for my divine partner. Which isn’t always easy, if I’m being honest. Though I’am no longer in my 20’s or married, this video does provide hope and some great dating suggestions. Even while waiting.

  • @mildredheslop7540
    @mildredheslop7540 Před 3 lety +69

    I am in the middle of a stressful situation with my husband after 1 year of marriage. I am so happy that I listen to this. Pray for us.

  • @dibora8587
    @dibora8587 Před 3 lety +9

    The way they look at each other❤😭😭😭😭 u can tell God put them together

  • @jesusiskingofmyheart
    @jesusiskingofmyheart Před 3 lety +56

    Wow, what a beautiful & authentic Christian couple! Their love for the Lord is so inspiring! God is so good 😭🙌🏼❤️

  • @ebonymangwiro633
    @ebonymangwiro633 Před 3 lety +67

    I love these guys and their willingness to be transparent. I'm so glad that they are part of Transformation Church.

  • @MoniqueTee
    @MoniqueTee Před 3 lety +13

    24 hours later was me in June !!! Prayed the same prayer and gbam 24 hours later everything took a different turn. That prayer takes a lot of courage.

  • @milicorrea8415
    @milicorrea8415 Před 3 lety +75

    Me being 16 watching the whole thing like 👁👄👁

    • @stephy4missy
      @stephy4missy Před 3 lety +4

      I wish I would’ve heard that one part about thinking about your actions for your future spouse cause omg being my my future husband now I wish we made better decisions for each other it feels so sucky at times. 🤕 but I hope it moved your heart & perspective. you can be in charge of your future starting at this beautiful age✨🌱

  • @user-su4zt7dx7b
    @user-su4zt7dx7b Před 3 lety +9

    Lord if it is your will that I be with her, and marry her. We will be watching this together in three months time. Amen.

  • @grace890
    @grace890 Před 2 lety +9

    wow, love that, "anything you get into can only be as healthy as you are", so true!

  • @cindysalbador6759
    @cindysalbador6759 Před 2 lety +6

    I can’t believe I’m even responding to a couple of comments about the interviewing pastors wife! She is obviously a very confident woman to remain silent! She is nothing but lovely, a support to her husband and even though she doesn’t say anything, she is very engaging! I’m sorry…Christian or not…grow up!

  • @emmanueladuwari1004
    @emmanueladuwari1004 Před 3 lety +45

    The videography team that handled this is amazing!!

  • @Sansan-iu1wr
    @Sansan-iu1wr Před 2 lety +2

    I love this..." I didn't know I needed someone who is introverted..."

  • @tayelove
    @tayelove Před 3 lety +6

    “God always meets us at the point of our expectations”

  • @les9912
    @les9912 Před 3 lety +51

    Love the Metcalfs, so honest and real! Great practical advice!

  • @gracemagnussen5219
    @gracemagnussen5219 Před rokem +3

    I’m the prime example that God doesn’t always give you the desires of your heart. I always prayed for my future husband and future children since I was a teenager. I’ll be 45 years old this year and now the desires of my heart are not to get married or have kids. I’ll never know why God didn’t bless me with that area of my life. I’ve even been shunned from a church that told me that there’s no one single at my age and maybe I should go to another church. Thank God my faith is strong and I will always try to live my life for the Lord even though I never got married.

    • @Forreminiscing
      @Forreminiscing Před rokem

      I pray you find a church that loves and accepts for who you are and not for what you have❤

  • @estherondongo1744
    @estherondongo1744 Před 2 lety +2

    i am 17 and i always had a desire to get married and as i watched this video ,you taught me somethings i didn"t know about marriage and being single and even my walk with god.

  • @laverderslemonade
    @laverderslemonade Před 3 lety +41

    That lady is offering nothing but head nods and facial expressions lol bless her heart

  • @amandambuya878
    @amandambuya878 Před 3 lety +2

    Loved this!

  • @l.a5684
    @l.a5684 Před 3 lety +1

    This is awesome!

  • @mb1744
    @mb1744 Před 3 lety

    Wow ! this was so good.

  • @anneshirleyjosafat245
    @anneshirleyjosafat245 Před 3 lety

    soooo goood!!

  • @Chosengirl1
    @Chosengirl1 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for this teaching

  • @jenniferrapetti267
    @jenniferrapetti267 Před 3 lety +5

    This is so good!

  • @TheMuzikluvr25
    @TheMuzikluvr25 Před 3 lety +1

    This was so encouraging! I'm glad that I stumbled on this video :)

  • @asiajana4314
    @asiajana4314 Před 3 lety

    This was so helpful! Thank you and God bless everyone on set and this beautiful couple!

  • @isaacmwangaza
    @isaacmwangaza Před 3 lety

    so much wisdom.. I learnt a lot

  • @noemibravo3130
    @noemibravo3130 Před 3 lety

    I had to listen to this twice. Thank you for your advice (:

  • @candicesartin6411
    @candicesartin6411 Před 3 lety +13

    This entire conversation blew me way! Wow wow wow

  • @abigailtuffour5928
    @abigailtuffour5928 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for this 🌻

  • @antoniajohnson7284
    @antoniajohnson7284 Před 3 lety +1

    Very good, very insightful!

  • @Bro.fernandowho
    @Bro.fernandowho Před 3 lety

    So good!

  • @loveafrica97
    @loveafrica97 Před 3 lety +12

    I love them!!
    Abby just seems so sweet!

  • @racheldutuma6739
    @racheldutuma6739 Před 3 lety

    Soo good🌸🌸

  • @nanaderkyi8353
    @nanaderkyi8353 Před 3 lety +4

    This was so powerful! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @c0zyg1rl
    @c0zyg1rl Před 2 lety

    so so good. God bless them fr 😭

  • @victorynazombe3437
    @victorynazombe3437 Před 3 lety

    So blessed 💕

  • @christinawatkinsyoutube

    There is some GOLD in here! I love Charles and Abby🙌🏼

  • @eatprojectpop662
    @eatprojectpop662 Před 3 lety +2

    Amazing conversation. Amazing video quality and editing. Just a blessing!

  • @ericageemashaba7620
    @ericageemashaba7620 Před 3 lety +3

    This was a good conversation...as a single lady, it was very insightful ❤️ Thank you

  • @baharrisonful
    @baharrisonful Před 3 lety

    This was good!

  • @Wild.cottagegarden
    @Wild.cottagegarden Před 2 lety

    I loved this chat!

  • @hopek8009
    @hopek8009 Před 3 lety

    Love Charles and Abbey so much

  • @annsakatani9552
    @annsakatani9552 Před 3 lety +4

    Very insightful for such a young couple

  • @SelfLoveCeo
    @SelfLoveCeo Před 3 lety

    So helpful!!!

  • @kedetocara
    @kedetocara Před 3 lety +1

    Extremely enlightening

  • @andreaswendt5826
    @andreaswendt5826 Před 3 lety +1

    Beautiful. So much wisdom and love in one video. Thank you and God bless you!

  • @tinogadaga2922
    @tinogadaga2922 Před 3 lety +1

    wow, learnt so much

  • @stephaniemartinez6884
    @stephaniemartinez6884 Před 3 lety +4

    AMAZING! This was truly a blessing for me! ❤️👏🏽

  • @Musfab08
    @Musfab08 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow you guys, i love you guys even more. Love your honesty 🌷may God always be your center.

  • @veronicajuarez2690
    @veronicajuarez2690 Před 2 lety

    This is so good 😊

  • @joshuamcdaniel4742
    @joshuamcdaniel4742 Před 3 lety +1

    The was really empowering 🙏🏾

  • @dgluhovski
    @dgluhovski Před 3 lety +1

    Amazing interview/video

  • @jebadiop1550
    @jebadiop1550 Před 3 lety

    So good 💙

  • @alliengoy2853
    @alliengoy2853 Před 3 lety +5

    I love the Metcalfs 🥰🥰

  • @joshkearse2620
    @joshkearse2620 Před 2 lety

    This was amazing , nice

  • @heavensmusic3645
    @heavensmusic3645 Před 3 lety +1

    PC is super funny. I love these two!!

  • @akinijames3410
    @akinijames3410 Před 3 lety

    Informative !!

  • @lovefelix1566
    @lovefelix1566 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for sharing your story Charles and Abby Metcalfe! You guys are awesome. #Transparency

  • @vanessakanangire8641
    @vanessakanangire8641 Před 2 lety

    so glad to finally to meet Abby so cute couple powerful word of wisdom🙏🏾🙏🙌

  • @phoebekate1686
    @phoebekate1686 Před 3 lety +10

    Thankyuo Metcalf family for your vulnerability, faith, joy, honestly and willingness to lead people. I love listening to you guys ❤️

  • @JayMoReads
    @JayMoReads Před 3 lety +17

    Needed this! I’ve always been single and this is so good! Love pastor Charles and Abby

    • @itsok2byourself512
      @itsok2byourself512 Před 3 lety +11

      Me too! I've never had a boyfriend but GOD is on the throne! And I am learning to love myself in this time of singleness, learning to love GOD the right way, and learning to be a strong humble single woman of GOD. I have JESUS which is more than enough.

  • @user-uf6vs3ur3q
    @user-uf6vs3ur3q Před 2 lety +1

    let’s get into how they look at each other😍😍😍😍😍

  • @johnaustin1061
    @johnaustin1061 Před 2 lety +3

    Somehow this came up in my recommended and I've never heard of this church or Abby or Charles but this was AMAZING! So fire! God Bless!

  • @41yearoldnewdriver
    @41yearoldnewdriver Před 3 lety +5

    I thank God that he is with me in this! I trust God. I depend on His strength to get through the day.

  • @lianaaP
    @lianaaP Před 2 lety

    I love Pastors Charles and Abbey and God is continuously blessing you guys...love you

  • @comfortdeweerd
    @comfortdeweerd Před 3 lety +1

    Great conversations, lots of wisdom here! Thank you 🙏🏾

    • @comfortdeweerd
      @comfortdeweerd Před 3 lety

      Where there is no vision, people stop caring 🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @comfortdeweerd
      @comfortdeweerd Před 3 lety +1

      If God isn’t enough no one ever will be 🥺

  • @sayedero
    @sayedero Před 2 lety

    Please make more of these expectation videos

  • @jermainerobertsii4077
    @jermainerobertsii4077 Před 3 lety

    Man!! That’s good

  • @JoshuaAby
    @JoshuaAby Před 3 lety +3

    So good! 💯

  • @jamesbuckner5015
    @jamesbuckner5015 Před 3 lety +3

    As I listen to this interview as a single man29y.o. It's bothering to hear this and inspiring. As you marry that one I thought it was just between two people but to hear that's it's ok to have others involved in certain aspects of the marriage that's kind of crazy to hear. So thanks for the knowledge

  • @qdacevedo
    @qdacevedo Před 3 lety

    This an awesome and encouraging interview. Thank you all for it. 🙌🏽🙏🏽

  • @riannaHermione
    @riannaHermione Před 3 lety +4

    Having to tell your future spouse what you did with your previous relationships.... That's what hit me deeply. Just saying you didn't have sex is one thing, but what wouldn't you feel great/ happy about sharing with them? Ooof.
    Thanks, Pastors.

  • @imanigunn3065
    @imanigunn3065 Před 3 lety

    Umm where is this church and why didn’t I have better people around me in my environment. This is my wake up call year 💕 getting closer to god and learning to love my single life

  • @LauraBonginkosi
    @LauraBonginkosi Před 3 lety +96

    1) Relationships in Christianity are treated like a price, actually wanted more than building a relationship with God and so that's why singleness feels like a punishment. People say use singleness to draw near to God and all but that can easily be translated to "Draw near to God so you can be rewarded with a relationship" and so it ends up looking like you're trying to use God to get what you want.
    2) The lady with the interviewer probably shouldn't have been there. She looks uncomfortable and I feel uncomfortable just seeing her not get a word in loool.

  • @makenziemullens7883
    @makenziemullens7883 Před 3 lety +5

    When arlo asks for oat milk 🥺

  • @TheFisayo
    @TheFisayo Před 3 lety +3

    I like the cinematography of this video

  • @Is-on5tu
    @Is-on5tu Před 3 lety +1

    GOD Please Please 🙏🙏 I know You heard my prayer Thank You!

  • @redsiberian
    @redsiberian Před 3 lety +6

    That man is in love lmao

  • @minmindays
    @minmindays Před 3 lety

    🔥🔥🔥

  • @marypopa8937
    @marypopa8937 Před 3 lety +4

    TMI in the first 2 mins. I lost interest. I was ready to change it quickly but then I saw pastor Curt.. I figured I would give it another min. Thanks guys

  • @cindytan4768
    @cindytan4768 Před 3 lety

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kaylin123
    @kaylin123 Před 3 lety

    I don’t necessarily think it was appropriate for the interviewer to call her bougie. But other than that, I enjoyed this video of pastor Charles and his wife from TCNATION.

  • @selinaespinoza1476
    @selinaespinoza1476 Před 2 lety

    So goooodd 1806

  • @EmilioooHernandez
    @EmilioooHernandez Před 3 lety +3

    I thought that was Chance The Rapper 🤣

  • @David-jh6kf
    @David-jh6kf Před 3 lety +3

    what lapel mics did you use for this interview?

  • @mellyzzz1983
    @mellyzzz1983 Před 2 lety +1

    Should you also feel so blessed and savor being single when you're in your forties or fifties and have been praying for God to bless you with marriage for many years? I feel like it's always the married people who say how much we should be happy about being single while they don't know what it's like to not have anyone to share life with....

    • @Jeseneia
      @Jeseneia Před 2 lety

      I’m in the same situation…it would be nice to see interviews that discuss this very topic. Where are the forever singles who pray for a spouse and do not receive him/her? Im happy for the Metcalfs…beautiful love story but I would really like to hear the other side of those who have and continue to wait well into their 40s and 50s.

  • @Annarichanna
    @Annarichanna Před 3 lety +1

    We are in for a fight for the lives of our kids. God help us to be vigilant as parents.

  • @markkennedy1743
    @markkennedy1743 Před 3 lety

    Hey... can you please explain the part about telling your spouse what you did in your old relationships? What's the purpose of this? Are you saying confess your past mistakes and sins? Like if you were a womanizer in your past.. wouldn't that hurt your spouse to know and break any trust you've built? Why tell her if God already forgave you and put it behind you? Just worried that would bring a lot of mess into marriage? Thank you!

    • @mahkalarutledge6287
      @mahkalarutledge6287 Před 2 lety +2

      And that’s exactly what they mean by that saying they go by “H.O.T” humble, open , and trust . U cannot heal if are hiding things before they had the conversation they had already prayed and ask god are they supposed to be with one another

  • @Robin31716
    @Robin31716 Před 2 lety

    What about if your being emotionally abused for 20+ years? What should you do when you’ve prayed for years and asked God to use you as an example of God in the relationship not saying anything. Just by loving no matter what.

  • @ikhisoloshe7485
    @ikhisoloshe7485 Před 2 lety +2

    Don't find someone who needs you, find someone who doesn't need you

  • @TheFisayo
    @TheFisayo Před 3 lety

    Hmm “anything you are in can only be as healthy as you are”

  • @AlwaysBlessed562
    @AlwaysBlessed562 Před 3 lety +12

    Why is that woman there she not saying anything

  • @conradmashazhike6670
    @conradmashazhike6670 Před 3 lety +2

    dont look for someone who needs you. find someone who doesnt need you

  • @selinaespinoza1476
    @selinaespinoza1476 Před 2 lety

    Ask God

  • @ValOrthodoxia
    @ValOrthodoxia Před 3 lety +1

    "God said" "God told me" "God spoke to me" not sure about that buddy

  • @dredayful
    @dredayful Před rokem

    If it was a counterfeit, that person was scrub. 😏