How to Express Your Feelings & Emotions Without Fear
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- čas přidán 30. 07. 2024
- Learn how to express your feelings and share your emotions without fear.
I wish I had know to do this before. That way I wouldn't have kept so many things to myself. I would have been able to share so many things with my loved ones!
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Sometimes we're affraid of the response we will get when we share a feeling, emotion, goal, desire, etc. It's often confused with shyness or being introverted. But guess what?
We can control the way we want them to respond by letting them know how you would like them to react!
That takes away the fear of sharing personal things! So be confident about sharing!
But keep this in mind. If what we want to share is related to the person we want to share it with, we can't control or condition their reaction. So we need to make sure we're ready to accept what ever the response will be.
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I don't know what's wrong with me but whenever I try to express my feelings or thoughts with someone I cry idk why but I just cry and my hands start shaking and I feel uneasy my breathing is uneven every time, even with my family and people close to me it always happens to me for some reason and I'm unable to say what I want to say it's like my voice is on mute I can't get anything out.
Thats fear
Or, if someone has been hurt or shut down for a while, often all feelings come out as “cry” at first. Once we get better at identifying feelings, the more we talk about them and think about them , they come out less like an avalanche. It gets easier.
It's a very voluntable position to be in. To express your feelings. It's scary because you are scared of what their reaction may be. Sometimes even when you tell then how to react to your feelings they will not automatically do as you say, and at that moment you should walk away before it escalates. But you must have faith that it will all work out in the end. If it does not and people cannot learn to accept your feelings then you must get away because it is not a healthy environment for anyone. Live your truth and you will be able to hold your space and hold space for others.
I think because of ADHD disorder
You'll be alright, Jesus will come through for you, there's nothing he cannot fix. Call on him & he will answer, he loves you sooo much.🙏🏽🌟❤
idk how to express feelings to other people and i feel so bad for this one guy because he likes me and i’m kinda just like dry and mean 😭
I think the starting point is allowing yourself to feel your emotions on all levels.
The next step would be to start sharing your feelings with whoever you feel most comfortable sharing them with.
And letting go of the emotional block one step at a time. At your own pace.
bro same😭😭😭😭😭
so this is why i'm so unlucky in relationship
I feel🥺🤍
I came here because my heart is heavy. My partner said “I just feel like I’m constantly defending myself with you”. So trying to understand why that is and I don’t mean to make him feel that way. Think it’s the way I express my opinions. I like what you said about telling others how to feel before going into a conversation.
I'm terrified to share how I feel. Anytime I did as a kid I was shamed put down or made to feel like my feelings weren't valid or accepted by my family friends or relationships. My most recent ex would take my concerns and feelings and turn it into a fight. They'd call me crazy. But now I'm with someone I really want to be open and vulnerable with and it's so hard. I don't know how to do it. I don't know how to be open and honest without fear of how they'll react and if I'll be put down again.
The thing is I don’t know why im feeling this way. Im so filled with emotions especially sad ones and my social anxiety prevents me from expressing that.
It's ok to dig through those emotions to get to the other side.
Don't ignore them. Untangle them.
Eventually they will start dissolving and you'll be able to explore more emotions.
💙
Keep me updated on how it goes. Ok?
@@StacyRocklein u
@@StacyRocklein your amazing per for talking about this most ppl need to know this
Me too this exactly what I have
I fell in love with this boy before the coronavirus. I cannot even express how much I love him. I cry about him almost everyday. My family is too strict so I can't really tell any one about him. Although my best friend knows what I'm going through. It's been 2 years since I've met him... I reached out to him and asked for some time so that we can talk. I am so scared to tell him everything that happened in these past 2 years. Knowing that someome will read this makes me relaxed and kinda better. And I really hope no one goes through the same thing.
I’m completely understanding on what your going through. There is someone I love so much and telling him is so hard. He’s calling me shortly and I’m about to tell him everything. I know it’s scary but I’m sending you so much support to brave through the storm. You got this!
I really want to try and be brave and connect with others, but I’ve had so much rejection, invalidation and misunderstanding that I’ve kind of just given up.
I keep it all to myself now and am very cautious of who I share my true feelings with.
Same 😔
This is exactly me...even I do the same .Sometimes i get fed up of trying to connect
Fear is the Word. It is a lonely feeling when you have a hard time telling your feelings.
One thing i learned in life is no matter how you word things, other people may not be ready to listen and you'll end up disappointed. So you have to first gage if the person you are speaking your truth to is prepared to receive it. It's also best to find internal support, validation and love. The more we know we are complete, the less lonely we'll feel and the less
dependent we'll be on others for understanding, support and validation. Eventually you won't care so much if someone understands you because you'll know you've developed a true connection to YOUR inner being, which is the true being that wants to be heard and seen. And you'll know that even though others may not be there to support you, the universe supports you.
Romina, this is so good! Thank you for sharing with the community 💙
@@StacyRocklein you're welcome!
you're assuming we even TALK to our family members.
Right. I'm just related to my family, we have no relationship, sadly.
I know it doesn't apply to everyone, but maybe it can help you in other areas :)
@@StacyRocklein thank you
@@chunker13asdf93 Happy to help 💙
Your voice is calming
Thanks :)
Hello 👋
I've been repressing myself for so long and the only person I talk too I always fear to open up to them for some reasons but all that internal mess is really eating me I need to get it out but i don't know how
Same
I think a purge is in order. Take a week where you only say what you need to say. Its a ballsy move and doing it in chunks or even half assed is a huge struggle, but you will find who you belong with in that week, and who belongs with you to boot. Open up to one person and try to snowball it into a manic week of self realization, and you will feel all the better for it
@@benopheim9737 yea I need to do that its ruining my relationship with my girl and I love her so much
@@benopheim9737 Yeah I think I'm going to try that thanks, I already tried sometimes to mention my issues to different people and all reactions where pretty much the same like, u need to get over it, don't ruminate the past, ur being so negative or things like that, but I know that I need some understanding and listening in order to feel better, so I think I just gotta persist find the right person 🤷♀️:)
How are you feeling now? Have you made progress? 🙏
Really interesting point of telling the other person how to react before sharing something dear to us. Never heard it that way and it really makes sense.
Exactly! 💙
i struggle so much with expressing my sadness or emotion to the point where family members think i am cold and insensitive. In reality, i am a very sensitive and emotional person. I also CANNOT cry for some reason in front of others. I have to be alone. Sometimes when i've cried because i am upset and then it's visible that i have cried, i pretend that i am not upset and that i've actually hurt myself like poked my eye or something, kind of stupid but yeah. The worst thing is when i really want or need to cry and other people are there, i clench my fists and sometimes pinch myself to stop the tears from coming. I feel like i bottle up my feelings so much to the point that i am afraid that i won't ever feel any emotions anymore or that if i am a little sad i will end up letting all of my past hurts come out and i will cry excessively.
LOL i didn't expect to write that much, even if nobody reads or replies it felt kind of good to write it all out.
Crying is such a good thing! I'm serious, it is sooo healthy because it helps you release emotions.
It doesn't mean you have to cry in front of people... but it's about the release. It's about YOU.
And if your past hurst end up coming out, then you'll get the perfect chance to peel them off so they can't hurt you any more. Don't keep them inside. Let them out and get rid of them!
Of course I read every single word you typed.
You've got this Zaynab 💙
@@StacyRocklein thank you so much for this! 💕
Everything you've said is exactly like myself. I'm 22 and I've been this way for quite a few years now. I feel like I'm always gonna be like this. It's fucked tbh.
You can do this @@Brandon-bh7pj
Don't give up 💙
@@StacyRocklein Thanks Stacy! ❤️
i cant express my emotions or help people i know without being embarrassed. it troubles me since i love helping people and i want everyone to be happy but i just can’t help people i know. that’s really horrible of me. also, i think about how one day everyone i love will be gone forever and never come back, then i want to hug my mother and father and everyone else i love but i can’t bring myself to do it. i get embarrassed or something. no matter how much i want to do something like that my embarrassment always stops me.
i think it’s embarrassment? i’m not sure if the correct word.
Same and im not sure either
Your voice is soft and claiming.
💙
Currently watching videos like this to be able to communicate my feeling with my significant other. I shut down and build a wall when I have sad of upset. I understand how it developed through my childhood and my relationship with my mom. But it's still so hard to overcome the wall I build around my friends and family
I takes time to build a wall. When it's fresh you can just knock it down easily, but after it has dried up it's really tough to take it down. How many years did it take you to build it? Double that number, that's probably how long it's gonna take you to break it down. It's not easy, but it's not impossible. So how do you do it? Brick by brick, day by day. 💙
@@StacyRockleinI just always wanted to listen to this.
We just broke up .. because of my bad habits.. i can't express my love to him even that i love him.. which make me feel bad .. and this is the 4th time🥺💔
I can completely relate with you ! Same situation 🥺
Me and my girlfriend are taking a break until I can completely express my feelings so thank you
Let me know how it goes 💙🙏
It going great we are talking about getting back together thank you sm 💙
I don't know how to express my feelings, i love my girlfriend and i want to tell her how i feel but i don't know how to tell her how i feel and I'm always afraid that she'll leave me for someone else and i feel like i have a constant fear and anxiety about that.
Ive been seeing some things that anger me in my household and I don't know how to say it without blowing up and just hurting the other person. I feel like if I do say something then it's going to get me into trouble because I feel like it's been built up.
Thank you so much for this! Just what I needed. That tip about telling people how we want them to respond before sharing emotions is gonna be so helpful😄
my boyfriend gets frustrated when i get upset because instead of telling him whats wrong and why i feel that way i just shut off completely. i cant seem to explain how i feel or to put my emotions in words, instead i just cry abt it. the other day i thought abt this and i realize my mom was the same way with me and i wondered if that impacted the way i react. she would always stay quiet/ignore me and not even look at me when she would get mad, i feel like receiving the silent treatment made me "devolop" the silent treatment since it was the only example of dealing with emotions i was shown
Amen you hit the hammer on the nail girl, thank you, I needed this.
I have such good aim ✌
Thanks for watching! 💙
I grew up in a family that does not really consider how emotions work rarely talk about it, I have lived my past four years not knowing whether I processed some emotions or just go as is on how fate works. I'm having a hard time processing and expressing my emotions especially in this time of pandemic lockdown. I have no problems accepting other people's reactions since I rarely processed my emotions, but now it seems like I fear of being critiqued on what I want to be on expressing them. I really don't know anymore and I'm afraid how to express and show these feelings to my few selected friends, I have a tough past though, its just I survived all these physical backlashes but the mental and psychological state of my mind keeps haunting me :/ .
Hey Star Seeker, first of all, I want to send you big warm hug. It sounds like you've been through a lot.
And I want you to know it's ok to feel that fear, because it is from fear that courage is born.
This global situation is definitely affecting us all and the way we express/perceive emotions, but just be patient and take it one day at a time.
Stay healthy and please come back here whenever you need to.
Stacy 💙
I Also Cry whenever im speaking to someone Emotionally because I'm afraid of conflict and I've been so stressed lately with my own issues and work and covid and I'm still trying to manage it. Now that covid has started I'm seeing some of the inner demons that my parents had and some of their toxic behaviour. I feel like I'm not going to be listened to it heard either
I'm happy I've found this video.
Also I've seen all the comments and I like to see that you replied to everyone.
And I'm happy to see this videos has helped so many people.
Thanks for watching! 💙
Such good advice!! Thank you Stacy!! ♥️♥️♥️
You're welcome Nae! 💙
Thank you for helping me learn how to express my feeling towards others
Happy to help!
my moms always made it seem like i should always be happy no matter what *you should be the happiest person in the world* everytime i was sad she would get mad at me now i don’t know how to open up to people or comfort others since i’ve never been comforted myself i read somewhere the only solution to this was to open up but i don’t think i can do it
Something we almost always inherit from our parents is their emotional blocks.
It's not easy to open up, so just take it one step at a time.
You need to go through your own journey.
And it takes time. 💙
Thanks mam I asked my crush out and she said yes I once one very shy thank you very much
If he didn't any reply
That's awesome!
I'm 23 and now I learn not to live internally by expressing my emotions
Yes! 💙💙💙
Hello 👋
Thank you for the help this saves me some friendships.
You're welcome, Brendan!
I don’t know how to say I am proud of my brother for doing well in school and just generally in life because I have never been good with expressing emotions.. how am I supposed to open up to others if I don’t know how to even say that I am proud of them?
It's not easy to open up. So start simple. 💙
Bro when say to my dad that i love him the felling is awkward I just dont like that felling
Thanks for sharing! It’s helpful🥺🥺🥺
Your voice is honestly so calm :0
Just FYI, this is not ASMR 😅
Thanks for watching! 💙
stacy youre changing my life
Aww thanks vivi! 💙
I love it 💞💞💞
You made my day
thanks for your suggestions 😍 😍
thank you!
You're welcome!
Great video Ma’am!! Very useful!!₹ you are awesome !! Thank You 🙏
I'm glad it helped you Shiva! 💙
Thank you so much!
💙
You’re so wise. Thank you
I appreciate that!
Hello 👋
Ive been the protector almost my whole life and in the past have been told to stop crying and care for my twin sister. So I did. I think that might be why. Im not sure. But I try to talk about my feelings and I start crying its not accompanied by any kind of emotion. Im mainly just embarrassed but it usually takes explaining how I feel out of the question. I can joke about how I feel but when its the honest straight up answer Im unable to talk without my throat closing up. Im pretty sure people get more worried about my tears than what im actually trying to tell them. Anything that other people say about how I may be feeling that hits the mark also makes me cry. I would like to talk to someone about it but I don’t even know why it’s happening.
is it because in a relationship i feel like i'm the weakest one? i always afraid of rejections
Great video. I will definitly try the 'tell others what I expect'-part.
Problem for me most of the time is I cannot name my feelings. Not sure if its Alexythymie or not.
The other way around I am pretty quickly overwelmed by the emotions of other people. My default is a complet shutdown (dont move, dont say anything, etc.), which in turn is interpreted as ignorance.
By the time I processed the feelings of my relevant other the conversation is over already.
Thanks for sharing Christian! Don't misinterpret it as your fault. You are who you are, you feel how you feel and that's ok. This isn't an ability we're just born with, you learn how to show up for someone. Take your time with it, and if you feel confident enough, bring that subject up to that person later after you've had time to process and think about what you wanna say. 💙
Does all this apply if it’s your ex? They broke up w me because I would be shy to talk about our future together. And earlier in the relationship, I had mentioned that I think I was too young to stay very committed. And thought I may hurt her in the future cheating or soemthing but I had never ever done that. But it came up bc she was pressuring me to move in .
She had said
I left you so that you won’t hurt me in the future I wanted to live with you and saw myself marrying you but that stuff scars you away so I had to let you go. How should I go about this, give some time apart I now want to show her that that was a confused past self and I want to work on us and take the present and future by the horns. And dive into it. W her .
How should I go about this situation. A week and 3 days have past.thank you so much god bless
I just found this and I truly appreciate you
💙💙💙
i don't know but last few weeks i feel very strange towards someone . Actually i don't know that i am in love or not but when i see her my heart beat very fast if it is love then i don't like it bcz i am a college student and 1st i want to achieve my future goal before falling in love with someone but my heart didn't listen to me so thats a big problem i have faced for few weeks what should i do have i express my feeling or just ignore these feelings .
Can you make a video on how to deal or cope with a spouse that gets angry whenever I share my feelings or concerns and then it turns into an argument. Ive tried so many different ways and I'm out of solutions. So I just try and keep my feelings to myself. It gets really lonely.
Girl, I feel you 💙
Let me know if this video helps you: czcams.com/video/eFaaMNf7KzY/video.html
Thank you for reaching out!
I don't know what is wrong with me sometimes I think I'm crazy😐I just lay in my bed and start crying for no reason I'm too afraid to tell my parents😐
Hey Lisa, i don't think you're crazy 💙
Sometimes these emotions just have to come out.
Sometimes we laugh. Sometimes we cry. And it's ok.
Try to dig deeper into what is triggering these emotions,
and seek professional help if you think that's what you need.
Let me know how it goes
@@StacyRocklein Alright thanks for your advice 🥰
I want to learn how to me more open to him and so that he doesn't feel it's a one sided relationship. I wanna be better for him ❤️
I have a best friend, and I fucking love her. Don't get me wrong, she's annoying as fuck, but still she is very supportive. She is also an introvert, like me. So once me and her were drinking tea, and I didn't want biscuits. She was eating happily, but I didn't want to. Its actually because people say im fat, my family, my so called friends. So I skipped breakfast and ate little in lunch. After finishing our tea, she asked me the whole day about why I didn't eat. I said that its nothing, but she knew better. She has known me for almost 10 years. She knows me. Then later I told her while walking, that it was kind of just because of people judging me and saying im fat. She asked me who said that, and then I said my grand father, grand mother, father and al my classmates. She knows me, I never loved myself, but I never hated myself so much. Now I do, and then she said that we should walk and go outside often. Now I want to be more open to her, and talk about my problems more. We both had fake friends, we talked about that. But I really want to open up to her because she is the only one I have. I really love her
Is there something holding you back?
girl, she's your bff and your friendship sounds like gold... don't let the value drift away 💙
This vedio is so helping and easing my thoughts. ❤
I'm happy to read this Hiba!
Thank you so. so. much.
You are so welcome!
Thanks a lot Ma'am
You're welcome, friend.
Thank you for making these vidoes
Aww you're welcome Traves! Your comment made me smile :)
I hold everything in. Literally and to others it may seem that i’m Obvlious or not catching on to what’s going on but I get so scared to respond but the only thing that’s doing is putting me back and not living true. It’s scary to be vulnerable and let others know you love them and keeps going without overthinking. I think the more I keep quiet the more i hurt others and hurt myself bc i’m the one who suffers with not expressing or feeling what i’m actually feeling to not hurt others, instead of helping i’m hurting them and myself. We’re all human with emotions and it’s okay.
It's not easy to let it out. Take it slow.
I love my family so much. but sometimes my family members think im ungrateful when I dont express emotions. Like if its something exciting I wont express excitement even though in my head, im extremely excited about it. I really want to and wish i could express emotion because they probably would feel more proud and happy, but I would feel weird doing it since i don’t do it often. I feel like when I dont show how excited I am they’re probably thinking how ungrateful I am or if they didn’t meet the standards I wanted. But that’s not true at all. Idk I feel out of place and I want to laugh with them. or them to laugh with me (If that makes any sense). I feel like im wasting my teen years acting like a fake version of myself around my family. I want to be myself around them like how most people are with their family
New skills unlock
I also have fear of judgement and am not able to share my feelings, needs with someone or people. I think no one might not care or they may judge me. I'll try to get out of it and be myself and a free me😢
I can't seem to open up without them questioning. Almost like a don't-ask-don't-tell or a closed moths don't get fed" type of mindset and in really trying to get out of mindset. It's not that I'm hidimg something but at the same time I struggle with initiating an open conversation about things with being a question first of that makes sense. It's even harder because I'm introverted.
Keep trying 💙
The fear will fade away sooner or later
Watching this because my friend asked me how I was going to be a psychologist and not be able to express my own feelings.
My boyfriend always tell me t express my feelings but I do fear because I don't no wat t do
But I'm not gonna tell it everyone, how do I know who to tell and who not?
Trust yourself. If you look into your heart, you will feel who the right people are to open up to it.
How are you doing?
Please help me, my girlfriend says I don’t talk to her. I feel like I don’t even like opening my mouth unless it’s something positive, funny, or about what we’re doing. I feel like if I’m opening up in complaining or something
Do you think she feels the same way when you talk to her and it's not "something postive, funny or about what you're doing"?
I'm guessing no.
I want to talk to my parents about how I feel cause I’m going through new emotions and I don’t know what to say cause I’m scared
this help me alot
I'm so happy to hear that :)
I have social anxiety and it’s really hard to tell people that I don’t have any friends. I also have a big secret in my heart and I’m so scared that others will know...
How would you feel if you broke those barriers?
p.s: you always have a friend here 💙
@@StacyRocklein I would be very happy if I were to overcome my social anxiety. I tend to keep things to myself in fear of others judging me. Any advice in trying to speak to others without fear or hesitation?
I’ve been treating my little brother with hate and disgust and I want him to know that I love him but without showing
Hate and disgust are hard emotions for US to feel. You will feel so much better turning toward love.
Hi Stacy, I used to have a wonderful friend in a girl colleague, things were pretty normal between us, I realised we were spending a lot of time talking in breaks, and then I misread things, developed feelings, expressed it, the friendship broke. We talk just as colleagues today - formal and cold. What's the point of expressing?
What would you like to express?
@@StacyRocklein I am talking of expressing my feelings of liking her, loving her, caring for her. I held back initially, things were fine. When I expressed, the friendship broke. Sometimes expressing doesn't help - it backfires.
@@deepanjan.sengupta I'm sorry that happened. Being in a friendship when you are holding big feelings like that inside can be hard. Sometimes we stay in those for too long hoping for more. Expressing your emotions at least gave you information to be able to move forward with. That's the tough call...bury your feelings and maintain the friendship without answers or take a risk and put them out there so you have answers. I think that was very brave of you.
@@StacyRocklein Thank you so much! Best wishes to you for your work.
@@deepanjan.sengupta so for u was better to idealise and create illusions? Or to move on and find a better suit for u in life? Nothing is worst then living with illusions so communication helped you live now with truth
A friend of mine is constantly not hearing me when I try to share how I feel. I have a history of childhood abuse and I am familiar with bottling up my feelings because I wasn't allowed to have them as a child. When someone doesn't hear me it triggers me to feeling like I'm living the abuse again. I try to let them know in a in a way that's productive that I don't like feeling like someone is dismissing my feelings. Then I regret saying anything. Why do I do this?
That is a brave thing to do! Listen, it's not your fault, it's what you experienced. I know I say "let people know what you expect them to do", but some people are just not ready or equipped to help you out. So consider give your friend a break if it happens again, and try finding someone else you can express these feelings to who may be more prepared to share the load.
I am very expressive I guess over expressive. I feel that my boyfriend don’t wanna hear me anymore. I think I annoys him being so expressive. What can I do not to annoy him with my feelings. Is there any way I can control my emotions. Need help.😢
watching this vid because even tho ik we both feel the same way I just shut down whenever I want to say anything, could be some odd coping strategy or something but I can't seem to not
I think you're right - it's probably an attempt to protect yourself. Totally normal. Maybe your first step is just recognizing you do it and being kind toward yourself about that. I hate that I show up defensively at first but rather than try to stop myself from doing that (which can feel impossible sometimes), I just try to move through it as quickly as I can.
@@StacyRocklein I guess, thanks for just validating that its not something wrong
Hi I take care of my brother and nephew every week I usually get tired because sometimes there bad and when my sis comes pick him up I feel like she’s always mad and I want to tell her how I get tired of it and how my other feeling are towards her and everything else she is a person that gets mad real fast and I always think what will she think or do my mom is scared of her reactions but I don’t want to be like that I don’t want her to rule my world I want to stand up and every time I talk I cry witch sucks how do you think I can talk to someone like her and not lose her she is someone I love she is a little bipolar and she also doesn’t talk to my other sister ists been so long since they talk .
Hi Lizette, I can't give an easy answer. But you should consider telling her how you expect her to react when you talk to her, and why you're telling her how you feel.
Good luck and thanks for watching 💙
I think I have trouble identifying my emotions. Any suggestions on that?
Janey, have you checked out my Feel Wheel? It's a free download that's gonna help you dig deeper. Here's the link: go.stacyrocklein.com/feelwheel
If you still can't idenfity them, don't get frustrated.
Sometimes it's impossible to put a tag on them.
The thing is I don’t know how to express myself on how I feel on a situation so I would get sad and cry about the situation because I overthink about it and it gets hard and then it gets hard to talk to my significant other because I may seem awkward is there a way for this to stop
It's ok to cry. But you gotta take small steps to get out of this cycle.
This helped me so much (:
💙 Thanks for watching!
Hello 👋
Yep, everybody asks me how I am so loud and happy but I’m not. The talking drowns out the pain. I can’t talk to my friends. I want to. But I can’t. I find it hard on its own to tell people personal things about myself like how I’m feeling or if I’m ok. I just can’t. They tell me that I can tell them but the words won’t come out. I see their names appear on my phone and I want to tell them so bad that I’m so done and that I want to tell them everything and cry on their shoulder while they tell me it’s ok. I’m crying my eyes out while trying to calm myself down. It doesn’t work anymore I just sit and it doesn’t stop. I want to someone. anyone. But I’m afraid they’ll tell me they don’t care or they won’t know what to say. I never know what to do when someone’s crying so it’s in the back of my mind that they don’t know what to do either. That they’ll just look at me and tell me their bad stuff. Like if I say I’m feeling rlly down they might just say same lol I’m depressed. I need someone to care about me. To comfort me no matter what. Through all of the bad. I miss everyone even though I see them almost everyday. They need to know. But I just can’t say. I can’t.
Charlie, you can transform that fear into courage 💙
Just imagine how happy you're gonna feel when you open up to someone!
I know you're affraid of what they might say or think, but trust me, people have more layers than you think.
And if they end up saying something you already expected them to say... they're just not the right person to talk to.
And you can move on to find the right one.
Keep in mind there's almost 8 billion people in the world.
You can do this 💙💙💙
@charlie how are you buddy??
@@vaisusharma6147 hey so i just remembered this and i think im doing better, i have tried to open up and also have been feeling better. The real question is, how are you
@@whoskayla577 good to hear 😆
@@vaisusharma6147 haha yeah
What if you have trauma of expressing this or being vulnerable and having a girl leave you?
Hi, I'm in love with a guy and I also confessed directly to him one year ago, I'm sure he too likes me, but he's hesitant to say that he has feelings for me. He always asks me to wait for the perfect time.., but I feel so lovesick, whereas he behaves so normally and text me usually as he does always.. How can I know what actually he thinks of me? Kindly help!
Hi Jemima, i think the best way is by asking him. But try to help him by telling him what kind of answer you expect, and that you would understand if he thinks this is not the right moment for you two. This is gonna help you both understand each other so you don't have to feel weird about it anymore.
Be ready for whatever answer he gives you, even if it is not what you expect.
But no matter what it is, just be ok with it.
That's true love 💙
@@StacyRocklein okay sure mam, I'll follow this and speak about it to him.. Thank you so much mam♥♥
I am very scared to talk about my feelings to therapists and I don’t know how to get rid of it have any tips?
What do you think is holding you back?
I really don’t know like when I talk talking I just feel really tense inside and scared
Looking ways to express my dissapointment and anger on something else my parents grounded me when im about to leave for a debut and the reason is Because i said so
This man really likes me & he says I’m cold hearted & I don’t have to be that way with him . How do I open up & show him I want him as well?
All you have to do is be yourself 💙
Do you think there's something holding you back from telling you how you feel?
It's ok if you're affraid, but keep in mind there's no courage without fear.
@@StacyRocklein love that last sentence thank you! But yes me being afraid of getting hurt again has made me put this wall up . He says he thinks I need time which I don’t know what that means necessarily.
I passed on the road and I saw this girl I love her
But I don’t know how to start and express my feelings for her
I can't express my feelings to my man in words how much I care nd love him...idk why I think he will think. I m lying or only saying filmy dailog.....but I know he will believe me nd get happy...but have prblm in showing love to my loved once...nd they think I'm emotionless
I have got problem when a girl express her feelings i don't listen but i jump, to sort out her problem, can anyone help me with any advice ,
This should help: czcams.com/video/z-ZNMtW9es0/video.html
...I don't know how to tell my parents and siblings, that I love them. Such a Basic thing for some, but we have never ever done it. And I feel like we will not have much time left, but i just dont know how to expres it, when I am with them....theres like a blokade between my heart and my mouth. And I think it would help us get closer, help us be honest about things that we don't talk about, cuz we all are scared of rejection I think...I have always been strong emotional person, but since childhood I had been pushing them away, locking them up in on room of my life cuz of bullying and anxiety ....even now I'm crying. Any practical advice? Thank you
what does it mean, work on a feeling myself, before i share it? when the situation is i want to share my feelings of lonelines with my family, that involves them, but wtf does it mean work on it myself first? doesnt make any sense
Hi Teresa, I totally get what you mean. It can feel really awkward to be the one in the family who opens up, especially if everyone has the image of you being the strong one... whatever that means... but I think you just gotta go for it. After the first one, everything will be a lot easier. Imagine how awesome it's gonna be if it turns into a habit and you infect your whole family with it!! 💙 What I mean by working on a feeling is understanding the reasons behind it, digging deep and managing your expectations of what's gonna happen once you share it. It may not always got the way you expect it to, so you gotta be ready for everything. You may not be able to do this all at once, it's not easy. So just take it step by step.
@@StacyRocklein Hi Stacy. Thank you for taking the time to answer, even though my edit was rude, and I apologise for that.
The problem is, that I have had tried it before, but it didn't go anywhere.....it was like, "oh, okay, if that's how u feel"....but we didn't.talk.about it anymore.
The habit of keeping things to oneself, and sharing it maybe with a friend outside the family, or noone at all, is rooted very deep in our family....is it seems imposible to change. My both sides of grandparents have been struggling to put food on a table, almost their whole lives, cu, they lived during bad times in central Europe, when the World War II was happening, and even after that, it was very hard life. So they cared about keeping their families alive, and something like - talking about how you feel was a total.foreign concept. ( just like transgenderism is to the African tribes :D )
But your comment helped, I will try to think about the cause and the solution about how I feel, hopefully I will get somewhere.
Dr.Jordan.Peterson is very much helpfull in trying.to get my life together.
Anyways, thank u again.
I feel like people don't care so I don't bother to express to them.
I'm sorry you feel that way, Michael. You deserve to have people in your life who care about your feelings.
@@StacyRocklein It's hard to say how I feel at the same time.
Each time i wanna tell something to someone like an adult i start crying and i shake and my voice is on mute…😕idk why! If someone could help explain i would be happy ^^
You are not alone. There are a lot of reasons it could be happening. I cry when I'm trying to communicate something very close to my heart and I push through to keep talking even though I feel embarrassed or self-conscious about the other person's response to my crying. I feel like getting it out if it's really important is a bigger deal than what my physical body is doing.
i like this girl but i haven’t told her yet, she likes me but she thinks i dont like her so she is very hurt, what should i do? im unable to express my feelings to her
It's normal to be affraid, but you can choose to transform that fear into courage.
Go with whatever you heart tells you. Do you feel ready?
Life is short 💙
What about if my partner cheated on me went silent on me and came back? but we still love each other he made me fear opening up😔
You define the boundaries 💙
And you know how to heal this wound
I just can't feel anything most of the time. People neglect and ingore me so I did Same with myself. One part of me wants to feel and express but another part of me say no you can't. You deserve it. You're bad you're meant to feel pain. I feel like I don't deserve anything good. I have no one to share and people whom I can share don't live near my house i just don't want to go outside (but I also want to go outside) my boyfriend live in another country he had a busy schedule. I want to spend that time with him happily instead of telling him how many problems I had and waste that precious time. I don't know. What I should do..
It sounds like you've got a lot going on internally. Focus on the thoughts that make you feel good. Kindness toward yourself begins with you.
@@StacyRocklein okay
Thank you
@@StacyRocklein but what do you do when those positive thoughts don't help or progress the situation, I've been to counselling many time and been in and out of mental health services and still nothing, I push everyone close to me away via the way I act or the things I do, I don't see myself as the problem and I feel like everyone is against me, that's not healthy for a 22 year old surely
@@ToxicTripz8213 I'm a big fan of personal responsibility so I am always asking myself what I could do differently to get different results. Perhaps that question would help?
Sorry dear
Ive been feeling bad for so long....i really want to tell my partner i love them but i can never say it....i get overwhelmed by my emotions so easily so for their sake (they get upset whenever im sad)so i never say it....they know about this and we have a way of telling eachother "i love you" in different words but im currently working on myself and these issues to be able to tell my partner that i love them.
I need help I don't know what ti do anymore my partner is mad at me because They aren't satisfied with me not sharing what I feel its not that Im not trying to but when I do I jinda freeze up and its silent then they yell at me then I start crying while trying to say something it feels like there pressuring me but idk
They also broke up with me because they think I'm not ready for them yet even though I'm really trying and I tried to tell them that and most of what I was feeling it still wasn't enough
Of course you get triggered when you are yelled at and it could result in you freezing up the next time you try to share. That makes sense! We all need partners to hold us with kindness and generosity when we're trying to share.
@@StacyRocklein thank you❤️
I am afraid that sharing my feelings in a relationship, negative or positive will immediately drive the person off which results in rejection, shame and pain.
Yeah, that can happen too
I told my friend he has no time for me. and it's ok
I'm used to being rejected
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social rejection my default setting now.
no one accepts me
Don't give up. There's literally billions of people you could connect with. 💙
bt for me l don't know what happened to me, sometimes i love someone with much love bt in two weeks i really lose appetite to talk to him, especially boys i don't why
I think it's normal to feel this way. You can't control the first though/feeling, but you can control the next one. Learning to manage your emotions and expectations should help you in the future.
the sad part is that this is a video because people unnormalized things like this in peoples childhoods, just sharing something about how you are excited and are really joyful and happy for something you want to share, would get shunned for expressing THEM but they’d be confined to expressing other people only instead of THEIR own personal feelings which they think are invalid because they’re ingrained they’re invalid other people would love to listen to what you have to say, they love you
God loves you
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How to express your feelings to a girl I love so much & i can't see her with others how ? how ? I'll show her
Let go of fear. Life is too short.
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