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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- Ldr has been so hard..
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LDR works when you have a plan and a goal of an outcome to not be in an LDR.
They are also used by people who just use it as either a distraction from their life or to give some meaningful use to their life.
The hard LDR are ones where both are invested in the relationship but there is not real plan and the years just drift by until one party wakes up and realised it isn't going to happen and they need to part ways.
Yes, when both parties are wholeheartedly, genuinely in love and have seriously discussed at length goals and aspirations for their future. BUT someone has to propose first and the proposal has been accepted. 😅
Exactly well said. Without an immediate plan to marry each other there is no goal and one will put too much pressure on the other, as she is doing.
I married and brought my Filipina wife to Canada as we both wanted the same thing. Slam dunk we married there and she was here in a year, now married 10 years.
Also wish she wouldn’t rely on god so much, it’s about you.
@@bdominick419 But equally there is no point getting married without a plan. Marriage should be part of the plan, but not the plan.
@@gavjlewisTrue also, though I personally know a few who chose not to marry and appear happy. I don’t think that’s a choice for these two, as they’re both Catholic
Agree but the move should come from the guy if she really wants it to be not an LDR anymore
MJ
When I was seeing my Filipina wife in ldr, she wanted to break up 5x, but I got her to give us a chance, and we have been married now for 12 years
Love this!
She was probably a bit immature in a lot of areas of her life back then. Then again, we don't know what you were and currently are like. I'll just say you are extremely fortunate it has worked out, for a host of reasons.
NEILGUNNS8391 is annoying and a COCHROACH who deletes comments cause he's MJ's bodyguard!!!!!!!
@@Keith-vq3obThen again, she might have been mature enough to not jump into a serious relationship, especially an ldr one 😊
@@milanice5730 True. That could as well be a reason. I should have included both scenarios.
My Thai wife of 16 years now was a teacher in TL had a good job, brand new car and large loving family and friends. She left all of that behind to join me in the UK in 2008 I always asked her why she left such a good and easy life behind to come to UK with me and she started back then with nothing again! She always says the same..she left because all her friends were getting married and leaving..her brothers were getting married and moving out living hours and hours diving away and her mom and dad would eventually get old and die leaving her stuck in her little village with no one but herself. She decided to change all that and never looked back..
That’s the point. You made her your wife that’s why she’s with you! A man can’t be with his LDR partner to be “together for ever “ unless she becomes his wife. It’s not happening with this woman. He is NOT “making her his wife” and this seems to be the only way for them to be together considering they are from two different countries. That’s the consequence. See what I’m saying?
MJ, Now that you’ve found a marriage material man, bring the ldr to the next level to stop the missing loneliness, doubts etc. Prayers without action doesn’t work. Just my opinion.
Indeed, been to this same situation 12 years ago and it was really HARD. I left everything and moved to ISRAEL, left my
Job, separated from my family but thanks god. I did a a good decision🙏
Get a job ! So you don't feel lonely and bored
@@chrissy1022good idea...
@@chrissy1022 from the sounds of it, she does not want a real job. Wakes up all hours and when it's rainy or gloomy, she wants to stay in bed and do nothing. What life is that? Don't think about moving to Europe MJ, because you won't see much sunlight.....just saying as I live in Canada so I know what our weather is like.
Prayers without true faith and allegiance to Christ's teachings and principles is a questionable way to claim God will guide and keep you. Most Catholics I know never read the Bible. They do get drunk, use profanity, fornicate and are self indulgent, though.
You still need to be very careful with the info you share on your relationship, because it could cause people to start attacking Robbie with negativity. He’s a good guy, and he’s done a lot for you and he loves you. People don’t need to change their ideas about Robbie even if you’re struggling. If you don’t go with the flow and accept things for what they are, you will lose Robbie from the pressure and stress you’re exhibiting.
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Well said I hope she sees this comment
Good piece of advice
It’s sinister that you then went on to propose negative outcomes in Robbie. You are for the watchlist.
That’s for damm sure 😅
She needs to kick Robbie to the curb & get a local Filipino guy. Problem solved. Sound good?
Focus on your future, make use of your college knowledge and start working while you’re young.
@@finehappycamper
She IS working. Where do you think she's getting her income from? Even Celebrities are turning into CZcamsrs to supplement their income.
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@@finehappycamper if she has not done it before 30, when will she do it?
@@sharonchoo-hum1714 Life is a never ending process of learning. It doesn't end at 30, it ends at death.
Agree, vlogging is no substitute for a career
The Point that you are missing in your quest for a partner is this, if you date an unavailable man you get unavailable men. What I mean is that you have to set up certain criteria for initial dating and if the person does not meet it, move on, before love has a chance to rear it's inconvenient head. I liked both the guys you dated, both quality men but both unavailable to you, as the world is. You will never leave your family and you want to live in the Philippines, so the first criteria has to be that they will settle in the Philippines...period. Which means, your age group is older than the one you are dating and your last two men. They need to be 50 and above. I know you have a type, tall, young and european but you got to let that go, love is about the person, not initial lust. You need to concentrate on older men who are available and willing to live in your world, who have resources to travel, that you love, and adds to the quality of the world you deserve, and it is time for you to start a family and you know it. Best wishes, nothing but love is sent to you.
@@neilgunns8391yes! … and they managed to work it out!
MJ has made it clear that she’s willing to give up the Philippines ~ and I think the oppressive heat ~ to live where her love happens to be ~ and it just so happens that it’s Poland which she was able to experience in its most beautiful season for two weeks with Robbie 😊
@@milanice5730 they have this misconception that MJ cannot leave Cebu. I guarantee you all that she CAN … SHE SAID SO! Filipinas are very flexible and adaptable wherever they may be, which the foreigners still have a hard time digesting. Ask MOST Filipina women!
Robbie has a job he can't leave and you do not. You can vlog from any place so I will guess that he will apply for a fiancee visa for you and you will go to Poland to get married and live with him and you will leave your house to your family to care for and live in, but be available for you when you come back to visit now and again. We will see how close my prediction is one day soon.
You might not like a lot of the comments including mine. Yes, you do have a choice who you fall in love with especially if you plan on being with that person long term. If you don't have a plan of when you'll get married, etc. LDR will seems like forever. You mentioned in most of your videos how hard LDR is, but what solution have you come up with? You talked about being bored and alone, what have you done about that? Personally, making videos is not a job for the future but if you choose that, why don't you get into hospitality and show those islands/resorts around the Philippines and promote their tourism, as well be a tour guide to boost your videos because your videos are the same over and over which becomes boring. Your LDR should not be so complex if things are planned out for the future between you and Robbie. Remember your Q&A with Vingle you said you like things to be hard, well I'm assuming you know how to deal with such. Make use of your life and don't waste time on things you don't have control over, and remembe, be you!
Good one!
This girl is soool desperate of getting married. She
Wont accept that but mannnn i hope the polish guy will think about it so many times
@@ronaldjewelrygolddsupplier she does not know in a relationship/marriage that it's important to remember that it's not all about one person (her), the other partner needs space. Her stupid comment about she did not go to Europe to look for a man and she does not chase, she attracts is so childish. Her video is all over the place and almost sound as if she's trying to justify some of her emotions shown in some past videos about LDR so hard, missing him and so emotional with crying and bla bla feeling sorry for herself. Her videos at home are so boring lately.
@@sharonchoo-hum1714why are you watching if … her videos lately are so boring? You are so hypercritical of her ALWAYS and one of the first unwanted comments in her vlogs, with an S. Put some positivity in your life and see the difference.
@@deetl I'm certainly not the only one who sees her that way so whoever you're, I don't need your advice. The world needs positivity in case you missed that so spread the word!
My observation from when he picked you up at the airport and your other videos - he came off cold to me. No hand holding and the usual signs of affection I'm used to seeing. LDR is certainly hard and I keep wondering what your hope is - to have someone come live with you or you go to them? It would be very hard for most American/European guys to have the same earing capacity there then they do where they live.
Can’t blame him he’s a camera shy guy
Hello Robbie is not a teenager and he is European . Some people show there emotion differently.
@@ednacamacho3073 he's a big guy and if he loves her he can give her a big hug and big kiss.
@@EvelinHolmesI believe this, too! Not all men show the same affection. If it’s too touchy-feely, some people will squirm like me. Robbie’s just fine!
Some people are not comfortable with PDA . Now throw in it's part of a CZcams enterprise
You think you gonna be vlogger, whole life? Life change so fast. What it's gonna be in 10 years. Many people gonna find something new. I choose love. I am happy with my Cebuana woman in Belgium. We are married. Even have our own house. Life is not always travel. We both work. And that's what we do in Europe and other parts of the world. Enjoy life. And that's without likes or views, one day it's over. Respect MJ. Wish I could say more and deeper my thoughts and life. Greetings. Maayong gabii. 🙂🇵🇭
Good feedback 😊
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NEILGUNNS8391 is annoying and a COCHROACH who deletes comments cause he's MJ's bodyguard!!!!!!!
When you have relationship LDR Dont expect to much just go with the flow. Because when you expect too much and it happens, yet you will get hurt.
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Yes you can't sure yet. some relationship up to many years but suddenly it's ended surprisingly and its get hurts...
You have only dated foreigners in the past. You stayed with 2 men for several days in two European countries on your trip before even meeting Robbie. How can you say you are not pro-suing foreign men.
what about a man in SG , she celebrate her last year birthday with an epic crossing boarders to Malaysia... OMG!
MJ said she has dated Filipinos in the past (But, of course!), but she is more drawn to them as brothers. She describes men from other cultures (men of European descent?) as more “physically, emotionally” mature ~ among other things. I can’t fault her for having her own preferences 😅
it,s like fishing, if you display the bait, the fish will smell the bait and you have a fish ! if you do not flash the bait you will never catch a fish. men are the fish and you are the bait !
@@milanice5730 i think she likes any nationality as long as he is financially stable,but,if you were the man,would you like her,she seems like high maintenance to me,just saying😃
Don,t think Robbie wants to put up with all the drama MJ has, always sick,always needs to go shopping so she,s not depressed,its really pretty simple if Robbie wanted her in his life he would of married her and moved her to his country.I know thats what i did when i met my Filapina could not wait to get her here in the usa,we have been married now for 20 years,its all pretty simple
I Meijean,Even if you and Robbie love each other it is to soon to get married. Marriage is for life you dont just jump into it. I cant see Robbie living in the Philippines and if you went to Poland to live Robbie would be out working. You would start to feel inadequate as you would not be working. Also you would not be able to fly home to the Philippines alot. Also you said you did not plan a LDR well i don't think you met a man called Robbie randomly in Poland that would be silly. So it means you did know there was a chance of a relationship. Mayby he was a subscriber. That means you met him knowing it could lead to the situation you are in now. God help us all if you ever have to give birth. Its painful.😊
More morphine, please!
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The best way to learn Polish is to get a job there.
Mj can I offer you and Robbie a word of sincere advice..I am from Ireland and in an LDR with a Filipina 30 also..its being 1 year and a half and she got refused a visa last month..It is very difficult for a filipino to come to Ireland unless they are coming through an agency for work like a nurse etc..
Its going to be a long road but we are determined.
So be gratefull you were able to go to Poland...we can not even do that..
Also dont loose Robbie..you will regret it and trust me there is no such thing as taking a break to see what happens..total nonsence...
Figure it out because if the relationship goes bad its never the same..
And you are 30....I am way older than you,,trust me 40 will come like a flash of light...20 years old until 30 is slow but 30 to 40 is so fat.. do you think you will get a better man??no you will not...what are you waiting for??
That is my advice....Polish people are great people..we have many here in Ireland..traditional values..
God bless you both..
You’re inspiring … hopeful. Good vibes … makes this world a better place!
She can go back to school and take up nursing and later apply work in Poland. That will keep you busy during your LDR years.
If he really love you , even though its LDR he will try his best to work out your relationship. But if not it will just go away and its a shame .
Not usually fond of negative comments, but i wish MJ would avoid unhappy dramatic thumbnails but d video is tho d video is really not that sad. I already have a stressed life so when i see sad thumbnails, i simply skip d video. I donot need added drama in my life. Other probably can relate. In general people watch YT to b entertained or learn something n not to b stressed. Just my wish comment meant to b constructive
I’m with you! So true!👍👍👍
You think that man would spend his life in your place? When he has that life support from his environment in Poland... What he is looking for is a woman of the house..not a model or a vlogger.. a woman who knows the work in the kitchen not the one who wud only sit at the table at meal time... Oh gush... This is how i see it in you.. Better think otherwise.. Life is not a show.. It is something to live by😮
Ich denke, man kann alles schaffen, wenn man es will! Mein Sohn und seine philippinische Ehefrau waren 2 x 1 Jahr getrennt, sind heute glücklich verheiratet und haben eine wunderbare Tochter!
Yes , She can if She is not so vain!
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Vanity is not part of the reasoning here. The main thing is the legality of a person to stay permanently in a foreign land.
Well MJ, if you’re both missing each other that much then one of you will have to move countries, and if Robbie has a good job in Poland that he can’t do in the Philippines, then it looks like it will have to be you that moves to Poland, as you can vlog from anywhere , otherwise it’s LDR indefinitely 🤷♀️
Even if he has a good job with skills and experience, he would not be able to earn a good salary there. The median income in Philippines is $3,600/year. Before someone says it's cheaper to live in Phils, no... only on a few things. The problem comes from there being far too much sold in Philippines that is imported rather than made in PI.
Robbie and MJ would be better off living in Poland.
NEILGUNNS8391 is annoying and a COCHROACH who deletes comments cause he's MJ's bodyguard!!!!!!!
I totally understand the LDR. My Filipina fiancée and I are doing this right now. It is a struggle but we truly love each other and will make it through until we are united permanently. Keep the faith Meljean. ❤
Hi MJ..I’ll formerly introduce myself to you I’m Mrs Shaw my name is Lorie Felisan as a single province girl from Sibahay Lanuza Surigao del Sur southern part of Mindanao but now married and living here in Vancouver Canada since 1989 ..I got married year1988 to my husband his name is Dan Shaw a Canadian/French Irish background and have blessed with 2 children ages 28 Stephanie and Robin 32 yrs old But how I’ve meet my husband is that we were Penpals at that time no internet/computer or even social media!All we did are writing each others letters as Penpals the old school!!❤But after a year of communications/calling long distance on the phone and exchanging letters we managed to be in a good relationship in fairness with no problems and with all honesty and after a year of writing letters he came to the Philippines and visited me for three months and our relationship became serious and before he left Philippines he did proposed and even managed to got married in such a short period of time but I think he already planned it before leaving and going back to Canada 🍁 so we got married to a simple wedding ceremony in a Catholic Church with only 24 people attending very quite and simple wedding which we both wanted and after one month he flew back home to Canada and me at the time finishing studying as a Hairdresser/Hair technician a one year course❤ he left and followed him after I graduated and after 8 months of waiting to processed all my paperwork now I’m happy and loving dreams altho long distance relationships aren’t easy but you and Robbie have lots of patience,love and understanding to conquer all of those things and be more honest to each other’s feelings and that you will both overcome that with flying colours ❤Remember communication is crucial to your relationship and ask God for guidance and wisdom and even will fall into place trust me and also trust your instincts because nobody knows but your inner self both of you!! Thanks for listening ❤and Goodluck I hope that you and Robbie will continue to enjoy life and that someday you will diffinately walk down the isle as everyone’s wish for you at the time was 30 yrs of age same as you haha!!when I got married and Dan was 34 but I’m am now 66 yrs old and hubby is 69 yrs old..Imagine we’re still here together but like I said is not an easy
Marriage at first but with lots of prayers we managed up until now we both now retired and lived good decent lives have our own house with both of our children whom both aren’t married yet ✌️!! 🇨🇦🍁
Same here. Coming up on 2 years now and we both are waiting patiently. It's not easy but it's going to be worth it in the long run.
@@lorieshaw5632oh … I love your love story! I used to live in Vancouver!
@@kingbeestacker873hopefully… good luck!
NEILGUNNS8391 is annoying and a COCHROACH who deletes comments cause he's MJ's bodyguard!!!!!!!
I am an american and in a LDR with a filipina for over 3 years, I visit for a few weeks a year. I think the key is to have to plan to not be in a LDR forever, like my GF has 1 more year left of college and we plan to soon start the paperwork for the 90 day marriage visa so she can come here after she is finished. The other thing I do is I simply dont think about it at all and I just work as much as possible talk to her when I can of course but I find if your not working alot of have other family and friends to be with you will just think about it all the time and be miserable. Nothing in life worth doing is easy and the hardest things are the most rewarding.
there are two sides to every story
For me and my american boyfriend theres no problem being in ldr becoz we have a goal to work on . We have a communication routine and thsts fine for us..now we're both busy saving for our next vacation soon.
“I think God has already written our destiny in life and we’ll just have to wait for it!”
God is OMNISCIENCE.
I'm sorry but I don't agree God does not write our destination,he is letting us deciding for our life,and our life is our choices😅
Oh my Buddha! who is this God person?
Very true and always put God first in the center of any relationship ❤
NEILGUNN8391 and DEE-LT have so much power on here! This is so UNFAIR for all viewers! I always mind my own business, until yesterday when DEELT did not like my ANTAGONISTIC view with an ATHEIST! The post has since been deleted by DEELT, so there's no proof of the conversation ever taking place. The atheist proclaims there is no god, so why waste your time talking to something that doesn't exist as that atheist was pointing out to MJ's comment about her faith in God. Hence, the queen of PRAGMATIC enters into the conversation and sided with the atheist since DEELT is AGNOSTIC!! MJ, why do you allow these two to have so much control in the comment section. These humans are INSANELY controlling over all the comments. They pretend to be sensible and reasonable but in reality, they are like sheep in wolves clothing.
The clock is ticking away and not getting any younger anymore.. its everyones choice what to in your life.and not to be told what to do.
Good luck to the future
*The whole world lies within you and if you understand how to look at it in order to learn from yourself, you are standing at the door and holding the key in your hand. No one in the world can give you the key or open the door for you except you yourself.* 🌏
Ldr is difficult coz ive beeb there. I focussed to my 8 to 5 job being busy everyday. Maybe since your work is to vlog you dont interact with people out from your comfort zone. Try to do something that will make you more busy maybe take online course or go to gym everyday 16:13
A very good advice!
May I suggest for you to look for a part-time job like 2 to 3 full days a week...maybe as radio or TV announcer. Sounds good, isn't it. What do you think?
Mj you are already 30 not 18!!!have you ever thought what do YOU really want for your future???being in an Ldr for how many years?what's the next step?,stay on this forever?it is not only fall in love,it is about face love in reality!if you love each other then be together!!with all of my love i hope you read this comment
Well said....
I thought she was 30 for a Filipina she looks l older then she actually is
@smiling. I’m sure she’s never thought of her future. Who does that? 🤦♂️ Come on people. Seriously
⚠NEWS FLASH⚠
You are NOT an INDEPENDENT woman!
You're living in LA LA LAND and EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE.
An independent woman is characterized by several key traits and behaviors that reflect her self-reliance and strength.
*handles personal challenges with strength and doesn’t rely on others for her happiness.
*makes her own decisions and stands by them, demonstrating autonomy and self-assurance.
*values autonomy in her relationships, avoiding co-dependency and fostering mutual respect.
*prioritizes personal growth and continuous learning to better herself and her circumstances.
How can we BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER when you have
GATEKEEPERS from all directions!!!!
@@neilgunns8391 You and DEE-LT are the most annoying subscribers on here!!!!!!!
So pretty much the same as all women on earth
@@joeboyd5349 either you’re married or desperately seeking MJ!
Nope just realise after 54 years they are all cut from the same cloth. Women are supposed to be emotional. And mj is anything but dependent on a man. I bet she makes more peso than you
@@rogah104totally agree with you on this re: neilgun and deetl being the most annoying subscribers lol
Frankly speaking, I dont think Robbie will leave his parents to b with u in the Philippines n you to leave yr family to b with Robbie in Poland. B realistic, MJ.
@canonind1909 if they love each they will make a plan, in good happy relationships there is a lot of compromises.
Love is not selfish
@@nkepileramokopu4120bless both of them
@@nkepileramokopu4120true!
@@nkepileramokopu4120 I agree with u but they need a step further to discuss n they still cant compromise, it better to part ways earlier then fell deeper in love n get hurt later.
You and robbie can overcome LDR just keep the faith be strong , be positive and happy all the time, make yourself busy!!! like you said in your previous vlog you want to learn to bake ,do your work out, do gardening and time will pass by so fast without feeling sad or lonely and you are right let God be in your LDR.
My hubby and I were in a LDR too. I think what works is making a fixed schedule for you two to still connect and have quality time on facetime and phone. Pick a time and day that both of you can focus on each other. Avoid convos in between your day coz it really isn’t quality time. Also, both of you should make couple goals such as by x time we should assess if we will move our relationship to the next level
or is it not working out. Both of you are in a place where you are of age, stable already. I am rooting for you an Rob to be together and live in his country and visit your hometown eventually. ❤
And your feelings MJ are valid. You not alone so keep sharing and navigating life in a positive way.
Wow … hope springs eternal, hope not!
An LDR needs a definite plan to be together. A definite date! To move to another country means you have to get married!
After 8 months of chatting I flew out to the Philippines and we met!
Her work contract ends in June 2025. In July I’ll fly out again! God willing we will tie the knot!
Afterwards she will join me here!
If we didn’t have this definite plan I would not waste her time!!
I like that … a DEFINITE PLAN! Perhaps, MJ and Robbie have plans already. MJ does not usually divulge info unless it’s on the eleventh hour … coz as what she said, “might jinx it”.
Good input
Congratulations to you both. Will it be difficult with her moving to Germany where you now reside, with regards to long term visas because marriage does not automatically guarantee residency in several European countries like Poland.
@@raymonde4272yes, Poland is tough! If I’m not mistaken … remember Cindy? The lady MJ met in Paris? She has a Polish husband and they’re living in Germany with their child. I also occasionally watch the Dudkowski family, Polish husband and Filipina wife … she complained that it took her years to get a permanent residency and she is still not a naturalized citizen, probably will never be (not sure). If I also remember it correctly in her past vlog, MJ said that Robbie had consulted an immigration lawyer.
You’re happy, almost giddy with excitement, here. Glad that you had a long talk with your guy 😊
This was the best, MJ, seeing you, hearing you talking as if we're friends and it's not a show. You're genuine, and you're genuinely nice and thoughtful and kind. Who better to spend time with? There are no answers to life, not really and not really appropriate for each of us, we just do the best we can day to day. You've been in my prayers all these years, just so you know, and that continues. Thanks for the glimpse into your daily heart. You're the best and I wish the best for you and the ones you love.
Amen 🙏 to that, thank you man.
Honestly, I got teary-eyed with your words. She’s a darling and reading all the negativities in the comments breaks my heart for she has a kind heart. Some viewers confused their “My Opinion” and “My Standard Others Must Follow” and they refused to acknowledge the difference.
Just keep praying Mj that you and Robby will end up together. A good and kind woman should end up with a good man and That’s Robby. I’m your new subscriber a retired Rn . Love watching your vlog. You are so smart and beautiful.
I know how hard it is as i am in a LDR with a Filipino. We chat on messenger every day, I video call every weekend and for 5 minutes before i head off to work. I am in the Uk and she is in Mindanao. I have travelled over 3 times since January 2023 with another trip planned in December. . Keep working hard MJ and as they say good things come to those that wait
LDR is not easy… but better give time to know more of each other… when Robbie visit you or u visit Robbie that is only happy times…. And someday you need to decide if you leave PH… leave everything and back to zero… learn the language…etc… but thats life…sometimes you just have to accept😘❤ lovelots…
Did Robie open up regarding to tie the knot together?if a man is really sincere regardless of nationality he will do it very quick.good luck both of you.LDR is very difficult ok?
I don't think so
Any relationship takes a bit of thinking with the head, not the heart. Many variables are at play. Age, personal goals, income, employment, geography and distance. But sometimes, the answer is simple. The basics: A relationship requires two people -- being together. So that narrows the decision process. Either you have to be with him, or he has to be with you. There is no way around that. Now the variables. Age, employment, distance, goals. He is still relatively young, and his work is in Poland. That's how he would support a family. You are on CZcams, & on-line work can be done from anywhere in the world. Wages in the Philippines and Poland are worlds apart. Then you have your Filipino family. Who has top priority? Your man and his family (YOU), or your Philippine family? Sometimes you can't have your cake and eat it to. I'm an American that doesn't have to work - I'm retired and have good pensions. I moved to Cebu City and married a woman in her 30s. We have a great family here, and she and our two High School daughters are very happy with our lifestyle. She had to make a sacrifice and leave Philippine Government. I made a big sacrifice and left my country including my free medical care. We have a true relationship -- we are not nomads. I do not think that your boyfriend is either. So you need to have some deep conversations regarding these facts of life and variables, and see if a solution can be reached. Otherwise, you need a new path, but the decisions will be the same once again. Maybe the answer is marrying a Filipino.
Profound words for you, MJ ❤
Hi Meljean, I understand what what you are going through and I know how hard LDR is. I have been with my now Asawa going on 4 years and I will tell you it was very hard for me in the beginning because so many things happened in my life that has made me feel insecure in relationships. Things were only worse when I got into and LRD, now mind you I have been in 2 other LDR's but they didn't last long at all. It's hard to put everything behind you and start over with someone, let alone it be in an LDR and there is not much contact with each other. Yes, calling and texting is great and all, but you do need the physical touch of your partner, (I'm not talking about Intimacy) but that also plays a roll in it to. Just being together and holding their hand, wrapping your arms around them, it brings a calm and relaxing feeling that everything is right in your world. Mj I know you are not worried about the negative comments but I also know they can hurt and sting a bit, You are a beautiful woman with a good head on your shoulders and I do think you ARE more then OK. You and Robbie have a good relationship and yes you both feel the strain of it all and instead of just ignoring it you both confronted it and acknowledged it and made plans to combat the situation. Just keep moving forward and as you have said it's in the Lords hands and there is no better place. As for me I just let it all go one day (because to be honest I was going crazy). I knew we loved each other very much and this was what we wanted so we to made a plan, texting everyday, video calls everyday and me coming to see her every year (since it's easier for me). The texting and video calls are VERY VERY important because without those you have nothing and you will lose everything you started to build. One more thing Mj, stay strong and just don't give up.
Much love and respect for you and Robbie.
All relationships are difficult. The distance makes every problem magnified.
I wish you the best of luck in your relationship and in life.
Love is patient and trust, surely the married life will come in the rigth time and place, if you guys are really for each other. But for now enjoy life and enjoy LDR, Mj and Robbie. 💝💝💝
I previously said in here that I think Robbie can’t leave job or would have to get a work from home job in order to move to the Philippines….. on the surface, I’d say the simplest would be for you to move to Poland and be with Robbie and vlog from there for a while ( longer than just several weeks) that way you both are together and you get to see if being in Poland would be a good fit…. If he has a work from home job, then he could move to your house and work from there ……. Same thing he could try it out and see if the Philippines is a good fit for him
Thanks
Mark
@@markeuringer8106 exactly
Well spoken words Markeuringer😊
Thank you
Although Robby's job has never been mentioned, I don't believe that Robby works from home as on earlier videos they would video chat whilst he was in a vehicle on his way to work.
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I agree. The ldr is so hard. I have done this too with 2 different Filipinas.
My husband was 36 when he married me and I was 29 but waiting for four years and another one year to wait for immigration visa before we joined together as a married couple
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Hey Mj. Glad you are feeling better. Just so you know, I hear no music. “ I don’t chase, I attract” yesssssss 🙌🏼. You keep on remembering that. Everything will happen or not happen in its time. You and Robbie are still new and learning each other which is taking longer because of the distance. When you guys tire of the distance you will again talk and discuss the next plan of marriage and will one of you move? Or 6 months in Poland 🇵🇱 and 6 months in Cebu. But can Robbie be away for 6 months in terms of work? What work could he do in Cebu? You both family oriented. You guys will figure it out. ❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Do you want to move to Poland ?? Its like you both love where you live too much one has to decide if your love is real because most stay apart because of work but you can live anywhere your a Utuber . Maybe its time to love enough to let go or be together .
God Bless and Pray God knows all and best ❤️🔥🙌
That is expected-LDR- when you choose to have a relationship with a foreigner. Robbie must decide to marry you if he decides that YOU ARE THE ONE, to stop the LDR and live in Poland since Robbie has a job in his country.
Amen
😂😂@liza6125 Europe is boring as hell.
I am from east Europe, but not from Poland , I live in Spain 12 years, now UK 6 years, and Philippines one year.
I know lot of tradition and people and i tell you honestly,you don't know what you talking about.
Me after 8 months in Asia after I land in UK I want to go back asap there, where is warm, hot and nice colourful places.
Men are everywhere and this kind of stuff is extremely hard international dating is not easy.
For an Asian is extremely boring as a couple life , Europe, and capitalism is boring for them .
And then you tell me as a man what makes you special so a woman will leave : parents, friends, tradition, local food behind, for you ???
@@ionutmititelu2083 my wife would never go back to PH lol.
@@travelfootiekie this happens to extremely poor Filipino without any options financially in Philippines.
If you change Philippines for UK you need to be desperate financially.
As UK people, weather and life style is extremely depressing.
@@ionutmititelu2083 Europe is only UK?
3 years in an LDR here. its not for everyone but I like a lot of me time and so does she. we are on a 10 week off, 2 weeks on arrangement.
In my opinion because I have friends who is a relationship with other culture like from Europe they don’t like social media and ldr doesn’t really work for them.
@@87set yes mostly,ayaw nila ng nasa socmed
All I gather from this when she said that they have found a solution is that soon they'll be together and hopefully it will no longer be ldr❤
Seems that way! I reiterate, MJ said … they have a plan.
This is the core message of MJ’s vlog! Thank you! Most of the commenters failed to listen to it since they have their own pre-conceived notion. Their lustful and vile ideas clouded their judgment and impulsively expressed their hurtful made-up stories. I find them so juvenile … but, I becha … MJ and Robbie are hurt by their words!
This is Mj matured talk she is silly sometimes but down in her heart she very matured lady.Loving,caring and very generous.I know that Robbie love her he will be back perhaps in December again.praying for them to be forever partner in life.
I think that is why we love MJ … she has the child in her which I really like, then … maturity sets in, all done with class and style. She’s a beauty we cannot ignore.
@@deetlI agree about the charm and childlike naivety of MJ. I smiled every time in the recent videos where she described her runny nose as "my nose is crying" 😄
@@raymonde4272 hahahaha! I love those words!
@@raymonde4272hahaha it’s only from MJ that I heard saying “ My nose is crying 😢 “
To get a beau of the marrying kind and marry in a year, circulate. Got that waking up this morning. You never have somebody till you're married or both say 'You had me at hello' in Jerry Maguire film.
Sacrifice is a big word..if u know u love each other. Stay with him in Poland..hirap na humanap ng tulad nya..mabait at marami Alam sa buhay..from your ate in Sydney..
Amen❤!
Meljean your right long distance relationship is hard but when you love each other it's okay ❤️👍 I been in a relationship with a Filipina that lives in the Philippines to for 9 years now and we love each other we message each other and video call to haven't met yet but I have faith some day we will meet 😊 meljean you and Robbie are meet to be together God bless you and Robbie and your family and friends always amen 😊🙏💓
Just stay patient because both of you are mature enough to plan on the next level. Just pray and both must work hard too for everything to be possible. God knows what is the best. God bless to you both
Have you considered securing apt time job to keep you busy, besides vlogging?
To be honest, missing eachother is the sign that its a promising relationship. If either of you were indifferent to the absence of the other then that would be more ominous.
Hopefully everything works out for the best and you both find even more happiness in the future, wherever that may be, but probably Poland.
So true! The fondness is there!
@@deetlYes, I said the other day that the fact that they both miss each other was a good sign 😊
@@milanice5730 I think it’s a mature relationship but I also think that MJ likes to be babied by Robbie and I think he doesn’t mind coz I have a feeling that he’s a REAL MAN and wants to take charge, just like what he is doing to his family now. I think he feels the responsibility of being the head of his family (after knowing what he did to his sis’ wedding). Now, I appreciate him more for visiting MJ during Christmas. I also think they care for each other by daily contacts or you go bankrupt with all those calls for nothing?
@@deetl I think the solution they will come to is for MJ to move to Poland, but honestly, I'm not sure that would be the best thing for her right now. Like him, she is the de facto head of her family as well. They seem very fragile when she's away, and she's so invested in them. Whatever they decide, I certainly hope she doesn't uproot her life unless he puts a ring on it--an engagement ring, not a wedding ring yet.
@@deetlI agree. Totally! Yet, I can’t help but wonder how long that babying stage will last ~ on both of them. MJ appeared to take his silence or impatience and disapproval in stride while she was in Poland. I don’t think she’ll be able to
take it after this honeymoon phase is over. Know what I mean?
It's hard to come home after traveling, even as an American and especially after visiting your partner. We all share the same emotions and the same planet. Love and peace.
It’s only difficult if both of you are not on the same page.
This makes really good sense. Both must be … on the SAME PAGE! I love this!
You nailed it!!
You shouldn't sharing your personal love life to your vlog. Just be safe and take care.
@@neilgunns8391so … true!
Long distance is really hard. Been there done that. You have to be really strong and committed. Just hang tough. Someday it'll be a heck of a story to tell.
I was in a LDR for over a year, and i stuck with it because she was the one. You need to talk about what is the point, is he going to marry you one day when he's ready? If yes, then it takes time.
Hi MJ long time since I watched your videos you look great I can tell just a little in your voice you had a cold.feel better God Bless 🤗
LDR relationship is very hard to both partners. Sometimes it will test you, there things happen that you both fighting, angry to each other, jealousy, sometime communication because of the time that we have. But learn to survive and understanding to both are the best. Godbless you Robbie and Meljean hoping soon you will be together just keep praying and ask god for the guidance ❤🙏
MJ stop from time to time sharing your relationship with robie keep it for both of you this is only advice put privacy
Good morning Beautiful MJ, thank you for sharing, Praying for you and Robbie🙏🏽❤️
Mj, you are absolutely right. My husband always said to me that your book was written before you were born. What is there for you will be there, so hon, take your time and see where life takes you❤
Same thought
Crux of the matter - is this true love? If it is, love will make a way where there seems to be no way. Again less is more. No need to explain, clarify etc. MJ - you do you. If Robby is not your true love and vice versa, do what is best for you. Be true to yourself and the rest will fall into place. Go for the best, don't settle for second best. Be blessed always!
Missing is different from not okey.
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@@KrisKros-z3ttrue not okay means
She make drama again
Maybe she dont have any content
Thats why again her relationship again she will make mess up again
@@dadacasper3609NO problem! I assume you were not watching this vlog.
PROOF: words did not get into your brain! MJ said … BE KIND! And usually ends with … Don’t forget to smile and BE HAPPY! You need the best of luck!
God bless you MJ. Don’t listen to any negative comments. Thank you for sharing your feelings. It’s normal to feel that way and LDR is hard, I been there too. Listen to your heart and pray about it. If it’s ment to be, your dreams/ wishes will come true.
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I had a feeling the visit u had changed things. Once u met his family they might not like the idea of him marrying a Filipino and that may influence the relationship. I truly hope things work out for both of u
She met his family the first time she visited last year, so I doubt that's the case.
@@newsy4261if that’s not the case then I wonder why she stayed there for less than a month probably only 2 weeks. If that’s me I would have let her stay til the end of her visa period so that there‘s more time to getting to know each other.
@@MegaMichael1964 The original plan was to stay longer, but she could only get a 17-day visa.
@@MegaMichael1964they planned on having her stay there for months but that her Schengen visa only granted her 17 days.
Easy pessy just get married and move to Polland you both at the age right age now hehe! 😊😊
Meljean, love starts out as a choice before it becomes a feeling. You made a choice to give Robbie a chance to get to know you intimately and visa versa, then feelings started to develop. So you did in fact choose to get into a LDR. If your choice was to cut off communication with him when you left him after you first met, then you wouldn't have fallen in love with him.
Also, you are giving God so much credit for the people you meet, sometimes the devil will allow you to meet people also.
Do not listen to the people who say LDR does not work. My girlfriend is from Dipolog city area her and her daughter currently live in Antipolo we have bought land and built a house back in her providence. We have been living the LDR for four years now next year I am moving back to the Providence with her. We have made it. It’s hard at times, but if we can do it, you can too with love and hard work.
A private life is a happy life. I know that being a vlogger is like your sharing your life on social media but try to limit the things you shared about your relationship. I understand the struggles being in the ldr but keep relationship problems to your self its just between you two. If ldr is the problem then find a solution to close the distance, you can move to Robbie's country if he can not leave his country either way. One of you need to sacrifice just to be together. I think you are just missing each other. God bless your relationship!
If Robbie still interested in you,he should tell you to stay with him or to live with you but i guess he is not the type of the guy who wants to marry and live in the farm
I THINK THIS IS NOT GOOD TO SHARE THIS IN SOCMED .. robbie is good man i think mj must be adjust for him bcoz his worki is in eorope but if you live in poland you still have work .... there ,, but robbie if move in ph wht kind of work he can have maybe thats things can thingking for bis side pls consider his concern .... also he have good life .. dont push robbie mj dont share bad things the problem you have take a set and talk... me and my bf is ldr for 3 yrs and beleive me sadness is just in our mind... you need to be think whts best for both side... now we planning to married ,, we just wait to finish my annulment .. for my past ex .. im so lucky to my bf .. bcoz his single never married before so i keep him even we far .. we talk everyday and good cumminication and undesrtding each other ... is a must in relationship...
Agreed, not every detail of this relationship’s not supposed to be in social media to avoid her getting bashed.
@@ednacamacho3073so many bashers here, Edna. Dunno what happened. Well, good for MJ’s viewership. I stopped reading all of them.
I have been in a few LDR's. It is definitely stressful, but knowing that although he is so far away, the connection is real and will survive............but for how long. With you and Robbie, there is more to consider. Distance is a major factor. Both have a strong bond with family and for one to uproot just does not seem logical. Sometimes we have to love enough to let go................however, in this relationship, I think time is needed to consider all that will be affected, but for now, that spark remains lighted.
If you are going to have a relationship with a man who is not close by you? You have to compromise and be willing to sacrifice for love. If you really love and care for him. When you have a relationship with a man outside of your country you have to remember that being away from each other is a test how long you can stand being away from each other.
If you really want to be with him for love's sake then go for it! You are single and your only job is blogging. You can blog any where and everywhere. While Robbie has a real job that he cannot just up and leave whenever you want him to come to you. Be willing to move to where he is because you can always visit your family vs. Robbie cannot.
Besides Robbie looks like he has better place and job. And also you sometimes sounds too needy. That's my piece of dime to share. Robbie is a treasure that you can't find easily nowadays.
Good luck to you!
Just like you are not your eyes or your eyelids blinking - and just like you are not your heart or its beating - you are not your mind or its thinking. You are your soul or its going and being.
Wow! Looove this!
No you and Robbie are okay missing Robbie and Robbie missing you is a good thing because it true love just keep Communicating and don't lie or hide anything and you guys will be okay
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The question is can you be with Robbie in poland no maids you do all works inside the house and outside while in the Philippines your mom and dad sister and brother will always be in your side plus your friends .MJ you have the best life in the Philippines
You are great at the podcasts. I will pray for you and Robbie! I love your vlogs MJ
I think you have to talk about it and he would like you to move in Poland so you'll be togetber go for it then so no more LDR. Ldr is pretty tough I've been talking to a person( european man) since 2020 until earlier this month. In our case is completly different.He wasnt divorve but living separately for almost 4years. He always said he gonna file for it but until now no update. Therefore, I decide to stop as i gave him time I know it wast long but enough for him to do so. I told him " I like you and I care for you but we're not on the same page". Bottom line is, if you two aren't on the same page it's not gonna work and you must have timeline about it. Hope you two could figure it out.😊
From personal experience (and a successful period of LDR): LDR can only work if there is a set game plan with actionable steps/goals along the way to reach the final result (LDR no more). If you both set your goals and expected timeline, with trust and dedication it is achievable. 💪🏼
Silent viewer here. If both of you having a serious relationshop one has to give up follow him. Follow your heart
In a LDR relationship either one of you has to sacrifice to make the relationship work.
How about the other side of the road, Edna?
@deetl, either one of them will have to give their best make an effort on how things work out for the sake of their relationship especially both of them are family oriented, Mj looks after her family her dad’s on dialysis it’s not that easy for her to leave them just like that and Robbie’s job is in his home land and at the same time he is also looking after his parents’s house though they are old enough to decide for themselves wish they come up with a good idea on how things work out for them.
My take … MJ will drop everything for a man she loves, based on her answers to Vingle’s questions. She is adaptable! She takes care of her family well in Cebu since she is living there now. Most Pinays (95% - my statistics😂) will stick to the person they love, whether far or near.
@@neilgunns8391I love Crishel! She is a farm girl now with beautiful Sophia. Hope MJ will visit her in Mindanao and they will do a vlog together - just like the good ol’ days with the rest of the bikini girls! That girl has a strong personality!
@@neilgunns8391 Sofia is very pretty! I like the shorts with Mia Ricecupp. Her mom sure knows how to make funny clips!
Mj I understand how you are feeling, I was in a LDR for 14 years with an American guy we used to meet in different countries but unluckily it didn’t work, wish everything works out for you guys all the best.
Keep in mind M.J. that Robbie wont leave his country so it’s up to you if your willing to leave your family and be with him.
MJ maybe it’s time to have a live once again for heart to heart if that’s ok with you 😊
LDR is very difficult and I for one can’t manage such intimate relationship, never have. LDR for me in the past always dwindled down to nothing. But you know to each its own. It works for a lot of people too.
I wish you the best for the both you and you guys will somehow work it out one way or another.
That's true mydear ldr is very difficult, I know that because my experience before and now I'm stop
Uh…uh. You just admitted to us that you’re bored. Quick, drop that word from your vocabulary, MJ. Else, use it to make changes and act on them. You mentioned possibly taking up a baking class; do it then. Sign up at the gym, if you must. Go back to your planned home improvement projects that remain undone. Share your giving skills by volunteering, keeping our bayanihan spirit alive. Just don’t get bored. Boredom is very telling, but it’s telling you that what you’re doing/ have been doing might have become monotonous or is not meaningful to you. Keep your creativity alive. Smile…and go go go! 😊
Agree!
Tama ka, Aling Mila! Action now, MJ!😊
Go to school as you've said. I suggest taking up Nursing and applying to Poland.
@@neilgunns8391 😬
@@saviadangwa8719 good idea … but Filipino nurses have recently been recruited legally with contracts, to the following countries: USA, UK, Japan, Austria, Germany, Czechoslovakia, Middle East, of course, probably Australia and NZ … well, bottom line, most countries but not Poland.
Mj you are such a nice & a family loving lady. I like how you speak English. So fluent & have a well modulated voice. Praying that Robbie & you will be together again & get married in God perfect time.
It's ok I'm listening with you thank you for sharing
Bakit hindi kana lng mag settle sa Poland para magkasama na kayo madaming opportunity aside sa pagvovlog mo,
'God's Plan is more powerful than yours'. Touche ❣👏