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- What’s your friendship satisfaction on a scale form 1 to 10? Dawn explains why hers is a little low right now, while mine is on a very positive trajectory! Thanks to lots of hard work.
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I remember my mom saying that in her thirties she felt like her friends had all been stripped away, for one reason or another. She was an incredibly friendly person, so it wasn’t for the lack of trying. She came to realize that God had led her into a season of no close friends so that she had to fully rely on Him for that need to be fulfilled. And over the years He brought close friends into her life. She passed away a couple of years ago, but that story still resonates with me.
Just thought I would share for anyone who feels like they have done everything to reach out and be a friend, yet haven’t found their people yet. Keep seeking the Lord and reaching out. And let Him be your friend in the waiting.
I think this is beautiful, and helps us to remember that seasons change and the Lord is at the center. Thank you for sharing! 💛
Incredibly helpful. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this! ❤
@AubreyL-35 Thank you for your beautiful comment. : - ) ❤ I went through a terribly sad period in my thirties where I also lost a lot of friends, but in retrospect it led me to identifying some harmful patterns from childhood and doing deep healing work that has massively improved my life. It's so helpful to remember that even terribly difficult things can sometimes open the door to blessings. 💖
Beautiful 😊
(Second comment, sorry!!) When I moved to Arkansas from Iowa six years ago, none of our neighbors came to say hi and introduce themselves.
Fast forward six months to Christmas, and I decided it was the perfect time for ME to go to THEM. It’s not weird if you bring cookies at Christmas!
Our Muslim neighbors were so pleased to see us on their doorstep, I thought they were going to cry! Maybe they have experienced prejudice? Our Mexican immigrant neighbors invited us in, and we have been a steady fixture at their kids parties and family celebrations ever since.
Our neighbors have been in our home for dinners, the ladies have come with their daughters for craft days, we have carried food back and forth (authentic moroccan food and Mexican food??? All the YES!!! How lucky are we??)
Their response tells me how much they value being friends with their neighbors too.
More gold, thank you! 🙏💛
That's so nice. When a young couple moved in next door, (Asian/Indian) they brought close neighbors a candy gift with their names and said they hoped to get to know them better in the future. I miss them so much, he had job change after 4 years.
That’s so cool! Well done!
I live by an old saying
“when it comes to friends, I would rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies”
I've always said that a true friend is someone who will sit with you through an "ugly cry", be by your bedside if you're in the hospital and give you a ride to the airport. It's a real miracle if it's all three in one person!😄
Love this 💛
I have had that friend for forty-six years now. We have had disagreements, hurt feelings etc. but have always been able to get past them and forgive and carry on. The best!
Yes! And SO rare!❤
I am so lucky to have two of these people in my life. One has been my friend for 52 years (we met when I was three and she was two) and the other has been my friend for 33 years (we met at work)! The best thing is that they have become friends with each other! We have been through marriages, babies,divorces, health scares, EVERYTHING! They live in Massachusetts and I am now in Chicago, but we do our best to talk and do Zooms or FaceTimes. When I had surgery, they flew out here to help take care of me for a weekend! I feel blessed every day that I have TWO best friends! I’m also lucky to have a friend group here who I met through our kids’ swim team. Only one of the kids is still swimming on the team, but we have all stuck together and try to go out as often as we can schedule.
And bail you out😂
I have a neighbor that wants to be my “friend “ but from a distance I notice all her friends are free babysitters and house sitters and I don’t want that. So I just stay to myself and enjoy family and my true best friend. I should also say I’m an introvert and I love my alone time.
Good eye-being helpful is one thing, but then there are those that believe sharing means 'you give me yours'.
Sometimes people do use the other person and I had to wean from them. It's always sad that you are just a sounding board or babysitter.
❤ I so enjoyed lockdown. For a while anyway😂😂😂
My bestie is fighting stage 4 cancer, only 45 with 3 young kids. While it's hard for me to relate, I can't imagine walking away from her now. The hard times in life is when you'll find who you're most true friends are.
Nobody talks about this topic. Thank you for choosing it. One of my daughters is in her early 30, lives an hour from family, works from home but also has a part time job in the evenings at a cute little shop downtown. It's been so good for her to have this evening job. She gets out of her apartment, does something completely different than her day job and is meeting new people. She has made one or two new friends because of this job.
I just came home from a trip out east. Every 3-5 years this group of college friends gets together. We've done this for 43 years. It was such a wonderful 5 days. We all reconnect. We share joys and trial, we go out and do things in the area for 3 days, catch up on each other's lives, cook and eat together, do a LOT of laughing and reminiscing. Even though we live all across the US, this conscious effort has kept us close over the years. Friendship needs to be an effort on both parties.
Such a great statement, Dawn: "Forgiveness doesn't always look like reconciliation". Thank you so much! I needed to hear that.
Lol...who else are you getting together with, besides me? Spoken like a true sister!!
😂 Love it!
Finally the shoe is on the other foot, for the longest time Dawn was the one with all of the friends! Lol. She’s a gem 💛💛💛
@@DianaKokku You both are!!
LOL moment Dawn, "Who else are you getting together with besides ME?" I heard my two daughters in that so loud and clear! Loved it!
Dawn, you look so pretty in pink!!💖
My score is 1. Past 5 years retired and taking care of stroke disabled husband has isolated me. I have nice acquaintances at church but limited interaction. I have nice Facebook friends too. I need a nearby pop-in go for a coffee or a walk friend. I’m sad.
Being a caregiver is so isolating…🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Shelly, I sent up a prayer for you. It is so hard to feel isolated. ❤
I have the opposite problem. I don’t want close friends. I’m an introvert. When an acquaintance starts getting too personal, wants to get together a lot, talk on phone, typical activities you would think most people would enjoy, I get very uncomfortable. I love being a homemaker, tending my many houseplants, etc but not very social. I am very content walking, swimming, shopping alone. I don’t like phone chit chat. I do relish my church and my interaction with them each Sunday and one of them I consider a good friend. We go out for lunch a couple times a month and I enjoy it but I am so relieved to get back home again. I am very happy and seem to attract people who want to be friends but I cut them off at the pass.
I relate to everything here ❤️
Me too.
Same! It’s so peaceful just being with me…and my husband. Our kids are grown and I am just fine without all the outside noise!
You do you. Finding a true friend is a gem.
I feel so sen by this comment. I think it is important to know what kind of "friendships" you want/need. I don't think it's a certain number, at least not to me. I'm not really on social media so I don't see people I know "having more friends than me" or whatever. I'm a happy, well adjusted contented person. But according to some articles and "studies" I must be dying of loneliness. Could not be further from the truth .. Know yourself, and truly listen to your heart to know if you more friends. Wanting more friends is different.
I knew a Pastor's wife that used to take her laundry to a laundromat so she could meet people to minister to.
Love that!
That's incredible!
Hmm...I wonder if I could get away with just pretending to do laundry...🤫
I have a very small circle of close friends, but they are enough and always there for me.
I have to say that as a people pleaser, sometimes friendships become overwhelming. When they are one sided & I personally can only cheer them on so much. They ask for advice & dump alllll their burdens during each conversation. I tend to pull away, and often times it is unintentional. Those are the hard ones & unfortunately I’ve had to end them.
Yesssss
Givers have to have boundaries because takers don't.
To be a Christian doesn't mean you can never say no
You can't always fix everything for everyone
Sometimes your job is to pray for the person and move on because you have a family too
Sometimes our job is to plant the seed only
God will intervene
We are not God
We cannot save the world
I was given advice long ago about learning to say no for my own health
I felt like as a Christian I could never say no
I could not turn down anything especially when people say well we have no help
Sometimes neglecting my own family and my own mental health
We are servants here
But God does not intend for us to neglect our families He does not intend for us to make ourselves ill by never learning to say no
Our job is not to take on burdens for all Humanity that's God's job
I had a friend like that in my teens, she'd call and dump for half an hour and then I'd get "how are you?" and she'd have to go. She'd tell my mom I bought such nice gifts, thoughtful but she didn't seem too. I think some people just don't learn give and take
My very best friend is like a sister to me. God definitely put us together 33 years ago. She is my prayer warrior and has been there for me every step of the way from the birth of my children to the death of my Dad. I was there for her in the death of her parents and 2 of her husbands that passed away. I love that woman as a sister in Christ. Our husbands are good friends as well.
Such a gift!! 💛
I stepped out on a limb about 2yrs to 18 months ago and finally called someone my best friend. I had never had anyone nearly as close, raising kids, being there for one another, praying, playdates, so much life lived!!
Then a year ago, after me hosting them for maybe a week in my house (they had moved) I was ghosted.
It took me a while to figure it out, because generally she would get back with me in a season where she could.
I started to just comment on FB posts a few times a month with encouragement. Then just a like or ❤.
But now it's just plainly ghosting.
I never would've expected this from someone who was that close.
Totally relate to closure is a luxury 😊
Sadly, it happens. 😢
@@vero1mart 🥹
I was having a rare day of feeling lonely...even though I have lots of friends, I'm not deeply connected to many...had some tears today, actually. Your topic is timely for me!👍 Thanks for always sharing your cheerfulness & meaningful perspectives, Diana!💯✨️
This is an example of having lots of friends but still lonely. Just having a big number is not the answer. Hope your feeling better...
I am having one of those days too. Hugs girl!
@@jackieo2403 Thanks for your well-wishes, Jackie. It helped to tell my husband about it when he finished work at the end of the day...
You're right, having many friends is not the cure for loneliness. Only Jesus can satisfy our hearts, and I think we'll always struggle with loneliness on this side of heaven...part of the brokenness of this sin-cursed world.🌎 I do think God wants me to be a friend to everyone I cross paths with...everyone needs someone to care about them.♡ Usually it's fun and I've experienced many blessings by reaching out to others around me. But sometimes I get burnt out, too. Everyone needs a few friends who will understand & care for them.🌿
Anyway, I'm blessed and I know I'm just walking through a little valley. Thankful for my Good Shepherd Who leads me to green pastures & still waters and Who restores my soul!🙌
@@jackieo2403 Thanks for your well-wishes, Jackie...it helped to tell my husband about it when he got home from work at the end of the day...
I agree that having many friends isn't the cure for loneliness...only Jesus can satisfy our hearts. I think loneliness will be a continual struggle for us here on this side of heaven...part of living in a broken, sin-cursed world.
I do think God wants me to be a friend to everyone who crosses my path...so many people need someone to care about them. But I also get tired and wish for a friend who understands & cares for me...🙃 (I have many...just don't get to connect with them as often as I'd like to.)
Anyway, I know I'm blessed and that it's just a little valley to walk through again...thankful for my Good Shepherd Who leads me to greener pastures & still waters and Who restores my soul.🌿🙌💜
The quote is so true, We have friends for a reson, a season & a lifetime. Besides my Hubby & sisters, I have 2 awesome friends that I met in college nearly 40 yrs ago. I have been blessed. 😊
It was explained to me when I was younger, that if you can count on one hand your true friends, all the rest are acquaintances. I am 60 this year, I also believe it is easier to make friends with parents when your children are small, through school and sport, and that also quite a few people regret moving house when they retire, as they have trouble making friends at that age.
Love Jo in Australia xxx
Diana & Dawn, this is a great topic. I am a caregiver and basically homebound. I rarely leave my loved one so other than my close neighbors I don't meet many people. Fortunately my next door neighbor and I have become friends, are both caregivers, both women of faith and
have similar values. We both help each other out in different ways whenever we can.
Before I became a caregiver we lived in a very active community. We played pool, I volunteered, I walked everyday and met many people through the quilts I make (they made them too), went out to eat with friends. Then literally overnight I became a caregiver and every little thing changed. I no longer walk, or do any of the things we used to do together. I've always been very outgoing and the first to strike up a conversation and am never at a loss for words. But these days I'm so busy I just don't even get much time to chat with others.
I recently ran to the grocery store (my next door neighbor checked in on my loved on.) On the way out of the store a lady commented on my hair. We both have long, curly hair. We talked for probably a 1/2 hour in the parking lot. We exchanged numbers. She is a Christian and it appears we have a lot in common. When we left we said we'd get together for coffee or lunch. Later I wondered how on earth I could do that. I can't. Maybe she'd come to my home for tea or a smoothie, but maybe she wouldn't be comfortable with that. I don't know.
Many years ago I used to walk with my dog every morning for 1 1/2 hours. We passed a lady walking her new puppy. We'd talk for a few minutes and move on. We saw each other almost every day. Then one day we stopped to talk for at least 1/2 hour, probably longer. Our dogs loved each other. So we decided to walk everyday together (except for Sundays) and these walks were 1 1/2 hours. We were never at a loss for words. We power walked. We had play dates with our dogs. We introduced our husbands who hit it off. Then we'd go to each other's homes for get togethers/meals or go out to eat. Her husband used to laugh at how we never ran out of things to talk about. She was one of the kindest, thoughtful, sweet people I've ever known. When my dog died her and I cried together.
Sorry for what you’re going through. 💕
FRIENDSHIP DATING | As a single woman this conversation sounds exactly like my dating life haha Where do you meet someone? How do you equip yourself to be open to making connection? How to navigate breaking things off if it's not a good fit. Find confidence, don't put too much pressure on things, and allow rejection to be a clear "not for me."
VOLUNTEER | That's my best recommendation for meeting people. Find a causes you love - volunteer for local running races, home building organizations, thrift stores, hospitals... This puts you in proximity to people in similar heart postures or schedules.
ALSO | Be open to friends in other phases of life.
My sister was just open, talked to everyone in stores, volunteer jobs, etc. but was very careful. She met her next husband at a BBQ at a family friend. He was widowed 5 years and it was very old fashioned courtship for a year and then marriage. My other sister didn't marry again but she met a very old boyfriend from her twenties in an ice cream shop she went in and was thinking she shouldn't, and he hadn't changed that much. They dated for 2 years and didn't have as much in common but keep in touch and go out on occasion.
I'm 73 and have kept the same 3 friends since 10th grade in high school for all these years. They are truly my treasures in life along with my husband and children. I also made friends with my sister-in-law in 1975 and she and I are still close even though I divorced her husband's brother in 1985. My other most recent friend is my neighbor across the street who moved in about 10 years ago; however, they moved out of the neighborhood two years ago into a bigger house since their family was growing. I still keep in touch with all of them and I am grateful that we are still close friends. My husband and I have mutual friends that we met through his band days back in 1996 and we make dinner dates often with each other throughout the year. Since they live about an hour's drive from us we usually alternate where we get together depending on the weather and what else is going on. I rate my friends satisfaction a definite 10!
I found sadly as my kids got older, the friends I had with their friends parents waned. Maybe we didn't have as much in common or maybe they took different paths and we had less in common but it was noticeable as the years went on. I miss some of them.
I am experiencing this. I know life happens and sometimes we go in different directions. It's hard not to wonder if I did something to annoy them or did we just drift apart?
@@lynettestream2131 yes I feel the same, except for one where I think I could’ve been a better friend when she was going through a divorce although it changed the whole dynamic of our friendship and the kids, etc. She found a new group of friends at work who knew her new husband and it was just different and although we chat a couple of times on Facebook a year I could’ve been more supportive. The other friends I have no idea, sometimes they are for a season
Sometimes we are abandoned by a person so we learn to 'take it to Jesus' for the healing
I relate to Dawn on this one. Friendship can be heartbreaking when things don’t work out (for whatever reason).. makes me hesitant to want to try again, but I’m extroverted and feel I need a local friend. Ugh. 😅
Solidarity sister 💛💛💛
I will keep praying for all of us.
Love ya both! I have a recent new friend and I'm still reluctant sometimes about letting people in..... when you get older, good friends are hard to come by ❤. You said it right that sometimes people come to us because they need us. I've found though, that brings me comfort.
I have very few true friends. Most are acquaintances. I’m okay with that because most people are mean. Jesus is my best friend so I’m glad
I don't think most people are mean.. sorry you think that of those you know. Keep trying
Excellent topic, and one I think was embarassing for many of us to admit, especially those for whom friends came 'easy' at earlier seasons of life. I will agree that you take on a dog as a major lifetime commentment, but I recently lost my dog of 12 years. And wasn't ready to get a new one so I noted how natural it was when walking him to get smiles, or 'nice dog' or other seemingly simple interactions. When I was walking alone, those dropped by more than half. They are indeed an entry point for connection. There are others tips that can help get us out of isolation, so I'm glad you're taking this topic on. Thank you.
Similarly to having a dog, there are many features one could have that serve as a "conversation starter" in public. You could be pregnant or disabled, or dye your hair a funky color. Or wear interesting clothes. Some people, even their gait may be comment-worthy. If you want to be interesting, make yourself interesting. 🙃
Every time I’ve prayed for a wonderful, godly friends-God provided. I’ve homeschooled 4 kids now ages 17,19,21,23… I spend so much time with my kids that I realized I was spending no time with old friends. My husband was a pastor for years so all the moves. We’ve been here 10 years and we started teaching couples class 3 years ago (I’m 53) and I started doing a text group with girls every week of prayer requests, what’s going on, coffee plans-it’s wonderful! We see each other in class each Sunday and I text each week and everyone joins in-I had to initiate it but now we all do coffee and socials. It’s never too late. I have friends of “20-25” years as well, but these girls all are going through raising teens/young adults moving out. It’s a blessing! 💕 pray and initiate! They were total strangers 3 years ago!
I'm not a friend person since my best friend passed away years ago. I'm hard to get close to and Susie was my bestie since 7 th grade. I have a friend, but all I do is listen to her problems and dysfunctional family issues, so I kinda stay away unless she catches me on the phone. She lives 2 hours away. Friends are hard as adults.
At 68 I don’t have any friends, never really did.
Words cannot express how hopeful I am that someone i have developed trust in is actually talking about this topic. THANK YOU. And to Dawn. Thanks for letting me know i am not alone in a hard relationship situation. And the book recommendation too..
Blessings to each of you today.
And again, I can see that we shop at the same places. One of these days I am going to smile at you in person!
Always come up and say hi!! And thank you for this sweet encouragement 💛
As an older empty nester (no longer have the kids friends parents around, no longer involved in the volunteer programs at school, the church we go to is large so no chance to get close there…) it becomes a challenge! Where we had “couple friends” from years and years ago, divorce by a couple of them tore that apart. I lost my very best soul friend to cancer. One of the most hurtful sceneries was when we introduced our best friend couple to another couple….we all did things together for a while until they must have decided they’d rather do things by themselves. Then my husband developed a health issue and we barely hear from them any longer. Yes, we both still have friends, good friends……, but it’s not the same as when you are at your stage of life. Hold your friendships and treasure them. It may take effort during a busy time of life, but someday the kids will be grown and gone and no one wants to be alone.
I was told many years ago by a colleague that you will have many acquaintances in life but only a few true friends. I am 60 years old and I am finding that is true.
I had plenty of friends growing up, but now probably just have acquaintances. I'm pretty sure it's intentional because I feel friendships, these days, come with conditions. They are almost as much work as a marriage. What I find is that when kids are involved, there's that instant connection. Without kids, friends seem to be more needy. My good friends are the ones that I may not talk to for months, or even longer, and we pick up like we just saw each other yesterday. I can't be friends with someone that keeps track - they'll say, you never call, or, I haven't seen you in over a week. Just looking for unconditional friendships, which are so hard to find.
I find at 60, acquaintances will have to do. Maybe I'll meet a friend but most my age are very settled already, introverts (I'm leaning that way) or don't want to spend the energy to retell their life. I'm blessed that although I lost some friends when I married a man of a different race ( so odd to think today) I met an old friend in lamaze class and a wonderful woman at my condo when our kids were the same age. We stayed close for over 10 years. I wont mourn it because it was a gift from God and a season of good memories.
Lonely and isolation are two different conditions. Easy to mix them up in our heads and hearts. But a bunch of "friends" isn't always the answer to either. Good topic and a lot to unpack.
I may be 4 hours away Dawn, but I am always just a text away. 😉
I appreciate, Diana, that you are going to speak for those people that just need a friendship right now because they are going through hard things. I feel in the last 15-20 years people have jumped on this band wagon of dumping what they are labeling ‘toxic friendships’. I agree that there are toxic people, but I also think people are using it as an excuse not to have to deal with tough spots in relationships. Just like in marriage, sometimes you have to work hard and work through tough spots. People are too quick to label something toxic and end relationships.
I think we have to be able to differentiate between toxic/narcissistic people and people who are just hurting.
If we aren't patient and loving toward people who are hurting, who will be? Who will draw those people in who are afraid to try again? Who will be tender toward them if not us?
To me, the thing that Identifies a narcissist is that they will show signs of having contempt for you (unfortunately, that tends to come after some time). Another red flag is feeling you have to explain yourself over "misunderstandings", which often leads to feeling like you're having to walk on eggshells. With people like that, exit stage right ASAP.
At every point in my life where I've needed support, no-one has ever been there for me even though I'm always there for them. A friend of 20+ years just cut me off without a word; another friend of 30+ didn't contact me again when I left the organisation we both worked for - and even my ex of 5 years who I'd supported in every way abandoned me the day after my parent died. So I don't want any more 'friends' in my life - if I've got to do life alone I will do so - and when the phone rings asking me for help, I'm now 'busy' (permanently)!
@susannefitzpatrick9955 I feel you!!! I could write a book, but no one would believe it. 😂 The last 2 - 3 years have been a total nightmare. The level of betrayal from multiple friends and family has been through the roof. I just keep praying for the Lord to send me one good (true) friend, but only when the time is right. I simply don’t want the stress of it anymore! I pray He sends you a true friend also when the time is right!🙏🏻
I am trusting god, to bring me a good friend.
I’ve always said I only have acquaintances except my husband who was my best friend. When my husband passed there was a difference even in those acquaintances. But God has put a friend in my life who was one of those acquaintances as her husband passed 3 weeks before mine passed. So we have something in common and understanding as no one else understands what we are going through.
I’m at a 8 score. I have 2 close friends but my best friend is my cousin who lives in Canada and I’m in CT so we don’t see each other maybe every 5 years but we talk EVERYDAY. We’re seeing eachother for 2 weeks this summer so we’re so excited.
The circle of friends I still have and treasure - were made when our kiddos were 2-3. Neighbors, church, school etc. our kids are all in their late thirties and early forties. Have families. We’ve had triumphs, and sorrows, both for ourselves and our children. We’ve buried parents and supported each other through the caring for stages when they were elderly. Now in our sixties- we talk, text, catch up co finally. Some of us have even moved. We know how blessed we are and state that daily.
I had put a post out on Facebook looking for a new Paparazzi Lady to watch and buy jewelry from and low and behold she is my Very Best friend now. God makes no mistakes of who we cross paths with!
Great video! Can’t wait for the course!
Wow, that was a great video on a tricky subject. You both converse so well together and come across so, I don’t know, so.. honest and never insulting to each other…. Just so much on the same page, and make these awkward conversations very doable and normal, lol Great job 🙂
For two people who are so young, your insight and reflections are very good, not just on this video, but all your videos….. Thanks for sharing.
I admire your honesty ❤
Love what you do, thank you for your sound and relatable wisdom! Currently praying for Godly friendships for our kids as well! 💕 Be blessed! 😊
I talk to and make friends with everyone. I walked into a new church by myself and sat down in the middle of a group of three pews and they feel like friends!
Amazing video hit right in the heart!! Thank you!!
Thanks for making this video! It's helping me think through my friendships And how I want to be intentional with them.
OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!! Fantastic video!!!! I soooo much needed this❤️ God bless both of you and your families ❤️
love you guys!!! ❤❤
Thank you!!! This is sooo great. I need this.
Great topic gals!
Your blessing is you’ll always have each other. 🥰🥰
This is so helpful and encouraging, God bless my favorite twins🥰🙏👍
Thank you for this conversation
I love you two! You are both so real and this is refreshing to me. I can relate to Dawn and you both have so much wisdom! This was so helpful. XOXO
You two are such a blessing and so relatable. I enjoy your videos and they always leave me feeling uplifted and smiling … “we walk the kids” lol! May God bless you both and may your channels grow exponentially! ❤️🇨🇦🙏
Oh Dawn! That sounds so hard! I’m so sorry for your loss of a friend.
Great topic ! 👍🏼 every one of us can relate to the struggles of friendships.
Thank you for talking about friendship breakups. Needed this ❤️
Bless you, Dawn. I am with you on the friendship letdown. I still feel whiplash from 2 close relationships that knocked me for a loop. Admittedly, I'm super guarded now.
I have been truly blessed with wonderful friends. I don’t need to see them all the time at this stage of life. We don’t see each other often, but I know we love each other. I think expectations influence our sense of satisfaction with most everything in life. I enjoy your videos together so much!
Dawn, you look like you are glowing today. So pretty in pink! 🌸
I'm LOVING all the recent videos in general, but especially the videos pairing up with Dawn. Keep on keeping on with positivity, spiritual messages, and friendly sister banter/comedy. ❤❤❤
I have a best friend that I walk with every morning before work at 5:45, it's great, we chat catch up and we are busy so we don't need to ever go out to dinner, and we help each other out with dog sitting and house sitting. ❤️
I needed this, it was so good♥️
I have 3 different groups of 3-4 friends. I am grateful for them all. ❤
Moving four times in four different states.
I only can talk on the phone.
It been hard this last time.
You have to make history with new people. It’s difficult the older you get.
I love to meet people.
I think I’m at a 2 as far as friendship.
I appreciate you both. 💕
Making adult friends is so hard! But, long distance friends has never been easier. I’m at a solid 7 on the friend’s scale.
My closest friends live in different states (we write, email, send cards). Here, I have a few acquaintances, really good neighbors, plus my church family. That's enough for me (for now). I do, however, look forward to heaven where we will be one big happy family forever!
Very timely for me in a number of ways. A summer of connection is what I pray for, not just for me but my husband & kids who each have their own challenges to face. I'm ready to help them move forward with this xx 🙏
I had a really good friend from kindergarten to around age 30, when we had a falling out and broke up our friendship. She was a lot of drama all the time, but I miss her and still pray for her, but don’t really want a renewed relationship with her. Thankfully, she is the only friendship that I’ve had that has broken up. I have a couple very close friends and several good friends from church, high school (I’m 46 now), and P.E.O. that I am very thankful for.
I'm an introvert, in my 50's, been hurt by my "church" friends--nothing against church itself, but I have a terrible time trusting anyone these days.
I would love to have at least 1 friend outside of my lovely family members.
I have been hurt and rejected by friends more than once. While watching this video, it occurred to me that even if I've dealt with forgiveness, I need to deal with some beliefs I've acquired that are likely keeping me from making new friends.
@@user-ry1vi1jc7o I 100% agree and relate to this.
I love when you end with prayer and your prayers Diana! Dawn I love your thoughts the things you comment! And I love your hair!
I have gone through a season of releasing friendships. It’s been hard. in the last 2 years. I have let go of 4 friendships that were extremely important to me once upon a time. I think the biggest thing that helped me through was to recognize that my expectations of the relationship is what I had to let go of. I was putting my fullest into it and wanting the same. When I was no longer serving the purpose in their life that they wanted then they stopped being a friend to me. I grieved hard, but it pointed me and my energy into another area of my life. Now a new season has begun.
My Mom, my oldest daughter and my cousin (who is 3 months younger than I am) are my friends (and my husband of course!)
I have to remember what i I learned as a youngster. To have a good friend you must be one 1st and that takes time and as a caregiver that can be hard.
I was just thinking, 😮Diana n Dawn should write a friendship book and then you started about the course!!! I’m thrilled🎉👏🏼👏🏼😊🙏🏼 prayers for the course ❤❤❤
My marriage is on the rocks 😢 if it wasn’t for my Amazing friends this would be a LOT harder
I moved to Iowa from Arkansas six years ago, not knowing a soul but my husband.
I prayed that God would give me friends like I was leaving behind in Arkansas… and He did. The absolute most wonderful friends! I have brought them home with me to Arkansas to meet my family (who love them as much as I do!), my Arkansas friends come to Iowa and now they are friends each other, we’ve traveled together to be with one another.
It sounds so elementary… but to make a friend, you have to BE a friend. YOU call people, YOU organize get-togethers, YOU remember birthdays, and the friends will come.
People out there are yearning for friendships just like we are!
I have a motto and everybody knows it… You can totally sit at our table!
This is all so wonderful, thank you for sharing! 💛
My dad always said that to us. He also always said make a plan and work your plan.😊
I am that person sometimes but I get weary of always being the one to reach out and if I don’t nobody does. I’m so lonely and I don’t think anyone would even notice if I disappeared
@@mammacass5311 They absolutely would notice! Everyone is in different seasons of their life. We all have roles during those seasons. Some of them may be going through hard things, or just worrying about their kids, their minds might not be able to focus on calling others. It sounds like you are the person who reaches out to remind others to be in the moment and to just visit and talk. It may be weary for you at times but God knows you are the perfect person for that role. Ask Him for strength and He will provide 🙏
On another note, if you can volunteer with something you enjoy, you will meet more friends.
Great topic-great video! Dawn- I loved the questions- what good do I take away & what do I want to leave behind. I had a close friend who was as close as a sister-I thought we would have a lifetime friendship. We worked in ministry together as well as other things. Things changed & I began feeling like an employee instead of friend. It really crushed me. So I think these questions are very helpful & healing thoughts to journal on. Thank you! Love you both & refer your channels to many.
Friendship is a ministry! It’s a way to serve others and just like all the best service opportunities, it enriches our lives as well!
LOVE this!!
My best friend and I met in 2nd grade, 55 years ago. We’ve had a great friendship and for the last 5-6 years have carved out time for a girls weekend once a year. We talk most every day and get together for lunch once or twice a month
I have 5 friends that I met between 7th-10th grade and I'm 56. All of them had children and only one of them lives locally so there have been seasons of ebb and flow but I am so thankful for this foundation of friends. I've also gained friends over the years from jobs, church, neighborhood. Some stay and some go. That used to be hard but I realized if I assumed good will (not everyone will be in your life forever for SO MANY reasons), it's easier to appreciate the time we were able to know each other.
Even at 62, I'm shy to make meaningful friends. I relate to people, but I keep a distance. Even at church. Its difficult for me.
I am the same age and in the same boat.
I think I am going to make a friend map/diagram and categorize my friends. I'm 76 and very outgoing so I do have alot of friends. I am a good friend with a listening ear for others. I am amazed how God has put specific people in my life for different purposes. I am involved in church groups, a volunteer job, helping neighbors, and in hobby groups. Sometimes I feel that I can't make new friends at this point in my life for lack of time and energy but God still puts new people in my life and this is a bonus. Like Dawn, I have been hurt when some I thought were the best of friends moved on and out of my life. I have to remember that we all have seasons that we go in and out of and some friends do not come with us. Thank you for this video.
I have acquaintances but no real good friends anymore. The good friends I had have all moved so far away and life has just gotten in the way of staying connected.
What an important topic! We just recently moved here and I started asking God for new friends. Slowly I see first closer connections to develop and I am so thankful for the provision. Also: very important to ask myself "what kind of friend do I need and what kind of friend can I be at the moment. What is my time and energy commitment, I can pour into a friendship?"
The best friend I ever had was an instant best friend. We met in our mid-20s. I moved away after a couple years, but it was a friendship that we could pick up at any time. I moved back and she helped me through a divorce and I helped her through end of life. Unfortunately, we were 39 when she died. I'm still in touch with her mother who just turned 100. I'm finally settled in one place; I have young friends at work -- closest one to my age is 20 years younger; others are the age of my grandson! I'm looking forward to figuring out how to make more friends here. I stay in touch with lots of people from lots of places since I was a wanderer.
I think I'm at a 3.
The season before now was really rough & isolating. Even though I was still able to develop some awesome work/friend relationships.
The season I'm in now is a transition out of the previous one, and there's a lot of people I knew from before, that I really love and it takes time to build those bonds back ❤!
It's really hard to be a good friend and have your efforts come back void, especially when it happens repeatedly.
I wasn't sure why I had so much trouble fitting in where we have lived for the last decade, but the Lord has led us to a new city for a neat new opportunity and had we been connected where we were, it may not have ended up being the season of preparation that we were needing. We have a few lovely friends that we will stay in touch with, but if we had more community, I don't think our eyes would have been open for the new opportunity. Keep taking these things to the Lord. He knows your needs.
(So sorry, I keep commenting! 😂)
I have the most dear friend that I met when I moved from across the country… but when we first met we had the wrong impressions of one another!
Open your heart to friendships with all sorts of people!
Dawn’s body language when she talks about her score. 😂
I have 5. Out of those, I have 1 that I was very close to, but now it feels distant. I'm an auntie to her kids and her to mine. However, we don't talk as much as we used to, but I know I can depend on her to pray for me, and if I needed her, she would be there. My mom always told me it was better to have quality friendships over quantity. She had to say that because I am a social butterfly who thought everyone was my friend, however, that isn't true.
One sided "friendships" have been the norm for me my entire life, but also I've had the blessing of three true friends. I've lost so many friends in my lifetime to death, but Jesus Christ leads me and my faith has gotten me thru some unbearable events in my lifetime. Losing those friends prepared me for the death of my son.
We are about to retire in a yr or less. We purchased a couple lots in a campground on the lake. We just purchased in feb we have met so many new people in hopes we can develop some close relationships. Our house is only 15 min from the campground which is also very convenient. We are love the getaway.