Dele: "Now is the Time to Talk"
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- čas přidán 28. 04. 2024
- Trigger warning: Sexual abuse, addiction and mental health.
In this powerful episode of The Overlap, Gary Neville sits down to have a heartfelt conversation with Dele, as he courageously speaks about his recent circumstances on and off the pitch and the profound challenges he endured throughout his childhood and long-lasting effects of trauma it has caused him.
Dele opens up about his recent battle with addiction and his remarkable journey of rehabilitation as well his unwavering aspiration to inspire those facing similar circumstances to speak up.
Dele hopes his brave admission can inspire others to seek the help they need. If you or anyone you know has been affected by any of the themes in this interview you can speak to the following organisations.
Samaritans - www.samaritans.org/
NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/
FRANK - www.talktofrank.com/
Mind - www.mind.org.uk/
00:00 - 02:19 What happened to Dele?
02:19 - 05:55 Mental health & rehab
05:55 - 07:05 Timeline & influence of tabloid media
07:05 - 10:27 The start of addiction & not being able to open up
10:27 - 13:32 Sleeping tablets in Football and Dele's experience
13:32 - 17:06 Mourinho & the start of career difficulty
17:33 - 19:15 Upbringing & childhood trauma
19:15 - 20:43 Adoption and teenage life
20:43 - 23:48 Relationship with birth parents
23:55 - 25:40 How rehab in USA has helped Dele
25:40 - 26:46 Having passion back for football & inspiring others
26:46 - 29:20 Poch & life at Spurs
29:20 - 31:39 The truth about being called "lazy" by Mourinho
31:39 - 33:46 Relationship with Kane and Dier
34:05 - 35:21 Becoming a better player and person
35:21 - 39:17 Moving forward & the media's perception
39:17 - 42:05 Everton & getting back on the pitch
42:05 - 43:25 Conclusion & advice for others
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No-one knows what goes through some peoples lives. Very brave of him
The attitude you mention is probably a symptom of some underlying mental issues though. Go easy
@@CabbageCorn You cannot seriously expect to have any idea what life through Dele's eyes are.
I suggest you try to learn some empathy for others.
Because you sound like Hitler.
@@CabbageCorndid you watch the full interview? And what Gary said about him and his work rate. Your analysis and comment is stupid af
@@CabbageCorn lol this is such a weird take. attitude is a result of your mental health, if you are depressed or suffering from PTSD, then it is going to be a lot more difficult for you to stay motivated, and you will also self sabotage.
@@CabbageCornhow old are you 10?
Gary Neville deserves extreme amount of credit for how he handled himself in a difficult interview. This is almost a therapy session and Gary comes across as a fantastic therapist. Full praise to dele as well unbelievably brave.
Spot on, I had similar thoughts on top of the praise I had for Dele as well.
Respect for him and I think ajax amsterdam is the best club for him now.
Unbelievable more investment is needed into free therapy sessions so the 95 percent can get the world class health care like deli has access to
@@rubenreuvekamp6611 id like to see him at everton now that he’s got the confidence of how much the club has backed him ajax would be a good fit as well
As a psychology graduate, Gary did really well here. There are some pretty specific guidelines that are used in these sorts of situations and Gary did well not to stray too far from them. For example, notice when Dele was sharing personal information Gary never once said "I understand".
It doesn't matter if he ever finds his way again on a football pitch. I hope Dele finds his way in life and gets as close to peace and serenity as he can. Excellent interview.
Agree
Agree too, football is secondary.
Sort yourself out lad
Judging by his interview he’s already there mate! He’s found some kind of peace and even if he doesn’t get back to that number 10 role well I’ll always remember that goal against palace. He will get there! He’s got similarities to Gazza but it’s a different era now and things can change for Del Boy whereas with Gazza it was too late in football terms. Just look back on some of them right footed volleys Dele scored. You never lose that kind of skill, that’s something he was born with and he can come back and he will never lose that natural technique not ever. Good look Del!
Great post
As a victim of sexual abuse myself at the age of 10, the hardest part was telling someone and hoping that you won't be judged or ridiculed and that it was not your fault...you're a brave man and an inspiration to many, thank you.
The world and the internet might be full of trolls and toxic c*nts but just know that there are way more people that would gladly give you a hug for support. Take care
You serious?
@@howardsnooks1069no
i was also abused as a child, when i was 8. i am a strong man now
Especially as a man bro, society has a habit of writing off boys sexual abuse, just know that normal people don’t judge you.
This really takes some bravery. There’s more than one way to be a role model ❤
Great interview as well GNev
Go on foster
Mourinho made the same observation we all would make not knowing his story and just watching the player's attitude. Good on him to quickly realize that it wasn't as simple as him being "Lazy" and apologizing to alli a week after he arrived.
Love to see Foster commenting, nicest guy in the game❤
Friggin Legendary comment mate
@@Drinkwater.Calm down
It makes me so angry that the tabloids have forced him into this. He left rehab a few weeks ago, he says he's in a good place but he obviously has a lot of processing to do. Very brave decision but awful that it comes to this. You're not alone Dele.
Rats, the lot of them
Are we shocked at this point? The English media is really scummy especially to English footballers that have fallen off
I feel for the lad, and I hope he can reach the heights in football that he was once at but the papers were right at the end of the day. He says they overstated his partying a bit at the start but other than that they were right in what they said.
The English press are scoundrels.
What happens in his personal life has got nothing to do with us yet some average Joe's and nobodies think we are owed the personal info of celebs 🤔 let him rebuild his career and leave him alone
He's so down to earth and doesn't display any arrogance whatsoever. That's extremely rare for a modern day footballer. Great guy!
The fact that for years now, he was mocked for being 'lazy' based off of one coach's flippant remarks... and now knowing that Mourinho actually took back his words and apologized to him... and Dele never shared that with the media or fans. Tells us a lot about his true nature and humility.
@@siiiiiuu7 Very true. I certainly didn't know much about his personality until this interview. I'm very impressed with what I see here. Hope the guy has a great future, and can move on from his horrible past.
ok
Most addicts are nice people. Unbearable childhood traumas result in addictions to help ease the internal suffering
@@siiiiiuu7 It also says alot about Amazon for not mentioning the apology. Fuck if I was a pro would I allow myself to be on one of them access all areas docs if that's how they edit things.
As a survivor of child sexual abuse myself, I just want to say thank you Gary for giving Dele the platform to not only let him speak his truth but by giving the space for this topic to be put out there. Thank you for that.
And to Dele also. Thank you for sharing, it’s never easy to speak on such things, so again, thank you. ❤️
I'm so sorry 😢
Deli???
No the guy who wrote this comment
@@lezionFN123I'm talking to the commenter, he spelt his name wrong
@@Movie_Blizzard omg thank you for pointing that out! Like sincerely thank you.
Auto correct F’d me lol
Massive respect to him, it takes a super human level of bravery to speak out like this.
czcams.com/video/sU2dwEDlwQg/video.html Finally it’s here🤠
Not really
Yes it does.❤
how ? what is brave about it ?
@@leowerner4049it was all he knew… he grew up in a shitty situation.
Brilliant. Wish Dele all the best. Thank you for sharing your story.
Well said Spen
@@mmr0221?
@@mmr0221 Hope your child doesn't pity itself one day when it realizes who his father is.
@enzofrancescoli1260 hopefully it doesn't reproduce
@@enzofrancescoli1260it would be surprising if anyone wants to be with this guy long enough to have a kid lmao
Was embarrassed to say that I suffer from Depression and had thoughts of taking my own life ... I thought I was weak & was embarrassed but after watching this video... I reached out from professional help
Thank you Dele & all the best going forward
The hardest thing to do is ask for help brother, proud of you
It's great to hear his interview had a positive impact on you and I'm sure many others too.
This is some of the best CZcams / football content I’ve seen in my life. Dele inspiring millions. GNev asking great questions and getting even better answers. Praise to all involved for the passion, honesty, and bravery in this production.
couldn’t have said it better… wow ❤
In terms of impact, this is huge.
Two men having an honest conversation about addiction, trauma, recovery, change and growth is necessary for society.
Props to Dele and Gary
*snowflake using excuses to get the sympathy vote. Pathetic "man"
I couldn't have put it any better, well said 👏 👏👏
@@danika181263a lot of people suffering with daily living,work families mortgages cost of living their my heroes
Thank you for sharing your story.
Good
Good
Wow
Nice
Great 👍
Absolute HERO. I'm not a regular fan of football but Dele's honesty, bravery and courage, crosses every boundary - to the only thing that matters: humanity. A true HERO, in every sense of the word.
It's all about the future if he's serious about evolving take a pay cut and come to a club like Aston villa I don't truly believe it that he's willing to do it
We took a geeza on Paul mcgrath that was a chronic alcoholic and gave him stability and access to help we payed him handsomely and we made him feel loved ❤😢 that's why Aston villa is special 😢
"I think if you let people in, that's the way they can hurt you the most in the end". God bless you Dele, I felt that. I pray for a speedy return back to your best, on and off the pitch. ❤
Gary, you've created a platform where someone like Dele feels comfortable opening up about these major, often overlooked issues. That in itself deserves praise, so well done
Stunning and brave 😏
I agree with you I don't like Gary as a pundit but in the role as interviewer/ mentor
@@abigailbarfoot3846Bet you’re an Assnal fan or Liverpool fan
@@mloose7870 I'm an everton fan and have always liked dele.
Well done Dele, extremely brave of you. Talking helps most of the time and doing this interview will you and others. Kudos to Gary as well
Hats off to Gary Neville being proactive and wanting to speak to this young lad. He's clearly struggling mentally and needs as many people to talk to as possible to help him through whatever he's going through. I genuinely hope we see a resurgent Dele Ali. For above all else, himself....I hope this is a turning point for him.
Dele Alli has no one to blame but himself. Maybe getting filmed while being sucked off wasn't a smart idea. Why should any coach try to help him when he can't help himself. He needs to spend less time getting terrible tattoos and more time actually working.
He knew it would pull the views
@@ChuckNorrisFakeand who the hell are you to say they’re excuses?? Sounds like you’ve not watched this at all. You absolute clown
@@ChuckNorrisFake have you been through what he has?
@@ChuckNorrisFakename me more than one more time this has been done in a transfer window, 'trust me bro' you cant
If you've ever been abused in life you know Dele ain't lying this really made me cry
He a real one for opening up and showing that mental issues can hit anybody, regardless if you are rich and successful. Dele, you are the man.
"People used to say that I was fearless. But I wasn't fearless...I was just brave"
What a quote. ❤️👏👏👏👏👏👏
Yeah it just hit deep
@@prashantrawattIt really does
Courage isn't the absence of fear. It's feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
Yep. That made me stop & think too. -As did the rest of it.
Wow big ❤ dele get back and please come back to spurs 🙏
‘I’m not fearless im just brave’ is actually iconic. I really hope that Dele is really in a good place and I take my hat off to him for doing this.
Stunning and brave. The hardships this man has endured sitting on a bench getting paid millions. The children of Africa weep for his very difficult life.
@@apk4381people can’t be brave unless they are starving children in africa… yeah makes sense that😀🤣
@@apk4381 money isn't everything mate, mental health issues can make your life shit whether you have £1 or £100000000. of course dele alli is luckier than a lot of the kids in africa, but its not a competition on who can feel the shittest.
@apk4381 with a comment like that, I think you need to be brave and face your own problems. Good luck with that!
@@apk4381 very narrow minded response tbf
To slam on the brakes to a halt and stop this cycle shows incredible strength. To speak to the world and try and help others by facing your demons, while holding yourself with dignity, is on another level of strength and courage completely. Nothing but love, care and admiration Dele.
Huge respect Dele. I felt it, when he choked up. My dad abused me in many ways around the same age and still does. The fact he was able to get the words out is incredible. Dele you are incredible for doing this and for taking control of your mental health ❤❤
I'm so sorry for what you're going, and have gone, through. Please keep going. There is a way out from underneath abusive people. Find your happiness and success, and do it on your own so that no one can take that from you. Then, be a better person to your future family. You can do it 🤍
still does? quite concerning to hear but I truly hope you get the help you need 🙏
@@Flinstone_Edible I’m still a minor so I have to live with him. And I’m not risking going to the police bc it only made it worse last time
@@charleyjames8045 next time use evidence, I don't know how it went down when you tried to get help but figure out different ways when you do want help again
keep holding on, i'm rooting for you. you can do this. ❤
He's literally saving lives by doing this. Inspirational. Survivor. We have NO IDEA what people are going through inside.
Lol wtf.
@@xbriskx lol wtf what a stupid response. Hope you'll be as brave as Dele has been with this interview. In the meantime: get a life
Classic football fans. Watch what happens when Harry maguire kills himself cause of the constant shit he gets. All the little mongy hypocrites will come straight out the woodwork pretending they care
@@xbriskxWhat don’t you understand?
😂😂😂
I was the same age as Dele when I was abused in that way. when he choked up, I felt that. I still do it myself when I try to verbalise what happened to me. He got the words out, I still can’t. Not yet. Massive respect to him.
You’re not alone
Not alone bud. Trauma therapy can be completed in imagery or in many other formats. I am a therapist and if any way you are feeling you are struggling you can find an avenue for help
@@aaronpenberthy107 Thanks for the kind words. I don’t let it impact my life now, though that’s only because of many years of therapy. It’s just still something that is not easy to say out loud.
My heart goes out to anyone who has had to go through that. It ruins lives it really does
You are not alone my man, a lot of people go through similar things.
I wish you nothing but the best in your future and stay strong and push through it 💯🙏🏼
What an inspiration, it takes such guts to talk about such personal, traumatic events - you have helped me realise trauma is something a lot of us deal with even if you can't tell on the outside, thank you Dele for making me feel less alone
*Immense respect to Dele for having the courage to open up about his struggles. Seeing someone with his profile be this vulnerable about addiction and trauma is so powerful. His story will undoubtably inspire others going through similar battles to know they are not alone. Speaking up is brave. Seeking help is brave. No matter how hard things get, there is always hope. Dele embodies the strength it takes to acknowledge pain in order to heal. His desire to use his platform to connect with people and make a difference during difficult times is truly admirable. This conversation shines light on issues that are often stigmatized but so deeply affect lives. I hope it sparks more open, compassionate dialogue around mental health. Wishing Dele continued healing and happiness ahead. His honesty and empathy in this episode will stay with me.*
As a Tottenham fan, I followed Dele most of his career and could not understand till today what happened. Dele, you are a fighter. I hope you become your best self and go back to being an amazing footballer!
same here. i got into football just a bit before he started playing for spurs & it felt so unfinished & sad to see his quick downward slide & then get sold. this feels like so much justification & resolution & brings so much understanding. in addition, as someone that has dealt with chemical addictions with the same trauma as dele as the root issue (had a liver transplant last year from alcoholism) - this hits deeply. so glad this happened & he's gotten to this point. brave & beautiful.
People can speculate but should never question someone’s character without knowing the inside story
same thing happened with Jesse Lingard, everyone attacked him not knowing what he went through, people have just gotta stop fucki*g assuming everything and thinking they know it all.
@@ChuckNorrisFakeYou don’t think mental health issues are real..? What an ignorant comment
@@ChuckNorrisFakebecause of people like you some will never take mental health for serious. Robert Enke, ex german nationalkeeper threw himself under a train in 2009. Was that done for reputation as well?
@@ChuckNorrisFake so he gets molested at 6 years old and you say it’s fake. What an idiotic comment , you are brain dead
It's not questioning someone's character. If you forget about the character and just look purely at the football and the wasted talent, that's fair. And that's why he gets stick. He's obviously talented but the football hasn't shown that
Deli I was abused by my father from the age of 4 until I was 15.
I left home at 18 and for nearly 5 years I was homeless on the streets of London.
Deli your a survivor and yes by speaking out in the way you are firstly brings tears to my eyes because know child should ever ever be abused full stop.
Secondly you my friend will change lives for the better and I firmly believe that your talent on the football field will shine brightly again.
I just want to wish you all the best for your future.
Doug
How does your father have a mindset to abuse a child?
This may be one of the best/most honest interviews I’ve ever seen from a footballer. Huge respect to you Dele, I hope you get what’s coming.
" I refuse to blame mourinho. I want to make that very clear . He didn't know. No one knew. It was always me against myself. I'm my own hero and my worst enemy"
Wow. My respect for him just went though the roof
It must be hard for anyone that's suffered such an abusive upbringing to open up about it, but to be someone in the public eye, in a profession thats so highly criticized from every angle, i think it's HUGE what Dele has done here. He has helped so many by doing this. Best of luck to the guy, deserves every success.
Lukaku interview exist lol
@@fhzxcv Not the thread fella. Grow up.
@@markwood7045 stfu mark i can say whatever tf i want
The fact that he has achieved what he has with the childhood he had. It’s amazing
Absolutely. Some people are truly walking miracles... and usually, it goes unnoticed. Compassion is always the right move.
He would not have achieved what he achieved without his childhood. On the pitch he was fearless. I hated him because he found a way to destroy my team Chelsea always. I loved him for the common ancestry. I can only wish him the best. The road to recovery is a long one. He is in the action phase. There is always a risk of relapse into bad old ways but if he is open and honest with himself he will find a way. I hope Poch will bring him to Chelsea.
Same
Up th blues 💙
The fact he managed to even become a professional football player after all that is a testament to his spirit. Inspirational young man.
Very courageous for Dele to talk about this, and appreciate Neville to be compassionate. God bless you Dele Ali
I feel guilty that I allowed the media to taint my view of Dele. I shed a tear watching this because of how sad his early life was and how brave he is to get through it. I really hope he succeeds in the future and I'll be a supporter for life. Well done lad ❤👍
We're human mate hopefully we can learn from this and improve going forward
100%
@@MikeDelta5697theres really something wrong with u
@@MikeDelta5697 I dunno what made you think that but I just hope you never land in a place he did..no one should just heartbreaking stuff
@@MikeDelta5697Well, you're doing much better sitting here on CZcams commenting about his life.
Just wanted to say how grateful I am that this was released at this time. Life's been rough for me recently and I've felt like I've lost myself. While I can't sit here and say that I have suffered the immense trauma that Dele has, I relate to so much with what he was saying. Him sharing his story and his message has inspired me and saved a life. Thank you!
❤
Keep going fella 🙏💪
❤️
Im here if you need mate, hope you get better!
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Fantastic but harrowing talk and it’s great to hear Dele sounding healthier and somewhat happier. You can tell he’s speaking from the heart and that he’s being honest and truthful. I hope this is the start of his journey back to full fitness and back on the pitch
I love how supportive Gary is of Dele
Really shows Even though people might have different opinions, when we're suffering we all Unite. It's a human trait ❤️
Couldn't agree more man. I think we all feel sympathy for Dele but the look on Neville's face at 17:59 - 18:15 shows how genuine he is.
Tbh most footballers didn't show the same level of public support the way Gary has here. In fact, according to socials more footballers came out and spoke in support of Mendy (abuser/rap!st) than they did of Dele (actual victim of SA). Says it all.
@@pendafen7405Mendy was proven innocent and all charges were dropped lad.
@@omargotyahat to be 'found innocent' by a closed jury and to have 'charges dropped' because witnesses mysteriously all retracted their statements (couldn't be coercion..) is not the same as 'proven beyond all doubt', and you know that deep down. How people can live with themselves accepting corrupt 'justice', I will never understand.
On behalf of a die hard gunner here, really wish all the best for him, nobody deserves that sort of start in life. The fact he's even managed to make it into professional football given all that in his early days is remarkable in of itself. Good on him for that and good on him for having the nuts to put his story out there to help other people who've experienced the same.
Same
Ditto from another Gooner. Very disarming, candid and humble version of his traumatic life experiences to date. He's young enough to resurrect his career and anyone who has watched this video, irrespective of their club affiliations, will wish him a long and distinguished future.
Ask gunner to sign him
Doesn't matter if your a gunner or not. Don't have to always mention what club you support
2 Cor 4:4, repent- Heil GOD
His nervous laughter is the ultimate in heartbreak. That's his (and many others) defence mechanism to cope in tragic times. We have to learn to laugh these things away, so that we seem "normal". It's the saddest part of all of this. Real respect for Dele (and to Gary for being so delicate and respectful) for doing this whole interview. I hope he gets better from here and I hope it helps many others suffering in similar ways. From a West Ham fan
By watching closely on body language Delle Alli curls his feet onto the sofar that shows how much sufferings he has gone through comparing with Neville posture am in charge. Good that Delle pour it out and Neville shows he cares.
Was the "from a west ham fan" necessary
@@swirl._.3 yes cause it shoes even tho the two teams are rivals(spurs and West Ham) he still feels compassion
@@swirl._.3its become the norm now 🤦♀️. People's way of saying 'even though you're an enemy on the pitch I can still be nice off the pitch'
I don't love it but it's not going anywhere🤷♀️🙃
@@TYSHAAA carry out the same energy you have on the pitch as off the pitch..don't be plastic now..don't be fake
This brought me to tears as I’m sure for others. I’m a huge Spurs fan and loved the Poch/Dele years. Missed the old Dele until today. Now love the new Dele. Amazing story and thanks for sharing Dele. And Gary, not sure if you got any training for journalism career but you’re brilliant. This interview is up there with some of the best interviews I’ve seen by “professionals“. Bravi 👏🏾
"For me it was fixing something else that i didnt know i could, and i held onto that.."
A powerful quote. ❤
This is Gary's best interview of all time. Dele's been through so much that is so difficult to talk about. Gary did a great job of creating the environment where he was able to share. I really hope Dele can find his peace and find joy again in football.
perfect questions and perfectly timed too hes building something special with the overlap
“To be vulnerable, there is a lot of strength in that.”
Such a mature perspective for a young man.
Dude is 27 when are u supposed to mature_?
@@victorfernandes2111He's nearly 30 and people acting like he's a kid 😂
He's a very brave man but let's not act like he's 16 mate. A random guy in his late 20s would have that reasoning. Especially having have the experience he had
I’m guessing you’re all under 50. At 27 To be open like this is incredibly mature. I don’t know a lot of 27yo in therapy let alone able to publically talk about it.
After interviews like this one, many people stay in a corner in their room taking breaths starting to believe on themselves that they can do a step to the light too.
Thank you Dele ♥️
I saw that Dele's eyes still showed fear. I hope that in the future, Dele will get better. Thank you for having the courage to speak up.
As a Spurs fan I’ll always love Dele for the memories he gave us on the pitch, but as a father, a youth pastor and a man I admire and applaud him even more for what he’s talked about today. This has taken more courage and bravery than anything he could do on a football pitch. My love and prayers go towards him for this new beginning in his life, may it be a fruitful and blessed one.
Well said 👏🏾 👌🏾 I concur.
Amen🙏🏾
You sound like a good dad, may God bless you and your childs. ❤️
Word...COYS
beautiful message ❤️
I don't normally comment on videos but this one I just feel needs to be appreciated. I'll be honest, I was a person who felt he was ruining a career that looked so promising, but to hear his struggles only makes me admire what he has achieved so far. A true inspiration for people going through hard times and seeking help to make themselves better. Well done Dele!
Sounds like he’d already conquered those issues waaaaaaaay back. It’s the ones that cropped up in 2019 onwards that are the issue and have ruined his career. I just don’t know why he didn’t seek help much much earlier.
@@adamstar7516you clearly did not watch the video at all did you
@@adamstar7516watch the vid lad, he’s only just dealing now. Peace 🙌
He hasn't achieved anything I'm football
@@marco0594 I would say playing for your country as an achievement. Playing in the Premier league as an achievement. Unless you have done the same?
My thoughts and prayers go out to Dele!!! As a man in recovery daily for 6 years now, I believe that he can recover!!! God bless him, his family and friends!!!!
Thank you so much Dele for publicly sharing your experience as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I don't think you realise how many men you have helped in saying this publicly. I went through sexual abuse from the age of 9-13yrs old at my father's hands, and it took twenty years to heal from what he did to me. As a female survivor supporting other men and women who have had similar experiences through my organisation Daughter Arise, it is devasting to hear and witness the impact the life-altering effect it has and, without support or help to face the trauma, how it can cause life long damage. So many men that I have spoken to have never told anyone in their family circle what they have been through. Too often they hear that boys don't cry and that men have to be strong. yet regardless, male or female we all start as children. I think this interview will spark a change in boys and men speaking out. God bless you Dele for sharing your personal experiences.
Gary Neville is a legend on and off the pitch. To facilitate the conversation like this with Dele, to make him feel safe and comfortable when he's putting his demons out there is nothing short of special
Well said.
It's a brilliant interview. He gave Dele room to tell his story and didn't push too far. Well done Gary.
@darrentaylordigital
He’s a complete hypocritical knobhead
Was gonna put something similar gary really showed how an interview should be held
My respect for Dele has gone up 10 fold, it takes a brave person to open up like this, well done and I hope he finds peace from his troubles
I’ve suffered exactly from the same problems all of my life. Thank you Dele for sharing with us your struggle. It was therapeutic. What a wonderful player and person. Hope the best for you!!
My deepest admiration! That‘s what you call a role model! Well done, Dele and all the best for your future from an AFC-Supporter from 🇩🇪.
This is by far the most powerful interview any footballer has ever done, period.
As someone who caged up trauma from childhood and let it lead my life for years, I can relate to everything he’s saying. I make this promise to anyone who is going through any type of depression. When you are ready to seek help, and open your eyes to the world again, you’ll be amazed at the freedom you feel. Keep pushing.
Totally agree @aaronsmith7828 we keep everything in and it effects our life. We lose relationships and keep a guard between ourselves and those we can’t trust due to these traumas. I think it’s brave for him to do this interview and it makes total sense as why he has always had to defend himself on the pitch the way he does. Poor lad we have all dragged him through the mud for his so called “lack of interest” but trauma has controlled him all his life. Any one or any footballer needs our support.
So sorry to hear you've struggled and amazing that you've found a way through.
But, I have to challenge that statement about feeling free. Everyone's depression is unique and so you can't necessarily understand how other people feel. In this case (and yours from the sound of it) it's clearly linked back to a trigger event and whilst you'll always carry the scars, you can address the root cause and free yourself from the depression. However, there are people who suffer from Chronic depression and luckily they may never have had your trauma but equally they will never be free of it. Medication and therapy can help but they will always suffer from depression no matter what. What they need are some tools to manage it and having a great network of people around them (if they're lucky enough too)
Definitely, everyone should open up and seek help when ready as that is liberating but for some, it's here to stay and it's important that people realise that rather than thinking help will alleviate it completely.
Top man .
Nah Ronaldo. The Jacuzzi at Carrington was a disgrace!
Same. As a guy I'm still struggling to open up about my problems and tend to spiral. I teared up at this video and honestly it really is inspiring
It's easy as a football fan to be detached from the real person behind the player. The vitriol and hate thrown at Dele from the media and fans has been atrocious. The bravery and strength he's shown to tell his story cannot be underestimated. Good on you, Dele.
I hope all the people who called him "lazy" and a "bad attitude" humble themselves a little bit. None of us know the personal lives of these players, so making judgements is a silly thing to do.
Absolutely agree, this is exactly why I never call a player trash, finished, horrible or whatever else derogatory. Footballers are people not fictional characters. Decent people treat each other with respect. In almost all comment sections of football related content, 90% of the comments are mean-spirited, immature and unproductive shit. Love the sport, hate the fans tbh
Absolutely agree with you, Dele is owed a massive apology
This makes that conversation he had with Jose take such a deeper meaning
"I don't know what is going on inside you and why you went from being so successful to up and down. Maybe it's something personal. Maybe you use to be an amazing professional and you became a party guy. I will never know the true answer. Only you can know that. But I just want you to demand more from you "
Indeed only dele knew....
the mental strength that he has in himself is unbelievable. What a great person ❤
Really nothing can crush a man like the hidden struggles people don't see. Success often obscures the brutal reality of humanity's vulnerability.
It’s not over for this guy. Stay strong
We all share in Delle's struggles. At 5 my dad was murdered in front of me, as a kid thought this would go away and pretended but haunted me for the past 25years and even now I still get nightmares of the same as a grown up. Stay strong Delle and anyone going through thesame,God's got you.🙋
Thats messed up man, Hope you're doing ok
I'm so sorry to hear about this 🙏 There are many trauma informed facilitators who will be able to support you in gently exploring and meeting that pain, should you wish to get support 🙏 wishing you peace!
Omg hope ur doing ok 👌❤
that's a terrible thing to witness as a forming memory :( i'm so sorry for your loss friend
I'm sorry bro
Thank you for sharing this, Dele. Too often we judge players and others based on their antics off the pitch and their performances, not knowing the personal story going on. You proved to everyone that you are strong in this interview. Respect!
That was truly inspirational. Dele’s honesty and bravery is incredible and Gary’s empathy was awesome. Massive respect to both of them.
its playing the victim card. Its pathetic
@@BH-ui5ebhe’s just expressing himself😭. Do you know how much hate he’s had since his decline in football? ALOT. It’s not playing the victim card, it’s just him taking the world what’s up
@@VBAHMED Hes received hate due to him acting like a child. And now he's realised his career is in free fall and decided to play the victim card.
@@BH-ui5ebThe only thing that is pathetic is your comment, bud. Do you have the courage to talk about some of the things he did on national television?
@@CourageOfMyConvictions Courage! ha dont make me laugh! What amazing courage from a spoilt brat who has wasted his talent set a terrible example to kids and now will be lauded for his bravery in speaking up. He is playing the victim card in a last-ditch attempt to save his career and idiots like you believe him.
Huge respect to Dele. I did not know he had to endure this kind of struggles. Coping with all that while being a top-level athlete must have been terribly hard.
It must be definitely hard. If I had his money, I'd stop everything. However, since I'm grinding to makes end meet. That begins the push for me to get up and talk to people. Every basic things are difficult for me and required much more effort than people think it would be. Which is why telling people with mental illness to toughen up, shin up has opposite effect of what you wanted.
The struggle is unimaginable to average people. I don't wish this sort of thing in my worse enemy. Nobody should be going through this.
You have helped me today deli. Your a brave man for speaking out about what you have been through. This will help other men speak out. You was fantastic at spurs, wish you all the best on your recovery. Hope you get back to being happy and doing well in the game you love. 🙏 ❤
It'll be a special day to see Dele back on the pitch and playing football without dragging all his past along with him. All the best to you Dele, looking forward to seeing you at your best!
It’s just great to hear someone speak about his childhood experiences so bravely and to say what no one talks about in football. My son has used sleeping tablets as well and he wouldn’t know why he has to take them although exhausting himself from training. I’m glad he’s watched this and understands that he can speak up and not keep it inside and refuge with medication.
As a Gooner and a recovering addict of prescription opiates, this subject is way beyond anything:
Being human, honest, open and real! You cannot be your true self if you’re lying all the time.
Big respect to you for doing this! Peace ✌🏼
@@JoelJason-mf2deyou don’t wanna know. if you know, you know.
@onouphriosf acts of sodomy was rife in the 90,s
He will be acknowledged mostly for his bravery and rightly so. Incredible. But for me it’s the personal accountability he takes for his situation that inspires me the most. He never blames anyone despite an awful upbringing. I hope so so much he comes back to the level he once was bc he deserves it.
Because that’s the truth that gives you power. What a lad👊🏾
Couldn’t agree more. That’s exactly what resonated with me from this, exceptional young man ❤
Man... the sheer bravery needed to do this.
We all feel you Dele ❤
Thank you for opening up, Dele! This will definitely help people! Wishing you healing, health and happiness 💛
Dele, you've saved so many lives with this interview. Your an absolute warrior. There's alot of young men out there that need to listen to this. I wish you all the best in the future.
This is historic, Gary; Thanks for what you do. All behind Dele.
@@harrys1505grow up bro 😂
He isn't doing it for charity pal.
Historic? Don’t lose track of reality, buddy
@@Crashawsomeabsolutely is when is the last time one of the best talents in the country has conducted and interview like this
This really made me feel I'm not alone. I thank you and respect you a lot, Dele
To Dele, I knew you from a young lad playing at Milton Keynes. I supported you at Tottenham and became a supporter of the team because of you. I lived in Potterspury so knew a little of your background. Even when the press was bad, I supported you. I knew there was a reason. Children don’t get to choose the environment they are born into. I could have never imagined how challenging it was for you. Wishing you inner peace and can’t wait to watch you play again. Need something to look forward to now the Dons are in Division 2.
The fact that he got to the level he was a few years ago is nothing short of incredible considering the situation he came from and the childhood he had.
Do me a favour
@@robwood8331 Rob mate you’ll be remembered when your dead as a comment on a dele Ali video
@@Lwwwio incorrect I'll be remembered for far greater than that. You would too if you took the time to wake up
You have no idea how the world works do you
Incredibly sad, I cried throughout. Well done Gary for handling the situation so well. Hoping Dele gets back playing even better than before. He’s an inspiration.
Just saw someone getting mad when Gary touch Alli leg after the bit about molestation.
Me too I can't stop crying
Gary said, he wasn’t expecting that, I certainly wasn’t. I think it was a natural reaction, reaching out to someone in distress. We’ll have all learnt from that. I don’t think any harm was done.
Same here
Gary spontaneously comforting dele like that for me was possibly the most moving part of this entire interview. Such a tough moment for both men, palpable discomfort but gn behaved like a real human. If someone gets offended because someone else displays empathy, i find it’s usually because they don’t have enough
Such a brave man with such an honest and open interview. It’s taken a great deal of strength as a person for him to speak, and I’m in no doubt he will have helped many people
Huge Respect for Dele for coming out about his experiences and great interview from Neville
Not going to lie, this was proably one of raw and visceral Interviews ,I have heard in a long time.
As a Spurs fan, this cuts deeper as well. We all wish him well, and hope he finishes on the high ,he deserves.
Huge kudos to Garry, for that amazing interview , the sensitivity, compassion and gentle questioning, were exemplary.
“As a spurs fan” bro y’all needa stfu about that
@@Luiss409-init
I was on the edge of my seat when dele described how he got molested
Cry me a river mate
@@Luiss409- you dont have to ovary react like a twat
Thanks to Gary, and the Overlap team, for covering this. As a Spurs fan, Dele gave me so many amazing memories and it was so sad to see his decline. Proud of him for speaking out and addressing the issues he faced. Wherever he ends up, I hope he fully rediscovers himself and finds happiness!
Big respect Dele. So brave of you to share.
I think youve helped so many people including myself by opening up about these struggles
He's done himself proud. So eloquent and reflected. Like he does, I hope this is of help to a lot of people who, for various reasons, find it difficult to open up. I'm happy for him and hope all fans give him a varm welcome when his name is announced this coming season (hopefully).
Beautiful soul, as a dad it breaks my heart to hear his upbringing I’ll be giving my boys a bigger hug tonight
🥺
your comments given me a pang you should be proud of being a dad who cares n can show such emotion
As an Arsenal fan, I have a new found respect for this guy. I hope he gets back on the pitch soon enough and shows us an even better footballer than we saw of him under Pochettino. I'm rooting for you Dele
well you said it , as an arsenal fan lol
Same here. I would acc like him to play for us
Thank you Garry and Dele for helping so many people realize the reality of struggling with an addiction.
Wishing you well for your future. It takes a brave person to open up .Thank you and Gary.
Good on you, Dele. And Neville. ❤
@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist2 and yet unless youre a Roman Catholic youre going to hell...
Hello Bhai Sajjan, Big Fan❤
Good to hear it from Nepalese celebrity
@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist2
Gary’s line of questioning to me, a non native speaker, at times feels a bit too confrontational and doesn’t fit the setting. He could use different wording; ‘can you be more specific’ vs ‘could you elaborate on that’ just one example.
The worst and the heartbroken side is that people just blame you and insult you without even knowing what you are going through. Get well Dele and stay strong.
Everyone goes through problems tbf. It makes sense
Incredible for him to do this. The media can be so damaging to so many people!!
I have nothing but respect for this young man, so brave for speaking out and you don't know how much it's helped myself
The thing is Gary is a guy who genuinely cares for Dele and other people. Glad Dele let us in to understand his struggles. He’s definitely impacting lives through this interview
That's a fact.. id rather Gary Neville interview me than Roy Keane
Gary is a sweetheart.
Champagne socialist
@@stenbergskij101 If you google, you’ll find he’s addressed that criticism plenty of times…but you probably know that and just choose to ignore it.
Yes Neville’s loaded, but it’s clear he backs up his politics in what he says and does. The idea that liberals with money should be martyrs and show solidarity by living in poverty is bollocks frankly. They should use their privilege and platform for the vulnerable and oppressed, and people like Neville and Lineker do.
The fact is you don’t get an interview like that from someone with a more right-wing outlook, because there generally is less tolerance, empathy and understanding of different experiences to their own, and the interviewee doesn’t reveal anything.
In fact, it’s almost certain that the right-leaning elements of the press were the ones ready to expose this story against Dele Alli’s will. Really pleased that he got his message across properly by speaking to someone genuinely decent and compassionate. If there’s anyone immorally after money at the expense of others, it’s the gutter press, not Gary Neville.
I judged a book by it’s cover and now I regret it… Man’s the bravest FR I hope to see him play again🥺🥺🥺 He’s an aspiration
Stunning and brave 😅
*inspiration.
Nah, you just got bombarded by a toxic media. We all need to learn to read between the lines and ignore the MSM.
I did too man. Feel bad now. Hope he can turn it around. Brave guy.
Bro said aspiration 😂 How did you judge a book by it's cover if you can't even understand what's written on the cover? 🤣🤣
Wow. What a brilliant, open and honest interview. A brave young man!
I didnt like him at that time he played for Spurs, but after this interview I just can admire him for being honest, speaking out of his youth, traumas. This not just helps him but many others.
Be strong Dele ✌️
As he is only 27, if he makes this comeback to top tier football this would easily be the most incredible comeback in football history
Bro calm down wtf
R9 had 2 knee injuries came back won world cup and you talking about some besiktas player
@@ongbakvamoooo598go away.
Not really players have had cancer and come back
Eriksen is probably leading that record
I will personally cheer every single goal this lad scores for the rest of his career irrespective of club allegiance.... absolutely sending all my positive vibes to him on his journey to finding inner peace with himself
Dele is such an inspiration, there must be so many like him in the league suffering the same and he has destigmatised it in 43 minutes. What a powerful journey. GNev did an excellent job guiding the conversation and encouraging him to talk so freely.
Amazing young man. This takes extreme strength and bravery. God bless you, Dele and amazing interviewer.
If he is remembered for this more than football, then that’s a far more worthwhile legacy! Well played Dele! ✊🏻❤️
Great comment... couldn't agree more... His words might have just saved (many) lives 🤞
Exactly. Totally agree