An Entire Family with ADHD (Four People in One Home)
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- čas přidán 30. 07. 2018
- Carson and his entire family are diagnosed with ADHD. Although it affects each person differently, they are all learning that others have a hard time believing something they can't see.
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As a 35 year old woman with adhd - no matter how old i get, i still feel like im pretending to be an adult.
But that feeling never goes away . I have adhd too and I’m just 22 years old . Our body gets old but our soul remains still like if you’re kid.
Hmm, It's so interesting hearing you and Sophia say that, bcus same. I am a 26 year old woman living with ADHD, and I have said that no matter how old I get, I just know that I will always have a fun energy and want to have fun and have good vibes. I've wondered if both of your statements are to be true for most or just some adults with adhd (I am guessing maybe its more of the people who feel more hyperactive, but I could be wrong. I am mainly basing this guess on one of the adults with ADD that I know who seems more calm and the things they are interested in, I would describe as something an adult likes, and I wouldn't describe her interests to something a child would like either, except dancing. But even her dancing seems adult like or too tame, for lack of a better word.)
For my personal ADHD, I feel like I just like to be myself which involves any type of self expression that brings me joy and what makes me comfortable. So, for sitting still as an adult, is usually not something that I like to do. I realized that even though I may not think that I am fidgeting with or moving something, I literally always am. It really brings me comfort to be doing something with my hands or some part of me to not be still most of the time. Maybe it's a stimulation thing; that we sometimes need more stimulation to be entertained I guess (hence the stimulant medication we are prescribed to help our focus) so that affects our personality in that way. I also think it may be (well for my personal experience and some ppl I know with ADHD) a lack of a certain level of dopamine production or the receptors in the brain or something...that we naturally produce. So when there is something that gives off the happy feeling or attention and excitement, for whatever reason, that we get with dopamine we go there and stay there, like being playful or silly. So with sometimes, when we need to transition to something that can be eyeroll worthy, its hard to really be there full focused with full energy. I hope I explained it well enough and that this made sense lol.
Hahaha
@@lissettegutierrez8552 I definitely understand what you're talking about! I find it... exhausting to always focus on adulting and often withdraw from certain social gatherings. I just want to be me.
Im a 17 year old but definitely resonate!! It feels like im 10 or 11. Classmates feel so different and so grown up.There's a subreddit called r/nevergrewup and it might help. People there feel like kids too.
Love seeing a SBSK just about ADHD. I don’t feel like it is taken as seriously as a disability even though it can be very debilitating. As an adult woman who was diagnosed in high school, it has only gotten harder for me; socially, relationships, career, parenting… Love the support this family has from their mom who seems to be advocating hard for them as well as educating them about their diagnosis.
I think its because its perceived to be too common. Personally, ive always found its overdiagnosed.
I believe that’s why it is so important to have advocates, interviews, and personal testimonies for and from those of us who have ADHD. It may be over diagnosed and that’s why people find it so common but it is a very real disability. Especially as someone who presents as someone without a disability, learning more myself and teaching others was vital for me to live a healthy life. Being told it is common so isn’t a big deal (maybe not what you are saying but can come across that way) is dismissing so many people who live with ADHD.
@@jinga210 also how its definitely more under-diagnosed for women. Both me and my mom have adhd, she only got diagnosed when she was 42 and it took us years and years of actively doing our best trying to get a diagnosis for me to even have a chance.
I hear you. I'm struggling too. Hang in there!
EXACTLY!!!! I have it too!
I have ADD, they told me I had a learning disability. But then I got older and realized I could learn just fine if I was learning something I was interested in.
sameeee
This!!! I remember how groundbreaking it was discovering this! I was diagnosed at age 5 and struggled in school. Now I’m in school to be an esthetician and I’ve loved every second of it!
same for me.
That’s ADHD!
I'm the same way
So happy to see people taking adhd seriously for once! It has dramatically effected my everyday life, neurotypical people have no idea how difficult everyday tasks are or hard socializing is, with adhd. I was diagnosed at age 6, so I’ve always known why I was different, but that doesn’t mean other people have understood why I’m different.
I want to give the mom a hug she clearly cares a lot for her kids
My best friend has ADHD, so I really appreciate this interview. I want to be a better friend and understand his condition more. Thank you Mama for reaching out with your beautiful family on SBSK. It helps us all understand and helps others with ADHD finally gain the acceptance and love they deserve.
I have ADHD. And for me I have really bad mood swings and I also can be really hyper active. But.most all focus is a big struggle for me. I also struggle with other this/ sytomps.
So good to see one on ADHD. Most of my immediate family has ADHD, including my husband and I. It's harder than one would think.
Agreed.
I’m the same way. Most of my family. My parents and siblings all of us have it.
It’s so hard living with adhd. I’m seeing a therapist now about it.
1) I'm so excited comments are back!
2) I also watched this video when it was first posted, but I was recently diagnosed with ADHD as an almost 30-year-old, and so much of this interview resonates with me even more now that I've learned this new thing about myself.
As a 15 year old with ADHD, this was interesting to watch. I like hearing about other people’s experiences.
This really resonates with me. I have adhd aswell I get the need to say how I feel a lot.
I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. I knew all along there was something wrong with me to be honest. What a relief it was when I was finally tested in a professional setting. These boys are so lucky to get diagnosed in their teens and I'm so happy for them :)
I know right, I'm 21 and finally got diagnosed. Wondering how different my life would of been if I had been treated as a child
@@doomsday437 same
I can see you guys growing to become the much needed motivators, and leaders of the world. Good job mom for loving, and standing up for your son's. ❤️❤️❤️ And boys, please hug your mom, and remind her everyday how special she is to you! I'm also a mother of 3 son's, and it means a lot to me! 🙂
My oldest son was just diagnosed after having a difficult first month of 1st grade. I relate to the mom, so much, as I also believe I may have it as well as my biological mother. I also cry like she did, because I understand my son and I am so fearful that others won't. He's so loving, kind, and warm...but sometimes his anger comes out, or his "devious" side....but he literally cannot help it. It breaks my heart. I hope these kids and Mom are all doing well!'
I think my son has adhd he’s 6 how did you go about a diagnosis?
What a sweet family. Praying for you all and all the people that come in contact with you and your sons. Awareness is the key and this forum is amazing!!!! Thanks Chris and Alyssa!!!
I understand my memory is really bad sometimes i watch t.v. and forget what i watching from the series to commercial and i tend to pace alot . you all seem wonderful keep been you
Discovering this channel is such a blessing. I hope we can talk, if you want to get adult perspective on ADHD (and other diagnoses attached to it) and how to go on with life alongside it. I watched all your history videos about this cause. You're doing a great job, Chris. I admire your work.
What a beautiful family. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have adhd and it's nice that u are raising awareness.our disability is not taken serious and it's hard
So true
Let's goooo, ADHD fam! My ADHD is combined, but the hyperactive part is not nearly to the same degree as the one brother in this; imagine not being able to sit still literally ever on TOP of racing thoughts and everything else, like, ugh that would suckkk. He's a rockstar, that story about him jumping after squats is so relatable. This whole family, honestly, they're all rockstars. I hope their lives are going amazingly, I was tearing up during most of this because everything they were saying was so spot on. I wonder if the other guys' ADHD are more inattentive? I hope they don't feel like they're less valid just because they don't seem to struggle as much with the hyperactivity. And their mom! 💜 Parents with ADHD are truly some of our strongest people ✨✊
This is such an important interview! Thank you to the family and sbsk for bringing this light to the world of adhd.
As a guy with add i really applaud your for shedding light about this its not brung up enough honestly
This is such a amazing video. I have adhd have done since a child. I was diagnosed as hyperactive disorder but then in the last few years I was told that is adhd. I just thought as a kid when i couldn't have sweets or pop it made me hyper. I didn't realise how active I was. I still struggle now to understand things, to concentrate is so so hard to do, to stop doing something I enjoy like crafts or singing even when it's 1am I can't stop my brain from working, my memory is really bad but I have such good memory of music especially old music. I can name the names of the songs the artist and even the date it's been brought out.
I have learning disabilities, I'm dyspraxic and also I have suspected autism ( with covid my last appointment to be diagnosed has been paused) I'm also in a wheelchair with eds my joints dislocate so easily. Life can be hard but I just get on with it. And it's great to see adhd shown on here so more can understand how they can help and understand zxx
Thanks for this!! We are an ADHD family& it’s so great to see representation of our family.
Much love ✨💖✨
What an awesome Mom!!! Blessings.
They are great kids, and his mother seems so kind , i wish you can do better in the future
Let's fill all the comments-sections of his video with love
ADHD is no way a gift and people need to stop saying it is, its really debilitating and not being neurotypical and unmedicated for college/adult life like you're almost setup for failure specially if you come from a economically poor background. Of course this is not everyone with ADHD but I'm talking from my personal experience.
Yes it does have its positives though like everything these boys said in the video.
"In the stone age you'd be a hunter blablabla," and it's like... Yeah, well, in this timeline I'm trying to sit at a desk and remember what I was doing 30 seconds ago. I flunked out of college FOUR TIMES before I got diagnosed and medicated. It's not a gift.
Nice explained, well done.
Totally agreeing with you. I struggle everyday with my ADHD, and let me till you it’s really not a gift at all…
@@wreckmore Even in the stone age, not having the ability to plan for the future or pay attention to things that require your attention is not a good thing, ADHD would not even be good back when we were hunter gatherers. At no point in history is the impairment of forming memories and executive function an advantage.
for me it's both a gift and a curse
a gift in the sense it helped with my creative thinking and it's the reason i wanna pursue a filmmaking career
a curse because it simply sabotages my everyday life, i can't do sh*t without giving myself multiple taps on the shoulder and it's irritating
Beautiful set of boys with a loving mom🥰
Thank you so much for choosing to do a video on ADHD! From the bottom of my heart, it feels really good to be given a voice and heard because ADHD and the struggles and differences in the brain and chemical reactions are very much real!
Can you PLEASEEEEEE DO some VIDEOS on STUDENTS WITH ADHD IN COLLEGE, as well as HOW ADHD and LIFE gets MORE DIFFICULT TO MANAGE when one gets OLDER??
How our daily routine is affected, relationships, responsibilities, creativity, playfulness, thoughtfulness (sometimes a lil too much to a fault for some lol) and awareness for teachers and professors. I feel like the school system does not understand enough to properly deal with this depression that exists within our students and specifically our ADHD community in our colleges and university. We can all still learn so much and be successful and know what we are talking about, it's just the different type of resources made available, the allowance for inconsistencies, expressing care, hopefulness, and extra opportunities, not judgement, dismissiveness, and no opportunity for EC., or make up exams, make up quizzes, late work, a redo on an assignment. I am just so traumatized with school tbh, which just adds more to the paralyzing and hopeless feelings we get with our ADHD while in school, most of the time. For reference: I am a 26 year old woman in college. Still no AS. I even struggle with taking 1 class per semester, with medication and self teaching on ADHD and how to improve on impulsive habits and implement helpful habits, for my specific brain, so I can stay focused. I stated self-teaching because I think it's essential for gradeschool and highschool to teach students how to learn, and the various types of learning methods for different brains, to help out the future generations reach their goals, be their happy selves and not be depressed most of the time.
Can you PLEASEEEEEE DO some VIDEOS on STUDENTS WITH ADHD IN COLLEGE, as well as HOW ADHD and LIFE gets MORE DIFFICULT TO MANAGE when one gets OLDER?? Pretty Pleaseeeeee :)
I don't know if you will see this, but here are tips that help me graduate and join the workforce.
College:
I can't read books, especially if the topics are not interesting. What helps are listening to audio books repeatedly and having a study buddy or study group who can help summarize the main points in class. Going to office hours helps too because it shows to the professor you're trying. I didn't get a lot out of office hours but professor is more understanding if they see that you're trying.
Work:
Find a work that interest you. One of the positive aspects about ADHD is our hyperfocus and creativity to think outside the box. If you found something that interests you, you can work long hours nonstop that most people can't do. It took me 10 years to be honest with myself and figure out a career. I didn't care what people said when I kept switching careers every 2-3 years until I found the one that I enjoy. If you can do it in the internship in college, save you a lot of time.
Also, I have a hard time paying attention to people in meeting and occasionally interrupting them before they finish their sentences. To get around that, record your meeting especially if you work remote. That helps a lot. For interrupting people, I try to count 3 seconds after they finish talking to ensure I don't interrupt.
I hope this helps.
Also, I can't keep track of time to save my life. So if you have to be somewhere by a certain time, put an alarm at the start of the day for every event or meeting you have to get to. Just do it. And don't lose your phone either if the alarm is on your phone. Get tile,
air tag, or have Siri/Google/Alexa/your patient roommate to be able to call your phone. If that doesn't work, sticky notes it everywhere in a place that you're often in. If you see it, you won't forget it, but it's not as reliable as having an alarm on your phone.
The bright side is that you will find all kinds of tricks as you get older so ADHD is better manage than when you're younger ;)
There are ADHD coach so try that. I've never done it but supposedly they can teach you how to overcome setbacks in everyday interactions.
Hello. You are a great family! It is hard because of people outside who cannot understand the challenges ADHD presents but it is cool that you can understand and help each other.
I have 3 kids with ADHD and high functioning autism. They are so bright and loving, understanding and interesting. They often struggle with the world and judgements outside of home but I am confident they will have a bright future. They have a few really good friends that make a difference for them.
I am sure a bright future awaits you as well. You seem to be smart and blessed with great human qualities. Together you will manage!
I have never received a diagnosis, but my family of origin and the family my husband and I have had together have struggled with ADHD. The ability to hyper-focus is amazing. The struggle for controlling executive function is exhausting. Studying Dr. Hallowell's books, when my children were young was helpful to me. Pattern-planning can be a huge plus. Where others run on set schedules day to day, that is NOT how most people with ADHD function. Even for those who may not look like they are physically hyper active, their brains still are going 100 miles a minute.
Now that my children are grown, my set of struggles is new. I have so much flexibility in my day, which means I have to build a schedule (or choose to wing it). That's a challenge, because I still have many demands on my time as a volunteer and a part-time worker; a wife, a mother, and grandmother. But it makes it easier to procrastinate. That's never good. ADHD people get bored with the mundane far easier that most, I believe. It can be an exhausting battle to do simple things. And other times I can conquer the world.
I think it is sad that children are punished and expected to do things and act in ways that most adults cannot even do. Children thrive on positive reinforcement. When a child only gets attention for "misbehaving", he'll be prone to keep doing it, so that he gets some kind of attention. I think adults, especially educators, have a responsibility to look for the good and accentuate the positive in every child. My children are all gifted, but this I will tell you: all children are special needs; so are all people.
Thinking outside the box is often looked upon with favor. But that needs to extend to teaching outside the box and communicating outside the box, and seeing talents and intelligence outside the box. Our Country is a great place in a great part because of all the gifted people who dealt with ADHD or other modern diagnoses.
Who is to say what the norm is for a brain anyhow? We all need to value each other.
Great work Chris... I liked this lovely family!
Wow the kid in the purple shirt is highly intelligent, he reminds me of myself! its so true about what they said about adhd in the video. Thanks for interviewing this family! It brought tears of joy to me face knowing im not alone.
Such a good video God Bless the boys and their mom 💕💕
I have ADHD and this is a good video
I cannot believe what she said at 9:15 ! I've been doing this forever with lyrics, number plates, conversations. I'm constantly trying to rejumble words as if they're anagrams or check all of the letters someone just said are an even number. It drives me MAD. I wish I knew this link a lot earlier. I've been on the ADHD referral waiting list for 4 months now and I'm 31 😔
was a teacher 15 years ago. I wish I had more education on this topic back then.
i wish my teachers did too. the signs were all there and glaringly obvious, but nobody knew the first thing about it. as a result, i wasn't diagnosed until my 30s. i would give anything to have gotten treatment as a child; it would have saved me so much grief.
These boys are beautiful, handsome, articulate and soft-spoken. What a great Mom.
Thanks for sharing your lives with us! I know I’m watching this 4 years later, but I’m sending good wishes for everyone. I hope they’re all doing well and are happy, healthy and all that good stuff!
I know this is four years old. But I just got diagnosed with adhd and I appreciate this video so much.
Thanks for doing this episode! I come from a majority ADHD family as well!
mom is beautiful and her sons are so handsome. beautiful family.
Hi everyone: It's so nice to see you all again on CZcams. I want to meet you all one day. Take care and stay safe.
I have a grandson with this he’s working has a girlfriend and is well on his way to better things for you mom you are amazing lots of love from canada 🇨🇦
Adhd is extremely hard to live with, just like any other disability we should get disability benefits.
I love these interviews . Is it possible to do an interview with someone with ADHD inattentive type please? I think the boy who said he doesn’t have a good track of memory is more inattentive ADHD. It would be good to see the other side. 💜
This helps me understand the things I do.😌💚
My mind is like a slideshow of completely random thoughts and memories. When I was in school, I didn't mean to be rude, but I would often talk too much or disrupt my teacher. It's dfficult for me to watch movies or TV because I am ALWAYS zoning out. I always had trouble with tasks that others found simple and often had trouble understanding instructions.
What a lovely family. God bless this Mum & her 3 boys.x
Where's Dad?
Would love to see more videos on ADHD.
So true
I feel like I’m all the cognitive disorders adhd is so overlooked and seen as not important
Yes and this one really focussed on the boy with hyperactive type adhd, which is great, but that's usually the case. Inattentive type needs more awareness too.
“How has your ADHD made you view the world differently?” Bruh it’s the only way I’ve ever seen it 😂
I have ADHD I can relate big time I understand and there for you
What a great family
I have ADHD and one of the things I use to help control the tapping and hair pulling (I believe my ADHD caused trichotillomania for me) and various other actions that others may consider annoying is finger knitting. It's strangely relaxing, and I crochet my finger knitted strands into big, thick, heavy blankets that would be very adequate for those who need weighted blankets to relax. In the past I've done a lot of dumb things like chasing my mom's and my grandmother's cats, upsetting my mom's dog with strange noises from a paper towel tube, and playing with broken glass. The finger knitting has helped with most of it. On occasion, I'll get an urge to do something, but the finger knitting has helped me chill out considerably. If anyone with ADHD reads this, please try it!
glad comments are back!
Everyone in my family except my mom has adhd, its hard, but I've been getting over it, which is great!
i have ADHD-C and i love seeing a specific video about ADHD because it’s not all about being hyper and not able to sit still.
I don’t have ADHD but my mom and my ex have been diagnosed with it. I learned and I know it’s very, very real, and can potentially be destructive on interpersonal relationships. Hang in there and you be you. The right person will come along.
We all have some great family musical jam sessions, but never can find the keys.
My biggest lesson being diagnosed at 30 was that to other people, my compulsions and struggles are choices.
My entire family has it too. My father, mom, all my siblings and me, my fiancé has it to, my paternal cousins. Adhd runs in the family and you try to find community in others so you attract each other. It’s exhausting and toxic. My dad and me are both inattentive, my sister combo, my brother and mom hyperactive
2:16 "Do you cry bc you fear others won't understand?" Well, yeah. But she's also crying because she has ADHD so it's hard for her to emotionally regulate. I wish you had more videos on ADHD! You feature many autistic people but fewer ADHD and it would be lovely to have more examples. The condition is still incredibly misunderstood, especially outside the USA.
im almost 21 and i continue to be boggled by the fact im in college; i feel like i just got the hang of walking when everyone around me has been sprinting for years
I dated several people with ADHD. It's challenging, but the positives outweigh the negatives!
Thanks
Yes they are just cute and intelligent in a very unique way
Such cute family
My son and I both have ADHD.
My son is just starting school and he has already experienced a lot of difficulties in the school environment. It is challenging to be a child with ADHD and it is challenging to be a parent with ADHD.
I'm a 15 year old boy with ADHD and I relate these problems
I can mask myself on class even tho I feel like SPRINTING A MILE OR SO, but when I'm hanging out with my close friends and I go HYPER I feel like I can't control it lmaoo and it ALWAYS has to be my friend saying like WHOA WHOA chill🤣🤣
ADHD and anxiety patient here
Same
I like to tell my self that ADHD is more like a superpower and that I can do a lot more then a lot of people
I have adhd too and I can relate too them
I have adhd and I know how it feels to sit still in a class and i fidget alot and what helps is having a IEP
I love with ADHD and my biggest issue is the fact I have a hard time focusing in school and I also have really bad mood swings it a part of ADHD and it sucks and the doctor recommended medication but when I took it I felt like I was second guessing my decision I was trying to make or I felt like I was trapped inside of another mind that wasn't mine, and heart racing and other side affects so I stopped taking it.
I hope they have some accomodations in school, they shouldn't be getting in trouble for their needs.
Man it’s just so hard. Everything is just hard. It sucks.
I'm the only one in my family with ADHD and it's hard when they don't understand. They think I'm overplaying it, but overall, I don't mind having it.
While lifestyle could contribute to an ADHD-like behavior making misdiagnosis more common, it's still a real condition meaning not everybody have it. If you compare brain scan between ADHD group and neurotypical group you can see difference of brain volume and activity in certain region.
It’s just a label 🏷️ but it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. We have different brains and our brains work differently than others. It’s a neurodevelopment condition
My whole family have adhd too!
we have to be drugged up to go to "school" problem is the school and..
This video is 𝕡𝕖𝕣𝕗𝕖𝕔𝕥✨ I’m diagnosed with combined ADHD & can so relate! The best tips I have which have proved significantly efficacious, is switching to having a vegan dietary plan, jogging (asthma), and listening to Gregorian chants✨✝️😘✅🔥💃🕺🤩✨🌞
god bless u all jesus loves u sooo much.i would love to be friends with all of the boys
When I feel super happy an I feel like my adhd is going crazy I just put my speaker on max volume and blast music and dance until I feel tired(I can dance for hours if I have to😂)
They cool asf
I understand what it fells like
BTW great video too.
dand i have this but my parents dont want to accept it and they say i dont have it
My son and my husband. Yeah its hard.
As a non attentive ADHD, I’m too calm and unresponsive. Kind of the opposite of hyperactive
I have ADHD and at my job it's difficult to stay off my phone. I know I need to get work done but as soon as I'm finished and there's nothing else to do I'm right back on it and I get sent into the office or sent home for it.
Try putting it in a lock box where you physically can’t use it. They sell ones that you can set to lock for a specific amount of time.
They talk little about drawbacks good and a bad thing I think. How it impacts your life I'd like to see that
We are all recent
There are 3 people in my house with ADHD including me. It is very annoying
🖤
nice
Agreed...
What if adhd was the 'normal' human condition and the so called 'normal' people are actually conditioned into a limited personality that is more like a slave that follows the rules of society?
As someone with ADHD, yes!!!
Uh no
i mean it's definitely not. i know we want to put a positive spin on it, but the reality is that ADHD means parts of our brains are underdeveloped. It's a limitation, no point in pretending otherwise.
Hi again
Yup. That's it. We have a double dose of every emotion lol beware... just kidding .
me, my mom and my dad all have adhd