Vietnamese Wedding vs German Wedding

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  • čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
  • Since we’re going to have two weddings, there’s lots of different customs and traditions. So in this video we decided to sit down together and talk about everything from Vietnamese fortune-tellers setting dates, to hosting thousands of guests and quirky German wedding games.
    0:00 Intro
    0:42 Time and Date
    2:12 wedding photo
    3:24 Number of guests
    4:51 Clothing
    6:17 Bachelor/Bachelorette Party
    8:38 Gifts
    9:55 Duration
    10:31 Locations
    11:42 Activities
    12:14 Cost
    13:12 Best man / Maid of honor
    14:29 Gift for guests
    15:04 Drinking
    16:11 Honeymoon
    16:58 After the wedding
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    Hi, I'm Uyen Ninh but please just call me Uyen!
    Originally from Vietnam, I now explore life in Germany, sharing my unique perspective through my videos on my way to be your favorite Ausländer! 😁
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    uyen@yilmazhummel.com
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Komentáře • 791

  • @vandeputalexandre244
    @vandeputalexandre244 Před 23 dny +4663

    "with the same husband" 😀

  • @wollf92
    @wollf92 Před 23 dny +2619

    german boyfriend waving from the bushes killed me

    • @montananerd8244
      @montananerd8244 Před 23 dny +20

      I haven’t seen him, so I’m half convinced you’re pranking us.., 😂

    • @miriam4235
      @miriam4235 Před 23 dny +20

      The German perspective. 😂

    • @khrystiawaibel6897
      @khrystiawaibel6897 Před 23 dny +3

      ME TOO!! 😂😂😂

    • @admiralyi8673
      @admiralyi8673 Před 23 dny +26

      17:41 timestamp for those who missed it…

    • @ember1794
      @ember1794 Před 23 dny +2

      Love it 😂😂👋🏻🌳❤❤

  • @laurenk94
    @laurenk94 Před 23 dny +1742

    German boyfriend saying ‘I don’t want anyone wearing a green suit but me 😢’ is sooooo adorable and totally understandable!! He should get to have his big day of standing out too 🥰🥰🥰

    • @Raincloud_.
      @Raincloud_. Před 23 dny +17

      yes, in is amazing green suit

    • @adamryan977
      @adamryan977 Před 23 dny +39

      Honestly i doubt he will have a problem in Germany having someone else wearing a green suit to his wedding. I never saw men wearing something else than a black or a dark blue suit to a german wedding. I mean maybe the shirt could be colored, but even that would be rare. Most man wear white shirts to a wedding.

    • @virginiamccarter6638
      @virginiamccarter6638 Před 23 dny +10

      Never been to any western wedding without a dark suit on the groom and groomsmen.

    • @SewardWriter
      @SewardWriter Před 22 dny +12

      Green suit. I'm not surprised. As guest gifts, I can see him giving away lithops in tiny pots, with care instructions tied on with green ribbon.

    • @denisebrandt5875
      @denisebrandt5875 Před 22 dny +9

      ​​@@adamryan977last year I was at a wedding and the groom wore a green suit. That looks gorgeous. And yes, that was a German wedding.

  • @psychoticbean5975
    @psychoticbean5975 Před 23 dny +1664

    I can’t wait for you to start calling him “German husband”

    • @jackiedelvalle
      @jackiedelvalle Před 23 dny +65

      And maybe further down the line, "German Dad" 🥰

    • @janet6473
      @janet6473 Před 23 dny +7

      OR his actual name!!!

    • @patricesteiner1168
      @patricesteiner1168 Před 22 dny +21

      Or he could always be German Boyfriend. Whatever Uyen decides, it’s all good.

    • @psychoticbean5975
      @psychoticbean5975 Před 22 dny +13

      @@patricesteiner1168 I wasn’t trying to get her to start calling him that. Why are you like this? Just being adversarial for no reason

    • @goldHydrangeas
      @goldHydrangeas Před 22 dny +9

      German Hubby better😂

  • @PhotographyByRune
    @PhotographyByRune Před 22 dny +463

    When I got married in Thailand, I proposed to her on a wednesday. We tiold her mom and she immediaely told us we had to go to a monk and find an auspicious date.
    We did the same day, and he told us: In two days. 48 hours later we were married in a wedding with hundreds of people. We have been happily married for 17 years now.
    Wish you the best!

  • @AthiraNair-zi4fy
    @AthiraNair-zi4fy Před 23 dny +750

    German bf is a disney princess in an adult guy's body. Look at him picking flowers and hiding behind the bush so adorable 😂❤

  • @Kivas_Fajo
    @Kivas_Fajo Před 23 dny +919

    Your hubby is a funny guy. "In Germany we also have fortune tellers. They are in the Amt, and if you don't take the appointment, there will be no wedding."
    Love it!

    • @Scarlett.Granger
      @Scarlett.Granger Před 22 dny +49

      German fortune teller: You are late! No marriage! Doom! Shame on your family!
      😂

    • @spartan8705
      @spartan8705 Před 3 dny +1

      And people say Germans don’t have a sense of humour

    • @meeeka
      @meeeka Před dnem +1

      I once had a German boyfriend and we had a wedding in the US, and that was the start of our very bad luck.

  • @reneallison2336
    @reneallison2336 Před 23 dny +358

    I love how German Boyfriend participates, but at his comfort level. You both are a great team.

  • @jammytomato
    @jammytomato Před 23 dny +304

    "You can't ever leave me, not even spiritually!" -Uyen in love 😈

  • @toneluy8343
    @toneluy8343 Před 23 dny +197

    "So life is worth living again".. lol, thats exactly what I feel when spring starts in Norway.

    • @307cavalier5
      @307cavalier5 Před 18 dny +1

      Also see Wyoming, Montana, Idaho,North Dakota

    • @Love-sh2jb
      @Love-sh2jb Před 15 dny +1

      Also see 🇨🇦😊

  • @zedudli
    @zedudli Před 23 dny +391

    Describing the best man as the contact guy for the catering is the most german thing I have ever heard 😂😂

  • @helenbartoszek243
    @helenbartoszek243 Před 23 dny +229

    So the best thing to do is get married in Vietnam first so you have the money to pay for the German wedding! Haha!! 😃 I'm so excited for you both!!! Much love to you from me in Australia.

    • @ChrissieSM
      @ChrissieSM Před 22 dny +9

      Brilliant idea!

    • @trevilling
      @trevilling Před 10 dny +2

      Good idea but the German wedding has to be planed super far in advance because “wedding season” is getting bigger each year. Depends what kind of location you want. You need to get the official wedding where you sign first then you can have the church wedding in Germany! Hahah and it’s expensive omg…. My friend is spending almost 30.000€ and then you have to spend almost over a 100€ as a single person for the food and catering so you basically pay it back 🤡😆

  • @gleep747
    @gleep747 Před 22 dny +24

    For avoiding the issue of guests expecting you to drink too much, you can do what we did in my bar when patrons pressured us to drink with them: have non-alcoholic beer and cocktails ready. We had code names: "Super strong beer" and "Tipsy Loo"

  • @mellihin1981
    @mellihin1981 Před 23 dny +153

    A more traditional thing than bachelor or bachelorette party, would be a Polterabend, this party is celebrated by the couple together, the guest bring old plates, cups, mugs or similar stuff, and during the evening they smash it, an the bridal couple sweep up the fragments for good luck, and it should them prepaire to always work together as married people.

    • @fruzsimih7214
      @fruzsimih7214 Před 23 dny +5

      Yeah, that's very German. We don't have such a thing in Austria, we call the bachelor/bachelorette party Polterabend. In Germany, it's a different thing though, it's called Junggesellenabschied.

    • @vorubergehendunsichtbar4658
      @vorubergehendunsichtbar4658 Před 23 dny +13

      Yes, I was thinking that too! Bachelorette party is a very American thing to me, that just got adopted here, like Halloween. My parents back in the eighties had a three day wedding in Germany - Polterabend on the first day, Church and food on the second day and then coffee with the aunts on the third day. Polterabend is also very good to invite people who you like but are maybe a bit too removed to have them at the main wedding, e.g. if you are part of a club or a choir or an orchestra.

    • @star22let1
      @star22let1 Před 20 dny

      My American dad and German mother did this for good luck. ❤

    • @shadowfox009x
      @shadowfox009x Před 18 dny +4

      Agreed. Polterabend is the traditional German thing.
      And the kidnapping of the bride on the wedding day. That's during the party after the ceremony. the bride gets kidnapped by some friends without the husband noticing. He (usually with the help of his best man) then has to search for her in the coffeeshops, bars or pubs near the wedding location, and finally has to buy her freedom by either paying for the drinks or performing a task.

    • @marastuff9256
      @marastuff9256 Před 18 dny +1

      You are forgetting the centerpiece Toilette; there is always someone who brings an old toilet or at least a Sink to be smashed! ;)

  • @danw918
    @danw918 Před 23 dny +107

    My wife and I cycled around Vietnam and never got sick of being invited to many roadside weddings. We often had to sing or drink lots of crazy shots with the locals!

  • @CourtneySeagull
    @CourtneySeagull Před 23 dny +62

    American here - it's very common to leave for the honeymoon right after the wedding. For ours, we left the wedding reception and drove 2 hours to our hotel then the next morning drove another 4 hours to the beach. Most people I know leave the wedding and go stay at a nice hotel before continuing on to their honeymoon.

    • @CableFlame
      @CableFlame Před 15 dny +1

      When she said “right after the wedding,” I think she meant “right after the ceremony, skipping the reception.” At least that’s how I took it.

  • @muna6229
    @muna6229 Před 23 dny +102

    Being a south asian I can understand the enthusiasm of family for wedding... For Asian wedding is a celebration once in a lifetime so they try to make it as grand and memorable as possible 😁

    • @grandmasgopnik9642
      @grandmasgopnik9642 Před 17 dny +1

      Same I was the only child and usually they didn’t try to make too much fuss about it…until I got engaged and that sort of thing 😂 then it became much more important (I’m half viet half white) my viet Dad is very chill, it is my white mom that is crazy af 😅
      Actually all my Dads Input was incredibly helpful and was a nice memory of our planning together as he helped me pick out a dress with my MIL and with the flowers and colours. He’s very artistic and was previously a graphic designer 😊

  • @lenak.2041
    @lenak.2041 Před 23 dny +309

    "Fortune tellers & Thousands of guests"!! Like a Gilmore Girls episode title!!

    • @ChaosCause3000
      @ChaosCause3000 Před 23 dny +2

      Omg so accurate! Especially since they had quite a few weddings at the inn(s) 😂

    • @DoYourPartNoww
      @DoYourPartNoww Před 22 dny +2

      Same exact with Indian weddings

  • @annehersey9895
    @annehersey9895 Před 22 dny +21

    Uyen-My friend in Thailand married an American. The Thai wedding became a comedy. The Bhuddist priests gave the bride the day using bride n groom’s birthdates. All the guests arrived from all over the world to Thailand. All of a sudden the Priests realized that when they set the date, they used the groom’s date as if he was born in Thailand NOT the US which of course was a day earlier than Thai time! They redid it and said they had to wait 3 weeks. With guests from all over, that couldn’t happen so the Priests found a lucky number day so the wedding was only delayed 2 days! So be sure when you give the fortune teller his day of birth give them the day it would be in Vietnam!

  • @stephjovis3469
    @stephjovis3469 Před 23 dny +390

    Good to know it's the same groom. I thought maybe German fiancé will be one husband and German boyfriend the other 😂

  • @PredictableEnigma
    @PredictableEnigma Před 23 dny +147

    In the USA 300 or more guests is considered a big wedding. Under 100 is a small wedding, and 100-250 is a medium sized. Over 1000 is crazy big lol!!!

    • @rebellion13
      @rebellion13 Před 23 dny +10

      I had a little over 250 and it honestly felt extremely overwhelming. I would have much rather have had under 100.

    • @thanhtanbui4011
      @thanhtanbui4011 Před 23 dny +7

      In Vietnam 1000 is crazy big also. 200-300 is average

    • @raraavis7782
      @raraavis7782 Před 23 dny +8

      I just can't fathom paying for so many guests, honestly. Even 100+.

    • @dreamturner.
      @dreamturner. Před 23 dny +16

      In India 1000+ is the norm....anything less than that is considered a shotgun wedding and it's embarrassing 😂😂

    • @rosaliac.386
      @rosaliac.386 Před 23 dny +10

      I plan on having 10-20 guests for my ceremony & max 50 for the reception but it'll probably be like 30 lol. Genuinely could not fathom having over 100 people there

  • @CherylPLee
    @CherylPLee Před 5 dny +2

    Could totally relate to the statement, "The sun is out and life is worth living again!" 😂 Cheers from another Southeast Asian living on the other side of Germany 🙌🏼

  • @CDavLee
    @CDavLee Před 23 dny +45

    Honeymoons are really popular in the US. You don’t always go right afterwards. It’s nice to have a romantic vacation after the wedding planning because it is so much work.

    • @bethanybrengan9795
      @bethanybrengan9795 Před 23 dny +1

      Yeah, at most of the American weddings I've been to, there's a part where the guests see the bride and groom off to their honeymoon (even if the honeymoon is just in a nearby hotel). Usually, this is when the couple finds out how badly decorated their get-away car is.

  • @montananerd8244
    @montananerd8244 Před 23 dny +110

    Awwwww ❤ "I like dancing and limousines too". I want Uyen to have the very best bestest wedding & hope she gets to do all the traditions that she wants!

    • @montananerd8244
      @montananerd8244 Před 23 dny +2

      I just cannot imagine a world where either German Boyfriend or Uyen would “bachelor party” in the problematic way of Brits & Americans.

  • @aquaarietta
    @aquaarietta Před 23 dny +98

    My husband (Vietnamese) and I (American) had a simultaneously very traditional and very non-traditional wedding, from both Vietnamese and American standards. We got married in a mass at our Catholic church (my husband became Catholic before the wedding), and we had our reception at a local restaurant with an outdoor garden. We had a small wedding in terms of guests with just close family and a few friends. Neither of us wanted to even have a bridesmaids or groomsmen, but our church told us we had to at least have a best man and maid of honor to act as the official witnesses to the wedding and sign our legal marriage license as witnesses. So we each chose our closest friends for those roles. Then for the reception itself, we didn't have any dancing or music besides the music from the restaurant. But the food and drinks were amazing, and everyone had a fund time just hanging out and talking. We also set up some board games for people to play at tables. We also had cookies instead of cake since neither of us wanted cake, haha. The best part of the reception was that we had a Fujifilm instant camera for guests to take pictures, so we ended up with a lot of very fun candid photos to remember the evening. We only had a few flower arrangements in the church, and I made some small decorations myself for the reception. There are a lot more details I could share, but ultimately my point is to share that weddings can come in all shapes and sizes. Just do what you want!

    • @voyance4elle
      @voyance4elle Před 21 dnem +6

      aaaw the boardgames are such a cool idea!!!! :D I am stealing that idea for my wedding xD

    • @ykexplores
      @ykexplores Před 19 dny +1

      Love the board game idea! We have been talking about it for our wedding too but unsure what to bring as we don’t have assigned tables

  • @ngochoang399
    @ngochoang399 Před 23 dny +87

    We also have wedding gifts for guests in Vietnam, usually it is a small bag included Vietnames tea, lotus seed with sugar (hạt sen ngào đường), and a traditonal cake (bánh phu thê). In other parts of Vietnam, people also have bag on dinning table for guest to take leftover food for their family at home.

  • @florianopolis6299
    @florianopolis6299 Před 23 dny +68

    You forgot something very very traditional.. It's called "Polterabend".
    In many areas it's often a very big event you actually can invite the whole town to, or at least many people. Usually there is drinks and maybe some small bbq, nothing fancy, nothing too expensive. It's usually outside and people bring old porcelain, like old plates and.. Smash them.. In the floor. It's supposed to be lucky. The couple has to clean it up then with a broom. Sometimes it's A LOT.
    This is being done sometime before the wedding.

    • @redacted5882
      @redacted5882 Před 23 dny +7

      My aunt and uncles polterabend is one of my favorite childhood memories lol

    • @gumfiffybon
      @gumfiffybon Před 22 dny +4

      I don’t know anyone my age getting married doing that anymore. It’s outdated. I have attended 5 weddings in the last 3 years and no one did it. It a thing that was popular when my parents married (~90s).

    • @florianopolis6299
      @florianopolis6299 Před 22 dny +5

      @@gumfiffybon it's still quite popular in more rural areas. That way you can party with the whole town and invite only close people to the actual wedding which makes things cheaper!

    • @joceery
      @joceery Před 17 dny +2

      yes! most don't do it anymore and want the bachelorette party, but I definitely want rather the Polterabend, I love the idea behind it.

    • @florianopolis6299
      @florianopolis6299 Před 17 dny +1

      @@joceery you're allowed to do both ;)
      Also: my bachelor party went as follows:
      I didn't want to do that crap.. Somebody told me, I can do stuff I love and did the "the boys". So..I did that. Rented a dark room, had everyone bring their computer and paced old games the whole night long and slept there. Loved every bit of it. I heard of others that did a basketball match.

  • @_aashitha_
    @_aashitha_ Před 23 dny +106

    the bachelorette party trying to sell german bf things was hilarious!

  • @theonetruesarauniya
    @theonetruesarauniya Před 23 dny +141

    This made me soooo happy, Uyen! I definitely understand. I'm Nigerian-Egyltian and there are definitely some traditions that are trying to be imposed for my wedding. I'm really thinking of just eloping haha.
    Much love to you guys and you both are so very dear to me.
    All the best to you two and you both are such a blessing and a gift.
    Love you guys!

    • @kellysueballard7654
      @kellysueballard7654 Před 23 dny +5

      Congratulations!

    • @theonetruesarauniya
      @theonetruesarauniya Před 22 dny +1

      @@kellysueballard7654 Thank you so much!

    • @centillion5733
      @centillion5733 Před 22 dny +1

      Congratulations! You sound like a sweet person yourself! Also, it’s important that you enjoy your own wedding. So do it however you like, your happiness matters most 🩵

    • @jennykoczur9339
      @jennykoczur9339 Před 22 dny +3

      Omg just elope! My husband and I both agree (after 22 years of marriage) if we ever get married again we will elope! 😆 So much pressure for a traditional marriage no matter the culture! 😆😆

    • @SewardWriter
      @SewardWriter Před 22 dny +2

      Mazel tov! 💖 Definitely elope. It's easier, and you can save the small fortune a wedded costs.

  • @dinasalim1000
    @dinasalim1000 Před 23 dny +33

    Uyen, you look so glowing here! ✨

  • @VirgoLunaKnight
    @VirgoLunaKnight Před 23 dny +57

    In indian hindu wedding too we have like 1000 guest ..some of them bride and groom meet at wedding for first time
    There are 3+ days functions for wedding
    And wedding guest dress the best ..like the bride has to step it up ..no body can outshine the bride
    Depend on region people do a sort of bridal shower ...
    Where they pamper the bride with her favourite food 😊
    Normally gift is money and close family give gold or silver
    One tradition or atleast in my region of india has ..is to put a lemon on the bride ( normally in the bra) to ward off evil spirits 😅

    • @Masterofcreat
      @Masterofcreat Před 23 dny +2

      A slice of lemon for its flavor or a whole one😂

    • @VirgoLunaKnight
      @VirgoLunaKnight Před 23 dny

      A whole one 😂😂 Indian lemon tend to be on smaller size

    • @jackiedelvalle
      @jackiedelvalle Před 23 dny

      @@VirgoLunaKnight So in her bridal gown she looks like she has 3 boobs???

    • @iccvc6
      @iccvc6 Před 22 dny

      Which state are you from?

    • @VirgoLunaKnight
      @VirgoLunaKnight Před 22 dny

      Maharashtra

  • @ryangooseling
    @ryangooseling Před 23 dny +20

    I think this is why most couples have "wedding party colors"
    It helps guests choose clothing to avoid being confused as part of the wedding party

    • @TinaTomassen
      @TinaTomassen Před 21 dnem +2

      I was recently at a wedding where the couple asked us to (if possible) wear navy, pale green or clothes of a similar colour/the same colour family because those were their wedding colours…
      The bridal party wore those colours as well.

    • @ryangooseling
      @ryangooseling Před 21 dnem

      @TinaTomassen hmmm, ive never heard of that.

    • @julianelehmann
      @julianelehmann Před 16 dny +2

      Sounds like a US thing. The "wedding party" with the bridesmaids and groomsmen in the coordinated clothes and so on is a US? anglosphere? thing; definitely not traditional in Germany. "Trauzeugen" aka best man/matron of honor yes, but otherwise, there's flower children and the parents of the couple, and that's it with the special roles.

    • @ryangooseling
      @ryangooseling Před 16 dny

      @julianelehmann ya, I'm in the us, i should have specified.
      There are so many beautiful traditions around the world.
      I love when the wedding is a community/ family event.
      Bridezillas are epidemic in the us

  • @qunstrudel
    @qunstrudel Před 23 dny +9

    In the USA traditionally the bride's family pays for everything (except the rehearsal dinner, groom's family takes care of that). Also the honeymoon is totally a thing and yes you leave right after the wedding party is over (and yes it is very stressful to pack for a vacation and prepare for your wedding at the same time, but it is nice to spend the first few days as a married couple having fun on vacation).

  • @zeynepavsar936
    @zeynepavsar936 Před 23 dny +47

    Uyen I’m really happy for you and German bf you guys are really cute and funny love from Türkiye 🇹🇷❤️🇻🇳🇩🇪

  • @yaminisingh7271
    @yaminisingh7271 Před 23 dny +45

    This is such a cute video. As an Indian and Asian, I can relate to some of those Vietenamise traditions. It's always fun to know the similarities in different cultures and country. Keep up the good work and happy wedding planning.
    P.S : - your nails are so freaking pretty :))

  • @pinstripesuitandheels
    @pinstripesuitandheels Před 10 dny +2

    My goodness you guys are cute together! I have tears in my eyes, because my wedding day was weird. My husband left me standing at the altar to go see his friends as soon as the church ceremony was over. It was the start of a dismal marriage. But you guys... You guys are sweet and respectful towards one another! You are going the best wedding and marriage ever!

  • @Sweettimeee
    @Sweettimeee Před 18 dny +6

    Who all are extremely happy and excited for them getting married 🤩❤

  • @crystal1462
    @crystal1462 Před 11 dny +2

    i love how vietnamese weddings are like “profit” that truly celebrates the couple

  • @moda78z
    @moda78z Před 23 dny +20

    ”life’s worth living again” 🤣😂

  • @LeighIR
    @LeighIR Před 23 dny +11

    Honeymoon is VERY real! We left from our wedding and went straight to the airport to spend two weeks in Orlando.

  • @lostcontrol1981
    @lostcontrol1981 Před 19 dny +2

    “As you can see we are outside in nature as summer is coming and life is worth living again!” As a Canadian 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 - I definitely can relate to that remark!!!

  • @KpopM2
    @KpopM2 Před 23 dny +55

    Omg a topic i can sympathize with. Me and my husband are both Vietnamese living in the US and even us had culture shock and arguments cause our preference were more Western lol it’s true our wedding is more for our parents too, but seeing how hard they worked for it, im glad i agreed to go with a big wedding cause they were so happy lol i’ll share some personal tips chi as our style and preferences dont really fit the standard there so make sure you vet your vendor carefully.
    They love to get overseas customers but some dont have good customer service. I had problems with my dress and it stressed me out. Make sure you get what you want and prepare to walk away! We also had our wedding photoshoot outdoor and my friends said that’s a very western thing to do cause it’s expensive and people prefer studio photoshoot BUT i love my photos where i went to a sandune, a hill, the ocean and they were beautiful. My photographer specialize on outdoor photography and i think German finance would really like if you guys have time and can splurge a bit. Vietnam outdoor sceneries are super pretty
    We fought during the wedding. Cause it was so stressful but we made it and i know you guys will make it through. So happy and excited for you!

  • @gonebytrain
    @gonebytrain Před 21 dnem +4

    As a Norwegian going to a Vietnamese wedding in Vietnam next week, this video is a life saver!!! Thank you so much!

  • @timecrayon
    @timecrayon Před 23 dny +15

    actually the bachelor(ette) parties also came to germany from elsewhere (probably the states, let's be honest). my parents' generation still had a "polterabend" where you invite a bunch of people to your house the day before the wedding and smash porcelain bc "shards bring luck"

  • @moni_lucky1010
    @moni_lucky1010 Před 23 dny +9

    Here in Australia, they have the wedding ceremony say around 11am, then the couple go away to take photos and then the reservation/party starts around 5pm. Guests can go home or find something to do in between. Can't really do photos before the day, because the groom isn't supposed to see the dress before the wedding. If you don't care about that, then I actually think it's a great idea to do them before.

  • @TastySchu4
    @TastySchu4 Před 23 dny +23

    I’m Navajo married to a German. We both agree and did our pictures before our engagement party but… NOT our weeding, like goobers. We should’ve done it like our engagement party cuz it took almost 2 hours for pics. At least everyone went to the reception and started eating snacks or they’d have left, lol. So smart Uyen!

  • @OuchingTigerLimpingDragon

    "Life is worth living again" 😆
    As far as leaving immediately for the honeymoon, Americans _do_ sometimes do that, but I always felt like you do about it. My wedding was quite short, and I made us a reservation at a nice hotel for that night. We stopped at our favorite sushi place after the wedding (while in our suit and gown still! lol), then had a nice time at the hotel.
    A week later, we went to a different state for the weekend to see different museums and parks for our honeymoon. It was really nice, and the whole wedding was barely over $1000, including the nice hotel and the honeymoon weekend.

  • @kellysueballard7654
    @kellysueballard7654 Před 23 dny +8

    I love the idea of having the whole day dedicated to taking the wedding pictures. That sounds like it would be relatively stress free. Plus you would not keep the guests waiting. I had to wait 3 hours in sweltering humid weather between the ceremony and reception. My boyfriend and i were so miserable that we promised that if we ever desided to marry, we'd atlest have a buffet and some sort of entertainment going. And air conditioning if it is the summer.

  • @florianopolis6299
    @florianopolis6299 Před 23 dny +21

    Trauzeuge are the people that are there in church and / or with your at the state kind of marriage. They actively sign that they legally witnessed your marriage. So the correct translation would be "witnesses".

    • @vorubergehendunsichtbar4658
      @vorubergehendunsichtbar4658 Před 23 dny +2

      Yes, exactly. When I was my friend's Trauzeugin, I had to sign the catholic marriage certificate thing at the church altar, I think? I also organised a bachelorette thing for her, but that was not the main thing.

  • @softfirecrow
    @softfirecrow Před 23 dny +8

    I'm german, I've been to a few weddings in my life so far and I never heard of a "wedding newspaper"😅 but it sounds really cute!

  • @midobrido6447
    @midobrido6447 Před 23 dny +19

    I love that you are filming outside

  • @ElizabethT45
    @ElizabethT45 Před 23 dny +12

    My family's tradition is for the couple to leave the wedding and go to a nice hotel for the night, then start the honeymoon the following week. We packed our overnight bags in our car the day before, and my maid of honor collected the wedding gifts and took them to our apartment for us. I can't imagine having to immediately get on a plane or start a long car ride to the honeymoon, we were so tired.

  • @IndigoFireFandubs
    @IndigoFireFandubs Před 23 dny +19

    In Canada at least, the other purpose for the maid of honour and best man is to also sign the marriage license as witnesses, along with the bride and groom's signatures. Idk if that might be the same in Germany? They also commonly play a big part in planning the bachelor/bachelorette party.
    We have a unique tradition in my province called a social, which is basically a big party to fundraise for the wedding. There's entry tickets, a raffle, drinks cost $2. But the food is free, usually chips on every table and then what we call "social food" - basically bread, cheese, deli meats, pickles etc. Maybe even some perogies with cheese and potato. Ive been to a couple where they had pizza, but then you cant meat shoulder someone (put a piece of deli meat on their shoulder to see how long until they notice lol).
    Congrats to you both!

    • @a24e
      @a24e Před 23 dny

      Which province?

    • @Ohforgodssakethatsme
      @Ohforgodssakethatsme Před 23 dny

      Which province are you in? I'm in Ontario and we usually refer to the social as either a Stag and Doe or a Jack and Jill.

    • @alexandraro901
      @alexandraro901 Před 17 dny +1

      Yes, in Germany they can sign the license as well. They are actually called „Trauzeuge“ and „Trauzeugin“, which means „witness to the wedding“, which I guess in former times was a very important role. Nowadays it is optional to have the Trauzeugen sign the papers, from a legal perspective the role is not necessary.

    • @IndigoFireFandubs
      @IndigoFireFandubs Před 3 dny

      ​@@a24e Manitoba!

    • @IndigoFireFandubs
      @IndigoFireFandubs Před 3 dny

      ​@@Ohforgodssakethatsme Manitoba! I didn't realize stag and does/Jack and Jills were similar, I mistakenly thought they were similar to bachelor/bachelorette parties. Very cool!

  • @doubtingthelimit
    @doubtingthelimit Před 19 dny +3

    I organised my sister’s bachelorette party, and her and her besties wanted to do something chill, relaxing and fun, because they work a lot, and most of them have children. sooooo we went out for brunch, did a pottery class, made home made cocktails, and did some fun skincare while watching a movie from our childhood. Everyone loved it 🥰

  • @Crow-Fly
    @Crow-Fly Před 23 dny +7

    Ahh, So singing drunk uncles are universal :)

  • @emilwandel
    @emilwandel Před 23 dny +16

    We got gifted a herbal salt for one wedding. I enjoyed cooking with it for a year and remembered that day. On another wedding wie got a Lebkuchenherz (gingerbread hearts) with our names on it. I loved it. So guest presents are nice

    • @DemianGheist
      @DemianGheist Před 23 dny +2

      That wasn't herbal cooking salt , it was herbal bath salt.

    • @emilwandel
      @emilwandel Před 22 dny +2

      @@DemianGheist It was cooking salt. Kräutersalz. It is quite common in Germany.

    • @DemianGheist
      @DemianGheist Před 22 dny +1

      I was joking. There was a story on the internet a while back, where that happened.

    • @ChrissieSM
      @ChrissieSM Před 22 dny

      Were both weddings to the same person?

    • @emilwandel
      @emilwandel Před 21 dnem +1

      @@ChrissieSM No. Also not every wedding party as this. Oftentimes people take their name plates with them as a memorandum. It also quite common to have a guest book where you can write good wishes and when you are willing to splurge have an accompaning photo booth.

  • @ButacuPpucatuB
    @ButacuPpucatuB Před 8 dny +1

    It’s really nice to see your two cultures meshing into one another. I’m in the same boat, my fiancé is not familiar let alone someone of my race and culture. We want a wedding that reflects the both of our worlds becoming one. I’m hoping my parents can accept this, they have little regard to what we want. I’ve been crying a lot over the stress. But, my fiancé has been supportive and understanding, and that helps a lot.

  • @user-jt2pf3iq3w
    @user-jt2pf3iq3w Před 23 dny +14

    Omg Uyen, I love watching about you and german boyfriends adventures. Thank you for all your amazing videos! ❤️

  • @jumpinjoint
    @jumpinjoint Před 23 dny +3

    i love the sound of a vietnamese wedding. i love all the cultures who involved the entire family and community and really celebrate.

  • @TheMaryberry153
    @TheMaryberry153 Před 23 dny +8

    My cousin married a German woman in Germany and their wedding was in a small enclosed room in the middle of a park. It was cute but very, very small.

  • @kandisphere8828
    @kandisphere8828 Před 22 dny +1

    I like the 'talent show' part in Vietnamese weddings 😅😂. It reminds me of the time back in my home country when kids are asked to narrate a poem, sing or dance at the reception. It's kind of sweet.

  • @dawnfrappollo
    @dawnfrappollo Před 22 dny +5

    you could knit/crochet something small for each guest

  • @adoxartist1258
    @adoxartist1258 Před 23 dny +16

    You two are delightful. 🤗 I have adopted you both. You have family in Mississippi now. But don't worry about an invite to the wedding. 😂 🤍

  • @lgran79
    @lgran79 Před 23 dny +6

    This is so awesome, thank you for sharing ❤️ 😊 i love hearing the differences and how yall are working on incorporating traditions

  • @blueeyesblueskiesahead1612

    That was so much fun! More comparison videos please - around holidays or other traditions, maybe?

  • @evelynkrull5268
    @evelynkrull5268 Před 23 dny +6

    As a german-american (was raised by my immigrant Oma) I had no clue Germany had wedding newspaper. That is very VERY cute!!!
    Im divorced now but my wedding favors were little cookies in the shape of my state with a little heart over the city I got married.
    Also I went to my honeymoon a week after my wedding

  • @pistaziengruen
    @pistaziengruen Před 21 dnem +3

    i just love how interesting and calm your vids are❤

  • @annabellee8459
    @annabellee8459 Před 23 dny +4

    I paid for my brother and sister in law's wedding cake for their wedding. It was a bit pricey, but i didn't mind since i love my brother and my sister in law is the best! Plus, i loved the expressions on their faces when i surprised them with the cake. They didn't know how it would look like. The cake was delicious and soon all gone. I think i did a good job in picking a wedding cake for them.🙂

  • @InfiniteStudy130
    @InfiniteStudy130 Před 14 dny +1

    In India we have similar weddings to the Vietnamese ones but also some aspects of German Wedding, like we gift anything, we have weddings in the night like from 7-8 pm to 12 or 1 or maybe even 4 in the morning. We also have astrologists who are similar to fortune tellers who decide the date. We also have the activities and rituals and our weddings usually last from 3 to 6 days Some rich people also have weddings for 8 days!

  • @RobertaMoore-jp4yx
    @RobertaMoore-jp4yx Před 23 dny +4

    Uyen,in USA the couple and parents on both sides do guest list. 500 were invited to wedding. Many as bride I did not know many of my parents and husbands parents. We had 435 guests were actually at the wedding.

  • @LilA-zl6tf
    @LilA-zl6tf Před 21 dnem +2

    Love you guys! Have yourselves some Happy Weddings!!!! ❤❤

  • @TheRavenfish9
    @TheRavenfish9 Před 22 dny +3

    This was so fun to learn about! And you two are the cutest couple on earth. So happy for you!

  • @anabelkina
    @anabelkina Před 22 dny +2

    You guys are adorable! It's always warming my heart when I watch your videos

  • @ijlayugan4149
    @ijlayugan4149 Před 17 dny +1

    VERY informative!! Love you guysss

  • @kellysueballard7654
    @kellysueballard7654 Před 23 dny +2

    Thank you for sharing the journey with us ❤.

  • @jenleigh4212
    @jenleigh4212 Před 23 dny +3

    So excited for you both!

  • @EndlessPain132
    @EndlessPain132 Před 20 dny +1

    I cannot express to you how happy I am for the both of you! Your guys relationship is so wholesome and cute it makes me go all goey. I love how funny and informative your videos are, and how care free it is.
    I'm one of your younger audiences (teenager lol) and I look up to you both a LOT. I love your journey as a mix couple and the facts you learn along the way. Your videos always brings a smile to my face during tough times and I'll forever be grateful for that. So thank you guys ❤️

  • @jandynmarkham317
    @jandynmarkham317 Před 16 dny +2

    Ending for bug bites is the most relatable thing! Loved the video, you guys will figure out how you want your special days ❤

  • @The_Lazy_Crafter
    @The_Lazy_Crafter Před 14 dny +1

    I adore you both and this is the most wholesome video I've seen in a long time ❤ I'm engaged so love hearing about your wedding stuff. Much love ❤❤❤

  • @voyance4elle
    @voyance4elle Před 23 dny +7

    within the first seconds of the video you had me rolling on the floor 🤣🤣🤣 "with the same husband" I can't.......😂😂😂😂😂

  • @amu_meh
    @amu_meh Před 22 dny +2

    Your wedding plans are making me excited!!
    To share some ideas, in my recent Indo-French wedding in France, we gifted a pair of little jars of mustard (from the french side) and spice-mix (from the indian side) to thank the guests. Also, all the tables were named after spices because we love cooking! 🤭

  • @einzgeisha
    @einzgeisha Před 21 dnem +2

    Thank you both for sharing

  • @lindahargitai1085
    @lindahargitai1085 Před 21 dnem +2

    Oh, cant wait for the big wedding video ❤

  • @setyourspacewithsusan
    @setyourspacewithsusan Před 23 dny +1

    This is great! Thank you for sharing your journey!

  • @mackss9468
    @mackss9468 Před 16 dny +1

    I can’t wait for your weddings!

  • @MariaCaruso
    @MariaCaruso Před 4 dny

    You two are so nice! ❤ I wish you the best! Congratulations on your wedding... I really enjoy your videos

  • @carolinegreenwell9086
    @carolinegreenwell9086 Před 23 dny +1

    so exciting ... waiting for the wedding videos

  • @Pinay_Prenny
    @Pinay_Prenny Před 23 dny +3

    I'm learning so much about your culture. Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @britneyfanvideosfl
    @britneyfanvideosfl Před 17 dny +1

    Congratulations to both of you! Many blessings and happy years ahead! You have many fans from USA!❤

  • @annonimors2811
    @annonimors2811 Před 21 dnem +2

    Man I can't wait to see all your wedding photos 😍🤩

  • @bengalanimations.4734
    @bengalanimations.4734 Před 23 dny +3

    Congratulations!!!!! I wish you guys a prosperous marriage!!!

  • @winartijunita6221
    @winartijunita6221 Před 23 dny +2

    Woaahhhh Vietnamese wedding is really similar like Indonesian wedding too. So happy for both of you, sending love from Indonesia ❤❤❤

  • @FeistyShlomit
    @FeistyShlomit Před 21 dnem +1

    This was so interesting - thanks!

  • @hibiscusangel7376
    @hibiscusangel7376 Před 16 dny +1

    Congrats on 2 million !!

  • @ialrakis5173
    @ialrakis5173 Před 23 dny +5

    Nice green place to film!

  • @embrio18
    @embrio18 Před 22 dny +1

    Very interesting- thank you for the inside😊

  • @viviancandelario4766
    @viviancandelario4766 Před 22 dny +1

    Very interesting vlog guys, traditions and cultures for a very important life milestone, appreciate you sharing this!

  • @tilianngo72
    @tilianngo72 Před 22 dny +1

    Congratulations Uyen 🎊🎉

  • @lotysblossom
    @lotysblossom Před 21 dnem +1

    This sounds so fun - wedding planning for two countries! 🥰🤩🥳

  • @francismannion7075
    @francismannion7075 Před 23 dny +1

    Best wishes for a lovely wedding!