ADVICE TO SINGLE WOMEN: BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED!
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
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I'm a Nigerian Food and Lifestyle Blogger documenting bits of every other day in my life with my son, Tito and husband Bobo.
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Send me an email, I'd love to read from you sisi@sisiyemmie.com (FOR BUSINESS: business@sisiyemmie.com)
Location: Lagos, Nigeria (West Africa)
I'm a Nigerian Food and Lifestyle Blogger documenting bits of every other day in my life with my son, Tito and husband Bobo.
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I got married when I was 35. What I would tell my younger self or young girls is that all that glitters is not gold. He may be shiny like a coin but a penny is a penny and a dollar is a dollar. Also a man who wants sex before marriage and manipulates you, to trespass your principles, will most likely end up being a man who always mistreats you either emotionally, financially or spiritually or physically. This is especially true for Christian relationships.....if he has no self control before marriage he will definitely not have it after. Save yourself the heartache and years wasted in a marriage without mutual respect.....repent and dump him now. If he loves you he will wait.
Paula Oyedele great tips thanks ma🙏🏾
Thank you!!!
Amen
First Sisi Yemmie starts with "I dont know anything about marriage". Then spills so much wisdom in advicing us "singletons". 😀😀
In this marriage business my sister nobody knows it all. like we dey learn everyday. may God guide us through. you are beautiful
Lilian Ezeli, my husband just said the same thing. That shows how humble she is.......
Disclaimer oo, before people start judging her.
True comments, she is humble. Also being single is something she has experience in before marriage. And also no one can complete a person.a quote from Maya Angelou sums up SisiYemmie's wise nuggets - "A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man should have to seek Him first, to find her.' Maya Angelou
I think these days people are taking being married for granted. They see on social media all these beautiful and glamourous weddings, people smiling and posing for pictures, they seem happy so you assume that is all there is to being married. A lot of effort goes into ensuring you are marrying the right person for you so you can actually stay and enjoy being married.
If you are single and looking for the right person for you, first thing first, you have to take a good look at yourself, and ask yourself if you are mentally and psychologically ready to share your world with another person for the rest of your life.
Marriage is a long LIFE JOURNEY, not momentarily.
For the singles ladies; here are some few key points.
1. Get to know who you are first; what are your values, do you have dreams & goals, what makes you come alive, what do you want for your future, and what kind of man will fit into the life you have planned for yourself?
2. What do you look for in a man? Do you really even know? You will be surprised about how many women do not have a real answer to this question. Let’s be logical with ourselves, go for a guy who meets all of your needs and not wants. For example, it's like going to the market for grocery, you have to know what it is you are shopping for, or you will end up with unwanted junk.
3. Do not settle; a lot of women want to settle for one reason or the other. It’s either they feel as though they are getting older, or they don’t feel beautiful enough so they dont have alot of options, or because you feel you are a single mother so not a lot of men are waiting in line for a woman with kids, so then you settle and take whatever comes first to you. NO you not need to!!! No matter the circumstance you find yourself in, you too deserve to be loved unconditionally by that one special person. It all start with how you view yourself, how you carry and treat yourself. Fall in love with you first, know your worth and gain some self esteem...this alone will attract & keep the man. He will know that he doesn’t validate you but compliments you, so with or without him, you will still be the beautiful person you are inside and out.
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esohe Enofe Uhmm very true
You are so correct no 3 don't settle should be a priority. In settling you loose yourself in the relationship - I always say if you have to compromise in a relationship then you are not a match. We have only one life to live and God has given us the power to have choices so let us make the right one seeking His guidance.
👍Simple truth
90% of the promises the average man makes they cannot meet in marriage.so women you must be self sufficient before marriage.You must earn your own money to earn respect in marriage.
Even we as women. we are just human. To make things work, we should be self sufficient bearing in mind no one can make you happy except YOU
True talk
Word for the wise listen gals this is extremely important I made a huge mistake getting married when I did I'm not blaming anyboby but myself am living wit my mistake alone with two loving kids that didn't asked to be born in this hot mess ,so guys take your time no rush enjoy your singleness and work hard in developing urself.Marriage is not a child's play
@SisiYemmieTV yu look so gorg!! Please we need a tutorial on this natural beauty look and products abeg!
Please like this comment if you agree with me.
absolutely amazing video.. you look great! your earrings are fab!
I am actually married.. for about 7 months now and heres my advice from the little I know about marriage. Marry a good, kind, smart man. Be self sufficient so you can help out when the need arises (it will; and being ready with some funds will make things go a lot smoother); Find yourself (your core values and true character) and be yourself so that any man that loves you will love you for you. Be SMART when choosing a husband! your lives will be forever intertwined and dependent upon themselves so love is good but you need to be SMART when selecting.
Thanks for the advice
Beauty by Muna thanks a lot for your tips 🙏🏾 and happy married life.
Well done sisi..you have spoken well.. i have been married for 2years and i want to add that the place of God and prayer in marriage is very important. It is the will of God that His children get married to the right person and more importantly stay married so dear young ladies and gentle men, God is willing to direct your path if only you can let Him in on the matter. And of course before you go into marriage be ready to be committed to making it work and with the grace of God through prayers.. Your marriage will be heaven on earth.. God bless you.
N B Amen. Good advise thanks
you are welcome dear..
I agree with u completely Sisi but really, i feel like there's no such thing as "Luck". Just God's favour or Grace.
Marriage isn't that important in life. It's building who you are. Get a higher education, travel the world, make mistakes. Marriage is just a small part of ur life. Having experiences and making a page in your Book of Life is important.
well said Yemisi. be selfish sufficient don't be pressured into marriage. Love alone doesn't not sustain marriage. while dating don't be totally blind to things and don't let your emotions override your actual sense of reasoning. Marriage is beyond fairy tale.
Hi SisiYemmie, I’m a huge fan of yours in Canada. Accidentally came across your channel earlier this year while working late hours in the office and needing a lil distraction and I have been hooked since! Visited Nigeria with hubby and I kept hoping I get to see ya before I fly out but seeing as you are in SA, I know that’s not gonna happen. Lol. Anyway, though a mint-fresh bride with little to no experience on marriage, I’ll say the one important thing aside committing your ‘soon-to-be love story’ to God is to ensure the man you do choose is a true friend. Not a superficial or surface ‘typa’ friendship but one that truly exemplifies someone’s whose truly got your back. I believe this is crucial because when the mosquitos and butterflies in the belly disappear, that pillar of friendship will stand tall until a new breed of seasonal butter flies reappear. For all the singles, just sit back, relax and know that in God’s own time, your own will literally waltz into your life and you’ll have so much undisputed peace. All the best!!!
Nice
Good one dear ☺️
I understand what you saying but some men or woman can pretend until the end,you can ONLY know when you both start living together
Choose wisely and follow your mind not others opinion God first always. Talking with 11 year experience in marriage
Love the video! I hope you read this because I have a video suggestion. I know you do cooking as part of your content, and so I thought this video will be really helpful especially for me. You go to the market here in Nigeria and I'm sure you have had years of experience when it comes to buying foodstuff, especially when it comes to quality. I would like to request that you make a video on how to shop well in a Nigerian market e.g. some people can see yam or plantain and be like 'oh its ripe' or 'oh its rotten' or something like that. This also applies to things like ogbono, egusi, fish etc. I feel lost when it comes to things like this! Please do consider this type of video, Thank you and have fun in SA! Really hoping you see this
Before getting married to anyone pray about it, is very lmportant ,if he or she is the right one for you.Love your mindset sis yemmie keep up the Good work.
Pray and observe.
Olamiposi Olaiya very true prayers
Omo, this camera make sense kpa!
Nailed it!!!! Love the ‘small’ ‘small ‘ things brushed aside unattended. Those two examples were so good.Biggest asset!for growth and development for a woman in marriage!Self worth and Self sufficiency!!!It will put you in the position of self and strength. I have been married for 20 years. SELF!because you will know who you are!!and your MARRIAGE will not cheat you, for what you are worth, in the Peace and progress in the Blessing of the Union. I did not say husband!!You can loose yourself in marriage by either over Catering to the image you have in your head of marriage, or to your spouse, or your children or extended family, without having a marriage life balance with the best person,which is your SELF, allowing all these other relationships and priority of commitments to take over.
SELF SUFFICIENCY gives you value in your own contribution and enhances self worth. Do something that brings the best in you! Always attach a monetary value to it. So if it is to be transform into a money value, you can help yourself or your Union. Every person has a Gift or a Skill.Find yours cultivate it, let it provide room for you to be blessed by or with and be a blessing.More Blessings!!!!!!
marry your best friend
About marry an already made man,my opinion will be instead of looking for an already made man,make your self busy as a woman by improving yourself,seriously that's why women are taking for granted nowadays
Great advice Sisi Yemmie!
There is no Mr. Perfect, but he can be perfect for you.
A guy that truly loves his mom and is proud to show it,might just treat you with the same care.
The dating game can be so cruel,because what you see as the perfect side of a man,might be your nightmare tomorrow.
Pray to God that he will not change after you are married. There are great pretenders and there are genuine men,pray for that one,and don't be afraid to check for background reference for his friends and family. He should not pressuring you into things you're not ready for,or things you're not comfortable with.
May you all find your just right man.
I'm all about the video quality!
Thank you SO much for this.I'm a 34 year old,unmarried lady in Lagos and this made SENSE!
This video is very insightful. Thank you SisiYemmie :). My advice to young ladies is to remember that there is something called karma. What you sow generates what you reap. So be careful what you do, say and think because they will reflect on what comes around to you.
You look sooooo beautiful 😚😚😚😚
Nice
Sisiyemmie id like to discuss something with u privately is that possible?
Thank you so much Sisi! I feel like you're my big sister that I've not met😂
Tiwatope Ogundipe ...Tiwa is here....Hehehe
Sisi my mum told me that I should marry a man that loves me not a man I love 😔 Do u agree with her?
Thank you for the advice!! Much needed. You're looking beautiful as always
Sisi Yemmie dishing out the good points 💪💪i believe it's important you know what you wany in a man and do not compromise for less and i didn't mean money alon; it could be look, beliefs, values, romance, human relation and of course money too is important. Raising kids ain't cheap
Thank you SisiYemmie! Best advice i have gotten in a while. Love your channel
Thank you very much for the advice.
You are beautiful both inside and out (love the look)
First time commenting on ur vidoe.I really need that advise right now...GOD bless you for this vidoe😍😍
thank you so much😘😘... these words are words any parent would tell the child they love.
Congrats oh girl
70 subscribers! ✨✨👍🏽👍🏽Wow !
May the lord take your hustle to even greater heights as you fed and inspire us
May you continue to be his worthy conduit .
Thank you for such an insightful and great video
The message is very timely as I look forward to mine .
You are glowing and looks beautiful .
Enjoy South Africa 💕⭐️
Sisiyemmie...you are really wise! Loved all the points you raised...
Congratulations on 90k SisiYemmie
"Look for an action man"😅👌
Great advise Sisi!! 100k is right around the corner (am sure before 2018)! Well done
Thank you very much for this advice you, you look so sweet on this video
Thank you Sisi Yemmie for the words of wisdom. You look amazing!!!
So much sense here. I learnt a lot. You look so beautiful Sisiyemie and the lightening of this video is everything. woop woop!
You gave the best advice ever! If i could hug you, or give you a high five, all the way from U.S California i would :) Instead ill send you many blessings and best wishes. Everything you mention are things that i had to learn over time. And i'm very thankful for that. The flip side is some women are seriously pressured by others, to hurry into marriage, and have kids. The woman may settle, for what ever man promising to put a ring on it. Completely forgetting all the great advice you just gave.
I love your style, and thank you for the solid advice!
Tank you for the advice Ma'am, well received
Great advice. You are a well rounded woman . Enjoy watching you
Thank you Sisi yemmie for this topic. ... You look amazing. Pls can you do an updated makeup tutorial .....
Very very helpful Sisi! I love this conversational vid today - you dropped so many gems! And you are looking so pretty too! Enjoy your time in SA😊😚
I love this video so much I watched it twice! Thanks a bunch Sisi Yemmie, may sweet love not depart from your home.
WOW 😍😍❤️❤️I had no option than to just subscribe.This is my first time here though..Well said 💯💯..Wise words 👌👍..God bless you graciously Ijn...
You were just spitting fire throughout 👑👑
You have found your niche. As usual another masterpiece.
Thank you so much for giving sound advice and I love how you've stayed humble and I pray you'll continue to do so as God continues to lift you higher 🙏🏾
Good day @sisiyemmie. I love your makeup on this video(especially your eye lash). Pls can you can do a tutorial on it.
Pls sisiyemmie
Hands down the best advice to single women video ! Thanks for sharing sis yemi
Thank you SisiYemmie and all other married persons on this platform, for your words of wisdom.
Thanks for the advice I am very greatful for it.
u are filled with so much wisdom and u not judgemental keep it up
Thank you Dada SisiYemmie. You have put dating into perspective. Great points. Maybe you can include a series each month to help us Not Yet Married but single and dating women. Thank you. Blessings.
aunty mi this video quality chai!!! million thumbs up!! LOVE it
Thanks for the info sisi lol. Well said. definitely taking it on board 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Beautiful lady, thanks 4 this great message.
sisi Yemi you are glowing woo 😚 Loving your hair style plus make up
Well said. Really appreciated! Please talk to me about your hair do.
@SisiYemmie. Thanks alot for the update. I can feel from every point you say, And all are so important. When it come in terms of marriage all we need is prayer cos marriage is not a relationship you just walk in and out. No woman want to live a life of How I Wish I Know... May God Help Us All. One love.
Thanks sis yemmi, since i came back to Nigeria have been very busy, no free wifi and today i had the opportunity to watch, am happy. #LoveYouAndThanksForThis ❤
this might be one of my favourite videos of yours yet. Even though I rolled my eyes initially, like this marriage talk again eh. But I guess some people have to hear it enough times, or have to be told in a certain way, before it sinks in. Really intelligent tips from Sisi Yemmie, IMHO. Just to add to the potential vs mademan debate; I think (wo)men should look at their partner's traits rather than what they have at the time of the relationship. Are they hardworking? Diligent? Straightforward? Smart? etc These are mostly things that might tell you if a (wo)man would be successful or not.
Compared to a lot of advice flying about, yours is so realistic and actually helpful. Both men and women can benefit from this. So much wisdom ❤️
Ma pls can you do a video on your daily skin routine, I love your skin colour, can you list the products you use for your skin.
Thank you for these words of advice I have learnt a whole lot from it... Pls ma'am we single ladies needs more of this video...thanks
Yay!! Cheers to 90k subscribers Aunty Sisi Yemi. I can't wait for the fam to reach 100k. This video was interesting, the lighting and camera quality was also on point. Continue to soar girl, Lots of love.💜
You look sooo beautiful Sisi!!! You are glowing and pink really suits you 💕💕
Sisyemmie I can't just love you less😍😍 thanks for this beautiful message😍😍😍💜💜 looking forward to be that super great wife🙏
Sisi yemi should add relationship vlogger to the list o.Loved it. Best advice for single ladies like me.
This is great. Sisi Yemmie. Thank you ma'am.
This has never been better said!
Yayyy...we have to get 100k people. Asap. Yemmie your hair is giving me life
Fantastic advice .
You did a good job with all u said here. kudos
Yay! 90k subbies..Great job guys. Love you Sisi
want to second the advice you gave about watching a man to see how he treats people! first and foremost you must watch to see how he treats the women in his life, his subordinates, children etc.
Another really important thing is value most of us (nigerians) have similar values, however, how we prioritize them really matters! make sure your spouse prioritizes things as you do.
for example, paying tithe to you paying tithe is the first thing you do before even touching your money, but to him, it may be something he does if he has anything left in his salary you both think paying tithe is important but you both differ on how important it is.
SuppleChicTV Uhmm true thanks
Omo e no dey taya the collector oh....great video
Thanks for the advice, and you are sooo pretty😚😚
Thank you so much for this advice god bless you ..hello Tito
Really good video and advice Auntie!!!!
Totally agree with all tht u saying. Iike they always say. Date intelligently and in marriage love blindly.
Love these actors. Thanks for the video.
Wow. Sis you were so on point with almost everything! The one thing I did not agree with was the luck part. I think a man sometimes can succeed with God's grace and good circumstances.
Well said.you get sense my dear
Aww thank you sisi yemmi very inspiring words
VERY VERY GOOD ADVICE!! Dating doesn't have to lead to marriage
DIYdose your correct and also BEUTIFUL 💋❤
Thank you Sisi Yemmie. You don't know how helpful you have been, even to a married woman. You are blessed.
some marriages bring blessings out of nothing. all is the Grace of GOD
@sisi please do an equipment haul. From shooting to editing. 😘
Thanks so much for this advice
Well said Sisi👏🏽👏🏽 You look beautiful. Hair details please 😩 New subbie
Wow it's 90k sub's! Congrats!!
Love is blind. If you turn a blind eye to bad behavior in dating, you cannot now open your eyes to it in marriage or else it’s wahala. U have to keep blind. What you don’t want please object. If you want to manage, don’t change your mind after marriage o
Lol “let him break up so you can find your dream man” I like that. The earlier the better.
Great video. God continue to bless you. Took a whole lot from you and the comment section 🙏🏾😅