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Please do not make abuse a "haha funny joke",this is not something we can just get over.Thousands of people are in relationships where they're seen as a maid/cook/object and making "jokes" about them is disgusting and disturbing
She just said itâs never funny!
@@Farxadiyoguul I donât think she was saying she is making a joke about it. I think she is just reiterating what she said.
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Cleaning and cooking doesnât make a made being a wife. It makes u a queen of u =r household and itâs ur responsibility to take care of it.
I love that youre talking about this! I have 5 brothers and 2 sisters, so i guess im biased when it comes to this. Abuse is abuse no matter what. I also have a daughter and son, and they are both told the same thing in regards to how to treat people, and what treatment we accept from others. No double standards. â€
Cooking and cleaning are skills for every abled bodied adult.
Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, âVerily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.â
Source: SÌŁahÌŁiÌhÌŁ Muslim 2174
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies!
May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire
43:62, Qur'an
[So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you -
36:62, Qur'an
[For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason?
15:39 - 40, Qur'an
[For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them."
38:84 - 85, Qur'an
[So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together."....
Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, âVerily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.â
Source: SÌŁahÌŁiÌhÌŁ Muslim 2174
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies!
May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)
Your so right when you said that trends like this make us normalise what's 'trending'; it isn't always right or something that Allah (SWT) would be pleased about.
Assalamalaikum write full Allah Subhanahuwa Ta'Ala due to hurry and laziness in internet revolution, we dont pay much attention to english rules.
but atleast we should be cautious about Islamic principles.
So please write,
Allah - not allah
Qur'an - not quran
Muhammed - not muhammed
peace be upon him/sallAllaahu alaihi wa sallam - not pbuh/saws
Its not about sin and haram but about respect towards our Rabb!
I absolutely agree with you and I love that even as a woman you treat the genders equally.
Thank you for addressing this so eloquently. Domestic violence is never funny and media absolutely bombards us with desensitization of violence. I love you ninja mommy
You are right ma'am
I agree, this trend needs to stop!
Also, may Allah bless you đđœ
Perfectly explained â€
Couldn't say it better myself! There's so many men out there that are abused by their wives and sadly not many take them seriously :(
Honestly i think you missed the point of the video, which is men finding strong women attractive, the same way women would find strong men attractive. The whole 'yes i do the cooking yes i do the cleaning' meme is about being so attracted to someone that you're (jokingly) willing to do anything for them. I really don't think there was any ill intent within the video, however i agree that domestic abuse is something that can happen to anyone regardless of gender, as well as that it should be talked about more.
Facts,thank you for this beautiful message
You are absolutely right, this trend needs to stop! What a crazy world we live inđ
Men and women both are best in their own way; we all have to believe it.
In my country Bangladesh who is the name of equality women are doing injustice toward man. Such as they marry with high amount of marrital gift and some months later they get divorce and repeat telecast happen
Absolutely agree! We can be strong powerful women without making anyone 'less than'!!
YEEEESSSS ! Thank you for speaking out on this!!!
Thanks for making this video, Sidra.
Ye it does xx†may Allah bless you and your family
Don't u think itâs a joke and ppl wont take it seriously . Those who take it seriously are fools because they dont know what is a joke
I feel as if through jokes things are normalized in society
Enough exposure of these jokes and people start thinking different
I absolutely agree with you!!You say what's in my mind with clearcut statements
Celebrating women empowerment without putting men down...Fantastic and perfect statement sidrađđ»
And also I like your hijab niqab and eyes matching all greenđđ..it's beautifulđđ
I donât have tik tok or most other apps for that matter for these reasons. Yes, itâs not all bad, Ik some ppl will say, but the things that are bad are enough for me to not indulge at all. So thanks for shining light on this. I saw one clip of this on a reel but I didnât know itâs become a whole trend!
EXACTLY my thoughts. You are spot on.
Ninja mommy, im proud of you for always sticking to the rightâ€ïž
May Allah bless u and your family â€ïžâ€ïžâ€ïž
Thank you for talking on this manner! Definitely needed to be addressed.
I have to disagree. There's a huge difference between using the whole "I'm scared of my spouse" joke for a women vs for a man. Men say this all the time and it's not something even they themselves take seriously. they simply mean that they don't want to deal with the tantrums their wives are gonna throw. But a woman saying they are scared of their husbands is a whole different thing. So yes, I don't see anything wrong in using the domestic abuse joke for men.
No, it's never ok to make domestic violence jokes.
I agree with you. It was never a joke about domestic violence in the first place. Stop using the word "problematic" it's. A. Joke.
Jokes are used to make light of dark things anyway smh
I agree with you, we can empower one group of people eithout putting the outher down. And this isn't just about men and women, the same can be said about ethnicity/nationality, religion, interests, careers, etc.
Ur the 1st woman to speak up about this and how men are affected now and seem sincere. this is serious. And its not ok. Men and women both experience dv and youre right. We can celebrate a strong woman without stepping on and trying to belittle our male counterparts. God bless you Sidra. â€
Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, âVerily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.â
Source: SÌŁahÌŁiÌhÌŁ Muslim 2174
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies!
May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us).... Satan Said, "I will Surely Mislead them All," and so God Said, "I will Surely Fill Hell with you, O Iblees, and those of them that Follow you All Together"So Indeed Satan is an Enemy to you, so Take him as an Enemy, he Only Invites you to be with him in the Blaze of Hellfire
43:62, Qur'an
[So] never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is a clear enemy to you -
36:62, Qur'an
[For] he had already led astray much of creation from among you, so did you not use reason?
15:39 - 40, Qur'an
[For Iblees] said, "My Lord, because You have made me err, I will surely make [disobedience] attractive to them on earth, and I will mislead them all, except Your chosen servants among them."
38:84 - 85, Qur'an
[So God] said, "The truth [is My oath], and the truth I say - [that] I will surely fill Hell with you and those of them that follow you all together."....
Hadith on Satan: Devil runs through people like blood
Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, âVerily, Satan flows through the human being like the flowing of blood.â
Source: SÌŁahÌŁiÌhÌŁ Muslim 2174
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
Shaytaan lives inside humans! All humans have shaytaan living inside their bodies!
May Allah protect us from the accursed shaytaan and guide us to the right path ameen (WE MUST SAY! please say this because the shaytaan cant harm us)
Yes please bring more light towards such video's and subjects!
I love your Chanel thank you
Hi ninja mommy congratulations for your first baby boy I knew it will be an boy đmay Allah bless you all and the little babyđ
I am a tad confused?? I thought men could clean and cook in the household in Islam , so I don't understand why this trend is bad?? I thought it was a nice trend đđ
They can cook and clean
This trend is showing that when they marry strong women who can punch like the women did in the video, the men who marry them better be doing the dishes and cleaning or else they gonna get punched too
@@NinjaMommy ohhh! I get it! Oh yeah that's not good D:
@@NinjaMommy i feel like the video is more about the man being attracted to the strong woman and would do anything for her? I see the same kind of clip in all different communities
@@masey423 does a woman have to punch something to be considered strong? I actually strongly disagree with that. Some of the truest strength Iâve seen comes from within by letting go of ego, having patience and showing gentleness. I am âstrongâ but I donât show it with my muscles, stern face or aggression-no thank you. Thatâs not me- it might be you and thatâs okay-but itâs not me, and shouldnât be for everyone regardless of gender. Iâm not a gorilla beating my hands against my chest- Iâm a human being and I appreciate all the different ways to be strong without wearing gender stereotypes to prove I am strong enough. đ€·ââïž
thank youuu đđđđ ameen to this
Out of breath pregnancy is definitely there may Allah make easy for you. Letâs just empower women without taking away from the men we love.
THANK U SO MUCH FOR SAYING THISSSSSâ€â€â€â€â€đđâ€đđâ€
You are so right sister
I agree with youđ
Yeah, I agree
I love you, you're so open minded and amzaingđ€đ»đâ€
Oh wow, I thought you were going somewhere else with this, I did not expect the DV aspect. Sister, you are right!
I don't think man abusing women and women abusing man are the same but i get that having it to watch over and over again might affect the future.
I thought it was funny becuase âhaha he helps around the house nowâ for some reason the domestic abuse part completely slipped my mind when seeing those posts.
THANK YOU. Do not normalize violence. Do not make violence comedic. It's not "just a joke." It isn't "flipping the narrative," retributive "justice" for women who get beaten and abused. Thanks, no, you're not giving me justice. There's no retribution here. If you want equality, you need to start putting equally capable adults up for the same charges.
Yes, I am already fully aware that IF women get put up for charges, they get heavier sentences than (white) men. That's IF. I have met a few people who *openly* hit men, intentionally get them drunk to abuse them, etc. and... they get away with it. Have for years. Almost every single guy I know has a CSA story that takes them years to even mention. Women* are "allowed" to be victims. Men aren't. Just because we have stats for one doesn't mean that's the full picture. That's just the picture made by certain people being allowed to paint in the details.
Thanks you for speaking on this, it's getting out of hand really
Hello I have a question. I have been trying to convert to Islam for a while and I tried praying but Iâm unsure how to solve this issue. I am still a minor so I eat what my parents buy me and they but haram foods. Since I eat those haram foods I feel very guilty but I feel if I donât it would be wasteful of my parents money.
Start working & purchase your own food or wait til you're an adult & do as you please.
I do agree with what you say. I sadly grew up in a place where DV was common, and saw the double standard a lot there. It's not funny. if you want to do women empowerment, there are better ways to do instead of this
I guess I didn't find either clip very funny. What's abnormal about either a woman who can hit an inanimate object or a guy who knows how to do basic chores?
I agree. It is that deep.
Assalamualaikum didi...
Hey!!
I am in total agreement with you, Sidra. Well stated.
Well put! Society is trying to normalize this and the best way to do that is by social media.
I agree 100%
exactly !! to uplift someone there is no need to put someone else down great said
1:56 Bingo! I detest it when people make insensitive comments about important issues, and then when called out on it, claim it was âa jokeâ. Joking about this type of violence is like "joking" about rape. As Shakespeare said, âIn jest, there is truth.â
I agree đŻ
Nice videoâ€
Domestic violence is WRONG, no matter if itâs toward a man or woman!
So many people joke about it. Its sad.
somtimes us women have to fight unfortunately or we won't survive. my parents loved and supported each other n my mother was an awesome woman of the house who taught me how to be a good wife, cook and clean with a smile n pure heart. The problem arises when you do all that and is never enough and your man is still violent physically and/or mentally.... or you have no man to protect you or a man unwilling to protect you. The world is a violent place. I have had to learn to fight but I'd rather not have to. when you have no family and no man to protect you so you can truly be a woman... you're not left with many choices. i do not believe any human being should be put down no matter who they are, where they're from or what they believe.... but people in the world today are horrible to each other and get worse with each passing day. i don't have much hope for humanity
Jazzak Allah khair
You have a wonderful point and I didnât even think of thisâŠand I am a domestic violence survivor! We need to empower and uplift each other.
I love you
Assalamualaikum sister. I hope you are doing well. English is not my native language. So please pardon my English đ I know that you are originally form Pakistan. I follow your videos in youtube. And I must say I learnt many things from your video. I have a question for you. I want to know do you ever face any vilonce bacause of your nikab and hijab. How do the people in the western country react towards your hijab and nikab. I want to persue my higer study in Canada. As a muslim woman I want to maintan my hijab there. So I just want to know your experience. And also do you recommend anyone to settle in a western country? I just want to know the overall situation. Thank you â€
I love this woman she speaks so much truth may Allah bless her
Couldn't have said it better, facts
I agree
Wow i didnt even think about it like this. I thought those videos were really funny at least i laughed about it and i didnt take it like some kind of bad women empowerment in general. But those thoughts from you give a good perspective to that and show how fast we can take a joke without listening to the deeper level!
May Allah SWT bless you and your family
Thanks for pointing this out, but another thing that should be pointed out is that we shouldn't make it to where men and women are competing with each other or for women to be more masculine and men to be more feminine, rather there needs to be boundaries and show that there's nothing wrong or oppressive or backwards for following the gender roles given to us by Allah
Walaikum asalam im aara and im 11 years old may allah make u happy and giv you the best life ever like to enjoy life and u go to jannah in sha allah
understandable
I completely agree with you I donât think domestic abuse is funny no matter what the gender is.
Mashallah ninja mommy
I totally agree. There is zero requirement for lowering one to elevate the other. Women and men are abused in all kinds of ways. It isnât one or the er. Discussion with solutions.
This is troubling
Sunan Abi Dawud 2146 Grade Sahih
Iyas ibn Abdullah ibn Abu Dhubab reported the Messenger of Allah (ï·ș) as saying:
Do not beat Allah's handmaidens, but when Umar came to the Messenger of Allah (ï·ș) and said: Women have become emboldened towards their husbands, he (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them.
It is always good for women to learn self defense. Iâm a woman who practiced Jeet Kun Do for 23 years and Shaolin Kung Fu for only 3 years. But that should also help her become a better person and learn respect and self control. That is no excuse to treat men with disrespect or to reverse roles. And nowadays we see so many westernized women now acting like the worst of men. Theyâre not even trying to emulate the best of men. Itâs like they want to be as toxic as the few most toxic bad men. Iâm not going to lie though. If someone attacked my husband, if I had one, I would defend and protect him. Sorry, but i stand up for those I love. I canât help that. I would hope he would do that for me. But Iâm against acting like a violent person. I used to kickbox against men and win many fights back when I was younger. But I respected my opponents and it was a sport. Now Iâm against this, but even back then I treated folks with respect. This gender confusion stuff is destroying civilization. And itâs sad.
This "trend" needs to stop...
Hiii
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Totally unrelated but Iâm seeking advice on practicing the niqab. I am a revert, I live in a secular country, unmarried and I support my self. Iâm considering filling out a religious accommodation request form but i fear they will give me push back due to âsafety and securityâ reasons and I donât know how to refute that even with covid and histories of strict masking policy in mind. I had worked side by side with a coworker of mine for two years straight with out ever seeing her face because of the mask policy. I also feel like I have enough unique identifiers and tying in the fact Iâm the only presenting Muslim in my company I donât see why they should say no. Theyâll know itâs me lol InshaâAllah Allah will make it easier for me and to his accord.
where r u frm?
Hi Ninja Mommy (and fellow muslimas and muslims, this question is for you too)
What would you do if in the future one of your kids wants to date in the Westerner way?
I saw these types of videos, and I commented on them making a point similar to yours, but the "feminists" came at me with some hate. đ
I feel like feminism shouldn't be about 'women>men' it really should be about; although men and women are different their value is equal.
I feel like because generations of sexist behavior and abuse towards women; people feel like it's okay to do the same to men as a way to makeup for the trauma in past generations. However, the trauma doesn't excuse the mistreatment of males (who did nothing).
THIS!! đđœđđœđđœđđœ
You are absolutely right, it's not joke at all. Muhammad sallalohu alayhi vassallam didn't do that.
No youâre calling it out. Social accountability is just as important as actual genuine good jokes that harm neither sexes.
Hey Ninja Mommy,
I have few questions for you.
I have never disrespected a muslim or treated a muslim differently because of their religion. I have defended them against discrimination too. My view is as long as youâre nice to me, I am nice to you too, even if I donât like your religion.
Thereâre certain things in the Quran that worries me though.
Like do you want to be the majority in non muslim countries and turn them into Sharia countries? Is there such an agenda by any muslim preachers?
Will you kill us for not being muslim if such a future happens? Quran says that pagan and idol worshippers can be killed or taxed heavily if they donât accept islam. Why is that?
Will you guys punish us for wearing whatever we want, even if thatâs a bikini on beach?đ
Iâve seen some videos were muslims in countries like America or UK, protesting against their ways and calling white women âexposedâ and âtrying to seduceâ and that they will burn in hell.
All this worries me. I genuinely donât want to hate muslims but I hope you guys donât hate us for not believing in islam either.
Hi! I will try answering those questions!!
1) Islam usually has the notion of the importance of spreading faith. However I disagree with how some Muslims in foreign countries try to FORCE sharia laws on others; it is not their own country, and many people aren't as conservative as them and have different religions. Asking a foreign country to change their laws to shaira laws is highly unrealistic.
2) Killing innocent non-muslims is HARAM. and I think the ayah you are talking abt is the one relating to killing the pagans of Mecca, but that was during a time of war after the mecca pagans violated a treaty between them and the prophet PBUH. And that was only between Muslims and the pagans who had the intent to fight and kill (anyone who was innocent SHOULDN'T be killed or mistreated, it only applied to those who violated the peace)
and for taxes (jizyah), it doesn't happen anymore since it is also war related đđ No non-muslims in muslim countries are forced to pay it nowadays. It was only during islamic conquests, and is only mandatory for adult, sane and free adults (it you were a woman, kid, old, insane, or poor without a job, you do not need to pay it)
3) ehh this depends on the country. Some ppl in arab countries won't bat an eye if you were wearing a bikini in a beach if they saw you were foreign, but tbh you might be faced with some conservatives (very rare ig). In my country, many arab muslim gals and women wear bikinis in the beach and it is normalized (but may God guide them).
As to wearing anything in public, again it depends on the country. But as long as it doesn't show so much skin then it is fine.
And bro we don't hate any of yall đđ it is just sometimes the extremists, and they make me rlly sad as they are slandering the image of our religion
Hope I helped!! :]
hello!! as the commenter said above, all that they stated is 100% correct :D please don't think us muslims hate you guys, we appreciate you!! it's just those extremists that'll hate on you guys.
@@fuk0se Thank you so much for your kind reply. Thank you for clarifying things for me. I am a non muslim but my sister is named Ayesha because my father used to read Quran. In my home, we are taught to respect all religions and I love you guys. A lot of my concerns are cleared and I thank you again âșïž
@@adamjames1237 understood. We love and appreciate you guys. Thank you â€
Could you make a video with your opinion about Muslim men being able to marry either a Muslim woman or another woman from the book (Christian or Jew), but Muslim women having to marry a Muslim man, and if they wanted to marry each other, the men would definitely have to convert?
I would also like to know your opinion about Muslim men going on social media and se#$%lly harrasing women, asking for +18 material as long as the woman is not Muslim?
Yea I donât think you should be scared of your partner you should both do cleaning and punch the bag if you want but donât punch eachotherđ€
These comments give me hope. Thanks.
Chill, it's a joke. Didn't like it? Just skip it as simple as that
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Wa Alaikum assalam
We do not need to build one up by tearing the other
May Allah protect us sister
Ameen
It's serious because it makes male victims less likely to feel comfortable reaching out about their abuse, less likely to be taken seriously, and less likely to even recognize they're being abused. Yes, it's more likely to happen to women and yes, women still have to deal with a similar problem with the "What was she wearing" excuse. But the solution to those problems is to work to raise women up, not to joke about abusing men.
The reason why this seems offensive is because women's duties are always downgraded while men's duties are always upheld, the let it seems as if doing the duties of a woman is being a maid/servant, like, you never hear a man saying, "My housewife need to go get a job after this!", because if they do, they will be the one that is been downgraded, people will call him a sissy and belittling names while a woman will be uplifted on her part for doing the role of a man, women will often feel disrespected/downgraded for a man to say "Your role is to cook and clean" because the media let it seems as if being a housewife is a slave job. But in the end, both genders will feel offended at one point, not because of the role of a man, but because of the role of a woman, people need to stop downgrading women's roles, including these "women" themselves since they do not know that's what they are doing.
I personally believe both can be funny but it really depends on your intention of saying these things, not that you should since other people will have a different view, making the outcome negative.
I support menâs rights activists and I completely agree with you
I think you hit the nail on the head
No I donât think u are taking to deep I agree
Double standards aggravate me insane, my greatest pet peeve đĄ completely see your point
This video's quality is not good its blur sindra
Thank you Sidra for making a stand against domestic violence. It's NEVER okay. And yes, it happens to men too. And it's not funny.
I heard of a man who was suffering domestic violence from his wife. He couldn't take it any more, but when he went to the police for help, they laughed at him.
Domestic violence and abuse is never okay. Not against women, not against men, not against children. EVER.
This video has nothing to do with domestic abuse. Showing a stong woman & a domestic "househusband" DO NOT EQUATE to domestic abuse.