How To Leave A Toxic Relationship?

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  • @mileyroe4877
    @mileyroe4877 Před rokem +85

    Sometimes when it's too hard to leave, God allows an offence to happen so that you can take your exit.

  • @MarthaHenry1
    @MarthaHenry1 Před rokem +142

    Done! My husband informed me he wanted to date, so we divorced after being married for 38 years. It is not easy to let go, but it can be done with God's Grace and Mercy. I am proof of that! My life is precious to me and I don't have any more time to waste with someone who did not love me...

    • @dct1238
      @dct1238 Před rokem +13

      Wow, I'm sorry 😞

    • @MarthaHenry1
      @MarthaHenry1 Před rokem +28

      @@dct1238 Thank you, life happens to us all. I feel I have turned the corner, I have recovered my joy again...

    • @jonesfamily4465
      @jonesfamily4465 Před rokem +6

      🙏🏾😔 your in my prayers God bless you ❤

    • @MarthaHenry1
      @MarthaHenry1 Před rokem +6

      @@jonesfamily4465 Thank you for your prayers. I pray for all families every night. God is so faithful!

    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Před rokem +6

      Praying for you as I know heartbreak is one of the hardest things we endure. You're so strong & inspiring. Good Bless you! 🙏🏽♥️

  • @jacquelinewilliams6572
    @jacquelinewilliams6572 Před rokem +136

    Tony coached me out of a toxic relationship 3 years ago. The best decision I ever made. Peace and contentment is priceless! I made it!

    • @missangel412
      @missangel412 Před rokem +3

      AMEN💛

    • @mathembibhengu9751
      @mathembibhengu9751 Před rokem +4

      I am trapped and I cannot wait to get out physically. I am out already emotionally and mentally.

  • @allainsasha
    @allainsasha Před rokem +60

    Tony thank you for doing this work… my brother was in a toxic relationship for 12 years… he faced homelessness, lost his job, lost custody of his six kids and had a stroke… the day he went back to his ex after no contact he had a heart attack and was placed on life support and died shorty after… he refused to leave this relationship and it cost him his life his sanity and quality of life…. Toxic people will destroy you from the inside out and those around you have to watch as their loved one becomes a shell of a person… please leave and never go back it will cost you everything ‼️‼️‼️‼️

  • @Faithyfaithyy
    @Faithyfaithyy Před rokem +77

    I was dating a narcissist who never took any responsibility or accountability for his behaviour!!! I tried and tried to help but you cannot help someone who doesn't see they are the problem. I finally walked away and for good after 5 months. Thank you Lord for giving me the strength to get up and leave. I knew in my spirit something wasn't right. I now have peace and I love it

    • @bunkeepitmovingjoseph
      @bunkeepitmovingjoseph Před rokem

      Well Done you for keeping it pushing👏🏾👏🏾

    • @pinkypinky2045
      @pinkypinky2045 Před rokem +1

      Did he hack your phone, delete your messages, and or turn ANYBODY he can against you? How did you get away from that? My toxic husband is divorcing me, and treating me like a freaking hostage. He'll probably contact Tony Gaskins. This comment will probably be deleted too. Sigh I'm just over it. Any tips for cutting ties when they go this far?

    • @RRthee1
      @RRthee1 Před rokem

      @@pinkypinky2045 Geesh, you had your phone hacked, too?! 😢 He got me good with that. Deleted the last 3 years of my pics, which held a lot of significant memories of deceased loved ones.

  • @joannahulitt3161
    @joannahulitt3161 Před rokem +24

    Tony I made it. After losing my sweet newborn son. After my five year old and I were basically left for dead!! I have made it!!! God is faithful I am grateful. I didn’t need a toxic relationship

  • @mamamartin8191
    @mamamartin8191 Před rokem +48

    This had me in tears. I left two months ago my exit plan didn’t go as planned. But I was able to leave. This has been very hard! I need prayer please! He blames me for his cheating. He says I want to be with another man! He will not take accountability! I almost went back because i was scared of being alone. Im still in my apt. But im trying to put me first!

    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Před rokem +7

      🙏🏽 Stay strong Sis I know n it's not easy but you can do this, just focus on you. Try to get out with friends & family so that you won't feel alone & end up entertaining letting him back in. Praying for you.

    • @kendrawilliams5703
      @kendrawilliams5703 Před rokem +1

      God bless you ❤️

    • @Legacychaser_777
      @Legacychaser_777 Před rokem +7

      Stay strong sis! Nothing is your fault, each adult is responsible for themselves & their actions! It's a manipulation mechanism. It isn't easy but you will be better when healed & whole.

    • @pamelabledsoe2635
      @pamelabledsoe2635 Před rokem +3

      Please don’t leave your place
      Praying 🙏 for you
      You give me courage

  • @maryburch656
    @maryburch656 Před rokem +13

    I was in. A. Toxic relationship for 22. Years in. March of 2020 I used my taxes. To move and start a new. Life we had there kids he was verbally emotionally financially and sometimes physically abusive I plan to become a life coach and I'm writing a book I was with him from 18 to 41 yo if I can leave anyone can leave

  • @bonitahopkins2958
    @bonitahopkins2958 Před rokem +11

    Don't look back is major, and it's the key to real freedom 💯

  • @mmxw2294
    @mmxw2294 Před rokem +7

    I know this word is thrown around a lot today but I was with a malignant narcissist for 5 years off and on and Tony Gaskins and RC Blakes where the two CZcamsrs I went to daily in 2018 along with God and getting therapy then I finally left on 10/2019 he is for sure doing God work. That men told me to my face that he was trying to break me down to control me but that I was to strong Amen. Please take care of yourself mentally emotionally spiritually physically and financially you deserve a good life be blessed

  • @DayaTom
    @DayaTom Před rokem +13

    Annnd don't tell them or anyone in their circle that you're leaving!
    They're the most dangerous when you are leaving.
    God be with you!

    • @Faithyfaithyy
      @Faithyfaithyy Před rokem +3

      Yep very dangerous, mine tried to strangle me and then spat in my face, he punched the wall and hurt his hand, then he tried getting to me and stomped his toes. I said that's God punishing you. When I got in my car to leave, he put his middle finger up at me. I blocked him and never spoke to him

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 Před rokem +2

      Yes ma am.....U will come home and I will b gone 🏃 ...without a trace ✌

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 Před rokem

      ​@@Faithyfaithyy Dang....good u got out alive 😵

    • @DayaTom
      @DayaTom Před rokem +2

      @@Faithyfaithyy Thank GOD you managed to get out safe!!!
      I had to master the strength to punch mine in the stomach to get free from his grasp as I was up against the bathroom wall. These men need saving! Thank God for every free sister and brother out there!

  • @brookebenton8192
    @brookebenton8192 Před rokem +8

    I've left some very toxic and abusive relationships. It's like ripping off a band aid, you just have to do it. Or it can be like quitting something "cold turkey." Your mind and body can be addicted to this person and addicted to the emotions or the sex, but you have to just do it. The toxicity is addictive in it's own way and can make you feel like you're going through real withdrawals. Just make sure you have a safe place to go and get away!! Go no contact if you can. Especially in the beginning, because they will try to suck you back in if they get a chance to talk to you.

  • @devanteaboyd
    @devanteaboyd Před rokem +24

    Tony I made it! I've experienced being in several of these relationships. I'm blessed to say that I've made it out of these situations. Great video Tony, well needed!

  • @christineporter9914
    @christineporter9914 Před rokem +39

    Boy, this was so on time message I just was talking with my brother on a toxic relationship he's in and sharing with him Bro Tony teaching. He finally has left his toxic girlfriend tonight. Blessings , I made it 🙏🏾♥️

    • @Godsgiftministry8111
      @Godsgiftministry8111 Před rokem +2

      Thank God he made it out Amen

    • @christineporter9914
      @christineporter9914 Před rokem +1

      @@Godsgiftministry8111 yes he did Sis my brother just had open heart surgery 3 months ago and she have done nothing but dog him out.

    • @Godsgiftministry8111
      @Godsgiftministry8111 Před rokem

      @@christineporter9914 😮 wow

    • @christineporter9914
      @christineporter9914 Před rokem

      @@Godsgiftministry8111 I've been trying to talk to my brother for the past months to get him into listening to Bro Tony teaching. But you know how some men are they feel like another man can't tell them nothing but this time I believe what broke the camel's back is when he had this triple bypass heart surgery 3 months ago, all his girlfriend did when he got out the hospital was verbal and physical abuse him and he was the financial provider in the relationship because she wasn't working with 8 kids none of the kids not his but took her in to live but this time she threw a table at his chest knowing he still healing from a major surgery. I could tell a book on that toxic relationship. Am just glad he finally made a decision to leave.

  • @lizzylewis5793
    @lizzylewis5793 Před rokem +8

    Good morning Mr. Gaskins, I just wanted to say Thank you so much for saving my life with the information you have been teaching for all these years. I started listening to you in 2018 and my life has never been the same! I believe God has transformed your life to help millions of women and I cannot thank you enough. Your generosity and the insight you share with the world will never be forgotton and I pray you go on to live a prosperous wealthy, healthy life for you and your family. Keep fighting the good fight of Faith, Many Blessings to you and God speed!!!

  • @Vixinaful
    @Vixinaful Před rokem +4

    You explain this EXTREMELY well, Mister! Its just like you say; little mean comments day by day that break you down until you've lost your whole personality.

  • @ZzDippedInButter
    @ZzDippedInButter Před rokem +16

    Wheww tony! This literally came right on time. Today My ex Bf stole my car that I bought & paid off and I let him take a loan out on bc he needed money to get legal help. He started doing the most after I decided to finally leave after enduring all of the types of abuse for 3 yrs. Im happy I’m finally done 🙏🏾

    • @Actavella
      @Actavella Před rokem +2

      I hope you got your car back!!! And had him arrested!

    • @ZzDippedInButter
      @ZzDippedInButter Před rokem +2

      @@Actavella i did not but I have an RO in place smh

    • @Actavella
      @Actavella Před rokem

      @@ZzDippedInButter oh good! Thank God!

  • @BlessedEnergy_
    @BlessedEnergy_ Před rokem +8

    So glad that because Tony is my teacher I'm deliverd from chaos...it feels beautiful and peaceful ✌️ 😌 ☺️

    • @MarthaHenry1
      @MarthaHenry1 Před rokem +2

      Yes, I feel the same way about Tony. Someone once said, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear..." I am happy for your peace, keep moving forward...

  • @elizabethsakyi1531
    @elizabethsakyi1531 Před rokem +3

    Tony I made it ! thank you for diligently sacrificing your time to share your wisdom with the world

  • @LIVH_Olivia
    @LIVH_Olivia Před rokem +6

    ‘Gotta Go! 101’ Yes brother Tony!🏃🏽‍♀️💨

  • @deenikki4670
    @deenikki4670 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it.. I always watch the whole video.. These videos are truly a blessing..

  • @qscott888
    @qscott888 Před rokem +6

    Hey hey. Prepping for the call tonight. Excited. 🙌🏽

  • @debm1902
    @debm1902 Před rokem +3

    Tony, I'm a couple of days late, but I made it. Very informative video as usual. In my opinion, this applies to the frienemies as well. Blessings to you 🙏🏾.

  • @mikeshaburns3162
    @mikeshaburns3162 Před rokem +4

    Tony I made it! I appreciate all that God does through you 🙏🏿

  • @ashlyboone6408
    @ashlyboone6408 Před rokem +3

    Just got out of one a year ago. I'm still healing but I'm happy and loving me again.

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 Před rokem +1

      👏Good 4 u........sometimes they will kill u 😳

  • @cuniqueness
    @cuniqueness Před rokem +1

    Agreed
    Key way of being is positive & intentional.

  • @Creolinha555
    @Creolinha555 Před rokem +4

    Listening from Cape Verde Islands 😊

  • @niki-mars955
    @niki-mars955 Před rokem +1

    This is great advice! I pray this will help someone and they'll take action.

  • @missangel412
    @missangel412 Před rokem +3

    Someone needed to hear this !! 💛

  • @JennyGaston
    @JennyGaston Před rokem +4

    Another great video as always. ❤️Another term for side stepping is stonewalling. I have found that if you are co-parenting with a toxic individual, parallel parenting works well. Keep the videos coming 👏🏾

  • @sagresham94
    @sagresham94 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you, needed this

  • @Konkretelotus
    @Konkretelotus Před rokem +4

    Thank you for these set of tools. Tony!!! Looking forward to counseling sessions with you or someone within the network. Peace and blessings

  • @jreyr89
    @jreyr89 Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it. Thank you.

  • @alishyiabrown7313
    @alishyiabrown7313 Před rokem +1

    I made it, thank you, Tony, sending light and love 🕯❤️🙏🏼

  • @MeetMeOnTheMoon
    @MeetMeOnTheMoon Před rokem +7

    I wish I didn’t have to speak to my sons father ever again. I hate him.

    • @thatboyruut2169
      @thatboyruut2169 Před rokem

      What happened? That made you feel that way

    • @la6136
      @la6136 Před rokem

      @@thatboyruut2169 Probably selfish immature and narcissistic like the majority of these men are

    • @beefaye6861
      @beefaye6861 Před rokem +2

      Use a middle man to communicate with him.....he ain't worth hating.....

  • @niki-mars955
    @niki-mars955 Před rokem

    Thank you for your service, Tony and family. I've just signed up for the Growth Group after much procrastination. That's why I think I need some coaching. Looking forward! 🥳💪🏾

  • @joniquetionne
    @joniquetionne Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it!!! Be blessed everyone!

  • @cocolu32
    @cocolu32 Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it.

  • @talltangorgeous4287
    @talltangorgeous4287 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it and I’m so appreciative 🎉🎉🎉

  • @BlancaRosa79
    @BlancaRosa79 Před rokem +1

    February is a big month. My mom
    Bday is Feb 17, and parent anniversary Feb 25 and valentine on top of it 😊

  • @NicNameIsNicki
    @NicNameIsNicki Před rokem +2

    I made it (so glad I did)🙌

  • @heidycruz2196
    @heidycruz2196 Před rokem +7

    I was in an extremely toxic relationship the person was extremely toxic an some how some way always comes back! We have two babies 15 months an 4 months! He left us without a dime an I have no clue how I will pay the rent! This all actually just happened today. I’m exhausted of this vicious cycle how can I put a definite end to this since we have children together which obviously he doesn’t care for either. The verbal abuse sucked the life out of me, I could write a book 📖 on here about this situation but really I just need guidance an immense amount of prayer! Any advice also would be appreciated! God bless you all an thank you brother @tonygaskjns for your content.

  • @LaurenRosetta00
    @LaurenRosetta00 Před rokem +1

    Tony I made it!

  • @kessphotography8606
    @kessphotography8606 Před rokem +2

    I made it! And Happy early birthday to your son! He shares the same birthday as my youngest & my husband, March 6. Happy early birthday to you as well and happy early anniversary also. 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

  • @TheGoodLifeStarterPack
    @TheGoodLifeStarterPack Před rokem +3

    Tony, I made it. 🙌🏽

  • @eringay8965
    @eringay8965 Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it!

  • @lsct5371
    @lsct5371 Před rokem +1

    Tony, I made it! Thank you.

  • @Soul.Is.Willing
    @Soul.Is.Willing Před rokem +3

    I left a 19 year toxic relationship and 1 year later still sad. So this begs the question which type of sadness do I want? Him or loneliness? I've been thinking to go back to him. Maybe we can figure something out.

    • @Actavella
      @Actavella Před rokem +6

      You need more time to heal! Seek Jesus, get therapy! Pray!

    • @Soul.Is.Willing
      @Soul.Is.Willing Před rokem +2

      @@Actavella thank you

    • @hymnodyhands
      @hymnodyhands Před rokem +4

      You are a Christ follower... turn to Him and ask Him to help you deal with the loneliness. If you followed Christ OUT of 19 years of a mess, don't turn FROM Him by going back to the mess!

  • @KhaliahAli
    @KhaliahAli Před rokem +2

    Thank you for allowing the Lord to use you brother! Tony, I made it! 🫶🏽🙏🏽

  • @Blessed0480
    @Blessed0480 Před rokem

    Thank you for this very informative video❣️

  • @liviaserrano7856
    @liviaserrano7856 Před rokem +1

    Tony I made it! Thank you for the gem coaching! 💕

  • @trieciadenise
    @trieciadenise Před rokem +1

    Tony, I made it!!! Just love your advice so much! Thank you!

  • @BlancaRosa79
    @BlancaRosa79 Před rokem +1

    I jumped on it was great 🎉

  • @legacybuilders5557
    @legacybuilders5557 Před rokem +1

    Tony I made it🙂 Thanks for all you do!

  • @lisabowman877
    @lisabowman877 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it.

  • @fayesmith4751
    @fayesmith4751 Před rokem +1

    Tony, I made it thank you for this!

  • @healedwholeandhealthy
    @healedwholeandhealthy Před rokem +1

    Tony, I made it!!! Awesome video. Thank you!!!

  • @brokenbuthealed
    @brokenbuthealed Před rokem +1

    Tony I made it! God bless you n family!!!

  • @ambermobetta6885
    @ambermobetta6885 Před rokem

    Tony I MADE IT‼️🙌🏾

  • @devgamerxlminecraft7171

    Tony , I made it. God bless.

  • @iamtavonda
    @iamtavonda Před rokem +3

    Tony, I made it

  • @mdclkc911
    @mdclkc911 Před rokem +1

    House of Ruth is in connection with this place where you can send your mail one place but really have another place of address. I can’t remember the place but they can tell them that information.

  • @Godsgiftministry8111
    @Godsgiftministry8111 Před rokem +1

    It's amazing your speaking on this I was just telling my loved ones that it's not worth it and we just loss a loved one due to domestic violence a man and the female walked so heartbroken right now

    • @bunkeepitmovingjoseph
      @bunkeepitmovingjoseph Před rokem +1

      Condolences for your loss🕊🩵 that's tough.

    • @Godsgiftministry8111
      @Godsgiftministry8111 Před rokem +1

      @@bunkeepitmovingjoseph yes it is thank you this is one of the main reasons I chose to be a single parent to my children until God says otherwise

  • @MJ-wz6jo
    @MJ-wz6jo Před 4 měsíci

    Im older getting close to 60 . No job no car no support at all no income of my own. Any advice.

  • @caseyj5597
    @caseyj5597 Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it! 🔥💃

  • @tiffineyena7001
    @tiffineyena7001 Před rokem +1

    Hey Pastor Tony. I made it.

  • @katarinakarakas7800
    @katarinakarakas7800 Před rokem +1

    Tony I made it! 🥳🎉

  • @TheTasmania47
    @TheTasmania47 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it

  • @lolab8786
    @lolab8786 Před 11 měsíci

    I need help leaving my toxic relationship

  • @jenninemorel7693
    @jenninemorel7693 Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it🙏

  • @Zazajohnson1015
    @Zazajohnson1015 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it!!!

  • @runningwithscissors1564
    @runningwithscissors1564 Před rokem +1

    He left me for dead one too many times. I’m doing my own thing; he just jumped into a new relationship after choosing yet again to not take any sort of accountability for the things he does. Typical narcissist. 35+ years of dating around and having no relationship last past the 2 year mark. Nothing is ever his fault.

  • @cindthorpe
    @cindthorpe Před rokem

    Tony I made it!🙏🏾

  • @jaamaiicanQueen14
    @jaamaiicanQueen14 Před rokem

    TONY I MADE IT!

  • @maryburch656
    @maryburch656 Před rokem +1

    Tony I. Made it

  • @traceybunche4927
    @traceybunche4927 Před rokem +1

    I made it to the end

  • @shannonmonaallathat
    @shannonmonaallathat Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it🙂💯

  • @swim10
    @swim10 Před 5 měsíci

    They start fights cause some cheating. Or want to release on someone and abusive. Freed from that bondage in Jesus name. Hey away from toxic miserable people

  • @MissPrettySweetC
    @MissPrettySweetC Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it!!

  • @AS-br8in
    @AS-br8in Před rokem

    Tony, I made it! ❤

  • @Jazz.Ministry
    @Jazz.Ministry Před rokem

    Tony I made it 🙌🏾

  • @lizalopez1594
    @lizalopez1594 Před rokem

    Tony I Made it👏🏼👏🏼

  • @discovertheknownllc
    @discovertheknownllc Před rokem

    Tony I made it! 🎉

  • @waterhero422
    @waterhero422 Před rokem

    Tony, I made it :) 💪🏾

  • @BlancaRosa79
    @BlancaRosa79 Před rokem +1

    Oh wow I’m march 7

  • @MarkieMcG.
    @MarkieMcG. Před 11 měsíci

    Someone list the steps!!!

  • @belvitashane4107
    @belvitashane4107 Před rokem

    Tony I made it 💪

  • @lekeshiacole9065
    @lekeshiacole9065 Před rokem +1

    I made it

  • @debrazawlocki3975
    @debrazawlocki3975 Před rokem

    👍

  • @AnnikaPitts-gi6gy
    @AnnikaPitts-gi6gy Před rokem

    Unpaid therapist!!! 😂😂😂

  • @CELESTIALBEAUTY
    @CELESTIALBEAUTY Před rokem +1

    7777

  • @devanteaboyd
    @devanteaboyd Před rokem +5

    Tony, I'm back in the Blessed Tribe. I had trouble getting my payment through. I just end up using another card. I haven't been more excited in my life to be apart of something. I call it God's group. I'm rocking with you til it's over Tony 🫂💎💪🏾

  • @SassyMrsK
    @SassyMrsK Před rokem +1

    Tony, I made it!

  • @elicore.biz81
    @elicore.biz81 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it!

  • @Veronica-yq9ew
    @Veronica-yq9ew Před rokem +2

    Tony, I made it.

  • @justliss1827
    @justliss1827 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it.

  • @laurajones9971
    @laurajones9971 Před rokem +1

    Tony I made it

  • @Blessed0480
    @Blessed0480 Před rokem

    Tony I made it!!

  • @i_am_queen_cyndiclark8123

    Tony, I made it!

  • @hazelscorpio85
    @hazelscorpio85 Před rokem +2

    Tony I made it!