How To Overcome Resentment In Your Relationship
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- čas přidán 5. 10. 2022
- Resentment is a huge issue in relationships and we all experience it because there are always things that happen that that we don't like. Most of the time when these things happen we want to blame someone else for them or we want to make someone else wrong. And usually that someone else is our partner.
We feel resentment because our partner is not the way we want them to be or the way we think they should be. Or their model of the world does not match your model of the world. So when we ask couples what is the biggest issue? Initially, the biggest block is resentment.
If we want to grow and experience more communication, connection, passion and love we need to learn how to identify this resentment and then learn how to forgive and let go. That is the only way forward.
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#resentment #relationships #forgiveness
I understand forgiving and letting go of pain and not holding on to what they did, but when is enough enough if they repeat the mistakes.
struggling with this too!
Resentment can be what they have done to you
10:32 "You can not grow if you're not willing to let go" strongest words ever
Perhaps instead of just saying the person holding resentment needs to move past it, just perhaps the person causing the resentment first needs to stop doing whatever it is that causes the resentment.
2-way street. If one who causes the resentment make change to be a better person from own mistake. The other should not keep bringing it up and onto the main discussion when they've changed. At that point, it is them who is holding onto baggages while the other acknowledged and made efforts to learn.
Both need to happen. The resented party isn't really given the space to show the resentful party they don't want to make them resentful anymore if the other person isn't giving them the chance because they can't let go of said resentment.
Basically, give them a chance.
If they aren't given a chance, they can't show you they've changed.
If they haven't changed, it will show itself soon again that way as well.
This was probably the best and most cohesive video I have seen on this topic. I started with trying to understand how to forgive, because growing up I didn't have that role model to show me how in a healthy manner. I knew how to be the brightest person in the room, but could never understand how handle various emotions nor truly FEEL forgiveness in the overall situation until a couple months ago either. This idea of resentment isn't limited to romantic relationship, but by many other relationships in an individual's life. Your explanation truly has an articulate and all-encompassing aspect to it. Thank you so much for your insights.
it really is right? I'm in tears right now....searching for a way to help my wife
Love how she used this video to enumerate all of his faults.. I expect he'll soon be making a video on "how to loose your ball and chain".
I appreciate you guys making this video. It was extremely helpful for me. I’ve been genuinely struggling with resentment with my partner recently and beating myself up over it. Self reflection and forgiveness has always been something I prided myself in but must’ve forgot along the way. Thank you guys.
Wish I could of shown this video my ex 3 years ago! But if she never wanted to work on herself by herself you’re doomed from the start I suppose!
What if you forgive and the behaviors that hurt you don’t change?
I'm so grateful for this video! Tysm
This was so good!
Thank you for this post ❤
This video has help me identify how to let go of resentment in my relationship.
Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear this for me and for my relationship with my wife.
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Such a perfect summary of what resentment is!
Thank God for this video.....Im going through bitter resentment from my dear wife and I want to do all I can to help her and save our marriage.
Thanks so much for sharing @cdoublebeats733 and I’m so sorry to hear you’re dealing with some challenges in your relationship. Just know it is possible to turn things around. It wasn’t that long ago that we were experience a lot of resentment too. It did take learning a new way and taking really uncomfortable action though.
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So good. ❤
Such a beautiful video ❤
I am currently at this stage now and I thinking breaking up but at the same time i feel like I want to do something.
My wife just broke up with me because of resentment.
She just gave up on me even when I was making genuine changes she didn't believe me.
@@Bob-fh3yk What did she resent you for?
@antoninaorlova2169 she's got a list of things. But for the most part, I didn't spend enough time with her.
I prioritized things that were not important before her needs.
I realized that too late.
Such genuine share from you guys. Thank you
How long did you take to let go of your resentments? I’m trying really hard to change too but there are certain qualities good or bad that made us, us. I feel like I’m spiraling downwards like you mentioned about Adam during your resentful phase.
Thank you, I found it really useful.
Jeez let Adam talk 😂
Typical female. I'd resent never being able to talk.
Powerful
Hi! I absolutely love this video, one of the more helpful and relatable ones! I’d love to see a video about how to forgive
Hi @lillymoran1975, thanks for the feedback and great suggestion! ❤️
How do I work on resentment when my partner continues the behavior I’m upset about?
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What if she does not want to forgive me or forgive herself for letting it happen?
i don't know how to do things in this
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Thanks for sharing your success and helping others with your time.
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Where do you go from here though? After forgiving all parties including yourself?.
But how? How do you forgive and choose to let go? I feel like I can say that then one month later I feel hurt all over again when I think of the past.
understand that your mind and the thinking isn’t who u are
I don’t no how to for give her for diliberatly with holding stoping birth control to get pregnant
How can I ask a question or get advice on this subject ☺️
Hi Danielle, feel free to ask me here and we may be able to cover it in a future video! ❤️