Mind Your Own Pregnancy! | Leslea Walters | TEDxWinnipeg
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- čas přidán 3. 10. 2019
- Women are subjected to the unsolicited opinions of random strangers whose comments typically serve only to create unnecessary anxiety. Given advice founded purely in myth and old wive's tales, these women have enough to deal with, considering the normal physiologic changes of pregnancy! Leslie will set straight some myths, offer reassurance and tips for a healthy pregnancy and also make people aware of what they CAN say! Dr Leslea Walters is a Fellow of the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Canada, having trained as an Obstetrician/Gynaecologist. She sees patients in her downtown practice, delivers babies at the Women’s Hospital (Health Sciences Centre) and operates at various hospitals around Winnipeg. She has been in practice for 5 years and prior to that completed residency training at the University of Manitoba, after graduating from medical school at the University of Ottawa. Her interests are quite varied and she will tell you she ended up in medicine “by accident” after a brief career as a flight attendant. Fortunately, it has been a good fit for her and she finds it fulfilling to serve her patients with a wide range of women’s health concerns.
Leslea has led her colleagues in several community based initiatives to advance women’s health. Her next endeavour is to take on the role of Section Head of Obstetrics at the Women’s Hospital - HSC. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I really needed to hear this. As a housewife and immigrant in a country where my husband is my only family, receiving mean comments and unsolicited advices is just making me overthink and not helping with my mental health. Next time someone says these things, imma be like “My doctor says I’m doing great!”
I'm in the same boat. Keep going mama
@@abigailsimpson5904 thank you🙏🏻💕 I’m now a mom to a healthy 5 month baby. Have a happy and safe pregnancy!
@@LoveAtHome awesome. I have a 2 year old. [26 months] he will be 28 months by the time I give birth. I'm patiently counting down my days.
Don't mind them 💐💙💖
@@abigailsimpson5904 i
I think I don't allow myself to feel sorry for myself. All of the side effects of pregnancy are so uncomfortable and during my 3rd trimester I'm feeling so low. I think its because I suffered pregnancy loss and tried so hard to get pregnant again. Today i finally cried and let it out. Thank you for this talk.
This was my OBGYN for my first ! And will be again considering I'm pregnant again ❤️. She's awesome.
OBGYN?
@Miraversal OBGYN = Obstetrics and Gynaecology
Very lucky! 🥰😍
I'm sorry to hear that. She is not a well informed OBGYN. Her statement about coffee being ok for pregnant women is wrong, and I left a lengthy comment citing scientific research articles proving her wrong, but the mods deleted it. I advise others to avoid this speaker who is spreading misinformation about the effects of caffiene on fetal development.
I’m four months and in compete tears and thank you sooo much for the. real assurance I️ needed
Being an expectant mother, this talk made me cry. god bless u
So funny, well delivered and encouraging message😊 thank you and keep serving pregnant women your support is well received 😊
As an expectant mamma this talk moved me to tears. Well done & thanks for the support!
Same here !!!!
Same
This is a great talk, very well presented, being 6 months pregnant myself I can completely relate. My only criticism is, it ok to say pregnant woman. The constant use of the term “pregnant person” plays into the erasing of women and is one of the greatest forms of misogyny that we are now complicit in every time we say “pregnant person” instead of pregnant woman. I am a woman, that’s my superpower.
I appreciate your point of view but I must respectfully disagree! I believe afab father's who are pregnant deserve recognition too :)) we're all just people -with love, a trans man
@@23guineapiglni disagree. If you transition then you have no say. If a biological woman is pregnant then we refer to them as a “pregnant woman”. Period. Why try to change it just to make people who aren't women comfortable? It doesn't apply to them
@@heythereimjosephine I respect your opinion but I think I was unclear with my comment. I apologize for that. I was trying to say that saying birthing person isn't a bad thing to say but !when it is applicable and preferred by the person giving birth! I think pregnant woman AND pregnant person are both totally okay things to say but it matters the preference of who you are referring to :)
@@heythereimjosephine Also as a trans man, I am totally capable of falling pregnant even with taking testosterone shots! I wouldn't want to be called a woman if I ever do accidentally fall pregnant:)
Again. My main point is there's nothing wrong with saying "birthing person" is that label is applicable!
@@heythereimjosephine your lack of reply says you have no valid argument and therefore, opinion on this matter unfortunately
this made me cry :‘) wonderful speech! I learned a lot, thank you
I love this talk and it’s absolutely amazing
Inspired. Thank-you Dr. This is much needed in the midst of unwelcomed advices.
All day sickness, insomnia etc...yup that´s me. The tabou around those *real* "drug side effects", seriously people have too much unsollicited opinions... I am happy to be able to document my journey on my platform. EVERY PRENANCY is different.
Thank you. For doing this, I want to feel free in this period.
Moms crying.. I am expecting too. Brought tears to my eyes.. thankyou for the video :)
Beautifully explained ..
Elderly women love commenting on size of pregnant women. My sis is 30 weeks with her third and so many at her baby shower mentioned how big she is.
At the end of the day, each of us knows what is healthy and feels right for us. Let’s remember the profound words of Dr. Seuss in these difficult times: “be who you are and say what you mean because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
So so true
finally some wisdom spread ! thank you
Well said, Leslea! Excellent!
This is beyond beautiful . I needed this ❤
Currently i am 4months pregnant .. nobody even my maa never told me how hard is being a pregnant .!! I can't poop properly , i can't sleep .. boobs are painful to touch ! And morning sickness.. i hate morning sickness i can't eat also. But still i want my baby born as healty as possible.. i am waiting for my bundle of joy to be born in my arms.. i am eargly waiting for her/him.. i love him/her more than anything in my world😍😍
Dnt worry everything will b ok
I feel almost guilty, reading about so many women having these problems. Maybe I should feel more blessed instead about my relatively easy pregnancy so far. I didn't have much morning sickness, just a bit of dizziness, and I certainly had to cut down on working extra hours because I get much more easily tired. I think every pregnant woman is scared of things that could go wrong, or some complications in delivery. Beyond the known things what not to do, one can only pray that things shall go well.
Pregnancy is the easy part.
@@ulrikenaumann1387 🙏🏽
I much prefer listening to medical professionals like Leslea advise about pregnancy than some random person who thinks they know better because that's what they read from magazines or Google....
or some people that they have been pregnanat and now they think they are experts!
Great. I loved this❤️
Not enough likes here! Very good talk, thank you! It sometimes also helps to tell people that you're grateful for their way of trying to support you, but you're not willing to hear about their experiences or (usually gruesome) stories until you've been able to make your own experiences...
Beautifully stated! It is not helpful, it is anxiety-provoking.
This is so important. I am an anxious person, I don't need to dread the day of the delivery because I cannot stop thinking about your awful story. Thank you for the warning but I discuss complications with my doctor and I am not in need of the gruesome, terrifying images and thoughts 🥺😖
So much this! My mother in law is the culprit in my case. When we visited them she kept trying to pull me out of conversations and the party to talk to me about labour. What about "no thanks I don't want to talk about this with you" don't you understand? 😤
I know she means well...
I am five month pregnant and needed to hear the message at the end. The only way out is through.
This Ted talk is best pep Pregnancy talk.. Thank you❤
Wow! Was much needed..
Thanks for the support
Informative mam , thank you
I love my kids very very much, but being pregnant is something I hate and love at the same time. When I’m pregnant there’s nothing else I want to do than lay down on the floor with a cup by my side for the spitting. I’m sorry but when I’m pregnant I feel awful always vomiting days and night, I never have morning sickness only days and night sickness for nine months straight. Never really enjoyed my pregnancies between the critics from my family and my own struggle. The only encouragement I get when I’m pregnant is from my doctor truly only him. People who don’t know what being pregnant is always have something to say and just because you have been pregnant doesn’t mean that you know what someone else is going through with their own pregnancy
Me neither
Exactly. I’ve known ppl who have been pregnant before that are worse than ppl who have not been. They think they know everything you’re going through and what you need to do and what you’ll go through etc. instead of just listening to what you’re going through they give their unsolicited advice. No thank you.
Amen! 9 months of vomiting day and night is no fun. Been there 3 times. I’d get annoyed when people would say: “just try to eat a little”. Lady! If I could, I would! 🤷🏻♀️
I' m crying and maybe I'm crying for my mom and all the women out there
I really needed to hear this 🥰
Wow! I hope I have an OBGYN as fantastic as this one in the future!
The "can I offer you a seat"...at the end of my pregnancy I was so happy walking and pacing, that I actively declined having a seat. I said: just a chair when I want, but please let me pace. I was so tired, but I could not stand sitting down. I was full, restless, I just needed to walk. A minute sit down, and that was it. I needed movement. I was a different person when I was pregnant.
Thank you too
Currently in week 12th. This made me cry. All the symptoms and anxieties affecting me mentally.
That was beautiful and moving. I am expecting and mentally struggling to get everything right😤
I know of man who can help manifest a pregnancy without delay 🌹🌹
He was the one who helped me few weeks ago and I discover I'm having baby with me two days ago ♥️♥️
Whtsaap him**
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You are right.
awesome proud to be Pregnant , wow we women are really amazing !! from 2:54 wow made me feel so proud all thr emotions and pain women go through during pregnancy .
Honey it begins when they’re born get ready to sacrifice more than your body! I’m a mother of three and my husband left me
She’s got me 🥺
Pregnancy is a means to an end. I’m 13 weeks pregnant with my first and holy moly I absolutely hate being pregnant. Every symptom under the sun. All day and night sickness. Just taking it day by day. If I could have my child without carrying it, I so would have and not feel guilty about feeling this way.
100% with you on that one.
Hopefully it gets better by 12-13 th week as in my case...fingers crossed however yeah pregnancy is a total nightmare to me as well and my mom in law just thought I am exaggerating and everyone has been pregnant and had a little nausea vomiting. But I had this constant nausea and dizziness and could barely eat anything in those first 13 weeks. Thank God it is better since...15th week in at present and couldn't have been more relieved
The sickness is the worst. Literally every month is something new. ..... it's never over until you give birth
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Nice jobs,thanks share
Love this
I wish i watched this video earlier! People hurt me alot by telling me about the small size of my belly! And I always felt guilty if i am soing sth wrong!!
This show was amazing...
This was amazing to watch 🎉
It is unfair to say a pregnant woman can work who knows how long... this should be her own choice. Because of this statements woman get maternity leave a few weeks before delivery. That is not enough!!! A woman should be on maternity leave as soon as she feels that day to day activities are not manageable. She should focus on her healthy diet, physical activity and good state of mind which is in 80-90% NOT POSSIBLE WITH 8H JOB + TRAVELING TO WORK TIME! I'm shocked when a woman gives this kind of statements after she mentioned so many not so great things which pregnancy brings. SHAME.
I think what she meant was that we don't necessarily need to...rather than each and every case
I totally agree with you, people think that by saying “I worked until my last week of pregnancy “ the world is going to given them a prize... I worked until week 36 because I felt the pressure from my husband and from other people who thinks a woman can work until the end... NO it’s not true we feel extremely tired, sleepy, worried ..... I wish I would have stopped working earlier, I really needed
Mantra: My doctor says, "im doing great!". Thanks for this. Corona plus first time mom plus family is away. Final stretch trimester Thank you
I know of man who can help manifest a pregnancy without delay 🌹🌹
He was the one who helped me few weeks ago and I discover I'm having baby with me two days ago ♥️♥️
Whtsaap him**
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Amen sister!
I’ve always wondered why we are restricted to eat or drink certain kinds of food but drown us with all sorts of drugs during labor to take away pain and discomfort. Doesn’t that affect the baby more than my regular mild coffee everyday? And when asked a million times when my baby is coming out, are these people also going to be asking how our children are doing? are you going to be part of our lives until the end? will you be there when we need you?
I know of man who can help manifest a pregnancy without delay 🌹🌹
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I drank coffee and ate sushi. My dr said since my blood pressure was so low that caffeine would be good.
The bestttttt Ted talk
Beautiful ❤️
And here I am second trimester with twins. Twins definitely weren’t planned but I NEVER want to be pregnant again. Talk about Double the affects.
Gosh I LOVE this woman❤️
One more thing we need to talk about is that people asking n criticizing about being pregnant.WHY ARE U PREGNANT AGAIN U ALREADY HAD A CHILD
Rude .... people get pregnant without even planning it. Even on birth control and not everyone believe in abortion.
LOL, I had more the opposite problem. When you get a baby later in life. People who didn't like me seemed to assume that I don't want to have a family out of some kind of anti-kid/family motivation.
Seems to me that this is both ways round. Certain people put others down, and will come up with some excuse for it, that doesn't make sense.
Tears
First time pregnancy this is soothing my stress
I cried.
How to be happy . without any support?
38 weeks tomorrow. this was great until the birth discussion. birth is not always painful and not everyone enters with fear. wish we could change the language around birth. if we tell people fear and pain are a part of it then OF COURSE they will be a part of it. i trust my body and my baby and am not afraid. and im open to the experience - many women have non-medicated pain free births, and some (few) even have orgasmic births. just sayin
I didn't realize how painful birth was until my 1st. The pain was literally traumatizing. I wish people would of been honest with me and not given me BS about how beautiful birth is. What a lie. It was the most traumatic thing I have ever been through and that was 24 years ago now.
Lovely ❤️🥰😘
I am now pregnant and I feel it.
Felt better after seeing this ❤
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Every single one of the side effects 🙄😒🤣 this made me laugh so hard I love her ❤
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I wish I saw this earlier. I'm already in month 9, but I've had sushi and conch salad and deli meat and a little alcohol, based on the info I've read. I've also slept on my back because it was comfortable. I only thing I worried about was the alcohol because the info was VERY sparce.
3:12 I’ve seen worse on ads for actual medications.
True, but she didn't mention the more extreme possible side effects since she is focusing on "normal" pregnancies.
Beautiful presentation. I wish all providers were like you. And thank you so much for using inclusive language. All bodies birth.
I mean. If they have a uterus...
Ture
I take the stairs all the time
'Not directly anyway' 😂
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I hate pregnancy soooo much, I will never do it again
Me too sister me too
Finally a person that thinks normal!!
women get pregnant, not people. Please stop insulting women by saying 'pregnant people'
I would love to be a biological mother but man does labor and delivery terrify me.
Same except I'm pregnant now. My partner said dont think about the pregnancy. Do we want a baby ? Yes.
I can't back out now haha
We are designed for this :)
There are many techniques which offer comfort during labor & delivery. Sensual touch, kissing, lower back massage, warm water, hypnobirthing, deep breathing, and more! We have been taught to be afraid, we can un-learn the fear & embrace empowerment!
It IS Terrifying. Lol. Very intense experience.
@@beetlejamie8065 What kind of labor did you have with sensual kissing?!? Wtf?
Epidurals are much safer and more controlled than they used to be---
Now you can get a button with which you control the drip, from "almost totally numb" to "almost no medicine at all"
I had one for my twins and it was ***WONDERFUL***
Having it applied is a bit scary, but it can make heavy labour so so SO much better.
At one point we were distracted and I forgot to hit the button for a long time and went from "very low pain" to "full heavy labour"
It was such whiplash that I couldn't think or function and the nurses were all trying to figure out what was wrong.
Until the anesthesiologist came back in, looked at me, and hit the button herself, lol...ahhh! Blessed relief within a minute!
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I love this. People have turned such a natural procese so cringe.
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Pregnant women, please, let's be honest
One of the greatest ted talks❤ thanks a lot for delivering this!
Good video.
I am a pregnant woman only women can get pregnant.
Pregnant women***
I know who those 40 ppl are..
Smart people
Brilliant
Good message, but very annoying hearing “pregnant person, pregnant people” nonstop..pregnant woman is what it is.
The frightened frightening full fumbling functional kite nouzilly stitch because cicada bodily provide toward a sticky columnist. dry, mighty cross
I would like this if she didn't continue saying "pregnant PERSON...." Women get pregnant.
All the body comments are nothing more than projection and discomfort.
So ladies should not get pregnant?
Is that what you got from the whole ted talk? 👏🏻
i did 111 like
Please stop saying a "person" is pregnant - only women, and in horrible situations, girls get pregnant.
All pregnancy is the result of being assulted by a man...yet...the woman has to bear all the burden 😆
He was the one who helped me few weeks ago and I discover I'm having baby with me two days ago ♥️♥️
Whtsaap him**
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The only thing i did not like about this is her saying "Pregnant Person" Nooo is Pregnant Woman, the only one who can get pregnant is the woman, has to be born Female for it. Society has to stop using so much euphemisms. This is why people are so crazy and without a life purpose. I'm ready for all the hate this will arise.
The world comprises of all kinds of people, with their own harmless identities. Either start accepting other people having different choices or continue to sulk about how you’re offended by how someone else lives their life. No one cares about your bitterness.
I loved being pregnant. Nowadays people keep demonising pregnancy, it’s like some women hate being women…
This belief system is extremely toxic. Womanhood and motherhood are not synonymous. Saying women hate being women because they don’t enjoy pregnancy is like saying a woman isn’t a woman unless she gets pregnant and has a child. There are women who do not want children, even the ones who do want children do not always enjoy the process it takes to have one. Please stop judging other women.
@@siam4016 💯💯💯💯💯
Some people have miserable pregnancies, it doesn't mean they hate being women
How can you trust a dr. That doesn't know that pregnant people are woman? As a pregnant woman this is insulting to me
The way I see it, I'm a woman (born a woman, will stay as a woman, biologically a woman) but I'm also a person too. I don't mind being called a pregnant person at all
As a pregnant woman it doesn’t insult me at all. Be more accepting of other peoples gender identity choices .
If including “people” who identify as genders different from your understanding insults you then you need to realise you’re not a princess and the world doesn’t revolve around you. The world comprises of all kinds of people, with their own harmless identities. Either start accepting other people having different choices or continue to sulk about how you’re insult by how someone else lives their life. No one cares about your bitterness.
@@freakmeoutwillu world doesn't revolve around anybody as you said, therefore, I don't care about other people's misconceptions or gender as long as they don't mess up with me and my freedom of expressing myself. I am so glad I live in a country where people is able to distinguish between male and female and not all this brainwash bs you have over there. Pregnant woman is pregnant woman and I am so happy of being a PREGNANT WOMAN RIGHT NOW. Mind your own business and stop saying we are bitter just because we don't want to support the crazy ideas of a bunch of confused people.
pregnant woman* not person
Trans males can get pregnant, open minded
@@sweetpotato7778 you mean women
@@Dixey71 nope 😇
@@sweetpotato7778 cause men don’t get pregnant only women do
@@Dixey71 ignorance is ✨bliss ✨
technically sushi is rice...so not sure she researched so well if she missed that.
Sushi has raw meat in it
Rice and raw meat
No, sushi means raw fish which is dangerious for baby because the high risk of Ecoli
This is why one shouldn’t comment just for the sake of it.
@@deepshikharb 💯
Great TED talk, but that "acting" accent is annoying.
Get over it
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