I am SO Disappointed | Kati Morton
Vložit
- čas přidán 24. 08. 2024
- Disappointment is something I have been feeling all throughout 2020, but I think it's more intense right now as we wrap up the holiday season. As I thought about my feelings of disappointment I realized that it was caused by expectations that I had that I didn't even acknowledge. I had expected to see family over Christmas, and to get to see a few friends over New Years, but I didn't check in, notice that that was what I thought could happen, and manage those expectations before they were shattered. So I am going to try and manage my expectations for 2021 so that I don't feel as upset and disappointed because we all know that on January 1st things aren't going to magically change, they will get better, but I don't want to set myself up to feel disappointed any more. How are you coping with all of this? Are there ways that you have managed your expectations? Please share, so that we can all feel better. xoxo
I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos!
#katimorton #therapist #therapy
**ORDERING KATI'S BOOKS**
TRAUMATIZED
Available for preorder in print, ebook & audiobook
geni.us/Bfak0j Order Yours Today!
Are u ok?
In stores now: bit.ly/2s0mULy
******************************
JOURNALING CLUB
Every Tuesday & Friday I post a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself. Whether you add the prompts to your own journal at home or use the comment section under the prompt itself, this can be a great way to keep on track with journaling. Join here: www.youtube.co...
ONLINE THERAPY
I do not currently offer online therapy. BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: betterhelp.com...
I receive commissions on referrals and recommend services I know and trust.
MY AMAZON RECOMMENDATIONS www.amazon.com...
PATREON
Are you interested in supporting the creation of mental health videos? If so, please visit: www.katimorton...
PODCASTS
Opinions That Don't Matter! & Ask Kati Anything!
video: / opinionsthatdontmatter
Audio versions:
opinonsthatdon...
askkatianythin...
BUSINESS EMAIL: Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
PO Box: 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403
PLEASE READ
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room. MY BOOKS (in stores now)
Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j
Are u ok? bit.ly/2s0mULy
ONLINE THERAPY
While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist, please visit: betterhelp.com...
Join this channel to get access to perks:
/ @katimorton
PATREON www.katimorton...
YOU CAN SUPPORT THE CHANNEL BY SHOPPING WITH OUR AFFILIATE LINKS
Instacart: www.instacart....
Amazon: www.amazon.com...
PARTNERSHIP
Linnea Toney linnea@underscoretalent.com
PLEASE READ
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.
“Don’t let disappointment make decisions for you”
Yes yes yes yes.
Preach!!!🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Very well-said!
Perhaps it would good for all us to make more of an effort in 2021 to "persue JOY!" It doesn't have to be astounding, earth-shaking blissful enlightenment but anything pleasurable that brings a smile to our face. Things we look forward to. Things that are relaxing, unhurried, and FUN. Like:
BEACH trips!! even for a 3-day weekend
Binge-watching a 12-episode mini-series on DVD
3 seperate visits for a 20-minute soak in a hot tub
DON'T answer your phone after 7pm for a whole month and see if you feel less stressed or imposed upon.
Turning the TV/Radio/Phone OFF, and sitting in a comfy chair spending quiet afternoons (or late-night) Reading and getting into that gripping suspense novel or spiritual or just plain interesting book you've been meaning to get to. DO it! and enjoy!
A "girls night out" or guys night out if you're a guy reading this.
A short hike 2 miles or less to a Waterfall :)
One more thing----rather than seeking the ultimate pleasurable ( a "10") thing of the decade....it may be better, on a scale of 1 to 10, to do the 5's, 6's, 7's and 8's more often. Much more often than last year. NOTICE that the things I mentioned above, don't have to be ultra-expensive. The important things are that they let you UN-wind, and Smile! So....GO for it!
"expect nothing. appreciate everything." 💛 a motto i live by.
That is a beautiful motto! Love it!
...expect everything (favourable & unfavourable)!🥴 - prepare for the worse & hope for the best!🤲🤲🤲😎🏖️:);)
Setting realistic goals is BIG for me. It’s a lot easier to be disappointed when you set unrealistic goals.
I also like to recognize small victories to offset disappointment. Even the smallest things :)
👍
Yes!! Recognizing the small things that went well can really help :) xoxo
"2020 is the year of grief." Yes! I also see so many seeds of hope have been planted. However long they take to grow, I'm excited for the future.
This whole year, for me, was filled with disappointments. Here's to hoping for 2021.
Im sorry your years been disappointing. Lots of planets went into retrograde apparently, some tarot readings might help. I'm not into it a lot, but its helped clarify that I'm not the only one dealing with what I'm dealing with, and that feels nice. Everyone needs validation.
@@Amused_Comfort_Inc ok. And thanks
Yeah same here.. and I think 2021 will definitely be better :) xoxo
@@Katimorton 💖
Happy new year to you! And all of us. Here's hoping. Hope is a flash light with rechargeable batteries. 😁
Kati. Thank you for all the help, love and support this year. We appreciate you!
In Islam, we say “Inshallah” (in God’s will). Which means, plan and set expectations, but always put in your mind that the plan might not happen because it’s not meant to be. That could be for many reasons, self-growth or a protection from something worse.
The same goes for Christianity. We say God's will be done.
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 4 years ago and right now I’m going through a bit of a low period and your videos are helping me get through. Thank you so much for your content.
That “don’t let disappointment make decisions for you” is something I really needed. I found your channel just a few days ago and watching you share your emotion and struggle surrounding the pandemic as well as many of the informative videos has been wonderful. I’m a counseling grad student who started my program in the middle of Covid and even though I feel like I “know” why I’m reacting the way I am and feeling what I’m feeling it’s hard to apply that to yourself!
Welcome to the community!! And I am so glad this video and others have been helpful :) And OMG yes it's so hard to apply it to ourselves!! xoxo
Welcome to the community! So glad you found it! Katie is so helpful & supportive.
Katy, I am thankful for this time. It is hard, but it also present us with moments we would never had if life was what it was. Don't think too far ahead... Take day by day.I believe this is how we are forced to reflect on our lives, the little things we take for granted and the people we love. NOW still has opportunities. YESTERDAY has gone. Change your expectations into hopes, and be grateful when things do happen as planned. We need to focus on the new ways we have to live to be safe. Be positive and except things as it is. It is hard, but if others can do it you can too. Be grateful for being healthy and alive. We don't know what the future holds, but we know that things won't last forever. Determination and preserverance is something we need to focus on and not expectations. Thankyou for your videos...you make a difference in so many ways. To feel and say and be honest... That makes people to listen and appreciate your videos. Thankyou for making such a huge difference in this difficult times for so many people.
I love you Kati, and so do lots of people.
I agree Rosemary Ngugi. She is a lovely person.
Awe thanks Rosemary :) xoxo
Yes! Indeed! Lots of people love Katie!
@@Katimorton You're Welcome. ❤
Watching this knowing that I was expecting my 21st birthday to be wildly different and months after this was posted, makes me feel so disappointed. But I will wake up tomorrow, let myself be disappointed for a few minutes, let go, and move on. Thank you. Hopefully, this gets me out of my funk!
I always say hope for the best, expect the worst. That helps me alot. It's important to not have too high expectations cause if things go wrong you'll feel very disappointed.
Thank you so much for sharing. It can definitely help to keep our expectations in check :) xoxo
We have to be told by everyone that being abused, bullied, or neglected is "normal", it's sickening.
I really dreaded the holidays.. our mental illnesses don't just take a break on christmas, which I had to learn the hard way. we gotto go easy on ourselves in these weird times. I hope everyone's taking care of themselves ❤
@Massoot hahaha is it too poetic?
@@ezratijssen I love it
Yes!! We do need to be more compassionate toward ourselves right now :) xoxo
In 2020 there was so much I did not get to do which I had to find ways to make up for. As a nurse I have a great deal of compassion & empathy of others so finding way to help others was helpful way to add meaning back into what I do. I donated blood for the first time, I donated to local charities, I made masks for others. I gave myself permission to at times to disengage from media & stress so I could rest. For 2021 I am hopefully but also trying to keep my expectations low. Ex: I hope to go camping this summer while knowing it may not happen. I will be disappointed but also challenge myself to find a new way to spend that time so that it adds value to my life & others.
2020 is the year of grieving. Me in 2020: dad died, bunny of 10yrs died, had to put dog to sleep. You’re tellin me 🥺 😭
sending you so much love, Melanie
Oh my gosh. I am so sorry that this has been your year. I am sending you love.
I lost my dad a couple years ago and this year I lost my childhood dog and bio mother :( I feel this and I’m sending good vibes and love to you ❤️
I'm so sorry. 😥
Im so sorry 🥺 I hope you have many joyful years ahead
Who would dislike something like this?! Some people seemingly have no other way to deal with their agressions without being rude. But that's also what she said in the video...and you proved her to be right a 100%.
How to Cope with Disappointment👍
Manage emotion.
Don't take it personally.
Review expectations.
Take a big picture perspective.
Try again or try another tack.
I keep saying that- about 2021 too. That things aren't suddenly going to go "away" and we need to stop pretending that this is a 2020 problem and realize it's a long-term problem.
While I'm watching this in 2023 all i felt was despair and disappointment during the pandemic. I said to myself that oh I'm gonna change for the better, im gonna try to do this, im gonna love myself, and after the pandemic i did feel like Ive grown and I wasn't as disappointed or as sad because I was doing well in school, and then when face-to-face classes were allowed I pumped myself up even more and I told myself I'm gonna be the best I can be but of course things don't always go that way and it was an up and down hill of emotions (And im writing this so i can feel that disappointment I have) and I'm so disappointed in myself because I didn't get accepted to any of the colleges I liked and i got so depressed that I missed the opportunity to apply for others. Now im kind of struggling finding any school that I can get into and I wanted to escape that disappointment, and I wanted to say thank you for this video because even if the situation doesn't exactly mirror the video, I felt like I was able to feel that disappointment and that it was okay and I didn't have to tell myself 'dont cry, its gonna be fine' because i feel like it is so important to feel that disappointment and this video really helped me opened my eyes to that, so thank you, (also sorry for bad grammar, english is not my native language-)
I'm just grateful to be still employed, so many people are not so lucky. Happy new year Kati :)
Agreed :) Me too. Happy New Year to you too Barry!! xoxo
Yes. Totally grateful to have maintained my job/pay.
I didn’t and I’m very tired of being behind on the bills, it’s really stressing... I made an interview today and hope it goes well.
@@Carmen-mp3je I hope it goes well for you too, i can't imagine its easy if there is no wage to help support you. Good luck with the interview :)
This is what real depression is like, living with anxiety, loneliness, wanting to die. Once everything goes back to normal for all of you who are blessed not to suffer this affliction, nothing's going to change for us! And while I want Covid to go away and stay away for everyone else's sake, once it does, for some, the depression will just get worse.
Hi Kati--Thank you for sharing your 2020 disappointments and your suggestions for not having high expectations for 2021. While I'm hopeful that we will be able to hug and be with our families and friends sometime in 2021, I plan to take the middle way as I try to be open, not attached, to outcome. I haven't made any plans yet for the new year but will just see what unfolds and go with the flow. Meantime I will continue as I've done in 2020: walks in nature, reading, listening and dancing to music, staying connected with friends and family by phone or email, and remembering to breathe! Take good care! Jenny
Thanks for the video Kati. I've really been struggling with people referencing how much better they think 2021 is going to be. I'm finding the idea of the new year difficult, generally feeling deflated.
Well said. Me, too.
Of course! I am so glad it was helpful. I have been struggling with that too. xoxo
This is something so important yet often overlooked. Recently it has been helpful for me to think of ancestors or role models who have been through great struggle, and then reflecting on how they endured the unknown and disappointments by looking at what they did have. Often we see the expectations not met, while missing the importance of the disappointment detour. Much growth comes with times of struggle and that has been a valuable thought this past year. Best of luck to everyone and thanks so much for the content!
Omg I couldn't agree more.. even though times of struggle feel terrible it's during those times that we grow and change. xoxo
Thank you for this. I have been in a state of learneed helplessness in the past few years and every little disappointment gets turned into a major setback.
High expectations can become brutal mental weapons
I'm hoping 2021 is better, thank you for this timely video
Ever since last year I had planned to go home and celebrate the holidays with my family for the first time in 7 years this year... and well. That didn't happen. Even though I logically realized it wouldn't go as planned, pretty early on, when Christmas came around and I got to see pictures/videos of them celebrating together, disappointment and grief hit me really hard. I'm in a country on the other side of earth, basically, so timezones aren't even the same so zoom or facetime didn't work out either.
I'm feeling better now and I'm more hopeful abt the possibility of going home and visit them in Spring. But, man. Christmas this year was tough.
Here's hoping next year will be much, much better.
We also don't know if 2021 is going to be wonderful. I just hope that it completely doesn't suck like this year did., as we have A LOT of healing to do.
What helps for 2021?
-Read and watch things that give positive energy/are powerful to me (like your videos).
-Accept the moments of depression/fear and enjoy the moments that I’m strong/enjoying life.
-Spread positive energy where I can. That doesn’t mean I have to be positive all the time or ignore the negative. I do believe that I can influence the people around me. And positive vibes from me hopefully create positive vibes for them. How? Sending cards, give compliments, listen to their stories or give personal gifts.
-Stay in touch with negative emotions like fear and loneliness. Acknowledge them but don’t drown in them (for too long).
And..thanks for being you Kati 🙏🏻❤️
I was supposed to take a vacation over seas, to visit family, even bought the plane ticket, then the bug hit. On the upside, I did end up getting my money back. So that's a silver lining. For 2021, I'm not holding my breath. I've always tried to keep my expectations to a minimum.
Thank you so much for your content!
I stumbled upon your channel by accident, and it helped me a lot to start recognizing the problems I have and what to do with them.
For the past couple of years I haven't had any emotional support available besides one person, this made me rely on them quite a lot, and I know that this responsibility can be overwhelming for them since this year has indeed been extremely disappointing. So just listening to you talk while I work is starting to help quite a lot. I hope that I can become more self-sustained through doing research on my mental health.
I needed this video so much. I definitely summed up 2020 with "disappointed". I lost my job I had been at for 10 years, while pregnant. I'm disappointed I couldn't share my pregnancy like I wanted, disappointed how my delivery went in a pandemic, disappointed with holidays. And I do find myself making decisions based on disappointment of others. It is definitely reassuring to know others feel the same and get the validation that I can make decisions that lead others to disappointment if it's for my best interest.
I have almost no expectations at all. I suffered from untreated mental issues for so long, that my mind somehow accepted, that I won't able to have the things average people have in their lifes. Im in therapy now, but it's hard to move forward, if your mind is "satisfied" by living life on a minimum. 2020 did not really change much for me, it was almost easier, because I could hide half my face in public and people kept their distance, but it also made it harder for me to work on myself.
I love that you pointed out that right now, there's disappointment either way with all the decisions. We all did everything right and everything possible to stay safe, but my sister still got COVID and is getting worse every day so far. We don't know how or where she got it, she's been home for months. I'm immune compromised and now I could get sick. I would have been disappointed to stay home, but I'm so sad that she's sick and I'm worried I'll get sick. These are scary times. There are no good choices.
Thank you so much Kati, this was much needed. Disappointment brings more disappointment, i feel. I love that you said I can feel it, while still pushing forward. i usually just crash when i feel that way.
I wish for 2021 that it is at least slightly better than 2020.
Gosh I truly appreciate everything you’ve said.And your honesty is refreshing and welcomed. Disappointment in 2020 seems understated. Emotionally more like a Mac truck is running over me on daily basis. My biggest disappointment and great sadness is that I can’t talk about how I feel with family. I’ve had years of therapy and know it’s ok to talk about feelings. I’m 64 years old my siblings are a little older and they don’t do feelings. My parents are long gone. I don’t have the luxury of a therapist because of COVID. So there’s a lot of grief for me to process. But I meditate daily stay optimistic and go for long hikes everyday. This too shall pass!! Katie thank you for sharing your feelings with all of us.☮️❤️😎🥺
Love you Kati, you have saved my life multiple times
Awe I am so glad I could be there when you needed :) xoxox
She is one of the main reasons that I am still alive!😂
Yet again the right video at the right time!!! I’ve got exams coming up (uk) and I’m so anxious about it, I feel consistently disappointed in myself when I get something wrong and I’m struggling to keep pushing through! I can’t wait for the exams to be over! I’m now 2 years 7 months 18 days free from SH! Your videos where the reason I wanted to stay clean so thank you so much 😊
you got this!! exams can be very stressful. i finished mine last week (i’m in the US). also that’s so so amazing about being clean from self harm!! so proud!!❤️
@@marisaswanson2061 hope you did really well I’m sure you did amazing! We’ve been off for 2 weeks since the start of the Christmas holidays I’m back to school in 2 weeks so my exams are in 2 weeks ugh 🤦♀️ hope your okay and wishing you the best for 2021 💕
Congrats on staying clean!!! That’s a HUGE accomplishment!
@@_just_TK thank you so much! Hope your well and hope 2021 is amazing for you!
Omg congratulations on being free from SH for so long!! yay!!! And I am so glad that this video and others have been helpful and motivating :) You are amazing!! xoxo
I learned a long time ago that having expectations can only lead to sadness and dsappointment, so I never have them. I never expect anything to go how I hope it will, I just do the best I can, recognise my limitations and I am never disappointed or sad. How many times have you been very excited about a party which turns out to be shit? There was an expectation is was going to be good. How many amazing days have you had when an unexpected meeting in a bar or in the street turns out to be the best day ever? Expectation is destructive.
I was going to immigrate to Canada this year. I was starting to get ready as early as December 2019. But because I am still employed, and now I realize I maybe should have taken time off, I was unable to manage working on a night shift and finish my paperwork in a timely manner. And so I wasn't unable to do anything significantly productive by the time the pandemic broke out and so I got stuck in the Philippines, working an 8-to-5 job that pays me roughly $800 a month, and living with my parents because I can't afford to move out and live by myself on that kind of money. But I became happy with the setup: I slept more; I saved more; I created more. I knew as of a month ago that things are not going to get better just because 2020 is over. The pandemic is still here; people are still getting sick and dying; it is still unsafe to interact with others and go to public places like we used to. BUT with the vaccines slowly being disseminated, I am hopeful that 2021 will be a healing year for everyone. We close this year coming to terms with the adjustments we all had to make; we come to terms with the big plans that didn't come into fruition. We don't know what's going to happen; it might get worse before it gets better. But it will get better; it'll just take time. Happy New Year, guys!
Great advise! A quote I'd love to share is: "Isn't it funny how day by day nothing changes but when you look back everything is different." -C.S. Lewis. I have began to reflect on all the highlights of my year. There were highs and lows just like any other year and with covid-19 thrown into the mix things feel heavy but I can say that I really enjoy the highs a lot more bc of the lows. I am grateful and know that the ultimate goal isnt happiness but rather living with internal peace or in a state of contentment. Find the balance. Life is a journey! Enjoy it! This is our life so we get to choose how we live it! Sending lots of love to all who need it❤❤❤❤
This video is a godsent ❤️. I'm dealing with pretty much disappointment and hopelessness pretty much during this 2020. This video helps me to comfort and remind myself that it's ok to not be ok. Much love Kati ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. So many things went sideways this year... sigh. Lots to process. I hope that on the other side (it’ll take time, but we’re getting there!) all this struggle and strife deepens us, makes us more resilient, and teaches us valuable things about ourselves-both as individuals and as a society.
My disappointment, which has been huge, has included a lot of disappointment in learning how selfish and ableist a lot of my friends and people who I respect are. And unfortunately I can't really seem to reconcile myself with that. Its like looking behind the curtain to find that the Wizard of Oz is just a middle aged man, now that I know I can't unknow it. Its making relationships very hard for me, and I kind of feel like I have to scrap most of the ones I have and start over.
I feel kind of depressed with everyone I know around me repeatedly saying how 2021 is going to be so much better and we get out of "this situation". It's like they cannot accept that I strongly think and feel different about that. I sometimes feel like I'm the only one aware of reality, the only one who is actually grieving the past (and the coming) year.
Thank you ❤️Kati for creating this wonderful video❤️. This is a powerful ❤️ message. I hear you about being troll to many people out there want to hurt others. I don’t even feel safe on the internet.
You are always safe here.. our community is the best :) xoxo
Self assurance is a big thing for dealing with mental health, glad I can give myself a pat on the back sometimes
Excited to see this after work!! Sometimes I set very high expectations and end up easily disappointed when things don’t go to plan
I am the same way 100%
Admir Barucija. Hello how have you been hope you had a nice Christmas considering the situation in the world and the struggle s you have had through this year I also agree with your comment iv made plains or arrangements meny times and ended up being disappointed take care
@@nikkimckay860 I hope you’ve had a nice Christmas as well!! :)
I hope you find it helpful!! xoxo
@@Katimorton I definitely did, thank you so much!!! ☺️
This year has got me thinking... what is the point of life without those who love you?
@@Ambient-noise-180 im saying my life has no fucking point
@@Ambient-noise-180 op just shared what this year made them reflect on, that's all.
I’ve been thinking about the “point” of life way too much, and it’s been getting me anxious and depressed, because I can’t find a clear answer. I think this year has just given us all way too much time to sit and think. Thinking and thinking and thinking is not good for our mental health. I try to keep my brain busy so I have less time to think and question everything.
@@MyBoredPhotography i'm sure you've made a beautiful impact on the lives of others. sometimes when we think there's nothing left to live for, there's a tether that connects you to someone who wouldn't want to see you gone.
you are alive for a reason, even if you think that your life has none.
The new year won't magically changed anything. I don't like the media or people saying things like 2021 will be better.
The reality is it will take years to get this pandemic under control. It can change very quickly as we just experienced in Australia; cancelled Christmas just days out. I'm still struggling with that HUGE disappointment
This helped me immensely. I didn't even realize how much I was fighting feeling the disappointment.
Happy New Year!
Thank you for sharing. I hate showing those uncomfortable emotions. I was disappointed about Christmas. It wasn’t bad, just wasn’t excited about Christmas this year than past years. I’m great at avoiding... avoiding the things I don’t wanna do. Like my there says to me, I’m great at avoiding.
Thank you Kati for all that you do!!
Thanks for this video Kati, we really need to be conscious about our mental health during this difficult time and how we are going to manage or react to our feelings in the future, more than ever. I send you kisses and stay strong!! You're a great professional and a great woman!!
Have a great new year katie to you and yours. Thanks for all the fish,
Thank you for helping us come to terms with our feelings. I feel sometimes overwhelmed with my feelings and it is so helpful to have your words to put things together again 🙏💕🌈xoxo
Awe of course!! I am so glad this video was helpful :) xoxo
I'm introvert. extreme introvert. so i enjoy quatrine so much. i love reading. i need to see pple, but i can tolerate the pressure while others cant
I love your bright yellow top which adds a little bit of cheer to a somber topic
2020 has been hell. I simply don't know how much more of this I can take. At some point we need to balance the science with sense. It the lack of sense in the political lockdowns that make this harder. Thanks Kati for all you do.
Disappointment is the default setting 😁
Good thing I am living day by day and not looking too forward. Thank you for this Kati. You are so wonderful.
Hey Kati, I love the content! I was wondering if you could talk (maybe in a whole video) about what it takes to go above and beyond for your patients. Given that I'm in my last semester of school before becoming a therapist, I was wondering what tips you could give that would help not only in making a great impression on the patients but also members of the therapeutic circle. Thanks! :)
Kati has a whole playlist on Being therapist! czcams.com/play/PL_loxoCVsWqyHKgaVlKKI6Rop25sNu12O.html
thanks for posting this love you hope you had a merry christmas and have a happy new year :)
Thank you Katie you just bless so many people!
My best wishes for you and your espouse, Kati. May 2021 be better for us all.
Hope vs expectation is a blurred line for me personally. I know the difference but it’s hard to separate them in my head. I expect much of the same for 2021. I don’t want to entertain something positive that may not happen. My hopes are limited to things I can do for myself.
This year has taken such an awful toll on me, addiction-wise. Also, being off work for months and months hasn't helped. It's like I keep grabbing but I'm never reaching anything. I'm so greatful for what I do have, but I grieve what I lost such as control, income, experiences. This video helped me immensely. Thank you so much Kati for all you are and do. 🙂
Hi Kati. Hope you read this. I have had bad and terrible work experience, narcssist, harrasment and dismissed beginning of 2020 because of mental illness. Yah I know. So disappointment is huge in work expectation and work relationships. I have been blessed to get employment only 2 weeks ago. They are sooo helpful and have space to be me. Being told ‘you don’t need to ask, you can just do it’ this is scary and I am sooo scared to allow the thoughts of you are being accepted and you are okay. I don’t want to create or have this feeling that this might just be a good future. Can’t go there. Help
I find your videos really comforting. You speak so clearly, so descriptively and I often find myself nodding. I struggle with anxiety and am not feeling great. Looking forward to seeing my counsellor (therapist) tomorrow. Stay safe 🤗
Its clear that you are having a hard time with this and the pandemic, Kati. You are smart to call out that nothing is magically going to change on January 1st. People are overly optimistic.
I have zero expectations for 2021. I think you talked about expectations and disappointment. There is a definite relationship between the two. I miss not going to concerts. I had tickets for 3 that were cancelled in 2020. While I want to go to concerts and see my friends again, I get why we're doing what we're doing. I think its best to not have expectations for 2021. If we get good news, I'll start making plans. If not, I'm fine laying low and waiting things out.
Congrats on a million subs Kati!
Awe thanks Justine!!! xoxo
*When you leave your Shamwow to dry without unfolding it*
I started making a list for things I want to do in 2021, but even though I'd love to put "going to Disney World" on there, I stopped with simpler things like going to this store just for fun or driving an hour away from my house. I don't know if I just got distracted and stopped with the simpler things or if I was subconsciously managing expectations. I also moved my expected time frame for doing things more to spring. We'll see.🤷♀️
I was totally thinking about this topic last night. Needed this.
I love the analytical, sensitive and thoughtful side of you that makes you such a phenomenal content creator and therapist. I also love how much of a Libra you can be (e.g. the whole idea of this video is to find a middle ground). Much love to you.
We love you too, Katie! We are all going through this together. Hugs from Arizona!
Thank you for your honest, real, & helpful videos. You have helped me through some rough times & I'm sure you have helped others too! You are a gift, Katie!!! 💗💗
Just taking care of my self is number1
Thanks for helping me out from syria.
My mechanism i adapted to survive the disappointment is like you said acknowledgment first and it's the easiest step because we acknowledge things but not necessarily act upon them, second step is to take space and a bit time to be fully aware of everything oh and that differs from one person to another, step 3 change what i have in mind to a realistic expectations, that i can do(not hoping to do it) for example, in 2020 I supposed to be in another country , building up my way into dentistry masters and reunite with my family there, now I changed my plans and expectations, I don't watch things on social media to know what's happening , I watch the news on TV or smth, you know it's more rigid and direct and less emotional, and sure I am occupying myself with new things, and i have mild balanced expectation about them.
If I didn't have my family through this past year, I wouldn't be here writing this.
Thank you for your honesty. It’s so refreshing to not feel alone with how I feel. So right about expectations. I say this all the time “ expect nothing and be surprised “ thank you so much again for all you do from Wilmington NC🙏🏻
I feel that although it has been tough, 2020 gave me space to deal with previously suppressed grief, along with yet more grief. Its made me seek out better support and forced me to confront my mental health.
Thank you, very helpful! My biggest disappointment was not being able to travel, which hit hard because it made me realize I still haven't seen much of the world. Though I hope to do it next year and it would be nice to go to a completely different far away place, I also am now open to road trips/more outdoor places that are just as beautiful to see but are within the protocols that will likely still be in place. However, I'm grateful I'm even more open than I thought I could be to these places ☺️
This is exactly what i needed. Thank you
Of course!! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo
Happy New Year everyone- God please bless you all and everyone with only much happiness and health in 2021 and always- you all are wonderful people and deserve it!:)
Lovely words Kati. I always enjoy your videos. Always so authentic. Wish you, your husband and family the very best. Thank you and get a good rest : )
Helpful, thanks!
I appreciate you and your honesty. It is comforting to see that you too have concerns of your own. Many of us look at their therapists believing that they are invisible they are humans as well
We love you Kati. I wish you a haaaaapppyyy newww yearrr.....2020 was not so well for me too,but I found this wonderful channel in 2020....💖
My expectations have been low for a hot moment right now. And as that low expectation is met, the next round of expectation is dropping. So my struggle is not seeing the grey in the middle and not sure where my own hangup is. I so agree that the the disappointments are real.
Are there some hopes or goals you can muster up? Maybe things you would love to do in the new year? Or people you want to see? That may help get those expectations up a bit :) xoxo So they are more balanced. xoxo
aww this video felt like a hug. thank you
I cannot relate. I feel best when I am alone. I feel lonely when I am around so called family. I feel angry when I am around so called friends. I panic when I leave my home to the point that my back freezes up. I can hardly walk or stand for long periods because of the pain. I feel best when it is dark outside and I shop when the stores are virtually empty. I feel happy when I don't see people or hear their voices I love spending holidays alone. I hate talking on the phone or even hearing it ring. People drain me. Holiday's stress me.
I think your work is ESSENTIAL and needed more than ever in our lifetimes. Forgive me for saying, "stay strong". I say that because I know you're trained and equipped, but still - 2020. Profoundly grateful for this channel. I'm a veteran, and the VA medical and mental health system leaves a lot to be desired, so I get the help where I can get it. You rock Kati. You and all your peers.
You have helped make 2020 manageable
If the hopelessness of a situation is inevitable, then no amount of hope will actually prevent it. Such is the impotence of hope.
I'm watching the new years eve recording and congrats I saw you on the CZcams rewind! Although it was a moment of sadness they showed I still love that you were apart of all our new years! Your videos always help me and I often send your videos to my friends. Your videos have also helped them as well! Thanks for all you do! I hope 2021 can be a better year for you, your loved ones and all :)
Thank you again!
Thank you for this channel ❤
Isn't disappointment a mild form of anger? Anger is is good, if used positively.