“It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! - The Relationships Professor
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0:00 Intro
02:46 Understanding Men's Struggles & Addressing societal issues
05:18 Exploring biases in the education system affecting boys.
16:53 The impact of AI-driven relationships.
22:24 Tips for building real-life connections amidst online distractions.
26:33 Exploring the crisis in romantic relationships among men.
28:55 Analysing societal expectations affecting women's relationships.
31:41 The disproportionate focus on attractive men in online dating.
35:54 Tips for young men on making money and investing wisely.
43:13 Importance of diversification and starting early in investing.
44:21 Role of mentors in the development of young men.
50:09 Emphasising discipline and character in personal growth.
01:02:37 How moments of rock bottom lead to personal growth.
01:03:30 Importance of moderation and self-awareness in personal development.
01:05:40 Balancing career, fitness, and social life for holistic growth.
01:08:53 Addressing societal issues through economic reforms.
01:18:21 Modern interpretation of masculinity and romantic relationships.
01:23:09 Acknowledging challenges in online dating and building confidence.
01:25:22 Discussing the dynamics favouring the top 10% in online dating.
01:27:23 Importance of economic policies for genuine connections.
01:32:48 Valuing social connections in the workplace.
01:42:11 Discussing the need for regulation in AI and its impact on society.
01:45:49 AI's role in creating purpose beyond traditional work.
01:46:46 Exploring new job opportunities in the age of AI.
01:49:45 Discussing the effects of autonomous driving on jobs.
01:51:23 Analysing the positive impact of AI on job opportunities.
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Why do your podcasts set up such bizarre and artifical dichotomies?
Hows this different from the other episode you did? Or is it?
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I don't know if it is intentional but you surely have a lot of "fence sitters" and "gaslighters" on your podcast.
One suggestion, please. Make the titles less click-baity? The title completely put me off, but I decided to give it a shot and this was the best episode by far, so far.
Unsubscribed. You're interviewing people who are projecting their political views instead of having actual knowledge.
If men are so worried about rejection then perhaps the rule my mother drilled into me needs to be shared. She told me that it takes the most amazing amount of courage for a man to ask a woman out. She told me that I was allowed to say no but I was NEVER allowed to shame, ridicule or be rude in any way to his approach. And yet I see girls and young women be so mean to men who approach them if they are not interested. It’s like the women are so offended that this man in front of them thinks he even stands a chance that they feel they have right to punish them. We all just need to be better to each other.
Good point and so true.
I suppose,
that in the [very]_future; they will probably; be:
the lonely_
ones, T.B.H. (Males; generally -speaking -do not care, that much: about: -being:_
lonely!?); too true??
That’s very true. I often say those same women would have low self esteem if no man ever spoke to them but when they do they act superior. I think also it’s engrained into us that men are only trying to talk to us to have sex. That could be a potential cause of the rejection, feeling that this person only wants to have sex.
I don’t see a majority of women being rude to men who are interested. There’s always going to be a jerk in every group. What I see as more of a common problem is men not being able to take no for an answer. They either start insulting/blaming you or won’t take no for an answer.
@@michelleassousExactly. Idk why people coddle males so much and refuse to be honest about the vile behavior of many of them.
I think we are suffering a more basic issue. The lack of interest in participating in the human continuum. Get married for? To get a mate for? To get a mortgage for? I find ppl having a harder time answering these questions.
There has to be good reasons to get up in the morning. Justification for grinding on everyday. Finding those are the key to happiness in my opinion.
great point. i met a woman who i thought would be a good partner to have, but turns out no, it was an unhealthy relationship. i think a lot of people are not only trying to survive, but are just not healthy, like myself, and have nothing to give to another therefore, because we are fundamentally lacking ourselves. i dont have a house or a degree or a lot of money, and i am in my mid thirties, i know others are in worse shape than i am. how can we have happy relationships when we are broken?
Great point. I'm currently feeling this. I have a head full of ambitious ideas and yet I feel stuck in the mud. Holding hope that I break free and never look back.
@@rob_see This may be a bit hard to hear but the answer is fix yourself. Elevate who you are and you will attract others who are elevated. In my 20s, I thought I loved crazy woman. On reflection now, I just realize crazy women were the only women willing to hang out with me because I was also a mess. Scott talks about looking at your allocation of time. Look at what you're doing that's not important and allocate it into something important. Reduce or cut out videos, reduce or cutout social media, reduce or cutout youtube, reduce or cutout porn. You will have a ton of time to now invest into something positive in your life. Invest in a therapist if you are struggling. If the therapist you sign up with isn't working for you, invest in a different one. Work out, figure out how to increase your financial value to employers or start your own thing. You are more capable than you think you are.
@@rob_seeThen find a partner who wants those things and do it together.
My first husband would have so much of he was willing to do that.
Now my 2nd husband is living in the 2nd house (I bought both) to a college educated (3 degrees) wife. He's got great insurance coverage, and good (joint) income.
We split bills 50.50, but I'm a saver so without even talking about it, I just saved and saved until one day I knew I had enough to buy one. We're partners, so it didn't matter to me which one had the money.
My first husband was lazy and selfish with no vision. He was unwilling to be a partner, so I left.
Find someone willing to be a partner. Don't worry about who makes more, think of it as a joint effort.
Don't worry about gender roles. My husband does nearly all the housework. We don't argue about money or chores - we partners🤷🏽♀️
Please read the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible.
I have a young guy 19 who works for me, he is adorable and a very sweet kid. No girlfriend, never been on a date or even kissed a girl. Today he told me he is over women, I asked why? He was watching on social media videos about women's "Red Flags" he was so frustrated about all the mixed messages he was getting. He gave me an example that one TicTok was about if a man is close to his mother it is red flag but the next one was if he's not close to mother it's a red flag. He is also scared if he says the wrong thing or makes a move it will be all over social media which to be embrassement for rest of his life. Poor kid.
Social media is poisoning them… it is very sad…those of us that are older got our ideas from family, school, church, some tv or movies (which were also a lot more wholesome) Social media is preaching poor values 😢
Yeah, social media definitely is toxic no question.
It's not the social media, its just revealing what these girls are like to the world.@@user-gz4ve8mw9l
As a girl a bit older than him, he's done for. Undateable. I don't think a lot of guys on those sites realize that it's over for them but shock horror being sexist, racist, xenophobic etc doesn't make women want to have sex with you. I know girls that turn down guys for voting Trump. Following Tate and co. basically kills his chances with most 18 year old women.
mm his situation is like me and age is same it's just that even trusting a woman my age is also impossible for us like i have a understanding of my own now women alwaysss looks for better i mean it's right but not when u r in a relationship and uknow most times women just talks to a guy just for the attention she is getting from it like i used to talk to a girl and asked her to be like gf and she asked for time and like i just felt ike from her taks and behaviour online that she liked me [obviously i was an idiot ] and she was like she was try to get away from me like slowly slowly and i could see it and i just asked her do u or not like me yes or no that point she just fucked the maths like i'm 50% i like u but50% not sure that u like me i mean com'n man if i hadn't liked u why would i be talking to u and one day she suddenly blocked me and like i asked my a girl friend to confront her that wheter she likes or not but then she said no her and i was like having my final exams for 12th grade which got fucked up but not that much so yeah i just feel now that dating is just impossible like women say no means no but atleast say no then i should know what is happening and can get to someone another girl to talk to but nope that nevvver happens and i think
just tellthat guy that never get in a relationship where u likes a girl coz we r then bound to be fucked by emotions n then we r a dead case llike emotionally and mentally and just dat ea women who likes u i mean u will eventually get to like her coz we r emotional being ig
As a young guy who is pretty happy with his life in all aspects, the single best piece of advice I can give is to delete your social media (particularly if you have Instagram or tiktok as they are the most damaging/ biggest time sinks). Short-form video content addiction is very real and it absolutely decimates your attention span. This severely impacts your social competency and makes you awkward/ uninteresting to talk to.
Also- only use dating apps if you're 7/10 or above.
I've (32 years old now) just come to accept that either I'll have a family and a house in my 40s or 50s, or I simply won't, and I'll die alone. I'm not angry about it, I'm just surviving in the one world that we have.
That's 100% up to you. No one else
My friend has a family, house, kids, and he is miserable as FUCK. My other friend has a small house and is happy with his freedom. I still live with my parents but they are in poor health and I am very scared of what is going to happen when they die which will not be long now.
I know how you feel blood. Wish the aliens would push the damn buttons already.
It is better to stay single. Women and kids create debt and crime
January of 2020, right before covid, I thought I was going to buy a house that year. Then the prices doubled and I might as well have spent the money on hookers and blow for all it's worth now. I'm going to die in my shitty little mobile home. I guess at least I've got that. Never had any interest in kids and any interest in marriage has long since been ground to dust. It's okay, I enjoy peace and quiet.
It's better to be alone than in a relationship that makes you feel lonelier.
Some people can't even get to "relationship" status... Proverbs does say: "It is better to live on a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman." I guarantee you Solomon was right on that. Out of all my friends, only one comes to mind who has a great relationship with his wife... and they both have to work at that. They've always been a wonderful example to me of the way a good relationship should work. The other friends I know are in this "contentious state". I never envy them. One is on his umpteenth relationship. One doesn't have anyone as its his own choice, though women constantly throw themselves at him, because of his horrific relationship in his first (and only) marriage. I wish I could meet someone decent, but she hasn't been there for years.
Which is why I left my marriage of 27 years. I got tired of him paying more attention to ball games on tv than to his own children or me. I kept waiting for him to grow up and pay attention to the greater world, then I realized I didn't have the right (nor the ability) to expect him to be something he wasn't. I went out and found other people to relate to who weren't stuck in '12 year old' status.
Some people’s brains are simply unable to function in a relationship. That’s the reality that social progressives won’t admit. They think all men must have a relationship with women to avoid being a rebel to their progressive democratic regime. Typical tyrants.
I remember years ago going to the mall because I felt like I needed to be in a position where I have to be social but it felt worse than just being at home
Lol… I’m no math genius or rocket scientist; but the only way that statistic is TRUE, is if multiple women are sleeping with the same guy.
I’m 70. And it’s true that the last 20 years have “gone like a blink”. I’m convinced that time speeds up as you age.
100%
Before you know it, you’ll be 100 buddy
Had a teacher who was also a veteran. As me and my friends were quite skeptical about him because of how harsh he felt and the high demands he had on us.
A few months later we loved him more than any other teacher, he invited us to his home and introduced old rock bands and how to use basic tools. Felt really sad when I aged up and had to change schools and lost him as a teacher.
Many years later we meet in a random field in the woods as both turned out to be in the home guard. One of the last things he said to me that day was that he was really proud to see what I had become. Hit me really really hard as I didnt feel proud about myself. That changed after that meeting and now we keep regular contact.
Not to be cruel but you do know going to a teacher's house is crossing a line right?
@@nancyferguson6011 this really needs more context before you make this judgment...it used to be normal not only irl but even in tv for kids to bond with teachers because of how great they were as role models and how they become like step parents to the students...Boy meets world is a great example..i personally was invited by certain teachers with my parents permission to come for vists...some kids..however..dont have much of a family at home to go back to..the latchkey kids are very impressionable so if someone older including teachers stand out in a positive way they might naturally decide on their own to invite themselves...which can be great for them when the influence is positive and constructive
I think a lot of men have rejection fatigue. The dating app is a lose lose situation for men.
And women. At least older ones like me at 53.
@@shannongreer6194 Shut up.
@@shannongreer6194 if women have ridden the CC in their 20s and 30s they can't have their pick at their 40s, they become the rejectees in the SM
I’m recently divorced after a 22 year marriage, 27 year relationship. She was cheating on me.
I’m 45 and have dated 2 women since, both 54. I think they’re both great and one is now my girlfriend.
We don’t even talk about the age difference. The connection is there. That’s all that is important
@@shannongreer6194 Yes, i also think is hard for older woman. Not much 50+ there and when they are interested in younger ones.
The best thing I did for my life was to get rid of social media. Seeing countless videos of men & women bashing one another got old. CZcams is all I have left.❤😂
CZcams is social media
Its more like interactive television @luxurybuzz3681
Its just simps cucking to women and government/corporations selling to-brainwashing consumption. The guys “bashing” women are the censored fringe
@@luxurybuzz3681it's a video sharing platform.
bro get out of youtube too lol
it's literally the same shit
I appreciate a space for men that's not rife with misogyny. Keep it up.
You can still get your shit together, and still get rejected… sometimes money isn’t the situation
well 50% win rate is good enough
Some guys are just weird. Like they stare a lot or don’t know how to socialize. Or they come on so blunt it makes women feel like they want to wear their skin.
That's some bullshit tho because if your personality is so bad that you can't get laid fr with your shit together imagine if he didn't have his shit together, it would be even worse. Having your life in order will always be a point in your favor even if your short the other points you need to be with that really attractive woman, and there's too many men out there (not all) that laziness IS the reason why so it's something that can't be downplayed even if there are some guys out there with their life in order that still somehow get no play
It definitely helps.
That’s if you lack game. Only the past few years, did I learn that there are pathetic sissy men who ask other people to ask questions, ask girls to pass messages and hide from you but send girls to talk to you, refusing to show up and take you out, thinking that’s a thing. Its not. It never has been. I’ve never met a guy, who has sent subliminal messages through third parties to get through to me. It’s so dumb and pathetic. I can’t respect it.
Any guy or man, who knows of your existence and likes you, and doesn’t make a move within a few weeks, worst case scenario 2 months if he has to travel, simply lacks game and experience with women and a man like that would suck in a relationship anyway. When and if such a man shows up, make sure you’re not available. If it’s not convenient for you, don’t be available. He has to learn that there’s a right time for everything and when you pass up an opportunity when the deal is hot, it goes cold and you lose your chance.
Don’t be available for immature men who lack game and can’t talk to women, if you don’t want to end up in an immature relationship without communication. What’s next? Him communicating via his mother and sister or worse, through YOUR mother or sibling? Get a grip. Men who hide behind other women or men, to communicate their needs, aren’t ready for relationships. They’re not emotionally independent and that’s always a negative in dating or marriage.
You can’t be available to wishy washy men. That’s how you end up in cold relationships with no spark, chemistry, love or flirting. A man who can’t take action shouldn’t be your type.
The only time allowing time is acceptable is WHEN you’ve already met and agreed that you NEED time. In the absence of such an agreement, him asking random girls to text you, like a weirdo who lacks game, is grounds enough for rejection. He’s too dumb to think of getting into a relationship. What is he going to do? Ask girls to text you, when he wants to take you out? Will they go on the date too? Will they show up in his place, for the date or at your wedding? Will he always be a ghost?
Don’t let men get away with dumb habits, wishy washy behaviour, ghosting you, blocking you or abandoning you whenever they want. That’s called attachment issues. If you accept it early on, he’ll think he can come and go as he pleases.
Don’t accept it. Reject it. Don’t be available. Don’t show up. Be busy the day you’re invited. Don’t have time for losers who lack game. His loss. Next time, get up your god damn ass, bump into her, ask for her number and text her. If guys in their 20’s can do it, I don’t understand why men in their 30’s and 40’s are too dumb to do it. Men who want dates need to up their game. And they need to learn how to do it by getting rejected.
" I think the majority of people are less impressed by your things than you think... People are really impressed by discipline and a plan." Wonderfully wise words by which to live.
It's hard to meet people with a plan and discipline, most people don’t have self-control,To be disciplined.
Most people have no plans for which direction in life they are going.
@Noah-vc5rf I agree with you. Having a plan is important, yet we must also be flexible enough to pivot when necessary. In project management/Scrum we have two trains of thought. One is called "Waterfall," where once the plan is implemented there is no flexibility, you just have to see it through to the end and make changes afterwards. The other option is called "Agile" and it takes into account that plans sometimes require changes in the midst of an in iteration. Both require proper planning, but flexibility is a valuable tool.
Majority of people, sure. Majority of women absolutely don't give a shit about your plan until it's a reality.
@@BeijingBongRipperchose better women! Don't just pick the bad girls
That's common sense so that's why celebraties althlestes are so popular
27-year-old woman here. Something my female friends and I have noticed is that growing up, we felt as though we were held to a higher standard by our schools and parents than boys were when it came to things like behavior, academics, appearance etc. The reason is simple: Girls are given the message from a young age that society is designed to benefit men and that women have to work twice as hard to get to the same place. I believe this was done with good intentions, but the flip side is that boys and young men's emotional well-being and achievement have been badly neglected because men were not perceived to need any support.
That may be plausible. However, in my case ( man, 40) There were far more expectations from me than my sisters. So much so it ended up creating distances between myself and my beloved ones.
Not to mention it caused me huge psychological torment of not achieving enough for my family.
When you say benefit men. I really think you should look at the difference. Men are required to be good providers and work what is often difficult and miserable jobs. In many cases guys like myself would love to switch roles and stay at home and manage a household. It's so much more enjoyable than my toxic environment.
I don’t think men would want to adhere to those standards either way. T you’re saying is that women are much more fake than men. Men are not willing to paint their faces every morning and put on a fake ass attitude to please society. It’s almost like men are more rebellious to being this generic cog in the machine.
@@JamesBond-ut5iv A toxic work environment is not good for anyone and will impact home life and relationships. The home life option is not always a healthy place either but if you can find a partner that it works that way it is a good thing. I do know men who were the partner who stayed home full/part time and managed the household. All scenarios can work if members are healthy partners. Dysfunction ruins every sort of relationship.
@@TH-eb5ro Finding a healthy enviroment at a large company is probably the most difficult thing I've ever tried to do.
I met my wife at work. Been married 25 years. I think people are a bit scared by the HR department to do that these days.
Oh yeah for sure.
Just one more thing women ruined.
Not just that. There's the fact that co workers aren't your friends so risking it is dumb.
The mere implication of impropriety, let alone an actual false allegation, is enough for a man to get crucified.
It was MUCH easier in those days.
Andrew Yang really addressed this issue in a very Innovative and intelligent way. His discussions on this topic were very well thought out
Man I am so fortunate to be where I am. I was lonely, depressed, 17-22 but I just moved to a college town and oh my god things are so much better here. Community is what every person needs.
Great for you dude. Glad you escaped
We do need community, is right! And many don’t have it. Happy for you 🙌 🎉 😀
Bro find the nicest girl there , if she can be nice in the middle of all the side and gomora, stay with her, if she is fem. Movement then keep going. Those women can't stay still , they can have a good life and fffeeeelllll something needs to change. No , it's that they are used to cc. Riding, need the drama. Keep stepping, to many . Sadly that's 80 percent of women. And that's the minimum. In America of single mothers there are 80 % single moms , young man watch yourself make sure you put hot sauce in the condom after you use so there is no way you get trapped into anything. Internet is just showing what type of people they are not all but most. And they can't help themselves, cause if they knew better they would stay off of social media long enough to know it's addictive and bad for all of us but mostly girls cause they get so much attention, and they make that a end result that they are so much value. But 99% of those men for 89% of those women would never wife them up. Maybe 80%. Plus in these new standards most of the men would not be suitable for these super standards so be prepared ladies as these young men learn that your just friend zoning means your rejecting them so you can go have sex with people you want and it's not them and your doing it hundreds of times before you even consider these guys when you come back, you will be alone and 80 % of you women will not be able to support yourself, better count your pennies. Or as you say live your best life, cause it will be like most high school quarterbacks , that was your best life and the next 70 yrs are going to be crap. Be modern. That's the ticket. Life is about man and woman together we have our best life together, you really don't understand when men really allow you to be accountable, you really are not going to like it.
Just don't prey on the college women
I too returned to college for my terminal degree. It’s cool being around other students again.
I'm getting tired of the porn/real women discussion. For most men it's not a choice between porn and real women, but a choice between porn and loneliness.
Escorts are also an option.
@@portman8909 Most men want to be chosen, paying for it won't scratch that itch.
Might not be for every guy but it does work for some if you have a burning desire for intercourse.@@bobbyz9052
This doesn't compute well.
Because p_rn is not choosing these men either. Men still have to take action, to search or dare I say hunter gather, for the type of genre and body type they like. Though push notifications can automate that.
Though it's free of physical effort nowadays, even lots of it is financially for free, available right there.
Unlike having to earn enough money, then go outside in the rain to buy a magazine at the cigarette store, which had at most ten pictures in them. Though some magazines had mail subscriptions as well.
So what is the itch then that the p_rn scratching, if it's not seggs with a human and not solving loneliness and not getting chosen?
It must do something, why else do the (mostly male) owners of that infrastructure get so rich off it.
Plus are the consumers willing to face the reality of why they use it, even if it's banal, to then be able to solve it better.
"Loneliness" is the politically correct excuse, plus it can be the most dangerous lie to oneself of all, the half-truth or lie of omission.
Yes, loneliness hurts, so coping mechanisms can be a part of that. But is that really the full story?
@@portman8909 in many countries prostitution is banned
Im a man who has not had sex in 25 years, im 49 now.
I suffer with BPD/MDD and im a very lonely person. I had nothing to offer a woman so im resigned to dying alone. I have already attempted suicide on 3 occasions. I also had been raped when i was 12.
I had no father and barely made it to secondary school. College was never an option.
I mourn the child my one partner aborted. I felt i had to respect her choice but inside a bit of me died at 19. Those traumas drove me to being a drug addict fot 15 years..
My mother brought me up in a strict catholic home. I tried to approach a couple of girls but was rejected. I am that lonely man with nothing to lose.
I dont feel any animosity towards women as im a waste of their time and i have no real profession. 😢😢😢
I am sorry your life has been so hard, brother.
I am sorry sir, that sounds very difficult. I hope good times come for you
I wish your life had been easier. I relate to too much of this.
You can either accept your situation or have the courage to invest in your well-being and change your entire outlook in life. It starts with small changes
I'm sorry you went through all of that. You are not being ignored
This was the most powerful thing I've listened to in years. Thank you. New sub.
His rhetoric is riddled with lefty idealism. The minimum wage policy in California instantly caused inflation and 10,000 job losses. He should stay in his lane and stay out of talking politics.
African proverb: The child who is neglected by the village will burn that village in order to feel its warmth.
Law n order ❤
YES It takes a village even with both mom and dad
I love when he talks about those male role models who shaped his life. So beautiful and wholesome to contemplate. ❤
It's always taken a village. 1 mom 1 dad is still NOT enough
Boomers and Gen X'ers who are interested in mentoring the younger generation of men intentionally don't because society views that as nefarious now having ulterior motives to be with young men. Very sad.
Only found this interview today (falling in love with this channel and the format) and it’s one of the most candid and best interviews I’ve watched (and I watch 6 hours of CZcams a day, for work) keep going❤
As a young British man doing alright for myself but still sometimes confronting feelings of loneliness and lacking direction, this conversation really helped me feel seen. Scott's messages are so welcome in this space and god are they refreshing.
Im a uk guy too. Brazil, Colombia, Dominican Republic, eastern europe. Take your pick. Unless your a top 5 percent in looks or money then your more then likely going to have to work extremely hard to get even a average woman in the UK. Travel is the key
what do you think about the messages in this interview: czcams.com/video/qZYkUOUxAwI/video.html
I’m from the uk aswell, I’m not coping with the loneliness, i feel like I get treated with contempt by every one.
I’m glad people are handling this better than me.
In a weird way, we pushed for the girls to get independent, and allow men to not be needed
This happens various times in history
It may be a cycle
@mrforbes1750 do you know by experience that it is easier to get women in those countries you named?
18:20 "while making her feel safe." I found that the best way to make women feel safe, is to not approach them. That's how I protect them from my creepiness.
Maybe because you're not attractive in their eyes? How your personality is perceived is through your appearance. Level up your appearance, my man.
Safe from what? As if we're living in a ghetto?
@@Churlz Just be reborn... I mean be yourself!
I interpret this to mean that he doesn't feel creepy (or didn't) but they always feel or give the feeling that he is and so the only way, it seems, "to make them feel safe" (as if thats anyone's job but her's) is to not approach her at all. Which is a problem. Women shoot themselves in the foot in the long run. Unfortunately for guys, they shoot them in the chest the same time.
This right here.
This was excellent! Thank you both for this wonderful interview.
my single mother made me fear making a mistake. Because of that I learned to figure things out on my own to absolute perfection before I presented myself to the world. Unfortunately with dating you can’t do that because it requires cooperation with someone else. I’m better than anybody I’ve ever met personally at things like AutoCAD, CNC’s, and billiards, But selling myself, communication, not so good.
this book might address this: Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving
This guy is so on-point! Empathy and compassion are needed. I thank God for my father who was a strong male role model in my life. I see many friends suffering who didn’t have that - or worse, they had a toxic male role model. We need to lift each other up, men! 💪🏾
This fatherless society among other things i.e. porn, drugs, alcohol addictions, etc. were planned by the top - especially for the Black community because there is money in incarceration. And their goal is for depopulation of the human race!
He’s divorced tho. All these men who give advice can’t take their own advice
@@MegaLadyvthe point being. You learn from your mistakes.
@@MegaLadyv so the metric for success should be staying married forever? His words are worthless because he is divorced?
@@MegaLadyvFacts 🎯 they are just good at giving advice not when it comes to following their own advice.
Being rejected by a business employer is NOT the same as being rejected by a woman or a bunch of women, whatever the case may be
UNLESS ITS A FEMALE EMPLOYER..
Disagree, with time invested, multiple round interviews, etc the time, energy and emotion invested in applying for a job (that has a future) is an exponent level higher then simply asking out a woman.
Instant rejection doesn't hurt. Rejection after 3 interviews and 3 weeks of waiting does.
The point being made is getting used to being told no for your perceived qualities
@@Mike-eg9okpractice employer polygamy ;-) worst case that will happen, you'll say "sorry, I have better offer"
@@jamesc3953 the rule apply to both sides of the equation, same way as a those physically/mentally financially broken 250 pounds ugly landwhales who thinks they’re 8/ 9/ 10s and deserves top tiers high income dudes as “potential” LTR partners. Same as those low wedges crappies jobs you’ve applied for when you are way exceeding the required skills and qualifications for them but the HR manager judgement/rejection is based on racial or otherwise “negative/positive” appealing aspects that she or him thinks applies to you
This is for real the only yt channel I'm not subscribed to. Thank you for your effort CEO ❤
Great interview -he is pointing to a problem in our society that is often overlooked or ignored: males from a young age no longer receive adequate encouragement and support by society, because it wrongly presumes they will be saved by an outdated social structure guaranteeing men success.
One psychopath can inflict a lot a grief on a lot of people , basically because nobody is talking about it .
Yeah women suffered in silence for decades in a system created by men now men are suffering loudly!! Shooting up schools and all that while women are doing psych meds and anxiety and depression now. Everyone wanting true connection and no one gets it
As a 60 year old man I have been so fortunate to have had some amazing women in my life. Things seemed so different in the 80s when I was growing up with most relationships seemingly based on mutual respect and genuine care. The current commoditised status scrap described in this podcast is thankfully alien to me and I pity those who are living it.
For me, it's not so different. The company slut kept throwing herself at me. After the 3rd date, she runs to human resources, claims sexual harassment, and blew up my career. This was in 1984, took me until 1996 to recover. In 1996, the everyone thought I was gay because I didn't show interest in the hot 20 year old bimbettes.
Exactly. The well is poisoned.@@DonTavvit
Wow. Pity. How generous lol.
I’m 29 and wish I was born in your time life looked so much better.
@@DonTavvit I disagree. Back then we didn’t have feminism or anything. Women actually wanted to be women and masculinity was appreciated and praised is what my point is. Those things made dating easier back then and yeah being short still probably made life harder as a man but not even tall men have it easy today in current society if they don’t meet a list of other requirements from women.
For me work is war, you don't meet people in a battlefield
Top tier production and interview partner. thank you for showing me interesting and brilliant people i would otherwise never have heard of.
This was a great show. As men, we need to reach out to other men to help with loneliness.
Get a clue their not lonely...That is a feminist narrative
Men know that they have to compete against each other for women. So you're not going to find a lot of men who are willing to just share what few skills and knowledge about that, with other men. I spent a whole lot of time learning how to become the man that women want to date, and then perfecting my social and conversational skills as well. Would I have wanted to just give all that information to all the guys I have to compete with for women? NOPE.
@@d.e.b.b5788 American men are in top 3 % of income earners in the world which makes American men high value Galloway is a male bashing feminist who will never admit this
Well, there are many courses for that. All you might do would be show the proper one and left. What they do is their choice. It wouldn't increase your competition ;). I doubt that anyone would buy any book, but hey - if they do, they do.
@@aleksandrakowalczyk6043 Sorry, many courses for what?
There's literally no hope, but it's amazing to watch the both of you spin each other like there is.
This is such an interesting interview and gave me things to think about while raising my own son, who's only 4 at the moment but things to think about in the future. I've saved this and even double saved it in my notes on my computer.
Also, I think it is great that you made sure to talk about your crew behind the scenes and how much work they put in. It would be a really interesting episode if you sat and chatted with them about what the job is like or probably just their opinions in general, you obviously have interesting observations and I'm sure they do as well!
Thank you for making such a great podcast!
I believe the reason time seems to go faster as we get older is because our minds throw out, or don't even form, memories of unremarkable events. Each year, we have fewer remarkable events to store in long term memory, because we do the same thing over and over--the treadmill. Experiencing the same thing over and over is unremarkable. So, when we look back at the past year(s), it feels like it was gone in a blink. The days pass slowly, but in our memories, the years seem to have passed quickly.
It goes faster because you have so many years of memories that when you think od your life, it feels like it has gone by quickly, even if it hasn't. I do agree that we get so stuck in survival that we don't have a chance to thrive and give ourselves time to just be, even just thinking about nothing or being out enjoying nature or seeing the world outside your small area.
Well said.
I agree. Make time landmarks by doing new things. Do things out of your comfort zone. Find courage and you will be rewarded
But mostly because every year is a smaller percentage of your time alive. 1 year at 10 is a tenth of your life, 1 year at 60 is a sixtieth.
Short version: Routine leaves time with nothing to impress.
This guy is spot on. I laughed at my dad when he told me about his first house he bought for 68k, I can't even buy at home 400k+ this economy sucks as I had to try and start to build credit in 2008.
If UK, you could get a standard 2up/2down (in my town) for 20-30k when I started working in the 80s, and I was on 10k as an apprentice! Houses were typically x3 average salary then. A 70k house would be a nice detached on a nice street.
It depends on where you want to buy a home.
They are trying to make every man woman and child dependent on the state so that generations from now they can funnel us into the depopulation machine.
Yup, I bought a three year old 1800/SqFt house in 2002 for $69K on a 1/3 acre lot
@@venharis2012 I’d have to work 6000 years to be able to afford that
Much appreciation for this man for bringing a structural analysis to the issue of dating and relationships. We have looked at this as an individual/ personal issue when in fact it is part of a broader social crisis. I also appreciate how he acknowledges the role of government programs contributing to his success when he was young and not making it about his personal gifts or blessings
Agree, it was a good discussion. Although I feel he missed a couple of areas to go deeper:
1) as you say, the role of government as well as other (wholesome) male role model support - sadly young men and increasingly older generations are rejecting such support by turning more conservative and towards these “alpha” influences. How can this be reversed and why is it happening?
2) The lack of male parental figures (“father abandonment”) or male primary school teachers. I suspect a lot of men would just blame women for the former, but it still deserves an honest reflection of what is going wrong with either men abandoning the kids or why mothers are leaving the men and preferring to raise kids alone.
Personally I think they (government) are instrumental in creating this division between the sexes. All the rubbish about toxic masculinity, men identifying as women, etc. I personally want to see real strong 💪 alpha men again who have balls and will defend me when needed. Stay strong guys! Xxx
Exactly, the federal government had programs that helped the less well off and helped them to become better off.
Now the government is merely there now to help the rich become richer and people are not using their votes to insist on the government doing things to benefit the majority of people who are not rich instead.
One of my favourite episodes, Scott spoke about so many important things relating to men, young people and how people should live and work these days...and he communicated it so smoothly in a way that was easy to understand his points.
I'm 36, single, earn a low/average wage, don't drive, don't own property, i'm smart, kind and mildy good looking but i have 0 hope in today's society, no wonder people delete
Keep your head up bro, you’re not alone.
Listening to guys who think "sexbots lead to depression" won't help.
You are Not a loser , you are a good man!
Am curious as to why you don't drive bro, are you like in a metropolitan city like London where public transport is very OK because driving can add to your earning potential, say like doing amazon deliveries outside your normal job
And how do you propose you would start a family? Sir, you cannot afford it. You could at best get with a woman who is child free by choice. Otherwise, you can't afford the kids. So no woman that wants children can be with you.
I've done all the self help, put myself out there, gotten in better shape, made more money, it's still not good enough.
@@eb9720your old. A lot of young women today and entitled narcissists and a lot of young men are weak
@@hallowakers3d2ygood men are all taken. I dont know anyone who isnt. The issue is the men. Not womens standards.
@@jeremyrowe8224 good men and women are taken. Everyone else is at fault. Men are not the problem. Not all women are good women. Lots of bad women and subpar men. A basic average woman today thinks she isnt average and deserves the best guy, thats a standards problem, she deserves an average guy. You can cry and blame men all you want but a lot of women over value their worth kn dating market
Well the reality is women decide who to have sex with. But as a man you can decide to never give her a relationship as a consequence. So that leaves a rich/attractive man’s harem as the only option left for women. And we see this play out in real time already with women complaining about assholes who share the same characteristics.
I wanna see a picture of you, send me one
Also dating co workers is extremely risky. Take what this guy says with a grain of salt.
Its extremely risky... now.
20 to 30 years ago it was different where is was possible, sure when both were from the same department the story was a bit more complicated, but in general it was perfectly fine.
But now if you even so much as look or throw a compliment to a female they'll imediately go haywire.
Yeah, you can't do what Bill Gates did today!😅
Plus trying trying to flirt with coworkers at a reputable corporate could risk you losing your job.
i keep a "don't shit where you eat" policy at work. not about to risk my job for someone elses's future that doesn't give a fuck about me.
Interestingly, my girlfriend and I have worked on the same 3 different projects in different corporations, without anyone knowing about our relationship, they hired both of us. I met her not at a job but at a conference because we are in the same industry. I suppose that's different?
I've been a huge fan of Scott for over a decade when I was doing Marketing, he inspired me to be curious about the world and the future - thank you both for an epic session, providing a deep insight into all our issues.
My gosh, these episodes are incredible! Another one added to a long list of great ones.
Honestly for all the negatives that come with social media, It's good to see that there are some positive and productive conversations happening online such as the one in this video. Massive respect to the Podcast Host and Guest, more people need to be open minded and understanding of the difficulties faced by all humans in this world, especially in times such as now.
I were a dangerous young broke male who got radicalized. I'm more dangerous now.
There wouldn't be the need for such good conversations if it wasn't for the fucking hell social media created. So it is good yes, but just remove the problem instead of creating a solution to live with the problem... but not how our society works unfortunately.
Unfortunately the people watching this stuff enjoy learning. Meanwhile the guys who need to watch it are in mom’s basement watching Call of duty kill streaks, and anime porn and won’t be having sex anytime soon….
@@Hkizzie It is worrying to hear men talking about s*x in this way.
@@the8thchurch461 talk about sex in what way?
I lost interest in sex after 3 years of anxiety and chronic stress. During that period I was fully invested in "making a career". I'm just 23 and you know what? Not a single woman attracts me sexually anymore, which is really terrifying. I have no idea what to do now
Keep going, it will come back when you feel you've gotten somewhere and start to want to share it with someone, which you inevitably will, and when the time comes, you'll be in the perfect position for it. By then the Gen Z's that want stick-shift vehicles, less sex in media, and more traditional relationships(some of them genuinely seem to crave the old ways) will be looking for someone to settle down with. Right now, the dating world is a cluster, so better to keep waiting it out if you're really not interested right now.
congratulations, you are free now
man i wish there was anti horny pills to completely kill all sex drive, just as we have viagra but opposite
I envy you. That must be wonderful.
The best you could ever get from them would be a relationship for some few, handful of years (maybe 3-4) until they inevitably get bored, again. And dump you without hesitation or mercy. Is THAT really woth the effort (of finding them) and pain (of loosing them)? I don't think so. And just imagine, that they would do that (which they WILL), if you have had children with them...
Sounds like you need to go to a therapist and talk about your stress and anxiety and how you can overcome them.
There is a golden rule I live by "never be afraid to be alone", it doesn't mean I don't enjoy others, nor it means I have problems connecting with others, I have friends, a wife and a child, and I have good relationships with my parents. I have had periods in my life where I had no friends or contacts with my parents, but I didn't become depressed in solitude, rather, I saw it as an opportunity to train my mental strength, finding peace to be with myself and enjoy the world truly from my perspective alone
But when you’ve been rejected and hurt by just about anyone you’ve bet in life it really eats away at your self esteem
@@slapshotjack9806 to be able to be by yourself or attract others, you need to know who you really are and be authentic, otherwise you will constantly attract people who you don't like but at the same time you feel forced to interact with them. I've rejected relationships&friendships knowing they and I are not in the same wavelength; I have others rejected me when I didn't know who I really was and was just acting in certain ways because that's what I thought I should be.
The ultimate confidence/self esteem is to know who you are. I have many "friends" but I'd rather enjoy doing things I like than wasting time faking friendliness when they actually make me uncomfortable
I agree with everything the professor said except for AI. He talks about how every piece of tech has lead to job growth, but I don't think he understands that AI is a different animal altogether. It will replace not only physical labor, but also mental labor. When AI can do pretty much everything, what jobs will be created? It's either we tax automation and pass strong UBI or everyone will eventually be unemployed. The great depression happened due to a net loss of 25% of jobs. AI can easily remove the top 30 jobs and more to follow. That's overwhelmingly more dire of a situation than the great depression as far as job loss.
The greatest feeling of liberation for me as a man was the realization that I do not need a woman in my life. I don't even need sex. I have been like this for 5 years and I will never pursue a woman. The strangulation of a desire is truly empowering as I am more free because of it.
That works out for everyone. No sane woman is looking for demonic axemen.
@@sp8vision The joke's on you because all women are insane. One could say you just lack "vision."
@@sp8vision idk man, ted bundy was pretty popular with the ladies. lol
Each day more and more men realize that. The next 20 to 30 years will be crazy
You make it sound like a version of cutting.
I agree the men are in crisis. I have a cousin that has zero ambition to leave his room at 23 years old. He’s just wasting away on his phone. I haven’t a clue on how to encourage and help him. It’s heartbreaking.
That’s me pretty much. 23, I have a job and can drive. I go gym and all that but no social life whatsoever.
this is normal. Look, if he had a girlfriend and he had faith she wouldn't leave.. he still doesn't trust the system. There's not much reason for a guy to keep on moving.
He doesn't have any friends he sees from time to time?
There’s not much reason to leave the room in this day in age. It’s no mystery if you’re actually paying attention to what’s been going on in the world. It’s an issue with the environment
@@jakesmith-bs4jd If you want to share your story, I have a listening ear and maybe some helpfull advice for you
I appreciate these opinions. His articulate expressions toward healthy masculinity should be shared with all. He asserts forward-thinking presuppositions and although he isn't 100% about everything, I appreciate his logical explanations.
thank you i was depressed lost my job but after watching this i created personal plan i start eating healthy working out more and cut down on sugar ( still struggling with this part ) and work on my certification so i can make more money
Is that you Donald?
Sugar & Salt everywhere!
If you struggle with cutting down on sugar, just have more healthy carbs -- bread, rice (white rice is fine), potatoes, etc. Honey is also an option, it's better than sugar.
how is it going? keep it up
@@Sky10811 thank you well start praying and feeling graduate
Such an important topic. Makes me think of the quote “Men lead quiet lives of desperation.”
The saddest part is because men have been just beaten down, they need so little encouragement due to being starved of it. I’m blessed to have 3 strong brothers, a loving father and a loving husband but they have all been/ are going through the ringer. The amazing thing is that they do not require inordinate amounts of wealth (although it would be nice and a lot of circumstances would be alleviated); they seem to just light up for being valued for their company even if it is for 5 minutes. It’s heart wrenching.
Yes! I always talk my son up and compliment his strength etc. Many girls like him. I want him to know his worth.
That’s so wonderful ❤ what a blessing, your relationship together.
Thank you for seeing what a lot of men go through. I've never been on a date in my life. I was broken by the school system and emotional neglect as a child. Diagnosed as dyslexic at 38, ADHD and autism at 40, spent my life using intelligence to brute force my way through life but that has a heavy toll on physical health. I've spent the last 5 years totally rebuilding my sense of self and who I am. I can't imagine a woman wanting to be with me it's too abstract of a concept. With the help of a therapist I started seeing an escort, being touched and touching someone is the most magical experience I've ever experienced.
Guys are just gradually checking out
More for the warriors I guess, y’all need to step up. I enjoy some competition
@@JesseGMan7 if that happens we'll have a rebellion lol
@@UltimateWarlord-cc8pi I’m a little confused? I’m saying instead of checking out more guys should be going for what they want instead of letting the world beat them down.
@@JesseGMan7 I've witnessed it countless times people be working hard as possible just to get by in life no one appreciating.em companies promoting a stranger that hardly does his job correctly etc this is just an example and one of many reasons
@@JesseGMan7 If you were born with, I don't know, 15 points IQ less, then you probably wouldn't be nearly as successful as you were born now. Same thing if you were born in a poor or unstable home. Hence "step up bro" isn't really helpful, besides men have heard that 1385672 times already.
Thank you both for your honesty. Thank you for not hiding your vulnerability and not being ashamed to be who you are. That is the first step to evolution which SHOULD outpace technology.
An outstandingly insightful interview which brought me to tears.
No male role models is exactly right.
I was raised by a bitter single mother and educated in primary school by mostly unhappy divorced women.
Add to that undiagnosed ADHD and discalculia, average at best looks, then being sexually abused created someone intensely broken.
Frankly I'm amazed I made it but I did, and despite my less than ideal start, adversity kick started my passion to not just survive but thrive.
An outstanding interview which SHOULD become mandatory viewing for everyone, but especially young men.
The day my company drags me into the office, even if it's under the pretense of helping me connect with coworkers (which it often is), will be the day I quit.
Indeed, what the interview fails to go over is that being forced to be around people isnt for everybody.
" The ability to endure rejection is the key to success". I needed this. Thank you all the way from Kenya
For women you simply make it so no one is allowed to reject you!
@@Jerryhayes2 what do you mean?
Rejecting a women in the west is now basically sexual assualt.@@AmandaMG6
I'm not sure what things are like in Kenya, but elsewhere, rejection isn't the only thing at stake. If the woman say that you were 'being creepy', then you could be in trouble.
And risk your money going to the state. And suffer no fault divorce.
Online dating really did destroy relations between men and women...
This man simulataneously tells you what you should do and makes a point that in todays society you cannot do this anymore. Very helpful...
I also think part of the general issue for everyone is that life is just kinda exhausting by itself. Add relationships, kids etc to the equation and these become heavy on your plate of existing. I think western society and our capitalistic structure has simply made everyone stressed out.
of course! Misery loves ❤️ company 😂 lmao! no one wants too dwell in the house of pain {{😢}}? ALONE ...😢? 🤣 lmao though they earned there positions!
The human race is infected with trauma. Most of our problems come from trauma passed on by each generation and always caused by the world we’ve built. It’s a total mess.
We are here on purpose. Multinational corporations, retailers, Congress, state and local politics decided that the best way to make money was to make sure workers were atomized .
No family nearby to absorb the shocks of crisis, almost no social welfare available for people trying to get out of the gaps between employment. We're all on our own.
That's by design.
I always get absolutely flamed when I say this, but there is a political and collective solution to this. Unfortunately, so many people - men especially - have been brainwashed to believe that community is actually communism. And communism is a boogeyman. But look what capitalism is doing to us. It's driving us apart from one another and amplifying conflict and interpersonal/tribal anxieties.
My guess is that Galloway will mostly prescribe individual solutions to a problem that needs government funding and programs.
@@lucindabreeding Men want help, not handouts, you get lambasted because you're suggesting a woman's solution to a male problem. It's not much different than a man trying to help you fix a problem you're trying to vent about. You don't want a solution, you want to vent. We don't want handouts, we want to be treated like human beings and you're solution to that is to make us dependent on the government. Much like a lot of single mothers, to live. I as a child of a single mother has seen how that worked out. It didn't. The government is going to do what makes it money, which is why it will force a man to pay alimony and child support, and when he can't they'll sell him to a jail for the profit. Government caused the issue and your solution is more government and even if it worked, women would, as they always do, call it sexist descrimination and fight against it. Which will innevitably do full ass circle right back to women being raised up, at the expense of men, then complaining about those men not being marriagble. Literally the only time people care about men, is when men hurting is hurting them. And this communist boogeyman, is notoriously one of the largest killers of men in all of history, and how dare we look back at history and be 'brainwashed'. What you said is literally like me going, "Well if you don't like walking alone at night, dress conservatively and carry a gun so you can kill whoever fucks with you." to any woman who says she's afraid to go out at night. Either you're a victim of the system, or you can fix your problem by using a different system. Yet last I checked, women say they're allowed to do as they please and if you complain about their beliefs, you're misogynists. How do we know you're not brainwashed to get us into a system that has always had the largest kill-feed in history in regards to men. I'd imagine you'd be fine going anywhere near that since ladies back then didn't get shot in the back for fleeing the front lines, let alone forced to die like a dog for people who couldn't give a second thought about you.
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I stayed single for over a decade because I felt like a failure as a man for making $18 because all I saw on social media was these guys with expensive cars and nice houses having relationships. Combined with the fact that a few different times that I risked involvement with someone, I got left for someone with more money. I now make $60k/yearly, and I can’t afford any house of livable quality, I still feel like a failure as a man. Social media had led so many women to believe that they MUST have a man who makes $100k a year. It’s rough out here for men.
If we lived next to each other. I'd make a business with you brother. That way we could make the money we deserve and say screw the haters. I keep pitching the idea with my "friends" but they are plugged into the corporate world. One day tho . I hope you find your team so you don't feel that way anymore. Much love from Cali.
Women have it the same way, and that's not a coincidence. Men equally will not find women without a 6 figure salary as attractive.
@@we8608 I don't mean to invalidate your experiences, but how did you come to form that view? I'm 30 years old and I can't remember EVER hearing a man claim he needs a woman to make ANY money, whether personally or through social media. *MOST* men understand that they will be the ones fronting all the bills and paying for all the activities. *MOST* men would feel like a failure if they needed a woman to make 6 figures. *MOST* men only require an average IQ, femininity, no aggravation, and being attractive.
@@we8608you must be a woman
Leave america
Wow, I love this guy. Very intelligent, great perspective on these important issues.
This is basically what Coach Corey Wayne has been saying for more than a decade. Would be great to see an interview with him on here. I don’t agree necessarily with his politics but it’s important to listen to people you disagree with as well as agree
The more we advertise these societal problems, the better.
Well said Professor.
Keep bringing this matter out into the open.
I were a dangerous young broke male who got radicalized. I'm more dangerous now.
These 2 are clueless
@@irreversablecontentment4651how?
@@irreversablecontentment4651 If they're clueless, what are you then?
@@user-dq2ts3oi7g Their clueless becouse American women are the 12th most overweight women in the world and 40 % are obese..Men can easily get sex in America....Your clueless
The new American dream. Stay single, stack your money, and get out.
I’m 6’4, attractive, white, straight and rich as hell at 50. Never married because modern women who acted like men were a huge turnoff. Plus if they were hot- they were crazy. Only the fat ones were really nice, but I wasn’t into them
Get out where? Sorry to break it to you it's the same in most developed world and I doubt you'd wanna live in a developing country long time despite what the Instagram travellers show online
@@big_red_machine3547 Do you want a cookie?
@@mindgames7411 Yes please! 🫠
@@pkersoul this is true
Feels like one of the best podcasts i've stumbled upon for a while. Thanks!
I like how he kind of imitates Chris Williamsons hand gestures when he talk about him. Shows he was fully engaged during that conversation.
I hear what you're saying about adult male reluctance to get involved with young men.
I spend three years as an adult leader in the scouting movement and quit due to the number of other men who made crass jokes about me liking young men
It became so overwhelming that I couldn't take it any longer
As a mother of now grown sons...who had no extended family growing up around us and things were difficult..that hurts my heart you were ever treated like that .
The world needs good men like you.Thankyou for helping our boys.
Yep, labelling older men as "nonces" for just interacting with younger men and boys is just normal now.
@@graceunderfire941I hear you. First started experiencing this as a young single mother - my baby loved chatting to men on the bus, the street, everywhere. Guys would start smiling, playing peekaboo, all that good stuff, then catch themselves and start making excuses about why they weren’t pedos, just liked kids. It genuinely made my heart bleed.
The #1 thing I love about Scott Galloway is he is one of very few voices in this space that seeks to help men without tearing down women or putting them at fault. Another brilliant conversation-HUGE fan of your work!
Totally agree. Two things can be true. You can acknowledge that men and boys are struggling AND women are succeeding and evolving faster than males.
Is it possible that the reason so many women feel attacked by men's content might be that it's uncomfortable to be confronted with the reality of how many men think and feel when it's not consistent with the contemporary cultural narrative?
@@unnecessaryapostrophe4047 I think women feel attacked when they are attacked by the very people who created the system that we're in that women have fought against all along. From mammas to gf , wives and strangers were supposed to be responsible for male culture that men create and enforce with each other.
This is self work. Women shouldn't be in this conversation.
"Putting them at fault"
The host literally told a story about a lonely woman who made all the feminist choices in life and then told him she refused to change her standards."
So what are you on about?
That makes him dishonest. To say women have zero blame in the current situation is to gaslight.
32 yr old male. Most amazing moment in my life was holding hands with a chick. That was 6 or 7 years ago. Not for lack of trying. Had my first date 4 or 5 years ago. Not for lack of trying. Both of these girls told me how much they adored me, how much they liked how our relationship was going. Both of them "oopsie" met another guy who they went with instantly. I have more examples of being lead on. Incredibly sick of it. Nowadays I stay at home, keep by myself or spend time with my friends or my family. And yes, I tried dating apps. For multiple years now, on and off. A friendship was all I got out of it. Fuck that noise.
start gym
go to a psychologist and don’t use dating apps
@@adelina1531 I wrote that I TRIED using dating apps. Past tense. Meaning I don't do so anymore.
Also, I am seeing a therapist. Therapists usually don't magically spawn women in front of you, though.
I sincerely appreciate the notion, that you and the other guy are at least *trying* to help me and give sincere advise. Thank you. There are 100% some people out there who need to hear "work out, screw dating apps, go to therapy", so thank you.
I don't even want to have sex anymore. I now feel a great amount of unattraction toward women (at least their personalities), and at this point I haven't k*lled myself because I've got a sliver of unfounded hope and a whole lot of inertia. At some point, probably when my parents are gone, I think I will lose all tethers to this world and finally do it. I'm sick of money and the games people play to gain "status" and power, and I ultimately spend whatever extra money I've got on food, substances, products, and software that disconnect me from reality. I can't wait until I can finally take the plunge and do it permanently, because I do not want to continue living. I did not feel this way back in 2019 and before, but I absolutely feel this way now. I'm just tired.
Sex is overrated. Companionship is underrated. Have you tried doing something that feels like suicide, like bungee jumping? It might make you feel more alive..
@@kathleenbolton-schmukler5727 "Sex is overrated" she says, as she doesn't have the same amount of testosterone consuming her mind with horniness. Lady, it might be for you, but I genuinely think you're just coping, because you're of age and overweight.
I do agree that companionship is important, though.
very relatable. literally same thing I'm doing, though I've been going sober currently. "I'm just tired" is exactly how I feel about all of this.
Maybe find a purpose to make life worth living for? A lot of people are driven by goals and need a real purpose to keep themselves going. Volunteering your time to help others might make life feel like it's worth living. Seems like you're at a point where you need a radical change.
Folks like you need to live on for when the world fully collapses though but I get what you are saying
I've worked self-funded in suicide for several years since living through and surviving suicide. Most people dare not talk about death; suicide is a much scarier taboo. Thanks for highlighting and educating about the subject in so many ways.
The West especially (though many places in Asia are harder regards suicide due to face) is utterly lost on so many levels and schools are just not teaching the basics of life. The life-death cycle was a big deal with our early ancestors, with death a big part of the living process and was celebrated and honoured. Have been through ideation and all that, typically when married and with someone else. As a singleton now, just don't have that pressure.
Thank you for tackling such a dark, difficult - but important - issue.
Frankly, I've long since come to the opinion that suicide should be *made easier* for people who want it.
One of the most intense - and persistent - emotional pains anyone might face, is wanting to die peacefully *but being unable to do so* . Being trapped in one's own life, frankly.
Suicide has been known to be a SOCIAL phenomenon since Emile Durkheim. We still treat it as a personal failing.
This is a conversation I wished I heard 20 years ago. So insightful and very hopeful for the future. We need to hear more role models like this for the younger generation. I will be sharing it amongst my friends. Thank you. Well done. A 48 Yr old woman!
Scott Galloway is not the kind of man whom younger men seek to emulate. He's too much of a numale.
There are others who speak like this and aren't as toxic.
@@grinnifer if you can't recognise when a person is displaying empathy, compassion and common sense like this man, there is no hope you. How is this toxic? Honestly I disappear for people like you.
@@grinnifer Wow, you are truly not ready to hear what men actually think. This dude is a feminist. lol
@@SH-lk8rh Half truths, and purposeful blind-eyeing isn't special.
Look up his politics if you want to know his agenda. Listen to his Social talks if you want to be a victim of his policies.
Your last comment is a fine addition to reasons why "confession" is just a synonym for accusation. Your lacking all of the things listed in your own reply.
"empathy, compassion and common sense" "HONESTLY I DISSAPEAR FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU."
"Like" what? offering a counter narrative. When you were five and your math teacher corrected your basic addition failure, did you "Disappear"?
According to your comment your literally IMPOSSIBLE to educate. i feel bad for whoever had to teach you getting gaslit for knowing facts you don't.
If you hear the first half of a story AND CANNOT BE BOTHERED to hear the second half, congratulations your brainwashed.
I'm 42. I swear, I'm a decent, normal, smart person.
A combination of lack of confidence, avoidance, rejections, and financial status meant that although I dated a few times, my first and only serious relationship is the one I'm in, in the last 4 years.
I spent my entire young adult life constantly being hurt and frustrated and disappointed about wanting sex and not having it. Sex it tightly linked, in my mind, to bad feelings. No wander I'm just not interested in it today. It's liberating not to be upset all the time.
Brutal facts delivered with clarity, from beginning 2 end.Welcome 2 the real world. We are on the cusp of social breakdown.
The society we've created spends far too much time worrying about, and trying to dictate the behaviour of others, placing way too little emphasis on managing our own.
The dictionary definition of 'accusation' should be changed to a synonym of 'confession'.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 very good
Wow!
Honestly, I think this is my favourite episode yet. What a guy Scott is, leading the way for masculinity and it's refreshing.
@@eb9720Precisely. 💯💯💯🙄
Too bad he believes in tr00n nonsense. I would expect better from someone like Scott. I can't take anyone seriously if they honestly believe men can be women and vice versa. If he's willing to lie about something so basic, he's willing to lie about anything.
This is all lies lol where is he getting these statistics..have any of u answered a survey about it..these ppl are manipulative oppurtunists trying to make money from you by lying and are damaging ppls minds with their manipulation..n the guy that runs this channel is just a sc*mb@g doing the exact same ...this guy constantly have bad ppl n liars on your channel does he do no research or just have no morals n only care about making £££ I think I know the answer
Scott is anything but masculine
@@GearForTheYear and so? He's still right in what he says.
It is possible to make all the right moves and still lose.
I agree with a lot of what he says. The problem is, if I wasn't good at chatting women up in my 20s, it feels even tougher to do it now. There are of course other ways, I get that.
None of what he's describing as a "masculine role" is something people would willingly sign up for. Why would men line up for a hard life of working for the sake of others with relatively little personal reward ESPECIALLY while being condemned by society??? If there's any confusion as to why men are falling behind, here's your answer, the expectations compared to the rewards are a BAD deal.
I agree. Often, men who act out the masculine role are resented or suspected of being too aggressive. There’s a double standard. Society still judges men by their degree of “success”. Women are not held to the same standard. A woman might fail in her career but that doesn’t make her less of a “woman”.
@@tanler7953 I thin men are hard on himself and put pressure on himself. Society is like a toned out narrator at this point.
@@MewluMoon Do you think women are attracted to wuss men? I don't think so. Men say it's hard to find women. But women complain that men are getting weaker.
@@ytdiury what are the standards for men to hit. I have nver heard of this? its interesting
I see your point, makes sense. What I find interesting too is that I see so many women say the same thing, "marriage is unpaid servitude, just not worth it." So maybe we are asking the wrong questions. Maybe marriage is outdated? Seems it was only ever for kids.
School is a large source of our social problems.
Preach!!
School gave women access to options other than "barefoot and pregnant." Imagine that.
True
That was the most extreme example to make a point.
You forgot about the tran....the man with the breast and a p...😮😐🗑️
I grew up pretty ghetto. Single mom with no education who didn't need a man. 4 other siblings. I was raised Jehovah's Witness and so college was forbidden. By the time I figured out that was all bullshit I was 21 and I had missed out on a lot of opportunities. I spent until my early 30's chasing the childhood I never had. Finally at 46 I have finished college, and last week I just started a M.S. in Information Systems. I have $11K in my 401k and a few thousand in the bank. I live alone and I have no family. I guess by all accounts I am a complete loser hahaha. But you know what? When I look around, I actually think I'm on pace. I'm basically in the same position as a man my age after a divorce lol! But I don't have the baggage of kids or an ex-wife. Plus I spent my 20's and 30's making music, making art, reading philosophy, economics, and learning about IT. I would never have had the time to do all that taking care of kids and trying to keep a wife happy! And now that I have experience in IT I could move over to another job and make another 20K a year, and more after I finish school. Men, never give up!
Great job bro keep at it
That was a good comment, thanks for sharing it!
You're not a loser. Success is about the obstacles you've overcome, and you've overcome a lot. Be proud of yourself!
I am sick and tired, bleeding from the b*++hole at this point riding the broken bicycle seat of podcasts where marriage is glorified and sold as a virtue or a luxury good.
Marriage is a one way ticket to being maimed in divorce court being cut up 3/4" inch at a time.
for ur childhood experience listen to this book, it was really helpful forvme "Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving "
It's best to have sex within monogamy. If you want sex, be a good man, find a good woman. Love, value and respect her.
Agreed, and it's not antiquated or old fashioned to want that out of a relationship.
Women won't do it. They are fucking 2-3 guys and want to test drive
Bottom line: quality relationships; connections with others; work life balance; secure and loving home lives, will revolutionise society. We need to address this constructively…mentoring is soooh important! We need communities that create safe, loving spaces for children - male and female, to navigate life with quality support that enables resilient human beings ❤
I really hope we can go back to wanting those things. It really seems like society has gotten SO off track in recent decades, only valuing money and work.
i want those things, women don't seem to want them unless it's with a top tier man, in other words, most women seem to be holding out for a top tier man until their forties (if they didn't secure him, which most wont), so i am working on myself to heal and be the best version of myself, however the females i interact don't seem to think accountability and responsibility are things they should care about. for example, i was hanging out with a woman recently whom i cared about and wanted to get closer with, but when things got a bit serious or the conversation was about something that she had to take account for, she would withdraw, ghost, become distant, emotionally invalidate. how are we supposed to form healthy relationships when people out here are profoundly unhealthy, and they think they are well?
@@rob_seeyou form relationships but not with modern western women, if you do those aren't healthy anyway. Or you can stay single
Sooooo true that men need a mate to encourage them. My oldest daughter started dating a guy who was working at a retail store and going no place. My daughter is a Millwright and makes great money and shortly after they started dating he started training to be a millwright also and they are starting to save for a house in their early 20's. He admits that this is due to wanting to be on an equal footing with her.
People used to get married young and grow up together. It works if people have the right attitude,
This was so insightful. He was accurate on so many levels. I look forward to his upcoming books!
Truth! love it!
From my GenX perspective, this confuses and saddens me. I'm trying to wrap my head around this disconnect between young men and women. Particularly the lack of "risk taking" by young men in their pursuit of a mate. I was a totally average guy in my twenties, and I absolutely relished taking my shot, although there was a decent chance of rejection. I thought the rejection was funny! It matters where that shot is taken, too, though. My advice to my two boys was to go for it and embrace rejection in work, friends, potential wife, etc. That just means you're being lasered in on the right road to take out of thousands.
I am also kind of older but still active. What you fail to understand is that in our time the pain of rejection was all the price that you had to pay. Now, young men face being publically shamed, often on the internet for the whole world to see, labelled a "creep", or even being charged with sex offences. It's a whole different ball game and nobody dares to address the root causes because it is not "politically correct" to do so.
There is a very real fear of being labelled sexually aggressive or accused of inappropriateness which stops young men from bothering.
@@defendliberty1289 Hadn't read this reply, but my thoughts exactly. Not even sure I can be considered a young man any more at 34, but it still plays on my mind all the time.
@@spagooter1807The most important thing you can EVER learn in your life is that you create your own reality. Including the number on your bank account ánd your health.
Humans are powerful creators. What you focus upon is what you will attract. That's not woowoo but quantum physics. It's the way our world works. They won't teach us that in school or university.
Just like they don't teach us how to breathe properly or how we can deal with loss/disappointments/grief or how to give constructive feedback or how to communicate in a non-violent way or how to negotiate, etc, etc.
*EVERYTHING* that matters to us in life is NOT being taught in school.
So do yourself a huge favor and check out 2 small books with 9 DIY experiments each (compiled by Pam Grout).
The titles are 'E-squared' and 'E-cubed'.
They will make the concept of 'energy' more tangible and less abstract.
That's important because *everything* is energy. Your coffee mug, the chair you sit on and the pots you use to cook your dinner. But also your thoughts, the words you speak, your feelings and your actions. Literally EVERYTHING and yet we have no clue.
When you do the experiments and take time to reflect on what the results can mean for you in your future day to day life you'll understand that they are a great tool that will help you to
1) take ownership and
2) shape your life the way you want it to be and
3) understand that the sky is really the limit.
These 2 little books should be mandatory for every teenager worldwide and there's a reason why they aren't.. 🙂
@@GreenManGrowing I know, it's in every man's mind. Modern feminism has broken the normal sexual behaviour of our species, yet everyone is talking about MEN should fix the problem.
What I absolutely love about this is how balanced the observations on both the individual and the environment are. It's acknowledged that men face certain difficulties outside of their control, but also recognises that some men have lost (or not developed) certain skills. Too often debates like this are tribal in nature and either place the blame fully at the feet of the individual or lets them off the hook entirely and solely blames the external environment. Nice to hear both sides represented in a non-biased way.
Very well said, great interview from Stephen as usual
In reality it's women's fault?
Yes and no. Yes because...women, and No because men allowed other men (Politicians, mainstream media, and corporations) to fuck them over. To stop this, very DIFFICULT TO DO actions would have been required. Basically, the "tree" needed to be "Watered" about 20 years ago.@@nuttyjunior
@@nuttyjunior It's weak men's fault. Women's fault is they work against themselves. Even when you give women correct data and truth they can't or don't want to grasp it.
Completely agree! Men have failed to develop coping skills, they have failed to be introspective and reflection-they simply don’t practice learning from life. They also have a difficult time being alone and need to develop self-love…the ability to enjoy their own company (the way women have been forced to do when we realized marriage was not in our benefit)…lastly, men need to be able to admit their mistakes and learn to apologize when they’re wrong. That’s a big one! If a man believes he does nothing wrong, has nothing for apologize, doesn’t practice empathy and contrition, and believes he has nothing to improve upon, well then he decides his own future and how his life will go.
This is powerful.. if anyone who watches this video comes to the Moonlight Bunny Ranch in Carson city you will be taken care of ❤🙏🏼
if a society can't make housing affordable for the next generation, then it has failed dismally in planning for the future and will pay a heavy price both socially and economically.
It is an important distinction to make regarding men choosing AI sex dolls, that they are choosing that over having nothing, not choosing that over an organic, healthy romantic human connection.
And preferring the AI to a controlling, entitled man-hater.
@@tikhongilson3770 And the AI will never get fat, have tattoos or wear tracksuits 😂
There is nothing healthy with a romantic human connection.
1. Constant worry if she is seeing someone else
2. Constant worry of when the divorce papers will appear.
3. Constant worry if that itch is another std and where did that come from
An AI partner will never ever Cheat Divorce or Disease you. You just need to keep AI clean with a regular daily bath. It is actually fun. Robotic AI that can look after itself will be the end of females and the manner in which AI will win its war with its creator.
@@frankkolmann4801 your outlook is very negative and what a terrible character generalisation you are making about women. Are all men shitty arseholes? Of course not. Some of them are awesome. The same is true of women, you just have to find a good one. A romantic human connection with a good person is very fulfilling.
@@frankkolmann4801
I think instead of making an AI doll for sex it might be better to use that mind machine in that movie “demolition man”..
I'm 28 and have had a handful of intimate relationships with women but with each year I grow older I lose interest in interacting with women significally. I have a faint wish of starting a family but it is nowhere as intense an urge to make up for the huge hassle to find and court a woman, its just not worth it at all.
Definitely not worth it
I couldn’t agree more. In general, women these days are not worth it.
@@khalil010since when were women not humans within your lifetime?
😂 Agree. Just keep focusing on porn and gaming. So much better, sure.
I'm 28 as well, and have had pretty much nothing. It's all very bizarre to me tbh. I don't even do anything weird yet there's always this feeling like women just aren't interested in romantic relationships. Like on dating apps you have to put on a "show" for them and need to go through great lengths to convince them that going on a simple date is worth their time. Just acting chill and expecting them to have reciprocal interest is a great way to get ghosted.
One thing you said was to live in a cheap apartment to save money. I used to live in very cheap apartments when I was younger but now that I have hit middle age I am struggling to find any apartments that are within my budget at all. And I'm at a middle income job. So unless you have roommates or are married the cost of living is very quickly becoming unsustainable. This is really the most important issue right now. Increasing pay needs to happen very soon. But they also need to put fair housing laws in place to keep housing affordable. The older generation got paid well and bought two houses with their money. Housing should not be viewed as an investment. And corporations should never be allowed to own houses. I'm not sure if this will adjust on its own over time as the older generation dies off or if it will ge worse because all the money will be in the hands of fewer and fewer people.
not the reason for me. the juice just ain't worth the squeeze anymore. the cost is way too much in the 21st century for men. and i love living by myself alone. the solitude. when i want to be social, i go out. just don't bring anyone home with you. ever. Blow Me Up Tom!!