Rejecting Divorce and Choosing to Stay (Part 1) - Carey & Toni Nieuwhof

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  • čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
  • Carey and Toni Nieuwhof’s marriage wasn’t always happy and filled with love. There was a time when they were on the brink of divorce, and though they tried to make amends, they kept failing into a cycle of fighting, anger and distance. Today Carey and Toni say they can’t imagine considering divorce. While it took a lot of work, counseling, faith, and learning to understand each other, they brought their marriage to a place of grace, love and growth. Through their honest and vulnerable stories and advice, they’ll help encourage couples considering divorce to save their marriages and take a path toward healing.
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Komentáře • 38

  • @fifthof9501
    @fifthof9501 Před rokem +60

    I have studied relationships for many years. I recently remarried a widow. She and I have come to the conclusion that ALL conflict comes through selfishness. We must put aside the "self" and become selfless when we are in any relationship, especially with a spouse/family. Deny thy self.

  • @laurenshannon2703
    @laurenshannon2703 Před rokem +5

    One of the best revelations in marriage is that I don't actually know how my husband thinks or processes life. He really is totally different than me. I love it more and more. I laugh and lighten up more now instead of simmering offence and resentment. I love that we're not the same.

  • @georgeverghese1970
    @georgeverghese1970 Před rokem +5

    My current situation mirrors their story. Professionally on a high but relationally at an all time low.

  • @georgeverghese1970
    @georgeverghese1970 Před rokem +12

    Can't wait to hear part 2 of the story.

  • @Nicki06214Life
    @Nicki06214Life Před rokem +8

    Were against the d word. We're permanently disabled him mental illnes me legally blind, married, & homeless in our vehicle. Pray for us that God has his way in all aspects. Most important We're saved.

  • @walnutrd
    @walnutrd Před rokem +6

    Truly appreciate the authenticity of your testimony. I'm deeply touched that I am not alone in this. Your story is giving me hope and courage to press on.

  • @blanchehanstein3450
    @blanchehanstein3450 Před rokem +7

    Looking forward to Part 2!

  • @carlageday9222
    @carlageday9222 Před rokem +6

    Oh man now we have to wait till part two??? Wooiwow this is really helpful

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Před rokem +5

      Carl, we're glad you found today's broadcast helpful. You will definitely enjoy part two tomorrow.

  • @lloydlee5905
    @lloydlee5905 Před rokem +2

    Hey guys, I simply love focus on the family it's my favorite radio cast for many years and I admire the kindness and love you guys offer, GOD BLESS YOU ❤

  • @tersiavandermerwe22
    @tersiavandermerwe22 Před rokem +6

    can’t wait for the next one🙏

  • @tersiavandermerwe22
    @tersiavandermerwe22 Před rokem +2

    wow so glad I came to listen to you.

  • @RayRom1797
    @RayRom1797 Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this episode. Thanks for your honesty and candidness. Relationship is so hard. But your story gives me some hope.

  • @frehema
    @frehema Před rokem +3

    O my...it ended on a very high note. When is the next one?😊

  • @betzaidadurkin2694
    @betzaidadurkin2694 Před rokem +3

    All I heard was me, pride, myself, narcissistic, and I, arrogance....Lord Jesus may we learn to die ourselves by the power of your blood, married or not married.😮

  • @brandywilson7314
    @brandywilson7314 Před rokem +3

    Hallelujah Praise the Lord

  • @purposebydesign5511
    @purposebydesign5511 Před rokem +3

    Thanks to the both of them for sharing their story. It will strengthen many. Like me. It helps us understand that struggles are not ours alone. God is with us thru them. He never fails. And in the end victory will be sweetest because of the deepest struggles. Marriages are tried very hard by the enemy and A lot rests in them. Leys keep the faith. "Fight a good fight". There's always a great reward for endurance. I wish you both nothing but the best. And thank you for choosing to stay your children will thank you on day.

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Před rokem +2

      We're glad you were encouraged by the Nieuwhofs, they have such an awesome testimony.

  • @ntrelis
    @ntrelis Před rokem +4

    Interesting ❤

  • @ColleenKleinschmidt-yi9fk

    🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽God is so Faithful 🤍🤍

  • @stephaniethompson7995
    @stephaniethompson7995 Před 11 měsíci +2

    "vicious cycle of conflict"

  • @PRESCRIPTIVELIVINGDIAGNOSEPRES

    Great message and interesting to listen to.
    There's an art to fulfillment.
    Some take the long road but eventually arrive.
    Some don't achieve fulfillment this side.
    Others fast-track their way in.

  • @belindawolbling1896
    @belindawolbling1896 Před rokem +1

    I don't know whether our marriage is going to make it. I cannot see the light at the end of this dark and lonely tunnel but I take it day by day and am determined not to do what my Father hates...

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Před rokem

      Belinda, we understand your pain, and we're so very sorry. We pray that the Lord will do a mighty work of restoration and healing in your marriage. If we can help you on this journey, please don't hesitate to call us at 800-232-6459. We have counselors and resources that have helped many others. May God bless you and uplift you (Psalm 3:3).

  • @eternalperspective4136
    @eternalperspective4136 Před 5 měsíci

    I wonder how often perimenopause and menopause contributes to marital struggles. I am 47, and perimenopausal. It's hard. It affects my mothering and parenting, though I try for it not to, but there are times I am being completely irrational and angry at the smallest triggers.. It's super frustrating. Thankfully, my husband and family have had grace with me, but I can see how it could definitely affect marriages.

  • @viviekwu
    @viviekwu Před rokem

    how do we attend? we are in Nigeria. we would love to attend

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Před rokem

      Hi Vivian! We apologize for the delayed response! We would love for you to attend an intensive. It would require coming to the United States for an intensive. We offer a 4-day group intensive and a 3- and 5-day private intensive. We conduct these sessions in Branson, MO; Greenville, MI; Cave Creek, AZ, and Rome, GA (not all intensives are available at all locations). If you'd like more information, please visit our website at HopeRestored.com. You can email us from our website, or if you are able, please call us at 866/875-2915. We'd love to see how we can help!

  • @chandachilongoshi8813
    @chandachilongoshi8813 Před rokem +3

    Unfortunately they are speaking for the audience. They can't give the details that destroyed their marriage.

  • @donajohanna
    @donajohanna Před rokem +1

    Anneagram????

    • @nicoledelacruz5983
      @nicoledelacruz5983 Před rokem +1

      And it’s a PASTOR… May the Lord reveal to them the truth about this deception. In Jesus’ name.

    • @donajohanna
      @donajohanna Před rokem

      @@nicoledelacruz5983 a biggie!!! (deception)

  • @robrob7346
    @robrob7346 Před 8 měsíci

    would be nice with all of your broadcasts u had closed caption included. frustrating to listen to a show and can't understand what is being said all the time due to hearing loss and it becomes a futile effort and eventually i just quit listening. one reason why i don't watch a lot of your broadcasts

  • @laurenshannon2703
    @laurenshannon2703 Před rokem

    "Impacting millions of leaders a year" is that real or a bit of an overstatment?

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 Před rokem +1

    I am not understanding
    Are they Christians
    They are ATTORNEYS yes we get it
    But are they Christians
    20 min in what is their relationship with
    JESUS CHRIST

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  Před rokem +1

      We hope you were able to to listen to the whole interview to hear about their relationships with the Lord, jessy!