How To Deal With Difficult Basketball Coaches
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How to show compassion to someone that yells and screams at you for the smallest mistake, who doesn't want your succes and just want to use you for one thing
keep grinding brodie im going thru the same shii
@@chrislouis4620 that sucks same with me 😞
Same. I don’t know how to show compassion to someone who yelled at me infront of my friends, parents, and teammates. He took my self confidence in basketball that I love, and I couldn’t enjoy playing basketball anymore.
I experienced the same thing. Last year in my senior year in high school, I tried out for the team and I made it. I was actually one of the best in the entire tryout. A few days later during practice I was playing and he would scream at me saying "I'm going to cut you from the team" in front of everyone. The thing was he was only screaming at me and I didn't know why because I wasn't doing anything wrong. I was doing the same thing as my teammates, making the same mistakes as everyone else. My teammates would ask me after practice why he was doing this only to me, because they didn't understand either. It was like he was trying to make an example of to my teammates, like he never wanted me on the team in the first place. The way he was acting was making me play worse because it was like no matter what I did, I couldn't do anything right in his eyes. Because of that I began to dislike my coach because of the way he acted to me. He barely gave me any minutes. One day I came to practice and he said that he was cutting me from the team. I asked him why and he said he had no reason. He just never wanted me on the team in the first place. The weird thing is when I played against my other teammates outside of practice, I would outplay them, but he never cared. He tried to push me down to bring his favorite players up. He wanted me to quit, but I never did. The only reason I left the team was because my mom told me he was wasting my time. He didn't make basketball fun, and I was not happy to come to practice, that's how you know he was a bad coach. This video resonates with me so much. I have had many talented friends who quit playing basketball because of horrible coaches. Personally, I feel like that experience only fueled my fire and made me want to keep working on my skills.
Can’t let one person stop u from being great
This is happening to me but he hasn’t cut me yet but I wanna quit . Ever time I get subbed out it’s for one little mistake and then my team gets out there and just does nothing the whole offense is crippled and it’s just isos and he loves it for some reason
Idk why I’m here I love my coach
Your a lucky one haha
Same even tho he gets angry easily
Im dealing with the same thing, thanks
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Man, the most frustrating things probably are when he screams at you for the smallest mistake/thing you overlook ( it does not really happen to me, I am just saying), and (probably the most) when your Coach favorites other players who are not even trying to be good/great, just because they are good friends with their parents etc. This sucks, and this is really frustrating when he is more tollerant and gives them more freedom in the offense to do what they want more often than others who give more effort. It sucks.
Yeah this has been the worst played the obedient players who make mistake over mistake and play bad defense. Over players if given the same opportunity would thrive. So sad.
Thx sm this will definitely help me with my coach
I am a Sophomore in high school currently the season started, and I was moved down from varsity to jv a month before the season because of the varsity coach wanted older kids to play, however my freshmen team coach from last year moved up to jv coach because the previous coach quit, I was furious when all this happened. but last year the freshmen coach wouldn't communicate with me on why I got moved as a starter to the bench midway through the season on the freshmen team regardless of how much I asked him why? I was playing really well even though I was coming off the bench but for some reason he just wouldn't start me. One game we were playing a ranked team and I had 15 points in the first half and keep in mind I had a fever the day before so I missed practice, but we were losing by 20 points. He comes in the locker room and threw his keys and yells at all of us. He told some of us to quit while looking at particularly me. Then the coach said that If I miss practice again then Im never playing again. I was like "Maybe this guy doesn't know what he's doing" I humbly put in so much hours of individual work and he trys to tell me what shots to shoot and what not to shoot? It seemed like he was trying to be passively aggressive to me. The summer in the off season I put in so much work while playing for 3ssb circuit team and I start on that team and I averaged 17 points and I tell u what I needed that because It felt like I was a slave to my high school coach and I was never playing like myself I spent most of my hours of the summer in the gym. fast forward to now he started me in some scrimmage games last weekend, but then today we had some little 20 minute scrimmages again, and he took me out the starting lineup and when I came into the game I had 9 points in only 5 minutes of play. It hurts to put in so much work and this high school basketball isnt working out for me so far. Im not going to quit the game I love so much, I will continue to put in work and ill wait for regular season to start. One of my middle school friends asked me to transfer to his high school and it seems promising. But ima go through this season and we will see what happens. Ty
Please make more videos more often on CZcams they’re so good
I love your videos. Deep game has made basketball so much more fun and simple for me. I've always identified as a sharpshooter and when I would have bad shooting days it would really get to me. I would feel so frustrated and discouraged and told myself I have to be better which only put more pressure on me. Now I relax and just shoot my way out of slumps reminding myself that it's a game and it's supposed to be fun. Something I'm struggling with is how to be a better teammate. When I go silent and play well I feel like I'm giving off a bad vibe like I'm better than them even tho that's not my intent. When I try to be vocal it seems like people tone me out and like I'm bothering the people on the other team. (I'm talking about playing pick up games not real games). Could you make a video about this or leave a comment?
Good stuff on the a coach's phycology. "The internal feeling will change the external situation" is pure gold mate!
I'd like to add an observation I've found to be more or less true regarding the subject. In my opinion, generally speaking its unfair to label lower level coaches as insecure by nature. In fact many youth and HS coaches are literally only devoting their time to for little or no pay so they can have a positive impact on someones future. This along with being reliable, honest, and teaching the importance of discipline, humility, and effort are hallmarks of secure and thoughtful teachers and high quality individuals of all sorts.
With that being said, yes coach's who swear, yell , shame, blame, and generally yap way to much are indeed little babies inside of grown (possibly obese) bodies. This type of treatment proves they are insecure and/or likely ego maniacs in need of a life coach or two themselves. These types must be treated with "kid gloves" as you have done a great job of outlining.
Many thanks keep up the good work!
It's not about Authority; it's about cinnecting with your players to let them BE, and how they fit it Within the framework of the team Yes; but let them contribute. Take the deep 3. Dive for a loose ball. Take the Charge. Go for the steal. Hustle on D. Do the little things that help a team Win. It's a Team game.
I needed this earlier but thanks
Coaches are the closest people to the team without being part of the team. They are human just like players, Understand and approach with that i mind and it can do wonders for getting what you want out of the conversation.
Most good coaches love the game so talk the game and show them you are willing to listen then they will give you the same courtesy.
Finally remember the team as a whole is a reflection of the coach when a team plays bad its the coach that gets the first blame so the element of control for them is important. I have my rules for players shooting long shots, i have rules for players taking tough shots, i have rules for playing against zones and mans and traps and doubles. We have them for a reason and if you can understand those reasons you will grow as a player and can have some influence on those rules going forward
Key part of what you said is “good” coaches. Bad coaches tear down at a way worse level than they build up. They don’t or won’t talk basketball with a player. They are dictators in their own world. Basketball is a game that was meant to be played by & controlled by the players on court. Too many coaches want to be more important than who they have on the floor, call way too many sets & just try to make the game more about them than the players. They’d rather their plays get the credit or system instead of whatever high level player. Don’t get me wrong , coaching plays it’s integral part as far as game planning, substitutions, situational basketball. But the Coaches we consider the greatest throughout history have had the best players. It’s the combination of both which brings success. IMO we have coaches who are coaching moreso for personal glory than the love for the game or to teach. & if you’re truly a well rounded human being , players should be able to come to you & say some things you may not agree with & you not take it out on said player in the aftermath. Coaches need to take accountability just as they ask their players to.
Good video
I just began Muay Thai… had a coach tell me “hes sick of it”… mainly because I get winded and can’t breathe well after a while in the beginner class. I don’t know why but it has just bugged me. I went from sitting on a couch watching movies to going to Muay Thai daily. So this was a good thing to hear. I know all the psychological tricks coaches use. However how can you say you are sick of someone that has been coming back every day despite getting breath winded and working through it, and feeling like shit for slowing another person down. I do have to get my breathing better. It nice to hear what you said. I was helpful.
I'm glad to hear you think so =)
Simon
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Makes sense
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Compassion u say, well I say this go with the flow attitude would be taken advantage of and has been being taken advantage of by the coaches. And this compliance by the players is protecting the system which hurts a certain population in our district.
While it's true that sometimes we really have little to no control over how our coach decides to play us, even if we approach them with a measure of understanding compassion, this doesn't mean that we're "going with the flow" and just hoping things change. We do what we can in the situation we're in - learn to fit better into the team system, work on the skills we need to improve on to get more playing time, and not making things worse by constantly appearing frustrated, which the coach could easily look at as being self-interested and not being a team player. While there are probably some extreme cases when non-compliance could be helpful, that's the extreme, and not something we can recommend to players -Simon, Team DeepGame
Can we have some of yours highlights in future videos
He clearly doesn’t have any lol
Personally, you should make a book
Screaming is a "skill" which gets passed down from coaches to players to coaches to players..
My coach doesn't even know what he's doing, I had to teach him how to call a mf timeout 🤦♂️
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DAWM bro! I feel you brother.
This may work for college students but not for some high schoolers whose frontal lobes are still developing. A coach, an adult, should have self awareness and mechanisms in place to control themselves. We don't want children coaching children. It's like the blind leading the blind.
Of course, there's still a huge (if not most) of the responsibility falling on the coach. Unfortunately though, sometimes it's just going to be the case that players will have difficult coaches, just like people can have difficult bosses. So it's important to have some sort of strategy to work with coaches in these kinds of situations - Simon, Team DeepGame
My coach injured me 😕
I’m being seriously too
@@JoJo-fx6or ???wtf
How
@@ballerbeans670 we were doing a drill where somebody holds a pillow or sum shit like that and shoves you when ur going up for a layup (it’s a basic drill).so he shoved me but missed my body and gets my hand. He sprained my ligament near my thumb. It was mostly like by accident but still.
@@JoJo-fx6or amen
Also Coaches are looking for gym rats. Guys who turn up early, and leave late. It shows you're coachable, and willing to learn and love for the game. Communicate what you can offer the team to your coach as a player, and trust me you'll get plenty of playing time and NEVER see the bench.. 👍
And never forget. Play defense 🤣🤣 coaches hate guys that can’t or don’t want to defend
If it were really this simple. Politics, entitlement, and favoritism makes most of this moot. My son does not go to a school with a top basketball program. It is instead, one of the worst programs in the area and the coach is young and gets outcoached by the rest of the coaches in the division. Players and player development is poor. The varsity team runs 5 out motion about 95% of the time. It's some Mickey Mouse level shit. Worse players start and get minutes would more talented players all the time.
@@kray97 I'm going through that right now, we run 5 out and flex as our 2 main plays and the coach tells us to not be robots but also run the plays. I would see a wide open lane to drive to the hoop and when I do and I make it he would yell at me saying "it's too much dribbling" The coach shows a lot of favoritism, He yells at me and my friend for "Forcing up shots" But then when his son does the same thing he praises it.
This coach of yours was not a good coach, his ego and his reputation with his peers was more important to him than any benefit you could have brought to your team.