Popular vs Unpopular girl having school lunch I Have you ever eaten alone?
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its terrible; a girl will be judged and bullied when non attractive, and be stalked and harassed when attractive
And yet in both instances, the man will more often than not blame the woman for his abusive behaviour. If she's "attractive" it's her fault for being a tease and saying no. If she's "unattractive" it's her fault for not changing her appearance with make-up/exercise/surgery to appeal to others. It's truly vile!
@@geebean9091 fr and TRUST me when i say to NOT change urself
i was fucking thin and like got bullied like SHIT so i did EVERYTHING to gain weight and after that they are like how did u become so fat- LIKE HOW ELSE AM I SUPOSSED TO NOT LOOK SKINY?!
@@geebean9091THISS. As a conventionally unattractive person this is very true
@@goldentoast69 The same thing happen to my sister. She's a skinny girl while I'm fat, more than me she's often bullied for being thin and when she gain more fats and weight, people hates her.
Welcome to earth
the "unpopular" girl has such an instant infectious personality - warm and bubbly. Sucks for those people in her school who missed out on having a great friend.
She knows how to react, she responds well, she’s a great conversation starter. She also seems nice and looks like someone who you will never have a boring day with. Definitely a great friend
It's quite common that people who are not conventionally attractive / bullied become very focused on perfecting their personality. We just know we need to have 5x as much personality as our prettier pears to be considered worth socialising with so we tend to "maximize" our good side by 250% 💀
Korea's judge much more heavily on appearances. Even parents will say it all the time. I understand the truth behind it, but you are treated more poorly for it. So it's not for any benefit - just shame.
Just to add, it's really severe to eat alone to eat alone there. Only junk food and take away.. You might notice why so much junk food is there. Just gives convenient places to eat alone.
I am pretty sure if she loses weight and do sports, she will become a diamond.
Love the active listening and eye contact from both parties. They didn't just relay their experience, but asked appropriate, thought-provoking, and meaningful questions.
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@@VinnGibbon Why are there no comments under this comment about comments under this comment
Here’s a first comment - when you’re video recorded and posted online, you know you gotta be nice in front of public eye. But we really know exactly why one of them is popular vs unpopular
@@1101G12646 why do you assume the popular girl dislikes her? their conversation was meaningful and she didn't show any signs of resentment.
@@shihothesilly I didn’t say that. I said there is a reason why one is more popular than the other . And you ought to be nice if you’re filmed
Since everyone’s commenting mostly lovely things about unpopular girl and they are all things I agree with - she is delightful, indeed - I’d like to show my appreciation for the popular girl as she also deserves to know how lovely she is and that she’s more than just a pretty face. I appreciate how well she listens to the unpopular girl, she listens with kindness and compassion. She is considerate in the way she offers words of comfort to her new friend, no superficial comments, clumsy words or sugarcoating but words of sincerity, openness and showing insight through her own experiences that being slim and beautiful also comes with its own set of problems. I feel that she is a gracious and warm person, it doesn’t surprise me why she’s popular. I hope I’m not mistaken in my observations of her; that what she’s shown here is not just for the camera but that this is just who she is as a person. In any case, at least in this video, both girls are wonderful individuals and beautiful in their own ways.
beautifully said
Don't we alllllll know why one girl is more popular and why the other one isn't....
@@1101G12646 I mean if you're trying to compare others, how about we compare your giant forehead to the earth's circumference, which is bigger?
@@dianamunoz4296 yours I guess
God I wished how that was how popular girls worked where I'm from. They're so shallow, they have no personality and they're so, so judgemental
the interaction of "wasn't lunch the best?" and the serious "...there was an incident.." keeps making me laugh LMAO
It’s hilarious
1:50
Could you say, it made you giggle?
@@QuietScoutYP yes indeed
Pun intended？
The “unpopular” girl is such a great conversationalist. I love that. I’m a big girl, and was bullied in school ‘cause of my weight as well. It has made me more of a hermit as an adult. I applaud her for speaking so freely and comfortably, and not letting her experiences dim her light. 😊💖
ikr like i had no friends in school because i had really good grades and glasses therefore everyone has seen me as the "nerd typo". i was so depressed and sad at that time because i ate lunch all alone and had to take it to bathroom to eat it because no one accepted my invites to eat together, everyone had their "group". i got over it tho but that was so frustrating. i would met the unpopular girl and easily be frienfs with her, shes just a human afer all... 😔
I have the same thoughts. She is so eloquent and endearing. I was also bullied at school for being fat and weird, and I still have panic attacks when I have to talk to strangers. It's great that she's grown into such an interesting person!
it's not good to be fat
I can relate lets be friend 😢
@@davve6057 Either way its not good to be mean :)
they both have such a genuine presence, they both seem so welcoming and i really appreciate that, its a really amazing quality
We don't know that, alot of people act nice and caring when the camera is on.
literally, plus the unpopular girl was like really friendly, nice and well spoken, which no offense isn't expected from someone bullied their whole life?! she's amazing
to me it’s adorable how they instantly clicked and how neither of them boasted about themselves and just shared their experiences
I like when people image God and show humility and treat others as equals. Beautiful
I like the fact how they both have different bad life experiences where they can't relate with each other but still can empathize with each other. This video was a very interesting one !!! Giggle
Did you just type giggle
@@kennythemasseuseit’s the accounts name lol
@@kennythemasseuseLMFAOO
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Lol it's the channels name
Well it’s always fun when it doesn’t happen to you
Hearing these girls talk, they're both so beautiful inside. They're sharing a meal now, yet highschool peers could never be so civilized to see past appearances. The girl on the lefts classmates missed out on a beautiful friend.
Yes❤
Yeah that’s so true
Society standards really fcked us over. No one cares about u unless ur somewhat attractive and no one would give af about personality either cuz all they see is a “cute person”
But when they finally get to know said person, they’ll see how bad of a person they are and after that they’ll start to look unattractive.
@@imtired5401People try to say "well good looking people have it hard too!" But how often do you hear about people getting cosmetic surgery in an attempt to look worse? If any given person had to choose between being ugly and good looking would they choose ugly most of the time?
@@ohtartarsauce6301
I honestly do not think anyone would chose to be ugly since society ruined everyone and the way they think. Beauty standards poisoned many of us so if people would want to fit in I think they’d chose to be attractive.
no, you don't know inside their hearts
The unpopular girl is such a vibe! And actually facially really pretty and cute. She’s a great conversationalist. Such a shame for people missing out on her friendship.
Doesn't matter if she's pretty or not people should be treated with respect unless they are criminals who k*ll, r*pe... Etc
@@zizojaezekeom3565 ?? what
@@zizojaezekeom3565I mean yea your right but… why reply that to this comment??? I don’t see the connection…
@@zizojaezekeom3565why’d you have the need to say that
@Cherylmayblii Because the OG comment thought it was necessary to say "facially pretty" meaning the rest is not, which in turn could be seen as a back handed compliment. Quite rude actually. I get that people express their honest opinions and sometimes mean well, but the lack of self awareness when speaking shows ignorance and can potentially hurt others even if there was no malintent.
The "unpopular" girl seems like such a nice person to have as a friend
And she seems like someone amazing to have a conversation with at school or anywhere :)
I know that the school hierarchy system in korea is quite tough so idk if this video is nice since they both seem genuine and kind but also just proves that popularity is a big deal
Sadly, It's not only Korea. Many schools have these problems :(
Friends are overrated, the more you want to be popular the more you actually empower the bullies
@@final-ben-sanbullying is a problem worldwide but Korea has it pretty rough. If you haven’t heard or watched the Korean drama The glory, it’s based off of real life experiences. But that’s just one story. There are many that have been told and some that haven’t yet.
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@@final-ben-sanKorea is worse though. In America popularity exists but people don’t pay attention to others as much in school. At my school people rarely even acknowledged people outside their friend group, and I didn’t see that much bullying, just fights between friend groups.
I was never bullied in school, but I struggled making friends and was often cast to the side by my peers. I ate alone in the back of the library everyday until I had a class where we were allowed to snack on food, I’d eat my lunch as fast as I could, so I wouldn’t have to eat in the library. It didn’t bother me too much though, what made me anxious was school assemblies because everyone would group up and have fun with their friends and I’d feel so awkward sitting alone. I’m 21 now and as soon as I entered the adult world, I started garnering attention from people as my looks and confidence improved. Although now, I go out alone, as well as, to restaurants alone on my own will and I enjoy it :)
Ain’t no way you weren’t popular if that pfp is real
@@Typhonnyx people can change a lot between high school and adulthood.
Same here, except I was actively approached by a few of my classmates to join them at the start of the school year but my social anxiety and awkwardness f'ked it up so hard that I never got invited again... 🤷
@@laiyinquan8355 same thing happened,, I usually get attention at first because look wise I'm good but because I'm introvert and due to social anxiety I never feels comfortable so atlast they ignores mr😢
@@AngamRei I feel you. Sigh, life's so hard for us introverts in school, but at least it wasn't as bad for me as Jianh since we didn't need a meal buddy for lunch; I was free to sit wherever and alone as much as I please.
i like how when they were talking about their experience with people on the street, you can see how even though they may not seem similar to each other that they both relate to one another with their experiences with people based on their appearance. It just puts into perspective how even if you are popular or unpopular or if you're 'ugly' or 'pretty' you can still experience really shitty things.
I'm against bullying, but being overweight is a choice 99% of the time. She could have dieted and exercise and her social life would be increased dramatically.
@@user-uy1rg8td1vwhat point are you trying to make ??
Moral of the story - girls for girls! Both are exceptional ladies who each have different struggles of experiences. Ultimately, we should be lifting each other up always, just like these two
As someone who isn’t popular but not alone either. I used to believe these things don’t often happen but wow I was wrong. I’m grateful I was just a regular kid at school who didn’t have to experiences neither side of their stories.
You are so damn lucky
Yeah same, I was actually quite happy with being regular now that I think of it.
Yeah at my school bullying wasn’t really a thing cuz most people don’t care abt other people that aren’t their friends. This led to a lot of people being lonely but also little to no bullying
Same. And I wanna keep it that way. Not too much popularity but still have friends
Same. I moved schools a lot and I'm so grateful that each time there was a group there to befriend me! Getting the highest grades helped too xD
it’s so sad how they both experience major harassment just in different ways, they both seem like such kind people too :(
Cause most people are trash.
If you're ugly they look down on you and if you're pretty they will put you down out of jealousy.
@@babycherry8103 right? you can’t win either way and if you’re in the middle you’re boring and no one will notice you
There's no real way of winning :,> maybe there's is I guess have a small real friend group and have fun I guess but dam
@@babycherry8103 not really the truth. If you are objectively pretty, going through life will be much easier and have far more benefits than being ugly. Its soo much worse to be ugly. Its definitely nothing like being in the middle. Being really ugly is at the bottom, but being attractive is far from the bottom. Comes with a bunch of benefits to look good
@@tripleknotttttdon’t compare situations “ugly” ppl get sa and used too. Sorry you went through that but we all have our struggles and the comment your replying to is simply just a bit of a fact statistically pretty people have it easier. But that also doesn’t automatically invalidate the stuff you’ve been through it’s just a blanket statement. You deserve better hun
They were both so kind and considerate of each other, stalking and bullying are literally the worst things that can happen to a person, poor girls I hope this interaction helps them in someway in the future
omg I know where your pfp is from-
This is actually wholesome, two ppl u don’t expect to sit together and talk, they do and they find out how relatable and similar they are 😭
I was really not expecting how good the energy was between them before she even sat down. I would’ve expected it to be a bit awkward to kind of rant to each other without having much common ground to relate, but it just??? Feels? So nice to see each of them getting a chance to be heard. They were so attentive to each other and 🥺
Well, this is a continuation of a mini series they've done so they already know each other. They started off shy there but then warmed up to each other in the first video.
aren’t skz problematic
@@loveinstars What the heck is a skz?
@@OfficialKingJames23stray kids K-pop boy group
@@loveinstarsno
I eat alone most of the time, and people think I'm crying, but I'm really just tearing up because of how goddamn spicy my mom's food is.
(guys can we rlly js ignore the god in goddamn? when someone says marks for an exam paper they aren't talking about the name mark.)
My schools chili sos is sooo spicyy my eyes were teary ones too
LAMOO
LOL that´s a mood
Lmao
Pls don’t use Gods name in vain
It's such a brave thing for her to appear on this show and talk about their experiences honestly. I have so much respect for her!!
I can relate top both of them, for most of my teenage years I was considered ugly until the last years of high school, I was so weirded out by the sudden change of behavior of everyone around me.
Suddenly I was getting a ton of unwanted attention and everyone was weirdly nice to me, I felt overwhelmed by this kind of behavior because I generally like to be alone/left alone.
Honestly I preferred when people acted like I didn’t exist
I could relate to the girl on the left. I didn't have friends to have lunch together so I ate alone in the art classroom for the entire semester to pretend I have to work on my projects but was actually hiding from my classmates or people from my grade. Then I had a fake friend as a lunch partner in the last 2 years of high school. That experience was awful and I completely forgot about it until the girl on the left talked about it... It was a painful period in my life and now I like eating alone.
My last two years of high school I ate in the art classroom too because I just couldn’t deal with all of the crowds and large friends groups during lunch time.
This was my case in grade 5 6 and 7
Was so awful
Worse memories I had
And now I'm alone again after my friend did some stupid sh!t
Eventhough many ppl tried to be my friends at first, even the popular girls wanted to be my friend bcz I was "pretty"
But my personality was the issue
I was very quiet and shy
So all I could do was to look at them and wish it was me
Solitude is sometimes a gift that allows us to grow and appreciate ourselves as we are. Let’s focus on the positive, there is always a bit of light even in the darkest places. Hope u all doin’ good, i wish u the best :)
@@lana_354Same
I was similar (wasn’t completely alone but still opted to be a loner because most of my friends are not in honors classes). I even set up a sleep schedule for which easy classes to sleep in because people in some classes made me feel socially uncomfortable. The cliques are stronger the more you go in smart classes. The worse part was that I basically starved myself the whole day because I only ate food at the last period which is art class (where all my friends are). I don’t even remember if I drank water adequately either… As scary it is to eat alone in a cafeteria, try eating small snacks at least during class throughout the day, you wouldn’t want to develop an eating disorder [I don’t have any but at that time I almost did].
As an popular guy at my school, whenever I talk to "unpopular girls" people usually glare at us in intensely.
Especially girls, it got so bad that I literally got cyberbullied. I can't imagine how the unpopular girl went through tbh.
Quite literally that time I understood how strongly people judge on our appearance. That girl I was talking to was intriguingly based/fun to talk with and our convo usually ended up in deep topics such as philosophy, consciousness, history ect. Such a W person. Hope she is doing well
Friends are overrated, the more you want to be popular the more you actually empower the bullies
Why did they cyberbully you tho?
wtf. u still in grade 2?
In actual reality, you caved to the opinions of a bunch of people who won't remember you after graduation and chose them over a genuine friendship just so that you could "save" your reputation. Nothing to see here but a scum coward.
I am sry,but still this type of things happens in school?
It’s warming to see both of them talk freely about their experiences. Lovely people
I never experienced any of these things at school, but I did experience seeing someone eat alone. In 6th grade, my friend and I went to lunch, and we sat with this boy, who would eat alone every day, and I wanted to be his friend. He was so sweet. Truly a rare gem these days. I would bring him candy, but he would always say he was going to give it to his brother. That make him seem even more kind. He was quiet, smart, and just a good person. My friend would ship me with him because she thought we looked cute together 😂. But I didn’t like him at the time, I just saw him as a friend. Haven’t seen him in person since. I moved away before 8th grade, and currently about to be in 10th. recently that same friend told me about him and showed me a picture, and he looks and awesome. Apparently he does so many sports, he cares about school, he’s respectful to girls, and he’s kind. When I saw the picture of him I think I fell in love… that guy is exactly what I want in a relationship. Physically and personality. I just wish I could see him again…
Hey you never know!😂
@@painlaine6636 yeah your right Thanks😁 hopefully I’ll see him again one day
get his insta or smth
@@erianisdeleon4952 wish I could but I don’t have insta n I’m not that confident in myself to ask for social media 💀
I'm surprised at how sitting alone made other people talk about you negatively. Personally, i used to search for empty places to sit so i could watch whatever i wanted or just enjoy eating on my own. If anyone noticed, they didnt care. I really feel for the girl on the left, because though i experienced being alone at lunch, it was never a hurtful experience.
I honestly admire people who sits alone while at lunch, like you guys are so brave.
There is a big defferance of being left out and by choice to be lonely.. left out by own friends really effects and other people easily sense it
Lol me too. As a slow eater, I liked eating alone because if there was somebody with me they'd prob talk to me which distracts me from eating.
I use to eat with people but they kept asking for my food and this wasn’t even friends, these were people I barely knew. I was uncomfortable and said no and they started to talk shit about me. I then started to find a place to eat my food by myself.
When you eat by yourself due to being bullied and excluded, it does suck. Why? Because humans are social beings. Eating with others means comfort, protection, and belonging. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to eat alone, I do it myself cause I want to enjoy my food. Though when we eat by ourselves due to people casting us away it uncomfortable, lonely, and hurtful. It doesn’t feel too good once you see the stereotypes movies depict high school(ers).
Having teachers ask students to sit with you not only hurts your pride but you’re treated like a sad lost puppy that gets treats from the locals out of pity. The one thing I hate the most is getting pitted on cause it makes you feel inferior and weak while others get the praise and high of “helping” someone who is low and beneath them.
@@mintealeafyby any chance were those people asking for your food because of financial difficulties or otherwise being malnourished by their parents (perhaps as punishment?)
It's interesting to know how eating alone is a big deal in Korea or America. In my country, at least when I was student, it wasn't something people even thought about. Main concern was to grab food during a break, quickly find a spot and eat as fast as possible, because time of a break is pretty limited, so was a sitting area.
Wow I hope you get a good rest 👍 I can't imagine not being able to talk with friends during lunch
Same with me, eating during break just about who will get the food fast.
In the Netherlands, nobody cares if you eat alone or drink coffee alone. I love it.
@@Edge9404 yes, in Belgium it's the same. Literally nobody cares lol.
and in china
This is a good example of a great speaker and great listener having a conversation
I really like both Jiahn ad Yujin. They're both young women with very different social standing but they both speak from the heart and the mind with wisdom.
Jiahn, as a large girl myself, you have my heart. Please know you seem like a beautiful young woman on the inside and out, even if some rude people don't see that. It's obvious to me that you have a large, caring and sensitive heart, and that is a trait that few carry. To me you're beautiful.
Yujin, you too seem like a beautiful young woman in and out. You showed so much respect and understand towards Jiahn, and shared your frightening experience with such bravery. Do not be afraid to carry yourself and others with pride, and defend yourself as necessary.
Being conventionally or unconventionally pretty shouldn't be a burden to either of you. Nor should your social status. I hope if nothing else that you two become acquaintances after this, it really seemed like that was a healthy start to something that could be beneficial to both of you.
With love from the United States,
Tori
As a girl who was bullied and struggled to make friends, it hit close to home when she talked about the school staff sending kids to me so I wasn't alone. It was so awkward and I started avoiding them cause I knew they were just doing a favor
Edit: typo
As another person who was bulled a lot and still is, I’ve had a somewhat similar experience. We were in gym and I had to do a push up test and I did the least out of my group, behind me a few girls were snickering and pointing at me and I eventually started crying, the P.E Teacher asked me what was wrong and made them apologize to me for it, I felt embarrassed that he had them apologize because I felt like it wasn’t their fault, I had serious suicidal thoughts at that time (5th grade) and I wanted to end it so badly to the point where I ended up in therapy. I am now in 6th grade and have gotten over these feelings and have a small group of friends who care for me🤞🏽
@@rockcandyisbestcandyforall I'm so sorry you had to go through that, you're so strong for pushing through! I'm glad you're doing better now 🩷
Oof. One week after the beginning of highschool my teacher did this (thanks to me mom) and I had to shut that shit down sooo quickly. I will never forget the faces of this group of girls of my class that randomly approach me at recess to check on me. I made it clear that I'am good, I don't need pity, i'll make my own friends at my own pace if I need too and we're not doing this ever again !
This happened to me, the girls that I was forced to sit were obviously making fun of me. I made it clear to the staff to not do it again
Same here. Or teachers would sit with me. This was in HS. I wasn’t bullied but I was just odd and could never fit in. But I never had drama with anyone. No one ever seemed to have anything bad to say about me. But I just felt like deep down they didn’t like me. I wanted to leave HS asap
Now that I’m older ( because of my style & looks) many ppl assume I was the mean popular girl in school. So many avoid me… I Can never catch a break 😅
Being in Korean middle school after growing up in the states, I got bullied, sexually harassed, and teachers also ignored my situation. My family was poor and the middle school lunch was free, so I would eat the food for a while alone until I kept hearing all the classmates and other people looking at me weird and talking about me.
So I stopped eating in the cafeteria but rather hid in the bathroom and would eat bread or something small that I’d buy for a dollar. Most of times I starved.
Now, I have a lot of Korean friends who would bother me to go drink and eat but just thinking about my middle school years even though it’s blurry, I felt like shit the entire time. Never will let that happen if I ever see it to someone else.
why would you move to korea if you were poor tho?
@@swagjico3762that’s what you got out of that? lol
@@swagjico3762 because my mother had visa problems and I didn’t have another parent to stay with.
I’m so sorry you’ve to experience it. I wish you are kind to yourself now ❤
@@swagjico3762is your brain dead or something
I had this same exact same experience when I was in middle school. I didn't have any friends to eat with at my lunch table and it made me really self conscious so I wouldn't eat any of my food. Sometimes people would even ask me to have the food on my tray. It got so lonely that I started to bring a book to read and it helped pass the time and drown out my surroundings. One day my teacher asked me if I had any friends in other classes, which I did, and she let me go sit with them. I'm really grateful for her because once I started eating lunch with my friends I actually looked forward to lunch time. This video brought back some unpleasant memories but I'm also glad to know that I'm not the only one who went through something like that.
They are both so sweet and its cute to see how they care and empathize with each other even if their experiences are different
They both have different types of bad incidents but still empathize with eachother. i can tell the popular girl really felt bad for the unpopular one even though she never experienced something like her. It's so nice to watch these videos
Both of the girls are so polite , its amazing!!
And fake 😂 they both admitted to be pretending in their experiences... here school life none cares if you alone or not, fat or ugly or whatever system is a bit different too but never seen someone cry to eat alone infact i would have loved to eat alone away from constant bla bla of my friends and them wanting to eat off my tiffin . But can't deny eating from theirs is best 😂 so can't say otherwise.
Our school extends from 6am to 1pm or 7am to 2pm so we have just a small eating break within our regular class
Idk what system these ppl have but they sound fake and pretentious...
@@afrozmunib1698 you do realize not every school is gonna be like yours 💀
@@afrozmunib1698 that moment when you think everyone lives in the same environment and culture as you! slay uneducated king 😍😍😍😍
I love that they got along and seemed to really understand and have empathy for each other's struggles. Very sweet video. 💖
I love how they are so respectful to each other and nice❤❤
It’s better to eat alone sometimes rather than having fake company around. I always ate alone in hs although it gave me anxiety :’( but it gave me self worth to be dependent on myself.
I never had a problem like that, because where I live there's no lunch break. We used to study 5/6 hours everyday (from 8 am to 1/2 pm) saturday included and there was no afternoon, so I can't really understand the struggle, but there was a break in the middle of those 6 hours. I'm lucky because I never really had to spend it by myself, though at the same time I also got to experience bullying during class.
I thought that the fact that I had friends was a blessing, seeing how much psychological strain I had to endure in my class, just because of a few entitled and ignorant people. Trust issues and anxiety were my second name.
This!! I actually prefer to eat alone than eating with people I'm not close with or don't really want to be friends with. I'm an introvert and during the 20 minutes of lunch break we have at school I don't mind looking at my phone and just relaxing and eating.
@@arya.5 Friends are overrated, the more you want to be popular the more you actually empower the bullies
Yes! It's difficult to understand, and rightfully so because it's fun to have friends and eat together with them, but in the end, you just have to be okay with being with yourself. I'm currently in high school and I often eat alone, I have "friends" but they ignore me all the time, so I decided to just eat alone because, like you said, sometimes it's just better to eat alone than with people that bring you down. Ended up being a much more pleasant experience :)
Jiahn’s personality is so attractive to me, she seems so mature and intelligent. I love her for that :))
I rlly love their friendship together and I hope they stay friends outside of this channel
For a long time I didn't realize how privileged I was in school, everybody knew who I was and it was easy to make friends because people would simply aproach me. All the teachers knew my name and they all liked me, the principal was almost like my best friend, we still see each other sometimes and he always give me the best hugs. I was my class's leader during all my high school period (elected by my own mates). I never really realized how great school was for me until I hear reports of people having a hard time there, I would love to go back in time and look more around me and make friends with excluded people, I was so centered in my own world that I don't even remember if there were people who were being left out. I wish I could change somethings...
It’s good you have the awareness now. The best thing you could do now is try to make ppl feel seen
Many teachers at my school knew who I was too, and as an honors student for a couple of my classes, I was always with the same people. Being in honors/AP is like spending your entire high school life together with the same group. However, I tended to enjoy the company of others who also felt excluded and alone. They are always so reserved and full of thought, and I always liked hearing from them and becoming close friends with them. I found it difficult to say goodbye to them as I graduated this year as many were underclassmen. I strongly believe that people should venture out to find friends that they truly enjoy being around. Often times, the excluded ones are far better than the ones with tons of friends.
I was the complete opposite, I didn’t have a lot of friends and none of the teachers ever acknowledged me or said my name, I had such a hard time I considered ending it all, but I did try to spend time with other people who were left out or quiet, I knew how much they could give if they were just included. and the school system was fucked up
@@bradentheman1373I hope you're doing better now my dude. I had a similar experience growing up and fucking hated it. Now I'm a teacher and make an effort to reach out to kids who don't seem to have friends.
@@bradentheman1373feel u. My high school experience wasn’t good at all but I did make some friends. College is worse b my goal is not on networking. Sometimes I feel like being an introvert in NA = failure most of the time😂😂😂
I'm from the US and it's the same thing at lunch. There are tables for popular kids, tables for regular kids in the popularity hierarchy. and tables for the unpopular outcast kids. But one interesting observation I'd notice is a table where all the Korean immigrants who came to the US not too long ago sat in regardless if they were popular or unpopular. We had a huge Korean population in our neighborhood and schools. Overseas Koreans tend to stick together.
I’m also from the us and that wasn’t my experience. People would eat with their friends or sit with random people to make friends, and kids that didn’t have friends or were shy would eat alone. It wasn’t really an outcast situation.
That’s kinda how it was in my school.
Except it was a bit mixed. There was the table for really really popular kids. So they sat together. Then there was a table for the loud and sporty kids. Then there was a table for the quiet smaller groups of friends.
Then the very very shy and pardon my use of word but nerdy kids.
Some popular kids were considered popular for being pretty, smart, or funny regardless of who you are. That’s what I liked abt my class. If you have a defining trait the kids associated that with you and remember you.
I was known as the very nice and innocent kid. 😅
My high school was like this. Very strict social rules about where you could sit at lunch. Since I was never part of a popular group, I never got to sit at a table. For the first 2 years, my friend group was larger but still unpopular, so we got a place by a tree with a wall we could sit on. But then we had a bad break in our group that led to half of my friends leaving us and joining the drama clique that had a great place to eat lunch. For the last two years of high school my 2 close friends and I sat with the super unpopular kids on the ground in front of the library. It was the only place we could go where we wouldn't be harassed since it was so far away from where the other kids ate food and was within line of sight of the teachers that spent lunch in the library.
We had a large population of Asian students because it was partially a boarding school with lots of students from over seas. They took all of the tables inside the cafeteria. It was an unspoken rule that boarding students sat inside and all the rest found a place outside. There never seemed to be any infighting amongst the Asian students. They were all united together against the day students
My high school isn't particularly like this, "popular" tables and people didn't really exist, people just sat with their friends and didn't really interact with others that much (mostly everyone's just f-ing around on their phone) and people people who dress like what you'd think a popular girl would dress like just hang out with their own friends and keep to themselves. Even cheerleaders are just warm and open and friendly (it's the band kids who are really mean lol)
@@pathetic2399Okay. No one asked.
They were talking abt bad stuff the whole time but it was so sweet to watch this
they both seem so lovely 😭 i hope a friendship blossomed from this
I can relate to this, I wasn't popular nor draw attention into me. But being bullied I can relate 100%. If we become insecure and having the mindset of "I don't want to be judge by others." can make you feel uncomfy. But I learnt that not everyone will come to like you. Even being popular won't mean is pleasant. Making friends, and being accept is hard, but remember: You're always gonna be your own friend.
i love that there’s barely a moment of silence. they are both so full of conversation and kindness and understanding it’s sweet to watch ❤
Haha never forget the power that editing can have you believe
I love both of them omg. They’re both wonderful and I wish them happiness!
it’s weird how I can relate to both of them. i used to be quite popular in school until my popular best friend left. after that, i lost contact with almost all of my friends, and now almost everyone has forgotten who i am. i also ended up becoming shy and reserved. crazy how much popularity you can gain just from your friends.
It is really interesting finding out the two different extremes these girls experience. At first things do sound very easy with Yujin regarding certain things, but then she does experience some really nasty things like a different kind harassment than Jiahn experiences. It's quite scary.
Thankfully, we never bully our classmates, alone or no, people doesn't care. Mostly students eat alone because they want it, no student is really alone. If you want to eat together, just walk together, we ate together in the classroom, it's so beautiful time.
Nice and kind teachers who exists, deserve such a big clap! Teachers r very important to kids..
they’re so kind listening to each other
All throughout my school life, I've never experienced being popular nor did I hang out with that crowd. One time I was accused wrongly and those bullies managed to turn my "friends" against me so I was alone during lunch time. The anxiety was too much and my "friends" were looking at me from another table, some with pity, some with disdain, the bullies looking smug. That day I locked myself in one of the cubicles in the bathroom I know a few would go to and ate my lunch there while crying. It happened one time and it was traumatizing so I can't even imagine having to experience that every single day.
:(( I hope that now you've made some friends that are worthy of your time, effort and care.
Damn, we have the same high school life 😭 my once bestie was the one that started the fake rumors about me to everyone at school, and everyone even the ones I dont even know who they are hated me and ostracized me. All my social media got spammed by them calling me names in dm, tagging me in posts that are humiliating me, spam calling, etc. Luckily the teachers are keeping me company, so I always stayed in the teachers room during breaks. Guess what? These assholes followed me into the teachers room and kept on watching me until some teachers shoo them away (they still peeked into the door tho). Dk wtf do they want, thinking back they are just losers like bottom pit losers who are stupid and getting low grades every time (some even faked their graduation certificate bcs they failed lol), and they kept on using others as a shield to do shit to me, literally cowards and losers without any achievements. Im the type to dgaf about ppl, thats how i got through it and now i just graduated uni and landed on a really amazing job. Hope they rot finding a job with their fake uni certificates (if their uni even let them graduate with failing grades lol)
That is so sad. I can't even begin to imagine what it's like to be falsely accused and suddenly become public enemy number one. Hearts out to you and hope you are doing better now ❤❤❤
@@laiyinquan8355 Thanks, I really hope it never happens to you or anyone else 😭it's really just an extreme feeling of having to be at my most perfect appearance and attitude at all times, the moment I make a mistake even by a really really tiny bit everyone will start another round of rumours about me being 10000x worse than what I actually really do. Sometimes they will purposely do stuffs just to accuse me. One time I was jogging during physical edu class (everyone too), they suddenly just bump into me so hard that their gum started bleeding. Guess what? The person started fake crying saying I just slammed my body to them💩Telling everyone that person is the one who bumped into me is useless, they are freakin deaf and idiots who only follows "commands" from another retarded toxic person. And you probably know what happens next.
Jiahn and yujin they're so cute!! It's very interesting to watch this video they both look so beautiful and kind they seem to have a different personalities but being different is so cool because everyone is unique in their own ways 💜 thank u giggle for this amazing video 💜💜
Some of y’all are such hypocrites in this comment section. BOTH of these women are beautiful, inside and out. We are all human and all deserve respect. Bringing down the “popular” girl just to bring the other girl up and feel good about yourself is counterproductive. You don’t know if she’s had work done, and even if she did, it doesn’t matter. They are both flawed in their own ways, but each deserve kindness. That is what you should get from this video. Not “let’s defend the bullied girl by harassing the other woman who has done absolutely nothing wrong to her!!” This was such a personal conversation for both of them, let’s be respectful to both women. You’re making yourself look like an ass if you’re talking about their bodies in any sort of way.
Stop the cap
they’re so attentive and such great listeners aw
It's interesting to see perspective from both of the girls
As for me, I think I stand in the middle ground. I wasn't bullied (anymore now) but I couldn't make any friends. Appearance wise, I'm average and sometimes receive compliments if I do dress up. However, once they know my quiet personality they immediately cast me out. It might be an exaggeration on my hand, but it's one of the reason it made me lost appetite to eat on my own. Aside from lunch, there were a few times when we'd choose groups to partner for school assignments and write them down on the board. Eventually, all girls wanted to change out from mine. I know it might be cause they want to be with their friends but it just pained me a bit.
It's somewhat my fault as well. Since growing up I'm told I'm to clingy to people I like so it gets the wrong impression. In junior high, they thought I was too distant. Now, I just sit in the corner alone writing during recess.
This is so real. I didn’t have any friends so I used to skip lunch and hide in the bathroom stall until lunch ended so I wouldn’t have to deal with it. Also, the part where her home room teacher told kids to eat with her really resonated with me. My school counselor would try and get kids to eat with me but it hurts when you know they don’t actually want to be there. It’s so nice seeing them try to emphasize with each other even though their stories are very different. It shows that everybody can and *will* struggle. It’s just a fact of life. The best part is continuing through them.
I would also skip lunch and hide in the bathroom stall. Except no adult figure or peer stood up for me and confronted me about this. So, often, it would feel like no one cared. I would never go back to highschool
I used to do this too 😢 for years and years
Omg I didnt know other people hid during lunch😭 I did it in grade 9 and grade 10 because I didnt have any friends and didnt want anyone to pity me😢 So I used to either make myself seem busy by walking so fast everywhere randomly during lunch or I would hide in the library pretending to be very busy! One group of friends I think realized how lonely I was and invited me but I immediately rejected & pretended I was busy because I felt the pity and didn’t want to make them confirm that I was in fact this sad lonely individual😭😭
i love how that even after the recording stopped, you could tell they were still talking with each other ❤️
I remember being friends with these two types of people, the "popular" and "unpopular". In our senior year in highschool I used to be friends with almost everyone in our class. I was friends with the "cool kids" whom most people would let them say/do anything they want. and the people being bullied. There were two girls being mocked for allegedly lying about their social status and background. I'm friends with both of them, separately. It was hard to figure for a 17 year old, so I didnt really do anything to stop it. 2 years after graduation, I apologized to the other girl. The other one we all lost contact with. It's sad to think about this hierarchy in high school.
This also shows how different societies are in education world. I live in Finland, and we don't strictly follow "who's rich, popular" what so ever, is just connection (network) you've w/others. I love to improve my communicate (as introverted), but end of the day I'm still alone outside school. I don't mind it since I love to be alone, and people think/taught I was lonely. No, I'm not. + They're two different things.
I think it just depends on the school. I’m American and there’s not really a “popular” clique at my school. Obviously there’s some people that a lot of people know but that’s cuz they’re either involved in a lot of school events, really good at something, get in a lot of fights, etc. but it’s not like some feared group of people with class or anything like in movies. Nobody cares abt cheerleaders as much as they do in movies. There’s no one guy every girl has a crush on. There’s no clear class pres winner or homecoming queen/king winner. My class pres was someone I never even heard of until they won
@@cl-jp3uv truely.
1:57 i love her laugh so much. She sounds so comforting and funny and she’s also so gorgeous in her own beauty
This made me cry, as someone who has been bullied and been popular I can understand both and it just breaks my heart that no matter what you do as a woman there will always be someone that harasses you or makes fun of you. Like you can be perfect, someone will always make you feel bad. Nobody should have to go through any of this.
Just her talking about her experience of eating lunch alone really resonates with me and I started tearing up because it brought me back to middle and high school. I didn’t have many friends because of social anxiety and low self esteem and it was one of the hardest things to deal with at such a developmental age. I felt like such a loser because I’d either have only one friend or no one to eat lunch with. I never ate in the cafeteria during high school because I felt this overwhelming anxiety that people were judging me for eating alone or with just one person. And I hate that because of how I look and act now people don’t believe me when I say that I was unpopular and a loner in my teenage years, and it kinda invalidates my experience that I had then. If I could go back in time with the mindset I had now, I would tell myself that it won’t be forever and you can find power in independence. I would tell myself that you aren’t a loser for not fitting into the social circles that you have around you. And I feel so much especially for those that are/ were bullied because thankfully I kept my head down enough to avoid it.
Different country really different social experience. I am from Malaysia. Where I am, there's no shunning of people choosing to eat alone. We would just brush it off as he or she is probably not very sociable and don't like to be disturbed. And we can have friends of any sizes or status, popular and non-popular kids gets to mix together to have fun and do stuff. Now after watching this video, I feel even more thankful to be where I am.
Same in India
Same in the Philippines
as a malaysian, yep everything u said is true. no one minds who u sit with, even if its a stranger whos from a different race or religion.
Yeah those people in Korea watching these videos and stuff look fake to me like their kpop stuff but in the name of entertainment everywhere in the world they fool u so can't say otherwise but yeah this is nonsense right there😂.
Scared ro eat alone ? I used to wish my friends disappear during the recess so I can eat alone peacefully.
Whatever these koreans smoke its dangerous !
More dangerous than their kim jon un
I really wish we mixed together better like this. If you ignore conventional looks, imagine the friends we could all have.
Did u in your life ignore your so called "conventional looks" ?
If you say u did then my next question is Do you put makeup on your face 😂?
Free quote for you :
"Be the change you wish to see in the world" ~Mahatma Gandhi
@@afrozmunib1698 I'm sorry, but I don't understand.
I ignored conventional looks and chose my friends based on personality alone. I befriended the "unpopular" kids and always invited other people to join us when I saw they were alone until we were 6 people and definitely not a small group anymore. And I have to say they were all a lot nicer than the shallow gossipy pricks who excluded them in the first place. We are still friends way into adulthood. The first step starts with you.
@@Tsuukime My point was that it would be nice if it wasn't an effort. Simply excluding another group and generalizing people on a different merit is not exactly better.
i love this series and what it shows however i mainly i love that it brought these two girls together. their friendship is soooo beautiful
I was conscious of that as well when I was eating alone in Uni. I was a new student and felt uncomfortable eating with my classmates cuz different social background and they would ask me question abt if I play piano, ride horse etc. I would eat alone to be in peace but people would come and feel bad for me and say let’s eat together. But I wasn’t a great talker so we never hang out too. Or eat regularly together.
Thank you for today's video... It's crazy but I've experienced both sides of the table, in primary and high school I was always surrounded by friends and never felt self conscious about eating, but when I stated to get depressed, I realised I pushed away the people around me and stated skipping lunches, I would go to the toilet, or say I already ate or will eat later... I wouldn't say I had an eating disorder, but I didn't like lunch times, so I'd always go to the library.. in college no one from high school knew me so I made new friends, I was still shy about eating but my friends made me feel at ease... Now that I'm in my final year of uni and I feel much more at ease with my own company as all my other friends have different schedules... I still don't like to eat tho in public, but atleast I'm much more happier in life and feel better in my own body... The one thing is I've never been bullied or teased, instead people have praised me for my looks and personality, but until I loved my own self, I wasn't ever going to be happy... I hope everyone, whether they are popular or unpopular feels loved and comfortable with themselves 🥰🥰🥰
Man from what I could see I love how they both understand each other and emphasize each other feelings 😊
i use to eat with the cleaning ladies so that i wouldn't be alone
the lady was really nice, she baked cakes and made hot dogs for us to eat together a few times
I felt like I had no friends during Sophomore, so I sat alone during lunches. There are a lot of places you can have lunch at my school, so if you sit alone, no one cares. It was quite tranquil. I realized that I spent so much time and effort in finding people who would like me that I got to a point where I felt uncomfortable being by myself. I decided to be less dependent on others and improve my relationship with myself. It was hard since I felt self-conscious whenever I felt like someone was noticing my loneliness, but I just minded my own business and ignored the stares. That year was hard, but after I got my license, I was able to drive home for lunch, so that was pretty great. I still don’t hang out with anyone during lunch, but at this point, it’s voluntary. I have friends now, which I am very grateful for, but now I feel like I don’t have to spend every moment with them.
I will say that I am more on the introverted side and wasn’t bullied, so my experience isn’t as difficult as others, but that is how I dealt with sitting alone during lunch.
During my sophomore year I had no friends either so I chose to just stay in the classroom and skip lunch. I also didn't eat breakfast so I was quite unhealthy back then, but since i was so alone and depressed I really didn't care. I would've gladly starved in a heart beat to have a friend, and I'm sure my loneliness was partly due to my unaproachable face and many described my eyes as "dead".
Though at this point in time it had been 4 years since I had a friend, so I wasn't sure how to make myself seem more approachable or how to not be awkward around people. Honestly, I'm an introvert, I enjoy being alone but the feeling of being lonely is the worst feeling in the world. I can't imagine getting bullied on top of that, I'd rather be ignored than bullied.
i loved this! this made me miss being able to talk to people who cannot relate to me or me them, but feeling eager to hear what the other's thought/seen/heard/felt
they are such extroverts and get along so well, i would be thrilled to have them in my friend group at school
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Stay safe
weirdly I can relate to both of them. I was told that a lot of guys had a crush on me, a lot of people said i'm pretty or some have confessed their feelings for me. so in the 2nd grade of mid school, there was a group of girls in my class that rumored bad things about me because they hate the fact that their guy friend had a crush on me, which made almost all my classmates chose to stay away from me and bullied me verbally, even my own friends. I ended up hanging out just with my friend who is an unpopular student, but she kindly always gave me a ride home with her bike. she got bullied too because she liked that guy friend. so the girls forced him to dated one of their friend (she is our classmate too). I knew the truth from himself, because he hate the idea but forced to do it and doesn't want to hurt me too. I always secretly cried at home, I didn't tell anyone so the bullying lasted for weeks, until I told the school counselor and we ended up in counseling room to sort things out and all my classmate apologized. so til today we still friends but whenever I think of what happened it always hurts me.
After this, I feel blessed for my 6 amazing food buddies that most other peers couldn’t have. We’ve all stuck together since middle school, one joining us during junior year. And we’ve never missed a day. I love them from the bottom of my heart.
they both are good listeners and it's way better to watch them talking throughout the video! hope you both become a good friend✨
Awww they’re both so cute🫶🏽
I had made great friends in high school, they are still my friends, but we don’t go to same colleges. I was alone my entire freshmen year so I drowned myself with work. I learned how to enjoy just by myself and I’m grateful for that. Being alone sometimes and not caring about the norm is very liberating.
My experience includes both sides from these girls, but more to the one on the left. I lost all of my close friends before highschool, and all through highschool i struggled with anxiety and my social skills, so it was so hard for me to find friends. I used to hide in the bathroom for the entire lunchtime, and would barely eat. I also got pitied by others alot and i had one friend who was kind of a fake friend but i just tagged along with anyway because i had no one. One day i decided to just face my fear and i remember going up to these girls in my class, and asked if i could sit with them. They said sure and so i hung out with them so i wouldnt be alone, which took so much courage.
Now im in my last year of school, and i somehow made a bunch of new friends over the holidays. We grew closer and i was so happy that people liked me for once, and i was becoming more popular and confident in myself. But after a few months, they began excluding me from things and im left out and ignored alot. So i just hang out with other kind of friends or just random people i talk to. Im definitely alot more chill and less stressed than i used to be, and i definitely dont let their opinions ruin my life any more, and i dont hide anymore, which i stopped doing for my own self worth. However i still often feel left out and like i dont belong among the friends i have and im not as popular as i was before. I know people still look at me sometimes and wonder why im alone but id much prefer it than to hang out with fake people and not feeling comfortable around them.
Maybe its to do with my self confidence that i still dont feel popular enough to be friends with them or maybe they really arent real friends, but im just trying my best to be myself and finish school on my own.
I’m gonna cry they’re so cute ❤❤❤ please make more with these two!!
being alone teaches you a lot. some days are definitely harder than others, but keep going. you deserve to only have people who support you fill your life. ❤️
Jiahn is like me. I was severely bullied in school and often ate by myself. No one seemed to like me no matter how nice and accepting I was of others. I would have eaten with her every day and have been great friends with her if we were similar in age. This video is nostalgic to me in a bitter sweet way
bro r u ok
@@Kneecaptain Yep! Thank you so much for asking!
@@BreannaBaozi JUST KNOW THAT UR FAMILY LOVES u
@@user-go9hs3cv9s I know they do. I never doubted that haha
the “unpopular” girl seems so sweet :( she deserves better and she has such a warm and bubbly personality
that was actually so sweet ❤
this video rlly made me smile a lot, it was relaxing. Everyone knew me at school, but i wasnt popular. Almost like i was in the background, and because of this i always observed other students. I saw/heard things these girls talked about A LOT in school
0:37 the way she smiled melted my heart 😭
its incredible seeing how their school lunch looks. it looks amazing.
Both girls are really beautiful at heart!! ❤
I've actually experienced both sides. I was super awkward and quiet from 1st to 3rd year of highschool. I became a little popular on the 4th year because I started taking my studies more seriously and made it as the first honor in class. Hence the fourth year of highschool was the best year for me.
I am happy in my class, we include everyone during lunch so if we happen to see anyone eating alone we will all move and sit with that person. It’s been 5 months since I entered the school and not a day miss i get to eat with half the class together.
This video is an eye opener since I can’t really relate to either side. I was never really lonely since i make friends easily but was never really popular
I shifted to a new school 2 years back, and I am pretty sure there wasn't a single day when I had lunch alone or did not laugh even with people I didn't know, 2-3 months later, I already had a group of best friends ❤
Awhhh that's so cute sobbing
I really need a school like that 😭
@@darkf0g awhh do what? Come to my school with that friend of yours we gon' treat y'all the best ♥️
Lovely video ❤ the ”unpopular” girl seems so kind and nice
I FRIGGIN LOVE THIS ATMOSPHERE
Jihan is brave, cheerful and open-minded.
These are the three most important characteristics in women successful in their career.
I had both situations happen to me, the bullying when people considered me 'ugly' and I did no wear brand or expensive clothes during middle school, and the sexual harassment in the streets when I was in high school. Doesn't matter what you look like, other people feels entitled to your looks and to use them to suit themselves, if you are fat or considered ugly they will try to make you feel like you don't deserve to be alive, and if you are pretty and/or thin they will try to use you.
Giggle is the future, love this channel ❤️
I was in a similar situation to the girl in the video where I would never eat lunch most of the time (for 2 years) which I acknowledge is probably really bad. For me it was a combination of not having any friends, being incredibly anxious and hating myself which was basically an eating disorder where I felt like I needed to punish myself. I told myself it was okay because I would just study instead and get good grades but I was always hungry during class.
I've never had a problem with doing things by myself and actually liked it but it was the feeling of being the only one by myself that made me feel even more anxious and withdrawn; also something about eating in front of others makes me feel really self-conscious. Part of studying I guess was also to make myself look busy, that I had an important piece of work to complete that meant I couldn't socialise, except all of the time. A lot of the time I would even leave the building to go to the toilet stall because that was the only place I felt any privacy and I get incredibly easily overwhelmed in places with lots of people around. I feel like all loners share that experience of staying in the toilet stall. It may be a bit gross but not as much as everything else was to me. I'm kinda just glad I wasn't forced to sit with anyone because that would make me feel even more depressed and like I'm being ridiculed by someone who is only there because they were told to be. Honestly though I wanna hug anyone that's been through this kinda thing because I really do get it. Stay safe everyone ♡
Honestly, I've experienced both sides and could relate to them both. I was often ostracized by my peers for being too "nerdy"? Though I had friends, I always felt that I was often laughed at. I realized that I would be cutting off my life experiences and opportunities if I couldn't overcome this so I made an effort. I studied what was popular and wore trendy outfits. I encumbered my interests, I no longer talked to people regarding hypothetical situations, fantasies, philosophies, and all the things people found boring in our place at that time. And sadly, it worked. People often looked for me and hung around with me. I found myself new friends and have really benefited from the privilege of being popular and pretty but I also paid the price. That life seemed fake. Now, I just feel like I go out with a mask. But to be honest, if I were to choose which lifestyle to keep? I know I would still choose this current lifestyle. I had made true friends and enjoyed my school life. Being made fun of and overlooked made me lose my self-confidence. One thing I realized was that you just have to love yourself.
Really curious how you relate ”loving yourself” to quenching and deleting your own personality?
I have been to a couple different schools and here is my quick story.
K-4, tiny Christian school, it wasn’t about looks, it was about speed. Once every couple of months our PE teacher would get us to ‘race.’ She did it to see improvements probably, but you’d run around the gyms court about 20 times. Each lap, your partner would mark the time. I was the fastest girl by far, still am like 8 years later. The faster you were, the popular you were. I had two boys who were the fastest liking me and I liked one of them back. The girls wanted to be me and I was friends with everyone. I was the queen bee.
I was also told I was ‘dumb’ there and got grouped into the dumber class.
Next school, 5th grade. I hung out with the popular kids so I was popular, there were only like 10 girls. I was also seen as dumb.
Next school, 6 -7 1/2 one of the top schools in our city intellectual wise. I was one of the most unpopular and my teacher made the most popular girls hang out with me but I luckily found few friends after that.
Next, I moved countries, in the middle of the year. Last half of 7th grade till now, freshman year.
There are like 8 girls. One queen bee who is rather unpleasant, and then like 4 of her lackeys’ then there is me and my 4 friends. ‘The weirdos’
One, is a complete nerd who stays inside instead of socializing, she is sweet but…
Another is really sweet and really pretty, she gets everything socially wise.
Another is sweet, but doesn’t get a lot of social ques.
And then the last one. She thinks she is all that and I really dislike her. She constantly refers to be as being ‘dumb’ even though my iq is above average by 10-15-
So, I just wanna say to anyone reading this, it will change, and it doesn’t matter. As soon as you move schools, move away, it changes and no one cares if you were unpopular or popular.
@@Tindre Hey, this is just my perspective on this. It's not like I deleted my personality, quench? yes, but I didn't delete my personality. I still love the intricacies of life but I've also come to love the vainness of it. Now I just choose people which side of me I like to show and I have come to love both sides of myself. Sometimes, it feels fake but I rationalized it as "I started on the other side, that's why this feels fake?" But all in all, I'm enjoying my life now more than I did then. I think that's what matters.
You did what you could in order to survive school, it's ok. Part of me often regrets not doing like you, but part of me is glad I didn't. Truth is a huge chunck of the people that mocked me for my "nerdy" interests are now pursuing the same hobbies that I had as a child/teenager because some of those are trendy now (or because they're regressing). That or they aren't doing so... great in general ? They're pretty limited in their interests and in their life options as they didnt walk on "potential unpopular and uncool" territory. I do believe that allowing myself to explore my actuals passions, sometimes going way past them and discovering another thing altogether greatly helped me forge my character and evovled into a more fully realized adult.
I do lack social skills, I do have trauma, my middle school experience was all around shitty. Yet by highschool I was respected for the way I could incorporate my own culture to projects and carry them or how well versed I was on a specific subject. Now I'am a grown and well forged person for the most part, at least I learned to stand behind by beliefs and source of enjoyement and I got to meet people interests in the same topics as me or not, but they're grown enough to respect and appreciate me nonethelss !
@@sylvackerman6362 Don’t undersell yourself or you character, you put into a lot of work to get accepted by your peers and have a better social life, that’s huge dedication and work. I was simply too autistic to do that back then (or now) lol ! But the good thing about passions is there is no time limit for discovering, exploring or enjoying them, let alone progress. It’s cool to reflect on our past and the regrets we accumulated, hopefully we can now safely makes space for the things that were denied to us growing up :)