5 Keys to Start Conversations with Girls That Lead to Dates - The Fearless Man

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  • @TheFearlessMan
    @TheFearlessMan  Před 5 lety +3

    What’s the quickest way to improve your dating? Simple you need to discover a few things (1) what is it that you are doing that’s pushing women away (2) how do you self reject (3) how do women experience you? You’ll be surprised how such simple things make such a difference once you see that it’s not about attraction women, but rather what’s preventing your natural ability to attract the feminine? That’s exactly what we teach at Fearless live events - click below to learn more
    New York City - www.thefearlessman.com/live-nyc-yt
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  • @someperson7032
    @someperson7032 Před 3 lety +5

    I love how he teaches us to be ourselves and get rid of the part of us that is repelling or pushing women away rather than just some cookie cutter material to read out to girls. Excellent work Brian ✨ your CZcams videos have been immensely helpful. I wish I could attend one of your your live workshops but I'm a student and I'm from India. Hopefully you'll come to India some day

  • @xcx23cwea65
    @xcx23cwea65 Před 8 lety +26

    Damn so much work we guys have to do to win their hearts, no wonder men die faster from emotional, physical and mental stress. feels like one of those insects were the male fight against the odds to mate with the female and is eaten and dies in the end.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 7 lety +9

      It doesn't have to be work. It can be fun-it gets easier as you practice, and especially as you change your relationship to tension. Watch this TED Talk: How to make stress your friend | Kelly McGonigal czcams.com/video/RcGyVTAoXEU/video.html

    • @colkilgore100
      @colkilgore100 Před 7 lety +3

      I had a close buddy who never needed to work at picking up girls, he was that good looking. Several times when we were leaving bars at night, chicks followed him out to the parking lot and just jumped on him in the car.
      We once went to pick up some corn and potatoes at a Hudderite stand on the highway side, and the 3 or 4 girls working behind the counter, teenaged and early 20's, just freaked out, they went absolutely mental over him. The elders of the community had to be called to calm things down, then they asked him did he want to stay and impregnate the girls. They were going to pay him stud fees.

    • @stevensantana8049
      @stevensantana8049 Před 7 lety

      xcx23 Cwea this is why i like to be single man i would live much longer

    • @timjones2610
      @timjones2610 Před 5 lety +1

      xcx23 Cwea I completely agree. You just can't be yourself and just have a fuckin conversation. You gotta go through a checklist of 500 things before you proceed, but don't think about it. It's just too much.

    • @Onelove313
      @Onelove313 Před 5 lety

      @@stevensantana8049 I feel like harnessing our sexual energy with a partner no fap orgasm style might add longevity to a fellas life 👍🏼

  • @SeizedaJay
    @SeizedaJay Před 8 lety +15

    Brian, I took a free workshop with you (along with Cary) a few years back not really understanding what you were teaching. Now the older I get the more I realize that tension is literally everywhere in daily life. Learning to handle and play with it is absolutely vital for survival. Thank you for still being around and teaching this. I learn something new everytime I see your vids.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 8 lety +4

      Great feedback-thanks! Glad you're still finding the content valuable. You're always welcome back at another Gathering (free workshop)

    • @initiatorhater0688
      @initiatorhater0688 Před 8 lety

      specifically, what is the difference between carrying the conversation vs. leading the conversation? give specific examples of leading the conversation, does that mean the guy is asking all or most of the questions, making most of the statements, doing most of the talking?

    • @dragonchr15
      @dragonchr15 Před 6 lety

      I've been watching him since his YOuTube channel started and I STILL don't understand what he means....but I keep watching hoping that it clicks....

  • @00ps
    @00ps Před 6 lety +4

    The title made me think it would be another focusing on things to say video but turned out to be GREAT ADVICE.

  • @KenRuan
    @KenRuan Před 7 lety +17

    "You look like trouble." Said really fast it is HILARIOUS. LMFAOOOO

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 7 lety

      haha

    • @AZTigerMMA
      @AZTigerMMA Před 4 lety

      It used to be so money - now I refuse to say it - y’all burnt that out -

  • @brianhoffmann2403
    @brianhoffmann2403 Před 6 lety

    Ive tried this twice! The last women, I started laughing while looking her in the eyes; it simply continued my laughing or expression of emotions; I was smiling the whole time; how could I not! Its a start!

  • @silentexploration
    @silentexploration Před 7 lety

    It's amazing how you can vocalize what really works but what I wasn't be able to name. Esp. tension is really important, yet I wasn't aware of it for so many years...so I end up being a friend with many woman. Just not a long time ago I started being more open and honest, which also led to me accepting this concept of tension a lot more. And I'm so less scared to play with tension and women react so much better to me.

  • @Reverzi
    @Reverzi Před 7 lety +1

    I get it now, picking up girls always felt like a chore to me so I could never get to the date part which sounds fun

  • @xplosive73
    @xplosive73 Před 7 lety +1

    You are one of the best advisers in self development/no more nice guy field. As an "on recovery NMNG" I'm particularly interested in dealing with tension since I have lived all my life (34 years) escaping from it. Thank you for your advices and the positive energy spread.
    Btw, which kind of binaural beat is at the end of your videos and what purpose does it have? Greetings from Switzerland!

  • @hrvad
    @hrvad Před 8 lety +3

    Tension is, as you explain it, a great concept. Universally applicable. Today I had a meeting at work and this angry, critical guy.... and I just realized he was a sweet challenge to be savored. And I just was absolutely fascinated with how his boss sponged up his bad demeanor. I'm gonna connect with that amazing boss. This is not off topic ;)

  • @themind1401
    @themind1401 Před 6 lety +2

    I appreciate your works, you made a great impact on my life. thanks man.

  • @janakagrawal4261
    @janakagrawal4261 Před 5 lety +2

    This is just great !!!!!!
    Never applied anything yet ..but still it amazing the way you talk !!!

    • @radugheorghe1803
      @radugheorghe1803 Před 4 lety

      That actually the key.
      Speak like him with your accent,personality.
      Let me give you a example.
      When you were a new nice clothes you are more confident.
      He tell you to be more confident with your body.
      I ask a psihologist once.I have big nervous when I have drive exam becouse of examinator and she tell me "imagine he is naked for a second and after that erase that tought from your mind and concentrate on what you have to do.
      I dont do that when I have a woman in front of me instead I use someone else or something else to distract me in funny way for a moment,delete that thougt from my mind and confident appear without be smug.

  • @rainbowdashIBP
    @rainbowdashIBP Před 7 lety +1

    I had some, lets just say interesting things happen during hs, so I didn't go out and try to date/court girls. I've always been attractive, hell girls mostly came up to me. Just goes to show how clueless I was back then. Any who, I'm in college now and actively seeking girls. I have never thought of the some of the things you cover/looked at in that way! A lot of great advice that I'm eager to try out is on here. Keep up the great work.

  • @Timo_Schoepp
    @Timo_Schoepp Před 8 lety +1

    What you are saying feels so right for myself. Thank you, for your content!

  • @harizzayn2449
    @harizzayn2449 Před 5 lety +1

    Thanks Brian! This is real indeed.

  • @kingkhansadiq7509
    @kingkhansadiq7509 Před 5 lety +2

    You are really the man I have watched a lot of videos but I have learnt from you a lot thanks, for the videos.
    I am really shy guy towards women cause I am from different culture and in ou culture we dont talk with women's. Most of the time I get women, that they are touching me and flirting with me but i dont know how to react and what to say. And then they back off.
    Once two girls were hitting on me and i was not reacting then they laugh and said may be he is a gay.
    So I really got frustrated and I dont know how to continue conversation. Please helped with that.

  • @braxton1977
    @braxton1977 Před 3 lety

    Some really good advice

  • @davidcombest1134
    @davidcombest1134 Před 4 lety +1

    Thanks Brian

  • @ferbogadoaSalirAJugar
    @ferbogadoaSalirAJugar Před 4 lety

    I learned a lot, and enjoy it. Thank you, from Paraguay, thank you.

  • @DM-ic9zw
    @DM-ic9zw Před 7 lety

    I really liked this vid, very concise and informative, Thank you.

  • @b-aboutit
    @b-aboutit Před 4 lety

    Thank you. I loved the video

  • @caldwellkelley3084
    @caldwellkelley3084 Před 6 lety

    Merci Brian helps sort out what I've learned over the years.

  • @Hwoodification
    @Hwoodification Před 7 lety

    I'm not sure that you know how true what you say is basic fact! Good job.

  • @trentamusbriggs2539
    @trentamusbriggs2539 Před 4 lety +1

    So. Damn. Good.

  • @unstoppablefrank
    @unstoppablefrank Před 5 lety

    Good stuff! Keep up the great work!

  • @jimcuddy7407
    @jimcuddy7407 Před 6 lety

    I wish I knew this earlier, very insightful!

  • @cameronmiller6240
    @cameronmiller6240 Před 3 lety

    Is only the courageous truly live not a better tagline?

  • @nickgray8769
    @nickgray8769 Před 7 lety +1

    Helpful stuff. You are doing GoDs WORK SIR.. In my my experience I feel like I lead too much are there social cues if I'm leading too much

  • @sasavucinic2526
    @sasavucinic2526 Před 7 lety +1

    this is the one I was looking for. found it.it so usefull.. all of your stuff is great. thanks man, I'll try my best. I see now, I have a lot of work to do...

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 7 lety

      You have a lot of experiencing and adventuring to do ;)

  • @toddyonder9011
    @toddyonder9011 Před 6 lety +1

    The more you try to suppress emotion the bigger it gets. You should just accept what you are feeling at the moment.

  • @CHIMESTERDOTCOM
    @CHIMESTERDOTCOM Před 7 lety

    Dude, I cant stop laughing... "be able to handle when the shit hits the fan" wow. I teared up in laughter.. Its funny how this could \ mean literally anything..

  • @yasminecherfi-fe9ke
    @yasminecherfi-fe9ke Před rokem +1

    What would I do to come to your work shop?

  • @016632
    @016632 Před 6 lety

    Hi There!
    I dont want to sound rude but for short could you please make a video about how to deal with a situation where ur arguing with some one and trying to defuse the situation yet the person is attacking you seemingly only trying to hurt you and have tried to walk away but you end up arguing nonesense.

  • @kaloyan_Creates
    @kaloyan_Creates Před 2 lety +1

    Show my feelings? Since the day I was born women made me feel nothing but pain and anger, what do you suggest showing then?

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 2 lety +1

      Start with people you feel safe to do this with. Remember proactive pain and anger can be an effective way to protect you, even keep you alive. Reactive anger, for instance, rage, would be a much less effective way to dealing with stressors. Take it as slow as necessary. Many people suffer from having these emotions. You are not alone. Landon from Fearless

    • @kaloyan_Creates
      @kaloyan_Creates Před 2 lety

      I can't believe you actually responded, great first impression of that Chanel

  • @shekhuishq206
    @shekhuishq206 Před 8 lety

    awsome work

  • @budoshi-f2l
    @budoshi-f2l Před 7 lety

    i understand what your saying and i agree and believe in it. but there is no way i can do all that lol im someone shy by nature so i guess im stuck been single for a long time hahah my last relationship was in 2011 how sad that is ?

    • @oponomo
      @oponomo Před 7 lety

      If you think it's sad, than it is. You care about it? Then go for it even MORE! Use your feelings at your disposal. Frustrated? Go to night clubs treat woman "like Trash". Feel sad? Call a girl friend to cry on her shoulder. Feel indiferent? Call some girl to watch a movie or something completly neutral... The more you handle woman in different situation the more natural you will be around the pretty ones that you would like to have.

  • @Julian-ls6uc
    @Julian-ls6uc Před 8 lety

    great video

  • @mamtaraghuwanshi5540
    @mamtaraghuwanshi5540 Před 6 lety +1

    masterpiece $

  • @emprendedoressueltos
    @emprendedoressueltos Před 7 lety

    On number 2 I like to imagine that I'm an energetic statue. Is that ok?

  • @katzhunter4473
    @katzhunter4473 Před 6 lety

    Does fake it till you make it apply here?

  • @rosshillstrom8056
    @rosshillstrom8056 Před 7 lety

    So here is one for you fearless man. I asked an attractive woman for her number, she said yes. After leaving, I felt this great sense of emotional pain that came over me and, it lasted a couple of hours. what is this?

    • @christo2333
      @christo2333 Před 3 lety

      Its you unconsciously recognizing that you have held yourself back for years from doing something that is rewarding

  • @Melkitzedeq
    @Melkitzedeq Před 6 lety

    Conquered my wife with the first four. Lost her with the lack of fifth one…

  • @mnmn333
    @mnmn333 Před 7 lety

    you are really make dating is tough job.

  • @Ted1775
    @Ted1775 Před 8 lety +2

    Easy video to understand. But it feels like an instruction manual to deal with the fact that women are emotionally complicated.

    • @kanjikingdom
      @kanjikingdom Před 8 lety

      touché

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 8 lety +2

      The answer and your power is always within Ted. Whether you're a Christian or not, this is a good quote for you and your frustrations:
      God grant me the serenity
      to accept the things I cannot change;
      courage to change the things I can;
      and wisdom to know the difference.

    • @Ted1775
      @Ted1775 Před 8 lety

      Brian, thanks man. I receive this advice and I hear you. I am working on my energy and presence and showing up. I have many good, well meaning friends of mine advising me to not chase women.

    • @kanjikingdom
      @kanjikingdom Před 8 lety

      +Ted1775 just don't chase them, if they come welcome them, if not leave them

    • @Ted1775
      @Ted1775 Před 8 lety

      +didolhyani when do I get to honor my needs and wants? Just sayin'.

  • @Take076
    @Take076 Před 6 lety +1

    internal integrity and emotional vulnerability

  • @gabrielroz6124
    @gabrielroz6124 Před 8 lety

    where can i take this workshop

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 8 lety

      In Los Angeles:
      www.thefearlessman.com/the-experience-apply-now/

  • @timdixon3571
    @timdixon3571 Před 7 lety +1

    I can't handle the luggage women carry with them, if i date i can't handle the fact that some are boring because, they seem like all the other women that drove me crazy before, and i see to many Feelings, and problems in their everyday life. I love women but i got problems with them, and when i miss women and fine one ,a lot of times they drag me down and soon i rather be all by myself. I'm a loner i guess. Most women you meet today, has too many problems. " luggage". And i think it's depending where you live, because, the state i live in women are pretty bad, every man more likely had them. It's like an open hore house, plenty of women , but they come with a price. And when i think i can go to another area in the state to date one than it becomes a job, instead of dating pleasure, so i stay to myself and never go out. I can't remember my last time i dated. Sad but true. And handling their emotion and feelings all the time this becomes a bigger job, not only are they to emotional, they are very confusing, and women today are really strange. And with this picture i get from them, i rather work 72 hours a week, then to figure a relationship out, and their puzzling , and never happy, and every woman you date will never be happy, they just want too much , and you get so little in return.

    • @iamfrankcaceres
      @iamfrankcaceres Před 6 lety

      I agree with you slightly, although, I'm not sure if their isn't women out their without any deep rooted problems. At least from my experience these women are like the ones you described. Specifically my ex who ended up cheating on me a few times; who had no emotional control what so ever. Maybe it was age, maybe it was her nature and she needs professional help. It seems the bitch in a women now days isn't afraid to come out with equipped justifications.

  • @chrisbova9686
    @chrisbova9686 Před 7 lety +2

    "Hey baby what do you say we get a pizza... tension here... and screw?" I hate going to the movies, too much tension built up for a predictable end. I can get on stage and play songs that I've written, but women are just cruel wicked creatures that would love nothing more than to make themselves feel important buy rejecting men. I'm really good at scaring women off, as my ideas are not popular and my intellect dwarves theirs. All they know is it's fun to bring a good man down.

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 7 lety

      "How to Meet & Attract Great Women - Stop Pushing them Away" czcams.com/video/-eOiNxSgFyg/video.html
      "Why Women Suck” czcams.com/video/NAmNk9L5010/video.html

  • @user-ul9ne8wj8r
    @user-ul9ne8wj8r Před 5 lety

    hey Brian!
    where is Sense of humor come in the picture if u r a very funny guy?

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 5 lety

      Sense of humor is great, but become aware of when the humor is releasing tension vs amping it up or maintaining tension.

  • @jhonjohnjonjondoe5011
    @jhonjohnjonjondoe5011 Před 5 lety

    You guys don't have to do all of this tension stuff. You can create tension naturally by being quiet.

  • @Mokshamusic
    @Mokshamusic Před 7 lety

    Really nice advice .... But the problem is you're a bit sexist though . However , fear is a passion ... :)

  • @oaktree7908
    @oaktree7908 Před 6 lety

    ur awesome, i will meet u in person ok, alright; alight; alright, beautiful guy!!Have a great fucking weekend guy!!!!!

    • @TheFearlessMan
      @TheFearlessMan  Před 6 lety

      Can't wait to meet you. I've got seminars coming up in LA, NYC, and Bucharest... www.thefearlessman.com/fmlive_ref=yt

  • @AnsweringChristians1
    @AnsweringChristians1 Před 6 lety

    the only way to get girls is not by talking but by having a lot of $$$$$