FRESH HAIR CUT CARE! *HOW TO USE WAVE BRUSH & DURAG* belief in fatherhood
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- čas přidán 16. 02. 2020
- Since we cut Theo's hair, he's changing right before our eyes. It's a good thing that we are witnessing somewhat of a bloom effect happening in our almost 7 year old son. What's difficult is that we have to make a conscious shift in how we communicate, spend time and show affection with him. It's all a learning process... one of the things that I wanted to do was to engrave his name in a brush, I would have gave him my own but because I have 4 kids I thought it might be unfair to give it to Theo when Uriah is so close in age.
One thing that I know to be true is that every black man needs that "Good Ol' Brush," the one that he takes everywhere he goes. He doesn't share it. It smells like him, and he appreciates it because before every dance, party, interview, photo, etc, he anoints himself with the bristles, to further usher in his fresh.
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My dad is a Latino man born in the 60’s my hair is extremely thick and wavy/culry. My mum would refuse to do my hair because she said she would ruin it and she didn’t know how to work with it. She had straight and thin hair. My dad decided to learn to do my hair he’d get so many hair products to help keep my hair looking healthy and not frizzy. He’s spend every night after work drying, brushing and styling my hair before I went to sleep so it would look good the next day, he would also cook for my siblings and I, tell us how much he loved us. I cherish the moments he would do my hair. Despite the machismo many Latin men of his age usually have my dad was the opposite and I appreciate how open minded he is.
The Great Banana King This is a heartfelt comment right here. It warmed my heart 😁 but I also laughed when I saw your CZcams account name after reading 😂
Beautiful, I love the sharing of men, helps women understand you more and other "little men" learn to share their feelings.
Doree b I’m his only daughter and his youngest but he showed me how a true man should acts as well.
Brian Glaze lmao!! 😂
Ra, The Sun Of God woah there buddy. youu can’t help who you love. i get that that’s your opinion but for your children i beg you to teach them to love who they love
Firstly, making that brush personal for Theo was outstanding. One thing my grandmother taught me as a child was how to pray and intercession has become an essential aspect of my spiritual journey and walk with Christ. I taught both of my children(now 23 and 20) how to pray and this July I will become a grandmother and I have already envisioned teaching my grandchild how to talk with God.
Thank you for sharing your family with us.
Wow this is so beautiful! Congratulations on becoming a Grandmother♥️😭
NurseJade thank you so much!
My guy pulled out a dremel and Customized Theo’s brush?? Too Dope bro, your definitely a creative in all aspects!
super special and something he will hold onto and cherish. I would have to say this has been a true testament of growth for all.
love yall
Look at the Father teaching his baby, his son how to take care of myself and how to be a man! I LOVE IT!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️WOW, listen to Mom talking and listening to her son’s thoughts and opinions! I was raised like this also! Thank God for parents that love, teach and care!!!
Cheers!
C/o99 RamsFan right!! I would never think of that lol! So dope
@@ashleytemple4064 nnjjxi
Theo & Yvette have the same smile
My mom started teaching me how to sing around 4 years old. Taught me how to harmonize, hear when I’m off key, crescendo, and how to use vibrato properly because of that today I’m a songwriter. It’s one of my greatest gifts. 💖🕊
When I was a kid my mom taught me how to how to hand-wash clothes, especially those which aren’t supposed to be machine-washed..of the many things I can’t wait to pass this down!!
This is a real Gem!!
Same here I saw my mother grandma who were Haitians hand wash certain clothes undergramments by hand and other clothes and I do the same.
Shirley Dutes Yesss than hang them on the clothes line..good ole days
I'm one of the youngest in my family and I honestly can't distinctly remember my parents teaching me anything- my older siblings showed me everything. I hope our generation of parents don't get the parental fatigue some of our parents got with last borns.
I love this video ❤
Thank you! I can understand that. Parental fatigue is a real thing!
man!!! the babies dont even have that many pictures lol
Chidum U I agree I am youngest of 5 kids and I can only think of the things I have learned along the way that my parents did not directly teach me and it reminds me I want to remain present for my kids ALL of my kids and teach them personally
Im the youngest of 3. My sister is 8 yrs older and brother 5 yrs older. My dad taught me how to fish and taught karate but he taught all 3 of us that. My parents had parental fatigue but it was with activites period. My dad still teaches karate and fishing now that we are grown to other ppl and kids... but our activites we wanted or were interested in...no.... not so much.
The internet raised me and my friends taught me. Lol I have siblings but they weren't taught anything either.
I can’t wait to talk to my child about life while washing their hair one day.
Shenice Says right!!! Me too
“Hair is the essence of Black Culture”
If that aint the truth
That part with the birthmark 😭 “We thought we knew everything about you and didn’t even know where your birthmark was.” That’s deep mayne.
Theo is an interesting and smart kid I loved the clips with him and Yvette it was so precious
As the youngest I was stuck with rinsing the greens before cutting. As I got older I realized my mother was preparing me for the tradition of makin "soul food". I still suck at cooking but I can rinse and cut collards like it was no bodies business.
And that's the foundation of excellent greens!
@@holtsdh yes yes. Say it again for the people in the back! Appreciate this
I can remember cooking sweet potatoes in the kitchen with my Grandma, her take on “measuring” the seasonings is what I can’t wait to teach my kids.
Being in the kitchen with a grandmother is best part of life!
I can’t wait to teach my kids to fish. Those trips were the best trips of my childhood! As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that most of the time during that trip, my father was fixing our poles, putting bait on our hooks, and untangling everything. He never really got to fish, but he loved taking us out and showing us his favorite hobby. I’m excited for that chaos! I truly miss those days!
That is beautiful! What a great father!
Beleaf In Fatherhood My dad is a pretty rad dad!
My grandfather taught me how to fish. It was always an exciting time. He would let me eat all the junk foods I never get to eat. We would talk about life and whatever things he wanted to make sure I knew. I loved those trips. It hurt when he got sick and we couldn’t do them anymore. And when he passed it broke my heart that my kids would never get that same experience the way I did. But I still taught moth of my babies. My oldest caught his first fish when he was a year and a half, my daughter when she was 5
I ain’t ever been this early. This countdown is classy
LOL
You know this belong in the Black Father’s Museum of History man.
Good stuff man, all that mushy stuff too.
Appreciate it bruh ✊🏾
My mother taught me how to shop. When shopping at the mall we would go to all of our favorite stores and scope out what we liked and then go back around to the places that had what we wanted at the cheapest prices. She taught me not to buy all my clothes at the mall or else I would look like everyone else. But buy some pieces from vintage, consignment, thrift, ross, and even walmart. You don't want to look like you shop at any of those places. You want to look like you. That has help me create my own styles.
I could watch more of Yvette hanging out, one on one, with her sweet baby boy. Just allowing him to be.. while taking opportunity to pour into him. I don't why it made me cry but beautiful to watch 💜
I can’t wait to have that legendary stash of burettes/bows/beads/hairpins/rubberbands (all in one lol) with my daughter. Mine use to be in the 3 flavored ice cream container growing up in the projects lol. Good memories..my momma use to say go get “dat bucket” so I can comb your hair
jordy Aaaa right!! I can’t wait to do that with my daughter
Napolitian icecream bucket! Lol
Bobby pins, twisted strips of brown paper bag were hair rollers during my young age!+
I simply love this family.,...
Danielle Swain right!! As a 21 years old, they teach me some simple but meaningful lessons
Wow Yvette that was so special. History was shared with me and I like to share it with kids to say we are connected. The past does affect this time and our NOW affects the future. Just as the beautiful brush connection and Yvettes thoughts will affect Theo's lineage. Isn't that amazing. I love family history. Not just mine. It's so deep.
Super deep! thank you for being here!
I know this may seem really trivial but I remember when I was 5 or 6 I was at my grandparent’s house and I was struggling to cut my pancakes. I was so frustrated and my Grandpa sat down with me and showed me how to use a knife and fork correctly to cut with ease. My Grandpa is a man of very few words, so I hold that memory close. I can’t wait to show my future children simple things like that.
I loved this....the reflections and the honesty!!! Ashe'
If I ever have a child or children...I have notes from these posts....Thank u
Thank you! Find a way to save them. These videos may not always exist.
Likewise. Asè !
The heck! Why do y'all have me crying EVERY video now?! 😭 Your family is a blessing to me. Thanks for letting us feel like we're a part of it too 💛
To see that photo of you with your father...wow. Legacy 😥 It’s such a beautiful thing
I just love all of yall so much.
WE LOVE YOU RIGHT BACK JESSICA!!!
😁
I can’t wait to teach my son about Jesus and have those conversations when he asks so many questions about God and the Bible and I can’t wait to tell him how his birth was prophesied to his mother and I so that I can teach him about faith and trusting and believing in Jesus even more
I cannot wait to share my Dad’s special seasoning with my kids. He recently passed and I’m grateful I followed the Holy Spirit’s lead in asking him what was in it before I wouldn’t have the chance to.
Faith L my condolences 🙏🏾❤️
The life you're providing your children it's beautiful and a blessing. I would've never felt comfortable enough to tell my parents I want to feel special on my birthday.
This is just too beautiful man. Keep setting the standard and the bar Beleaf! ✨
He look older with his hair cut off 👍🏽
4:40 😎💪🏼🌊 the pass down... with the name carved 💯
When I was younger my mom used to boxbraid my hair a lot and that was our time to spend African mother and daughter quality time it will take 2 days to three days sitting on the chair and I would talk to her about anything I was very patient and I knew from a young age that if I want the braids to look really nice I will need to be patient and now that I am older -20. I learnt to first cut my hair and start my natural journey and I also learnt how to braid my own hair through youtube videos but also from my mother and I can’t wait to teach my children on being patient in maintaining their hair. I realised that living in the UK african mothers take their daughters to hair salon but my mother didn’t grow up with a lot of money so she learnt from my great grandmother and still to this day I appreciate the time and patient that was brought generation to generation to my mother to me.
I really love you guys like really 😭 such a great example of a black family rooted in love, understanding, and care 🤎🤎🤎
The letter to Theo at the end made me tear up. So sweet! It's great to see Theo smile.
This was soooo beautiful.
I was 8 years old when my mother taught me how to wash and iron my clothes.
I was 8-9 years old when my Grandmother (the church secretary) began asking me to proofread the church bulletin. Her trust in me solidified my love for language. My undergraduate degree is in English/Creative Writing, and I am a writer.
Crying!! Y’all are beautiful parents. I love how vulnerable and intentional y’all are about life! This is beautiful! Keep growing beautiful black family! 🥰
OMG the brush you made especially for him...😍 So special! I love how you as parents are consciously allowing your relationship to evolve with Theo. I can imagine that being in such a busy household with 3 siblings could make him feel overlooked-maybe that’s why he “wanted to feel special” for his birthday. He has always been joyful, but there’s just something different about him now. Like he really, really feels special. ❤️
Bro you need to read books and do voice work .Your voice make me feel empowered.
I'm going to cherish every moment I have with my father because I realised you don't miss something until it's gone.
I can't wait to teach them everyday chores like laundry, washing dishes, folding clothes. It sounds basic but they're the best memories i have with my parents.🙂
I’ve really embraced calling them locs because there’s nothing dreadful about our hair.
Y'all!! This whole series with Theo and his haircut got me tearing up! He's do grown up and it's such a joy to watch his joy ❤️❤️
I love seeing fathers teaching their sons new things! I work at a bank, so I often see fathers teaching and guiding their sons on how to perform different transactions. Things like this give me so much joy ❤️
My mom taught me how to make a budget and properly manage money when I was 10. As a black female, she wanted me to know how to be financially sufficient and understanding how a temporary “no” to something you want in a moment vs. something you need can free you up to many more opportunities to say “yes”. I look forward to teaching my daughter the same.
This right here... I survived the haircut with no tears but this one did me in. Theo is absolutely precious. To see Glen take the time and love to create a special brush for Theo and teach the maintenance of his hair while sharing the story of Glen receiving his brush from his father at the age of 8... To see Yvette holding conversation with Theo during lunch and connecting the significance of her firstborn and her introduction to motherhood... To hear Theo answer "friends" when asked would you rather have lots of money or lots of friends...PRICELESS!! May God continue to bless this family!!!
Jacqueline L Johnson right!! I love your comment!!
Since as young as I can remember, I always knew how to read. My auntie and mother used to read to me every single day since I was just a few months old. That always made me feel special. I'm going to pass that onto my children and also teaching them magic tricks. My father, whenever he was sober, was the best. Thats probably only one great memory I have of our relationship.
I don't recall any point in my life where my mom (I'm a woman) had conversations with me about things. Although she was in my life until she passed away (2016), I struggle to think of us ever sitting down to have any convo about anything. Just about everything I know, I either watched someone do it or I figured out how to it. I very recently made this discovery which makes so many things now in my adult life difficult. One thing I will change when I have kids is open communication and teaching.
sometimes teaching just involves demonstration. No convo. Maybe if you think back you can remember some of those experiences. where she did something a little slower than usual so you could see and catch on. Catching on is the best teacher because you feel like you earned it.
@@isaiah4600 understood, but that didn't happen either.
@@dwoollery no worries. I wonder if she felt like she was not capable of teaching so she did not. Maybe insecure in her own capabilities. It's hard I often taught myself things because my parents took too long teaching me while teaching my older sibling. It used to bother me like why can't they spend as my time with me as with him.
@@isaiah4600 My mom grew up in the "use your common sense" way of teaching. It was how she was raised.
@@dwoollery I see. Yeah, its hard when you feel like your not getting the contact, affection or attention you need. Especially when this generation of parents has more time to give to their kids. I think in previous generations depending on the circumstances a lot of people did not have the luxury to raise their children. So the idea that you have to teach them anything is a stretch. Just think 4-5 generations back most folks could barely keep their babies alive. The village has to teach most folks how to be a family/parent. Anyway just writing this is making me think through some of my expectations as a child and an adult child.
Even though I had such an amazing childhood, I cant remember being taught something so special that I'd like to pass on. I hope to have a daughter one day so I can teach her about our hair. It really is the 'essence of black culture'.
My son is two and I am absolutely loving watching him learn and grow. He has a small speech delay so hearing him speak more and more is filling my heart.
When I was little my grandma showed me how to eat chicken off the bone that’s the only memory I have of her.
That is a LIFE LESSON! Big-ups to Grandma!
That's the same memory I have. My grandma showing me how to clean a wing. She'd even eat the bone ends and marrow.
This comment just took me wayyyy back in my heart history❤❤❤❤
@@crystald8465 I know right
My dad taught me what stocks, bonds, and mutual funds were. Then we made an account
Didn't learn this until an adult.
The most important and what sticks with me til this day is when my father passed down to me this.....He said, Baby girl, Daddy cannot tell you how to solve your own problems, now is the time to make a decision and learn from it, whatever that decision is, it is yours. I never, ever forgot that lesson. It was one of the most important things he taught me and that was to take responsibility for my actions and my decisions (as an adult), from that day forward. I was away from home, in the military and I called home to ask him and that is what he told me. I was 18 at the time. Oh yeah, and he always used to say, when we were kids, which would you prefer, a backache or a headache? I always said a headache cause I thought a backache meant , I used my brain less. I am in my fifties now. Go figure. Ya'll still my favourite CZcams family!!!
One word Beleaf. Beautiful!
I was taught as a child to believe in the Almighty, respect my parents and elders, maintain excellent hygiene, love my brothers and sisters, and to be kind to animals. Worked for me! :D
I love this transition with Dad and Theo from locs to waves. This is going to be gooood! Love the music Beleaf. Fits perfectly with the theme.
Theo's never gonna forget this. I hope he keeps this brush forever. Such a sweet tradition.
3:43 Sometimes you seem to be the perfect dad but this disgusted face killed it. 😂😂😂
Customizing that brush for Theo was the sweetest thing I’ve seen today. Like many parents, I’m busy and I tend to just buy things for my daughter. I think she’ll appreciate something customized and thoughtful. Thanks 🙏🏽
The intentionality behind this video is blowing my mind!!! These small moments will live with him FOREVER. You and Yvette are truly living the scripture “train your child up in the way he should go” & I am so inspired. Blessings to you and the family.
Black authenticity👏👏 too beautiful I'm not a patent but you two have definitely opened my eyes for the future thank you for sharing your journey with your beautiful family, God bless. I'm touched❤❤❤❤!
My dad was a stay at home dad when he left the military. My father did not have sons and he chose to raise my sister and myself tough. My dad taught me independence, I look forward to teaching my children this. Being real with people, I can not be more grateful. He’s given me endless skills and advice.
Okay Love it, I'm assuming Theo's birthday is in February, if so, yay February baby, celebrated my 29th this year! Love the entries from Yvette, totally had me teary eyed as she spoke with my feelings being one in the same of my very own. Intentionality is so vital and I am so grateful to see you guys do just that! Still chewing on your question Bro...but what I'm most excited about is being present. ❤ and shout out to baby Uzi!! Ayeeee!!😍
Thank you! Theo's Birthday is on the 9th! So glad your here!
@@BeleafInFatherhood awe that's awesome, Happy Belated Birthday Theo, so awesome to share the bday month with you! My bday was yesterday!!🤗🎈🎈🎈🎉🎉
Emotional to say the least. But, refreshingly honest and uplifting video at the same time. Passing down a family heirloom that has so much significance is dope. Congrats to young Theo on his new journey and growth. And Thank you to Mrs. Melanin for the godly insight and reflection that has touched hearts of many mothers and parents alike. That was phenomenal! Keep on teaching and reaching through your family. Protect your life.👏👏👏👏👍👍🙏🙏😄😄
This is awesome! My Mom and Grandma taught me a whole lot, but one thing that sticks out is that my Mother taught me to sing harmony. Both she and my Grandma sang in church, solos in weddings and funerals. I have done the same. This is a precious memory for me because I remember sitting on the step with her learning and I was young. I felt I was about 4, but I don't remember, but I remember her getting a little frustrated like "that's not it," but she kept working with me! LOL They are both in Heaven now, and those memories of singing 3 part harmony with the two of them is precious. God bless!
My grandmother taught me how to sew and I taught my daughter. When my daughter came to me to show me that she’d hemmed her dress herself, it was everything!!😊 Beautiful video!
My grandma had us pray every morning in the car before school
When I have kids, I can't wait to take them to where my parents are from Antigua, Caribbean (I'm from England) and go on the same walks I did with my dad, picking mango and sugarcanes, eating them while we walked. Quite literally my sweetest childhood memories.
I love that Theo felt comfortable expressing how he feels and I’m grateful you guys didn’t respond pridefully.
I love the little segment of Yvette and Theo asking questions
I'm SOOOO GLAD Y'ALL Allowed Him To Make His Personal Decision To Chose To Cut The Braids. FREEDOM! Good for Him....You Learn As Parents You Have Selfish Desire for Your Children.
You have a very wonderful Son...Theo. He is quite humorous and confident in himself. You are great parents.
Your dad you and all your kids; the genes are real..... Beautiful.
There is an amazing wisdom coming out through Theo. It is as if something has been unlocked. Of course it has always been there, but perhaps we did not see the wise child that was always there, and only saw the cute little boy with dreads. Interestingly, the wise child with an interesting sense of humor shines through now, more vividly than before. His humor when Uriah said that he looked like grandpa and Theo's response about who Uriah looked like, but ended up with a burst of laughter! But it was not a childish laughter or giggle, but it was the laugh of an older soul who chose not to say what he was thinking, but found it so amusing.
Likewise when he was telling his mom to look at the man in another booth, and when they looked at the wrong time, and the laughter and sweet joyful moment that they shared. It was so beautiful to watch, and clearly he is such an amazing young person emerging from his younger self. Thanks for sharing this snippet from your lives with your viewers.
I love how in the bathroom you have your youngest and your oldest in the same presence, even though the baby doesn't understand its still an emotional movement with you and your boys. Loved everything about this video. My grandmother and mother taught me how to make their homemade rolls and I can't wait to pass that to my children.
My daddy taught me a lot about fashion, sewing, fabrics, caring for clothing, how to pull a thread through a needle, and just opened my eyes to the great possibilities with fashion as well as appreciating it. I always thought and still think my dad is just..the flyest..dopest..ever without even trying lol. I look forward to sharing this swag, passion, care, and appreciation with my children:)
You are making me cry. I have not seen generation of strong men in a long, long time. Thank you and Theo for sharing this with us. I am so proud. He is growing before my eyes. Amen
i cant wait until the adoption process is final... I'm tired of being an adult. I'm so ready to be a Henry.
wow this beautiful! I'm in tears, I really admire the relationship you have with theo and how you're allowing him to grow into his own person whilst giving him the guidance he'll need along the way
Awww this really touched me. Thank you for hearing him and his request and granting it so well.
This is just so cute🙏🏾 There’s lots of reflections and growth in this family, God bless this family
Such a joy to see your family evolve!
Theo is so happy. thanks for making his wish come true
Idk why I'm so emotional watching this. I have NO brothers, I am the oldest of 6 girls. I guess I've always found father son relationship sooo beautiful.
This father and son teaching moment made me smile with pure joy and warmed my soul. You can see the joy, passion and excitement in both of you. Although your joyous moment is different from one another, it's evident and felt through my TV screen. I really loved this...💞
This is so beautiful from beginning to end. You guys... 😭😭😭😭😭👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yvette, I don't want to make this long so I'll just say that your closing was very heartfelt...we often talk about the middle child syndrome and the baby of the family yet, the eldest is most often overlooked. Being the oldest myself, I can hinestly say that we too have a battle that is often overshadowed by the younger siblings. I have a very soft spot for the first borns and appreciate your closing words.💞
Each time I watch y’all videos I get so emotional. This is beautiful God bless y’all 💗
Watching these videos on your channel make my heart melt every time 🥺👏🏾.
Such a soulful CZcams channel 🙌🏿🙌🏿 heals my spirit. Respect!
Wow I love this video so much. It means a lot to me and it made me rethink how I want my relationship with my kids to be. It’s very important in our community. Watching this on my birthday was a perfect addition to my morning. Happy birthday first born 💕✨ I pray that your family is blessed beyond what you all can imagine.
Since I started my locs 3 years ago, Theo's hair has been "hair goals" for me. So, I was a bit disappointed that he wanted to cut it. But after seeing him with so much joy and love for himself, checking himself out in the mirror, it's greater than any hair style. Theo, I love that you love your new look. I love that you are expressing yourself and speaking up for what you want. I love to see that smile on your face.
Precious little boy. I'm a great-grandmother now so seeing this is absolutely wonderful❤
My goodness! Y’all really know how to get me tearful! My daughter is 33 and watching your parenting makes me sad about all the moments I missed. And that’s ok. 😊 I’m thankful that God has given us an amazing relationship now. Blessings to you for being the example of a Godly, loving, healthy, real, perfectly imperfect family. My daughter is married now and I’ve turned her and her hubby on to you guys! I want them to maximize moments and minimize regrets when they start having babies. Thank you.
So much feels. You capture the innocence of childhood and the beauty in family.
I love this video! Happy birthday Theo and thanks for sharing a part of your journey with us.
I loved every aspect of this vlog.
It's truly introspective...my Mom taught me a lot of things but one thing is kindness to people.
These videos of Theo and his new hair are the wholesome content I’ve been looking for lately on CZcams. Keep it up!🙏🏾
Thank you so much for sharing Yvette & Beleaf. Seeing you 2 I can’t wait to have kids ! ❤️❤️
All the love joy and support Theo has is incredible. Many blessings to y'all
My mom taught me a lot of stuff but I’ll never forget her special cutting technique. She taught me how to cut veggies like a pro! Can’t wait to teach my kids!! It’s awesome that you customized his brush! Beautiful 😍
Ohhh this episode pulled on my heart in many ways. I’m very thankful for finding y’all. My eyes are watering as I write this. May God continue to bless y’all because y’all bless me. 🖤🖤
Boy did I tear up at the end!! He is a special boy. God bless.