The 7 Anger Types and How to Recognize Them - Questionnaire Included
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We all experience anger but do we all understand it? Learning more about your anger can help you recognize and control it. I will tell you about an anger questionnaire I created to help you at the end, as well provide a link to another video on anger reduction techniques.
Link to Anger Questionnaire: www.drdfox.com/worksheets
What is anger? Anger is a feeling, or a cluster of feelings, but how you use it, understand it, and act on it is up to you - even when it feels like you have no choice, you do. In this video I’m going to help you understand it.
Passive-aggressive anger - an indirect expression of anger, like subtle insults, stubbornness, or intentional refusal to complete tasks to frustrate or hurt another person.
Explosive anger also called intermittent explosive disorder - sudden episodes of unwarranted or disproportionate anger, rage, tantrums that lead to heated arguments, physical fights, property damage, or threatening or insulting people. For this to be “the disorder” it must cause socioeconomic dysfunction and occur 3 or more times in a year.
Hardened anger - you’re stuck in the quicksand of anger. You have trouble forgiving others, hold grudges. Your anger percolates inside, you hang onto hatred and bitterness.
Vengeful Anger - Continuous thoughts of revenge and how to get the other person or people back for something.
Chronic anger - This is anger you’ve been holding onto for 2 months or more. You’re angry all the time and angry in general. You think about this instance and you’re angry; perhaps you wake up angry, and your anger sticks with you all day long and into the evening.
Incidental anger - can be a healthy type of anger; you’re angry about a particular event or situation and anger is the motivator to get your to deal with it. How you do that and using the anger as a motivator and not something that distracts and blinds you to solving is important as well.
Empathic anger - another type that can be healthy anger; you are angry on behalf of someone else, how they’re treated, being tricked, etc.
You can have more than one anger type at any given time and you can have one that you feel more than the others, this is normal. I have created an anger questionnaire for you to help you identify your anger types - see link in comments. Know that you know what anger is prominent, here is a link on anger reduction techniques to help you.
Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.
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2:20 Passive-aggressive anger
2:55 Explosive Anger
4:20 Hardened Anger
5:05 Vengeful Anger
5:27 Chronic Anger
6:07 Incidental Anger
7:19 Empathic Anger
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I have vengeful and hardened anger. I get to a point after someone has crossed me, that they simply must be destroyed. At least that's how I would describe the feeling when I get angry. I just become focused on vengeance, and the desire to regain control.
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I sometimes find myself enraged by the smallest things, and it makes me feel pathetic and emotionally immature. It's especially infuriating when I'm going through periods of anxiety and stress; it really feels like I'm going to explode. I used to play the guitar as anger-management but today it made it worse, and I threw my phone across my room. I'm dissapointed in myself because I thought I was past this childish bullshit; I'm 18 years old, I deal with my emotions in such immature ways even though I don't want to.
Vidar Skoglund hey I don’t know you that well but if you need any help hit me up on Instagram or Snapchat or we can talk about it here!
@@lilteccasgrandad4820 Thank you for reaching out to me from pure kindness, I really appriciate it. I used this comment to vent, I think that I'll try to find someone to talk to IRL. Thanks moho
The fact that your even aware of this is a testament to your ability to be introspective. You’ll be fine homie. Just be patient with yourself and maintain that awareness
I feel the exact Same way, the smallest things make me angry, i have violent thoughts of wanting to hurt someone, and have even thought of killing the person that has annoyed me or pissed me off do much
5 months late but I’m 19 and I feel you man. Today especially has been a day where every little thing that happens just irritates the eff out of me. And I’ve been dealing with suppressing my anger and depression for so long that I see some of myself with what you’re having or had trouble with. I hope you’ve been well since buddy.
I definitely have incidental anger/ explosive anger. When someone does/doesn't do something I feel is disrespectful/inconsiderate, I get angry-especially with loved ones. I have always been told by person who experiences this anger that I am exaggerating. There always seems to be this pointing finger at me, but they refuse to acknowledge their part of the problem. I find it exceptionally frustrating that some people never look at themselves. It causes my anger to build inside of me because I am made to feel it's wrong to feel it and express it. It's difficult to know what is appropriate and not appropriate.
I feel exactly the same way. People want to invalidate your feelings of anger and make you feel guilty for being angry, even though you have a valid reason for being so. That drives me crazy. LOL. But yeah, it builds up when being denied to feel.
Honestly. Never thought anybody else had the ability to say this. Because this is my mind 24/7.
Fr,it happens for like a lil moment nd the i calm down nd ofc regret it afterwards
@@ES-qu1jdthere’s something wrong with everybody else I mean Jesus Christ. because I feel the same way people invalidate my feelings, and make me feel guilty for being mad at something that’s completely rational to be angry at
You told exactly what I feel. I agree I have anger issue, I do explode all of a sudden but what Leeds to it is a chain of events. People always blame your anger but what they do not do is look at themselves. They do so much wrong but never do they admit or identify their mistake. Me, on the other hand always accept my mistake and I get pretty annoyed when my loved ones do not accept their mistake, which makes me go mad. In the end, I am the one suffering, I am the one feeling guilty about getting angry. I am the one who is feeling bad about the way I am. Lord, this anger is such a bad thing. People often use it as a advantage against you.
I literally have all those angers. I am a walking ball of hateful unhappy bitter anger :( I feel so bad for my husband and kids :( and my family, no wonder they all disowned me and I always felt unloved and unwanted as a kid, I made myself unloved and unwantwd.
I'm sorry that you are facing this. With right kind of treatment and support you'll be better. Take care :)
How are you doing today
You’re probably the most mild person here
Self hate can be the route of outward hate.
I feel the same way about myself. I wish I was born without a mouth so I’d never end up saying the things I do when I’m angry
I dont consider myself to be an angry person but i definetly found this video very interesting.
Thank you!
Feeling FeNi I do aswell and I agree I really appreciate the videos I’ve seen of his from this channel.
Lucky u
I'm passive-aggressive and hardened, and when I'm angry I lack empathy, which I'm honestly ashamed of because I WANT to be a kind and caring person but when I get angry I lose all touch with my humanity. 😞
Thank you for taking time to help people even during the holidays 🙏 you are very appreciated
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Cheers for this, been searching for "controlling your anger before it controls you" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Meyaarn Unprecedented Magic - (do a google search ) ? It is a good exclusive guide for discovering how to get rid of your anger issues without the normal expense. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my brother in law got cool success with it.
Thank you Dr Fox, I have learned about my recent alarming anger outbursts. I was terrified by them but realize through your video that they were caused by rejection and are a signal guiding me to end my current hopeless relationship. My love interest is a poly addict and I am committed to sobriety .
People you do not need to be around people with toxic anger because you feel sorry for them!
I jus want to take a moment out of my morning to tell you thank you Dr. The information you provide in your videos. It has been very helpful I was diagnosed with BPD bout a 1yr ago. At first I didn't understand, nor did I think my Dr. Was right. However, I started watching your videos n slowly learned I do think I do have BPD.... You have helped me understand myself a little better, and also I've shared you with my partner. Thank you for being such a good Dr.
My anger is quite different...when I'm angry I cry a lottttt instead of yelling or showing it any way but internally I'm screaming at that person... it's just I hate yelling because I know how bad it feels and I don't want others to hate me but people think I'm crying for attention and It feels really bad to listen all these stuff so I cry more.... this whole thing is frustrating...
I was one of the people who requested a video on anger. I'm binge watching them now. They are very helpful. Thank you very much. Love the picture in the background by the way!
I'm glad they're helpful for you!!
Merry Christmas Mr. Fox. Thankyou for all your videos to date.
Thank you for helping me know the types of anger I have, the ones that seems like my anger are: Passive-aggressive anger, Explosive anger and Vengeful Anger.
Merry xmas doctor, wish you happy year, amazing that you mentioned passive aggression firstly as its very common done in corporates from employee to employer and in homes from children to caregivers, needing a video focussing on this and another on how we manage the other extreme i.e. temper tantrums
Great video. So helpful. Appreciate your work and time.
You have been very helpful to,this one helps me to understand what I have been dealing with,it’s been passive aggressiveness and I have been falling into the trap time after time. I also have to admit that I have found two of these conditions in myself Empathetic and explosive,but as I mentioned in the first video on anger I believe that it has been intentionally aimed at me, but thank you now I have more information to enable me to avoid the traps. Thanks again 🙏🏼🌈✅❤️👍🏽
Thank you; did the questionnaire on Friday and re-examined it on today....
Wow I’ve never had anyone explain healthy vs unhealthy anger. Thank you.
Thank you Dr. Fox for your valuable
informative educational videos.
I enjoy watching your videos.
Thank you for this video! Very helpful 😊❤
Wow, Dr. excellent breakdown of each separate depth of anger and the description thank you.
You’re welcome. Thanks 😊
Thank you for this.
I sometimes get angry at doing something that’s wrong, to me it helps me know that this is wrong what I did, it’s like an ‘alert’ for me not to do this again, I don’t know which if the types of anger I’m on, although, this video helped me understand types of anger, thank you very much, I appreciate it 😄👍🏽
I have explosive and hardened anger but also emphatic and incidental anger. Thank you, this was very useful!
You're so welcome!
Thank you for all your videos l find them very educational and helpful.
thank you so much for this vid so much more educated
Thank you for this informative video I appreciate it. Lately for the past year or two I've been feeling very sick mentally because I feel like I've been containing all my anger for too long, but I don't want to bring it out because I'm scared that I might have a really bad reaction
Thanks for the video! I appreciate your comprehensive approach to categorizing the seven types of anger and you development of a questionnaire to help individuals identify their specific type of anger. Your emphasis on understanding and controlling anger to empower oneself aligns with my own views on the importance of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in managing anger effectively.
You’re very welcome.
Superb informative vid. Thanks.
Thanks Dr. Daniel
I have explosive anger, I throw things when I’m angry but happens very rarely.. but when it happens it’s like something takes over me.. I always regret my actions after.
Same
Great info
I feel like ive had almost all of those, its also where if i dont do something that gets it out i get headaches or migranes
LOVE THAT PAINTING BEHIND YOU
I have a fight with my dad yesterday ... Throw some stuff at him and burned his two shirts...And now when I think I'm cooling down a bit I am kinda regretting it
Explosive anger here, I get upset super easily, I get offended by smallest things, extremely sensitive to any kind of critics.
Narcissistic traits
Great video. I shared it with my woman.
Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you.
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Thank you very much for your effort & time, making your resources so readily available (for free at that, which makes a big difference when your local currency pales in comparison to the dollar).
Glad it was helpful!
When it comes to the topic, I've definately earned my face...
Great breakdown. Seems like Hardened Anger and Chronic Anger are similar. What's the essential difference?
I have anger upon the disrespect and the stealing of dignities from me! I don’t rage but it’s percolating in me and I still be nice. I do not know how lonG before WORDS are spoken of my outrage of their machine!!!
Wow very interesting
Dude I'm like all of these
In therapy tonight my counselor decided I have an anger problem. I knew this is course. We are going to tackle it. So I come to you if course, funny how I've watched every video of yours but with this series of jealousy and anger and such... I started the vids then didn't finish them. Ha. Must have not wanted to look myself in the mirror. Going to watch them all now.
I definitely struggle with chronic anger, as well as episodes of rage. Do you think people who are like this have inherited these traits? When I was a child, I witnessed my parents fighting (physical/verbal) a lot, so I know that must have left a mark, but I also know people who grew up living in similar circumstances who are not anger prone at all.
Same
I think there are individual differences and responses. We all process our past differently and internalize different aspects.
It’s almost purely genetic based on chemical inbalences or very very high testosterone levels etc it’s been proven by twins because despite being separated in these experiments if you can say that they where even more identical in personality than those who grow up together because they will feel a need to cultivate atleast some difference but ofcourse your past experiences mold you aswell I’d say 80-20
For Me. I Know 3 Types
1 Type of Anger is "Positive Lecture" like Educate Some Person a Lesson About Their Mistakes
2 Type of Anger is "Negative Energy" like Aggressive and Fierce like Abusive or Hostile which That is NOT Okay and NOT Normal or NOT Good
3 Type of Anger is About Emotions like Make a Person Have Determination of Whoever or Whatever is Opposing The Person is Facing Against or Enemy
I think that from what you listed as types, I would like to try something different from passive. I hate how it tricks me to rationalise the things I feel I’m allowed to do because I was hurt, and that I don’t even realize I’m doing it most of the time
Build insight to build control. I wish you well.
I know my anger problems are extreme because I was getting pissed off just waiting for him to get to the 7 types of anger. This is why I seriously need help
Yeah it’s a good thing tho that you recognise the problem and is willing to change
I had no idea about the last two existing! I took the questionaire and apparently fall into the empathetic anger. I work in customer service though, so I'm doomed.
is there some how i can zoom with you Dr. Daniel.
I believe i have a few of the 7 different types of anger, i have been treated with depression & bipolar disorder but the doctors always give me the wrong meds. I don't know to do!
Mix of passive aggressive, explosive, hardened, vengeful, and chronic anger
Dr. Fox, this video has been really helpful, but I have a question. Having filled the questionnaire honestly, I have gotten high rates on 6 types. So, is it possible to have 6 types of anger, and if yes, what does this identify?
Most of the time, I have incidental anger. But I also have vengeful anger sometimes too.
I gotta ask, who is the painting behind you by? It looks like some of mine painted by Leonid afremov is all
What about passive anger (not to be confused with passive-aggressive)? I think I've read somewhere that there are three types of anger: passive, passive-aggressive and aggressive but I think they're a different category of anger types or something. It's just confusing that one of them is in this category too.
Hi Dr. Fox, I know someone who whenever you think something different than him, has like some time that he is angry and can't control himself. Even if it's something small like I prefer to use this pan to cook instead of the other one, then he needs some minutes to relax cause he is feeling angry and can't even look at you. If it's a small discussion then it's even worse and he gets aggressive and starts destroying things and if you get in his way and try to calm him down he gets aggressive with you, even if you start to cry, its like he is not himself anymore and doesn't care about anything at all, even If he sees you hurting. What type of disorder is this? I researched a lot, and thought about narcisistic disorser, explosive disorder, but not sure as I see symptoms of different ones. Thanks in advance for your opinion on this
Hi Dr. Fox!
In another one of your videos, can't remember which one, you suggested carrying an object of high emotionnal or significant personal value as a tool to stay connected or come back to our senses and stay focused.
Would you also recommend that as another tool to control anger maybe?
+Seth For Pharaoh a transitional object is an attachment object but if it works to help remember to use your anger management strategies I’d say it’s a great use.
Thanks!! 👌
Sir I'm having, Expulsive,Vengeful, Chronic and hardend anger all together.. Maximum of time i control all but sometimes it goes beyond and i feel like mercy needing guy and that feeling make me morr anger over myself. Also if I don't complete the work i planned to i gotta have sometimes tendency to beat myself..
I feel an anger thats like, anger x100, like rage I guess, sounds kinda corny but maybe I could compare it to the rage that a character feels in fiction when something drastic happens. I just feel so much anger when certain things happen, the weird thing is that it only shows up with specific things. maybe its because I'm a growing teenager and there's all that hormone stuff involved.
Is there a way I can ask your opinion on a partner, and the symptoms I experienced?
I'm suffering from anger problem.
I often think if otjer person do this it'll make me angry, then if he or she do so i set something on my mind like if he do so I'll do something must and exactly if he do so then i can't control myself i do anything wrong or ferocious with that mam, and if i can't do so then i only think how can i do suicide or i take pill,
I tried to control my anger or usually I don't get angry at anything and I'm positive minded, but when something happened wrong and i think i can't take this than what happens to me i don't know.
What can i do about it and what type of anger is this?
Thank you so much
All of the above
i have hardened empathic and vengeful in order of most points to least
And also after blacking out I feel tired when I recover
My anger keeps me safe,and if one is safe with it,why would U ever want to get rid of it. It empowers me totally.
I have a mix of Vengeful, Explosive, and hardened.
Doc, what about rage? All consuming, burning, homicidal RAGE? I'm serious. (BTW, thanks for having one blank wall behind you to lessen the distraction).
+Debra McElroy I did a video on rage recently. Perhaps that could help you.
i definitely have hardened anger and do not know how to fix it
Explosive, hardened, and vengeful.
Probably just one that feels like all three, but feels like I've got all 3.
Type to get math problem wrong and want to attack someone else because of it.
I feel like I have a little bit of each of these and I’m angry all the time like I work at an assisted living home and I work in a kitchen I literally get mad when the resident order food and I’ve been brought to tears before because I couldn’t stop being angry over the stupidest stuff
I literally feel like I experience all of these at once
You’re probably the most mild person here
Life is too short to tolerate infectious chronically angry communicators deep in our social circle - same for chronic irritability. That feeling of always having to "keep cool" and "firmly reassert boundaries" (repeatedly broken for months or years) around an obnoxious emotionally immature person is quite limiting to growth - they're basically hijacking energy that could prosper with more compatible folk.
Could you please clarify the difference between six and seven? They sound the same to me. Thank you.
I have the Exclusion anger and chronic anger also
Is anger showed different for different situations?? like for me I usually surpress my anger while sometimes I be snappy and for others and yell also if there is anything like that
7:36 I feel like this gets expressed negatively on my behalf a lot people will get so angry on my behalf, that they will not let me express myself, and they, too, will start choosing for me, and it becomes in my opinion toxic before I’m even gotten to express myself
I do not know why this is an experience that I have so often with so many different human beings but perhaps it’s because I am short people think I am not emotionally there yet. I still have a growing to do. I am a whole adult. I am just short. 😅
(I’m a teen)
I get so angry. I RAGE at my dad all the time. I get mad very often at my mom and family, but it’s super bad with my dad. He’s never been good at managing anger. Not me, when I was 5 and having temper tantrums, and definitely not his own anger. He’s never gotten physical, but he’s shown me through my whole life, that I have to be careful around him. Cause if I try to address something, or show him that he’s being unfair, he throws it all at me. And he knows I have ADHD, so I don’t think it’s fair when he tells me that “if I can’t listen , I have to go upstairs and come back when I know how to focus”. Anyways, I think the EXTREME and unbearable fights with him throughout my whole life, have given me troubles with managing my anger towards him. I often feel so angry, I have no idea what to do but kick and cry. It’s embarrassing, really, but there’s nothing else to do, until it passes. I’m watching this video, cause I just calmed down from an “episode”. It has all the symptoms of a panic attack, except for the fear. I hyperventilate, cry, hit myself, you name it… I couldn’t walk straight from crying. I broke down on the floor, I was shaking. It sound so pathetic, but it’s so painful. When I finally stopped crying, and I started making those chokes small inhales, I went to the sink, and spit out all the slime that had gathered in my throat. I hate that he’s never gonna change. He’s never gonna even listen to me if I try to tell him.
can anyone send me the questionaire please
Followed the questionnaire link there was no questionnaire just a place to by stuff and subscribe to something
Robin's Tiny Homestead it's in the list on the page.
Is there one for all the above
Thank u doctor for explaining diff kinds of anger. I'm chronically pissed off!!! Been abused, which is only an explanation. Gotta move bc I'm no longer appreciated here at my apt bldg. Figured I'd take adult approach & leave while they flap their gums.
Would u be able to have a few of the anger types not just one
What can I do to cope with this issues
i get mad over small things to like when people copy me or when people are selfish but want to use your stuff
Witch one do I have where I need revenge and I do it I need to hit someone something but I hit myslef or take it off by myself bc I don’t wanna hurt them so I do it in another way not physical at them
I've been trying to identify my anger for years I think I've found it
So what happens when you have high empathic and incidental anger mixed with Intermittent Explosive Disorder? I've been diagnosed with IED, but check all the boxes for empathic and incidental anger, except I am unable to focus and unable to work to resolve the situation. It's sort of like a maladaptive empathic anger.
Silent treatment is passive aggressive anger? My ex did that a lot.
By watching this video I think I have explosive anger and hardened anger combination... how many I deal with these... ?
I GOT THEM ALL
I don't know why I get so angry over the smallest things like other people touching me it's this a disorder or do I just have anger problem? This happens like 1 time a year
*when you have all the types of anger*
I have Chronic Anger I always have this thought of this person I never stop thinking about and rethinking and its makes me more mad and then I explode on them and hurt them in a very bad way
Sounds like what my partner had been doing to me for the past year. Soon to be EX partner... maybe try some therapy before you lose something important. Goodluck
i have all 7 types, is that normal?
Questionnare doc??
How do you deal with people who are angry ?