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Komentáře • 339

  • @blacademic
    @blacademic  Před rokem +16

    To book a 1 on 1 coaching call with me, click here: calendly.com/breakupcoachtj

    • @yezz11
      @yezz11 Před rokem +1

      ❤❤

    • @ledijuazeez
      @ledijuazeez Před rokem +1

      I've been in no contact with my ex for almost 2 months today's her birthday and I didn't text or call her she just called a few minutes ago and was angry didn't reach out on her birthday. What should do please?

    • @robinfernandes-jw2uf
      @robinfernandes-jw2uf Před 9 měsíci

      ​@@yezz11ty

    • @robinfernandes-jw2uf
      @robinfernandes-jw2uf Před 9 měsíci

      ​@@yezz11ytt

    • @cplcaz01
      @cplcaz01 Před měsícem

      Hi what happens when your Ex wife wants to call you about something, was going to do this friday(which is move the rest of my stuff out) shall I just wait and see what she has to say before trying to get a face to face?

  • @sivabeharry3298
    @sivabeharry3298 Před rokem +299

    sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lie. unless a person truly puts in the work for themselves to be better not for a relationship's sake, but better than their old self plus the legit apologize to my soul and ancestral line...and i genuinely see it in her eyes...just let it be. never chase or entertain someone who never saw your value or felt you brought nothing to their life. furthermore, always remember your worth people.

    • @andziagreen4922
      @andziagreen4922 Před rokem +13

      Wise words, my ex left suddenly 2 weeks before we suppose to go to my home country on little holiday and to meet my mom, without apology. I thought man 50 years old would be mature enough to communicate and try to work things out🤷‍♀️ I couldn't be more wrong. He didn't contact me even after months of no contact. I am starting to accept he has a 'reason' and trying to heal and move on.

    • @swpdisciple
      @swpdisciple Před rokem

      @@andziagreen4922that’s really crappy

    • @Temporary3334
      @Temporary3334 Před 9 měsíci

      Love this

    • @kheicee
      @kheicee Před 8 měsíci +2

      thank you so much for this. i think this is what i needed to read. its been a week since our breakup with no communication. he was the one that gave up on the relationship because i guess for him it was easier that way than improving our relationship altogether. he just didn't see my value and have to accept that i wasn't worth anything at all. its so painful right now.

    • @tjtanner9311
      @tjtanner9311 Před 6 měsíci +3

      I 💯% agree! If not the 1st thing I hear from my ex is an apology for how he treated me/what he said and an admission wrong doings, I DON'T WANT IT!🙅‍♂️ If you have not grown from the situation and bettered yourself, IZA NOO‼️😤

  • @ackimbanda4709
    @ackimbanda4709 Před rokem +286

    If your ex comes back just be the best version of yourself and treat them right.
    If they don’t then in your next relationship be better than in your previous relationship

    • @dajourtaylor3643
      @dajourtaylor3643 Před rokem

      What in the simp 💩 is going on here….😂 if there were a ex why would you want them back to hurt you ,If you let them go? To show them that then if they cheated or played games to become a ex that your okay with that and a sucker? Or let me guess you were thinking about playing stepdaddy to her new side guys kid weren’t you? and she say it’s yours 🤓

    • @MethodiousMind
      @MethodiousMind Před 10 měsíci +7

      Ye, be better to yourself

    • @Mycologist_Expediter
      @Mycologist_Expediter Před 9 měsíci +1

      Bruh thanks I needed this dude fr you positive af

    • @sirg-had8821
      @sirg-had8821 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Never take them back.

  • @MicheleFBA
    @MicheleFBA Před 3 měsíci +18

    I'm NOT finding 'no contact' difficult. I'm loving it and I find it empowering. I ALREADY feel the power shifting. He has tried to reach out, but he needs to feel uncomfortable a bit longer.

  • @cuteandfluffypikachu3405
    @cuteandfluffypikachu3405 Před 5 měsíci +38

    I survived a week of no contact it’s been a emotional rollercoaster but I’m slowly getting there 😖😖😖

    • @jakefwsosa
      @jakefwsosa Před 3 měsíci

      tell me what ended up happening, its been 2 months

    • @cuteandfluffypikachu3405
      @cuteandfluffypikachu3405 Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@jakefwsosa He got in contact with me as I went radio silent and he was really worried but we talking now and then but not often but I’d rather we didn’t so it’s just minimal 😊😊

  • @emmasadventures7081
    @emmasadventures7081 Před 11 měsíci +62

    He reached out in under a month and we’re back together no contact works well.

    • @cuteandfluffypikachu3405
      @cuteandfluffypikachu3405 Před 5 měsíci +8

      I’m only in a week of no contact does it get easier because I’m struggling really bad 😭😭😭

    • @ZAC90715
      @ZAC90715 Před 5 měsíci +5

      I was left 5 weeks ago and sadly made mistakes, last one was a few days ago when I tried to establish some boundaries and she lashed out at me over it so now its true full NC. It sucks so bad but I'm doing this for me to be the man I know I am with no traumas or fears holding me back. Thankfully I have this mans videos to help me stay strong when I'm questioning everything. I have hope for our future but only the Divine timing of life will tell

    • @emmasadventures7081
      @emmasadventures7081 Před 4 měsíci

      @@ZAC90715did she reach out to

    • @emmasadventures7081
      @emmasadventures7081 Před 4 měsíci

      @@cuteandfluffypikachu3405did they reach out

    • @conanhercules5705
      @conanhercules5705 Před 4 měsíci

      @@ZAC90715stay strong I’m going through it to

  • @realpurplegoldminnesotavik7829
    @realpurplegoldminnesotavik7829 Před 6 měsíci +36

    Time heals all ! Level up and start working out !

  • @el-bd1kc
    @el-bd1kc Před 11 měsíci +31

    My ex just got back to me after 9 months of no contact. I already forgive him for everything but suddenly after a few weeks of us seeing each other again he told me he is not ready for a "commitment". I take a break and see what is going to happen and come to a point that i will block him and go into silent treatment cause i don't deserved a person who doesn't even want to commit

  • @fayenash2152
    @fayenash2152 Před 10 měsíci +27

    Can we just appreciate that this man is also Gorgeous lol! but i will continue to concentrate on what he is saying!

  • @Mermaid03_03
    @Mermaid03_03 Před rokem +62

    Yes, I got the 3rd one after he saw I wasn’t going to chase him 😅. He was doing his best to trigger me but finally reached out with a “hey, how are you?” text. He said he wanted to be friends and he’s trusted me more than most. I’m taking it at face value. I really don’t think we should reopen the toxic door anyway as much as we might miss each other. I won’t reach out to him. Letting him to do the work.

    • @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker
      @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker Před 7 měsíci +3

      Amen...me too in my situation as well

    • @Swiss_Girl
      @Swiss_Girl Před 4 měsíci

      I would just replay: oh hi, feels so nice to hear from you. well, J was your friend, but I can‘t be just your friend.
      check out adrienne everheart. she is all about female energy❤

    • @rrwa7052
      @rrwa7052 Před měsícem +2

      It has to be mutual ladies.

  • @SycoMunkee13
    @SycoMunkee13 Před rokem +123

    My mom passed away in January. My ex broke up with me by ghosting me a month later. We were together almost two years. I know she'll never reach out because she's most likely feeling extremely guilty for what she did.
    I went into NC as soon as I realized what she did. I never called or texted her. Her birthday was in May and I said nothing but suddenly in July she blocks my number. I figured she was waiting for me to call her up and do my best Keith Sweat impersonation.
    I don't want her back. After what she did? Never! The only thing I want from her is a sincere apology. I'll probably never get it because she's a coward. I'm still fighting feelings of anger, sadness, and depression but I think I'll get through this eventually. Oddly enough, the only time I don't really think about her is when I'm at work. My co workers take my mind off of her without them knowing anything about my situation.

    • @v.o.warrior9021
      @v.o.warrior9021 Před rokem +19

      It’s like you never did anything for them. Just gone, who does that🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @SycoMunkee13
      @SycoMunkee13 Před rokem

      ​@@v.o.warrior9021All I ever did was be good to her. I never cheated on her or any girlfriend I ever had. I thought she was the one. I wanted to marry this woman. Well now, I'm glad she showed me her true face. She probably would've divorced me a month after getting married, citing whatever fear she had about us being together.
      I guess I did dodge not a bullet but a freaking cruise missile. Some people may say that I'm wrong for this but I despise women now. I'm still attracted to them of course but I don't trust anything about them now. After watching so many videos on female nature and "logic", I can't take the opposite sex seriously anymore.
      Yeah, I'm hurt. Yeah, I'm pissed. I don't think I'll be getting into any more relationships after this. I'm done. If I have to keep risking my heart being ripped out of my chest like a character in Mortal Kombat, I'd rather stay single. Just sex.
      Fuck your feelings.
      I don't care about what you're dealing with.
      Whatever you're telling me is just BS so you can use me.
      It's situations like mine that turn good guys into villains who don't give a fuck anymore. All these women keep crying about no more good men. Well, you turned a lot of us into monsters now with the BS you do. I don't give a fuck anymore.

    • @Eagles4eva
      @Eagles4eva Před rokem +14

      It hurts so much.,. I cant believe that this has happened to other people besides me

    • @SycoMunkee13
      @SycoMunkee13 Před rokem +14

      @@Eagles4eva I know what you're going through bro. I was where you're at now. You'll get better as time goes on. The best advice I can give you is just say "fuck it". She gave up on you and doesn't even care. That's some cold hearted shit. You gotta get even colder. I know you have memories etc. with her but don't let the past kill you. She doesn't care. You shouldn't either.

    • @abdelkarimglt5578
      @abdelkarimglt5578 Před rokem +4

      1 month of no contact and then she reach out blaming me for talking and commenting girls pictures on instagram😅 i said we were in no contact i thought you gone, and she start blaming me, im trying to fix it and i know she want to fix it but she's just want to play hard to get so im gonna fix it by myself😂

  • @lainybutter2155
    @lainybutter2155 Před rokem +51

    Holy cow, what a great comforting coach. I go to bed and can listen to you over and over again.

    • @Shestylez1988
      @Shestylez1988 Před měsícem +1

      Same! His voice is comforting and soothing

    • @iRespectMen
      @iRespectMen Před dnem

      Yes I put in my earphones when I'm crying and I listen to him and fall asleep. His voice is sooooo soothing!

  • @edgarr5302
    @edgarr5302 Před 11 měsíci +20

    Haven’t heard from her in 2 weeks ima give it a month with no contact hopefully we find our love again man she was the love of my life. I’m right now giving her space to think things thru

    • @Sinful_Survivor
      @Sinful_Survivor Před 6 měsíci +8

      I almost lost the love of my life, I was going to try no contact because she blocked me, but I figured might as well shoot her 1 good message about how we can still make things work. She came back the next day. I got lucky, not taking her for granted again

    • @unluckydreamer1156
      @unluckydreamer1156 Před 2 měsíci +1

      How’d it end up

    • @anekekingson5141
      @anekekingson5141 Před 11 dny

      My kinda case right now... One thing I get to know is .the more you chase them, the more you give 'em the power, give her some space and let her think it through, while you work on yourself.. if y'all had a great bond before she left...she will come back

  • @dwilson518
    @dwilson518 Před 5 měsíci +9

    Let them go, level yourself up and find better

  • @hollygustafson4261
    @hollygustafson4261 Před 11 měsíci +15

    Who knew that there would be so many rules when it comes to this stuff I had no idea 🤷‍♀️

    • @docdebonair6322
      @docdebonair6322 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Good comment. Me either. This has been quite the journey.

  • @ledijuazeez
    @ledijuazeez Před rokem +23

    After 24 days of No Contact I got a text from her saying Please I Want Sex so I thought she wanted more and I let her come over but afterwards I didn't hear from her anymore and I went back to no contact.her birthday is coming up on the 23rd of this month I know she'll be waiting for my text or something but I ain't gonna give her that. Thanks coach ❤ from Nigeria

  • @AJtheDestroyer
    @AJtheDestroyer Před rokem +25

    Been just about 4 months NC. She’ll watch my snap stories but that the only sign. Been working on myself tho, gained 25lbs from the gym, learning about how to be a better partner. Although learning hurts now because I feel like I’ll never be able to show all the things I’ve learned

    • @bigsmilie07
      @bigsmilie07 Před rokem +5

      Prepare for the next/best person for yourself

    • @skyt8327
      @skyt8327 Před 6 měsíci

      Any update?

  • @goldenlifelove7251
    @goldenlifelove7251 Před rokem +23

    He reached out to wish me happy birthday which was 10 days after he blindsided me with the breakup. The only reason he did it is cuz he felt guilty cuz it was a milestone birthday for me & cuz we were supposed to spend the day together. He knew how important spending my day with him was, yet he strategically broke up with me 20 days prior to my bday. I responded to him 3 days later with "Thx" & I haven't heard from him since. The only reason I want him to reach out again is to have an honest conversation about why he lied, faked his feelings & chose to discard me the way he did. However, if I never get that convo, I'm ok with that. He can't provide me any closure cuz I can't expect what hurt me to heal me.

    • @MN-rw2nt
      @MN-rw2nt Před rokem +4

      You’ll never get an apology nor an explanation.

    • @uzuriaholmes
      @uzuriaholmes Před 9 měsíci +1

      ​@@MN-rw2ntNot always true someone from my past after 7 long years gave me an apology. I accepted it and moved on. Not everyone is going to apologize but some people do. 🤷

    • @tjtanner9311
      @tjtanner9311 Před 6 měsíci

      I never got any closure from my ex either and okay with living with that. ❤

  • @Thechilione
    @Thechilione Před rokem +39

    it's been 6 months, and he texted me 10 minutes ago after 5 months of NC asking if he could take me to a musical that our mutual friend is in
    we'll see how things go

    • @Bcrec297
      @Bcrec297 Před rokem +9

      You give me hope 😊 . I'm in 3 months now in NC...

    • @envyallison926
      @envyallison926 Před 11 měsíci +3

      How was it ?

    • @Thechilione
      @Thechilione Před 11 měsíci

      we went with a group of friends so it wasn't a "date"
      however recently he's been showing signs of jealousy bahahahaha
      it's also clear that he's showing signs of regret and honestly it seems like he's gone downhill... meanwhile I've been working on myself and have become a 2.0 version of myself. @@envyallison926

    • @tjtanner9311
      @tjtanner9311 Před 6 měsíci

      Update?

    • @Thechilione
      @Thechilione Před 6 měsíci

      @@tjtanner9311 I moved on, and happier now that i'm out of the relationship :)

  • @catdev587
    @catdev587 Před 9 měsíci +9

    My ex ghosted me for days. I sent one text, stating I will no longer reach out to you. You made it obvious, it's over by pushing me away. 18 days later, he knocked on my door un announced. I left him on my doorstep knocking.

  • @tjtanner9311
    @tjtanner9311 Před 6 měsíci +6

    I don't trust my ex's intentions at all. The last time he reached out to me, it was all to shade me. I was done with him after that, went no contact completely! A year and a half later he's in my dms trying to call me. Like nah, you had your chance and you blew it🤷‍♂️. I'm gone✌️.

  • @S.Randolph-hu5oh
    @S.Randolph-hu5oh Před 10 měsíci +4

    The ex reached out with a video. I don’t really use social media and he does not have access to mine. I realize he was testing the water. I made a comment and said thanks for sharing. It sucks to double guess yourself.

  • @Bobloc23
    @Bobloc23 Před rokem +6

    6months into NC I’m good on her reaching out now

  • @fiercemillionaireproject3824

    Broke NC after 3 weeks! Got her to come over and make
    dinner with me, we ended up sleeping together and she
    stayed the night. Just got back from the beach and now
    she's texting me that she misses me haha sometimes
    breaking NC is the best thing to do.

    • @laceyloops
      @laceyloops Před rokem +12

      Sex can be a smoke screen... You think things are getting better, but it's just Oxytocin talking... Wishing you the best tho

    • @davemaurer7341
      @davemaurer7341 Před 11 měsíci +3

      Bread crumbling you bro

  • @kaevonazartash-namin5216
    @kaevonazartash-namin5216 Před rokem +14

    Thank you! You're a national treasure. Thanks again for the advice.

  • @Run2BFree
    @Run2BFree Před rokem +24

    I got dumped via text and given the “let’s be friends cuz I still value you as a person and I’ve never felt so strongly for someone before” we still hung out and did extra curricular activities 🤭 but I’ve gone a week no contact told her I’m not interested in anything less than romance and left it at that. Still watches my stories etc, but I’m a be 38 soon I’m over these shenanigans 😂 I’m not into hooking up, but seems like that’s what girls are into or at least the ones I’ve talked to. 🤷‍♂️

    • @YahwehsButterfly
      @YahwehsButterfly Před 11 měsíci +4

      Same thing happened to me being friends leaves and open door for them to use us because we are still in love with them , they want us but don’t want to be with us it’s not right. Move on find that person that wants all of u and is willing to commit

    • @Run2BFree
      @Run2BFree Před 11 měsíci +3

      @@YahwehsButterfly I was out of dating for a long time. I’m comfortable alone and honestly this relationship reinforced my desire to remain alone and do the things I like to do. Not gonna lie it still hurts hahaha

    • @chantalsmissingselfawarene7655
      @chantalsmissingselfawarene7655 Před 6 měsíci

      Aint no way she was over 30. Stop messing with these 22 year oldsz

    • @Run2BFree
      @Run2BFree Před 6 měsíci

      @@chantalsmissingselfawarene7655 😂 over 30 been ran thru have trauma and all of sudden they “know their worth” hard pass.

  • @dojocho1894
    @dojocho1894 Před rokem +4

    after a divorce of a 17 yr marriage... my wifes idea.... i was trying to be polite...my ex i believe took it as i was trying to manipulate her or something.....she told me out of nowhere...I am never coming back.........its been 2 yrs...never heard from her since.

  • @roykent9591
    @roykent9591 Před rokem +4

    Coach Blac, i havent found any video in your channel talking about if the dumper start the no contact rule and he's teaching them a lesson to like "dont lie again after many chances" or maybe "stop being manipulative" u see so many dumpers after a while would feel the same as the dumpee but wont ever initiate contact to make them confortable at lying again or manipulate again.

  • @marcdogg2317
    @marcdogg2317 Před rokem +4

    Got on a call with coach 2 days ago. The day after the call my ex called me, asking if I wanted to go to the beach with her this weekend but I have to freaking work 🤦🏽‍♂️ I was on day 4 of no contact. Going back on it, until she contacts me again.

  • @lassinediawara7331
    @lassinediawara7331 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Ayo ! Great advice but if she dumped you , you shouldn’t rush to see her. No there might be a punishment of some sort otherwise the behavior will repeat itself and longer. I did it the first time she went ghost. I reached out. I did the pipe work. The second time she disappeared for 4 months and reappeared and start talking about the past. I just asked if she got something to say that concerns the present moment. She said nothing. It means these girls know what they are doing and understand the power dynamic. Don’t fall for it fellas. She must submit and make it up to you

  • @mikeon1720
    @mikeon1720 Před rokem +4

    I broke up w my ex about a week ago now after 2 years and she’s already with another guy but her friends were never the right kind of influence on her based on what she told me I power tripped over her so hard wrote a letter that I haven’t given to her and I got blocked for begging to meet up face to face I know now that I’m only pushing her away but I’m taking a few college courses now and hoping to score a good job to keep me occupied and honestly can’t wait to start that gym life but for now I’m just sitting and waiting she clearly doesn’t want to reach out yet way too soon but imma mature myself up and better myself for my overall health and wellness rather than doing it for anyone else

    • @tjtanner9311
      @tjtanner9311 Před 6 měsíci

      Yes Bro! Do you🙌😄💪. You deserve better, and better will come.

  • @WhatsThePoint01
    @WhatsThePoint01 Před 5 měsíci +3

    She can’t reach me unless she calls/text. I blocked her on everything 🤣

    • @TheOnlyChamploo
      @TheOnlyChamploo Před měsícem

      Bro I just did this and she texted me hope your doing good should I respond to this

    • @anekekingson5141
      @anekekingson5141 Před 11 dny

      I don't actually block people... I just delete their contact and act like they ain't there.

  • @nishusaini8492
    @nishusaini8492 Před rokem +4

    Your videos are really helpful grateful to you 😊

  • @lentinikhalsa1
    @lentinikhalsa1 Před rokem +6

    Me and my sort of ex girlfriend stopped being sexual a week ago. She said she wasn’t ready for a relationship. But she’s been texting and calling nonstop since it happened. Got super jealous when she saw I was talking to other women. At this point, she could have me if she wanted me. She wants to meet up this weekend. We’ll see. At this point I haven’t even stopped the nonstop communication

    • @I.E.I.E.
      @I.E.I.E. Před rokem +1

      I need to man up and probably start posting pics of myself with gorgeous women in public/group settings.

    • @Tristan-fh5ui
      @Tristan-fh5ui Před rokem

      They still talking to you? what happened

    • @lentinikhalsa1
      @lentinikhalsa1 Před 11 měsíci +2

      @@Tristan-fh5ui still stalking my social media. I deleted her. Didn’t block. I don’t gaf what she sees me doing

    • @CREDMANSR
      @CREDMANSR Před 7 měsíci +1

      ​@@I.E.I.E. This is a move to try to make her jealous. If you want her back it won't work.

  • @lmfisher650
    @lmfisher650 Před 8 měsíci +3

    And what if part of you wants them back but are also repulsed and hurt at the fact they went and slept/ in some kind of a relationship with the coworker they were having an emotional affair with, causing you to separate?! I still love him but it's also slowly fading and I'm very hurt, disgusted and repulsed by him... 😢
    I know it will never be the same. He ruined us and gave me betrayl trauma.

    • @beastmasterakathabarbaric1509
      @beastmasterakathabarbaric1509 Před 8 měsíci +2

      I'm dealing with exact same thing and feel traumatized in panic anxiety and depression my self esteem was damaged my confidence

    • @beastmasterakathabarbaric1509
      @beastmasterakathabarbaric1509 Před 8 měsíci +1

      My ex ghosted me came bk and ghosted me again....and she send a little nonchalant message and soon as I respond she does it again

    • @lmfisher650
      @lmfisher650 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@beastmasterakathabarbaric1509 that's terrible. What is wrong with our people?! This world is screwed. I'm scared to date again. I'm going to put my faith in God to find me someone.

  • @fitforfreelance
    @fitforfreelance Před rokem +2

    Nice step by step explanation

  • @eustacesmith9635
    @eustacesmith9635 Před rokem +1

    Wow awesome speech coach

  • @hmdwn
    @hmdwn Před 3 měsíci +1

    Homie... now 13 months and no contact... because it's just over.

  • @bronxnyc9680
    @bronxnyc9680 Před 4 dny

    To me, once a woman breaks up with you never never never go back. NO CONTACT her ass FORVER. MOVE ON.

  • @kinglee270
    @kinglee270 Před rokem +3

    We had a very bad breakup she ain't never coming back

    • @THEREALBOLONY
      @THEREALBOLONY Před rokem +3

      It’s not true, it can happen. With time it can happen.

  • @denisselee6544
    @denisselee6544 Před rokem +1

    Thanks for the positive video

  • @zarostheemptylord5893
    @zarostheemptylord5893 Před rokem +3

    One thing that scares me is my ex fiancee showed up 7 years later after cheating on me and ghosting me....we rekindled a freindship...and after 6 months of just friendship...i saw none of the old red flags like having to fight tooth and nail for a place in her life in the beginning or her becoming so cold and unempathetic to the pain my heath disorders put me in...she grew as a person so much..a relationship blossomed.....only for things to end nearly identically...i still dont see any of the old red flags or any new ones now....id like to think people can change...but maybe the flag was how they left originaly......if they can live without you once....even if they grew tremendously...they can and will choose to live without you again....but that shakes my faith of any 2nd chances because its unpredictable even when all signs point toward the positive

    • @uzuriaholmes
      @uzuriaholmes Před 9 měsíci +2

      The best indicator of what a person will do next is PAST behaviors.

  • @saraissza
    @saraissza Před rokem +2

    Your videos are helpful

  • @Texas_940
    @Texas_940 Před měsícem

    If she messages me with the excuse of returning my spare house key, I'm going to tell her "Cool, thanks! You can mail it to me."

  • @donnawilliams-reid9508
    @donnawilliams-reid9508 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Words of wisdom

  • @Eblade19990
    @Eblade19990 Před rokem

    Thanks for this video. This is more information to my question the other night on live. I appreciate you sir

  • @rebeccacraig1038
    @rebeccacraig1038 Před 3 měsíci +1

    In no contact, my separated husband reaches out to me every single time. He starts the texting with checking in and being nice but then it all goes sexual. He won’t ask me out on a date, although last week he texted late and asked if I wanted to go get dessert but then have “dessert” afterwards. I’ve started to feel used and so I’ve had to ask him not to ask me for sex if he doesn’t want to heal our marriage. Part of me feels good about this decision but then another part wonders if this was his journey back. He did this when we dated and I’m just now seeing the cycle. All I know is he makes minimal effort and has said he doesn’t want to be married and yet we’ve been separated over a year. I feel so manipulated and just done. File the papers if you don’t want to be married. Seems like a no brainer. Another thing, I went somewhere to sing and he showed up. We didn’t speak. Haven’t seen him in over a month and he shows up at a place I rarely go to. Just nuts!!

  • @samanthareilly6968
    @samanthareilly6968 Před 11 měsíci +6

    3 months broken up, 2 weeks no contact. He's called 3 times asking how I am and when he's going to see my new car lmao. 3rd time I straight out said "is it my car you want to see or me"? He said "well your car isn't going to come on its own". Smh. So he mumbled and stuttered something about his schedule and being free Saturday, I said OK, but he didn't give me a time. So I didn't say anything, just said I have to go because I have something to do. So let's see what happens next.

  • @jennifernixon563
    @jennifernixon563 Před rokem +2

    😂 PREACH IT BIG DOG

  • @asowatanabe2131
    @asowatanabe2131 Před rokem +1

    👑👑👑kingstyle thx my man

  • @Smoking_Lofi
    @Smoking_Lofi Před 9 měsíci +1

    Love the music and love the advice. Split up with my person of over 2 years Friday evening. I told her I didn't want this, and never did. I told her, however, if this is what she WANTED, I would respect her wishes. I want her to be happy. We exchanged "I love you(s)" and goodbyes. No contact now. No texts, calls, no snapchat, not viewing story etc. I hope this works, because it is so hard. Maybe she will recognize the lack of attention, love, and caring she once received. Thanks for the videos, coach Blac.

  • @ingo.ionescu
    @ingo.ionescu Před rokem +15

    Had quite a mature breakup a few weeks ago. We both went into NC right away from the moment we broke it off. Neither of us have reached out. Have you seen a lot of situations like this? I'm in a tricky situation as I am overseas for work and need to get my stuff out of her place when I go back home in a few weeks, and one of us will need to contact the other eventually here.... neither of us have taken down social media posts we have with each other, neither of us have blocked the other. It's been tough but have been able to remain strong nonetheless (for all of you out there struggling right now - you can do it).

    • @remyd1984
      @remyd1984 Před rokem +1

      They’ll always be 1 how wanted it more! You need to admit to yourself if you the dumper or the dumpee. If you the dumpee stay no contact

    • @ingo.ionescu
      @ingo.ionescu Před rokem

      @@remyd1984 oh no yeah she wanted to end it haha it's been brewing for pretty much the last year now. We have had almost a 9yr relationship - where we have both just loved each other like crazy (with ups & downs of course). She just started losing some attraction & interest due to some reasons in our relationship. I've always been quite independent and done a lot of things without her- and vice-versa, so it wasn't because I was being over-bearing or needy. I honestly told her right from the start I would do anything for her and that we are stronger together, but also told her that I'm a self-respecting man and won't beg for her as it has to come from within her to want this too.
      ^ word of advice for everyone else out there!!! It's ok to let them know you care, love them, etc. but do it from a place of self-respect and let them realize the consequences of their actions. If they care about you enough, they won't stand being away from you for too long and you will know it is mutual...

    • @mariefricchione437
      @mariefricchione437 Před rokem +4

      STAY NO CONTACT UNTIL HE CONTACTS YOU! No matter what! No contact works even long term! Do it!

    • @ingo.ionescu
      @ingo.ionescu Před rokem +1

      @mariefricchione437 as I mentioned, I can't because I go back home in September and I need to move everything out of her place. It's a different situation for me. When we broke it off over the phone, I brought up moving my stuff out and she said to just give her some time and we'd talk about it. It's been almost a month since then... lol

    • @mariefricchione437
      @mariefricchione437 Před rokem +1

      Good luck to you

  • @MetaphysicsMadeEasy
    @MetaphysicsMadeEasy Před 4 měsíci

    You rock brother.

  • @stevemorrisanamericaninasia
    @stevemorrisanamericaninasia Před 3 měsíci +3

    Mijo - Men are in love, women are in business! Always remember this factoid ...

  • @SozjeCat.
    @SozjeCat. Před rokem +1

    I got my ex indirect lingering by unblocking - blocking. I find it rather childish if this the way to contact me. It predicts nothing good. So i will stay NC. I really like him but it's not worth the stress and games.

  • @mohanmandala7617
    @mohanmandala7617 Před rokem +1

    Iam so happy with this video

  • @MadameEclat
    @MadameEclat Před 10 měsíci

    Coach. Please do another video more in depth like this.

  • @adad5891
    @adad5891 Před rokem +2

    Lmao " pump fake"

  • @rodzillarox4882
    @rodzillarox4882 Před rokem +7

    I am binge watching some coach Blac vids while i clean my apt :) Thanks for all you do

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Před rokem +5

      Awesome! Good to have you here 🙏

    • @Ericgodisgood
      @Ericgodisgood Před 5 měsíci

      @@blacademicif she like my post in unblock me what does that mean

  • @HudZeraPlay
    @HudZeraPlay Před měsícem

    You should never contact your ex if she's never start to contact you again and show she's have changed... just stay in NC for ever and grow your life up.

  • @conradgunderson9344
    @conradgunderson9344 Před 4 měsíci +1

    What to do when ex keeps sending memes through Social Media, and what does this mean?

  • @KatKitty-q6s
    @KatKitty-q6s Před 27 dny

    How to handle the situation. The guy suddenly became very cold. Even put a restrict on social media. I went to no contact. I saw no direct fault in myself. I was there for 23 days until he suddenly started looking at my story. Never watched during NC. I didn't look at his either. On the 27th NC day, he even sent a comment on my story with a question. one word and a question mark. so he took off the restrict. I didn't answer right away and when I looked again in the morning, I had been blocked. and my best friend too. He knows, that we are talking everything and this friend brought us together. previously, the guy watched all my friend's stories. and now he block her too.

  • @zandos73
    @zandos73 Před 8 měsíci

    Thanks!

  • @arth.3899
    @arth.3899 Před 24 dny

    I went back into no contact after 15 years of total no contact. My ex-wife called me in January and it was really nice. She knows I loved her. Well, she started acting up again and ghosted me. For a few months I wondered what in the world did I say or do that upset her. But I also remember she was this same way back in 2009. I vanished from her world again. She tried to contact me 3 times just recently. My gut was telling me to give her the same treatment. I didn't call her back. Just recently, I have realized if I really like this person. She has the ability to make me feel like a total piece of garbage. It's like being attracted to gasoline. I decided to leave her alone and focus on myself once again. I'm trying to get into the fitness training field and received my certification in January. No contact can be a great reality check.

  • @twinsoultarot473
    @twinsoultarot473 Před 11 měsíci

    He lives in NY. FaceTime is out too. All his phones are stolen.

  • @EthelVansertima-fq6gy
    @EthelVansertima-fq6gy Před 25 dny

    what if you were the one who decided to go no contact with him because he constantly disrespects you and after the no contact he still has no called you?

  • @debbierennox931
    @debbierennox931 Před 2 měsíci

    My first day of no contact after 4 years together 2 years of marriage I don’t care if he comes back or not

  • @Vincent_N89
    @Vincent_N89 Před rokem +1

    Almost 3 months NC, blocked and starting to lose hope

    • @andrewbenson8427
      @andrewbenson8427 Před rokem +7

      You have to move on so she can miss the relationship and come back, and you have to move on for yourself in case she never comes back.

  • @WhatsThePoint01
    @WhatsThePoint01 Před 5 měsíci

    This man is saving lives 🫡.
    You are doing gods work with broken hearts. God bless you!

  • @Young_MoniLove
    @Young_MoniLove Před rokem +4

    My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago… I reached out to him 3 times (he left me on read). Two of my friends also reached out to him (he told them I had a good man and didn’t know what to do with him) All of this happened within the first 3 weeks of the breakup. I started doing no contact the 4th week… But this is so hard… I don’t know what else to do. Did I mess up? What are the chances of him coming back? 😢

    • @uzuriaholmes
      @uzuriaholmes Před 9 měsíci +4

      In a way you messed up, but you can still reverse it. Go live your life! YOUR BEST ONE! You will start feeling better and the person won't even matter. Then wondering if you messed up won't even be a question. I believe if people loved once before y'all can do it again. Things just take time ❤ the only answer to this particular problem is time.

  • @jenniferpadilla9191
    @jenniferpadilla9191 Před 11 měsíci +2

    How come no one talks about ex’s breaking no contact and a few months and asks to be friends? What is the response to that?

    • @iok21a
      @iok21a Před 11 měsíci +3

      probably testing the waters to see if you ve moved on or attempting to find an opening to get you back romantically
      imo, unless the intentions are clear that the ex wants you back, don’t settle for a friendship - you’d basically accept the fate of being a back up and live in misery if you still have feelings
      I’d simply ask them what would this friendship entail and when will it stop? (example: as soon as your ex finds someone new?)

  • @shandy41709
    @shandy41709 Před 6 měsíci

    We were talking and now its been 2 months of silence. I'm scared he won't reach out again

  • @lilianaramirezrealestatebroker

    Not looking for friends! Ive tried to escalate multiple times and have been rejected by his actions but him never saying the word no...and I even asked "should I just stop reaching responding"....he never responded to my question (Ghosted).....Im back at hard no contact and put it into Gods hands as I should of to begin with. 😢😮😊

  • @mramces3716
    @mramces3716 Před 3 měsíci

    My ex was suicidal, i blocked her then unblocked her just in case she needs help , sometimes unblocking is not an indirect message to an ex it's just being empath i guess .
    Maybe I'm wrong 😅

  • @Kjrl
    @Kjrl Před rokem +12

    One year no contact and I am still "waiting"

    • @morpheus3190
      @morpheus3190 Před rokem +7

      Same here, one year this week . Stay strong ! Wishing you good Karma.

    • @runyararomtandi2237
      @runyararomtandi2237 Před rokem +23

      Mmmm guys move on

    • @tvbooth22583
      @tvbooth22583 Před rokem +10

      If they've been gone for a year why u want them back after messing around/sleeping with other ppl. Move on

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Před rokem +63

      I have never suggested nor will I ever encourage you to wait for a year. No contact starts with you but is also very effective for attracting your ex. If they do absolutely nothing within the first 3-4 months, and you really still want to give it a try after you have worked on yourself. Send one message and see how it goes.
      If they never respond. That’s your answer. Let go. Stop chasing. Stop waiting. If they come back after a year fine. But you certainly shouldn’t be waiting.

    • @pmdal
      @pmdal Před rokem +3

      Nc is for yourself

  • @jonathanvermillion7263
    @jonathanvermillion7263 Před 3 měsíci

    She asked me if I wanted my guitar back, I got there and she asked me in for a drink, we talked a bit and I said I had to leave we had a long hug and I kissed her on the cheek, I wanted to ask for a date but didn’t because I didn’t want to over chase , I texted her after that it was good to see her, she said it was good to see me too, I let the convo die and I plan on waiting till she reaches out again , I feel like I should have asked her out on a date , is it too late?

  • @victoriawebster8816
    @victoriawebster8816 Před 6 minutami

    No contact at the moment
    How do you go from snuggling on the couch and being lovers to now he doesn’t want to be with me?
    He’s very insecure and jealous. Found that out a couple weeks ago!
    That’s when everything changed
    I went no contact and then he showed up at my door
    But nothing changed
    I don’t get it. I’m more confused than ever.

  • @icequeencassandra2950
    @icequeencassandra2950 Před 5 měsíci

    13:10 I told him is best we do a no contact since he wants a break to re-access what we truly want. His only response was “if this is what I want is fine”. It’s been 2 weeks 😢😢😢😢😢

    • @Swiss_Girl
      @Swiss_Girl Před 4 měsíci

      an update? sometimes it takes him months

    • @icequeencassandra2950
      @icequeencassandra2950 Před 4 měsíci +1

      @@Swiss_Girl I broke no contact on 31st March for us to see and talk. He told me he will get back to me till now I haven’t heard from him. I am starting no contact all over again 😢😢😢😢

    • @Swiss_Girl
      @Swiss_Girl Před 4 měsíci

      @@icequeencassandra2950 thank you for sharing. stay strong. I am on day 10 no contact. so hard. but sometimes it takes men months. high hope🙏🏻

  • @stevemorrisanamericaninasia
    @stevemorrisanamericaninasia Před 7 měsíci

    Alot of mind games. Best to just lease with automatic trade-in every fee years ...

  • @gralbr
    @gralbr Před 10 měsíci

    I think who the dumper is, is a bigger consideration than who is the masculine, and who is the feminine.

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Před 10 měsíci

      The dumper should reach out first. The masculine and feminine matters for deciding who should initiate dates. Men waiting for a female dumper to initiate dates may miss opportunities to reconcile.

    • @ISABEL_OF42
      @ISABEL_OF42 Před 2 měsíci

      @@blacademicthe dumper should reach out even if the dumpee was unfaithful? That is my situation and I will NEVER reach out to him. The only
      Time I’ll speak to him is if he shows up at my doorstep. Not answering calls, texts, or emails. All I want is an apology and a reason why he destroyed my self esteem and heart by sleeping with another woman. My plans are to move on and never look back.

  • @HopeFaithExpect77
    @HopeFaithExpect77 Před 3 měsíci

    Dude. If she dumped ME. I am not reaching out from no contact or fixing what SHE broke. Its on HER. Im not gonna ignore or reject but its on that person to chase to earn YOU back. Plus who wants trust a person that bailed on you for weeks or months to be with someone else. Lots holes this logic coaching here but good luck for those whom use & it works

  • @I.E.I.E.
    @I.E.I.E. Před rokem +2

    What if I was a remorseful guy who called and pleaded right after getting dumped but then I went no contact for a week. She got upset that I went no contact. I told her that I was giving her the space that she wanted and then reminded her that weren't an item anymore. How do I handle this?

    • @CREDMANSR
      @CREDMANSR Před 7 měsíci +2

      Stay in no contact until she reaches out to meet up. She's bread crumbing you.

  • @lmart16
    @lmart16 Před rokem

    When they reach out to try and tell you they're moving or to say bye after months of NC. Or, stalking your insta with an alt.

  • @RosieCeeV
    @RosieCeeV Před měsícem

    It’s been 3 days since he broke up
    With me. I immediately went into
    No contact. Neither of us has removed our pictures/names from IG bios nor have we unfollowed/removed the other person. I’m
    Not sure what to think/make of the fact that he broke up with me but still has everything up including our pictures from when he proposed…

  • @sscbls2235
    @sscbls2235 Před 3 měsíci

    My ex left me for her ex boyfriend of 6 years 1 week later there engaged he even knew about me left me Sunday Monday there going out next Sunday there engaged we where together for 5 months she had 5 years with him she was single for 8 months we became boyfriend and girl after the third months I see no hope of her coming back not even coach can help me

  • @SilentCalligraphy
    @SilentCalligraphy Před 10 měsíci +1

    She dumped me, i didn't beg chase or dispute the situation, went into NC straight away. Two weeks later she messaged me on my bday, I've done the pump fake and am now waiting. This period seems harder than the initial NC. Any tips as to what to escalate with of she dosent reach out again? She didn't reply to the last message I sent and instead liked it, although the message I sent didn't really need a reply.

  • @user-vk7zw4vw2o
    @user-vk7zw4vw2o Před 7 měsíci

    He's not showing any signs only time we talk wen its bout your child he broke up with me

  • @kevnosity
    @kevnosity Před 10 měsíci +1

    Does this work if you dumped the person but want them back?

  • @supidkoala
    @supidkoala Před měsícem

    @blacademic My ex who blindsided me unblocked me after 4 months saying that cheated on me and was asking for friendship. I said no. So he gaslighted me for 1 hr and blocked me again. Will he reach out again?

  • @ZiMiKEOFFICIAL
    @ZiMiKEOFFICIAL Před rokem +1

    Now im in LDR this you say on video happens to me we broke up last October and she move to another city for a new job and she contact me almost every day until april then i try to see and talk to her in the phone and she says to me in this moment she dont want to reconcile our relationship and i say to her we have to stop contact its other and i say what you say in the video i unfriend her from my social and going to no contact, after 3 months she contact me to ask me about a mutual friend she has a car accident we speak only for this for 3-4 times for a week about and then she disappeared again ... I continue my no contact

  • @samjulian2085
    @samjulian2085 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Hey coach I need some advise! Me and my girlfriend. Have split 3 days ago she will normally do this I’m done and come back she is very emotional and likes all the soppy stuff. This time it feels different I’m worried. She gave my hoodies to a friend to give back to me but she hid a message in the pocket. It was her saying she genuinely is sorry and apologised and that she has always been in love with me and thinks she always will be. She said she’s gone to message me and call me multiple times over the 3 days it’s been very hard finished it by saying take care, I love you
    Normally she’d try and say goodbye as a end but there is no goodbye here how do I reply as I’m blocked on everything and is this classed as her reaching out to me

  • @jayjayhernandez5073
    @jayjayhernandez5073 Před 11 měsíci

    I'm really nervous to text back, let alone read it. it's been a month since we talked 😢

  • @Mike-Hutchings16
    @Mike-Hutchings16 Před rokem +1

    I’d like to book a 1-2-1 but I’m away at the moment and have no laptop. I was wondering if FaceTime or something else would be ok?

  • @paulsell2438
    @paulsell2438 Před 4 měsíci

    Total breadcrumb last night, she changed the quick reaction on messenger...then 3 hours later said it must have happened in her bag. Nice try sister.

  • @Rishabhmech
    @Rishabhmech Před 5 měsíci

    My ex got married, but she reaches out to me constantly after getting married. I don't know what to do, In fact, I too am not able to get out properly. I never message her first, but when she does, I reply.

  • @amgbenzv12
    @amgbenzv12 Před 9 měsíci

    What about if they DM you a meme to your instagram, do you open it, do you like, or even reply to it? (Keep in mind - there’s no contact happening)

  • @lunchhead7085
    @lunchhead7085 Před 11 měsíci

    Romantic face time with a slippery snake errrrr thanks but no thanks!

  • @bhu3861
    @bhu3861 Před 11 měsíci

    My ex is confusing 🙈 texting I'm thinking of you. We catch up few weeks later for me to take my stuff then when I'm there his cold and absent. Then he offers to drop my stuff to my place later on in a week.

  • @alexmillion5645
    @alexmillion5645 Před 4 měsíci

    My ex gf followed my best friend yesterday and she knows that he has a girlfriend. Is this a sign of reaching out?

  • @solomonboateng323
    @solomonboateng323 Před 9 měsíci

    She breaked up with me...all bcos she was saying I don't trust her.And again I texted her younger sis,cux her sister sometimes her mum uses her fone so she didn't want me to do that. Buh before dis she made me aware of that. And I texted her sister to check out something on her