I do, and Ive been sucsessful at it. To see my man get revenge is very satisfactory for me, even if it wasnt me who did it. I just want the good guys to win, even it means them going bad.
As a woman I approach a guy and told him i was interested, and was promptly shot down. All the green flags were there, we had talked and hung out a bit. Im just a fairly average looking 5'7 woman who doesnt wear makeup. Double checked for advice online and was told to just tell him, so I did. Absolutely ruined my courage to be straightforward again. Mad respect to you guys who keep at it.
Don't worry some people are just not interested. Not worth to kick yourself for it. And honestly average looking girl with good personality is more than enough for most guys. For me it is important she is trustworthy and has some hobbies so we can talk about something interesting😀
I remember my niece saying that she wouldn't put her hair in a bun because one person said she looked like a chav..... the key word being one... bad experiences are also 100x times more powerful than good ones... they influence us way more and we tend to reflect on them way more when compared to good ones.... personally I love a girl without make up... for me a face full of make up shows me that she probably isn't my type.....
I know exactly how you feel as a guy. Nothing we can do about it but move on if you meet another guy and are interested in him it’s okay to ask him for a date. You will get used to that feeling of no like I did.
It’s simple, if she is REALLY into you, she would be the one to initiate a conversation, stand very close to you, and will be generally smiling no matter what you say to her. That’s basically as close to green light as you can get, speaking from experience. Otherwise, keep the convo short and keep it pushing. 🙂
@@charlestaffe5819Not if she is already attracted to you to begin with. The more attractive the guy is, the more girls are “forgiving” of his shortcomings.
Its worth noting not all girls will do this. Its very much dependent on their personality. If they do initiate conversation, it is a huge green flag. But if they dont, it doesnt necessarily mean they dont like you.
@@charlestaffe5819Being introverted isnt an objective turnoff. Some girls like them. Its a personal preference thing. I personally love introverted girls but I know damn well that isnt true for a lot of people.
99% of girls don't do this unless your a jacked Chad. You have to be extroverted, talk with everyone *including* the girls you like. Learn how to banter with everyone, guys, girls, ugly girls, old women, old men, but close on the girls you like by setting up activities you want to do with them for a date. (Only ask for socials if the girl is actually receptive though - use common sense a little bit you can tell if a chick is interested in talking unless it's her job to be nice to you, don't waste your time on front desk girls that every dude in the world is also hitting on)
The only thing I disagree is that it’s not laziness that makes us want the girls we meet regularly through work or class. It’s because you can gather more information about person even without directly talking to them, you can already know if you two might be compatible, if she is single, how she acts with different people, etc. Then you can filter if the effort is worth it. It’s not lazy, it’s smart.
It’s more possible because as far as I know, most of us are not model looking dudes. So the warm approach (don’t know if I use the right term) will be more likely to work: more time and occasions to display our personality, humor, skills, etc.
he said most guys assume the girl is attracted to them, but Im the opposite. I always assume they're just being nice. Probably missed some opportunities.
For me I don’t assume they’re attracted to me, but rather I assume they’re trying to manipulate or play around with me. Maybe I just had too many encounters with fake kindness as a kid.
It is hard when it is the opposite, they like you, you start to like them, no mention of boyfriend EVER, and you have to realise the bad way. And you end un feel like shit, because you are into her, she is into you, but not possible. Happened me like, lost count. Shit.
As a girl this is pretty accurate! Im glad you mentioned that most women are nice, cause many guys think I like them just from being myself. I am a naturally curious and happy person, I am also somewhat bold and will talk to most people but when I like someone I get very nervous and the best I can do is look in their direction/smile or place myself in a their space
This question is the easiest to answer: she's just being nice. But if you want to know for sure, ask her out anyway, or whatever you kids do these days. Not all risks can be, or even should be, mitigated. Get used to rejection and accept it when it comes, because it will come more often than not. Or just be you and let her approach. But then again, that's another risk, isn't it? 😂😂😂 Good luck boys.
Listened to it end to end, and I must say you're amazing, man. It's your kindness and compassion for both men and women that make you stand out and do it much better than the average speaker out there. Thank you so much.
Had a girl that was attracted to me, but I blew it cuz I had no idea what to do. It was my first time chatting up a girl. Learnt a lot from those interactions though
@@JeanClaud3 I took 5 days to ask her out which might be fine for some girls, but in hindsight, I should've done it the first day to not waste time and decrease my success.
Denmo, your commitment to giving quality information to the public in a witty manner inspires me to find ways to teach the world self help that people need like you do.
Soaking in the information! Literally taking my whole day off to clean house and catch up listening to every Denmo vid released last week! Thanks Jack, I'm gradually developing the courage to put myself out there and make the first move!
I’m a woman not sure how I got here lol but I have to say that it’s not always WHAT we do, it’s HOW we do it. First: *pay attention to her eyes* , if you get out of your own head and really pay attention when you’re talking to a girl, the look in our eyes when we like you is very telling- eyes say what the mouth can’t oftentimes. There will be a kind of “sparkle” or glint in the eyes, and you’ll just *feel* a certain energy. I notice when I like a guy I usually tilt my head to the side when talking to him and kinda peer UPward at him. I also widen my eyes a bit like doe eyes-none of this is purposeful it’s just biology (Most of us do these things btw not just me) I also tend to slightly raise the pitch and soften my voice. I might not give you crazy intense eye contact bc I can get nervous, but if i look down after meeting your eyes and look a bit flushed or even embarrassed, I prob like you.. If I want to know a lot about you (even the things you think are boring) I like you. Basically: If you see a girl kinda “posing” (or her body looks kinda rigid/on alert), widening her eyes, head tilting, giving “sweet/shy” smiles, looking down and peering up at you from under her lashes, looking a bit flustered/nervous during eye contact , laughing a lot more than is appropriate, talking too loud/excited or talking too soft- these are all very positive signs.
Bro I've given up already. Being played with too much. I'm learning to love and appreciate myself more and take care of my own needs first and trust the universe things will work out in their own time 💯🙏🏿. Great advice
Thanks brother. Will get back into it. Need more self confidence and need to get my body in shape. I think because I'm the nice guy they treat me as a friend. Thanks brother for the encouragement will put it into practice
@jimbofisher8904 Your comment makes literally no sense at all. do you even read the comments fully before you answer? or is this some kind of bot account?
dayum Denmo with daily uploads 😍 By the way thank you bro for the free content. I approached 20 women last week and i already set three dates this week. If everything goes right, I will become a womanizer by the end of the year. Like Bro, I literally made in this two months more progress to my goals with women than in my 26 years of existence. It's f*cking crazy. I did not expect that most of the women are really chill af😂 Don't listen to most Redpill gurus who say: "You need to be 6 feet tall, make 6-figures per year, have 6-pack abs and have a six inch dragon under your pants". I had none of the these and still managed to pull some baddies. I wish I could have found your channel sooner, but nvm I'll catch up on everything.
@shyam9853 they all help pretty good. I watched 100+ of his videos in 3 months before signing up for socializer. I have 9 girls' numbers now, in only 3 months, and I'm hanging with 3 or 4 girls this week.
Yeah, the problem is it's relatively rare for a woman to be friendly towards a man, so the odd time it does happen, his mind can't help but start dreaming...
@@myztixs It is for me... I'm lucky if a female cashier will even LOOK at me. Once when I happened to be walking behind a woman on a public sidewalk for less than a minute, another woman randomly shouted at me and asked if I was "following" that woman. You are very lucky if you have better experiences with women on the street than I do.
its not necessarily being friendly, its just rare for women to talk to men in general outside of obligation. When it happens, they tend to be nice regardless if their attracted to you or not.
That is the best class of my entire life ! Thank you Denmo for this video ! I like this format, very simple, without extreme montage. Just a guy, talking about relationships between men/woman. AMAZING !
The longer the better Denmo. (that’s what she said). Even if I don’t need these as much anymore, your channel is like my safe space lol. Every 1hr+ video is an instant click from me and makes my day.
Thank you for making this video. I'm afraid to talk to men as someone trying to be social. I also avoid being friends with them to get rid of any "friendzone" accusations as well. I try to sympathize at least maybe coming to the conclusion that most women don't talk to them. A lot of them put on a deucebag or defensive persona in the event a girl does talk to them. That's where my sympathy stops. I feel bad, but I don't think it's ultimately my burden to apologize because their personal feelings are conflicted and I got caught in the crossfire. As someone who's very shy, the last kind of guy I'd approach trying to be social is a guy I'm attracted to. I wouldn't even know where to start. I'm only usually social with people I have neutral feelings about. I'd also like to add that a lot of this is a result of poor communication skills, and setting proper boundaries. A lot of women have poor communication skills, though at the very least know how to be "nice." A lot of these men who are unsuccessful have poor social skills and poor interpersonal skills overall. Chances are, she's only being nice. This is just more nuance as to why.
I personally really like these long informative videos Mr.Denmo!. Also Mr.Denmo may you make a video about how your occupation, calling/purpose can make your prospects view you differently I.e. the blue collar guy, the techy, the military guy etc.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back
@@cgspartan87 it depends. But really, as guys, we are never gonna pick up on the subtle social ques of a girl that is into you but too shy. So you gotta wait for the obvious woman. A girl that is straight forward with her intentions. That is when you know you've found wife material.
@wheniztheend I get you I do, I've been more perceptive with the hints lately and yea I see that they are so subtle like damn, it's kinda funny actually, like really a "head tilt" and pulling your hair to oneside, this is the "hint"?! I try to just be of the mindset of not waiting to read signals of waiting for her to make the first move, but just being direct with your intentions, if she feels you then cool, if she doesn't then cool too, nothing wrong with being the first one to start the process and being a gentleman about it, but I get you, knowing which women are interested helps wifey is out there, but I understand she may be a shy one, that's why I don't like to BS with a girl I really like, I just try and work my magic and not be so concerned about them giving you signals, there is only one process towards bagging wifey, you see her, you talk, get her number, get the date, make a move, if at any point she resists then you got a decision, continue or pull away, like this is baseline for me, because trying to read signals or wait for a woman to reveal her attraction to you will just drive you mad
I am oblivious the other way around lol I assume she isnt attracted to me and is just being friendly. But then a friend will slap me in the back of my head for not asking her for her number. He told me that ever since I got fit, and got my conversation skills better, I am more attractive than I think.
I dont know about everyone ese but THIS is the type of content Id like to see more of from you bro. Your other shit is good but very surface level self improvement stuff IMO. This is what I will binge all day long. 11/10
56:42 hits me HARD, this perfectly described myself. I pretty much had that sort of tunnel vision for years until that one girl got married to someone else last month. Here I am now slowly realizing that's one of the best things to happen to me and it's not the end of the world, all without any hard feelings nor regret for having fallen for her to begin with. I'm more open to the options available to me now all the while I'm doing so much more to focus on myself
Another sign is if you’re with a friend and she approaches him while EYEING you. She’s probably a bit nervous and wants to get you into the conversation without directly approaching you.
11:28 I feel that. In our classroom we often sat girls on one side and boys on the other (not because it was forced, but because that's how we chose to do it). And one teacher would always pair us up one from each side to "mix the groups well". I'm not sure how aware he was of what he was actually doing...
Jfc the lawn mower metaphor killed me. That's one thing I learned early in life, just figure out the path of least resistance with the fewest questions and then they're off!
I love how positive you are that men who have never had luck with women can change their situation. So many men are living a sexless, dateless, mediocre life and it is a modern tragedy.
I don't really know if a girl is into me because of my traumas from the past. I got to know a nice girl, she is pretty, cute, clever and she even gave me her number. We talked really much about our hobbies and what's fantastic we like the same things. I want to go on a date with her and I'm gonna do this:) Btw this video can't help me because I think every girl is so different but thanks for trying help us anyway ❤
yes girls have differences but it is disingenuous to say that averages aren’t there, or they don’t all have commonalities. It’s also okay to not know why something is working. There are many successful people out there who don’t really understand why they were successful, and thats ok. Just enjoy the time and happiness 👍
That’s why I just wait for them to make a move atleast I know its legit that way, I’m not about to be some damn dancing monkey giving away free attention, the f*ck do I look like lol
then how come less than 13% of men are over 6 ft tall? Less than 44% of men have hair by age 35? How are these other dudes reproducing? This logics dumb
@@Denmosocial the fact that a woman lets someone hit when hes 35, balding and broke, doesn't mean thats her first choice. Dont make me bring up stats regarding men who are raising kids that arent theirs (without knowing too)
again you are missing the point entirely you could argue women based their primal attraction on ability to provide resources & protect (little guy with lots of stuff or big ugly guy with big stick) and this is one of those cope comments
@@Denmosocial okay, so all the poor fellas who get limb lengthening surgery just do it for fun. Also you are missing the genetics thing altogheter. Theres kids born with down syndrome and autism. That doesnt mean women fuck men with downs syndrome and autism.
Awesome content as always, Denmo. It's funny because I was reading about dating in the DC area being a total disaster when it came to a bunch of Reddit posts. Bunch of people saying that a lot of folks prioritize their career and other things over putting in the real effort to start a relationship. I'd say its a mixed bag of both here in the DC area. A lot of folks want to date, but want to skip the steps involved in actually building the relationship. Is it the same where you all live?
I just assume they all are being just nice. I remember hooking up with an employee who worked at a small place I frequent so it CAN happen and I’ve made some bros from it but it’s rare, it was an unconviental place etc. But yeah I love this, this is helpful. I have a habit of falling for nice but at the same time I just assume they’re being just nice so it’s nice to know IF they’re interested. It’s rare though which sucks most numbers I get or instas go nowhere :(
@@fattyjaybird7505 I was referring to physical attraction. So you believe what he said? Men need to be more than just physically attractive. In order for women to want them. That checks out with more men being single. But the men that are just physically attractive. Don't impact the data because those men are rare.
I do cold approaches because I scared to get in awkward situation with girls I know and will contact in future (work, university, gym). Strangers on the street will just disappear from your life if you will fail approach.
Generally if you are having good time with the colleagues, you can better pick up on what is meant as rejection - and to the outsider it might not seem like a rejection, that how cool it would be.
It’s interesting to watch this as a woman who tries really hard to be kind and nice to everyone. Men get the wrong idea all the time because my parents raised me to stop, take a moment, and be human with others. I think a good approach when you aren’t sure is just to try to spend time with someone as a friend with a group. It makes us feel a lot more comfortable to get to know someone a little bit without the pressure of a date. Also a good way to find out if someone is crazy without having to be alone with them. For example, you could invite someone to an evening out with your other friends. If you don’t have friends that’s step one. Honestly having friends can make more of a positive impact on your life than a girlfriend.
Ironically its the girls I thought that DIDNT like me were the ones that actually liked me. I asked out some girls that gave common signs like smiling, talking close to me, leaning, etc and got friendzoned. I asked out girls that gave me cold stares and didn’t speak much and got their numbers. Its all about eye contact. Some can be shy and look away but the key is how they react. Are they blushing or are they looking away in disgust or neutral. They won’t wanna keep looking at someone thats unattractive to them.
excellent video. great advice; it's spot on. I'm a shy guy n rarely approached girls but fortunately I've had a few long-term relationships with one 9 n one 10. they gave me the signs you mentioned at the beginning of our relationships
I think you succeeded in laying out the differences between men and women. I think the biggest problem that men are facing in the dating scene, is the desire for financial security. Nesting instinct. It has become a characiture of what it used to be. The desire for wealth and status has been nurtured to a fine point these days, and that narrow focus makes someone's world a lot smaller. Whether that be the dating world, the public space, whatever. If she _really_ likes you, she'll make the first move, you'll be in her crosshairs and there won't be any wondering about it. If the thought crosses your mind that causes doubt, you're wasting your time. If you decide to be aggressively pursuing her, she's gonna use you, get what she wants and then move on. The takeaway is don't be a shut-in. Just a nice body alone will put you in a high tier. Work on your sense of humor, even higher tier. Stop taking things that people say so seriously, even higher tier. It's been my experience (and yes I have some) that when women see something they want, they come and get it. If she's playing games, she doesn't want you, she wants something else. Probably your money. Dude here is pretty smart, but still has a lot to learn.
for you to understand here is, you need to be self-aware. I talked to 2 girls, i did like them a little, however I knew I would not get that far, however I did that anyway, it went fine either way, and as I expected the first went to the military and the other moved up north, however I got experience. you just need to up your "mind game" a little, woman tend to be more focused on social interactions, so you need to up your "social mind game" a little and you will soon find them out.
I think that the reason a lot of us men forget what context means regarding when we try to flirt with women is that we’re sort of taught that it’s our job to shoot our shot and that we just have to shoot our shot or miss our chance
Why do players try to make nice guys into womanizers 😢
Socializers*
God forbid someone try to fix the dating scene
@@Denmosocial dude why don't you do a collab with FNF?..it would be great
I do, and Ive been sucsessful at it. To see my man get revenge is very satisfactory for me, even if it wasnt me who did it. I just want the good guys to win, even it means them going bad.
@@DarkEagle99🐺👹🐺
I hate when I have flash backs of a chick and realized months later that a girl liked me 😂😂😂
The worst feeling ever lmfao
All the worse when you get around to 40 or so, and the number of those missed opportunities rises into the dozens!😳😔
You should try three years...
Spending too much time in your head can lead to madness.
@@ilovebutterstuff really? That’s my safe space 😂😂
As a woman I approach a guy and told him i was interested, and was promptly shot down. All the green flags were there, we had talked and hung out a bit. Im just a fairly average looking 5'7 woman who doesnt wear makeup. Double checked for advice online and was told to just tell him, so I did. Absolutely ruined my courage to be straightforward again. Mad respect to you guys who keep at it.
Don't worry some people are just not interested. Not worth to kick yourself for it.
And honestly average looking girl with good personality is more than enough for most guys. For me it is important she is trustworthy and has some hobbies so we can talk about something interesting😀
I remember my niece saying that she wouldn't put her hair in a bun because one person said she looked like a chav..... the key word being one... bad experiences are also 100x times more powerful than good ones... they influence us way more and we tend to reflect on them way more when compared to good ones.... personally I love a girl without make up... for me a face full of make up shows me that she probably isn't my type.....
You sound wonderful 👑 Keep improving on yourself 👌🏼
honey...honey... another one
I know exactly how you feel as a guy. Nothing we can do about it but move on if you meet another guy and are interested in him it’s okay to ask him for a date. You will get used to that feeling of no like I did.
It’s simple, if she is REALLY into you, she would be the one to initiate a conversation, stand very close to you, and will be generally smiling no matter what you say to her.
That’s basically as close to green light as you can get, speaking from experience. Otherwise, keep the convo short and keep it pushing. 🙂
Yes, but if you’re not an extrovert she will lose interest quickly.
@@charlestaffe5819Not if she is already attracted to you to begin with. The more attractive the guy is, the more girls are “forgiving” of his shortcomings.
Its worth noting not all girls will do this. Its very much dependent on their personality. If they do initiate conversation, it is a huge green flag. But if they dont, it doesnt necessarily mean they dont like you.
@@charlestaffe5819Being introverted isnt an objective turnoff. Some girls like them. Its a personal preference thing. I personally love introverted girls but I know damn well that isnt true for a lot of people.
99% of girls don't do this unless your a jacked Chad. You have to be extroverted, talk with everyone *including* the girls you like. Learn how to banter with everyone, guys, girls, ugly girls, old women, old men, but close on the girls you like by setting up activities you want to do with them for a date. (Only ask for socials if the girl is actually receptive though - use common sense a little bit you can tell if a chick is interested in talking unless it's her job to be nice to you, don't waste your time on front desk girls that every dude in the world is also hitting on)
The only thing I disagree is that it’s not laziness that makes us want the girls we meet regularly through work or class. It’s because you can gather more information about person even without directly talking to them, you can already know if you two might be compatible, if she is single, how she acts with different people, etc. Then you can filter if the effort is worth it. It’s not lazy, it’s smart.
there is also a familiarity bias that can play into that as well
Sure! I agree with you! It does make a lot of sense.
Efficiency is clever laziness - Echo
Familiarity supposedly makes your attractiveness go up in women, except if you're in the friendzone ofc
It’s more possible because as far as I know, most of us are not model looking dudes. So the warm approach (don’t know if I use the right term) will be more likely to work: more time and occasions to display our personality, humor, skills, etc.
he said most guys assume the girl is attracted to them, but Im the opposite. I always assume they're just being nice. Probably missed some opportunities.
Same
I see you like to 3 bet sir hahaha
all good bro now you know
Statistically, you probably didn't miss anything, and no girl was ever attracted to you 🥲
@@ClintonMcCutchin mainly OOP haha
If you ever doubt that being a man is hard, know this: we get kindness so rarely that we mistake someone being nice to us for being attracted to us!
For me I don’t assume they’re attracted to me, but rather I assume they’re trying to manipulate or play around with me. Maybe I just had too many encounters with fake kindness as a kid.
video starts st 36:32
Thanks, Denmo loves to hear himself speak, all the power to him but I ain't got time for that
@@hugoeriksson983facts lmao
Lmao I watched the whole video but this comment made me laugh
yeah he loves wasting peoples time, hour-long vids proves he sucks at summarizing
Thx man
If she mentions a "boyfriend" she is not into you.
or she is into cheating fantacies
@@Ozdyy Women who mention the boyfriend rarely have a boyfriend. That was facts in 1986 and same in 2024.
It is hard when it is the opposite, they like you, you start to like them, no mention of boyfriend EVER, and you have to realise the bad way. And you end un feel like shit, because you are into her, she is into you, but not possible. Happened me like, lost count. Shit.
nahhh who would’ve thought
if she mentions she has a bf, reply "he's a lucky guy" n get her number as friends (more likely she'll give it to you). can play the long game
As a girl this is pretty accurate! Im glad you mentioned that most women are nice, cause many guys think I like them just from being myself. I am a naturally curious and happy person, I am also somewhat bold and will talk to most people but when I like someone I get very nervous and the best I can do is look in their direction/smile or place myself in a their space
talk to girls that seem scared of me ✅ 📜 ✍️
@@meeese6_ LOLOLOL 😭😭 WELLLL THIS MIGHT NOT APPLY TO ALL
must be nice to not have had your soul crushed by real life
Save the curiosity for females. Men will definitely make assumptions (I'm one).
Will keep this in mind
Let me know if you enjoy the whiteboard videos I love doing them haha
yes do more daddy denmo
@@64x83 will do son
Love it bro keep them coming 💪
yes more please, not only is it useful but very entertaining
@Denmosocial collab with Hoe_Math! He does this type of shit all the time and it’s incredible.
TLDR of the vid: Use common sense and basic social skills, they probably don’t like you most of the time and being nice, keep your options open
where do we learn common sense and social skills?
@@mrosskneby going outside and interacting with people
🤣👌 I came to the video and the comments for this
This question is the easiest to answer: she's just being nice.
But if you want to know for sure, ask her out anyway, or whatever you kids do these days.
Not all risks can be, or even should be, mitigated. Get used to rejection and accept it when it comes, because it will come more often than not.
Or just be you and let her approach. But then again, that's another risk, isn't it?
😂😂😂 Good luck boys.
I always asked women out I like anyways lol
women don't have to do anything, of course. because they're human and we're not.
Listened to it end to end, and I must say you're amazing, man. It's your kindness and compassion for both men and women that make you stand out and do it much better than the average speaker out there. Thank you so much.
Had a girl that was attracted to me, but I blew it cuz I had no idea what to do. It was my first time chatting up a girl. Learnt a lot from those interactions though
That's the thing if you take too long to make a move she will lose interest and move on. Good for you tho at least you learned the process.
@@JeanClaud3 I took 5 days to ask her out which might be fine for some girls, but in hindsight, I should've done it the first day to not waste time and decrease my success.
Happens to everyone. Unless your lucky you’ll inevitably botch one or two attempts before you land a good one.
@@orange_turtle3412 Thanks, needed some motivation =)
Mission failed, but we'll get them next time! Nice man, just use those interactions and keep the lessons in mind!
Now this is finally a class I'll enjoy listening to, not falling asleep, this is the way Denmo.
lmao about time eh
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I love this new type of video. No editing, just Denmo in front of a whiteboard dropping nothing but value
OHHH BABY more like this to come
Denmo, your commitment to giving quality information to the public in a witty manner inspires me to find ways to teach the world self help that people need like you do.
i do it for guys like you
Holy shit DENMO! 4 to 5 back to back bangers? You're spoiling us, but please don't stop
everyday this month buddy
@@Denmosocial LETS FUDGING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Soaking in the information!
Literally taking my whole day off to clean house and catch up listening to every Denmo vid released last week!
Thanks Jack, I'm gradually developing the courage to put myself out there and make the first move!
I’m a woman not sure how I got here lol but I have to say that it’s not always WHAT we do, it’s HOW we do it. First: *pay attention to her eyes* , if you get out of your own head and really pay attention when you’re talking to a girl, the look in our eyes when we like you is very telling- eyes say what the mouth can’t oftentimes. There will be a kind of “sparkle” or glint in the eyes, and you’ll just *feel* a certain energy. I notice when I like a guy I usually tilt my head to the side when talking to him and kinda peer UPward at him. I also widen my eyes a bit like doe eyes-none of this is purposeful it’s just biology (Most of us do these things btw not just me) I also tend to slightly raise the pitch and soften my voice. I might not give you crazy intense eye contact bc I can get nervous, but if i look down after meeting your eyes and look a bit flushed or even embarrassed, I prob like you.. If I want to know a lot about you (even the things you think are boring) I like you. Basically: If you see a girl kinda “posing” (or her body looks kinda rigid/on alert), widening her eyes, head tilting, giving “sweet/shy” smiles, looking down and peering up at you from under her lashes, looking a bit flustered/nervous during eye contact , laughing a lot more than is appropriate, talking too loud/excited or talking too soft- these are all very positive signs.
Bro I've given up already. Being played with too much. I'm learning to love and appreciate myself more and take care of my own needs first and trust the universe things will work out in their own time 💯🙏🏿. Great advice
giving up is for quitters homie I hope you get back into it in the future
Thanks brother. Will get back into it. Need more self confidence and need to get my body in shape. I think because I'm the nice guy they treat me as a friend. Thanks brother for the encouragement will put it into practice
@@isaacyasiputaptake a beta blocker and approach a bad 🐩
@@Denmosocialif the universe isn’t letting him it just ain’t meant to be dude and that’s okay lol doesn’t mean he’s a quitter
@jimbofisher8904 Your comment makes literally no sense at all. do you even read the comments fully before you answer? or is this some kind of bot account?
I love these long, raw, fresh, videos. Thank you for everything you do, because of you I've made so much progress with girls.
gotchu brother, cant wait to see your success story
i love this! No one else talks like its a class or a sport! Thx bro!
dayum Denmo with daily uploads 😍
By the way thank you bro for the free content. I approached 20 women last week and i already set three dates this week. If everything goes right, I will become a womanizer by the end of the year. Like Bro, I literally made in this two months more progress to my goals with women than in my 26 years of existence. It's f*cking crazy. I did not expect that most of the women are really chill af😂
Don't listen to most Redpill gurus who say: "You need to be 6 feet tall, make 6-figures per year, have 6-pack abs and have a six inch dragon under your pants". I had none of the these and still managed to pull some baddies. I wish I could have found your channel sooner, but nvm I'll catch up on everything.
my man, send me an email sharing your story. absolute W
Of course, what's your email adress?
all of them!
@@shyam9853
@shyam9853 they all help pretty good. I watched 100+ of his videos in 3 months before signing up for socializer. I have 9 girls' numbers now, in only 3 months, and I'm hanging with 3 or 4 girls this week.
Fucking W@@Fenuxx911
I love your videos man. No BS, straight to the point and really relatable. You are helping me out so much man, thank you!
Honestly, this could have been a 10 min video, but I like to listen to you to relax so thanks.
Listen to this man! He is SUPER accurate! His tips are spot on!
are you under 6'2? she's being nice.
If you have one long nose hair protruding from your nostril then she is just being nice.
Dude you're hilarious and a great teacher. Thanks for these informative long videos.
Yeah, the problem is it's relatively rare for a woman to be friendly towards a man, so the odd time it does happen, his mind can't help but start dreaming...
Its not that rare man, just dont be a dick and you’re golden
@@myztixs It is for me...
I'm lucky if a female cashier will even LOOK at me.
Once when I happened to be walking behind a woman on a public sidewalk for less than a minute, another woman randomly shouted at me and asked if I was "following" that woman.
You are very lucky if you have better experiences with women on the street than I do.
Rare? you just need to socialize and atleast look decent.
its not necessarily being friendly, its just rare for women to talk to men in general outside of obligation.
When it happens, they tend to be nice regardless if their attracted to you or not.
@@rik9833 I'm a short man...I'll never "look decent" to women.
Nice work bro, thanks for the gems you dropped. Took valuable notes
- Eric the socializer
You're hilarious man. Passing on valuable wisdom too. Great job.
Man, That's some real value you're providing here. Subscribed.
Absolute Gold Mine content mate!
That is the best class of my entire life ! Thank you Denmo for this video ! I like this format, very simple, without extreme montage. Just a guy, talking about relationships between men/woman. AMAZING !
glad you like this, more on the way :)
Great video, wish i knew all this 40 years ago, and had passed it onto my son, better to learn late than never
i think this kind of stuff is exactly what you viewers need ! :D be blessed
Bro the boxing analogy is AGAIN fire and on point🔥🔥 you must be good at striking and grappling to make this analogies like that👍👍
haha I'm definitely better at analogies than mma 😂 but I'll keep doing em
@@Denmosocial I’m something of a martial artist myself and I think you definitely got decent form!
The longer the better Denmo. (that’s what she said). Even if I don’t need these as much anymore, your channel is like my safe space lol. Every 1hr+ video is an instant click from me and makes my day.
gotchu homie I'm gonna do videos on other topics besides dating
Very educational video for beginners & veterans. High value information in this. Love that there arent any edits
Thank you for making this video. I'm afraid to talk to men as someone trying to be social. I also avoid being friends with them to get rid of any "friendzone" accusations as well.
I try to sympathize at least maybe coming to the conclusion that most women don't talk to them. A lot of them put on a deucebag or defensive persona in the event a girl does talk to them. That's where my sympathy stops. I feel bad, but I don't think it's ultimately my burden to apologize because their personal feelings are conflicted and I got caught in the crossfire.
As someone who's very shy, the last kind of guy I'd approach trying to be social is a guy I'm attracted to. I wouldn't even know where to start. I'm only usually social with people I have neutral feelings about.
I'd also like to add that a lot of this is a result of poor communication skills, and setting proper boundaries. A lot of women have poor communication skills, though at the very least know how to be "nice." A lot of these men who are unsuccessful have poor social skills and poor interpersonal skills overall.
Chances are, she's only being nice. This is just more nuance as to why.
I personally really like these long informative videos Mr.Denmo!. Also Mr.Denmo may you make a video about how your occupation, calling/purpose can make your prospects view you differently I.e. the blue collar guy, the techy, the military guy etc.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do I reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white, and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Your venting frustration
If a woman likes you shell make it easy for you
that depends, fersure depends
@@cgspartan87 it depends. But really, as guys, we are never gonna pick up on the subtle social ques of a girl that is into you but too shy. So you gotta wait for the obvious woman. A girl that is straight forward with her intentions. That is when you know you've found wife material.
@wheniztheend I get you I do, I've been more perceptive with the hints lately and yea I see that they are so subtle like damn, it's kinda funny actually, like really a "head tilt" and pulling your hair to oneside, this is the "hint"?!
I try to just be of the mindset of not waiting to read signals of waiting for her to make the first move, but just being direct with your intentions, if she feels you then cool, if she doesn't then cool too, nothing wrong with being the first one to start the process and being a gentleman about it, but I get you, knowing which women are interested helps
wifey is out there, but I understand she may be a shy one, that's why I don't like to BS with a girl I really like, I just try and work my magic and not be so concerned about them giving you signals, there is only one process towards bagging wifey, you see her, you talk, get her number, get the date, make a move, if at any point she resists then you got a decision, continue or pull away,
like this is baseline for me, because trying to read signals or wait for a woman to reveal her attraction to you will just drive you mad
I am oblivious the other way around lol
I assume she isnt attracted to me and is just being friendly. But then a friend will slap me in the back of my head for not asking her for her number. He told me that ever since I got fit, and got my conversation skills better, I am more attractive than I think.
I dont know about everyone ese but THIS is the type of content Id like to see more of from you bro. Your other shit is good but very surface level self improvement stuff IMO. This is what I will binge all day long. 11/10
I enjoy this the most, definitely gonna do more
56:42 hits me HARD, this perfectly described myself. I pretty much had that sort of tunnel vision for years until that one girl got married to someone else last month. Here I am now slowly realizing that's one of the best things to happen to me and it's not the end of the world, all without any hard feelings nor regret for having fallen for her to begin with. I'm more open to the options available to me now all the while I'm doing so much more to focus on myself
all good brother, now you know :)
Another sign is if you’re with a friend and she approaches him while EYEING you. She’s probably a bit nervous and wants to get you into the conversation without directly approaching you.
TBH this is the content I didn't know I needed right now. Thanks!
This was so insightful bro!
Perfect timing xd, I was thinking about it 😂 thx Denmo
gotchu brother
Bro, just found your stuff and i think your ideas are very holistic, and wholesome. Reminds me a lot of Mark Manson’s work
nice compliment thankyou g
You remind me of myself in my early twenties, I pray you don't change.
This is useful information. Thanks Denmo!
As a girl, this is actually helpful too 😂.
11:28 I feel that. In our classroom we often sat girls on one side and boys on the other (not because it was forced, but because that's how we chose to do it). And one teacher would always pair us up one from each side to "mix the groups well". I'm not sure how aware he was of what he was actually doing...
Understanding women is like learning Algebra. Thanks for the math lesson Jack!
Very informative video. Thank you Denmo!
gotchu brother
This video An absolute gem 💎 !
Another day, another banger.
every day this month I promise
And mash
Thank God there’s a 1 hour video explaining
Dude...these last few uploads have been 🔥🔥🔥🔥
buddy this is just the beginning
Bro made a movie on this topic
11:50 literally helped me out the most, thank you so much , i needed that laugh😭🤣🤣was Hysterically crying laughing because it was so out of left field
Thanks Denmo
Another banger Jack! Thanks again for making content like this
gotchu homie send it to your friends
Best comedy I've seen in a long time, I'm only 5 minutes in and I'm already tearing up laughing😂
Jfc the lawn mower metaphor killed me. That's one thing I learned early in life, just figure out the path of least resistance with the fewest questions and then they're off!
I love how positive you are that men who have never had luck with women can change their situation. So many men are living a sexless, dateless, mediocre life and it is a modern tragedy.
I don't really know if a girl is into me because of my traumas from the past. I got to know a nice girl, she is pretty, cute, clever and she even gave me her number. We talked really much about our hobbies and what's fantastic we like the same things. I want to go on a date with her and I'm gonna do this:)
Btw this video can't help me because I think every girl is so different but thanks for trying help us anyway ❤
yes girls have differences but it is disingenuous to say that averages aren’t there, or they don’t all have commonalities.
It’s also okay to not know why something is working. There are many successful people out there who don’t really understand why they were successful, and thats ok.
Just enjoy the time and happiness 👍
Nice, you are one of the best so far on you tube👍🏻
hell yeah proud of you g
Thoughts on the women that give indicators or interest but still reject you for some validation or ego boost? Shit is fucked up
if that happens just move on
That’s why I just wait for them to make a move atleast I know its legit that way, I’m not about to be some damn dancing monkey giving away free attention, the f*ck do I look like lol
It's called wanting attention. Move on to the next one.
It's her loss
@@johnfoley4023there have been studies proving that women sometimes give out fake signals when it helps in social situations
man you are the greatest thing on the internet
lmao ty bro
women base their primal attraction based on looks and height just as much as men, if not even more harshly.
then how come less than 13% of men are over 6 ft tall? Less than 44% of men have hair by age 35? How are these other dudes reproducing? This logics dumb
@@Denmosocial the fact that a woman lets someone hit when hes 35, balding and broke, doesn't mean thats her first choice. Dont make me bring up stats regarding men who are raising kids that arent theirs (without knowing too)
again you are missing the point entirely you could argue women based their primal attraction on ability to provide resources & protect (little guy with lots of stuff or big ugly guy with big stick) and this is one of those cope comments
@@Denmosocial okay, so all the poor fellas who get limb lengthening surgery just do it for fun.
Also you are missing the genetics thing altogheter. Theres kids born with down syndrome and autism. That doesnt mean women fuck men with downs syndrome and autism.
@pisk64 Oh boy you be surprised that there are women like that.
Awesome content as always, Denmo. It's funny because I was reading about dating in the DC area being a total disaster when it came to a bunch of Reddit posts.
Bunch of people saying that a lot of folks prioritize their career and other things over putting in the real effort to start a relationship. I'd say its a mixed bag of both here in the DC area.
A lot of folks want to date, but want to skip the steps involved in actually building the relationship. Is it the same where you all live?
An hour long video on if a girl likes you or if she was just being nice. That sounds about right, I bet it still heavily relies on “it depends”
Didn't watch the video, point invalid
@@dogyourmom8531 yup what a knucle dragger lol
I just assume they all are being just nice. I remember hooking up with an employee who worked at a small place I frequent so it CAN happen and I’ve made some bros from it but it’s rare, it was an unconviental place etc.
But yeah I love this, this is helpful. I have a habit of falling for nice but at the same time I just assume they’re being just nice so it’s nice to know IF they’re interested.
It’s rare though which sucks most numbers I get or instas go nowhere :(
Denmo with another hit, great timing for me too 😂🔥
gotchu brother
If a dude is attractive enough. Most women will only care about that. The same thing goes for men.
I dont know how you measure attraction... but check how many girls are single, and for how long, compared to men.
@@fattyjaybird7505 I was referring to physical attraction. So you believe what he said? Men need to be more than just physically attractive. In order for women to want them. That checks out with more men being single. But the men that are just physically attractive. Don't impact the data because those men are rare.
@roykalager2360 oh, i understand now👍i misinterpreted
@@fattyjaybird7505 Thank you for making me write it better. 😊😐😫💀
I do cold approaches because I scared to get in awkward situation with girls I know and will contact in future (work, university, gym). Strangers on the street will just disappear from your life if you will fail approach.
not a bad idea
Generally if you are having good time with the colleagues, you can better pick up on what is meant as rejection - and to the outsider it might not seem like a rejection, that how cool it would be.
Denmo, you are great 🙌
gotchu brother
For real. I needed to hear this shit from a bro. The internet makes it seem like we all hate each other. Fuck.
I can't believe this, I was exactly wondering about this feeling
even if they're just nice to you it makes it easier to interact with women
With the one I like I can hardly maintain eye contact xD
Really good Video! keep the whiteboard!
will do brother cheers
That was a really good video man.
thanks brother glad it helped
It is so funny when you randomly just start meme-ing doing an impression of the dude before they know better
It’s interesting to watch this as a woman who tries really hard to be kind and nice to everyone. Men get the wrong idea all the time because my parents raised me to stop, take a moment, and be human with others. I think a good approach when you aren’t sure is just to try to spend time with someone as a friend with a group. It makes us feel a lot more comfortable to get to know someone a little bit without the pressure of a date. Also a good way to find out if someone is crazy without having to be alone with them. For example, you could invite someone to an evening out with your other friends. If you don’t have friends that’s step one. Honestly having friends can make more of a positive impact on your life than a girlfriend.
I needed this video a month ago😂
Ironically its the girls I thought that DIDNT like me were the ones that actually liked me. I asked out some girls that gave common signs like smiling, talking close to me, leaning, etc and got friendzoned. I asked out girls that gave me cold stares and didn’t speak much and got their numbers. Its all about eye contact. Some can be shy and look away but the key is how they react. Are they blushing or are they looking away in disgust or neutral. They won’t wanna keep looking at someone thats unattractive to them.
You know it’s complicated when the class is 1 hours long
excellent video. great advice; it's spot on. I'm a shy guy n rarely approached girls but fortunately I've had a few long-term relationships with one 9 n one 10. they gave me the signs you mentioned at the beginning of our relationships
I think you succeeded in laying out the differences between men and women. I think the biggest problem that men are facing in the dating scene, is the desire for financial security. Nesting instinct. It has become a characiture of what it used to be. The desire for wealth and status has been nurtured to a fine point these days, and that narrow focus makes someone's world a lot smaller. Whether that be the dating world, the public space, whatever. If she _really_ likes you, she'll make the first move, you'll be in her crosshairs and there won't be any wondering about it. If the thought crosses your mind that causes doubt, you're wasting your time. If you decide to be aggressively pursuing her, she's gonna use you, get what she wants and then move on. The takeaway is don't be a shut-in. Just a nice body alone will put you in a high tier. Work on your sense of humor, even higher tier. Stop taking things that people say so seriously, even higher tier. It's been my experience (and yes I have some) that when women see something they want, they come and get it. If she's playing games, she doesn't want you, she wants something else. Probably your money. Dude here is pretty smart, but still has a lot to learn.
bro, this type of videos are gold. Everything else is just nonsense and a waste of time. Like the majority of the self help videos on youtube
for you to understand here is, you need to be self-aware. I talked to 2 girls, i did like them a little, however I knew I would not get that far, however I did that anyway, it went fine either way, and as I expected the first went to the military and the other moved up north, however I got experience. you just need to up your "mind game" a little, woman tend to be more focused on social interactions, so you need to up your "social mind game" a little and you will soon find them out.
doesnt matter if she likes or not, show ur money and she is IN! thats history
I think that the reason a lot of us men forget what context means regarding when we try to flirt with women is that we’re sort of taught that it’s our job to shoot our shot and that we just have to shoot our shot or miss our chance
You should talk about texting signs since nowadays we mostly text