What are the last days before death like? | Signs of approaching death
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- čas přidán 12. 06. 2024
- In this easy-to-understand video, I tell you what to expect when your loved one (with dementia) is dying. Caring for a loved one through the final stage of life is never easy. Whether you carry all the responsibility or just want to be there for them, you probably wonder what to expect and how the last days before death are like. Getting familiar with end-of-life symptoms in older adults can help you understand what your loved one may be experiencing, and promote a smooth transition for everyone.
The video describes the following signs you may observe when death is near:
- Delirium
- Window of wakefulness
- The loss of appetite and thirst (Role of nutrition at the end of life?)
- Death rattle
- Mottling of skin
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Timecodes:
0:00 Introduction
0:39 Delirium - Central Nervous System
1:43 Window of wakefulness - Central Nervous system
2:31 Loss of appetite and thirst - Gastrointestinal system
2:50 Do we need to feed a dying person?
3:12 Why people lose their appetite when dying
4:22 Death rattle - Respiratory system
5:07 Mottled skin - Circulatory system
5:41 Summary
5:58 The end
#EndOfLife #Hospice #Care
An updated version of this video can be found here: czcams.com/video/qEt4cu6jIsI/video.html 💛
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Why do we have to die they say we shouldn't be sscaredv is this true
Thank you so much for this explanation. For months, I have asked myself why I didn't insist that my dying husband eat, though he kept refusing. I was afraid I let him starve to death. You have lifted the weight of guilt from my shoulders. Bless you.
Thank you, Loren! I'm so glad to hear this, it is exactly the reason why I made this video. 💛
Been there. I was so stressed out. Im crying when he refused to eat, i feel.so guilty when I eat a lot and he doesnt
I am a HH Acute/Hospice nurse. One of the most challenging education pieces in hospice is having the family to accept that their love one is fine not eating, and that force feeding may actually cause too much distress and interfere with a peaceful departure. Very well explained!
Thank you, Nora! 🧡
Who's talking about 'force' feeding, that's a straw man. Refusing to feed them what they can handle , easily digestible foods, is criminal. The bottom line isn't 'our' feelings, but their needs...how do 'we' want to be treated when we are slowing down? Pushed into death or eased into it? No one should be starved, it is isnister. I've watched too many senseless deaths reasoned away when the reality was that person was becoming a burden to their conscience, pocket book, or inconvenienced. We have lost our way as a society and the pay back is coming.
My grandma is actually 98 and experiencing these symptoms. It is very helpful to understand what is happening
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Having worked in nursing homes and with terminal patients, this list is accurate. But the thing is, that it always feels like at some point, people know when it's time to "let go", and they make a decision to do that. Only rarely is it a surprise when someone passes. That's even creepier. I was having a conversation once with a man while I was putting supplies in his room. Suddenly he stopped talking in the middle of a sentence. I turned to look at him and he was gone. That one kind of haunted me.
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If you have EMPATHY for others, you should *want their passing to be easy and quick* for their sake.
...and when it comes your time to go, I hope you go as easily and it doesn't get dragged out so others can anticipate it.
I used to work in nursing homes too. One patient kept calling for his daughter and so they called her and she came in. Within a few hours of her leaving after her visit he died. He held on until she came. I remember finding a patient dead one morning. The weird thing is, I knew before I even entered the room that she had died. And I was the first one to find out.
How does someone decides to die at that moment?
@@Imran-Lalani That's a really good question 😉
We call that short time of clarity "the last hurrah". My dad had that. He was sleeping for days. Then all of a sudden, he was wide awake. We ate together, we drank beer together, we played cards, we reminisced. Then he was gone the next day.
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Good way to spend the time.
So beautiful and sad!
My dear Grandad sadly passed away last night. I saw him yesterday afternoon and told him I loved him. He had the 'death rattle' and this video has given me some understanding of his final moments. Thank you ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's heartwarming to hear that you were able to express your love to your Grandad before he passed.
Thank you for watching my video. If you liked it, please consider giving it a thumbs up 👍. Feel free to let me know if you have any questions, I'd be happy to help you ☺.
My children's Father died This morning at 8:01 he was in Hospice last minute.
Coping is Extremely difficult
Sad my ❤️ is 💔
Knew him for 33 years
Didn't know he was sick 🤢 he kept it hush. He died right after we found out Not Long after.
Coping is unbearable
Unbelievable process
It's overwhelming.
Ouch 💔🥺😢
@@mychymartino5932 I'm so sorry to hear this. Must be extremely difficult to deal with 😥
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Thank you for the video doctor. I practiced Buddhism for many years and in the cycle of 7 meditations our sect carried out was the meditation on death. Death was never far from our thoughts. Hearing explanations such as yours is always welcome. Thanks again for the kindness.
My mother died Monday and I wish that I had known these symptoms before. I saw all the signs and she did pass the evening that the death rattle started. I was worried about her not eating but I am at peace now. Thank you.
What date did you Mom pass
Mine did on 5/5
20 years my mom was in hospital with an internal chest absces& infection. After her surgery, I'd visit with her, & she was delerious and praying. Saying “Lords prayer over and over... Another day she was yelling at me loudly and saying I didn't give a darn aout her. Made me cry and I left....
Shortly after she was moved to convalese, the next day she died.... Sigh. You explanation makes SENSE to me now... Thank you
You're welcome, Lise. I'm so sorry for your loss 💫😥💛
Thankfully my dad passed quietly and peacefully, there was none of the signs you mentioned. I had the chance to stay with him in the last hours of his life in hospital, talking to him about all the great things he did in his life, he gradually left.
My husband is in his 2nd yr. of untreated, stage 4b prostrate cancer. He is still active and still has an appetite but is showing signs of back and pelvic pain and lack of energy. I know his time is coming. Thank you for this thoughtful and thought provoking video. It will certainly be helpful to me in the coming months ahead.
Thank you Deej. I'm glad to hear it was helpful. I'm so sorry to hear this about your husband. Take care.😥💛
Damn i have back pain n lack of energy 😢
I have entered my 3rd year of untreated prostate cancer. Except for the high PSA reading, I wouldn't have known I had it. I am 75 tomorrow, Easter. The doctor said that the cells are mixed slow and moderate growing. He didn't like it that I declined to have treatment. What is stage 4b? How old is your husband? I have little energy and am often apathetic, but I don't know if it coincides with my general low morale about living---covid, world tensions and wars, climate change, ageing, etc. I don't have much incentive to keep hanging around, other than not dying, but I feel that I have already finished my race.
@Harsh Kumar Thank you for the reply.
@@stephenvanwoert2447 I am praying for you. ❤❤❤
My wife died 14 years ago the last thing she said to me was she was so scared..it was cancer..six years later my daughter died from the same cancer..i miss them both terribly.
I'm so terribly sorry to hear this. My condolences. 💫😪
You've had a hard time my friend by any standard I hope you now find time for YOU regards from Ireland.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
Very sorry for your loss. ❤
My mum was admitted to hospital in October 2022 with pneumonia, they cured the Pneumonia but then her kidneys started to fail. She lived for 6 weeks after being admitted to hosp. She didn’t want to eat, just wanted cold drink like lemonade and iced lollies. At the end she slept a lot , and was talking to her deceased brother and sister. Three days before she died.
I'm so sorry to hear this, Karen. 😪💫 My condolences.
May she found them, her brother and sister, in the end. Theyre reunited now.
An excellent presentation. My father is very ill and your presentation helped me understand what what death can be like for a very old man.
Thank you for your comment, Helena. Glad to hear that this video was helpful to you. 🌟
my mother died 2 weeks ago within 2 weeks of lung cancer. the delirium was so hard, what you didnt mention. people try to get rid off their clothes, my grandmother did this also. they try something to hold, touch above them. they try to fetch something. these where the saddest and hardest days of my life. i hold her hand till the end. rest in peace and freedom without any fear and pain now
I'm so sorry to hear this. My condolences. 😥😪
My father also couldn’t stand to have clothes or his oxygen mask on. The nursing staff told me this is common with illnesses when breathing becomes a struggle (makes sense). He also experienced delirium, which was horrific, because he’d been completely normal and independent just a week prior to hospitalization. It haunts me, even though I knew what was happening.
This video was great, thank you so much, my 95 year old grandmother is in hospital, so it’s comforting knowing what signs to look for and to emotionally prepare.
Thank you, Epsilon 😉
Same here with my father in law. He just turned 92, bedridden at home.
Me to and it's my grandpa with cancer.
My grandfather showed some of these close to the end at the age of 90. He always said 'if anyone cries at my funeral, I'll never speak to them again.'
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You did a great job of covering what is, for many, a very uncomfortable subject.
Thank you so much 💛
My dad sadly passed away last Thursday. I was with him when he passed. I was with him continuously for 5 days before he passed also. I was unaware what was taking place. No preparation was given, even the disease which eventually took his life was not diagnosed. I have never seen the death process before and due to not knowing it was happening, I am left traumatised! It is not an experience I would like to have again. If I was prepared, it may have a lot different.
I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences 💫😥.
Thank you 🙏. I am still left traumatised by the passing of my father.
Having worked with thousands of Hospice patients, I often hear from families that their loved-one was especially lucid and conversive immediately prior to death. Sometimes even speaking to "invisible" pre-deceased friends or family. I guess someday, we'll all know what happens.............
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Assuming we get to die in bed, yes. From sudden and unprovided death, deliver us, O Lord.
Nope, I don't want to know about it. This is scary stuff. I don't want to die.
Hospice care can be critical to understand the process of dying for their surrounding survivors and caregivers as well as make them comfortable as possible. WIth both my parents, less than 2 months before their deaths, they each had a fall and collapsed at home, unable to get up with assistance so end up in a hospital or nursing home where eventually die. In the last days, communication ceases, breathing become shallower and more labored then eventually stops.
I don't look at death as something sad with my elderly parents (dad was 80, mom 92 at death), their physical and mental health had worsened to the point of a poor quality of life, it is a blessing to all.
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I agree. My mom is 93 .
Thank you for the explanation. My dad had these symptoms before he passed. I wish Hospice would have explained this to our family. The only symptom we knew about is the death rattle.
Dr . You have made the difficult subject of dying easier to understand and accept. Both my parents died peacefully in their sleep ( aged 88 and 95 so grateful to have had them for so long ) and your explanation of the signs are so accurate . I understand the loss of appetite , but should liquids be avoided as well ?
Drinking is not longer necessary in the final days of life, but giving them a bit of fluid causes no harm. Some family members give patients very small amounts of water, because they don't like the dry mouth. (A dry mouth does not necessarily mean that the patient is dehydrated tho. They are often not aware of it.)
I should not give them artificial fluid because this could lead to too much water being in the body, which can make it harder for the heart to pump blood. Too much water in the body can also lead to edema (swelling of the legs). All of this could increase the patients' symptoms and decrease their quality of life.
Thank you so much for this explanation .
This is absolutely brilliant
Thank you, so comforting to understand the signs.
You're very welcome, Allie! 💛
wow, what a thing to come up on my recommended! i'm gonna keep this video in my back pocket for my pts families. thanks for sharing! -hospice caregiver
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This was helpful. I recently watched my wife die of cancer and while some people were telling me these things that you explained in the video they did not explain it as well as you did. Thanks
Thank you so much. I'm sorry for your loss 😪💫
THIS was SO helpful. I wish I would have known this. I wish I would have understood the strange things my husband said to me the day he died. I have had so much guilt and this helped more than anything. THANK YOU
You're very welcome 🧡. I'm sorry for your loss 😥
This video was excellent. Clear and to the point. Thankyou
Thank you! 😊💛
Thanks for such a good resource
This is a GREAT video on end-of-life. My mother is close to this. Hospice has told me none of these very important things!
Thank you so much! 💛
My stepdad just passed last Saturday early morning and he was in hospice at his home with my mom. Hospice didn’t tell none of us any of this. It would have been nice to know what to expect so we could’ve stayed there over night until he passed. My sister almost did stay the night but she just thought he was getting pneumonia but it was the death rattle and she didn’t know at that time that’s what it was. She felt guilty for a few days for not staying the night the Friday before he passed that Saturday morning. I feel hospice should have better prepared us for his death with telling us about the death rattle and such. But they didn’t .😢
I’ve seen delirium in pets. When my dog was hit by a car, he bit my mom. He had never bitten anyone before. When my cat was dying, after her last breath, she bit me hard enough to break the skin. She had never done that before.
Thank you for your comment.
That happened with kitty so sorry
Sheesh I can't lie, this was spot on. What a day I've went thru.
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I read Ernest Becker's "The Denial of Death" long ago in my 20s and took it to heart. I'm glad you are talking forthrightly about the process. To be sure, when my time comes in the next decade or so my plan is to do it on my terms... i.e. assert my "right to die and have a death with dignity". Also, I want to be conscious and aware when I pass, with my end-of-life rock'n musical playlist going at high volume!
Love your playlist! 💛💛😏
Yeah but you may change your mind. Roll and roll at the time of death sounds a bit raging against the storm. But I haven’t been there so I don’t know. 🤔
@@patrickwalker-nolan7617 Rock is not necessarily "raging" at all. For instance, "The Revealing Science of God" by Yes, or "International Feel" by Todd Rundgren, or "Life is a Long Song" by Jethro Tull "See the Lights" by Simple Minds... the great songs from rock bands for end-of-life playlist is almost infinite!
@@nsbd90now thanks 🙏 I’m feeling better educated already. 😁
@@patrickwalker-nolan7617 Rock on 'till the end Patrick!
Such an important topic. Thanks.
You're very welcome 💛
Many thanks for the video. It was true for my wife when she passed. Many feel cold near the end but my wife felt hot. She had MS for 26 years before she passed. She could not ambulate for the last 15 years. I was her carer. She really was a wonderful person.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Ron. 💛💫
I pray all of you and your families live a long happy prosperous life ❤
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Thank you very much and have a blessed Sunday ❤️💙🩵
You too!💛💛
Thank you so much for such a great presentation.
You're very welcome.
Excellent presentation
Thank you for sharing this information. My mom died a few months ago and I wish I knew some of this at the time
I'm so sorry to hear this, Michelle. My condolences.
These videos are simple but effective. My mother died aged 95 last month and my understanding has increased greatly.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
And thank you, that's what I wanted to achieve with these videos.
Daddyo’s just turned 83 (type II Diabetic) & for the last 36 months it’s been agonising for him,.. lucky he’s got offspring!
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My mom died a month ago. About a week before she died she couldn't eat,she was vomiting and had the runs. Eventually she ended up not being able to get out of bed literally and would even just use the bathroom where she lay. Finally my dad said she made a strange noise and two hours later she was gone. It's been hard to wrap my head around cause I can't understand what happened or why. This helps some. Thank you ps she had early onset of dementia
I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences 💫😥.
Thank you
Great job
Amazing video
Before death rattle would be helpful. Death rattle point is when they are in the zone and cannot function in speech or anything.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us
Your video was very informative
My pleasure C P 😉😊
Another great video from you! Thank you so much! The part about ketones was fascinating!
Thank you, Wombat! May I ask where you are from? 😉
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Got psych's*🍫🍄💊
I will always be grateful that long ago, as my mother lay dying in the hospital after a long illness, she called me, to ask me about a school shopping trip I'd made with my cousin, for my senor year of H.S. it was something my Mom and I made a day of in years past. The last thing I ever said to her was that I loved her. She died just two hours later.
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Thank you for your explanation. My mom was having outbursts and it was sad and not recognizing me either. Didn't help with covid PPE wear, which was absolutely necessary of course, as we were saying goodbye. 💔🙏. Very sad. The second sign was jaundice colour and i didn't realize what was actually happening as she slipped away 😢😢😢
Very nice and informative video which we should know. Thank you for this.
Thank you, Sheeba!
Nice one .👍👍
1 Delirium,
2) mottled skin
3) cold limbs
4) ketosis (bad breath, smelling like overripe fruits)
5) Decreased appetite
6) decreased thirst,
7) Fluid buid-up in mouth
8) Fluid buid-up in throat, Death Rattle
Diabetes can give one the first four symptoms.
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I liked it. Thank you.
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I had the ineviable duty of spending a night as a nursing assistant with an elderly gentlemen whose life was ebbing away while his wife was only feet away exhausted and fell asleep, instinctively I knew he was passing away in front of me I decided to place his wife's hand on top of her husband's knowing full well of his impending passing, he took his last breath and seconds later his wife awoke I never had to say a single word to his precious wife, to this day I knew I had done the most caring ending for both of them, as fate would have it... it was the same date of my baby sons 30th anniversary of his 17 week old life, I quit nursing after that night shift had finished and consoled the whole family obviously not knowing of my own grief, however I was so proud to have spent that unbelievably precious and special moment with the husband his wife and and family,my time will come to be reunited with my beautiful baby boy, I pray my passing will be as peaceful as god will allow.
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@@dr.paulinemoyaert Thank you so much for heartfelt and sincere and professional gratitude and praise, it means so much coming from you because you understand how I did the right solemn and loving and caring for my patient and his heartbroken family, I take considerable pride and honour from your wonderful gesture, thank you so much once again.
I dont know why i was recommended this but thank you for the information anyway. When the time comes,I’ll be ready…
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My 74yo father is dying of cancer that spread through his entire body. We were told that his organs are shutting down now. He's been in a non-conscious state in hospital in-house hospice.
Just two days before, he was excited to soon be done antibiotics in a nursing home and go home (to die naturally at home in his own bed) witty, cracking jokes. This was like the flip of a switch.
First visit since not conscious, his eyes flickered trying to open and only "mmhhhhhh" moans when we told him we were there (it was obvious he heard a noise, but you couldn't tell if he could acknowledge what was even going on or being said. they had also already put him on morphine. He had his hand on his head like he desperately needed water and had a massive headache.
Second visit, was already frightening. They had switched him from treatment to "comfort care".. he was already skin and bones, but now, head tilted back, mouth-open labored breathing, eyes almost rolled back into his head and looking hazed over, legs trembling.. he quite literally looked like a walking-dead show zombie.
He wasn't expected to pull through the weekend, but he has... I'm honestly afraid to see any worse.. do not want to have the death rattle stuck in my mind... but, honestly if my sister goes back in for a visit i will too, to be present for him.
I'm mostly just wondering now, with total organ failure, kidneys, lungs, liver, brain, blood, bones, spine - cancer... would his hearing still even function or does it start to fail/collapse? He's completely unresponsive other than he looked asleep with eyes open and then possibly awake the same but slightly different.
He's always been one to get bored easily and talk or want noise from the tv... you're there wondering if you should still turn his tv on when you leave so he can focus on something other than the pain of a broken back and organ failure.
Wondering if he can hear the stories you tell him about what happened today. Can hear you tell him where he's at and what's happening to him, what day it is..
This is very hard to watch happen... but from this video i see it gets even worse.. good to know what to expect though rather than more shock.
Thank you CZcams recommended for bringing me here at 12:00am a nice relaxing video about dying to help lull me to sleep and which certainly won’t give me an existential crisis.
Death rattle? Fml
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My father died yesterday following a long battle with Alzheimer’s this video was very informative
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢💫
My sister was diagnosed as actively dieing back in Jan 2023 she passed away Feb 17 2023. She had most of these signs if not all 😢😢😢
Awesome video
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Thanks, Patricia! 😊
I work in the health care have been for the last 27 years these ppl r my family I know the signs unfortunately it's so sad when faced with them u do the best u can for them😢
It is indeed sad 😪💫😥
so i may get a party before i go...thanks for letting me know i'm dying.grateful here.some of us fast by the way.
Calming voice.
Thank you Emi 😉
So scary 😢😢😢 but loved ur video ❤
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New subscriber here…
Have read all the comments and all your replies…
Thank you, Tess and welcome! I hope I won't disappoint you 😊
Interesting video. My daughter’s father-in-law has been in a coma for years and is brain dead. Everyone but the eldest son wants to let him go. The decision has nothing to do with me, but the sticking point seemed to be that his medical team wanted to stop feeding him. The son refused, and we thought that was cruel. Now I understand there must be something more to this than starving the person
Thank you, Ria 💛
Can you do more dying videos. This one was great 👍🏻 thank you
Hi W T, glad to hear that you liked this video ☺. I'm currently making another video about the symptoms and changes at the end of someone's life. I'll probably be able to upload it on Wednesday.
Please let me now if you have (other) specific video topics in mind about dying.
I'll also make a video about the role of morphine during end-of-life care. (Busting the myth that morphine hastens death)
@@dr.paulinemoyaert Thank you Dr. Just found your channel and is amazing 👏🏼 thank you for what you do. Yes, let's talk about the type of medication given at the end of life, how to comfort families, Do's and Don't about what to give a dying person, comfort vs pain management. Just lost my father Aug 23, 22. And I had a horrible hospice team couldn't answer nothing, I've learned so much now watching CZcams videos.
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You're very welcome! 😊
Thanks doctor
Thank you, Gary! 😊
@@dr.paulinemoyaert my friend just died because of tuberculosis here in Saudi Arabia.... What you said just happened to him.... Thanks for educating people about that stage in one's life..... Appreciate your help
My husband just passed away. All these things happened. Thanksgiving weekend, I cooked all this food and he ate very little. He had conversations with people not there. Slept more than he was awake. Gained a lot of water weight, with little output. But I wish I had known all of these signs because his passing was not expected. I'm so sad and wonder if I could have done things different. I have a question about odor. With ketones increase, is there an odor associated with death? I was so bothered by a strong odor, I kept telling him we needed to do something. Now I feel so bad.
Hi Yorkiemom, I'm so sorry for your loss. To answer your question, YES! There is a very strong odor associated with ketones. We call it a typical "acetone breath" - it smells like acetone, the same fruity scent as nail polish remover. I know it's difficult to describe, but do you think it was a kind of fruity odor? This is very typical and there's not much you can do about it (brushing your teeth won't help).
@@dr.paulinemoyaert I'm not sure I'd call it fruity. It was bad. But we tried several things. Nothing helped. Thank you for your reply. All those signs were there. I wish I'd known, but there wasn't much we could do. I was sure we had more time.
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If only there were a 'way' (yes this must be quoted) of separating death, from the crushing agony of grief which must follow it.
Why, I really can't say, - but this video,
for some reason, reminded me of some mythology. Had Pandora allowed the lid to remain open, just a single moment longer, I and all the rest of humanity, could have the benefit of, -
the last thing to remain captured within it, that one thing was 'Hope'. So, I guess, - hope, - true Hope, must forever remain only a dream.
My heartfelt and sincere condolences to all and any of you out there,
My grandfather died at age of 89, I noticed some of these symptoms in him
I only sleep in day and not during night, save me dr. !!!!!!😢😢😢😢😢
My grandma has been sick suddenly and she has all of these. She is very wdared to die but not the scariest, it is less scarier than not seeing her own son and grandson aka me. I am very nervous that she might reach to an end at any time 😢
This scared me I've been like this not eating hardly drinking sleep in the day not as much confused but I shake
I would recommend to consult a doctor.
Nerves but you should eat more I do that and have tremors. A doc would help too
@@soniczforever5470 I have coelic so what I want to eat I'm not aloud so not used to this shit its horrible
@4:50 Do you know what else will cause sleep in the form of insomnia where someone will sleep more towards morning hours, and awake during the night? Or, people to eat less? Short-Fiber Polyneuropathy. Unlike the long nerves found in the legs and the arms, the short nerves not only handle the nerve responses to the skin, but also handle the nerve responses to the organs. As a side effect of this disease sleep will be an insomniac state, eating can, and in my case becomes very infrequent. How do you know you're hungry when the brain never receives the signal? I sleep about 3 hours per day. I eat about 1 meal per day. #thatisall
When my dad was at the end of his life he would struggle to breathe until the end. I don't remember anything specific but I wonder that the noises he made while breathing was death rattles. Thanks for the video.
You're very welcome. I'm sorry for your loss.
I wish I watched this video earlier. My mum had lung cancer and died because of MRSA. The doctor asked us not to give her food and water and I followed his advice. I had doubted myself if I was doing the right thing after her kidney failure. Your video clears my concern. However, I was not aware that she was actually dying when she became so aggressive and I went home to take a rest at mid-night. She passed away the other day just within 15 minutes after I arrived the hospital in the morning. You are right, she died within 24 hours after I heard the death rattle😢
I'm so sorry to hear this, Yan. My condolences 😔💫
Shallow breathing where chest moves very little pass about 59 days later. Other families dealing with shallow breathing loved one passed in 59 days. My father same and short euphoria day prior passing. Forth no talk subject "death and dieing."
Ini dulu yg sering yg aku cari di google atau yutup ,
My father-in-law is currently dying from cancer. We only found out when it was too late and his decline has been very fast. He is now in bed all the time and is currently doing 2 long, slow breaths followed by a pause of around 10 seconds. This cycle has been happening throughout the day today. I am worried for my wife as she is providing all care while I look after our young daughter (we are awaiting carers to start but it may take many more days). How close to end of life do you feel this breathing pattern is?
It's difficult for me to say, I'm sorry. We know that a person lives on average 24 hours after the death rattle begins, but it's unclear how long a person will live if someone has an irregular breathing pattern (slow breaths + pauses). The longer the pauses become, the more likely it is that death is near.
@@dr.paulinemoyaert Thank you for your reply and for your video ❤
@@PeteTash32 You're welcome! How's your father-in-law doing right now? I hope he's comfortable and get the necessary pain medications. Take care! 😪
Can you read the reminder about the conditions of the dead and the afterlife by Imam Al-Qurtubi?
I grandmother died in the end of 2020, not from covid. She was 95. Sense 90 she was losing her mind, not knowing witch day was, eventually she stopped recognizing distant people.
Was a long journey, she didn't necessarily started dying at this age. Dementia is really hard on everyone.
But in her lasts days she almost didn't talk, didn't hear much, in her last day her glicose was super high, she didn't eat much, and at night she convulsed two times and got back, asking who my brother was. I refused to see the signs. I left my mom that night, thinking that was nothing.
Because she had a heart problem, some times her pressure drops cousing almost faint. So i though her two convulsions were the same.
A hour or two after i left my mother called me in terrified because her mother was dying :( i rush to there, but was too late. My grandmother was already cold.
I dont know, i was and still am sad for her death, but after that i started to overthinking death and the fact the my parents are alread old.
My mom is 70, and my dad 65.
I dont think i can deal with losing them, not now and no in the close future....
I'm so sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
Since 6 months my grandfather is going mad and agressive day by day Sometimes deny for food but we forces to eat then don't eat if we didn't give food then says we don't care about him. He behaves annoying makes everyone angry by weird behaviour. Because of him whole family and relatives are frustrated.What should we do? Please help me
The long black shroud of death encompasses us all
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Very true...this is what happened to mother, she was 102, she went to be with the Lord on 25th Sept 2023. Thank you so much, what ever spoke is comforting ...the facts of last life.
Starving a dying person, who 'wants' to live is murder. I've witnessed many elderly who told me they did not want to die, but family members listen to 'doctors'. Caring for the elderly in the U.S. is a murderous business imho. Before C19, I frequently visited the elderly as they brought me such joy watching them blossom at just a touch of their hand. The U.S. medical system is for profit based organization...they don't care about you or your dying family member. Would you want to be treated as dying when you were just old and needing someone to love you? There's so much love needed these days, let's share some compassion and care for one another...young, old, or otherwise, blue, red, or brown...we are all of the same human race. Be kind, compassionate and caring for those that are vulnerable. How did we become so callous as to murder our own parents? It's understandable if they are dying of a painful disease...but I've witnessed several elderly patients just put in hospice because they had a cold, or were difficult to feed. My heart breaks to think of them...but my prayer is they are in heaven in Jesus' loving arms far away from this increasingly cold and cruel place. Follow your conscience and share some love and joy with those that are living their last few days then pray someone does the same for you too
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I totally agree! My dad was only 72 he died in his sleep and was fed that day..He brought up that which he ate on his pillow😪. This was in 2011 , but yes i even believe eating will give them extra time, Lord rest his soul.
Thank you very much for video I am dieing and no doctor will not tell how to know when coming close fighting for 3 years stage 5 chemo every week.thanks again
I'm so sorry to hear this. Take care 💛😪
My dad is in the process of passing away he was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic lung cancer the beginning of October 2023 and we were told he had a month with that treatment and the day he was supposed to start radiation treatment his lung collapsed he is at home on hospice now and the hospice nurse told us today which is Sunday November 12th that they will be very surprised if he makes it through the night he is going so quick I'm just trying to get an understanding on what to look for because I've never seen somebody pass away in person
I'm so sorry to hear this. Take care. 😢😥💛🙏
I wish I saw this video before my mother died. All the symptoms you mentioned appear to my mother before she died. I am too ignorant and denial that my mother about to die. Even my mother herself not prepare to die. My mother shows these symptoms around 2 week then she passed away. It is still hard for me to digest. She passed away almost 1 month, and I still trying to cope with what happened.
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I've been feeling like im dying for about a week im so scared but hopefully im okay
My 6 years daughter passed away one ago. She did make sound like vomit, then she unconscious, then she passed away,, similar sign 😢
My neighbor was placed on a rest home he couldn't remember anything
I didn't know he had dementia
He would stand next to my door in the hallway lots pf time i yelled at him to stay away from my door...
Now i feel badly for yelling at him..
Please try to forgive yourself. You didn't know that he had dementia.
We will all find out one way or another sooner or later.
if almost all of these signs occur, and the patient is in a semi coma state, does that mean he's dying? or there might be another reason?
Hi Cattoz, I don't know the patient, I don't know the underlying problems, so it is difficult for me to answer this question. I can tell you that it doesn't necessarily mean that the person is dying, there can also be other reasons/diseases why this patient may have these specific symptoms. Some of those diseases are treatable. I'm sorry that I can't give you a definitive answer.
@@dr.paulinemoyaert unfortunately it was true :')
@@cattoz998 I'm so sorry for your loss 😥😪
We are all going to die that’s for sure but. To go in your sleep is a blessing
I am not scared to die… I just pity on my parents because my youngest sister already died and I know how it hurts to lose a family member.
All of us will die someday. Acceptance is a key. What I wish for is not to die in vain like how my younger sister died! My youngest sister died without suffering.
I’ve seen so many people died in cancer and it’s terrible! My dreams in life already came true this is why there is no regrets in my life!
If we will all die someday why not now right??? People sometimes use me to cover their sins and I am not going to be hurt about that.
Sometimes when you are already under hospice care you cannot think about anything but forgiveness to yourself and ask forgiveness from God.
I know that when I die, I will just be a memory to people I love and they will somehow forget me. I pity on those people who cannot accept the truth! For the remaining days of my life in United States of America, I will continue to help my parents in the Philippines.
In the past, I always have fun and do whatever I wanted! But this is not how life works! People will try to copy what I am doing and hopefully they will copy what is best for them!
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ASK A MORTICIAN is also a good website to learn about death. This video was excellent.
Yes, I know! I absolutely love that woman! Would highly recommend her channel! 😊💪💛
It definitely is a good channel.
As an interesting FYI (and possibly for a topic), I have been a son in a family of raging narcissists for decades. Now that the matriarch and patriarch are... "getting into those stages", I'm in the unfortunate position where absolutely no one wants to do any research, learn from my own previous experiences, nor would they ever listen to anyone or anything. 😕 It's a terrible position to be in, but I've learned to accept it because there are WAY more of them than there are of me (obviously). But it's really weird being able to recognize all the signs while everyone else just ignores me! 😂🤣😂 Creepy, too... but classic narcissistic apathy and haughty disdain. Unfortunate, but unavoidable.
Thank you for creating your video. I hope everyone learned something today. Yesterday and tomorrow, too.
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"It's always tomorrow... somewhere." --Elliott (Diamond Dragons)
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