The female narcissist usually tries to make herself look like the innocent victim and that she's pure and sweet. Behind closed doors however, the true beast shows up at the slightest provocation.
Dude this was literally my ex. She "love bombed" me and made me believe that she was innocent, caring and just a wholesome soul. She always played the victim when talking about her past relationships and how I was just so wonderful and amazing... 3.5 months later I caught her cheating with my once close friend. But yeah, sweet girl.
I'm a man. And my ex used to physically abuse me. Then said it was my fault because of what I said. She also said that I deserved her reaction. We have a 2 year old daughter and I finally got the strength to leave. Fast forward a year later and I have my daughter full time. Live in another state. Still Learning how to be a single dad. Best decision I ever made was leaving
You just gave me hope im trying to build evidence on my current spouse so i can get full custody of our son. Ive been secretly recording arguements and most of our arguments stems from her telling our colic 2 month old son to "Shut the f*ck up". Every time i call her out on it, she denies it and hits me in the face but were fighting a cps case currently because she refused to stop smoking marijuana while pregnant (we live in Texas so its illegal here) thats why I havent called the cops and with my luck i would go to jail with a bloody nose anyway and ever since she quit smoking since his birth she hates me like its my fault she got pregnant when she was always the one to want sex 1st even the 1st night we met. Im secretly saving up lawyer money and evidence because i know push will come to shove eventually and when it does i want to prove my innocence. I work from 6am to noon everyday at my new job and she always wakes me up to start fights around 3 am telling me "hes your son too, its your turn you watch him." When ive only been asleep for 3 hours or less and calls me worthless when i cant hold my eyes open and its affecting my job performance and my well being in general. My mom has been more of a mom to my son than his birth mother. Please pray for me
Look how you said you were physically abused and only 2 comments. If that was a chick someone would of cared. Take that bitch to the cleaners like she would of done you if the situation was reversed. Nail her for Alimony, child support, and throw her in jail. Force her to take rehab. Coach your kid into saying she touched him/her. Annihilate her to the point she dont wanna live anymore like woman do to us
You nailed my GF of the last 6 years. - Took me another year to get over her - My advice to everyone get out as fast as you can. I dropped 200K plus in helping in those 6 years. I was emotionally and finically damaged... Run away.. Yes, she's breeding a narcissist child
I think one year to recover from a 6 years of narc relationship is incredibly fast, you are doing amazing! After being gaslit for such a long time, the brain must do a lot of reality observing and recalculations. Hope you can replace this with a lot of kindness and love and rest. The best!
Omg I dropped 800k and now he wants to fight for custody. Impossible when he tried to sell me our daughter. And he uses her to know everything about me. He's creating a big situation in our recoveries.....
This just goes right through me. I'm stuck in a marriage with a narcissist due to our special needs child. Currently making moves to get us out, wish us luck.
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So what kinda scam yall running. with these THANK ME LATER closings? I could give a damn,,GOD SEES ALL,,,VENGEANCE IS HIS!! I'm too old to micromanage a grown ass man!
@John Clayton don't give up my brother. I have been through a similar situation with my family and my father sexuality abusing me. Then I attracted women into my life that were narcissist. There is hope my friend. Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Love is the answer. This is something the narcissist will never understand. Sending love to my friend. Don't give up. You have got this and the darkness can be fruitful and a time to find your light.
Good for you!!...i never ever opened a facebook or instagram account....!!my friends look at me like I m an alien...but all I really see is them competing constantly with eachother to who has the best picture....the best family....the best couple...the best holiday!!....instead of really focusing on LIFE....💚
@@disgamecheats5195 You need to get away, she eventually cheated and moved on, but she still emails me daily, but she wont talk about what happened at all she acts as if it never happened, its a ploy. Its such a hard thing to be in love with a girl like this. Because inside you want to help, but she is an unfillable pit that requires happiness and that is delivered only in being a slave and buying gifts to make her "happy". Its shortly lived. Mine put me 15k into debt and is currently driving around In a lease I've paid for the last year or so. I figured after 8 years we can do something like this. DONOT CO SIGN for anybody on anything!
Prob right, maybe thats why that recent former coworker, couldn't quit (every hr atleast) talking crap , takin breaks , and whining about how bad his back hurt, the whole day. All the others who were more trained were silent, and he was just a laborer like me.I never heard that 1
The fact that you are a female and talk about female narcissism, displays your professionalism and dignity. Thank you for sharing. Narcissism is the biggest problem in our society, although, so many people think that narcissists are only men. another interesting perspective on narcissism, is that the prefrontal cortex in the brain is the newest part of our brains, and in Daniel Amen's book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, he talks about the different functions of each of the varying lobes. The prefrontal cortex is where empathy, introspection, retrospect, tolerance, perseverance, attention span, judgement, and most importantly, self objectivity, reside(as well as traits). In a narcissist, many of these abilities in the prefrontal cortex are seriously lacking. I thinks that we should focus on the lobes abilities to understand these problems, as a narcissist's attention span and judgement are focused on their sense of superiority over others. They lack empathy and are not very tolerant of others, in general. Certainly, conditioning plays a role as we have learned from the breaking of the bond between the mother and the child, spoilage, wealth, and also abuse, but narcissism definitely has many influences. thanks again Stephanie, you have a new subscriber. Now, if we can just clone you. Much appreciated.
Does anyone agree that Facebook/Instagram is a showing off platform, Also a place where people compare them selves with other’s. I truly believe that this is super unhealthy!
Erick Cisneros Yes, especially Instagram. It exists for no other reason. Facebook at least has some legitimate social networking uses and allows friends to communicate.
Yes I’m Blessed Yes I know that. It wasn’t created to be that way, I believe it’s an unintended effect. I haven’t been on Facebook for almost 6 months life is better
I’m so glad someone decided to do something about a female narcissist! I asked myself often if I am one or have traits. Childhood trauma sucks and to heal is hard!
I was the victim of a narcassitic female personality for 30 years of my life. It eventually broke down when she assaulted me and thereafter somehow created a story that labelled me as the "abuser". Everyone socially everyone believed her story because she was a girl and played the female victim role well. I eventually became suicidal after 3 years but she never apologized. I'm sharing my story because I want the world to know that men get abused too. And it's not a trivial matter. But nobody ever talks about it. If nobody talks about the abuse of men an entire gender, I think it's not too much to ask women to think about what their negative behaviours might be traumatizing others and to not just laugh it off because it's a guy your doing that to. I now live a life where I have a tough time trusting people. And she still hasn't taken any ownership for her actions while continuously telling me that somehow I should even though it was a one sided assault (I made sure I didnt fight back). Anyways. Oh and the girl was my sister...and everyone thinks shes a gem still to this day even though they know what she has done. That's the world I guess. 40% of women exhibit passive aggressive violent traits while only 5% of men are physically violent yet it's never talked about. Who is the oppressor exactly. Something to think about.
My narcs is firstly my dad , then my sisters and wife and their reletives are enablers and helpers of them. I then was in a 6 year relationship where I stay loyal and loved her but ultimately due to her bpd she cheated on me with a "friend " and during discard she brutally devalued me and insulted me and behaved very rudely.
True. I learned the hard way. I tried so many times to have a relationship with my mom but she keep putting myself down. Talk nasty comments about my son and husband. I said no more. I want a healthy environment for my son and family. Enough is enough
my ex GF tried to turn my family against me and was jealous of trips we had gone on before I met her. every time when our relationship was on the rocks she would go to my other and portray me as a terrible abuser. one time she did this while drunk and had my mother on the phone for 3 hours crying and telling all kinds of lies. then when she finally got off the phone at midnight she decided to cook something and then fell asleep on the couch and the food burned on the stove. so sick of that insane drama all the time!
Try doing that when society is gaslighting you to keep the birthrates up while every lady you meet sees you as a utility and has great contempt for you unless you give into her impulsive whims and demands.
Yes, this is my second time listing to this and the saying you highlighted about "Insecurities are Loud and Confidence is Silent" was a light bulb moment for me that fills in the blanks. I thank you. Blessings
I dated a woman like that. Saw the red flags and ended the relationship early before it got to the abuse stage (I could see it coming). They see themselves as the centre of the universe, and get really annoyed when other people dont see it like that. Jealous, emotionally needy. She took the breakup very poorly - straight to tears and accusations that I am the bad guy, trying to guilt you into changing your decision. Dodged a bullet there.
I’m about to break up with my fiancé today and I know it’s going to go exactly like this LOL! Wish I could just send a post card and be done with it. Been watching these videos so I don’t feel bad and fall for any more of her stuff, I know she’ll be pulling out all the stops 😅
I spent 10 days with a narcissistic, that was enough for me. Called police to remove her from my flat.She was intimidating and abusive. They don't take responsibility for their actions. Taking time to recover. They are the bad guy. Take care, God bless.
Finally divorcing my wife of 2 years, been together for 7, we have 1 child together. I caught HER cheating with multiple side-boyfriends and she tries to play the victim once I start leaving her. She’s tried to destroy my career, paint me as this terrible person, and ruin me financially. I am so thankful for these videos and this community
This is exactly what my narc ex did to me, multiple side guys, playing the victim including having me wrongfully jailed for domestic abuse, tried to run my finances dry. Once I got out it was like a weight off my shoulders.
The very worst thing is the projection and gas lighting. Every "discussion" is an exercise in being wrong and being shown how youre the bad guy... So awesome.
My idea to write this is to help readers get rid of the resentment and anger that sometimes is held inside against the abuser, even after the relationship has ended. The fact is the moment you move away from a narcissist and begin to work on yourself, you begin to heal. But sometimes resentment, anger, or the need for revenge keeps us connected to the abuser. This holds you back from fully recovering from the abuse and healing. Let go of these associations and be free, Karma will take care of the rest. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to disconnect from your abuser and let yourself heal and have the beautiful future that you deserve.
My last boss was a narcissist and I put up with his shit for 3 years, then he retired. I still hope that I see in the local news that he died in a car accident or in a bar parking lot. Him winding up eating out of fast-food garbage bins would be OK, too.
@AlbertCarr5025-It does. However, you wouldn’t be commenting here if you haven’t already began moving on/letting go. So, good for you-protect yourself, and accept that you want and can have genuine people in your personal relationships. You just have to find them and it can take time do that. You’ll go through some unsavory people, it can feel lonely at times, but you’ll survive. Quality over quantity. Best wishes.
I want to be able to move on from her so, so, so desperately bad. It's been a month and a day. Our relationship was about 18 months. My life has gone down hill very much so in the past 12 months. I knew before she cheated and I found out and she discarded me that it would almost take miracles for it to work with her. The way it ended seemed to really be scarring me. Why? Cause I was chose over? I'm sure that's a big part. God, I just want to be ok without her. I want to be there right now. I'm scared I will never find the connection that I felt with her, and I am fully aware it was never special to her, nor was I. I'm fucked. I think I'm broken. Help me please.
They always have a horrible story about their ex boyfriend, they’re always the victim at work, she argues and has conflict with her friends, she judges other woman in public, and everything is always about her
great comment - lived through those exact things with my ex. she had conflict with everyone - workmates, family members, friends and of course with me. always she was the innocent victim. everywhere we went she would have a judgement about how people looked or dressed.
My sister in law lol always the victim always quits her job because she’s always being persecuted my poor brother has to be at her beck and call and she spent his whole inheritance 😭
Never compliment, never show appreciation, never show warmth emotion,-‘ always jabs you even when doing something good, always picking arguements over no reason
I have felt so alone in this...But seeing these comments I know it’s not just in my head and I’m not alone in it. An example, “I would never have a child with you” (even though we have one already)...then after watching the Christmas lights with our Son we stop to get a snack at a drive through. She says “Ok, so I’ve been taking prenatal vitamins and they are almost out, should I just finish them and that’s it, or get more?”...I looked at her with complete shock at what she just said and asked her “what do you think?”. She got really angry about that and made sure to let me know I was such a horrible person for responding like that. Just something that came to mind first...but there are a million instances like that. Including her telling me we need to keep our personal life to ourselves...and then I find out randomly from others that she has talked at length with with people and made me look like garbage. I came to a point where I completely lost myself. She had completely stripped away any self worth...really anything. Everything with these people is so cunning and calculated...it’s hard to believe how well they spin their web.
Great video. I was married to a BPD woman from 1988-2000. 10 years of pastoral counseling was worthless. Now, after 23 years of blessed silence, she emailed me begging for money! Unbelievable. When I said NO, I don't care what happens to you, she began bombarding me with emails calling ME a narcissist. Her husband even got into the act. I blocked them both. You are doing a wonderful service for those of us who have been victimized by these psychopaths. They have convinced everyone else that they are righteous victims and we are the abusers, when in fact it's the exact opposite.
Thank you! I really needed this. I needed this for myself especially. I grew up with a narcissistic mother and grandmother. Most of my family is cultivated with them because of this, and I’m trying to heal these traits within myself. So thank you so much for helping me gain awareness and clarity into where I’m falling short.
Completely understand. 2 years of hell and another 4 years of not even considering another relationship. Ironically, she has a CZcams channel dedicated to dealing with a narcissist and is now scamming others.
I noticed that narcists are not into self-improvement. I see self-improvement as a healthy sign to a healthy relationship. I am always learning and growing. I enjoy learning and growing. Great video.
This is so very true. I myself am into self-improvement (which led me to this video) and my ex (narc) would never so much as pick up a book or make any real effort to improve herself.
My wife talks negative about so many things and people. She has alot of anger toward her ex, daughter, parents and co-workers. I listen to her each day about one of the above. I don't say anything but just listen because when I input she says I'm wrong. She is very suspicious of everything. She has accused me of being a cheat so often from with co workers to neighbors, to even people I've never even seen like a woman walking outside somewhere near home smoking. When we argue she says I'm the narcissist. She does everything I do nothing. I work alot of hours specially in winter as a propane driver. But I try to always help with dishes, trash, etc.... but she in anger says I do nothing. I'm frustrated, depressed, and confused. I do love her though but geez.
Yes we men deal with this also. Just went through a two year relationship with it. Lies, betrayal, flirtatious behaviors, flying monkey's, social media flirting with many men in the waiting. I've been accused of doing the same while I've been loyal and faithful even during the many seperations...a living nightmare!
2 yr relationship I just left in October and this exactly what I went through she even threatened to harm herself in December because I didn't want to be her no more
Same here guys, 2 years of an absolute nightmare. I lost myself. It's been 2 months since the last and final breakup and I am on medication and still struggling...
@@niyuki87 your going to struggle. That's ok and normal!!! stay strong. And trust when I say that there are great beautiful people out here that will treat you right and make you forget about the monster. If you don't sever those ties now, the thing will ruin your entire life! imagine looking back when we get really old having not cut those ties with a narcassist!. What a very sad way to grow old and miss out on the love of our life! Think about that....never meeting "the one" because of some POS narcissist. They can't change!
@@michaelreed9805 Thank you Michael. Right now I don't believe in love anymore, or marriage... It's awful. I will get better in time but I am not sure I will open the door ever again, the damage I've endured it will make it hard to trust again...
I'm in a situation where I truly believe that narcissism RUNS IN FAMILIES. I looked for help by talking with my girlfriend's mother but she showed the EXACT same signs as her daughter.
I have ptsd and just realized I was in relationship with a narcissistic woman. And she blamed me for her flirting, texting and talking to other men. Her favorite quote was “you better love me or someone else will.”
@@jamessimpson5636 a narc womans identity is incredibly fractured. And she refused to face her flaws. So she wants attention, adoration to feel WORTHY. She wants to feed off the attention you give her. That's all she cares about you...what YOU can do for HER. A full, solid person who loves themselves doesnt need others adoration, or attention to feel good about themselves. They enter rltnshps to SHARE the love they have within. There is no need for a happy person to TAKE. But to GIVE AND SHARE. Find a person who is happy on their own and who is content and doesnt need your adoration to achieve happiness or self worth.
Thank you for this. I was feeling like I was the only one dealing with a woman like this. My god this has been a journey. It damages a person's 'own' self esteem: being in a relationship with this type of emotional abuse. Thank you.
People recover from depression cause by this abuse when they remember to keep the narc out of they’re life, just remember to stay away and focus on yourself :)❤️ I’m feeling much more like my old self already and the world feels like a much safer place! 😅
The quiet covert is what I'm dealing with. She knows the exact buttons to get me to blow up and then when I do, she does one of these things( even after being caught red handed), completely shuts me out/stonewalls me and stares endlessly into her phone and acts like I nor my emotions do not exist. I can literally feel her satisfaction of my hurt and anger. Eating it up, feeding off of it. 2, she will bring up something completely stupid and irrelevant from 3 years ago and argue me in circles without ever taking responsibility for what she's actually doing.3. idk how it's possible but in the end I somehow feel like I did or am doing something wrong. The worst part is the how she flat out refuses any wrong doing and can sit there so care free while I emotional and mentally break down and feel insane as to how she can not understand anything I'm saying or even shi an ounce of empathy. It drives me absolutely insane because I actually love her but I am disgusted by her at the same time because I just can't understand how anyone can say they love u but the outward actions they have are the complete opposite. She knows what she's doing and pretends she's not doing anything. She'll nanchalantly say things like " I'm not doing anything to u, I'm just sitting here" knowing full well I'm trying to get simple answers or an understanding of the situation. I'm currently in a hotel and I haven't talked to her in a few days. Knowing I have no place to stay, she wants to use my money for a deposit on her new apartment. She has my children which makes this hard. I agreed for them but eve tho she's offering me a place to stay I only want to escape NOW! I check out tomorrow and after hotels and her deposit I'm not left with much. I have a good job but it's under the table which means no paystubs which means it's extremely hard to find an apartment. So I return and protect my space very cautiously or do I risk homelessness for the sake of my sanity? Idk what to do but I feel the need to immediately exit the situation no matter the cost. Her absence alone gives me a certain level of peace and if worst comes to worst I do have a car. I can't practice no contact forever as we have kids but I'm incredibly hurt, frustrated and confused as to why I still want her and how I can possibly feel like IM the problem when I'm clearly not. Most times when I'm with her I feel like I'm insane or something must be wrong with me because she's just so care free about everything and is completely detached emotionally
The way you describe it, it's not you, it's her. Keep calm. Stay in control of yourself. Don't give her control of your money. Talk to people who support you and make a plan to get out, because even if she makes you believe she wants to fight for the relationship, as soon as she feels like she can get something better elsewhere, she might be gone in a moments notice, if she's not already cheating right now. I know the situations you describe. You can get out of it. And you will get better. Don't let yourself be treated like a doormat. Don't fall for her big sad eyes, get out of the rollercoaster. She most probably is a very good actress, better than you might have realized up until now. Don't let her make you believe you are the problem. You're not alone!
In my past codependent toxic relationship I was dating a professional female narcissist...but then also realized I was a narcissist. I finally woke up and got out of that toxicity and have developed some self awareness from witnessing someone who was worse than me. Who you date is a direct reflection of who you are. So accurate!! I have some growing up and healing to do..
Not in most cases, some times you don't know what your going up against because a Narcissist knows how to hold there composure. Play it out cool, mirror you without you being aware.
Bully is just the old word for them. Narcissist makes them sound cool. My sister (adult) refers to her screaming public temper tantrums as 'Narcissistic Rage' as if it were a badge of honour.
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I was involved with a narcissistic abuser. I've been watching these videos and you say narcissists take the best care of themselves, then that they don't. I've dealt with narcissistic abuse much of my life and I don't want pity. I want them, the total strangers, and all narcissists to STOP. They've made it look like I'm the narcissist. They're trying to make me kill myself. I started reacting badly to it, being triggered by their lies and projections. I appreciate all of the good advice on how to deal with it. It's easier said than done when you have cptsd from decades of narcissistic abuse.
Very well thought out. Was broken up with by a partner of just over three months last year who, I thought the reason was that I had inadvertently triggered past trauma she hadn't been completely forthcoming about. However, as a retired counselor mysel, it really messed with my head since there were things that weren't adding up or making sense at all, especially with her reactions and what she did after the breakup, isolating her friends from me by hinting about “emotional abuse”, saying “it got physical”, really hurtful stuff. I fell so hard and so fast for her which I've never done before; I had shared so much of myself and been so vulnerable with her in such a short period of time and could really see a future with this woman. I got completely stuck in self-blame, was worried that she’d continue pushing people away and continue the cycle of self harm, etc. While working with my own therapist and talking with a friend who has been married for 17 years to a woman with a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, I really got to thinking about it and wrote out the things she had said and direct observations I made about her behaviors, how she interacted with others, etc. Suddenly it all became clear. She likely had dealt with actual narcissists in past relationships and adopted some of those same traits as protective factors, but in doing so had become a narcissist herself. When reading back everything I wrote down, it painted a very clear picture. I did send her an email with as gentle a language as I could asking her if all those things sounded familiar and if she had run into people like that in her past relationships, so hopefully it will give her some insight and she’ll be able to make that commitment to work on herself. There’s certainly hope for people with NPD, and I’ve struggled with some of those dark triad traits myself in the past but have protective factors such as a close knit, loving and supportive family, and friends with different educational backgrounds, all of whom will call me out on my own BS when I start going down that road. You have to make that commitment to change though!
They'll picture her as a cute caring angel. I know I'm the only one seeing her demonic face, covert narcs tends to have two faces, that caring face to the public and the demonic face behind the closed doors.
yep - she was an actor in public and in front of family so she could always claim to be the nice one and stab me in the back making me out to be an abuser! but she was like living with someone possessed by the devil. mine was on medication for anxiety and she was also an alcoholic. the anxiety medication specifically warned that it should not be taken with alcohol because when she did that the effects would be reversed and she turned into a raging paranoid nut case. thinking back on it now I dont know how I lived through the insane drama for so long (5 years). I wish I had it on film because trying to explain it to family and friends is so hard and they almost cant believe what you are saying.
@@RedroomStudios Gone through a very similar thing recently (though just 1yr). Trying to explain it to people is so hard... I found writing it all down helps or putting screenshots together if this abuse occurred via message. Hope things get better for you.
Excellent advice. I just ejected from my life this narcissistic creep who was after me. He would even come up to my friends and ask them, 'Where's Lisa?' I told them I was ghosting him, so they wouldn't tell him, and it drove him wacko. I moved so he can't find me.
Ray Jones The Narc I know buys everyone all kinds of gifts so everyone likes gifts right? She found out early, that people can be bought pretty cheaply by her shiny things. When she was young she controlled my little brother with penny candy.
@@noreenstarck992 I understand completely. This is also my Sister. I have been widowed 4 yrs so I moved close to the town where my divorced older Sister lives, thinking this would be good. Boy, what a mistake. She is a loud mouth bully who insults everyone and says the most mean spirited things to me. I could go on and on but instead I think I will move to another state. I need to be away from her.
This was pretty spot on. Was discarded by my narcissist about 5 months ago and am still recovering. Alot of what you said about insecurity and drama causing was 100 percent spot on. The jealousy thing is interesting in hindsight. I never dealt with anything like it and am in therapy now. I hit rock bottom largely because I had no idea what was going on. I never even knew what a narcissist was until i constantly got called one by her. Do not ignore red flags. Much love to everyone suffering
I have these tendencies from growing up with a single mom who was very much like this. I would not say I'm a Narcissist but i know i have low self esteem with deep wounds. Not looking to date until I fix myself. Thanks for the insight.
You can't fix yourself! Call upon the Lord Jesus Christ! Believe in Jesus Christ and you shall have everlasting life! Neither is there salvation in any other! Get a king james bible and believe. Read Matthew. Read 1 John chapter 4.
Alexandra Johnson respects and credit to you. I’ll pray for you that you better your life in all aspects. Nothing wrong admitting your faults if you’re willing to work on yourself honestly.
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She wants to be worshipped and she wants you to feel like you aren't worthy of such worship. She is fueled by your lust and doesn't want you to feel what it is like to be lusted after by another person - that's part of her sense of feeling like your object of worship. If you worship her, she certainly isn't going to worship you. Gods don't worship each other. One is a god (or a goddess) and the other is a subject. Don't be her subject. If there isn't mutual lust and desire, leave her.
Bro, any relationship you get in out of lust is bound to be taken away from you because it's idolatry for the simple fact you're putting it before the ONE & ONLY living God...
I'm learning it takes a lot more than lust and desire for a real good relationship. If you know yours and your partners "Love Language", that is half the battle.
Do you think that the female narcissist who was shown unconditional love and forgiveness when they made a mistake; and yet also given constructive criticism on how to avoid making the mistake again...then resents the criticism, rebels and feels entitled/enabled to then be able get away with future mistakes without consequences?
I went through this recently and they resented anything I said and only said sorry. Best thing I can tell you is don't be with a woman unless she can be accountable and admit when she is wrong. Best of luck to you Scott
My narcissistic gf lied to me. Turns out she and her ex were still together and lives in her apartment. Right after I broke it off she starts sleeping with our new coworker who has a gf. Basically she has a bf at work and a bf at home. Now she’s calling me, blaming me that the whole office knows what she’s doing when all I did is take a week off trying to heal…
Geez. I just got out of a relationship with a woman who matched this video. I was only with her for a year and a half and I feel like I wasted my life. Some of you guys were with them for years or even decades. I’m so sorry for all of you guys’ pain.
I noticed you have a video on how to get revenge on a narcissist. I haven't watched it, but in my own opinion the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to accept the fact they're their own worst enemy and that they will never be happy. They will ruin every good thing they have and leave a trail of destruction behind, but will never be satisfied.
The idea is literally to DESTROY THE NARCISSIST before he destroys somebody else. You DO THIS using the same tactics he uses to 'gaslight' with (except that we're not gaslighting but telling the truth, although the narcissist will ALWAYS condemn you for 'ad hominem' attacks, conveniently oblivious to the fact that it is the narcissist who always relies on character assassination). And I discovered that the only thing that was preventing me from speaking 'truth to narcissism'... was my OWN egoic need to be different from the narcissist (but I DO have a confident, aggressive and feisty side).
I actually think the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to let them keep being a narcissist. For example my dad abandoned us for hookers and meth, so my revenge on him was letting him live a life of hookers and meth. Like what they are doing comes with its own revenge. My revenge on my ex is also just letting him be him. No girl unless she’s extremely insecure, manipulative, and abusive, will stay with him and he’ll never have a deep meaningful connection with someone because he doesn’t do that. It’s like the narcissism is their own revenge and if they stop it then they’ll be happy but also they’ll deserve to be happy cause they stopped it. It’s karma basically. Whatever they are doing they are doing to themselves to the equivlent. Just don’t reward their behaviour by giving them attention, even if it’s negetive attention. Cause “please don’t do this to me, I need you” is a stroke to their ego and motivates them to do it more for more of your approval. Just leave them and go be happy without them, that’s the revenge. The revenge is to let them be destructive and not let it affect you or bond to that.
+Elicia Garcia Appreciate everything you just said, but narcissists can be 'worn down'. The results are unpredictable (e.g.: they might KILL you), but they're actually very easy to 'defeat' as they're extremely predictable.
Drummers Eve I totally agree mate.. my ex wife has destroyed my relationship with my children and I said and done nothing but she mad my kids stop seeing me even bribing my daughter with a little pug big if she stops waning to see me.. she will get it all back someday from the kids.
Gareth Mason I wish there was an easy way help children being raised by Ns as the kids will experience abuse and continue cycle. Kids will go through the same sick abuse and never being taken care of. Not given a choice, they and become either a narcissist like the mom or scapegoat (sometimes switching roles.) In my case I became a scapegoat and subconsciously tried to make it out getting good grades to go off to college but ultimately formed a stress induced illness that took me out, never being taken to the doctor and even child protective services not doing anything. I ran away to a family member who took me to a doctor and temporarily house me. Ended up also being very narcissistic and kicked me out last semester of HS. During this whole time never having anyone tell me I was set up for failure in the hands of these Npeople no matter how hard I try. Took me until mid twenties and an abusive partner to finally stumble upon this information and taking steps to finally take my life back and know who I really am and not this terrible person this Nfamily has painted me out to be.
Thank you so much. Answers to my last 17 years, 4 kids. Now i know why she cant say anything nice about this time together when asked. All negative and i am to blame, every time. Thank you again, great info, beautifully presented.
I was broken up with by a woman I believe is a female narcissistic, the hardest thing I feel about trying to say it out loud is that I feel guilty because I understand I'm not perfect and didn't do everything right, but I always communicated that I make mistakes because I'm human, but even after many long conversations the "problems" would resurface less than a week later.
Worst thing that can happen to man, and then she discards you in an instance, then she doesn't give you closure, then she plays the victim when approached. Run for the hills the moment you see this.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
As soon as I feel like someone wants me to be jealous of them my guard goes up and I cease to tell them anything about my goals, accomplishments, etc., especially with female coworkers. Thank you Stephanie for your words of wisdom!
The worst is... Though I will never go back how I miss the fun we had, I was discarded and like a fool thought there was something worth fighting for, all the time I was played like a flute, literally.
They will discard you no matter what man. I owned a house with her, paid all the bills while we were engaged and she was pregnant with my daughter, doing everything for her and providing unconditional love even though I was treated like shit. She discarded me like it was nothing after I went grey rock for a bit, to move into the ghetto lol. They do not give a single flying fuck about anything
Yes, Ns react 1 of 2 ways when you try to hold them accountable. They either go ballistic (like my NMIL), or they ignore you & give you the silent treatment (my former wife did this a lot).
@@amandapryar4675 is it even possible by because the Nac believes they are The center of the Universe and all things revolve around their epic gravitational pull. Could you even have 2 centers? It's seems like narcs specialize in Drawing Co-dependants and ematha and rescuers and such (enablers). Also maybe borderlines. If two narcs met each other I'm suspicious they will hate each other with burning passion (how dare a second person claim to be the center of the Universe?). I bet some of the most heated rivalries if all time were two narcs just hating each other.
This is such good information. I can definitely see where there are potential female narcissists in my life. If you are suffering from a narcissist in your life, never give up! Life can and WILL BE beautiful after abuse.
Not all insecure women are narcissistic/ just a reminder!! Bc when people say this about guys it’s not all insecure men… we just have to have discernment and connect more dots
@@Lee-lilo-Noto My ex did this of me and her other exes. However, we need to understand she doesn't deserve us to worry about HER narrative. She is sick and has pushed us all away...Not our fault.
Had to cut my mother off about two years ago. It was painful but once she was out of my life things started turning around. I went back to school and I'm almost finished with degree. I'm thinking about my own life and happiness again. My marriage has also improved. To this day she feels very wronged, and to her I'm just the evil male / worthless son who took her grand kids away from her. She put me through hell for 39 years. I hope she finds happiness someday.
Writing things down also helps alot , im starting to think that I should send my life story in a +- short form to all the ppl what she and i know. like leaving me behind in the car when i was +-10 years old on holiday while they went to a restaurant/opera, or abouth how she a on my birthdays/Christmas always had to make me feel like a failure! Or abouth how she and dad abuses alcohol. Or abouth the violence story's. But shes a covert narc , ….. I could set me up for disaster and who cares? but i care....that other ppl know. been breaking my head for weeks/months…...pfffff
Thank you. I needed this. I just got out of an emotional abusive relationship. It’s been a roller coaster and hard but I realized I am better without her
A narcissistic colleague of mine one ups me whenever I'm around her. "I have that skirt you're wearing. I've mastered that. I do that too. You look sad or something else" Uses flattery when she feels as if you're going sever the friendship.
Yes it does people need to be more and more aware. I didn’t even know that such things existed and even when I started to I didn’t know the name for it. Just proves my ignorance at that time.😔😔
Has anyone ever been or claimed to be healed from narcissism? With evidence that supports its a genuine miracle. Cuz it would have to be. I believe there with the Bible calls reprobates and their conscience is seared with a hot iron and they cannot be saved and their mind is defiled and they're always Liars inventors of evil things Covenant Breakers proud boasters lovers of self never admitting wrong taking accountability always worried about clean and unclean Meats it says it all routes back to when they knew God they didn't honor him as God and started worshiping other things so God gave them over to a reprobate mind that they would do those things that were at the very least inconvenient it's a lot harder to be the way they are than it is to just be nice or the person they pretended to be to suck you in. That's what blows my mind because I've been the victim of a few of them on with one now and she did a good job acting I'll tell you that cuz I was trying to be extremely careful looking for the red flags and she put it on for like 4 months and she did a good job there wasn't one slip-up that I noticed that I've got really good discernment. I know I'm not perfect I'm not a narcissist either but at the same time I don't know how I missed it I almost want to blame myself not like punish myself to stay in this I'm currently trying to work out a way to get out of the spider's web if you know what I mean. I moved in with her so I live with her at her place and I'm unemployed right now with no vehicle I sold all my money in a hurry to get it fixed so we could both use it and now she doesn't even let me use it when I need to and I need to make sure I have secure employment with transportation and my own place to leave could actually if I got a vehicle I will get a van or a truck so I could just sleep in that leave immediately and just get back to enjoying being me. I mean I love me and I'm good friends with me myself and I but it's really hard to enjoy being me when I got to walk on eggshells and I'm constantly finding myself caring about someone who doesn't care about me and I know it I'm trying to figure out why they want to be that way even though I know what they are Holding Out for it and they know they are what they are but it's always I know you are but what am I I just don't understand why they even want to be that way cuz it's so much easier to not be that's what it says they do things that are inconvenient. That's a nice way of putting it cuz never found it hard to love God and others as myself or care about someone's well-being or be humble admit when I'm wrong take accountability and really get to know myself and love me and healthy way but it's like she won't even let me love her anymore and you can tell she's going to try to push me away cuz when she was faking it and pretending to love me and pretending to receive my love even though it wasn't the real her she seemed like she enjoyed it and I couldn't tell it was an act so it's absolutely mind-boggling to try to understand why or maybe that is the real her maybe not all narcissists are hopeless that's what I want to believe about her because I've really done my research on this has been around them and I know that that's where she is now maybe it's demon possession that's taking place prior to a person becoming a reprobate like Saul was on his road to Damascus and Jesus said the blind him and knock him on his damn ass cuz he was either going to repent and get saved or become a reprobate that very day I firmly believe it. And when someone's on the road to being one especially if they're really close to that cut off point cuz there's got to be a cut-off Point. Everybody's born that way it's hard to tell if they've already passed it or not and one of the things that really gets me is is there anything going on that is super evil that's like a plot not even just cheating which I don't believe there is but I think sometimes there's a larger agenda to either try and harm me or really just try to ruin me even if it takes her whole life I feel like sometimes she's having conversations with people talkin about their plans for me and it's disguised as other shit and I'm not a paranoid person and I'm not a person that thinks I'm that important that I'm more important than other people or something but I really don't try to just dismiss it with the same time when there's so many times that it just really screams out to me like this is obvious there's no such thing as a coincidence especially when there's too many coincidences and I don't like to stir the pot and I know they won't tell the truth but sometimes I like to just let her know that I'm really distrusting of her and I'm on to her and if there's anything going on it's going to be bad news for her cuz I'm a child of God and she will lose. And it seems like it gets her mad that she knows I know shit that I haven't been told and shouldn't figure out and that I'm right about what I'm saying. But it's not like she's mad because wrongly assuming falsely accusing her or even accusing me of making shit up that's crazy sometimes she just gets real quiet when I say shit to her that I feel is going on and I know if someone said that to me and I wasn't doing it I would not only be hurt that they thought that but I would wonder how they came to that conclusion I would want to make sure that not only did they know I love him with my actions every David make sure there's nothing wrong with them like paranoid schizophrenia but that's the thing I'm really observant and I have a sound mind and a good conscience towards god with a humble attitude when I say I have a lot of wisdom and I'm not stupid I'm not somebody that likes to be abused either but it's just so weird that she's quiet room even if she wanted to lie it would be so much better for her case if she just acted like it didn't bother or pretended it pissed her off that I was believing a lie but she sometimes just shuts down when I say shit that when I say it I wanted to not be true but it's so fucking obvious in I feel like it's so evil what's going on that I got to put it out there cuz I don't want it to be true but if it is I want to let them know that look all this shit that you're doing to try to gas me up so you can like me is just going to burn you cuz if it is what I think it is it's not just her it's a whole new group of people and they all work together I really feel like it's a koven and they're taking orders from and they're taking orders from probably Satan himself I also feel that's one of the reasons she changed I don't know where maybe she figured this would all have been over with and she got fed up with she's having to wait longer day get paid or get her reward will get out of the situation and go do what she wants or get on to the next victim but it's really obvious that something's going on. It's made me want to go out see other women to be honest. We're not married on government paper or any of that we believe in biblical marriage or at least I did and she lied about it but I still live here we sleep in separate rooms it's been about four months since we've been slow dancing in a burning room and I've been walking on eggshells and we haven't been intimate in all the last time we were it seemed like for that month it was a different person and she needed a good job of Faking enjoying a lot of shit including sex and love and all that stuff and then she acts like she did tests it now like she detest holding my hand when she used to be so affectionate I don't know but I don't want to overthink it and I don't want to assume shit that's not true I just know I have the discernment and I'm on to something but if they think they can take me down in any way they got another thing coming cuz Papa Jesus Got a Brand New Bag... of old tricks that are refined better than ever remember Elijah was calling fire down on them from heaven after he was calling them out publicly telling everyone why. Hates them and they would get hit with fire from heaven I mean could you imagine it and that's what all the narcissists are there reprobates reppy's I call him LOL
I was raised by an EXTREMELY narcissistic father ( I also had a brother & sister ) dad was a very successful business owner/operator who was a totally different person in his professional life. Mom always tried to keep the peace and console us after all of the derogatory name calling, verbal assaults, hollering and screaming that was directed at us constantly as we were growing up. Mom was raised to "keep your family together at all costs" so she never left him and always made excuses for him. Now I am 54 YO and just learning what narcissism is and wish so badly Mom would have gotten us out of that house. Us 3 siblings all have extreme social anxiety ( I have also just learned what that is) --- mom always told us "y'all are just shy". I also now realize that all the girls I have dated in my life were narcissistic just like dad --- as well as my wife of 25 years. I was seeking out narcissistic partners for some bizarre reason. A few years back I figured out my wife was having an affair with my "best friend" (which was also her "best friends husband) and of course it was all my fault (and her friends fault). I have stayed in the marriage for the purpose of getting my daughter thru nursing school with no student debt but when she is finished I am out. This affair has led me to counseling and to open up to someone about all the feelings of inadequacy I have always had deep inside my head that I couldn't discuss with anyone. Now that I understand this type life/relationship is NOT NORMAL I regret raising my kids in the same type environment I was raised in (except with a female narcissistic parent). Unfortunately both of my kids refuse to go get counseling but I realize now they both exhibit same symptoms of myself and my siblings. Thanks so much for your videos as they help continue my education in how to recover my emotional health from a lifetime of narcissistic domination in my life.
You’re describing my oldest sister. I’ve known she is narcissistic for several years but it’s just interesting to hear this anyway. One reason I got off FB was I was tired of the constant selfies and “look at the trip we just took” photos. She’s never once asked me how I’m doing! Never once, not even after I lost my child to cancer.
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your child Stephanie, a time when you could most use the support of a sibling. My younger sister was the first one to label our father a narcissist, yet years later she is now one herself. She never asks me how I am and has recently been triangulating with our father to make him disown me. She was a good person until about 15 years ago when her personality began to change. Not even the loss of our mother and other sister changed her ways. She seems to be getting worse with age. Never believed she would become this way but I no longer trust her 😔
I am recently going through a divorce with a narcissist. I am so lost. She was dating someone 3 days before we decided to file for divorce. I was living with her. She told me she didn’t even love him or was he a good lover ( he was 3 ex boyfriends before we dated) but that she would learn to love him and he didn’t have kids that I brought into the relationship and that it would be easier for ( they broke up like 4 times when they dated according to her. She also caught him cheating on her. But he’s the one she went to. This is all over night because I stood up for my daughter because she told me she hated her and told me to choose. She said the final straw was me taking my own child on vacation when she didn’t deserve to go (my 14yo daughter) this is so wild. Many things I am now seeing because of these videos. I honestly thought it was all me. Currently heartbroken but I hope to get over it soon 05/04/23
This is my mom. I have finally cut ties with her after 15 years of trying to have a mother / daughter relationship... I don't want it in my life and I'm better without it.. Thank you for this video it validates everything..
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Same here. Forteen years ago I walked away from both parents and haven't looked back. The weather and pets were the only topic one could talk about with them. Anything else meant dealing with the truth which they refused to allow to happen. Reality was not allowed to be present. Wise people know healing never happens without the reality of truth. Best decision I have ever made. My sister chose my parents route in life, so she got the boot too.
I found my Dad and omg we were so much alike we connected off the back he told me everything he went through with my mom when I was a child and why he left. I saw him last at age 5 and I'm 32 now, but everything he said about her I experienced. She's a narcissist at best, kept me away from my dad and told me lies about him.
It was the worst year of my life emotionally. No matter what I did, she would find a way to start a fight. Then, when I would try to adapt to her wants she would still find ways to fight. Tear me down, minimize my love, minimize my worth. Finally I just couldn't do it anymore. I realized it was her not me.
yep - nothing is ever good enough for them. love to fight over the slightest thing, even if that thing never happened but they imagined it! no way you can ever win that argument when the other person is arguing based on a delusion!
Thanks for speaking about the fact there are female Narcisse as well I just end my relationship with one it was exactly like you say. In the beginning she was sweet, caring maybe to good to be true and she was suddenly when I was so in love with her she changed completely and the mental abuse started. I felt like I needed to save her but she didn't want to be saved she wanted to bring me down from then on it still took 2 years to get out of that relationship and she still try to bring me down but I'm awake now because I took distance from her and the storm is much clearer from a distance. Now I am healing and start to live again. Thank you and keep doing what you do because you help a lot of people this way. Bless you
Never even knew what a narcissist was. She was and did everything you talked about. She dumped me after 3 years, and didn’t even give me a chance. Wow!
My faith in God and dry humor helped deflect all the incoming drama, half truths, negative vibes and court orders...I am thankful to know my Shepard when the wolf comes around!
@@donotaylor5307 Right in front of you... See him? There next to the Easter bunny, behind Santa, sitting with the tooth fairy. You just need to open your eyes.
Danny Adames right. If you’re feeling insecure about a woman’s beauty when talking to her, say to her what you would say to one of your most stupid or most humble friends when replying to her. This quickly breaks the ice.
I was trying to rap to someone else who was also hot who seemed to respond favorably but I couldn't: all that slap-ass had my mind in prison, I felt like I was taken so shouldn't when there was really nothing wrong with it, we weren't hitched yet. As a result of how it all turned-out I don't rap no more, at all; let someone else lose a fortune over it.
@Distilled PUA never thought of a man as his status. I can do things and handle my own very well.. I enjoy a man that has a good sense of humor. that's better than anything!! 😊
So proud of you for covering the FEMALE NARCISSIST! It's sad that if you are on social media you would think that ONLY MEN are narcissistic. Having survived a Female Narcissist for too many years, I can't thank you enough for this video. She still finds ways to criticize me even though we are divorced. It's wild. But also very sad, because she is just the product of an abusive narcissistic mother.
My friend called me a narcissist because I expressed concern over her neglecting her cat. It led to me pulling back and telling her I was taking a break for a few months because she swears at me and is very aggressive and I am exhausted from not feeling like I can speak up. She went nuts and started doubling down on her comments because she is angry I am not engaging right now and took a break. I have to end our 'friendship.' She says my pulling back is disrespecting her boundaries because I am "overreacting." She throws terms around. I am tired of walking on eggshells. :/ it's tough. Hang in there.
Hi Stephanie, I live in Hermanus South Africa, thank you for what you are doing, I don't think people know what a nightmare this has been. I was divorced in 2016, since then i have been accused of assault, was rescinded, subsequently lost my bossiness, was on my way back to Saudi Arabia when Covid struck and all went belly up. Thank heavens for good friends, I got a small dental studio together again and getting back on my feet. The worst of the scenario is that she took my children three years ago, been through all the Family advocate proceedings and children's court, all the recommendations have been reintegration, but I'm sure you know that she and her carbon copy, mother who has moved provinces to come and help take control. I haven't seen or really spoken to my kids in three years, was my boy's birthday last week and I just want to thank you for your efforts. You certainly helped open my eyes a great deal. Tertius Theron
Experienced players make the best narcissists. They know exactly how to hide all of the tell tale signs. Its disgusting, but my advice is never hold hatred in your heart for them. Find the strength to walk away in gratitude for the lessons in humility and self worth they provide.
well said... dont reciprocate the hate.. it does nothing butt justify why they do what they do to begin with.. and literally in a way makes u become what u hated them for... xb believe it or not there are ways people can actually help these kinds of people... will it be easy no... but most people are quick to simple hate/despise back.. cause its the easiest thing to do.. it reminds me of spoiled women... hating and thrashing them does not solve anything... there are ways to help women like that... butt rather then do that.. lots of people they simple insults and hope they meet a miserable life ... it usually take a person or a multitude of people to create narcissistic or spoiled behavior in others.. so in reality narcissists and spoiled people are technically victims who then go on to victimize others.. who in return want some sort of revenge... xb which then begets more hate.. etc etc... its a cycle... the key is to not reward bad behavior.. as well as not mocking or insulting bad behaviors... and instead encourage good behavior.. and then reward that.. and not apologizing for everything thing... in terms of dealing with spoiled behavior in kids and adults.. this is how psychology says to handle that behavior... the issue is now.. men are either still spoiling women till no end.. or now walking away thus the problem still goes unanswered... both solutions are literally carrying out actions that psychology says NOT TO DO WITH SPOILED BEHAVIOR... women today are victims of systematic ass kissing by men.... now women are ungrateful.. spoiled... self entailed.. narcs... u cant blame the effects without blaming the cause... now men are paying the price for raising their women this way... and now men are angry.. yet they still dont get it.. they are now doing the opposite extreme of spoiling.. they are ignoring it.. then insulting it at every chance they get... if men didnt expect the current result of what spoiling women does.. then how can groups like MGTOW be so sure that ignoring it wont have the same negative effect by in the opposite direction. this is a human issue.... if ur on team women ur a problem... if u on team men ur a problem... we should be on team HUMAN... im grateful for the men that dont run away and acknowledge the part men played in shaping women.. thus now understand how to help and encourage women to regain integrity.. cause it takes integrity to create it... men still kissing womens butts.. lack it... men who walk away.. lack it.. women who are a result of the fomer lack it.. which then creates the later who walk away which again also lack it... all this shit is so interconnected... a cause and effect of another effect of a cause.. lmao
@@thebitcher01 well science has the answer.. psychology approved.. the but question is.. do you have the will power to do it or are u just gonna "go the other away?" cause thats the easiest thing to do in my opinion... to walk away from a serious issue... also yes.. lifes not fair... so i believe its on the mens shoulders to bare it.. as they are in a better position to do so.. so in terms of not creating more spoiled women as well as fixing it... attempting to fix it.. the "right" way... men can stop apologizing for disappointments of women... its also extremely beneficial to empathize with disappointments without having to apologizing.. it shows u care for their feelings... as its important to validate peoples feelings... its shows u understand and care but doesn't mean u approve of it.. humans simply do not listen to others if they feel attacked.. they instead get defensive... u should know this well.. this is how all debates often go.. both sides tryna make the other side look bad.. regardless of who's right or wrong.. feelings are completely ignored..xb and dont make excuses for them.. let her know what u will and will not tolerate.. this by no means means u have to be and asshole about it... u can do all those things in a respectful way... men could be more assertive... as well as not get into arguments.. the fact that ur getting into arrangement with a SPOILED person clearly shows ur not helping nor know what your doing... just making it worse.. really think about that... what do u achieve by arguing with some spoiled person.. their fking spoiled for crying out loud.. just make it clear u dont agree and leave it at that... arguing more often then not is just a waste of every ones time.. acknowledge their feelings but stress they need to take responsibility for their own feelings... that ur not to blame for their feelings if u actually arent... if they start to act out.. dont thrash them.. just create space.. if u do thrash them u get that waste of time argument.. right.? so it dont help... also can ENCOURAGE good behavior... lets be real.. everyone likes to get rewarded... especially if u earned and or deserved it.. can we agree on this at least... we need men of integrity to help encourage integrity in women... u cant beat it into them.. u cant scream it into them.. u cant walk off expecting them to get it either later.. in fact all those thing themselves are signs the man has no integrity himself.. and its actually what psychology says we shouldnt do when dealing with spoiled adults... so many men rant on about "putting women back into their place" WRONG.. thats not gonna work... thats patronizing...which ill get too.. ALL OF THIS HAS TO.... HAS TO.. BE DONE IN A RESPECTFUL WAY... the second u get aggressive or hostile.. making them feel like they are being attacked... the conversation is over.. they are gonna be on the defensive.. NEGATIVE criticism are cancer when dealing with spoiled people.. men or women... YOU NEED TO BE CONSTRUCTIVE in ur criticisms.. discourage and encourage certain behaviors... thats what u do if u really want to help and solve the problem... now i know you may be thinking.. thats just to much effort.. especially if u do it and the women still ends up stepping on you.. well think of the now spoiled behavior of women.. it didnt just happen over night.. it was a constant and continual way men interacted with women that eventually lead to it.. it happened over time.. so its gonna take time to help it as well.. and lets not forget patronizing.. probably the worst thing a adult human can do social interaction wise with another adult human... when u treat someone lesser then you.. or inferior.. conversation over...!!! and it can create deep negative views toward the patronizer.. example of patronizing in my life... im 4'11 and 89lbs.. i worked retail and use to volunteer to help unload the trucks sometimes.. clearly i was not as strong as the guys(i didn ask to be psychically weaker).. and a little slower at it... but i still finished on time... butt lot of the guys gave me shit.. talking about im useless and slow and how i shouldn't be back here doing mans work.. like really... i volunteered cause they were behind schedule and short handed... here is a case of when a women attempts and tries to help yet gets belittle and treated inferior... like i knew i couldn't keep up but i just wanted to help and got thrashed for it.. u can see how things like this could be justification to start disliking men.. and im no stranger to extremes. .. like men telling me i should be rape and learn my place cause of an opinion... xb but i have enough integrity to not generalize all men based of the guys like this.. butt its hard not to.. not gonna lie.. i dont like femnazi butt my impressions on being "raped" are less then under the wing of the extremist men.. all this back and forth hostility is just driving a bigger wedge between men and women... i myself was a spoiled little ungrateful shit... but my bf of tens year now... who has lots of respect for all humans... was well aware of my behavior and he accepted it.. he didn't blame me for it or treat me like i was a evil shit... he understood the possibilities of why i was the way i was.. and basically did all the above... he could have thrashed and insulted me.. or walked the other away... and id probably still be a little shit right now... am i perfect now.. no.. butt im way better then i was before... and its all cause a single man out of all the men i came across lacked disdain for others.. hes just a very scientifically minded person.. that there is a reason for why people are the way they are.. and to solve it.. or have the best chance at solving it.. is to understand it.. then go from there in a constructive and encouraging way.. id say he is more reasonable then me.. more reasonable then most men in fact.. like i still get my spoiled tendency every now and then.. i yell and vent.. he lets me get it all out of my chest.. then we sit down and talk about.. and it works cause right or wrong.. he does not deny my feelings... these tendency i have that slip out sometime.. he still encourages me in the right direction.... so for me.. thats the answer.. short and long term.. butt its an answer most will refuse.. xb
She literally just described my old roommate. The sad part is I thought I was the problem, but the reality is she is a deeply insecure person that gets off on making people feel bad about themselves.
Yup. They are TOXIC. You can smell the negativity reeking out of them. They will try hard to cover their stench with all sorts of happy-vappy self-boosting self-care preachings, but sooner or later their sh!tty insecurities will pour out of their mouth like dengue vomit. Stay away to avoid the contamination.
@@reginaldkingii6057 The lack of accountability leads the ladies to believe it could not be them but sadly A-W-A-L-T. They are wired differently. Took me many years to wrap my head around what used to be common sense.
I've been in a relationship with a narcissistic woman and it's true. It's incredibly tough to walk away but focus on loving yourself and working on yourself and you can do it. Do it now and find the support to go through. The longer you stay the harder it is to leave.
Why even bother with a counselor? Just tell her that you are going down to the corner to get a pack of cigarettes. Then, never come back. Leave no forwarding address.
Hit the nail right on the head, my first ever girlfriend is a narcissistic I found out on September 19. She always thinking about herself & all other traits fall right in line. She basically used me but in return, everything worked out for me and she was going through alot this year in 2022. I was bless with alot of great things this year but not her unfortunately. But people like this sometimes can't change but we can only pray for them
Thank you Stephanie! You have helped me understand a particular person in my life and her narcissistic behavior. Giving what she has done and continues to do now has a name and I know how to deal with her. I have my life back! Thank you for your informative videos!
She only wants all the goods of a beautiful relationship. No responsibility. No effort . They don't invite you into their lives but wants you to invite her to everything it's either her way or no other way . You try leave she'll reel you back in and start again
yep, been through that cycle 5 times in 5 years! well actually way more than 5 times but that was how many times she moved her furniture in and out of my house.
DAMN!!! This is SO spot on. If you have ever been in love with a female narcissist this lady describes her perfectly. It's so sad too. They manipulate you so much to love them. Then they turn into the biggest monster.
And they love bad boys with lots of money because they 'see through the facade' (actually, they just think all women are trash and enjoy watching them try but to a female narcissist the qualities of 'their man' plays into their grandiose image of themselves so they deceive themselves into thinking he knows their innermost desires even though he's really just playing along with whatever she says and having fun degrading her and bragging to his buddies about how stupid she is).
I've watched a few videos/blogs regarding a narcissistic partner and how to deal with them....get revenge, walk away etc. As a man who's experienced a narcissistic on/off relationship for nearly 4 years, this advice has been invaluable. The first time I've ever heard mentioned the word 'Bully!' Bully exactly fits a female narcissistic partner to her core. Throughout, I've experienced extreme excessive behaviour, self-centeredness, no ability to express empathy or emorse, show you respect, see you as an equal, or relate to any of your concerns and feelings or allow a normal adult conversation/discussion. Infact they will turn it back on you, make it your fault, its your insecurities that are the issue/problem The other tactic she would use to try and avoid any meaningful response, was going into 'child mode' making light of the situation. They will challenge you as a man sexaully, morally, emotionally in fact in every way they can until they rob you of your self worth. As a friend said to me 'female narcissistic women are like a vampire they suck you dry of every positive emotion/feeling you possess, leaving nothing but negativity and a shell of a man you once was.
In the infamous words of Bill Clinton: I feel your pain. Just went through the same experience. I knew there was something wrong from the beginning but I didn't pay heed to my gut feeling. But eventually, I can see the light at the end of this tunnel. There is nothing better than getting yourself back.
You are such a nice and sweet person, you explain so beautiful all..I am so grateful to have survived a huge attack from a narcisist and pshychopat managers (females) for 5 years..changed 3 jobs..over all, I really believe God saved me. I only had God by my side. And it was all I needed it.
We see female narcissists a lot in friendships… honey! It’s hard & heartbreaking! A female narc is a messy monster and thrives off of being an adult mean girl, she lies, manipulates, and she’s good at it… she’ll turn others against you… she’ll compete in an invisible battle with you… she’s the messy insecure snake! Treat her like a sniper and end her! 🤨🎯 Or just walk away her life! Don’t try to validate… the truth always comes to the light!
The female narcissist usually tries to make herself look like the innocent victim and that she's pure and sweet. Behind closed doors however, the true beast shows up at the slightest provocation.
@Dehlilia_ 8thHouseMoonRabbit and they say the ex husband is a jerk there are 2 sides to every story
100%
This woman in work is divorced and claims her ex is a jerk but she played games with me for a bit and she thinks she is a nice person? Wtf..
Dude this was literally my ex. She "love bombed" me and made me believe that she was innocent, caring and just a wholesome soul. She always played the victim when talking about her past relationships and how I was just so wonderful and amazing... 3.5 months later I caught her cheating with my once close friend.
But yeah, sweet girl.
yeah, my one fires up like crazy for the slightest precieved criticism.
I'm a man. And my ex used to physically abuse me. Then said it was my fault because of what I said. She also said that I deserved her reaction. We have a 2 year old daughter and I finally got the strength to leave. Fast forward a year later and I have my daughter full time. Live in another state. Still Learning how to be a single dad. Best decision I ever made was leaving
You just gave me hope im trying to build evidence on my current spouse so i can get full custody of our son. Ive been secretly recording arguements and most of our arguments stems from her telling our colic 2 month old son to "Shut the f*ck up". Every time i call her out on it, she denies it and hits me in the face but were fighting a cps case currently because she refused to stop smoking marijuana while pregnant (we live in Texas so its illegal here) thats why I havent called the cops and with my luck i would go to jail with a bloody nose anyway and ever since she quit smoking since his birth she hates me like its my fault she got pregnant when she was always the one to want sex 1st even the 1st night we met. Im secretly saving up lawyer money and evidence because i know push will come to shove eventually and when it does i want to prove my innocence. I work from 6am to noon everyday at my new job and she always wakes me up to start fights around 3 am telling me "hes your son too, its your turn you watch him." When ive only been asleep for 3 hours or less and calls me worthless when i cant hold my eyes open and its affecting my job performance and my well being in general. My mom has been more of a mom to my son than his birth mother. Please pray for me
Look how you said you were physically abused and only 2 comments. If that was a chick someone would of cared. Take that bitch to the cleaners like she would of done you if the situation was reversed. Nail her for Alimony, child support, and throw her in jail. Force her to take rehab. Coach your kid into saying she touched him/her. Annihilate her to the point she dont wanna live anymore like woman do to us
@@johnsonbobo2376 word up
@@mikelenetv6329 hope all is well
I wish you and your daughter love, laughter and happiness together. Well done Dad! Best move you could have ever made!
You nailed my GF of the last 6 years. - Took me another year to get over her - My advice to everyone get out as fast as you can. I dropped 200K plus in helping in those 6 years. I was emotionally and finically damaged... Run away.. Yes, she's breeding a narcissist child
I think one year to recover from a 6 years of narc relationship is incredibly fast, you are doing amazing! After being gaslit for such a long time, the brain must do a lot of reality observing and recalculations. Hope you can replace this with a lot of kindness and love and rest. The best!
Been there done that 4 years took 2 to get over it best move I made was to walk away
Simp
Someone idolizing mediocre 🐈
Omg I dropped 800k and now he wants to fight for custody. Impossible when he tried to sell me our daughter. And he uses her to know everything about me. He's creating a big situation in our recoveries.....
The child will be a victim not a narcissist
This just goes right through me. I'm stuck in a marriage with a narcissist due to our special needs child. Currently making moves to get us out, wish us luck.
Hope you do get out
Get out! It has been 19 years for me and they only get worse
I’m so sorry
Be strong for your kid . You have the power ⭐️🙏🏽
So sorry, I was blessed in being able to cut those ties to getting entangled with her by the grace of God.
If you are suffering because of a narcissist. I love you and never give up on yourself!
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Thank U.
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So what kinda scam yall running. with these THANK ME LATER closings? I could give a damn,,GOD SEES ALL,,,VENGEANCE IS HIS!! I'm too old to micromanage a grown ass man!
@John Clayton don't give up my brother. I have been through a similar situation with my family and my father sexuality abusing me. Then I attracted women into my life that were narcissist. There is hope my friend. Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Love is the answer. This is something the narcissist will never understand. Sending love to my friend. Don't give up. You have got this and the darkness can be fruitful and a time to find your light.
I closed all social media accounts 5 years ago.
I humbly recommend this to everyone.
Why?
@@RileyElite11 your life will change dummy
Terry Riley same here. Don't miss it a bit!
Good for you!!...i never ever opened a facebook or instagram account....!!my friends look at me like I m an alien...but all I really see is them competing constantly with eachother to who has the best picture....the best family....the best couple...the best holiday!!....instead of really focusing on LIFE....💚
Unless I want a internet job and expose my talents and my work!
I finally walked away after 7 years, and man it has been hard. I’m on Day 3 now. I can’t believe I stayed for so long but now I know.
I’ll take her.
2 months now after 8 yrs stay strong. Been really hard for me.
@@dynomike502 leaning this way. absolutely dying inside. i know i have to get away just havent taken the leap.
Keep on walking, pick Up the pace and never look back, Never.
@@disgamecheats5195 You need to get away, she eventually cheated and moved on, but she still emails me daily, but she wont talk about what happened at all she acts as if it never happened, its a ploy. Its such a hard thing to be in love with a girl like this. Because inside you want to help, but she is an unfillable pit that requires happiness and that is delivered only in being a slave and buying gifts to make her "happy". Its shortly lived. Mine put me 15k into debt and is currently driving around In a lease I've paid for the last year or so. I figured after 8 years we can do something like this. DONOT CO SIGN for anybody on anything!
I am a woman and this video is also helpful to avoid making friendship with narcissist women
"Insecurities are loud, confidence is silent" - The empty can rattles the most.
🖤
well said.
Prob right, maybe thats why that recent former coworker, couldn't quit (every hr atleast) talking crap , takin breaks , and whining about how bad his back hurt, the whole day. All the others who were more trained were silent, and he was just a laborer like me.I never heard that 1
💯💯💯
if the can is empty how will it rattle? An empty can will be silent, and so confident :-)
*_Never make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option_* .
Facts!!
guitawrizt for real I am posting that quote
Profound
Deb- should be part of the 'Golden Rule'.
@@guitawrizt thank Maya Angelou
The fact that you are a female and talk about female narcissism, displays your professionalism and dignity. Thank you for sharing. Narcissism is the biggest problem in our society, although, so many people think that narcissists are only men. another interesting perspective on narcissism, is that the prefrontal cortex in the brain is the newest part of our brains, and in Daniel Amen's book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, he talks about the different functions of each of the varying lobes. The prefrontal cortex is where empathy, introspection, retrospect, tolerance, perseverance, attention span, judgement, and most importantly, self objectivity, reside(as well as traits). In a narcissist, many of these abilities in the prefrontal cortex are seriously lacking. I thinks that we should focus on the lobes abilities to understand these problems, as a narcissist's attention span and judgement are focused on their sense of superiority over others. They lack empathy and are not very tolerant of others, in general. Certainly, conditioning plays a role as we have learned from the breaking of the bond between the mother and the child, spoilage, wealth, and also abuse, but narcissism definitely has many influences. thanks again Stephanie, you have a new subscriber. Now, if we can just clone you. Much appreciated.
The best revenge is to move on and be successful in a new relationship. 100%
Does anyone agree that Facebook/Instagram is a showing off platform,
Also a place where people compare them selves with other’s. I truly believe that this is super unhealthy!
Facebook is misused excessively by certain personalities
Yes Erick Cisneros I definitely agree👍
Erick Cisneros Yes, especially Instagram. It exists for no other reason. Facebook at least has some legitimate social networking uses and allows friends to communicate.
Erick Cisneros There is way more to FB than just this.
Yes I’m Blessed
Yes I know that. It wasn’t created to be that way, I believe it’s an unintended effect. I haven’t been on Facebook for almost 6 months life is better
Insecurities are loud, confidence is silent 👌
trouble is lack of confidence is also silent. actually shy. but most people confuse silence and shyness..
FACTS
The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room...
CrimsonHazmat Wooorrrd
CrimsonHazmat what a perfect line...
I’m so glad someone decided to do something about a female narcissist! I asked myself often if I am one or have traits. Childhood trauma sucks and to heal is hard!
A narcissist cannot be reached. They don't admit fault. Their manipulation is purposeful. If you are seeking truth, you aren't one.
Very true!!! I definitely have traits. I’m unlearning and praying
I agree, I tried to reason, forgive the female narcissist I am with and it was no hope.
I was the victim of a narcassitic female personality for 30 years of my life. It eventually broke down when she assaulted me and thereafter somehow created a story that labelled me as the "abuser". Everyone socially everyone believed her story because she was a girl and played the female victim role well. I eventually became suicidal after 3 years but she never apologized. I'm sharing my story because I want the world to know that men get abused too. And it's not a trivial matter. But nobody ever talks about it. If nobody talks about the abuse of men an entire gender, I think it's not too much to ask women to think about what their negative behaviours might be traumatizing others and to not just laugh it off because it's a guy your doing that to. I now live a life where I have a tough time trusting people. And she still hasn't taken any ownership for her actions while continuously telling me that somehow I should even though it was a one sided assault (I made sure I didnt fight back). Anyways. Oh and the girl was my sister...and everyone thinks shes a gem still to this day even though they know what she has done. That's the world I guess. 40% of women exhibit passive aggressive violent traits while only 5% of men are physically violent yet it's never talked about. Who is the oppressor exactly. Something to think about.
My narcs is firstly my dad , then my sisters and wife and their reletives are enablers and helpers of them. I then was in a 6 year relationship where I stay loyal and loved her but ultimately due to her bpd she cheated on me with a "friend " and during discard she brutally devalued me and insulted me and behaved very rudely.
It frustrates me to no end how my wife gets away with everything shy of murder because she is a woman! It’s a shame the doubles standards!
“Insecurities are loud, confidence is quiet.” That is a brain melter.
The loudest person in the room, is the weakest person in the room.
That is an excellent and profound statement. Every social event will give opportunity to observe both...
Took me 25 years to learn this
Wep not really true
@@TheReal1ThatGuy and what ig you are at the rage against the machine concert?
You just talking shit
My son was married to a female narcissist. What I learned? You don’t deal with them, you eject them from your life.
True. I learned the hard way. I tried so many times to have a relationship with my mom but she keep putting myself down. Talk nasty comments about my son and husband. I said no more. I want a healthy environment for my son and family. Enough is enough
my ex GF tried to turn my family against me and was jealous of trips we had gone on before I met her. every time when our relationship was on the rocks she would go to my other and portray me as a terrible abuser. one time she did this while drunk and had my mother on the phone for 3 hours crying and telling all kinds of lies. then when she finally got off the phone at midnight she decided to cook something and then fell asleep on the couch and the food burned on the stove. so sick of that insane drama all the time!
Yup my sister in law
Try doing that when society is gaslighting you to keep the birthrates up while every lady you meet sees you as a utility and has great contempt for you unless you give into her impulsive whims and demands.
Same. My SIL. But how can you eject them without ejecting your loved one too when they control your loved one??
Yes, this is my second time listing to this and the saying you highlighted about "Insecurities are Loud and Confidence is Silent" was a light bulb moment for me that fills in the blanks. I thank you. Blessings
I dated a woman like that. Saw the red flags and ended the relationship early before it got to the abuse stage (I could see it coming). They see themselves as the centre of the universe, and get really annoyed when other people dont see it like that. Jealous, emotionally needy. She took the breakup very poorly - straight to tears and accusations that I am the bad guy, trying to guilt you into changing your decision. Dodged a bullet there.
I’m about to break up with my fiancé today and I know it’s going to go exactly like this LOL! Wish I could just send a post card and be done with it. Been watching these videos so I don’t feel bad and fall for any more of her stuff, I know she’ll be pulling out all the stops 😅
I spent 10 days with a narcissistic, that was enough for me. Called police to remove her from my flat.She was intimidating and abusive. They don't take responsibility for their actions. Taking time to recover. They are the bad guy. Take care, God bless.
Lucky you
Finally divorcing my wife of 2 years, been together for 7, we have 1 child together. I caught HER cheating with multiple side-boyfriends and she tries to play the victim once I start leaving her. She’s tried to destroy my career, paint me as this terrible person, and ruin me financially. I am so thankful for these videos and this community
This is exactly what my narc ex did to me, multiple side guys, playing the victim including having me wrongfully jailed for domestic abuse, tried to run my finances dry. Once I got out it was like a weight off my shoulders.
Chris H It’s insane behavior. Literally insane behavior.
Joshua Merlin She did you a big favor by hitting you hard and fast. The slow drawn out torture is worse in my opinion.
gross....
Is she good looking?
Pimp her out.
The very worst thing is the projection and gas lighting. Every "discussion" is an exercise in being wrong and being shown how youre the bad guy... So awesome.
Exactly.. spot on!
YES!
Yup
I'm freaked out my ex I loved her a lot!!!!she was I think competing with me instead of being my partner it s plain bazaar.
So fun
You are a beautiful person, and I am NOT talking about your looks, I'm talking about the person you are in your heart.
My idea to write this is to help readers get rid of the resentment and anger that sometimes is held inside against the abuser, even after the relationship has ended. The fact is the moment you move away from a narcissist and begin to work on yourself, you begin to heal. But sometimes resentment, anger, or the need for revenge keeps us connected to the abuser. This holds you back from fully recovering from the abuse and healing. Let go of these associations and be free, Karma will take care of the rest. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to disconnect from your abuser and let yourself heal and have the beautiful future that you deserve.
This Sh¡$ hurts like hell...
My last boss was a narcissist and I put up with his shit for 3 years, then he retired. I still hope that I see in the local news that he died in a car accident or in a bar parking lot. Him winding up eating out of fast-food garbage bins would be OK, too.
@AlbertCarr5025-It does. However, you wouldn’t be commenting here if you haven’t already began moving on/letting go. So, good for you-protect yourself, and accept that you want and can have genuine people in your personal relationships. You just have to find them and it can take time do that. You’ll go through some unsavory people, it can feel lonely at times, but you’ll survive. Quality over quantity. Best wishes.
I want to be able to move on from her so, so, so desperately bad. It's been a month and a day. Our relationship was about 18 months. My life has gone down hill very much so in the past 12 months. I knew before she cheated and I found out and she discarded me that it would almost take miracles for it to work with her. The way it ended seemed to really be scarring me. Why? Cause I was chose over? I'm sure that's a big part. God, I just want to be ok without her. I want to be there right now. I'm scared I will never find the connection that I felt with her, and I am fully aware it was never special to her, nor was I. I'm fucked. I think I'm broken. Help me please.
They always have a horrible story about their ex boyfriend, they’re always the victim at work, she argues and has conflict with her friends, she judges other woman in public, and everything is always about her
This was my ex fiancée
truly exhausting lol
great comment - lived through those exact things with my ex. she had conflict with everyone - workmates, family members, friends and of course with me. always she was the innocent victim. everywhere we went she would have a judgement about how people looked or dressed.
@@RedroomStudios I think we were seeing the same woman. Wouldn't surprise me...she was banging everybody behind my back.
My sister in law lol always the victim always quits her job because she’s always being persecuted my poor brother has to be at her beck and call and she spent his whole inheritance 😭
Never compliment, never show appreciation, never show warmth emotion,-‘ always jabs you even when doing something good, always picking arguements over no reason
You have described my life to the letter.....
That's my wife total devil . Call me a cunt infront of my children? I never got guys to Hoover the car when I took it the car wash. Why.
Yeah I agree except she acted literally like an angel at first lol. You don't know until you know. Then you end up here hahahaha
That was my ex best friend.. she was just like that.. WOW!!!
I have felt so alone in this...But seeing these comments I know it’s not just in my head and I’m not alone in it. An example, “I would never have a child with you” (even though we have one already)...then after watching the Christmas lights with our Son we stop to get a snack at a drive through. She says “Ok, so I’ve been taking prenatal vitamins and they are almost out, should I just finish them and that’s it, or get more?”...I looked at her with complete shock at what she just said and asked her “what do you think?”. She got really angry about that and made sure to let me know I was such a horrible person for responding like that. Just something that came to mind first...but there are a million instances like that. Including her telling me we need to keep our personal life to ourselves...and then I find out randomly from others that she has talked at length with with people and made me look like garbage. I came to a point where I completely lost myself. She had completely stripped away any self worth...really anything. Everything with these people is so cunning and calculated...it’s hard to believe how well they spin their web.
Great video. I was married to a BPD woman from 1988-2000. 10 years of pastoral counseling was worthless. Now, after 23 years of blessed silence, she emailed me begging for money! Unbelievable. When I said NO, I don't care what happens to you, she began bombarding me with emails calling ME a narcissist. Her husband even got into the act. I blocked them both. You are doing a wonderful service for those of us who have been victimized by these psychopaths. They have convinced everyone else that they are righteous victims and we are the abusers, when in fact it's the exact opposite.
Thank you! I really needed this. I needed this for myself especially. I grew up with a narcissistic mother and grandmother. Most of my family is cultivated with them because of this, and I’m trying to heal these traits within myself. So thank you so much for helping me gain awareness and clarity into where I’m falling short.
just found out i might have traces of that as well
I am so mad at myself by being caught up with a female narc. I lost so much of my life.
I know the feeling ..
Me too
A decade here! Chin up bro's
ghinso1967 ya me too . Then I thought I was stronger , smarter and let her reel me in again! Hope I’m really smarter now!
Completely understand. 2 years of hell and another 4 years of not even considering another relationship. Ironically, she has a CZcams channel dedicated to dealing with a narcissist and is now scamming others.
I noticed that narcists are not into self-improvement. I see self-improvement as a healthy sign to a healthy relationship. I am always learning and growing. I enjoy learning and growing. Great video.
Unapologetic and no accountability for there actions and situations..trust me trying to show her was like pulling teeth
John Behneman Great Point!!
I totally agree! They enjoy asking for advice but never seem to ever do anything with it...
That's a really good eye opener thank you for that.
This is so very true. I myself am into self-improvement (which led me to this video) and my ex (narc) would never so much as pick up a book or make any real effort to improve herself.
My wife talks negative about so many things and people. She has alot of anger toward her ex, daughter, parents and co-workers. I listen to her each day about one of the above. I don't say anything but just listen because when I input she says I'm wrong. She is very suspicious of everything. She has accused me of being a cheat so often from with co workers to neighbors, to even people I've never even seen like a woman walking outside somewhere near home smoking. When we argue she says I'm the narcissist. She does everything I do nothing. I work alot of hours specially in winter as a propane driver. But I try to always help with dishes, trash, etc.... but she in anger says I do nothing. I'm frustrated, depressed, and confused. I do love her though but geez.
Yes we men deal with this also. Just went through a two year relationship with it. Lies, betrayal, flirtatious behaviors, flying monkey's, social media flirting with many men in the waiting. I've been accused of doing the same while I've been loyal and faithful even during the many seperations...a living nightmare!
2 yr relationship I just left in October and this exactly what I went through she even threatened to harm herself in December because I didn't want to be her no more
@@mgsdmagnum3309 same thing here... threatened to harm herself...they have a bag full of tricks they use to manipulate good hearted people
Same here guys, 2 years of an absolute nightmare. I lost myself. It's been 2 months since the last and final breakup and I am on medication and still struggling...
@@niyuki87 your going to struggle. That's ok and normal!!! stay strong. And trust when I say that there are great beautiful people out here that will treat you right and make you forget about the monster. If you don't sever those ties now, the thing will ruin your entire life! imagine looking back when we get really old having not cut those ties with a narcassist!. What a very sad way to grow old and miss out on the love of our life! Think about that....never meeting "the one" because of some POS narcissist. They can't change!
@@michaelreed9805 Thank you Michael. Right now I don't believe in love anymore, or marriage... It's awful.
I will get better in time but I am not sure I will open the door ever again, the damage I've endured it will make it hard to trust again...
I'm in a situation where I truly believe that narcissism RUNS IN FAMILIES.
I looked for help by talking with my girlfriend's mother but she showed the EXACT same signs as her daughter.
Of course it runs in families! That's where narcissists are made!
I had a similar experience!
Richard Lepri yea I know how that is I’m dealing with the same thing with my husband n his mother
it usually does! my mother is narcisstic and my brother is worse than her.
Yes, it ruined Me, I was a tool for years, there way or no way, I was the blunt of there comments for 25 plus years.
I have ptsd and just realized I was in relationship with a narcissistic woman. And she blamed me for her flirting, texting and talking to other men. Her favorite quote was “you better love me or someone else will.”
No matter how much of a man you are, a narc woman will destroy it. Or try.
Wtf... I thought I was crazy that happened to me before my ex said the same thing to me
I got the "you better pay attention to me or you'll regret it one day when I leave you, and I'm not coming back."
rvz77 I still don’t understand the logic behind it
@@jamessimpson5636 a narc womans identity is incredibly fractured. And she refused to face her flaws.
So she wants attention, adoration to feel WORTHY.
She wants to feed off the attention you give her.
That's all she cares about you...what YOU can do for HER.
A full, solid person who loves themselves doesnt need others adoration, or attention to feel good about themselves.
They enter rltnshps to SHARE the love they have within. There is no need for a happy person to TAKE.
But to GIVE AND SHARE.
Find a person who is happy on their own and who is content and doesnt need your adoration to achieve happiness or self worth.
Thank you for this. I was feeling like I was the only one dealing with a woman like this. My god this has been a journey. It damages a person's 'own' self esteem: being in a relationship with this type of emotional abuse. Thank you.
You got this brother, keep your head up.
People recover from depression cause by this abuse when they remember to keep the narc out of they’re life, just remember to stay away and focus on yourself :)❤️ I’m feeling much more like my old self already and the world feels like a much safer place! 😅
Same here..
The quiet covert is what I'm dealing with. She knows the exact buttons to get me to blow up and then when I do, she does one of these things( even after being caught red handed), completely shuts me out/stonewalls me and stares endlessly into her phone and acts like I nor my emotions do not exist. I can literally feel her satisfaction of my hurt and anger. Eating it up, feeding off of it. 2, she will bring up something completely stupid and irrelevant from 3 years ago and argue me in circles without ever taking responsibility for what she's actually doing.3. idk how it's possible but in the end I somehow feel like I did or am doing something wrong. The worst part is the how she flat out refuses any wrong doing and can sit there so care free while I emotional and mentally break down and feel insane as to how she can not understand anything I'm saying or even shi an ounce of empathy. It drives me absolutely insane because I actually love her but I am disgusted by her at the same time because I just can't understand how anyone can say they love u but the outward actions they have are the complete opposite. She knows what she's doing and pretends she's not doing anything. She'll nanchalantly say things like " I'm not doing anything to u, I'm just sitting here" knowing full well I'm trying to get simple answers or an understanding of the situation. I'm currently in a hotel and I haven't talked to her in a few days. Knowing I have no place to stay, she wants to use my money for a deposit on her new apartment. She has my children which makes this hard. I agreed for them but eve tho she's offering me a place to stay I only want to escape NOW! I check out tomorrow and after hotels and her deposit I'm not left with much. I have a good job but it's under the table which means no paystubs which means it's extremely hard to find an apartment. So I return and protect my space very cautiously or do I risk homelessness for the sake of my sanity? Idk what to do but I feel the need to immediately exit the situation no matter the cost. Her absence alone gives me a certain level of peace and if worst comes to worst I do have a car. I can't practice no contact forever as we have kids but I'm incredibly hurt, frustrated and confused as to why I still want her and how I can possibly feel like IM the problem when I'm clearly not. Most times when I'm with her I feel like I'm insane or something must be wrong with me because she's just so care free about everything and is completely detached emotionally
Its Not Us.. its them im also healing.
The way you describe it, it's not you, it's her. Keep calm. Stay in control of yourself. Don't give her control of your money. Talk to people who support you and make a plan to get out, because even if she makes you believe she wants to fight for the relationship, as soon as she feels like she can get something better elsewhere, she might be gone in a moments notice, if she's not already cheating right now. I know the situations you describe. You can get out of it. And you will get better. Don't let yourself be treated like a doormat. Don't fall for her big sad eyes, get out of the rollercoaster. She most probably is a very good actress, better than you might have realized up until now. Don't let her make you believe you are the problem. You're not alone!
Ditto. These days, I wonder if the drama she compelled to share with even happened.
In my past codependent toxic relationship I was dating a professional female narcissist...but then also realized I was a narcissist. I finally woke up and got out of that toxicity and have developed some self awareness from witnessing someone who was worse than me. Who you date is a direct reflection of who you are. So accurate!!
I have some growing up and healing to do..
Peace To you Learner
Needed to see this..
Not in most cases, some times you don't know what your going up against because a Narcissist knows how to hold there composure. Play it out cool, mirror you without you being aware.
Nothing to do with healing....just Snap out of it, & move on, but learn from your mistakes & experience be easy with yourself
The fact that you could even realize that shows that you are definitely on the right path.
"She's a bully." Thank you. I needed this today. I feel validated. 👍
Bully is just the old word for them. Narcissist makes them sound cool. My sister (adult) refers to her screaming public temper tantrums as 'Narcissistic Rage' as if it were a badge of honour.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Sexual bully. Lol
@@iniubongnkanga9390 will that evidence stand in court?
Inflicting pain to 'elevate' them- their ticket to Hell.
4 years ago… you were almost at 22,000 subscribers! That’s crazy! 💕 Now, you’re over 556,000! Amazing! Your content helps! 🥰
I was involved with a narcissistic abuser. I've been watching these videos and you say narcissists take the best care of themselves, then that they don't. I've dealt with narcissistic abuse much of my life and I don't want pity. I want them, the total strangers, and all narcissists to STOP. They've made it look like I'm the narcissist. They're trying to make me kill myself. I started reacting badly to it, being triggered by their lies and projections. I appreciate all of the good advice on how to deal with it. It's easier said than done when you have cptsd from decades of narcissistic abuse.
Crazy level of self entitlement, loves drama, always a competition - so true. Thanks. Oh God, I have lost 10 years of my life
@Druid VW stay strong, good luck
Snap - I lost 10 years as well :(
This sums it up for me. I have 2 kids though and don't see how I can leave them or take them with me. Woman always wins over man in law.
The competition part is the CRAZIEST part!!!
Better than 27 years....
When the narcissist woman throws you under the bus...she MAKES sure the bus driver reverses aswell to make sure you are DEFINATELY MASHED....
Betty Boo's Sister my mother to a 'T'
Baker In the House Ain’t that the truth
yup that wraps it all up. Ready to burn the barn down.
Mashed with made up lies about you. Yep!!!
Well said
Very well thought out. Was broken up with by a partner of just over three months last year who, I thought the reason was that I had inadvertently triggered past trauma she hadn't been completely forthcoming about. However, as a retired counselor mysel, it really messed with my head since there were things that weren't adding up or making sense at all, especially with her reactions and what she did after the breakup, isolating her friends from me by hinting about “emotional abuse”, saying “it got physical”, really hurtful stuff. I fell so hard and so fast for her which I've never done before; I had shared so much of myself and been so vulnerable with her in such a short period of time and could really see a future with this woman.
I got completely stuck in self-blame, was worried that she’d continue pushing people away and continue the cycle of self harm, etc. While working with my own therapist and talking with a friend who has been married for 17 years to a woman with a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, I really got to thinking about it and wrote out the things she had said and direct observations I made about her behaviors, how she interacted with others, etc.
Suddenly it all became clear. She likely had dealt with actual narcissists in past relationships and adopted some of those same traits as protective factors, but in doing so had become a narcissist herself. When reading back everything I wrote down, it painted a very clear picture. I did send her an email with as gentle a language as I could asking her if all those things sounded familiar and if she had run into people like that in her past relationships, so hopefully it will give her some insight and she’ll be able to make that commitment to work on herself.
There’s certainly hope for people with NPD, and I’ve struggled with some of those dark triad traits myself in the past but have protective factors such as a close knit, loving and supportive family, and friends with different educational backgrounds, all of whom will call me out on my own BS when I start going down that road. You have to make that commitment to change though!
Watching this video after a narcissistic abusive attack for the day so that i can repair mentally. These things are like mantra
Covert is the worst, everyone thinks it’s you. Stop fighting , reacting and explaining and it is a whole new world. Gray rock it bro
They'll picture her as a cute caring angel. I know I'm the only one seeing her demonic face, covert narcs tends to have two faces, that caring face to the public and the demonic face behind the closed doors.
yep - she was an actor in public and in front of family so she could always claim to be the nice one and stab me in the back making me out to be an abuser! but she was like living with someone possessed by the devil. mine was on medication for anxiety and she was also an alcoholic. the anxiety medication specifically warned that it should not be taken with alcohol because when she did that the effects would be reversed and she turned into a raging paranoid nut case. thinking back on it now I dont know how I lived through the insane drama for so long (5 years). I wish I had it on film because trying to explain it to family and friends is so hard and they almost cant believe what you are saying.
@@RedroomStudios Gone through a very similar thing recently (though just 1yr). Trying to explain it to people is so hard... I found writing it all down helps or putting screenshots together if this abuse occurred via message. Hope things get better for you.
I grey rocked after she started hoovering me, then she started gaslighting me to hell, it was the most painful guilt trips I've ever felt
Excellent advice. I just ejected from my life this narcissistic creep who was after me. He would even come up to my friends and ask them, 'Where's Lisa?' I told them I was ghosting him, so they wouldn't tell him, and it drove him wacko. I moved so he can't find me.
"And she definitely doesn't want to spend her own money" . Couldn't have said it any better my self
Ray Jones The Narc I know buys everyone all kinds of gifts so everyone likes gifts right?
She found out early, that people can be bought pretty cheaply by her shiny things. When she was young she controlled my little brother with penny candy.
This is mind blowing. I'm awakening I think.
And that's where I started being played a fool. I pleased her using my money. Lucky for me we never went beyond friends.
@@noreenstarck992 I understand completely. This is also my Sister. I have been widowed 4 yrs so I moved close to the town where my divorced older Sister lives, thinking this would be good. Boy, what a mistake. She is a loud mouth bully who insults everyone and says the most mean spirited things to me. I could go on and on but instead I think I will move to another state. I need to be away from her.
"I have my own money." But she'll happily have him spend his on her.
How good it feels to remove toxic people from your life, since they contaminate it.
Your energy is renewed ✨✨
Greetings from Egypt 🇪🇬
This was pretty spot on. Was discarded by my narcissist about 5 months ago and am still recovering. Alot of what you said about insecurity and drama causing was 100 percent spot on. The jealousy thing is interesting in hindsight. I never dealt with anything like it and am in therapy now. I hit rock bottom largely because I had no idea what was going on. I never even knew what a narcissist was until i constantly got called one by her. Do not ignore red flags. Much love to everyone suffering
I have these tendencies from growing up with a single mom who was very much like this. I would not say I'm a Narcissist but i know i have low self esteem with deep wounds. Not looking to date until I fix myself. Thanks for the insight.
Alexandra Johnson I wish you the best. You are going to be alright! Keep working on you- it’s worth it.... you’re worth it!
You can't fix yourself! Call upon the Lord Jesus Christ! Believe in Jesus Christ and you shall have everlasting life! Neither is there salvation in any other! Get a king james bible and believe.
Read Matthew.
Read 1 John chapter 4.
Alexandra Johnson respects and credit to you. I’ll pray for you that you better your life in all aspects. Nothing wrong admitting your faults if you’re willing to work on yourself honestly.
What's laughable is after thousands of years of pagan atheist FAILURES, people still want to believe earth created itself! Yes only God can help You! When you are about to leave earth, you won't be calling on "darwin" or "muhammad" or "buddha", they can't help You! There's only One NAME on the face of this earth that can keep you out of hell and it's Jesus Christ! Neither is there salvation in any other!
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She wants to be worshipped and she wants you to feel like you aren't worthy of such worship. She is fueled by your lust and doesn't want you to feel what it is like to be lusted after by another person - that's part of her sense of feeling like your object of worship. If you worship her, she certainly isn't going to worship you. Gods don't worship each other. One is a god (or a goddess) and the other is a subject. Don't be her subject. If there isn't mutual lust and desire, leave her.
Aggravated and she is drowning when her main victim distance him self from her need for refuel of false worship.
Bro, any relationship you get in out of lust is bound to be taken away from you because it's idolatry for the simple fact you're putting it before the ONE & ONLY living God...
The spiritual types behind this are Jezabel, Delilah, Lilith, Ahab, and the like. All required worship.
I'm learning it takes a lot more than lust and desire for a real good relationship. If you know yours and your partners "Love Language", that is half the battle.
Thank you man you keep taking me out of situations
Do you think that the female narcissist who was shown unconditional love and forgiveness when they made a mistake; and yet also given constructive criticism on how to avoid making the mistake again...then resents the criticism, rebels and feels entitled/enabled to then be able get away with future mistakes without consequences?
I went through this recently and they resented anything I said and only said sorry. Best thing I can tell you is don't be with a woman unless she can be accountable and admit when she is wrong. Best of luck to you Scott
My narcissistic gf lied to me. Turns out she and her ex were still together and lives in her apartment. Right after I broke it off she starts sleeping with our new coworker who has a gf. Basically she has a bf at work and a bf at home. Now she’s calling me, blaming me that the whole office knows what she’s doing when all I did is take a week off trying to heal…
Geez. I just got out of a relationship with a woman who matched this video. I was only with her for a year and a half and I feel like I wasted my life. Some of you guys were with them for years or even decades. I’m so sorry for all of you guys’ pain.
Thanks. I put in 23 years. My life is fucked.
@@ACEDIAMOND666 you can rebuild and you deserve to be happy
@@ACEDIAMOND666 wow 23 years i did 18years and shes now still trying to get family and friends to get to me
Don't look at it as a waste. You will be able to spot the next one that comes along. Use every experience to make yourself a better person.
Don't you kings fucking dare say your life is fucked. Yes, you lost time, but you will come back even stronger!
I noticed you have a video on how to get revenge on a narcissist. I haven't watched it, but in my own opinion the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to accept the fact they're their own worst enemy and that they will never be happy. They will ruin every good thing they have and leave a trail of destruction behind, but will never be satisfied.
The idea is literally to DESTROY THE NARCISSIST before he destroys somebody else. You DO THIS using the same tactics he uses to 'gaslight' with (except that we're not gaslighting but telling the truth, although the narcissist will ALWAYS condemn you for 'ad hominem' attacks, conveniently oblivious to the fact that it is the narcissist who always relies on character assassination). And I discovered that the only thing that was preventing me from speaking 'truth to narcissism'... was my OWN egoic need to be different from the narcissist (but I DO have a confident, aggressive and feisty side).
I actually think the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to let them keep being a narcissist. For example my dad abandoned us for hookers and meth, so my revenge on him was letting him live a life of hookers and meth. Like what they are doing comes with its own revenge. My revenge on my ex is also just letting him be him. No girl unless she’s extremely insecure, manipulative, and abusive, will stay with him and he’ll never have a deep meaningful connection with someone because he doesn’t do that. It’s like the narcissism is their own revenge and if they stop it then they’ll be happy but also they’ll deserve to be happy cause they stopped it. It’s karma basically. Whatever they are doing they are doing to themselves to the equivlent. Just don’t reward their behaviour by giving them attention, even if it’s negetive attention. Cause “please don’t do this to me, I need you” is a stroke to their ego and motivates them to do it more for more of your approval. Just leave them and go be happy without them, that’s the revenge. The revenge is to let them be destructive and not let it affect you or bond to that.
+Elicia Garcia Appreciate everything you just said, but narcissists can be 'worn down'. The results are unpredictable (e.g.: they might KILL you), but they're actually very easy to 'defeat' as they're extremely predictable.
Drummers Eve I totally agree mate.. my ex wife has destroyed my relationship with my children and I said and done nothing but she mad my kids stop seeing me even bribing my daughter with a little pug big if she stops waning to see me.. she will get it all back someday from the kids.
Gareth Mason I wish there was an easy way help children being raised by Ns as the kids will experience abuse and continue cycle. Kids will go through the same sick abuse and never being taken care of. Not given a choice, they and become either a narcissist like the mom or scapegoat (sometimes switching roles.) In my case I became a scapegoat and subconsciously tried to make it out getting good grades to go off to college but ultimately formed a stress induced illness that took me out, never being taken to the doctor and even child protective services not doing anything. I ran away to a family member who took me to a doctor and temporarily house me. Ended up also being very narcissistic and kicked me out last semester of HS. During this whole time never having anyone tell me I was set up for failure in the hands of these Npeople no matter how hard I try. Took me until mid twenties and an abusive partner to finally stumble upon this information and taking steps to finally take my life back and know who I really am and not this terrible person this Nfamily has painted me out to be.
Thank you so much.
Answers to my last 17 years, 4 kids. Now i know why she cant say anything nice about this time together when asked. All negative and i am to blame, every time.
Thank you again, great info, beautifully presented.
I was broken up with by a woman I believe is a female narcissistic, the hardest thing I feel about trying to say it out loud is that I feel guilty because I understand I'm not perfect and didn't do everything right, but I always communicated that I make mistakes because I'm human, but even after many long conversations the "problems" would resurface less than a week later.
Human beings can be so damn evil. That's why I prefer being alone most of the time.
BrotherTree1 me too
Me to me to one deep 4life
Yes sir. Love yourself and do your own thing.
Sometimes it’s healthier.
Same here
Worst thing that can happen to man, and then she discards you in an instance, then she doesn't give you closure, then she plays the victim when approached. Run for the hills the moment you see this.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
This is exactly what happened to me it's cold blooded shit y'all
This is exactly how I was discarded by my narc ex-gf... So f***ing frustrating!
they have a taste for military men like you wouldn't believe.
@@mysticpizza02 that statement is true through the looking glass as well.
As soon as I feel like someone wants me to be jealous of them my guard goes up and I cease to tell them anything about my goals, accomplishments, etc., especially with female coworkers. Thank you Stephanie for your words of wisdom!
I really needed to see this. I just got out of a 2 year relationship that has completely destroyed my heart, mind, and my sense of self worth.
The worst is... Though I will never go back how I miss the fun we had, I was discarded and like a fool thought there was something worth fighting for, all the time I was played like a flute, literally.
im really sorry man.
literally????😀🖒
They will discard you no matter what man. I owned a house with her, paid all the bills while we were engaged and she was pregnant with my daughter, doing everything for her and providing unconditional love even though I was treated like shit. She discarded me like it was nothing after I went grey rock for a bit, to move into the ghetto lol. They do not give a single flying fuck about anything
Oxalis wife is debating now on breaking up a family. we all go thru it
Sad but these people are heartless. Don't feel bad, God will bless you with a loving woman.
A dynamic personality and attractive appearance can disguise a evil mind.
I just learned this. Broke up with her 3 days ago.
Friend I work with a female narc and what a bitch it's no good arguing because they suddenly become the innocent one!!!
True, love can make you blind. But many aren’t blind, they tolerate it because they “love” their abuser
This is literally what I went through with my narc
That's why one should never judge by superficial appearances.
25 years. I have gone back to day one and see it clearly. I gave my youth. I have nothing left. Gave everything and it was never enough.
Narcissists have a way of making you still want to be with them some how. It’s crazy!
Just got out of a tough relationship with a Narcissist, caught her in a lie and she went ballistic. Thank you for pointing out this information.
oh ya, they hate it when they get caught out! they make you go through hell for that!
Yes, Ns react 1 of 2 ways when you try to hold them accountable. They either go ballistic (like my NMIL), or they ignore you & give you the silent treatment (my former wife did this a lot).
@@RedroomStudios
Haha heard that
@@nopcshere6097 facts im 7-9 days out of a relation with a narc and the both things you said she did and shes on #2 now
Don't try and "tackle the female narcissist". Just run away!!! (As fast as you can your life may depend on it).
23 yrs of her playing the victim
Can you imagine what would happen if female narc meets male narc⛏️☠️💀😳👹👹 I tried to find an exploding bomb but even that wouldn't qualify!!
@@amandapryar4675 is it even possible by because the Nac believes they are The center of the Universe and all things revolve around their epic gravitational pull.
Could you even have 2 centers? It's seems like narcs specialize in Drawing Co-dependants and ematha and rescuers and such (enablers). Also maybe borderlines. If two narcs met each other I'm suspicious they will hate each other with burning passion (how dare a second person claim to be the center of the Universe?). I bet some of the most heated rivalries if all time were two narcs just hating each other.
This is such good information. I can definitely see where there are potential female narcissists in my life. If you are suffering from a narcissist in your life, never give up! Life can and WILL BE beautiful after abuse.
Not all insecure women are narcissistic/ just a reminder!! Bc when people say this about guys it’s not all insecure men… we just have to have discernment and connect more dots
How to deal with this Woman..... YOU DON'T.... YOU RUN
then she'll accuse you of being a coward..
@@primalway1317 right accuse u of abandoning her!🤦♂️
@@Lee-lilo-Noto My ex did this of me and her other exes. However, we need to understand she doesn't deserve us to worry about HER narrative. She is sick and has pushed us all away...Not our fault.
Had to cut my mother off about two years ago. It was painful but once she was out of my life things started turning around. I went back to school and I'm almost finished with degree. I'm thinking about my own life and happiness again. My marriage has also improved. To this day she feels very wronged, and to her I'm just the evil male / worthless son who took her grand kids away from her. She put me through hell for 39 years. I hope she finds happiness someday.
dito for two years to!
Good for you! You have finally learned to set what she most wanted to hide from you....A Healthy Boundary!,, keep hanging on to that Angels Wing,
Writing things down also helps alot , im starting to think that I should send my life story in a +- short form to all the ppl what she and i know. like leaving me behind in the car when i was +-10 years old on holiday while they went to a restaurant/opera, or abouth how she a on my birthdays/Christmas always had to make me feel like a failure! Or abouth how she and dad abuses alcohol. Or abouth the violence story's. But shes a covert narc , ….. I could set me up for disaster and who cares? but i care....that other ppl know. been breaking my head for weeks/months…...pfffff
KundaliniRising Good for you!! I am having to remove my sister from my life. She has bullied me long enough.
Yeah dont hold on for/by fake morals, even if it is youre sister
Thank you. I needed this. I just got out of an emotional abusive relationship. It’s been a roller coaster and hard but I realized I am better without her
A narcissistic colleague of mine one ups me whenever I'm around her. "I have that skirt you're wearing. I've mastered that. I do that too. You look sad or something else" Uses flattery when she feels as if you're going sever the friendship.
Same. Mine buys the exact same outfits I have but used online bc she can’t afford new. She is disgusting
This should be taught in high school. Perhaps even in middle school.
It needs to start in Middle School and continue all the way through High School, to really ingrain that shit into the students.
Yes it does people need to be more and more aware. I didn’t even know that such things existed and even when I started to I didn’t know the name for it. Just proves my ignorance at that time.😔😔
Schools will never provide real life education. Schools are there basically to distract kids from real life.
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Has anyone ever been or claimed to be healed from narcissism? With evidence that supports its a genuine miracle. Cuz it would have to be. I believe there with the Bible calls reprobates and their conscience is seared with a hot iron and they cannot be saved and their mind is defiled and they're always Liars inventors of evil things Covenant Breakers proud boasters lovers of self never admitting wrong taking accountability always worried about clean and unclean Meats it says it all routes back to when they knew God they didn't honor him as God and started worshiping other things so God gave them over to a reprobate mind that they would do those things that were at the very least inconvenient it's a lot harder to be the way they are than it is to just be nice or the person they pretended to be to suck you in. That's what blows my mind because I've been the victim of a few of them on with one now and she did a good job acting I'll tell you that cuz I was trying to be extremely careful looking for the red flags and she put it on for like 4 months and she did a good job there wasn't one slip-up that I noticed that I've got really good discernment. I know I'm not perfect I'm not a narcissist either but at the same time I don't know how I missed it I almost want to blame myself not like punish myself to stay in this I'm currently trying to work out a way to get out of the spider's web if you know what I mean. I moved in with her so I live with her at her place and I'm unemployed right now with no vehicle I sold all my money in a hurry to get it fixed so we could both use it and now she doesn't even let me use it when I need to and I need to make sure I have secure employment with transportation and my own place to leave could actually if I got a vehicle I will get a van or a truck so I could just sleep in that leave immediately and just get back to enjoying being me. I mean I love me and I'm good friends with me myself and I but it's really hard to enjoy being me when I got to walk on eggshells and I'm constantly finding myself caring about someone who doesn't care about me and I know it I'm trying to figure out why they want to be that way even though I know what they are Holding Out for it and they know they are what they are but it's always I know you are but what am I I just don't understand why they even want to be that way cuz it's so much easier to not be that's what it says they do things that are inconvenient. That's a nice way of putting it cuz never found it hard to love God and others as myself or care about someone's well-being or be humble admit when I'm wrong take accountability and really get to know myself and love me and healthy way but it's like she won't even let me love her anymore and you can tell she's going to try to push me away cuz when she was faking it and pretending to love me and pretending to receive my love even though it wasn't the real her she seemed like she enjoyed it and I couldn't tell it was an act so it's absolutely mind-boggling to try to understand why or maybe that is the real her maybe not all narcissists are hopeless that's what I want to believe about her because I've really done my research on this has been around them and I know that that's where she is now maybe it's demon possession that's taking place prior to a person becoming a reprobate like Saul was on his road to Damascus and Jesus said the blind him and knock him on his damn ass cuz he was either going to repent and get saved or become a reprobate that very day I firmly believe it. And when someone's on the road to being one especially if they're really close to that cut off point cuz there's got to be a cut-off Point. Everybody's born that way it's hard to tell if they've already passed it or not and one of the things that really gets me is is there anything going on that is super evil that's like a plot not even just cheating which I don't believe there is but I think sometimes there's a larger agenda to either try and harm me or really just try to ruin me even if it takes her whole life I feel like sometimes she's having conversations with people talkin about their plans for me and it's disguised as other shit and I'm not a paranoid person and I'm not a person that thinks I'm that important that I'm more important than other people or something but I really don't try to just dismiss it with the same time when there's so many times that it just really screams out to me like this is obvious there's no such thing as a coincidence especially when there's too many coincidences and I don't like to stir the pot and I know they won't tell the truth but sometimes I like to just let her know that I'm really distrusting of her and I'm on to her and if there's anything going on it's going to be bad news for her cuz I'm a child of God and she will lose. And it seems like it gets her mad that she knows I know shit that I haven't been told and shouldn't figure out and that I'm right about what I'm saying. But it's not like she's mad because wrongly assuming falsely accusing her or even accusing me of making shit up that's crazy sometimes she just gets real quiet when I say shit to her that I feel is going on and I know if someone said that to me and I wasn't doing it I would not only be hurt that they thought that but I would wonder how they came to that conclusion I would want to make sure that not only did they know I love him with my actions every David make sure there's nothing wrong with them like paranoid schizophrenia but that's the thing I'm really observant and I have a sound mind and a good conscience towards god with a humble attitude when I say I have a lot of wisdom and I'm not stupid I'm not somebody that likes to be abused either but it's just so weird that she's quiet room even if she wanted to lie it would be so much better for her case if she just acted like it didn't bother or pretended it pissed her off that I was believing a lie but she sometimes just shuts down when I say shit that when I say it I wanted to not be true but it's so fucking obvious in I feel like it's so evil what's going on that I got to put it out there cuz I don't want it to be true but if it is I want to let them know that look all this shit that you're doing to try to gas me up so you can like me is just going to burn you cuz if it is what I think it is it's not just her it's a whole new group of people and they all work together I really feel like it's a koven and they're taking orders from and they're taking orders from probably Satan himself I also feel that's one of the reasons she changed I don't know where maybe she figured this would all have been over with and she got fed up with she's having to wait longer day get paid or get her reward will get out of the situation and go do what she wants or get on to the next victim but it's really obvious that something's going on. It's made me want to go out see other women to be honest. We're not married on government paper or any of that we believe in biblical marriage or at least I did and she lied about it but I still live here we sleep in separate rooms it's been about four months since we've been slow dancing in a burning room and I've been walking on eggshells and we haven't been intimate in all the last time we were it seemed like for that month it was a different person and she needed a good job of Faking enjoying a lot of shit including sex and love and all that stuff and then she acts like she did tests it now like she detest holding my hand when she used to be so affectionate I don't know but I don't want to overthink it and I don't want to assume shit that's not true I just know I have the discernment and I'm on to something but if they think they can take me down in any way they got another thing coming cuz Papa Jesus Got a Brand New Bag... of old tricks that are refined better than ever remember Elijah was calling fire down on them from heaven after he was calling them out publicly telling everyone why. Hates them and they would get hit with fire from heaven I mean could you imagine it and that's what all the narcissists are there reprobates reppy's I call him LOL
I have a degree in Forensic Psychology and a Master's degree in Psychology, and your description of a Narcissistic personality is on point!
Education is Freedom
You are a bad ass! I hope to get my masters one day.
I was raised by an EXTREMELY narcissistic father ( I also had a brother & sister ) dad was a very successful business owner/operator who was a totally different person in his professional life. Mom always tried to keep the peace and console us after all of the derogatory name calling, verbal assaults, hollering and screaming that was directed at us constantly as we were growing up. Mom was raised to "keep your family together at all costs" so she never left him and always made excuses for him.
Now I am 54 YO and just learning what narcissism is and wish so badly Mom would have gotten us out of that house. Us 3 siblings all have extreme social anxiety ( I have also just learned what that is) --- mom always told us "y'all are just shy".
I also now realize that all the girls I have dated in my life were narcissistic just like dad --- as well as my wife of 25 years. I was seeking out narcissistic partners for some bizarre reason.
A few years back I figured out my wife was having an affair with my "best friend" (which was also her "best friends husband) and of course it was all my fault (and her friends fault). I have stayed in the marriage for the purpose of getting my daughter thru nursing school with no student debt but when she is finished I am out. This affair has led me to counseling and to open up to someone about all the feelings of inadequacy I have always had deep inside my head that I couldn't discuss with anyone.
Now that I understand this type life/relationship is NOT NORMAL I regret raising my kids in the same type environment I was raised in (except with a female narcissistic parent). Unfortunately both of my kids refuse to go get counseling but I realize now they both exhibit same symptoms of myself and my siblings.
Thanks so much for your videos as they help continue my education in how to recover my emotional health from a lifetime of narcissistic domination in my life.
Jack Wagon great insight i have had similar things happen 2 me.
You’re describing my oldest sister. I’ve known she is narcissistic for several years but it’s just interesting to hear this anyway. One reason I got off FB was I was tired of the constant selfies and “look at the trip we just took” photos. She’s never once asked me how I’m doing! Never once, not even after I lost my child to cancer.
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your child Stephanie, a time when you could most use the support of a sibling. My younger sister was the first one to label our father a narcissist, yet years later she is now one herself. She never asks me how I am and has recently been triangulating with our father to make him disown me. She was a good person until about 15 years ago when her personality began to change. Not even the loss of our mother and other sister changed her ways. She seems to be getting worse with age. Never believed she would become this way but I no longer trust her 😔
@@gillianm9367 Thank you for your kind words. I’m sorry to hear about your sister and father, I know it’s painful! 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending a cyber hug. (())
Very sorry to read your story. Sending you much love and hugs, strength and courage. May your child Rest in Peace.
I am recently going through a divorce with a narcissist. I am so lost. She was dating someone 3 days before we decided to file for divorce. I was living with her. She told me she didn’t even love him or was he a good lover ( he was 3 ex boyfriends before we dated) but that she would learn to love him and he didn’t have kids that I brought into the relationship and that it would be easier for ( they broke up like 4 times when they dated according to her. She also caught him cheating on her. But he’s the one she went to. This is all over night because I stood up for my daughter because she told me she hated her and told me to choose. She said the final straw was me taking my own child on vacation when she didn’t deserve to go (my 14yo daughter) this is so wild. Many things I am now seeing because of these videos. I honestly thought it was all me. Currently heartbroken but I hope to get over it soon 05/04/23
This is my mom. I have finally cut ties with her after 15 years of trying to have a mother / daughter relationship... I don't want it in my life and I'm better without it.. Thank you for this video it validates everything..
I can totally relate, i am better without my mom, shes the one that has hurt me the most
Same here. I'm 56 and my mother is 85.she has ruined my life and the lives of others for decades.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later
Same here. Forteen years ago I walked away from both parents and haven't looked back. The weather and pets were the only topic one could talk about with them. Anything else meant dealing with the truth which they refused to allow to happen. Reality was not allowed to be present. Wise people know healing never happens without the reality of truth. Best decision I have ever made. My sister chose my parents route in life, so she got the boot too.
I found my Dad and omg we were so much alike we connected off the back he told me everything he went through with my mom when I was a child and why he left. I saw him last at age 5 and I'm 32 now, but everything he said about her I experienced. She's a narcissist at best, kept me away from my dad and told me lies about him.
It was the worst year of my life emotionally. No matter what I did, she would find a way to start a fight. Then, when I would try to adapt to her wants she would still find ways to fight. Tear me down, minimize my love, minimize my worth. Finally I just couldn't do it anymore. I realized it was her not me.
Often times they start fights so they can go out and cheat. If she was doing this everyday that's probably the reason.
My recent ex did exactly this. She'd fight and say I wronged her over ANYTHING.
@@timg6176 100% man. I guarantee she was
@@mattblom3990 I feel your pain. It was awful. Can't believe I even tolerated it that long
yep - nothing is ever good enough for them. love to fight over the slightest thing, even if that thing never happened but they imagined it! no way you can ever win that argument when the other person is arguing based on a delusion!
Thanks for speaking about the fact there are female Narcisse as well I just end my relationship with one it was exactly like you say. In the beginning she was sweet, caring maybe to good to be true and she was suddenly when I was so in love with her she changed completely and the mental abuse started. I felt like I needed to save her but she didn't want to be saved she wanted to bring me down from then on it still took 2 years to get out of that relationship and she still try to bring me down but I'm awake now because I took distance from her and the storm is much clearer from a distance. Now I am healing and start to live again. Thank you and keep doing what you do because you help a lot of people this way. Bless you
Never even knew what a narcissist was. She was and did everything you talked about. She dumped me after 3 years, and didn’t even give me a chance. Wow!
My faith in God and dry humor helped deflect all the incoming drama, half truths, negative vibes and court orders...I am thankful to know my Shepard when the wolf comes around!
Amen.
Amen Brother!🙏
I set up boundaries w/a A narcissist friend
James C. Breckenridge where is god?
@@donotaylor5307 Right in front of you...
See him?
There next to the Easter bunny, behind Santa, sitting with the tooth fairy.
You just need to open your eyes.
if you want to know a woman remove lust and have long conversation with her.
💙 i love this comment
@@-_oOtianaOo_- 👍
Danny Adames right. If you’re feeling insecure about a woman’s beauty when talking to her, say to her what you would say to one of your most stupid or most humble friends when replying to her. This quickly breaks the ice.
I was trying to rap to someone else who was also hot who seemed to respond favorably but I couldn't: all that slap-ass had my mind in prison, I felt like I was taken so shouldn't when there was really nothing wrong with it, we weren't hitched yet. As a result of how it all turned-out I don't rap no more, at all; let someone else lose a fortune over it.
@Distilled PUA never thought of a man as his status. I can do things and handle my own very well.. I enjoy a man that has a good sense of humor. that's better than anything!! 😊
So proud of you for covering the FEMALE NARCISSIST! It's sad that if you are on social media you would think that ONLY MEN are narcissistic. Having survived a Female Narcissist for too many years, I can't thank you enough for this video. She still finds ways to criticize me even though we are divorced. It's wild. But also very sad, because she is just the product of an abusive narcissistic mother.
My friend called me a narcissist because I expressed concern over her neglecting her cat. It led to me pulling back and telling her I was taking a break for a few months because she swears at me and is very aggressive and I am exhausted from not feeling like I can speak up. She went nuts and started doubling down on her comments because she is angry I am not engaging right now and took a break.
I have to end our 'friendship.' She says my pulling back is disrespecting her boundaries because I am "overreacting." She throws terms around. I am tired of walking on eggshells. :/ it's tough. Hang in there.
Hi Stephanie, I live in Hermanus South Africa, thank you for what you are doing, I don't think people know what a nightmare this has been. I was divorced in 2016, since then i have been accused of assault, was rescinded, subsequently lost my bossiness, was on my way back to Saudi Arabia when Covid struck and all went belly up. Thank heavens for good friends, I got a small dental studio together again and getting back on my feet. The worst of the scenario is that she took my children three years ago, been through all the Family advocate proceedings and children's court, all the recommendations have been reintegration, but I'm sure you know that she and her carbon copy, mother who has moved provinces to come and help take control.
I haven't seen or really spoken to my kids in three years, was my boy's birthday last week and I just want to thank you for your efforts. You certainly helped open my eyes a great deal.
Tertius Theron
Experienced players make the best narcissists. They know exactly how to hide all of the tell tale signs. Its disgusting, but my advice is never hold hatred in your heart for them. Find the strength to walk away in gratitude for the lessons in humility and self worth they provide.
OMG, ur true. A great empath.
J T good advice because it is certainly easy to hold resentment. I’ve told myself to let it go. I know there are parts of me still bitter.
well said... dont reciprocate the hate.. it does nothing butt justify why they do what they do to begin with.. and literally in a way makes u become what u hated them for... xb
believe it or not there are ways people can actually help these kinds of people... will it be easy no... but most people are quick to simple hate/despise back.. cause its the easiest thing to do..
it reminds me of spoiled women... hating and thrashing them does not solve anything...
there are ways to help women like that... butt rather then do that.. lots of people they simple insults and hope they meet a miserable life ...
it usually take a person or a multitude of people to create narcissistic or spoiled behavior in others.. so in reality narcissists and spoiled people are technically victims who then go on to victimize others.. who in return want some sort of revenge... xb which then begets more hate.. etc etc... its a cycle...
the key is to not reward bad behavior.. as well as not mocking or insulting bad behaviors... and instead encourage good behavior.. and then reward that.. and not apologizing for everything thing... in terms of dealing with spoiled behavior in kids and adults.. this is how psychology says to handle that behavior...
the issue is now.. men are either still spoiling women till no end.. or now walking away thus the problem still goes unanswered... both solutions are literally carrying out actions that psychology says NOT TO DO WITH SPOILED BEHAVIOR...
women today are victims of systematic ass kissing by men.... now women are ungrateful.. spoiled... self entailed.. narcs...
u cant blame the effects without blaming the cause...
now men are paying the price for raising their women this way... and now men are angry.. yet they still dont get it..
they are now doing the opposite extreme of spoiling.. they are ignoring it.. then insulting it at every chance they get...
if men didnt expect the current result of what spoiling women does.. then how can groups like MGTOW be so sure that ignoring it wont have the same negative effect by in the opposite direction.
this is a human issue.... if ur on team women ur a problem... if u on team men ur a problem... we should be on team HUMAN...
im grateful for the men that dont run away and acknowledge the part men played in shaping women.. thus now understand how to help and encourage women to regain integrity.. cause it takes integrity to create it...
men still kissing womens butts.. lack it... men who walk away.. lack it.. women who are a result of the fomer lack it.. which then creates the later who walk away which again also lack it...
all this shit is so interconnected... a cause and effect of another effect of a cause.. lmao
@@InanisNihil interesting response. So what is the answer to the problem? How we as men can do better?
@@thebitcher01 well science has the answer.. psychology approved.. the but question is.. do you have the will power to do it or are u just gonna "go the other away?" cause thats the easiest thing to do in my opinion... to walk away from a serious issue...
also yes.. lifes not fair... so i believe its on the mens shoulders to bare it.. as they are in a better position to do so..
so in terms of not creating more spoiled women as well as fixing it... attempting to fix it.. the "right" way...
men can stop apologizing for disappointments of women... its also extremely beneficial to empathize with disappointments without having to apologizing.. it shows u care for their feelings... as its important to validate peoples feelings... its shows u understand and care but doesn't mean u approve of it.. humans simply do not listen to others if they feel attacked.. they instead get defensive... u should know this well.. this is how all debates often go.. both sides tryna make the other side look bad.. regardless of who's right or wrong.. feelings are completely ignored..xb
and dont make excuses for them.. let her know what u will and will not tolerate.. this by no means means u have to be and asshole about it... u can do all those things in a respectful way... men could be more assertive... as well as not get into arguments.. the fact that ur getting into arrangement with a SPOILED person clearly shows ur not helping nor know what your doing... just making it worse.. really think about that... what do u achieve by arguing with some spoiled person.. their fking spoiled for crying out loud.. just make it clear u dont agree and leave it at that... arguing more often then not is just a waste of every ones time..
acknowledge their feelings but stress they need to take responsibility for their own feelings... that ur not to blame for their feelings if u actually arent... if they start to act out.. dont thrash them.. just create space.. if u do thrash them u get that waste of time argument.. right.? so it dont help...
also can ENCOURAGE good behavior... lets be real.. everyone likes to get rewarded... especially if u earned and or deserved it.. can we agree on this at least...
we need men of integrity to help encourage integrity in women... u cant beat it into them.. u cant scream it into them.. u cant walk off expecting them to get it either later.. in fact all those thing themselves are signs the man has no integrity himself.. and its actually what psychology says we shouldnt do when dealing with spoiled adults...
so many men rant on about "putting women back into their place" WRONG.. thats not gonna work... thats patronizing...which ill get too..
ALL OF THIS HAS TO.... HAS TO.. BE DONE IN A RESPECTFUL WAY...
the second u get aggressive or hostile.. making them feel like they are being attacked... the conversation is over.. they are gonna be on the defensive.. NEGATIVE criticism are cancer when dealing with spoiled people.. men or women...
YOU NEED TO BE CONSTRUCTIVE in ur criticisms.. discourage and encourage certain behaviors... thats what u do if u really want to help and solve the problem...
now i know you may be thinking.. thats just to much effort.. especially if u do it and the women still ends up stepping on you..
well think of the now spoiled behavior of women.. it didnt just happen over night.. it was a constant and continual way men interacted with women that eventually lead to it.. it happened over time.. so its gonna take time to help it as well..
and lets not forget patronizing.. probably the worst thing a adult human can do social interaction wise with another adult human...
when u treat someone lesser then you.. or inferior.. conversation over...!!! and it can create deep negative views toward the patronizer..
example of patronizing in my life...
im 4'11 and 89lbs.. i worked retail and use to volunteer to help unload the trucks sometimes.. clearly i was not as strong as the guys(i didn ask to be psychically weaker).. and a little slower at it... but i still finished on time... butt lot of the guys gave me shit.. talking about im useless and slow and how i shouldn't be back here doing mans work.. like really... i volunteered cause they were behind schedule and short handed... here is a case of when a women attempts and tries to help yet gets belittle and treated inferior... like i knew i couldn't keep up but i just wanted to help and got thrashed for it.. u can see how things like this could be justification to start disliking men.. and im no stranger to extremes. .. like men telling me i should be rape and learn my place cause of an opinion... xb but i have enough integrity to not generalize all men based of the guys like this.. butt its hard not to.. not gonna lie.. i dont like femnazi butt my impressions on being "raped" are less then under the wing of the extremist men.. all this back and forth hostility is just driving a bigger wedge between men and women...
i myself was a spoiled little ungrateful shit... but my bf of tens year now... who has lots of respect for all humans... was well aware of my behavior and he accepted it.. he didn't blame me for it or treat me like i was a evil shit... he understood the possibilities of why i was the way i was.. and basically did all the above... he could have thrashed and insulted me.. or walked the other away... and id probably still be a little shit right now... am i perfect now.. no.. butt im way better then i was before... and its all cause a single man out of all the men i came across lacked disdain for others.. hes just a very scientifically minded person.. that there is a reason for why people are the way they are.. and to solve it.. or have the best chance at solving it.. is to understand it.. then go from there in a constructive and encouraging way..
id say he is more reasonable then me.. more reasonable then most men in fact.. like i still get my spoiled tendency every now and then.. i yell and vent.. he lets me get it all out of my chest.. then we sit down and talk about.. and it works cause right or wrong.. he does not deny my feelings... these tendency i have that slip out sometime.. he still encourages me in the right direction....
so for me.. thats the answer.. short and long term.. butt its an answer most will refuse.. xb
She literally just described my old roommate. The sad part is I thought I was the problem, but the reality is she is a deeply insecure person that gets off on making people feel bad about themselves.
Gynocentrism
Yup. They are TOXIC.
You can smell the negativity reeking out of them. They will try hard to cover their stench with all sorts of happy-vappy self-boosting self-care preachings, but sooner or later their sh!tty insecurities will pour out of their mouth like dengue vomit.
Stay away to avoid the contamination.
@@reginaldkingii6057 The lack of accountability leads the ladies to believe it could not be them but sadly A-W-A-L-T. They are wired differently. Took me many years to wrap my head around what used to be common sense.
Me too
She just explained my ex wife 100%. I'm glad I woke up and left. Now I actually get to reward myself for my hard work. Never been happier.
Insecurities are loud and confidence is silent, looooobe it.
I've been in a relationship with a narcissistic woman and it's true. It's incredibly tough to walk away but focus on loving yourself and working on yourself and you can do it. Do it now and find the support to go through. The longer you stay the harder it is to leave.
Absolutely 💯💯!! Stay strong!!💪💪
al so xd
Why even bother with a counselor? Just tell her that you are going down to the corner to get a pack of cigarettes. Then, never come back. Leave no forwarding address.
Big Fan
Edward Norton that is what my dad did when I was 10.....LOL..I'm ok with it. Now that I am older I know why and it wasn't ME)))))
kim peridore that’s the problem with this scenario. Dad’s destroy kids when they do this until they become adults.
Edward Norton AMEN.
Lol Edward
Hit the nail right on the head, my first ever girlfriend is a narcissistic I found out on September 19. She always thinking about herself & all other traits fall right in line. She basically used me but in return, everything worked out for me and she was going through alot this year in 2022. I was bless with alot of great things this year but not her unfortunately. But people like this sometimes can't change but we can only pray for them
Thank you Stephanie! You have helped me understand a particular person in my life and her narcissistic behavior. Giving what she has done and continues to do now has a name and I know how to deal with her. I have my life back! Thank you for your informative videos!
She only wants all the goods of a beautiful relationship. No responsibility. No effort . They don't invite you into their lives but wants you to invite her to everything it's either her way or no other way . You try leave she'll reel you back in and start again
yep, been through that cycle 5 times in 5 years! well actually way more than 5 times but that was how many times she moved her furniture in and out of my house.
@@RedroomStudios close that chapter for good bro! Run fast!!
My ex wife. It's all finally over and I couldn't be happier.
Bbbrrruuuhhh, I'm going through this RIGHT NOW.
@@adamstampley7207 I went thru it last summer
DAMN!!! This is SO spot on. If you have ever been in love with a female narcissist this lady describes her perfectly. It's so sad too. They manipulate you so much to love them. Then they turn into the biggest monster.
Going through it right now, not sure if she's a full blown narcissist, but definitely ticks some of the boxes.
Who a person is BEHIND CLOSED DOORS while ALONE is what REALLY counts ALL of the time.
Preach . The perfect and elegant equation .
Might even get it tatooed on my forhead .
For real .
x
This video has given me HUGE insight and is SPOT ON with the woman of 7 years that I just separated from. My Lord I am exhausted and heartbroken.
They mask their jealousy, envy, and low sense of self with a "grandiose image"!
Absolutely correct, trust your friends advice too, they can see it from the start, whilst you get wrapped up in her.
And they love bad boys with lots of money because they 'see through the facade' (actually, they just think all women are trash and enjoy watching them try but to a female narcissist the qualities of 'their man' plays into their grandiose image of themselves so they deceive themselves into thinking he knows their innermost desires even though he's really just playing along with whatever she says and having fun degrading her and bragging to his buddies about how stupid she is).
I've watched a few videos/blogs regarding a narcissistic partner and how to deal with them....get revenge, walk away etc.
As a man who's experienced a narcissistic on/off relationship for nearly 4 years, this advice has been invaluable.
The first time I've ever heard mentioned the word 'Bully!'
Bully exactly fits a female narcissistic partner to her core.
Throughout, I've experienced extreme excessive behaviour, self-centeredness, no ability to express empathy or emorse, show you respect, see you as an equal, or relate to any of your concerns and feelings or allow a normal adult conversation/discussion.
Infact they will turn it back on you, make it your fault, its your insecurities that are the issue/problem
The other tactic she would use to try and avoid any meaningful response, was going into 'child mode' making light of the situation.
They will challenge you as a man sexaully, morally, emotionally in fact in every way they can until they rob you of your self worth.
As a friend said to me 'female narcissistic women are like a vampire they suck you dry of every positive emotion/feeling you possess, leaving nothing but negativity and a shell of a man you once was.
Experiencing that right now you were right on point
💯 went through that moving on! 💪🏼
The greatest way to get back on track is to rise up and assume your internal power. Stand confident and it wrecks their control.
In the infamous words of Bill Clinton:
I feel your pain.
Just went through the same experience.
I knew there was something wrong from the beginning but I didn't pay heed to my gut feeling. But eventually, I can see the light at the end of this tunnel. There is nothing better than getting yourself back.
Spot on
You are such a nice and sweet person, you explain so beautiful all..I am so grateful to have survived a huge attack from a narcisist and pshychopat managers (females) for 5 years..changed 3 jobs..over all, I really believe God saved me. I only had God by my side. And it was all I needed it.
We see female narcissists a lot in friendships… honey! It’s hard & heartbreaking! A female narc is a messy monster and thrives off of being an adult mean girl, she lies, manipulates, and she’s good at it… she’ll turn others against you… she’ll compete in an invisible battle with you… she’s the messy insecure snake! Treat her like a sniper and end her! 🤨🎯 Or just walk away her life! Don’t try to validate… the truth always comes to the light!